It brings me joy to see your excitement about plants. It's almost contagious and makes me excited about plants again. I love seeing your house because it's not like other content creators. I like stuff and "clutter" which you don't see often online.
I love this Har! I am so happy you are feeling happy and inspired and allowing yourself to be who you are cause you are amazing! No one else like you! Plus I really like all the stuff you did here and your style - but who gives a crap if I like it cause it only matters if it makes your heart sing 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼😊❤️
i just wanted to say i really love the fact that u had the realization to not do just what the internet so to speak wants i love u because u remind me of my oldest daughter but i loved that u loved the bridal veil vine actually sad u got rid of it but i get so bored just seeing the same "rare" plants styled the same way so minimalisty lol i agree with u and love the jumbled lived in look keep doing u its very refreshing!
The bedroom grow light area looks awesome, especially the funky lemon lime philodendron:) I think key is not hanging on to plants that you don't vibe with, even if you like the look of them. There are quite a few that I like occasionally admiring up close, as long as someone else is taking care of them 😅
you plant aesthetic is great it works with ur home and it’s unique and reflects your personality! you do you ❤ 100% agree with that internet/ig aethetic is really not practical and its not for everyone. who has the space to just have plants and nothing else like do they not have other hobbies or love for other items/personal things that they have accumulated throughout life. its so unrealistic.
Yes!! I get it! I got rid of some plants because they were “not rare enough” or “too basic” 😑. To please who?! The internet made me feel I had to. Sounds super silly. But I get it. Now I realized I love them and have been acquiring them slowly.
IMO the point of having plants at home is to make your house the most witchy ghibli cluttered cozy mess that you can, and then my heart will be fulfilled xDD
Be yourself not someone else, by the way why do youtubers never have Bromeliads/Air plants/Haworthia/Miniature Tree Fern and ferns in general aren't discussed a lot. Just to name a few species. I'm loving the Caudex plants tho! it's something else
I used to enjoy and thrive off being different and being unique. But since I’ve started watching tutorials, how tos, and “things you shouldn’t do” videos, I’ve somehow lost my own way. This isn’t just plant videos, it’sALL kinds of videos. It’s no shade to content creators, I absolutely love youtube and I will continue to watch them but need to remember to do whatever brings me joy AS WELL even if it’s unpopular or the opposite to what’s everyone else is doing. But it seems as an audience we also do the same to content creators!
This!!! I find myself doing this all the time. Like if someone does a video on plants they hate and I have one I am questioning the plant, and think bad about it. Or even with house decor when people make fun of other decor that’s not there style it makes me question my home choice🥲😂
@@abigailhensarling341 same !!!! I actually changed my whole room to fit what everyone on RU-vid does and now I really dont like it 😔😔 it's really bad how we feel like we need to follow a RU-vid creators
Not for nothing but the link between you making choices based on your own happiness and the way your content feels back to ‘itself’ again cannot be a coincidence. I’ve been LOVING your content again and it’s felt so much like the early days of being involved with PlantTube and how at home that made me feel and I’m so happy to see you leaning in. I have always said when you asked about the direction of your content that it’s at its best quality when you can tell the creator loves it, too. And I think you’re finding your way back to that and I’m just LOVING it all. ❤
I love your sincerity (I tried typing a word that doesn’t exist - sincereness - and autocorrect changed it to ‘sincere mess’ which I also love! 😅) being genuine and honest is what I appreciate in RU-vidrs and influencers, so your conversation around being what the internet wants you to be was amazing, not stupid at all!!!
I was showing your videos to my fiancé saying,she is my favorite because she is different and always herself. The messy house you are talking about is one of my favorite things on your videos because it makes me feel stress free. In today’s world it’s so hard to keep up with everything that people/internet expects from you, so whenever I was feeling overwhelmed I would watch your videos to get inspired to be myself. I’m so so glad that you are finding back your identity and being yourself again. You might not know how much people including myself love the real you. 😘❤
You're energy is great this morning! It's awsome to see you feeling happy and like yourself again. I always feel like I'm in a funk the first year or two of having a baby and breastfeeding. Really glad you've found your joy again!
