as young as 8 years old I would lay in bed all night just wishing and hoping I would wake up a girl. not because I thought it would make my life easier or better. it just felt like right for me and I had these thoughts for almost 10 years I got over it for a time but about 4 years ago at 28 the feelings and desire came back. I waited for a couple more years before making a final decision been on hormones for 8 months now and I'm happier than ive ever been. my only regret is i waited til 31 years old to finally transition.
OMG, same I've been feeling that aswell, it stopped for a while but then it came back, I still am waiting to make a choice because I have freinds both genders and I sometimes play sports because its enjoyable, but at the same time I like wearing dresses and wanting to be a girl when I wake up. Now I know somone I can finally relate to, tysm.
When I really look back I see all the signs too. I always was jealous of my sisters because they got to do what I wanted to do. They got to dress the way I wanted to. They got to act a certain way without being looked at as weird or “gay” and it just wasn’t fair to me and it really got to me especially when my dad would constantly say “I need to man you up!” 🤮 but it was so much more than being feminine for me. I had body parts that didn’t make sense to me and didn’t match how I felt on the inside and I thought if I told my parents or anybody they wouldn’t understand and probably would disown me because of the way they talked about people in the LGBTQ community and I didn’t want that to happen to me. I hated being a boy so much I would live my life in fantasy. I would pretend I was a pretty girl and had all the right parts and people thought I was just really gay and effeminate but I would just shake it off because I didn’t like being called a man period. Then around 17 I developed my first actual crush and thought maybe I could be a gay man but be a girl on the inside and him be my man and I be his girl but he had to be masculine and only play the male roles in the relationship which was a terrible idea because it literally didn’t feel any different from being a guy with a guy who kept calling me “handsome” and admiring my male genitalia which was a total turn off to me! I knew of trans people I saw on tv but didn’t think I could ever be trans because I couldn’t express myself like that without the fear of losing those I loved and most importantly it I even had access to the hormones or the surgeries to help affirm my true gender identity. But at 20 years old I’m tired of lying to everybody and most importantly myself! I’ve never been happy with who I was or what I was and I know after faking it for so many years that this is the pathway I must take to be truly happy and live my life to the fullest. I’m done living my life as a man. And I don’t care who I have to lose to get there! This is my life and I know this is what I’m supposed to be and who I am. And I don’t care what I have to do to become the woman I have always wanted to be. I’ve only been out for a month but I’ve always been this way and now I’m free to be who I want to be and live my truth!
@@993LD Thank you! It’s going on almost 5 months now and so far I’ve lost a lot and gained so little. But that’s fixing to turn around bc once I get on hrt I’ll finally start to look more like the woman I am and less like this person I don’t even recognize anymore that’s supposed to be me. It’s been really hard but it’ll all be worth it in the end 🥰.
This comment helps me too even, I’m in a similar situation and am worried to lose most of those in my life but I can’t lie to myself. Just have to start living the way i know will make me happy
🥺🥺 thank you for sharing. I'm in a similar situation, I'm always in my very own fantasy thinking I'm a beautiful girl with the body that I'm comfortable with. and this kind of helped. Thank you 💞
I developed depersonalization/derealization around 13 or 14, I never recognized it as dysphoria until recently. The idea of me turning into an old man is unacceptable to me. Not being old in itself but an old man? Absolutely not. I could def see myself as a cute lil grandma making cookies and talking shit on the front porch 🤷🏽♀️
As a cisgender person, and one who doesn't about my gender much one way or the other, I find statements like these extremely interesting in my quest to relate to people better.
A word from GOD ALMIGHTY in Prophecy 153 at amightywind.com. Thus sayeth GOD ALMIGHTY " And I have another thing to say to you who think you can just change your sexes. Though I created you to be a man and gave you all the sexual equipment to prove it, plus the DNA, the hormones and you women who say, "I want to be a man," I have a secret for you. You will appear before the FATHER OF CREATION-in the sex that I decreed that you were to be from the moment that you were implanted inside as an egg in that mother's womb. You'll not fool Heaven. So repent while you can. For you're not fooling Heaven. You can fool the earth, you can fool yourself, but you're not fooling your CREATOR. I tell this world to repent. “ GOD ALMIGHTY will accept you if you repent and change your old ways. Everyone is making reservations for HEAVEN or hell. You decide.
@@yc8679 have you seen these ladies and gentleman, pretty sure most of them could “fool” heaven, they’re all angels already anyway. Also keep your opinions to yourself 🏳️🌈 😘
@@yc8679 , So if you can't change your sex, than God has no problem with a transgender because HE will always see that person as the original assigned sex. He has said " if your eyes offend you , cut it out. It's better to enter the Kingdom of God blind than.... So, extrapolating to the genitals, He shouldn't have a problem with cutting things off. I believe God judges your soul, not your physical body. Any temporal things we do to our bodies, whether it be a tattoo, or a sex reassignment surgery, I believe will not prevent a person from gaining God's favor in the afterlife.
