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Listen, I CRIED when I watched this. I've always felt like there's been some secret class that I must have missed on how to interact well with others. I'm warm, and I love people, but I get so stuck in conversations that i go out of my way to avoid them. It's often caused me so much frustration and feelings of isolation, even when I'm surrounded by people I love. This feels like that secret class. Thank you ❤️

At 16, I was living the dream - always cheerful, surrounded by friends, and constantly chatting away. Teachers would often scold me for talking too much, but it was all in good fun. Then, everything changed when lockdowns hit. Suddenly, I found myself retreating into shyness, unable to connect with others like I used to. It's been tough - feeling anxious and down all the time. It's like this dark cloud is just hanging over me, making me feel lost and distant from everyone. I don't even recognize myself anymore. Just the thought of talking to people fills me with nerves, so I end up spending most of my time alone with my thoughts. I really miss feeling confident and happy. Right now, it feels like getting back to that place is impossible. I just needed to get all of this off my chest. There's so much more I want to express, but for now, I just needed to share what's been weighing heavily on my mind.

As an introvert and an socially awkward person this was much nedded. 🤗 Knowing that you also have similar feeling , makes me feel comfortable about my feeling , and I will also work on my social skills . Love you Sadia.❤

Really good idea about not trying to find something in your own experience to relate to but instead, dig deeper into their interest.

Tips to be magnetic 0:49 Balancing warm and competent 2:09 Use people's name in conversation 3:10 Be interested, not interesting 4:26 people will remember how you made them feel ( not what you did/said) 4:28 Try conversational threading 5:19 be imperfect ( don't strive for perfection) 7:16 Gossiping positive about others

I am a very very good listener, and genuinely show my appreciation and understanding towards the person who is sharing anything with me, I ask them questions about the same topic to make them feel heard and important. But they never reciprocate with me similarly. When I talk some people cut me off, or not give much importance, even shut me & judge me for sharing something i feel

I always try to relate with a familiar story... but I'd circle it back to them. Like, "My uncle paints too, but he only does oil painting. Do you have a painting style too or do you like experimenting with different types/styles of painting?" Because I feel like if you don't share something about yourself, it kinda feels very one-way.

This is definitely a video that I'll be watching more than once: as an awkward conversationalist, this is pure gold! Thank you, also for the books you mentioned!

One thing that makes you stand out from others is that you provide practical tips rather than just go with what the world says and all those theories and all..... Keep making more such videos 😊

I'm autistic so this video feels really helpful to me personally as I often struggle with picking up social cues and then figuring out which ones I should be putting out as a result. This video was super helpful, Sadia!!

You've always had that balance of warmth and competence, Sadia!✨Congratulations on 4+ million subscribers! Much love!♥

I would've never guessed you viewed yourself as socially awkward, but I really appreciate you sharing that! As an introvert and socially awkward/anxious person, I got a lot out of this video. Thanks so much for always giving us quality content!

I've been feeling so much social anxiety lately, I feel like this came up at the perfect time! It's really hard and it takes practice to break old anxiety cycles and start being more authentic but I'm trying!

The last point is a great reminder for me “ go into a conversation for fun rather than being liked” I sometimes fall into what I’d call my little girl self and just want to be liked and I forget to be present and enjoy my experience. Thank u!

The thing with “be interested “ I learned or realised is, after a period of time, it’ll exhaust you. It’s a very good way to make people like you more. I realised everybody likes somebody who listens,but over a long period of time it comes to a point where you’ll be too exhausted to listen. It struck me this one time that people are no longer interested in me once I stop listening. Nobody listens they only want somebody who listens. Relationships like this destroyed me. After a certain point I can no longer act like I’m interested because I’m not. It exhausted me so much and made me feel like crap. I hope people don’t take it too seriously and don’t belittle themselves after following it a little too much.

The last line, go to a conversation with the intention of having fun, rather than with the feeling if they'll like me.....superb. And the part about self-assurance, I felt calm when I listened to it. Finally, the part where you drop perfection and are calm and composed while having a conversation, amazing. Thank you for this video.

