How I Became More Confident | clothesencounters 

Happy Thursday, jems! In this video, I sit down and have a chat about confidence. If you'd like to share any tips or life lessons on how YOU became more confident, please write it in the comments! 😊

Her soul is so beautiful

I never realised that up until a few years ago I walked around looking at the floor and hardly ever looked up because I hated the idea of people looking at me - I thought I would be invisible to people if I stared at the ground. Now that I am older I look around while I walk, put on badass music, and I appreciate nature - focus on the beauty of your surroundings, not other people!

Another thing that helps to build confidence is to compliment other people, and lifting each other up. Not only does it give a boost of confidence to that person but also makes you feel good about yourself for doing so. And I so agree on what you said about not talking smack. One time, two girls asked me if I could talk crap about someone. I stayed silent, asking myself why in the world was I hanging out with such negative people. Surround yourself with people who are positive and open minded!!! Also I think it is important that whenever you look at yourself in the mirror, focus on the things you actually like about yourself or something you're the least insecure about instead of focusing on your "flaws."

totally agree with the eye contact thing. I trained myself not to look people in the face in probably.... middle school? it helped me a lot walking through the halls at school because I had crazy walking anxiety (if that's a thing lol)

This goes off of what Jenn said but I think what has helped me immensely is realizing that everyone is concerned with themselves-- barely anyone actually cares about what you're doing, or how you look. And for the few that do, that's their problem. What they think shouldn't affect you!

THIS is quality content (like all your other videos). You use your influence to try to help others empower themselves, you are a gift to RU-vid and to us. Thank you Jenn, keep on rocking! You'll always have my support :)

Great tips, Jen! Dunno how weird this sounds, but it's so aesthetically pleasing to listen to you talk. You're just so eloquent.

I Think that another very important tip is to STOP comparing yourself to other people, because i feel like that's the biggest thing that bring a lot of people down, myself included. Even knowing it's really hard to do we've to.

The part about music is SO TRUE! It helped me so much. BTS song Not Today is definitely my new badass song! :)

I turned 21 last year and I've just begun to love myself. Time really does make you grow and appreciate yourself a little more 👌💙

I don't understand why you are not gaining more subscribers you create such great content and you are so positive. Also, thank you for this video, this really helped me

Thank you Jenn. I think it's important also to make 'mini' challenges like talking to a stranger, doing something you've never done before. Humans can be very cruel, offensive, and that for free. Yesterday I took the bus to go take care of my pony. On the way back, teenagers began to say that the horse odor was "unbearable" while they even live in the countryside. They strated caughing, laughing nervously, saying they will eat horse meat. I was really uncomfortable, even ignoring them. They abused of the fact that I was the only 'stranger', all alone, and they were in a group. Next time I will sympathize with the driver of the bus. It's the only person they can't "control" and in that kind of cases it is important to make allied friends. So my advise is: ignore negative people, and go talk to the other people: 1. Do not isolate yourself 2. to share you're not alone and 3. don't be affraid to talk to people and eventually make some new friends. And don't forget to be positive, always. This will help to gain more confidence in difficult moments. It took me the hole night to figure out what to do next time lol. I was so relieved and happy, I was realy good about myself, when suddenly it happened to me. It can happen to everybody.

I started feeling confident when I dropped this boy outta my life, changed my hairstyle to what I wanted and worked out at the gym. Lets go Ladieeees!!! 💪💪💪💪

Along with not judging others, actually complimenting others has increased my confidence. 💖

Hi Jenn! I'm a 18years old deaf girl studying English in UK from Japan, I was so encouraged by your messages all, thankyou for always adding subs(cuz i'm deaf, subtitles make me understand what u'r saying completely!) i Really really really love you and your channel!❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

OoooOOooh, yes jenn! That confidence playlist is 👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻

This video couldnt have come in a more convenient time. I was just starting to feel like shit and i needed that self esteem boost, so thank you Jenn! Your positivity can rlly influence other ppl ❤😊