@@yc8679 Oh FFS!! Haven't you got a life?? It's sad that you were indoctrinated so very easily. That's why you and your ilk are referred to as "the flock". You're a sheep 🐑. Stop drinking the Kool Aid and actually use your brain instead of spouting your unfounded dogma and acting like a trained animal in response to a stimulus. NOTHING about anything you've just spewed all over this posting is even remotely accurate or true. Take your rubbish elsewhere, troll.
@@ebogar42 It validated my feelings. It's affirming to have someone express very similar feelings to you about something especially when it was never talked about when you started having them. It doesn't prove i'm transgender but it gives me a frame of reference (for lack of better words) to understand them & not feel alienated. I'm not saying this is a definitive moment that's validated the whole thing to me but it's very comforting to share thoughts & feelings with people regardless of if they end up meaning the same thing to you. I'm very appreciative of the open discussion & attempts to understand each other (& ourselves) that have come about in the last decade. Regardless of how valid you think peoples feelings & thoughts are around this it's a fact people have them & not by choice. So i don't understand why you dispute it i suppose. I don't think anyone is claiming it's anything more than their thoughts & feelings. If what ever level of transitioning is what makes someone happy, for whatever reason why would it bother you ?
These two dumb dumbs right here commenting why in the hell are u watching this if u don’t agree with the way SHE lives or what she is saying !(do we have secret closet trans) don’t watch it if u don’t like it this is what blows my mind !
As a CIS female, does she seem female to you? Not about appearance and how she sounds but in viewpoints and attitudes? I think we can all say that she definitely looks and sounds female in her videos.
you are NOT a sic women, you’re a women, Real women are not changing their name on behalf of these men dressed as women you’re not a sick woman you are a real woman a woman.
As a nonbinary person, i think nonbinary people fit under the trans umbrella. Dysphoria isnt just about feeling a disconnect between you and your body, its about people not seeing you for you. One could just say binary trans people and nonbinary trans people as a way to define them. The definition of being trans is not identifying with your gender assigned at birth and gender isnt always binary. Also some binary trans people dont have dysphoria about their body and dont medically transition and they are still valid. Thats my thoughts on that, thank you for sharing tho.
You seem such an incredibly smart, pretty and wonderfully articulate young lady that - even if an accident of birth stole your true physical identity in your earlier years - today you are clearly simply a very special human being and a credit to womanhood - full stop. Dave (using my wonderful late husband's youtube account)
In kindergarten, when I found out I'm actually a boy, I was crushed cuz I just identified myself as female. Since then I'm confused... I ignored it somehow until my graduation year and now I just got that feeling back from kindergarten. I always felt different in a way. Things like masturbation don't feel right in a way that the dick is not me. I look in the mirror and don't see me but also don't know what I want to see. I struggle with my sexuality but also with my body itself. I stopped living since Kindergarten and just lived for school after being sort of rebellious in primary school... I got good grades cuz it distracted me from my problems. Never trusting anyone cuz I don't want to get personal. That meant for me to be myself. Wich I couldn't. I'm going to be 20 this year and just started putting all the pieces together. Just to sum up the picture about myself, I don't necessarily look female. Nor stereotypically gay. I don't have to of course but that alone made it even worse because of the social construct of girls and boys. For instance I played with legos and sat in a sandpit for hours... I was building huts in the woods. But also played with dolls when i got the chance to. I loved it so much. I didn't necessarily fit into either one of the two. But with what i played with doesn't matter but as what i felt like doing all if this mattered. I know that know. I listen to Kim Petras' music and one of my favorit RU-vidrs in trans but your video is the first i watched on my jurney to educate myself more about being trans and to finally fullfill myself. As I said I just started to put all the pieces together. Thank you for sharing your experience! Great video!
I’ve always considered “transgender” to be a flexible umbrella term which includes both binary and non-binary people. It covers persons that do not identify with the gender assigned at birth/gender associated with their sex. After all, a non-binary AMAB person, for example, doesn’t identify with male gender, thus, they are transgender, but in a way that’s not fitting in either of binary categories. For many folks it’s an outdated term, but I’ve seen a plenty of people use “transsexual” to specifically refer to themselves as binary trans people. Cause, technically, it’s a transition from a gender associated with one sex to a gender associated with the opposite sex. Plus, many people who medically transition from point A to point B use it to highlight their experiences. I’ve heard people use both labels to identify themselves, with one being more specific than the other, which is cool. People who do not like the “transsexual” label are entitled to do so and it’s perfectly fine. I do relate to a lot of things in the video, so thank you a lot for sharing. I wanted to share my perspective too, especially since a plethora of my friends are non-binary and I identify with their experiences even as a pretty binary person, from self-perception to dysphoria. Plus, many of them seek a certain degree of medical transition. They just have a different goal in mind.