I’m an introvert/highly competent and when I’m socializing I definitely make the mistake of talking about myself too much. It may seem self-absorbed on the surface, but I’ve realized the root of it is that I’m trying way too hard to prove I’m interesting, fun and worth talking to. I’m going to implement the “curious” tactic and start asking more questions!

That is so interesting! I actually really hate it when people use my name in conversation. While I am a fairly outgoing and social person in general, I am also a fairly private person and do not feel comfortable when people are too familiar as it makes me feel like my personal space is being invaded ;)

As an extrovert, THIS IS ALL REALLY GOOD ADVICE. People will remember how you make them feel. If you show them that you're interested in learning about them, in listening to them talk about their expertise & passion, you will make friends. And if you open yourself up you will learn a lot about who you are.

When you said: " Robin might look intimidating", I really burst out laughing. Yes I've just realized every single time he talks to the camera and he is serious, I become super serious and focused, even for few seconds, as if I was taking an exam 😂 but I think it has a lot to do with his body language. It has a vibe.

Sadia, I think its been over 5 years of me watching your channel and you never cease to amaze. You always come up with this nice and quality content. Be it one video per month but those 10 minutes of your video, I stop doing what I am doing and cherish it fully.

My classmate told me once that I am a charismatic person. All I know is whenever I talk to them, I am the one who asks questions like how they feel and it's true, I often say their name when I thank them for something. On the other hand, they still see me as someone competitive and capable. It is indeed sometimes about balance. Not to impress, not to act humble, but to be authentically down to earth and still be able to show greatness.

Ohhh I'm so glad that you made a video about this topic! It's nice to know other people are struggling

As a person who struggles to hold 2 seconds convo with strangers, this is going to be my favorite video, learned a lot of things in 8 mins. Very helpful indeed. Thank you so much PUL!

Very interesting topic! I think there are so many social introverts among us who crave quality socializing but struggle to find that. Some of these tips from your older video where you covered Carnegie’s book are proven to work so well for me and to this day, I still go back to it. I still battle social anxiety but once I overcome it it always so liberating!

You are not awkward. You are so sweet and friendly! I wish you could see yourself through the same lenses that I do

Hi Sadia! I’ve been watching your videos for almost five years. I don’t really cook regularly but it feels so good to listen to you. Your voice is so calming and the way you talk feels like you’re having one to one conversation with very a close friend. good luck!

Sadia-your warmth and competence shines right through your videos! Reaching out to others when you travel is a great way to improve those social skills. You probably won’t see that person again (unless you want to) so go for it!💜

These types of videos are my favourite!! You are soooo good at simply communicating psychological concepts and making them applicable. I am a student psychologist and I recommend your videos to clients all the time 💗

Really nice video. My takeaways :- 1) Be an active listener and be curious about the other person but also share your thoughts from time to time.. 2) Don't have the intent to impress them and try to have fun thereby showing your imperfect and funny side 3) Remember not just their name but also the experiences and perspective that they shared with you when you are listening to them and asking questions. Eat loads of almonds and strength your memory muscle. 4) Don't gossip or grib or complain. Everyone has problems, but nobody wants to hear someone cribbing always. Sometimes is fine. Work on yourself, your insecurities and keep becoming a better person daily.

As a budding life coach, I so had to hear this today. So many things that you said resonated with me and I have a couple of take aways too. Great video!

Interesting, honest and a timely reminder that it is not all about us!

You are definitely both warm and competent!!🙏

The opening lines of the video, it is me , you described me and this is just what I needed now. Thank you Sadia so much for this. Just at the right time right moment.

oh this was excellent and you always share these messages in such a positive light. Plus, and this is for ALL your videos, I love that you get to the point and don't ramble on and on or get repetitive. I always feel that my time is so well spent here.

This couldn't have come at a better time. Thank you so much, Sadia. From my last stressful social interaction, I concluded that staying silent is better than trying to talk and then saying something stupid. But that's obviously not the best way to be :) This video really helped allay so much fear and anxiety. Thank you so much for all you do ❤

NEEDED! It's a post-pandemic social epidemic of its own that conversing with people in person has become difficult. I needed every word of this video. I can be more mindful in my next conversation. Thank you!