I got so emotional watching this video, I don't know why but probably cause I can relate so much to it. Every tips that you said are exactly what I've been trying to apply to my life and they just sort of lived in my head cause I thought it's my own way of coping with things but they actually work on other people too. Just finished college and basically in that place where I don't know where life would take me but you delivered such strong messages and that truly inspire me. Not a lot of people can make inspiring and motivating videos with straightforward messages cause sometimes they're overshadowed by useless talks that's just circling around the topic but you've done it brilliantly. I hope you can continue doing this because you truly are a remarkable person and you may not realise it but many of your videos have helped many people, including myself.

we're definitely on the same psychological level, Jenn! I used to be so paranoid of people looking at when as well, and avoiding eye contact and faking it until you make it is literally the best advice I took and would give about being more confident.

Wow this video is amazing, Jenn. It is definitely and standout that I will definitely re-watch. Ok, personal story time: When I was in middle school, a couple of friends and I were mugged while walking from school to the subway. It was very scary and the guy made an example out of me by slashing my face with his knife. I'm telling this story because this incident left a huge scar on face. Although I later learned how to use makeup to make it less obvious, it would always show and it is always the first thing people notice about me. Needless to say, my confidence took a hit. I know that most of the subscribers here will have insecurities relating to their appearance as opposed to anything else. In high school, I took a philosophy class where I learned about Shcopenhauer's "Will to live." I won't really go into it but the general idea is that matter, or our physical selves is not what the world is made of. It is 'will' that is the key to life. This always stuck with me because it meant that for humans/people, our hopes, desires, needs, and goals are what make up who we are and encourage us to keep living. This was all just a long-winded way of saying that it's what's on the inside that really counts, lol. I'm sorry this was so long but I guess I felt inspired to write this. P.S. My favorite songs to listen to when I'm down are "September" and "Boogie Wonderland" by Earth, Wind & Fire

Thank you for talking about driving. I get anxiety and i really hate driving but sometimes it's not an option but a necessity. I don't think any youtuber has really talked about driving and driving tips but I would love it if you talked about your driving experiences an so on.

I feel super confident when I'm walking and I smile at someone and they smile back. :)

Such a relief to hear someone else had felt like they so desperately wanted to be themselves but didn't know who they were. That's what I am feeling right now. This video was great, thank you, Jenn !

#1 is so important! Super guilty of it as an insecure teen. I'm 24 now and disassociating from that kind of talk has made such a positive impact on my life. Thanks for a great video jen 💕

Any BTS song makes me feel amazing

don't look at other girls and make yourself down, because they have a beautiful body or sth. maybe she looks at you and thinks i want your beautiful hair. you can't see in others peoples head

You're so beautiful inside out Jenn! Thanks for reminding other people that there's so much more that adds to life other than just dressing up and putting on that lipstick😌😌😚😘👍🏼

For me I'm just learning that it is ok to be 20 and single, and that I am not perfect. And that Jesus is my best friend .❤

its funny because since last year I've been struggling with this "be myself" thing more and its gotten a whole lot better. I gave myself my much desired bangs and just this weekend cut about 4 inches off my hair and I've been buying more of the kind of wardrobe that i want which is very retro and hipsterish influenced, so definitely all the things that Jenn talks about I've already been applying to my life for the past year and they work and have made me feel more at home with myself.

I love to go back to this video whenever I am in need of a confidence boost, I don't think you'll see this in the sea of comments that you get, but your outlook on life is beautiful and one that I inspire to have. Thank you for your platform and for using it to uplift others. You are truly my inspiration

Loved when you said "We're just bits and pieces of everything we've ever experienced"!! So true!

am i the only one who was reminded of sailor moon by her hairstyle?? 💞💕💓 ITS SO CUTEEE

Wow I really needed this ❣️ I just started a youtube channel and am afraid to do my thing. It's hard not to care about views and the opinions of others

Jenn you are such a beautiful person, inside and out. I've been a follower of yours since your thrifting days and it's been really cool getting to see you grow into the wonderful being you are today. I hope to one day radiate confidence like you do. 😊 much love x 💕

Thanks Jenn! Lately I've been feeling so down and lost of confidence because I feel helpless. I've started playing the sports I used to play and I'm no longer used as I was; playing with more experience players gave such a heavy pressure on me to do well but it made me lost my confidence. Thanks for letting me know again that I'm doing things I want to do because I want to enjoy and it's fun. Love you lots xxx

You've grown so much over the years Jenn, it has been beautiful to watch you, thanks for letting us be a part of your life and journey. 💖 These are all excellent tips.

love your hair style 💖💖 can you make a tutorial?