Hi Maya, I am a cis gender woman but I love watching you because your advice helps people going through so many things. Your so beautiful. Along with that you are highly intelligent and very worldly. You should write a book that could help everyone❤️
Happy to see that cis gendered people accept us. Its certainly the most challenging journey to go through. I just got approved for bottom surgery and finished my 35 chapter novel about my personal journey. I have many things to still do 23 months on hormones legally changed my gender to female and almost at the finish line. I have many cis women who support and love me for who I am and I just wanted to say thanks for also being out there and accepting who we are. It means certainly a great deal to me
Hope all is well....you seemed a bit upset. I just wanted say thank you...why you ask?? Watching your videos helped me be more accepting of my coworker who is transgender. I was once a biased hater but since I've watched your videos. My eyes and heart are wide open. She is truly one of many coworkers I hold dear to my heart. And you, sweet Maya, I love you for your beauty, your strength, your❤, for being real. Love you😘.
A word from GOD ALMIGHTY in Prophecy 153 at amightywind.com. Thus sayeth GOD ALMIGHTY " And I have another thing to say to you who think you can just change your sexes. Though I created you to be a man and gave you all the sexual equipment to prove it, plus the DNA, the hormones and you women who say, "I want to be a man," I have a secret for you. You will appear before the FATHER OF CREATION-in the sex that I decreed that you were to be from the moment that you were implanted inside as an egg in that mother's womb. You'll not fool Heaven. So repent while you can. For you're not fooling Heaven. You can fool the earth, you can fool yourself, but you're not fooling your CREATOR. I tell this world to repent. “ GOD ALMIGHTY will accept you if you repent and change your old ways. Everyone is making reservations for HEAVEN or hell. You decide.
@@TheJokezOver They promote a radical expressive individualism in which people are free do to whatever they want and define the truth however they wish, yet they try ruthlessly to enforce acceptance of transgender ideology. The challenge for activists is to explain why a person's "real" sex is determined by an inner "gender identity," but age and height and race and species are not defined by an Inner sense of identity. Why accept transgender but not Trans-racial Trans-species or Trans-abled reality why can't I be a disabled Black Women if I want to regardless of reality? Gender identity can sound alot like religious identity, which is determined by beliefs. But those beliefs don't determine reality someone who identifies as Christian believes Jesus is the Christ. someone who identifies as a Muslim believes that Mohammed is the final prophet but Jesus is or is not the Christ and Mohammed either is and isn't the final prophet, regardless of what anyone else believes. If those who identify as transgender are the sex with which they identify, why doesn’t that apply to other attributes or categories of being? What about people who identify as animals, or able-bodied people who identify as disabled? Do all of these self-professed identities determine reality? If not, why not?
@@xXxSephirothAmirxxXx I think you've described the situation pretty well overall. Your examples of trans-racism/species/ability vs changing religious identity are exactly right. The first group is just about physical features, while the second are mainly about cultural differences. What you've missed is that gender is MAINLY about cultural differences. Gender roles are something civilization has instilled in us over time, and now humanity is beginning to reflect on why we have those roles. Race, species, and ability are NOT directly about cultural differences. There is no point in being "transracial", as you can adopt the culture of another nation with being of the same race. Don't get hung up on the surgeries and hormones. Maybe one day, if society is a little more permitting, they won't be necessary.
Hi! Been watching your videos for a few months here while starting on hrt and they’ve been really helping me feel less alone in that process. I do have some thoughts on your comments about non-binary not being trans. I’m a non-binary person and prefer they/them pronouns. However, I am currently in the process of transitioning and developing more feminine features, and being able to present as female is more in line with how I see myself and feel comfortable. I heavily relate to a lot of the things you said here about being trans, but see myself more as a non-binary person although I may be viewed as more traditionally trans mtf down the line. That’s what I feel fits with how I see myself. Honestly had I been born female I still feel as though there would be a bit of a disconnect with gender identity for me. Yes trans people are trans, but your definition I feel sort of removes people like myself who feel a lot of those same feelings, but I’m not confused about my identity. In that I know the non-binary label feels right and provides me the least discomfort. I feel as though the rigid definition that trans people can’t be non-binary isn’t exactly accurate. That is to say, in my opinion with my life as an ultimate example: Trans people are trans, non-binary people are non-binary, but trans people can also be non-binary and exhibit the ideals of being gender non-conforming, while also being more comfortable often being perceived as a gender opposite of which they were born. Gender identity is a spectrum, and I don’t think the label of trans has to mean the same thing for everyone, so long as at the end of the day we get to feel more comfortable in our skin. 🖤
@@willbournerv2259 My parents have been supportive so far, but my mom did ask how I know because she didn't see signs. And I had to explain I had a lot of thoughts and feelings I never talked to then about. Mine was mostly internal while externally I felt afraid, like I had to try to be what everyone else around me was.