This reminded me of my old self. A MUCH needed reminder!! Thanks!! 🙌🏻

Sadia’s videos are like a warm hug! 🤗

Saying my intention before I walk in the room always helps. (“I am going to remember and use everyone’s names and learn one interesting thing about every person I talk to”.)

I enjoyed this video. I used to be shy and not very good at conversation. I worked hard on turning things around by reading books and practicing my social skills. I go out of my way to meet new people and it's so rewarding. Tonight I am having a social gathering with friends. I am no longer shy. Thank you for more tips.

I love this informative conversation about how we handle meeting people and getting to know them. So Good!!!

This topic is exactly what I needed! I've been watching your videos for years and this might seem exaggerated but PUL has always seemed like a warm respite in a jarring world. I hope this finds you well and if you ever run out of topics for videos I've been thinking for a while that a video about growing herbs would be really helpful !

I really like that whenever you read a book that you liked you share the information with us and I am sure that this helps you to remember a lot more of what you read ☺️ smart girl 😎

What an awesome subject! This was so helpful. Not only does it adds to ones skills but it encourages sincere conversations and connections.🥰

After a rough week this was exactly what I needed to have a new perspective. Thank you 😊

I've recently been going through a phase of my life when I wasn't feeling the most happy with my social skills, so thank you so much for this video. It's very relatable and I've taken a lot from it!! 😊

I love your video especially when you said it in the end to go into the conversation to just have fun and not for the hope if someone likes you. Thanks for sharing!! ❤

Love the useful tips! Something I want to directly apply when talking to potential mentors - the pitfall is wanting to appear interesting and worth mentoring but if I focused on learning from them, showing vulnerability, speaking positively of other people - I can create a self-assured persona

Why are you always so on time?! Thank you ❤

This topic just spoke to me so much. I have even referred to myself as an awkward yet awesome person. Im not as articulate of a conversationalist as I used to be. Your right the combo of warmth and competency is difficult to balance so I want to work on that. Thank you for this video! Love your channel!

You have no idea how much I needed to hear this. Thanks a zillion ❤

Absolutely stunning and informative video for a socially awkward person like me. Would love for this to turn into a series of being better at social communication.

Literally what I need. Thank you for being there, always.

I've seen dozens of these, and this presentation is by far the best I've seen. Well done. Thanks!

Brilliant ❤ "Go into a conversation with the intention of having fun, rather than with the intention of saving 'I hope they like me'"

I absolutely love this channel. She is so knowledgable, warm and overall great communicator.

Concise, well presented and so very relatable and true!

As an introvert living in a foreign country this video felt so relevant to me. Thank you for those great tips . Loved it❤💯

I enjoyed this topic much more than I expected to because I love the way you break things down for us in your videos :)

This was so good! You have such a beautiful soul. You radiate warmth and joy.

Omg! You packed a whole month worth of personality building class in just 9 mins. I can't believe. Thanks a ton 🙏🙏

Omg the description of warmth in the starting that u gave is so ME!!!!!

I think this gets to the importance of group recognition in human society. Irrespective of national/ethnic/linguistic/cultural background, humans generally respond very positively if they feel they are being recognized as in some way valuable. This is where being a good listener is important.

Wow. Loved each moment of watching this video and took away some significant tips. 💫 Thank you Sadia, this was very well communicated and amazingly filmed. Please make more of these videos. 🙏🏼

My favorite RU-vidr so far! This video resonates with me so much. Thanks

Truly great tips, Sadia! I already see myself rewatching this.

I Love all your content. It’s so holistic/wholesome! Truly a lifestyle channel ❤️❤️ you guys are amazing!

You really change my mind when you talk about gossiping part.congrats,U gain 1 new subscriber

This channel, her voice, their creativity and recipes, and beautiful presentations have become a great source of de-stressing for me

Excellent topic and the tips, spot on. I am very social, yet introverted depending on the crowd, so this was very helpful. And you very much have that balance Sadia!