Thank you so much Jenn, to know that others struggle with the same thoughts as me is soothing and your words help me build my way up to the level of confidence I want!

Honestly this type of video is so helpful! Don't worry about being preachy! I've watched so many confidence videos and yours is the only one that really seems to have hit home with me! You have ideas that nobody might be able to offer! Much love

Hey Jenn, This is the first time I comment one of your videos, although I've been following your channel almost since the beginning. I just wanted to tell you that one of your quotes rules my life and is the one that gave me confidence over the year, and it is: "To gain confidence, you need to try risky things, get out of your confort zone. It will be uncomfortable at first, but you will unconsciously earn confidence. That's truly the only solution." To this day, I apply it and I tell my friends about it, because without it I don't know if I would have had enough mental energy to survive. So thank you Jenn 💕

Everytime nowdays when I have difficulties about something I think: "God gave me this challenge. He wants to see if I can make it or not. Everyone has their own challenges, but if you can make it or not that's more important." "If you really want to succeed sometimes you have to fail first." "Don't be jealous about someone. They have fought their way. If not, that's their gift and you have your own. Everyone has their gift. Embrace yours."

I love this, Jen! You're so right, being confident really does start with being comfortable and happy with yourself :) It doesn't happen overnight and it's helped me to realize that we're all insecure about some things, but accepting that we are who we are and accepting others for their quirks and uniqueness makes life a lot more positive

This video is really comforting. In high school I was at my lowest point, I had zero confidence but then I started listening to kpop, became interested with lots of asians things and fashion. I'm not there yet but I feel like I've grown so much and I do feel much better now. You've always been a very good example and support to live your own live as best as you can. thank you Jenn your positive energy is inspiring. And I looove that Oscar Wilde quote, just amazing. grtz ^^

Omg K-POP helps me feel confident all the beautiful voices like BTS or EXO or GOT7 😃😃😃

So beautifully worded Jenn! It's so encouraging and really shows that it takes time and process for someone to get to where he/she is at and that everyone gets through that point if they wanna grow to be a better person! Love you jean xxx

UGH JENN thank you so much for this! I feel like you're so self reflective and the power of knowing yourself goes a long way. Thank you for another great video

Five years later and this advice is still relevant and solid! Thank you so much, I needed this. ❤❤

Thank you for talking about these really important things.I always feel inferiority because of my body stature and my wearing style,my classmates are all looks goegeous,they sometimes judge about me to my face,even they are just joking but i still feel uncomfortable. I want to be myself! Your video always encourage me to do what I want to do,thanks a lot!

honestly this is such a fantastic idea for a video Jenn! I have always noticed what a confident person you are, or at least seem. It's beautiful ❤️ ❤️ ❤️

you are seriously the most genuine & lively person i know. you are great, Jenn!

Thank you for filming this video Jenn! 💖 I'm super happy to hear your own thoughts on personal growth. Please continue to make more videos like this! Not only is it super helpful but I love the way you talk and explain things. It's calming and relatable.

thank you, I really needed this :) I just love your mindset and overall outlook in life, and that mindset is one of the reasons why I look up to you so much. stay great, mom

I can listen to Jenn talk all day! Jenn you're probably not going to see this, but I just wanna let you know that I feel like a better person watching your videos, you inspire me to be you one day. I hope to meet you in person soon I love you so much keep doing whats you're doing girl.