Firstly, I love your videos, educating on real trans experience like this is so powerful and you are a gem. That said, you asked for comments if we disagree, so here is that. I personally identify trans/cis as a spectrum, anything not cis is trans, and that's how I define transgender. Otherwise we get into an awkward argument about how 'binary' a trans person needs to be to count as trans. NB folks can have serious dysphoria, I have a friend with bottom dysphoria, and that's it, which is not very helpful for them. Other trans folks can have very low levels of dysphoria but be 'binary', with high levels of euphoria when gendered correctly. Each of those experiences are equally valid and not cis. I think adding a label, of being binary trans totally acceptable, while excluding NB and fluid folks and making them develop their own label without the recognition that comes with 'trans' could be destructive, the trans umbrella has hit the point of being somewhat protective. With trans/cis being a spectrum, similar to things like sexuality, it follows that there will never be enough labels for everyone to pick one that fits. That is a result of the infinite diversity of our brains, how they develop, and how they engage with the fuzzy concept that is gender. I recognise the frustration people have with 'too many labels' but I feel like accepting that there are labels and they all have a valid meaning for somebody is fairly straightforward. We label everything, put things in boxes. Is a stool a subset of chair or does it belong in it's own box between chair and table? We label people the same way and those labels can easily feel restrictive, the ability to define yourself is a central part of the human condition, when no label fits it is natural to create one, that is the basis of all language too.
I have been thinking of the trans/nonbinary labels myself and while I don't feel those labels work for me anymore because I feel the label transgender means to transcend the gender norm and while I was in 6th grade that worked for me. I feel that since I wish to change from one gender binary to the other gender binary I feel I should use a different label to describe myself because I believe while labels don't define me they can help me describe myself to others quickly.
We are all different, trans or cis (I prefer using “trans” because it is so non specific). And it can be difficult to really understand how others feelings their identity. While gender can be described as a range, it might be better thought of as a multi dimensioned graph. Including gender, strength of gender identity, sexuality, etc. So easy to have someone with a non binary identity but feel that identity very strongly, just as another person with a non binary identity might have a very low strength of identity.
I'm a trans guy and I recently realised that as a kid I suffered from a lot of social dysphoria. I didn't understand why boys treat me differently and why girls want me to fit in with them. I just thought I'm broken, but after I came out and people started treating me as a guy it all finally clicked. Yes, I loved cars, skateboard and that stuff as a kid, but everyone just told me that I'm a girl with boyish interests, so that's what I thought too. I just wanted to say, that you don't need to know that being your birth gender is the problem (as a kid) to be trans. Everyone has different experiences :) Also, Maya, beautiful video and you are beautiful too
I'm sorry, noo... Liking cars and skate boards does NOT make you a boy. That's such a backwards way of thinking 😂. You gender has to do with biology. Now you can do all of the surgeries you want, but it doesn't make you a guy.
I know for a fact that I'm transgender and that being myself is the only path to happiness, but my parents say that I cant transition until I move out of the house. It makes my life so much worse and I'm sad and depressed and dysphoric every single day and it's awful.
i absolutely love the way you explained the spectrum and how there’s only so many labels in order to combat the idea of expressing ourselves by being put into a box per say. you explained it perfectly!
Thank you so much Maya! It's not a simple topic! I struggled with this question all my adult life, never finding the courage to actually transition. I didn't even hear the word "transgender" until I was in my early fifties. I thought I was a run of the mill crossdresser until I encountered all the resources on the internet, like WPATH, the Williams Institute at UCLA Law School, the National Center for Transgender Equality, and all the independent psychologists on the internet. Of course, most of all, were the brave transgender women like yourself that helped me to confront my innermost truths. Anyone who thinks this is some kind of whim or fad is way off, and needs to read the growing body of work by experts in many fields, legal, medical, psychiatric, etc. Thank you for your courage. It's people like you that make this a better world for the whole LGBT community! Stay strong!
For me it was Gigi gorgeous who made me realize I am trans . My whole teenage years being confused of who I am and a good part of my 20s . Luckily now I don't feel that same confusion. Still have alot of dysphoria days but I'm not even a year into my journey yet so hopefully that will become less and less as the years roll by. I love these videos because I don't know any other trans women in my RL so hearing other women talk about their experiences is nice . Don't feel so alone in the world . It's nice to relate . Your awesome Maya 💛🧡
Hi Maya. I prefer not to label myself, but I have described myself as being non-binary or gender-neutral or even gender-fluid. Lately I am thinking a better description would be non-binary/trans-feminine. But usually I just simply say I am trans, using that word as an umbrella term. I sometimes say I am non-binary because while I don't feel male at all, I also don't feel entirely female either. I feel like I am somewhere in the middle of the gender spectrum. however, I do have gender dysphoria, and I am currently transitioning towards the female end of the spectrum. I have been on hormone treatment for almost six months now and I am a lot happier.
Hi Maya, nice job on the video. I support you. You are so right, "do not be a prisoner in your own body." You are setting a good example for many people. Please remember you are important, you just are! I don't know how else to say that. But I hope you realize my words. I'm sixty-one years old so I know what I'm talking about. I'm glad I came across your channel. Thank you!
Thank you Maya! Each time I listen to you I say: "that was me growing up" or "that is me"! You are a lively woman with caring and incite and I love listening to you and learning from you! Currently I am in the : He/she phase with friends I came out to! But I know it is not malicious just a learning situation for them! Love you! Take care and Be Safe!!
