It will be 5 years this month that my only child, my son passed away. He was 39 and paraplegic. I took care of him 24/7. I was by his bed when he took his last breath. That was the hardest thing in my life that I have had to do. But I was there for him and he wasn’t alone. Honestly it don’t get no easier , I just have to live with it. I’m in counseling now, it helps. But I do still feel guilty, that he is gone, and I am still here. But I know it was his time, see I had 12 extra years with him. In 2006 he had a accident that left him paraplegic and a lot of health issues, the doctors on gave him 15 to 20% chance of survival. He proved them wrong. Nine days short of a year, he finally got out of the hospital/ rehabs. And I took him home. He had good days and bad. People don’t understand you can have it all, but in the blink of a eye it’s gone. People never take nothing for granted. Take it from someone who did. Now I’m all alone. So one day at a time, if that seems like to much, minute by minute.
Very sorry Cindy. He is smiling down upon you and thanking you for all your love and everything you did. Sending strength to you to carry on. He will want you to.
I agree completely, the end of a long term relationship does have a grieiving process, just like when someone you love dies . Ive lost my my younger brother 23 yrs ago to suicide .My father died on a cruise nearly a year to the day my brother died . My 37 year relationship to the love of my life, ended 8 years ago and my Mother died a few weeks ago . I grieved my heart out for all of them equally I would say , in both the emotional and physical way that grief manifests. Time passes and you deal with it the best way u can , however in my experience I found that acceptance was the hardest part and then the missing and the longing , although I don't think you ever really recover fully , you just learn to live with it. ❤
@@andreaabbott3260 So sorry to hear..sending you our sincere condolences and strength..What you said us so Very true..we don't really heal completely or accept it fully..seems that we just get better at moving on and going on without that loved one(s) 😞
Still grieving the loss of my parents from quite a few years ago no support system at all whatsoever. Grieve so terrible my health has been affected in a very negative way and I will have challenges for the rest of my life as a result.
Jeffrey sending you lots of strength and very sorry to hear. The grief that comes with such a loss is unbearable and may never go away. Stay strong and carry on for them.
I'm sorry. Your post speaks to me. My dad died in 2010. Sister passed in April last year. Six months later, Mom passed. My family is gone. I have told myself more than once that I just don't see me being on this planet very long with my family gone. I don't mean suicide. I wouldn't do that. Just a gut feel. I miss them very much. Prayers to you 🙏
It’s hard enough grieving the death of one’s parents, but losing an adult child who is still alive is worse, believe it or not. There is no coming to terms with it, adjusting to things and being able to eventually start healing. Worse still is that your adult child knows how much it hurts you but sets ‘boundaries’ that you shouldn’t talk about your grief to them because it makes them feel guilty. Way to stick the boots in when someone is already down and almost out for the count!
I lost my guy of 24 years in December of 2021. Our daughter, now 23years old, shut me out (as well as my grandbaby) a couple months after his death. It’s devastating/brutal. I lost my whole heart in the stop of a heartbeat. Now I’m just waiting for my shattered heart to stop beating.
@@stephanieely2179, my heart breaks for you. I can only but try to put myself in your position, but I can’t really conceive of your loss. All I can do, from one human being to another, is extend my sincerest empathy and let you know that I send as much love and healing energy to you as I can muster 🙏🏼❤️
Grief is hard on the body,I lost m special needs child,Jazana"e February 19 2022 ,She HAD Rett Sydrome and Epilepsy and Scolocisis ,,i was her caregiver ,IT was hard and taxing on my spirt,11 months later ,i lost my Youngest son Gabriel ,he was killed January of this YEAR,It Literally took my breath Away ,my Equilibrium was off balance ,i broke down very quickly ,My body was very tired,my mind ,I struggled with sleep and ENERGY ,,GRIEF definitely AFFECTS YOU MENTALLY AND PHYSICALLY..REST EASY JAZANA"E REST EASY GABRIEL 💐💐💐
Very sorry to hear and sending our sincere condolences..that is heartbreaking and cannot imagine what you went through..Hope that time can help heal and that the memories bring happy thoughts...