I made a video a couple years ago on achieving confidence, and I remember referencing you as my empowerment goal. this video is so so refreshing and it means so much to me. your perspective is absolutely phenomenal and needed in this space

Thank you for this. I've been in such a horrible rut and this is what I really needed to hear. Thank you for not just talking the talk, but walking the walk as well. Your confidence radiates out of you in every video. Love you!

Could you make a hair tutorial of this hair do? I love it 😍

this is so great! its amazing seeing big youtubers create content that can help their viewers be comfortable in their own skin...YOU ROCK💞💕💓

aww thanks for sharing this, jenn! definitely agree with all your points! i'm 26 and i feel like i recently just became more comfortable in my skin. i feel a big part of it is the OG youtubers who i've followed for years who have reminded me that we're all beautiful, imperfections and all, to fill your heart with love instead of hate, and whatever you do to just OWN it, fuck what others will think! (: watching this in the morning definitely brightened up my friday 💗

Jenn, thank you so much for making this video. I literally cried watching this. These days I didn't have any confidence of myself. Everyday I was scared of what my company boss would say, how people judge me, why my salary so lower than people who don't work more than me... But when I saw this video, I started thinking that it's okay, I'm still learning life. Even though I'm working hard and low salary, that'll be my power for the next life. I'm gonna stop thinking negative. I appreciate that you made such a great video and gave me chance to be positive. I knew that I'm not only one who would be stressed by thinking how other people judge myself

"We are little bits and pieces of everything we've experienced" ❤❤❤

dude I am 23 an have no license because I am terrified of driving but this really helped and is pushing me a little more, THAK YOU!!! I wish you could teach me how to drive lol... ughhhh!!!

It's comforting to know that I'm not the only one with driving anxiety. My anxiety has prevented me from completing my behind the wheel lessons and being able to take my test. Hearing your story definitely made me feel a bit better especially since you were able to overcome it!

Oh Jenn! You just made me cry, I needed that big sister´s advice. im 20 years old and Im in that moment of my life in which I have sooo many doubts, and fears about the future. I want to thank you for being such an inspirational woman.

Haha same, i try not to look at people passing by, but sometimes they're ppl i know, and they end up thinking i ignore them 😂

Am I the only one who observe Jenn's subscribers count? can't wait for you to hit 2M!! 😍 Love this video, Jenn!

Thank you Jenn for sharing this video

You put it in the perfect words for me! I'm obsessed with trying to figure out who I am. I'm 21, I just graduated and started a job I've always wanted but I feel like I still haven't 'found' myself and that's been really getting me down lately because I was 100% sure that by hitting those milestones, I'd be closer to just feeling comfortable with myself. But I think you're right. I think I need to step back and just take opportunities, do the crazy things I feel like doing and just absorb!

your character is sooo admirable!!

You speak english so clearly. And you sound like a native english speaker♥️. Maybe your first languange is english, so lucky

She’s brilliant, warm, and insightful. Love you Jenn

trying to do new things can also build up confidence. i've been living in my comfort zone for so long. when there's something challenging to do, i would make excuses and just quit before getting started. now i found that i had lost confidence on myself. but i've decided to be brave and have a try on whatever i want to do!! i'm learning to be confident. thanks for the tips. it's helpful.

Current confidence song is Not Today by BTS. That song would instantly make me want to get out of bed in the early mornings and just kick ass. Love this vid Jenn 💜 You never disappoint 💕

this has nothing to do with confidence but omg jenn your hair looks so cute😍😍

The way you say it radiates in the number of your subscribers who know and FEEL the sincerity in ALL of your words. it just shows that you are applying these steps because it just shows in you, your success, and your life! You deserve what you have now. It makes you even more beautiful Jenn. I will get this started just like you did. thank you :)

I think the first advise you gave is the best one. Years ago I had so low self esteem and when I stopped judging other I started to be more positive about myself and also FREE TO DO EVERYTHING I LOVE AND ENJOY without worrying what anyone would think :) great video btw!