Hey, thanks for this video. I feel like I'm starting to slowly understand. I'm a South African stand up comedian. Woke up at 3am thinking of what I feels like a brilliant joke about being transgender but felt that I need to educate myself before writing more on the topic or performing. I don't want to come off as ignorant, or worse yet, let my ignorance spread further confusion and hate. So thanks again, you're amazing
Thank you so much, you validate how I feel every day, I just don't want to be in a man's body any more. I've always wanted to be a woman and I always felt like a woman my whole life. I've been considering bottom surgery ❤🥰💃❤
People, gender is a social construct. It doesn’t matter if trans people offend you. Get over it. Yes, you have freedom of speech and you don’t have to use a trans person’s pronouns, but they also don’t have to use your pronouns. It’s better if everybody just grows up and learns to respect other people.
@rustydop If you look at a dictionary, you’ll realize that gender doesn’t have to correlate with your sex. It doesn’t matter if you can’t handle it. Your feelings won’t change facts. If you can’t respect other people, then you don’t deserve to have other people respect you.
I have a trans masculine non-binary friend and I consider them as trans as I am as a trans woman. You have to be careful not to gate keep on who is considered trans or not. Some people can't or don't want to medically transition. Love you still 💕🧚🏽♀️
I feel like that can be applied in many contexts. I know many people who stand vehemently against gender identity embrace nonbinary people and FTM's, but only embrace (and enthusiastically at that) MTF's if they're people who fiercely present in ways that these "allies" would see as "men not conforming to gender). I look at them, and think "I won't let them treat me like some tool in their crusade against culture.". It's like how Veruca Salt (the band) stated that they wanted society to see them as another Chicago band, instead of making them up to be some type of iconoclasts in a 90's alt. version of the "riot girl" genre.
I actually agree with Ken in that I feel almost toxicity in the community if you don't go extreme against conformity. I do feel there are differences betweem being completely nonbinary and genderfluid but then we are getting into the gray areas just like with gender.
I don't personally get why you would want the label of trans if there is no disconnect with your body. I'm not trying to gate keep but I feel in a way that allows for alot of abuse to be OK on cis and medically transitioned women. As much as people think trans women have this ultimate strength of a man over women, we do not. Medically transitioned women shouldn't be summed into a group where we have a leg up. I think pre transition or non transitioned people into a space when it comes to physical safety of those who are not weaker but who do not have the same strength. They should not be allowed to just say woman without some form of physical characteristic. That isn't anything to do with surgery. Genitalia doesn't count but the physical change. Some assholes can just claim trans, have male strength and beat on women cause they say they are women. I'm not just talking sport but also in public. They want the label then they should at least change something physical. Otherwise they are just a boy in a dress which is fine too. There is more to being trans than just liking "girl" products.
To not medically transition doesn’t make you non binary or not trans. I don’t think she said that. She’s talking about the people that identify as non binary. I used to work with someone that is non-binary and I don’t think they identified as transgender. Then again I never asked. But I feel like labeling yourself as transgender then non-binary is like cancelling the other. But I totally get it if you’ve transitioned THEN label yourself as non-binary. Idk. Lol. I guess it just depends on whatever you’re most comfortable with and really see yourself as.
@@CorinneOliv I'd personally argue that 'trans' is actually a broad term which implies that you are a different gender than the one assigned to you at birth. (Especially since looking up 'cis' gives this definition: referring or relating to people whose sense of personal identity and gender corresponds with their birth sex.) In that situation, yes, non-binary individuals would fall under that header. Not to mention, every non-binary person I've ever encountered has also identified as trans... including the therapist that I'm looking to see to discuss my own feelings of gender dysphoria. It does feel a little gatekeepy to say that they aren't, and not going to lie, it does make some of us who still have doubts as to their gender identity (in my case even after close to 30 years of dysphoria/knowing I identify more as a girl than a guy) feel like imposters because we aren't 100% ultra femme (or butch). Speaking only for myself, I don't know 100% where I stand because my dysphoria is really bad some days, and then others I don't even notice it. My style could easily be described as somewhere between a Tomboy and a Feminine Guy - and that's a style I don't think will change much when/if I fully transition. I think there's a very real possibility that I'm more gender fluid than anything... but that could just be because I'm not in a situation where I can safely transition completely, right now anyway. Regardless, I have always felt like I went through the wrong puberty. Does the fact that there are days I'm not overcome by dysphoria erase the days that I am?
Hey gorgeous looking fresh as always. I watch you're video because you are very strong person and that inspire me a lot but I'm not trans or anything lol I just love how you express you're life and experience with such confidence also you're helping so many people like you and that's a good thing...keep it up girl, you are doing a good work.