Also, I'm so happy to see you buying weird "not currently in demand" Plants! Don't ever stop doing that because you buy plants I've never even heard of and thanks to you I get to discover new plants I love that I didn't even know existed!
Harli, i am so excited you are excited about plants again! Just have plants that you enjoy and put them where you want. I absolutely love the messy plant lady vibes. That's right up my alley 😂 Not everyone has to like the preppy clean look and that's okay. I am here for you and the plants are just a plus 🤷♀️💕 You are awesome!
Who cares if any of your decor matches, the only thing that matters is if you love it! You have an eclectic style, own it 😍! I loved your thrifted "Grandma" style you had in the other house because it was unique and totally you. Don't be afraid to be you, girl! 🥰
I needed this, SO bad. I’m a new sub of yours and THIS video just made you my favorite RU-vidr. I’m also a new plant lady, and have been struggling to find, “my style”! Why does there need to be a “style”?! You made me realize that there doesn’t need to be a certain style if a person doesn’t fit into one particular theme. Which, I don’t! I like modern, rustic, mid-modern, unique things… anyway thank you for being open and vulnerable. You really have inspired me!!! My first goal is to make a huge hanging planter with 3 different colors of pothos 🥰
I love that you realized that being yourself and doing what makes you happy is more important than trying to appease the internet! You're never going to be able to make everyone happy so you might as well make yourself happy first and then spread that happiness and joy around as much as possible and that is exactly what you do! I am drawn to your channel because you are experienced and knowledgeable of course but more so because you have so much joy for plants, are more relaxed about your plants and how you display them and you are different from every other plant channel on RU-vid. You don't have to have the perfect Instagram house, hair, clothes and makeup to grow beautiful plants and be a beautiful person inside and out, that makes you relatable and people are drawn to that. Keep doin' you boo! 🌿 ♥️ #randomandplanty
I almost did the same thing. Thinking of getting rid of all my plants but a couple. It got overwhelming to me. I did sell a lot of them and now that it’s down to just the ones I really love I’m enjoying them again. Looking forward to seeing how the little Codex plants grow. I love those types of planters. It’s good to see you excited about your plants. 💚🌱💚
You are the most " normal " plant person I've found on RU-vid. Thanks for the rambling of this video!. Very inspiring for us all to do things the way we want . Great information as well!
Really love this video! Just recently started getting into plants and it’s been a lot of fun! You’re personality is very bubbly and you make growing plants feel fun rather than a very strict science haha if that makes sense. I can completely relate with you when it comes to losing your love for stuff especially after having children! Happy you’re starting to re enjoy it!!
That mom identity crisis is REAL and not talked about enough. It’s so stressful but I’m glad you’re getting back to yourself 💚 it definitely takes time
Dude, I've been going through some soul searching like that too. Like, looking back on past me and realizing ways I was happier then before I "knew better". Like, the more innocent authentic version of myself and the feeling of wanting to return to it. Becoming an older adult is definitely interesting!
I’m the same exact way about liking clutter around my home. I just enjoy seeing everything I love everywhere I go. There’s a big difference between a home looking lived in and dirty.
I think that as u get older u start realizing & understanding things differently. U realize that life is already too short & it's not important "to keep up with the joneses" , instead u do what makes u happy & contented. There are no truer words than " with age, comes wisdom." Only do what makes u happy Harley, don't worry about what others think. It's your life! Live it to please you! Much love & hugs... ❤️🤗❤️🤗❤️🤗
Harli, I so enjoy your videos! This one spoke to me. Although I am not on the internet, many people make fun of my house plants. To many, to crowded, to much work. I ignore them of course. I've excepted I am not a minimalist. I have my house as a jungle. My house should reflect me. And it does. My favorite thing to do is rehabbing house plants. Enjoy what you do. I've been doing this for over 50 years. I'll never stop.