I'm so scared of driving I've been putting off getting my license for awhile bc driving gives me anxiety and I don't want anything bad to happen. Gonna try and work on it Thanks for the vid!

Ok also I looked at your playlist and it's BASICALLY all my favourite songs... all the ones from Majestic Casual in particular!! You have some badass music taste gf 😍 😍 😍

Videos like this are the reason I've stuck around so much. You have will always be my favorite youtuber due to the fact that you're always trying to empower us and make us feel special and confident. Please keep it up and thank you so much! 💗

I watched this video so late! I had thought I gained more confidence in myself when I graduated high school, but everyday I question myself. I don't my confidence is where I want it to be. I'm getting tired of comparing myself to other people and start broaden my own horizons and continue to grow. I guess its just one step at a time. This was a very positive video; thank you for sharing this!

Ok. I really need to learn how to do that hairstyle. 😍❤

i love you jenn!!!

You ain't lying about music. It has helped me through a tough time I just had. I didn't really listen to music before but now I can't go without it. Thanks.

I always love watching Jenn's videos because of her positive vibe she gives out. You're amazing Jenn, and your positivity constantly rubs off on me and makes me feel so much better on shitty days ❤

My highschool quote was "the limit does not exist" - Cady Heron hahahah

I remember having the FIRST song that makes me so confident whenever I listen to it and I was so amazed because it was a first for me haha. I think it was Don't Leave Me from BTS.

I just hit this empowerment video now, and it’s absolutely worthy for me. As a person going through the process to know myself, your every word cheer me up a lot x

thank you so much for this, jenn. You're such a beautiful person and these words of encouragement and confidence are what i needed desperately. I constantly go back and fourth between how my life will end up and i started my youtube channel recently and i just needed that thank you sm ily

two songs i listen to that make me feel badass are "My Song 5" by HAIM and "PRBLMS" by 6lack :)

Loved what you said about not judging others! I used to gossip and think bad thought of others in high school just to bring myself up but knew it felt wrong. It wasn't until college when I figured through Jesus that that shouldn't be life. Now I'm confident in who I am through Christ and God. I might not have it altogether but it really doesn't matter what other's personal opinion of me is only God's. Having that mindset I make sure to respect others for sure but I'm not fixated on this phenomena of what do others think of me :). I'm not sure if you believe in God or not but that's the only true freedom and confidence I could have truly established in my life and would encourage anyone to do so :)

You have the sweetest heart Jenn, I have gained so much confidence just from watching your videos and embracing what makes me happy. You're right, judging others only makes people feel more insecure, so I love that your comment sections are filled with positivity and encouragement :3 Please make more videos like this!

This video has been five years. Still feel inspired after watching it. Thank you, Jenn. Also, a great video to practice my English. Luv u!

"The more you do something, the easier it becomes"

I'm watching this video because I have an impromptu speech next week and I'm literally shitting myself lol 😭😭😂

thank you so so much for opening up and sharing these life lessons and words of advice! especially that part about having to stretch if you want to grow and absorbing and experiences things is so important to me.. i'm always in this bubble in my head and know that i should do something about moving forward... music is so so important to me as well, i love to listen to songs that remind me of my favourite artists who make me feel safe, or dreamy songs that make everything seem like a movie :3

Girl you called me OUT making judging other the very first one! So true. Thank you for that.

go to gym and keep fit will definitely help improve confidence !! One can be confident in a shaped figure !!

???? 제목이 한글로 바꼈다???????!!!!!!!!!

These lessons, I also recently learned myself. :) "confidence" really comes as a process and it takes time. My favorite empowerment/confidence quotation that really helped me a lot is "NO ONE IS YOU. AND THAT IS YOUR POWER." Thanks for sharing your tips/life lessons to us Jenn. You're like a distant sister. 😉😊

Thank you thank you thank you thank you Jennnnn💕💖 your saying Dont Hold Back has so much power in it. Cant still believe you used to be insecure as well cuz i to me you've always been perfect. Thank you for getting honest with us and giving great tips. Really hope your life gets even better💕💖