Thank you for sharing your story! I am a straight woman but i'm trying to learn more on different genders and this has helped me understand so much. You are beautiful and I'm so happy to see you be happy with who you are! ❤️
Thankyou so much.. I have gone through stuff for decades feeling in the wrong body etc, and in 2014 I was chastised for it so I shrunk back into a cocoon. My best friend told me I'm transgender maybe a year ago but because it didn't fit exactly what I felt in 2014 I ignored it. But I need to embrace this now. At 47, I only have half my life left and it's a waste to lose the chance to be me. BUT, while I don't care what people think, my experiences make me cautious. What is sharing too much? Etc. I was encouraged to change gender on social media and I was unsure but to tell the truth I'm glad it was done
Hey maya, I’m a long-time subscriber of yours for maybe 5 years now and I just wanted to express some things that I thought about as you talked during this video. I’m an amab non-binary person and I kind of took issue with some of the things you said about non-binary people. I felt like you were kind of oversimplifying and categorizing all non-binary people into one box (a box of non-dysphoric androgynous people). And that is not the case. Many, many non-binary people go through similar transitions to binary trans people and some binary trans people don’t wish to undergo a medical transition like you. We’re all trans because we don’t identify with the gender we were assigned at birth. I hope that made sense. Love and respect you a bunch, thanks for the video!!
I am a trans woman, and I have to agree with her, in the fact that non-binary really is NOT trans, simply because of the definition OF "transgender". Cis = agrees, and identifies as their assigned gender. Trans = Does NOT identify nor agree with their assigned gender, but instead, identifies with the OPPOSITE gender. Which means you ARE "binary" since you identify with a single gender. Non-binary, and gender fluid people, do NOT identify with a single gender, so therefore, should not be considered trans. I also agree, with the fact, that non-binary, and gender fluid categories, have their OWN identification. Yes, they too, endure much of the same dysphoria as a trans person, and they also go through much of the same struggle, with "coming out", and dealing with the rejection, and fear, that comes FROM being "queer". However, if one does not identify with a singular gender, they cannot truly identify as "Trans". This doesn't mean you are any less than you are, and you are just as important, and genuine! But being identified along with singular gender identifying people, they do not. Again, simply going BY definition. imo
@@melodystrong2114 How do non-binary people not identify with a single gender? I do. And that gender is non-binary. My gender does not change, it does not flux, and honestly, it's super troubling to hear you putting blanket statements on non-binary people when it feels like you are also not listening to them either when speaking about their experiences. I really encourage you to talk to and listen to non binary people if you really want an understanding. I'm non-inbary, and yes, I'm trans. Don't gate-keep and don't tell someone what they can and can't identity with what makes them comfortable and feels right to them. It IS saying we are less.
@@kellevichy If you read my comment, I said I base my opinion on the definition of transgender. We identify with a single gender (male or female). You are correct, that I don't know a lot about non-binary folks, and would love to really learn more. I meant NO disrespect TO non-binary people. As I said, I am going strictly on the "textbook" definition of what transgender is, and that has formed my personal opinion about who really CAN identify, AS transgender. I am, however, willing to learn more about how you identify as trans, being that you do not identify as either male or female. (If that is correct). I have never known a non-binary. Gay, Lesbian, Bi, (Common def.) Trans... I know a lot. So please forgive my ignorance about your gender identity. You are NOT less, nor any less genuine, than anyone. I am willing to learn, and possibly change my opinion. If you want to tell me more, we can talk through email, so we don't take up a lot of space here.
you radiate maturity, calmness, self actualization and integrity. despite the whole gender thing, you are wholesome. and THAT I think is goals, no matter what the issues might be.
I actually found out I was trans when my gay friend told me I was a "man trapped in a woman's body" and then it made more sense to me how I was feeling. I transitioned mostly to male (except for lower surgery) and now I say female to non-binary, I date a cis man, who doesn't like who I want to be, but is still my friend at an arm's length. Thank you for this video Maya, it helps everyone understand how this all works, and that it's not all a "fad" or "stage" and we'll "grow through it" or whatever they say these days. Love you Maya! 💖👏✨🥰
@@blaquephyrekendra1779 ok that may be brave but stupid. its not worth it imo. better safe than sorry i dont wanna go to hell. so i follow bible teachings
I have only recently been coming to terms with what I have felt for so long but didn't realize there was a word for it. I identify with Androgyny and being Androgynous. I am still trying to figure out how to express it outwardly but, I at least have something now. I stumbled upon your videos when I was looking up videos about others who identify with Androgyny and while that isn't the case for you, I still find you and your story very compelling and really interesting.
I've just about always known on some level or other that I was a girl born in the wrong body. There was this anatomy book I had as a kid, ABCs of the Human Body, and I would read the hell out of it. I paid particular attention to the section on the female anatomy. I looked at my own body afterward and knew something wasn't right. I also experimented with midriff-baring crop tops when I was 8 going on 9, and felt they were affirming. I also spent plenty of time with my two older female cousins, and that made me feel cheated that they got to come out the good sex right from the beginning while I didn't. When puberty hit and I started growing body hair, I felt a need to shave it all off. I don't recommend body hair one bit. Not even facial hair. I would also try my mom's shoes on, and it felt right. Seeing my cousins grow up and my kid half-sister after them, as well as seeing my younger female cousins at every family reunion always made me feel cheated. Why did they get to come out the good sex but not me? If I could live my life over again in the right body, I'd do it in a heartbeat. And three years ago, I broke my wrist and cut my chin in a scooter crash. Shaving everything was very hard to do one-handed. And the gash on my chin? That needed stitches to heal properly. I was forced to grow a goatee for a week, and I HATED that. I hate having facial and body hair so much! That was one kick in the ass that I needed to know I had to transition. The other was the homophobic and transphobic dirty laundry of a certain Fallout-playing, scotch-drinking, cigar-chomping, bowler-wearing, beard pill-hawking, fat, neckbearded CLASSY GENTLEMAN™ RU-vidr. Said CLASSY GENTLEMAN™ wrote some blog posts ranting against gay and trans people. That hit home because not only am I a trans lesbian, but I also have a step-niece who's a cis lesbian, and she and I share plenty of common interests. Just last month, I had an appointment with an endocrinologist, and earlier this month, I finally started hormone therapy. It took over a year between my actual coming out as trans and the consultation with the endocrinologist because of a waiting list and COVID, but I'm finally on the hormone train to Hormone City. All that's left to do now is get my name and sex marker legally changed, upgrade my wardrobe beyond underwear, and eventually have bottom surgery.