Totally feel you on losing the joy in plants for a bit! I felt like with the surge of people interested in plants (which so so happy to have more people sharing the enjoyment) it became such a comparison game of rushing to get the "trendiest" plants. It's so good to take a break from that!
I felt pressured (100% self imposed) to buy a hoya because everyone loves them but they do nothing for me. Nothing. I searched for hoyas online trying to find one I liked. Just because everyone else loves them. It's silly. I was also snooty at first about my golden pothos. But it's honestly my favorite plant. It's so beautiful and grows so fast and I can put it anywhere & forget to water it and it will still grow. What's not to love. I think we should all just do what we want. We'll be happier.
I love how you found yourself again, I find that I get lost sometimes. It’s no joke when people are called influencers.. because they do. And you have to be aware, to remain true to yourself. That even goes for influencers themselves 😉 Thanks for sharing, I love your realness
What you are saying does not sound stupid at all. I love that you real about it. Keep doing what makes you happy. We are here to cheer you on. Personally, you are strong for being a YT and putting your life out there. Of course, your gonna grow with your channel as you grow. Please keep sharing. btw where did you buy that neolepisorus truncatesferen Tiger-striped Fern you said?
Oh, I completely understand where you‘re coming from and it‘s so good to see you re-discovering yourself somehow and pursuing what YOU like again!! i feel like it‘s so easy to get lost on the internet and feeling you should have a certain aesthetic, should do xy because people might wanna see that etc., but ultimately people are also watching your videos and content because of your personality and the personal twist you give to your plants/content/life. It would be so boring if everything and everyone was the same! ♥️♥️♥️
Good job! I do too. I like to display things that are meaningful to me. Even if it seems like clutter to others. It makes it feel like home to me. I can totally relate. My father in law gave us a metal stand up coat rack, I use it for plants! It might look tacky to others, but, I love it.
I get so much of what you're saying! I think your personal style is so much more fun and interesting! Can't wait to see all the different "non internet approved" plants!
Amen...thank God someone finally realized it's ok to be yourself and stop trying to control everything!! Enjoy your new found freedom. I love messy plants. Let them grow how they want. You don't control nature. I'm the same way with my outside gardens. I love the wild natural look!!! 😁😄👍🌻🌷🌿🏵️🌼
This! I love this kind of videos. Its why I enjoy Benji so much. I love displaying plants as art, as part of the house. I don’t like when they look like in a warehouse. Thank you Harli
You are one of my favorite humans and I’ve never even met you😭❤️ I love how honest, open, and raw you are on here. You are HUMAN and also, I love plant clutter too!! It’s not that I live mess but I feel so much more comfortable with a homey home that has stuff I love around❤️ I look up to you so much! -sincerely your new bff that you don’t even know🤣
Harli! I love to see this! Your little jungle house was an inspiration to start my plant collection. Anything you do you always make it interesting and it feels like I'm just hanging out with my bestie talking about our houses. Like when my sister comes over and I show her all the new little decorations I got for the house... that's the feeling this video gives me. You sounded so happy showing your dresser in your room! That made ME happy! You're so creative!
I’m happy that you have decided to do what you enjoy! You genuinely seem lighter and free. I style my home like one large art piece. Having color, unique plants, odd trinkets and art bring me joy….it also helps create inspiration and feeds my soul. 💛💚🧡
I’m so excited to see you back in action! I think it comes in waves the times when we lose or find ourselves. It really does seems like you’re in a much better place mentally and it’s great to see you branching out again. I always enjoy watching anything you create! Thank you for being you!