I'm trying any way possible to deal with losing my two closests friends within a month of each other. They were my support. Now I have none and it is devastating. This video is helpful. Thank you for it...
i'm so sorry for you.i know the feeling.i'm sure your friends wouldn't want you to be unhappy.though you will always miss them.i wish you comfort and strength.
I’m here because, in 2014, I lost my firstborn, 41 yr old daughter, then, this year, July 4th 2023, the day before my 72nd bday, I suddenly lost my youngest, 36 yr old son, whom I was extremely close with. I find myself being, at times, hyper vigilant over my remaining child, 38 yr old son, though I try not to be. 💔 I do lean heavily on the Lord, who helped me go through the 9 years grieving my precious daughter, and, so, I know He will help me with this dear loss. It is still painful beyond words, but, there are also times of deep peace. I just try to take baby steps, a little at a time, and try not to avoid the tears, that come in waves(though I am sick of crying). Few understand(as they haven’t lost a child, so I don’t hold it against them), so most times, they leave us alone in our grief, believing they are doing us a favor. It is the most difficult road I have ever traveled…again. All the more reason I am grateful for my relationship with Christ. Thank you for this video. 💕
So very sorry to hear and our sincerest condolences..words cannot express. We hope you have all the strength to get through it all.. they would want that for you 🙏🏻🙏🏻
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my husband 3 months ago, and the grief is agonizing. I loved him so much. If I did not have Christ in my life, I wouldn’t know what to do. God bless you.
Thanks the loss of my son 6 months ago is still like a punch in the stomach. Some days I'm totally okay cause he suffered so much and as a retired RN I took care of him 8 to 12 hours a day. Some days I can't even think of it. Yes the joy and future just don't excite me but I plod on 1 day at a time. As a mom my heart is broken. 💔
I lost my mum and dad a year apart he wanted to die after she passed . I cared for them both and felt mentally and physically exhausted after they died. And my health has suffered after this loss hoping to move on and come to terms with life now .😊
Good to know my grief this time is normal. When I lost my mother I got depression but now with the grandmother it’s pretty normal. Thanks for the video
I'm sorry for the loss of your Mother 😪 I lost my Mother to cancer 13 years ago and it still feels like yesterday. I miss her every single day of my life. Sending you my prayers 🙏
This video has clarified so much for me. My only child passed in 2004, aged 18. To this day I still grieve for him, not just for what was but what could have been. I'm a completely different person since he passed. Those who haven't lost a child think I'm "wallowing" in my grief and don't understand why I'm not the person I used to be. I thought I was abnormal but after viewing your video I realise I'm not. My priorities have changed for the better thanks to my loss. Thank you and God bless. 🙏
My 35 year old daughter just died on Mother’s Day. My feelings are all over the place. So Im super worried about her 4 year old daughter and how she is processing everything.
Cry out to Jesus. He will heal you, if you allow Him. Not that this will always be easy, I myself am in a state of grief and confusion right now. I wish you lots of courage ❤
Sorry for your loss of Junior 😿 I lost my cat 3 months ago. She was 17 1/2. I've been having physical pain from suppressing my grief. I need to face it and feel it in order to heal.
Thank you so much for your compassion and kind words and very sorry for your loss too. Hope you can heal and find comfort knowing that you were able to give her a loving home and a happy long life. May she RIP!
I lost my cat today, I was there when he took his last breath, I love him so much, I cried for almost 5 hours, and haven't eaten anything, My head is hurting because of crying, and my eyes and my throat are aching because I don't want someone to hear me crying, I am a professor and did not go to class today, I am welcoming my grieving and hope someday I can stand firm again.