I love these kinds of advice videos by you, I indeed feel the warmth that you radiate! Thank you for all of your wonderful advice. Ps: I have one tip regarding the editing of your videos. I noticed that in this video some editing video materials from generic platforms were used. However, one of the things that makes your videos so special is that usually they contain fully your own (video) materials, which gives that homely feeling. That is one of the factors that makes your videos so special, as so many other creators use those generic videos as well in their editing. These are just my two cents. Once again thank you so much for your wonderful video! Wishing you a wonderful day :)

I love your videos so much! I can always count on being inspired by you and learning something new. Thank you for being you! You're one of my favorite people online!❤

Fabulous!So short and sweet but right to the point.Loved the chosen video sequences to make people better understand

I’m a 25yo with no friends, introvert and social phobia. Thanks for these tips, I will consider reading one of those books 💗

You're awesome Sadia❤ thank you for all that you put here❤

I loved every single second of this video. Great job, Sadia. As always!!!

Thank you SO much for this video! I have lived overseas for over the last decade and haven't made any friends. My husband often points out what I'm doing wrong that might be putting people off and I take it so personally. This video was far more motivating and inspiring than any of the speeches he has given me. I'm gonna go rewatch it now with a pen and notebook. 🤗

Superb! More of this please! I can listen to you talking all day❤

Thank you so much Sadia! I have just began my University and I know for a fact this video will help me a lot with my new chapter in life 💗

Some years ago I found the channel “charisma on command” that really helped me as an introvert. Thank you for your tips!!!

This entire video was sooo interested and valuable! I watched 3 times and took notes 😅 Thanks a lot Sadia!

hi, sadia! im not a veg, but been following you since so long. i AM really thankful you could explain these topics so effortlessly. and i AM hoping you could post more vids about productivity, relationship, journaling, and all of the other things we CANT have while in college or everyday lives. thankyou and thankyou for being my productivity & softskills guru

Sadia, your videos and you make me happy. I like everything about your channel. I take so much from them. Thank you for posting some many interesting subjects. We grow with you. I think it is the evolution that I enjoy the most. I've been following and watching for years now, and the authenticity and warmth are translated or transmitted through your demeanour

So much good stuff in here! Thank you. We just had a conversation about how you talk about others...so true!

When I started in the financial services industry 8 years ago, I was very new, young, and not highly educated. I spent the first 3 years reading several books including how to win friends and influence people multiple times. I now run a successful practice after 8 years, managing hundreds of households. I realized that people trusted me, and what I was saying, and the product/sales come secondary. Thanks for putting this out there, it'll help lots of people!

Thank you so much for sharing, Sadia Little did I know, I need this tips to be better in my position. For someone with little "warm", make people to trust to talk with me is really hard. But my position forces me to be "warm" and I still feel I am not warm enough. I hope after this I can be more warm 😊

I think you have a beautiful, vibrant, caring, sweet personality!

UGHHHH I JUST LOVE YOU AND YOUR QUALITY CONTENT 🫵🏼💓🙌🏼

Another fantastic video Sadia and being a better listener is a good communication skill to learn. Yes, good to use the person's name when talking to them (if you aren't like me and Sadia who struggle to remember someone's name). Love 🥰 the video and love 💞Sadia and ❤Rob.

A video full of warmth 😍 Looking forward for some more similar ones 😍

Wow, and there was me thinking Sadia is is the most friendly, talented, relaxed, confident person ever. Just shows you none of us has it all sussed. Loved this video.❤

Loved that 8 minute video. Felt like me in a social gathering. This video is going to be my favourite one.

Ohhhhh I find this video so so so useful. Thanks for making it. I was feeling little disconnected & disinterested in anything I do. Now I have got some hope on how to take things. Really being engaged in your stuff definitely helps us to be normal to interact with others.🙂

I was looking for videos about becoming a good listener but found general things. But yours was the one, I don't know that I could relate to. Thank You. I'm really looking forward to more of such content.

The best and most concise tips I ever found!

Thank you Sadia. Sometimes I find it hard to carry a conversation when meeting new people. Appreciate the tips ♥️

Your videos are always great to watch.. And everyone surely learns something from them.

I have watched more videos on this topics. But none surpassed this one. Please keep making such amazing videos. Your narration is so interesting and captivating. 😊