Great video!! I remember having small kids & being a stay at home mum, I lost my identity too, there’s hardly any time to think of yourself sometimes. I can’t imagine going through Covid with toddlers. Don’t worry you’ll be fine, looks like you’re doing a great job juggling it all. Xx
I totally get what you said about trying to fit in the internet, I don’t make content but I also think I’ve subconsciously done the same thing. Instead of keeping to my own style I was trying to copy what I saw on SM. I made everything grey at one point and it made me depressed, I ended up HATING my house and through covid, I wanted to move so bad. But now I’ve redecorated to my taste, I’m much happier
Same. People are trying to "modern farmhouse" everything that now I hate farmhouse. I use to love farmhouse style and lived in an actual farmhouse my childhood years, which looked nothing like modern farmhouses on IG. Now I'm trying to find my own style instead of being a Joanna Gains copycat. 😊
Wood looks like Cedar, doesn't rot...Great repot video 🤗💚🌱you like a cozy lived in house which is awesome!!! You do you🤗💚🌱started watching you from the beginning, and you helped me love plants again🌱💚💚💚🤗your planter is so adorable!!! You're talented girl😉
I seriously love how candid you are and quirky cute! You definitely should do what you want to do and what you love. We go through so many changes in life with childbearing years and then we start to feel ourselves again and many more changes! "Do whatever the Bleep you want"! YES! I love your setups 😊
Just an idea from experience - I know, it’s scary, but - if it helps, you can trim half of those roots, off of the Burle Marx (and similar plants). Of course more will just grow back from the cuts. Lol. ;-) …it makes repotting easier. And helps the plant settle in faster, due to the “need” for new root production. You can avoid that risk of a big air pocket like you were saying; just trim the roots, even 3/4 won’t hurt it. You can trim, then fill half or so of the pot with substrate, then just set the plant on top! Then fill in some more soil and maybe top dressing, gravel, etc. If you’re worried about contamination at all, just sanitize your tools with peroxide or alcohol first.
I can relate SO MUCH to all of this! Thank you for always being so real with us. I seriously feel like we are hanging out IRL when I watch your videos. I’m so glad you are getting back to what makes you happy!!! 💚💚💚
I was wanting to try some clear pots! I passed on getting them because I was wondering if the roots didn't want light... I guess that sounds dumb. Lol! I love using the Velcro strips to tie up plants instead of string. Anyone have advice for repotting a VERY long pathos? The vines run about 15' and wrap all around the top of my bathroom. The pot itself is a hanging basket. Maybe I could hold a bucket under it??
Totally understandable, I feel you. Sometimes, readily seeing so much and drawing comparisons becomes a balancing act with internet vs self, internet vs joy. But keep doing what makes you happy and makes you feel your best... jungle it up! 💚
I bought a few plants bc they were popular - philo pink princess, a couple hoyas, some anthuriums 0 and then I realized.....i don't like these plants!!! so i went back to stocking up on vining and trailing plants bc they make me incredibly happy to look at and care for.
Exacerbate is the word you were looking for. Very close! You get a gold star for trying. ⭐️❤️ also I might just be speaking for myself but I wouldn’t mind at all if you used your platform as a place to vent in videos. Get it all out. There’s a lot of people who care about you here and we’ve never even met you!
I remember watching this video, and this guy was saying "blah blah so the plants can climb and grow big, isn't that what everybody wants?" and I was like "not me". I live in a small apt so I just want cute/interesting plants that I like, growing healthy with lots of living space for ME. 😁 Do what works for you.
Do you usually repot year-round? I have a Marble Queen who looks ready for repotting (though I've only had her for a year, so maybe I'll wait). But, some folks say to wait until the spring/summer? Do you always wait? Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings with us.
I like to see videos of people doing what they enjoy. You should buy and grow what you want. Decorate as you want. And if it brings enjoyment and is different that is good. Because most videos would be the same o, same o and that get's boring. Everyone is different and have different preferences. That being said common plants in a unique setting is good. Expensive plants in a unique setting is good also. Different plants expose people to plants they originally wouldn't know about and gives the ability to learn about. And yes I need Grammarly!! LOL.
I may have missed it but did you link those fantastic giant clear pots? I know you said Amazon…but what brand maybe? They’re fantastic. Also like your videos a lot. This is my 1st comment though. Lol
Watching a bunch of your videos rn and I connect so much with the cluttered decor. My husband and I are collectors! And I was trying to make our house look like what I see online. That’s not who we are and I want to embrace the clutter of what we love. I’m so inspired by your decor.