I experienced the greatest loss of my life in 2014. For 5 years I didn't exist anymore. I am some better now but I still miss beyond words, I still remember, I still think what would've been, I still ask God why. I probably, no I know I will , always wonder why, miss beyond words, think what would've been, and still ask God why, and I will never be the same as I was before this happened. I will soldier on but I will never be the same as I was. What bodily happened to me was mostly mental.
@@massmindcollectiveconsciou1939 Thank you. One of the better things I did for myself is find an organization that is national where you find a local participating Church, that has weekly one night meetings for free btw, where grieving parents meet that have lost a child. The group is led by a Church volunteer counselor and the group talks about their loss. The volunteer counselor is one of those unfortunate parents as well. These meetings did help, way more than anything else I could've done for the massive devastation done to the depths of my Soul.
@@tommywatterson5276 Again, very sorry to hear and hope as time goes on you can heal. Sending you strength. Glad to hear that you found a place that helps and where people can come together.
Since my son died in 2021 my health has went down heal. From every day pain to blood clots and blocked artery, have to have surgery next month. Weight up and down, lack of sleep, sleep to much, foggy minded.
My wife and I were married for 51 years and I cared for her with MS for almost all the 26 years she had MS. She wasn't able to ambulate the last 15 years and I used a power drive, wheelchair and hoist etc. I had a heart attack and pneumonia from the intense carer role for so long. I am well now and walk about 11,000 steps a day. She passed in June 2022. I always loved her but I am gay, medically proven. My grieving has been different. She knew I am gay and was totally accepting. As she neared the end, I thanked her for accepting me as her gay husband and she said "Of course! That was easy. Why wouldn't I?" But now I am no longer in a 51 year Mixed Orientation Marriage. I am not looking for a boyfriend or husband, but I have a smile deep down inside me. My grieving has mainly come from "friends" who have rejected me because I am gay. I was a Baptist Minister and have since been told I am not welcome to even attend church, just because I am gay. Time to move on and enjoy my life.
We are very sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your journey. Hoping that things get better and people can be open-minded and loving and accepting of each other and nothing else. Stay strong friend.
I was married 51 years to my spouse and he passed January 2022 I still have days of crying it has been 1 1/2 years and I feel it is getting worse now my health has been bad and I know it is caused from the grief, my daughter has had ms for 25 years my granddaughter also has ms it is a very depressing disease I know the grief as I walk down the same path 😢
AFTER MY MOM AND DAD PASSED AWAY,MY LIFE GOT QUITE ALIKE THAT PINK FLOYD'S "SORROW" SONG,I AM CHAINED TO A WORLD THAT'S DEPARTED... I TRY TO KEEP MYSELF ACTIVE,BUT AT THE END OF THE DAY,REALITY PUT ME IN MY PLACE AND THOSE FEELINGS JUST DON'T GO AWAY,SUICIDAL THOUGHTS COME AND GO BUT I GO ON BECAUSE OF MY PETS AND NOTHING MORE,MY PARENTS WERE MY WHOLE WORLD,SO EVERY MORNING I PUSH MYSELF TO START BREATHING AND THIS TAKES A TOLL ON MY HEALTH... I KNOW THE MOMENT I MAY NOT BE ABLE TO GO ON IS COMING,BUT TILL THEN I 'M STILL ON THE GAME... THANKS FOR YOUR VIDEO,JUST MY COMMENT...PEACE...
Hi Abdul, very sorry to hear about your parents. We are sending you strength to stay strong and carry on. Such a heavy loss can really affect us. Have you considered talking to someone especially a mental health professional so they can guide you and help you get through this?