Thank you for just being transparent and genuine. Everything you said in this video is spot on. I finally feel like my body and spirit have been out of step all my life. I am transgendered and no longer ashamed of it.
For me it was down in my later days and found out that I am bisexual and I love being treated like a woman and been having dreams about being a woman has well has being pregnant
After months of reading and watching stories I begin questioning myself because I have soft skin and can see myself better in female clothes and when I do there is this hit of serotonin, I do have plans to see a therapist before I go the extra mile.
Just something to note as someone who has recently started HRT: it is reversible. Your body continues to try to make the hormones that are associated with your body once you begin taking inhibitors for your naturally occurring hormones. In time you can hormonally return to your body's regular equilibrium. Surgeries can be undone too. Obviously none of that is fun, so yes make sure to think about transitioning before committing yourself. Personally, I have not had any surgery and I only recently, after being sure I am transgender for 6 months, started hormones. That means I was presenting as female in vocal inflections, clothing, makeup, things that are not at all committal, for half a year before I made any commitments. Something to note is that my inability to get hormones right away was due to some medical red tape. I would have started sooner if I could have and I am glad that restriction was there because I was panic thinking and trying to stamp out the biggest fire I saw in front of me rather than assessing the situation. And the same is likely to be true for you depending on where you live. So I would like to make an addendum to Maya's comment that you should be sure it's the only possible way to be happy before you do it. I think you need to put a lot of thought into it and I don't think you should commit immediately, but do try it out if you're even slightly curious. The worst case scenario is you reaffirm you are cis. Best case scenario you discover something really meaningful for your life.
@Kate Wolf Well I was born with a body that generated testosterone. Through voice training I have raised the pitch. So even having a lowered pitch is not permanent. There are work-arounds. Please don't be afraid to transition because you're not sure that transitioning is the only option you have left.
I am so proud of you of what you have become and I feel the same way about myself so I think you are the best person I can talk to or relate to when it comes to this matter. Please stay in touch so I can learn as much as I possibly can from your experience. Love you.
Such a clear cut explanation 🥰 we need less labels and more freedom of expression of self whether feminine or masculine whether you are biological male or female.
It is the same for most trans. I, myself, am and I knew around the same time. It's really only a matter of realizing what it is, but the feeling is usually there.
@@xoshiin yeah, I didn't understand I was transgender until I finally heard the word for the first time probably not until my late-pre-teen years or early teenage years, but I then immediately, finally understood the dysphoria I had ALWAYS felt and everything finally clicked for me. I think there's a transgender tennis player or body builder, I can't remember her name, but she was similar but she didn't finally know until her 20s simply because she had never heard the phrase "transgender" up until that point, and then from there everything she felt throughout her life until that point made sense to her.
I absolutely support her and I am so happy that she's happy. BUT she has had a negative impact on the transgender community. She made transitioning look so easy. She won the lottery with her supportive parents, supportive online presence, fast transition and easy access to medical and surgical transition. I'm in no way trying to say her transition, or anyone's transition, was easy. I'm saying her presence made the difficulties of being a transgender person very difficult to understand. Sorry for kinda rambling but I'm glad this topic was brought up. Thanks for reading (:
I’ve got to tell you. I’m a straight man and I think you are definitely smokin’. You’re seriously beautiful. Your decision to transition was absolutely right for you ( judging from my perspective only of course as I know not how you feel) and I truly hope you have found peace and continue to find peace on your journey through life.
Actually yes I do. I don’t see a man. I see a woman. And it’s not like I think all trans women are hot either.......and I’ve not really even thought about it before. She’s just one of those people that grabs my attention. Including her mannerisms and what I get from hearing her. Sounds interesting and intelligent and compassionate. I don’t know her personally but if I had the chance to meet her I’d say yes. But I highly doubt I’m her type. I’m a 48 yo heavy equipment operator with 2 divorces under my belt and 4 kids. And a couple tours of rehab to boot. Just an average Joe.
@@jguilmette Well, that turned out creepy very quick, though you might want to ignore that last part, im kinda biased against men due to the horrible experiences ive had in my lifetime (not talking about partners). But the part i take issue with is that you are validating her decision almost on looks alone, there are other transwomen who are not as hot or even passable, my question would be, do you think the decision is not valid when they are ugly? or have not so feminine voices(mostly those who transition after puberty, not everyone can modulate our voices as well as maya)?