For the first trimester of my current pregnancy, I totally had that same "I just feel like getting rid of all my plants" feelings, and I dod the total minimum amount of care to keep them alive, and now I'm 16 weeks along and yesterday I finally got around to potting up a problem box full of plants and I was just BUZZING with happy endorphins from enjoying looking at all the new growth and all the cool little things you notice and get excited about when you grow plants, and im so thankful I didn't get rid of anything 🤣 We all go through seasons and things are always changing, just do what you can right now and enjoy today. If plants are being stressful, take a step back. Plants are resilient and can bounce back 😁
I'm so glad you were able to realise you don't have to live exactly how the internet thinks you should! I don't think you're alone in being subconsciously tricked into thinking what you want is what you see on Instagram and Youtubr, I think a lot of us are feeling so burnt out these days because we're unconsciously going against who we actually are. I totally get what you mean about liking "clutter", I'm the same! I like having knicknacks and things around and for my home to fill full and lived in. I too have been influenced to "declutter" recently and you know what? It made me so unhappy. I like my things. I look at them and they make me happy so I'm keeping them. Who cares whether I'm a minimalist or not? Literally nobody but me judging myself because the internet says I'm doing it wrong. I'm still trying to break the mindset so I can enjoy the things I love again!
Oh, I get it, 100%, Harli. Yes, your identity is tied into your social-media image and I understand the need to please viewers, now that this is your full-time job. But, we mustn't forget why we fell in love with you in the first place. Your passion for plants, caring for them and updates on your favourites. Focus on you, what makes you happy, what helps you grow as a person. Film when you feel like it but you don't have to film every time you do something planty. Let your home reflect who you are and don't let trends or expectations start tampering with your space and how you want it to be , otherwise it will no longer be yours.
I’ve been feeling kind of stagnant with my plants lately too. I feel like my plants are intruding with my husband’s space. Even though he would never complain, I just feel like I need to spread them out more so they aren’t in his way, which they really aren’t, but… Uggg I don’t know.
Ope! You should see my planks in the living room! Old siding from the distressed outbuildings my husband’s grandpa built, stuck in a pot & helping my plants mature! Glad you’re getting your love back!
Illogical and random= great way to describe the internet~~~~ So happy for your thumb twiddling thoughts Harli! ~~~~ Also wanted to mention the great shift in women's identities as we transition into motherhood and the transformation that happens in all areas of life during that time....... I loooove the plant hanging from the ficus!!!!
I love watching how you take care of your plants and YOUR prospective. It's refreshing to see something different and that's why I come back to your chanel. It's nice to see something different from everyone else.
Harli you are too fabulous! A friend of mine bought me a ginseng bonsai and I've been stressing and panicking about this plant more than any of my others because it's not one I see "plantfluencers" give advice or tips about. I feel the 'rare' plants may of had their day for alot of people, me included, my favourite purchase recently was a njoy gold, didn't cost more than £10!
You know what harli, you and I dont have the exact same "style" and that is ok, because that's not what brings me to your channel. I love listening to you talk about your plants, watch your journey, and just share in our love for plants. I like to think that my style is unique to myself and I love to see how others do it differently, and take tidbits here and there, and honestly the weirder the better! 😉 I really enjoyed this honest candid talk. You always keep it real and I admire that... That's why I look forward to seeing the next video you upload. When you went on hiatus I really hoped youd come back and I'm so glad you did but its totally understandable... life happens. People are growing too. All the best. 💚
I tried all the internet plant crazy trends but realized I didn’t enjoy trying to make tropical plants to thrive in my super low humidity so now my collection is full of the plants that have fallen out of favor but were popular in the 70’s. My Norfolk pine and false Aurelia are stars, snake plants are cornerstones, and I can’t wait for my holiday cactus to get decades old! That is my joy now, watching my plants mature and grow instead of growing the collection.