@@massmindcollectiveconsciou1939 GREETINGS... NOT REALLY,IT IS VERY CLEAR THE PROCESS I HAVE TO GO THOUGHT AND I DON'T THINK I COULD HANDLE IT,I MEAN,OPEN MYSELF AND "LET BLEED OUT" ALL OF MY FEELINGS,ALL OF MY SECRETS CAN BE DANGEROUS,I'VE TRIED TO DO SO IN THE PAST AND IT ALWAYS END UP CAUSING MORE HARM THAN GOOD,I FEEL I COULD NOT "CONTROL" THE FLOOD OF VIOLENT REACTIONS AND I THINK IS POINTLESS TRYING IT... I AM A "PRESSURIZED CONTAINER" ,READY TO EXPLODE,I BETTER LEAVE IT ALONE... THANKS,ANYWAY,PEACE ..
@@abdulalhazred4589 Best not to keep things bottled up. Best to get help and talk to a professional. We sincerely hope you will. Sending you strength and positivity! 🙏
@@massmindcollectiveconsciou1939 THANK YOU, I JUST WANT YOU TO KNOW I AM EXPERIMENTING WITH MUSIC TO "SOOTHE" MY MIND,I'VE NOTICED IT WORKS BETTER FOR KEEP THINGS CALM, SPECIALLY ,MUSIC THAT NOT ONLY TALKS TO ME,BUT TALKS ABOUT ME,PINK FLOYD ,TRYPTIKON, EVOKEN, AHAB AND THE LIKE HELPS A LOT,YOU'D THINK A SONG ABOUT DEATH OR GRIEF COULD BRING ME DOWN AND CAUSE HARM ,BUT THE EFFECT IS THE OPPOSITE!! CALL IT "MARGINAL IMPROVEMENT" IF YOU WILL, BUT IS THE BEST I CAN GET WITHOUT CAUSING ANY HARM ON MYSELF... THANKS FOR YOUR VID,THANKS FOR ASKING...PEACE...
Being a caregiver is the toughest thing in the world I have over 27 years in law enforcement but taking care of my wife I do it again i'm not complaining but I wouldn't put her through that again and she passed away and now my depression has taken a toll on me really bad it's affecting everything I feel like I don't even exist anymore I miss her so much I was supposed to protect her and I couldn't stop it from happening I miss her so much maybe I just wanna be with her now
Grieving from some one alive ,kills you . its like a slow poisoning, no matter how hard you try to over come it or let it go, it grows with you inside you, till your last breadth.😢
My Dad died 2 weeks ago and I have been having prolonged moments of chest pain like my heart is being grabbed, and someone is sitting or standing on my chest. It's awful and my Dad died of a unexpected heart attack and so it's just makes it hurt more. I feel like I can't breathe at times but mentally I feel numb and suppressed. I wake up and the ache starts and goes on and off till I sleep, yesterday I left work my chest hurt so much and I was super worried I went to the doctor and they made me do a ECG test for the angina, he offered valium so I could physically relax the tension and physical stress. Didn't take it though otherwise I might start popping valium like no tomorrow.
We are going to make another video on grief and how to try and heal. All of us have been through so much and hope that the new information will guide us and give us the strength that we need 🙏
Friends, we researched and made a video on loss and grief for all of us here. Here is a link to that new video on GRIEF AND LOSS. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-P1e1PZWg378.html. We hope it will help in some way and may you find just one thing in there that can heal and give you the strength to move further...
It will be 5 years this month that my only child, my son passed away. He was 39 and paraplegic. I took care of him 24/7. I was by his bed when he took his last breath. That was the hardest thing in my life that I have had to do. But I was there for him and he wasn’t alone. Honestly it don’t get no easier , I just have to live with it. I’m in counseling now, it helps. But I do still feel guilty, that he is gone, and I am still here. But I know it was his time, see I had 12 extra years with him. In 2006 he had a accident that left him paraplegic and a lot of health issues, the doctors on gave him 15 to 20% chance of survival. He proved them wrong. Nine days short of a year, he finally got out of the hospital/ rehabs. And I took him home. He had good days and bad. People don’t understand you can have it all, but in the blink of a eye it’s gone. People never take nothing for granted. Take it from someone who did. Now I’m all alone. So one day at a time, if that seems like to much, minute by minute.