No not at all. I also said she seems interesting and intelligent and compassionate...... I personally haven’t seen a trans woman in my area that are as good looking as her but that doesn’t mean I don’t value them as people and have respect for their choices. I was simply making the point that as a straight guy knowing she is trans that I think she is attractive. That’s all. It’s a weird position for me because I never thought about it honestly and didn’t think I’d still find someone attractive knowing their trans. It’s just not my preference. It’s not a closed minded thing either. I’m a Libertarian and believe everyone has the right to do and be whoever they want. It has nothing to do with me. I stay out of peoples business and would like to be left alone by others as well. Nor am I in any position to judge. And about thinking I’m creepy well that’s not how it was intended. People spill their guts on YT and if what I said makes me creepy oh well. I am not ashamed of my past as it’s the past. Can’t change it. Don’t think I would if I could.
I personally do not care if someone wa to to be a differe t gender. If a person is not hurting someone else, do what makes you happy in life. I must say, this has been bar far the most Intelligent video I have watched on this topic, great job!!!!
I cried while I was watching this video, for two reasons. First, I saw in your eyes that it was emotional for you to talk about this even after all these years and thank you for being so open and kind.. ❤️ The second thing is I’m struggling because I know deep down that I’m transgender for quite some time, but even thought I’m a dual citizen of two Eastern European countries I couldn’t transition.. The first country literally legally don’t recognize transgender people anymore and the second one is extremely homophobic and transphobic to the point where I would be scared to even get dressed differently.. Can’t wait to finish college and move somewhere else where I don’t have to live in a lie anymore.
Love you and all you said here!!! Thank you for expressing your views & thoughts! You seem to draw a line (somewhat) separating transgender from others as kina bipolar for trans and other s not so. Just because someone is more fluid, dosen't mean they're not transgender. As you eluded to, transgender is in the brain = It is psychological (mostly). Many of us transgenders weren't allowed to express nor think of being other than the gender our parents or caretakers treated us as...
Just found you today and have been going through your videos, immediately won over by how thoughtful and beautiful (inside and outside) you are. Honestly very shocked to learn in this video that you went through male puberty before you transitioned! I was sure you must’ve been someone who transitioned extremely young.
Hey love I'm trans and quite binary so I totally get what you're saying, but I also have two AFAB NB friends that get dysphoria to the point they've had top surgery and a hysterectomies and could never fathom being pregnant. Contrapoints got a lot of flak for her non-binary video so brace yourself and I hope the mob is understanding - love you sis! You were my Kim Petras moment btw!
Yeah I felt a bit uncomfortable there :/ not wanting to cancel anyone but I'm not relating to the feeling seen thing that everyone is talking about in the comments...
😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭you look so beautiful , no one in the earth would say that you are trans without knowing it you look like a women more than any biological women
Beautiful. Had to say that first. Now, about this person you "dropped dime" on, lol, is not a laughing matter, because of how much influence this person has, unfortunately for so many clueless individuals. Keep doing what you are doing! Like I said before, BEAUTIFUL!
I do know non-ninary people with gender dysphoria that has either gone through medical transition or feel that they need it in the future (because they haven't access to it yet). So I think the umbrella for "transgender" is wider than just being binary. Thank you for your video and your perspective, and I agree that transition is a big decision. I wish you all the best in the future.
Maya. You are a beautiful, articulate, intelligent, creative and inspirational trans-woman. It's a pleasure every-time you upload another video. Best wishes in love, and your burgeoning movie career. As always. greetings from Liverpool ✌️🐝☮️
"I would rather wear pink than blue" i don't know how people think this is a genuine argument, it's not a "stereotype" on its own for girls to like pink and boys to like blue... it is just society forcing it
Strong Arm the way yall cancel your own arguments is amazing to me.... woman liking pink is based on what society thinks she should do... so the stupidity hides behind the fact that liking certain things doesn't make you woman or man, if tomorrow we said “girls like blue, boys like pink” what would the transgender who already said “i knew i was a girl because i liked pink” do since those things are just ideas of what certain gender should do, when in fact it is not biological?
I think everyone's focusing too hard on how bad something is rather than seeing how it can actually be helpful. For example, it apparently means nothing to like a certain color...so you're ignoring the social aspects? Yeah society forces this but then we as individuals fall into these. If physically you're a man and mentally, you keep associating with what society sees as feminine, I think that's a valid point to indicate possible dysphoria of gender. It really doesn't help anything to keep attacking things and saying people only like this because society told you too... For the record, my daughter is girly and dainty. LOVES pink and all that stuff you claim society forces on girls to like. I, personally, raised her with Transformers and Hot Wheelz...And she STILL ended up very dainty, loves makeup and looking at herself in the mirror, making faces and posing, dolls, pink... But yeah, society forced that on her, eh? With me showing her boy stuff? Stop being dumb.
i was so curious abt that. i'm a girl. i like blue or black colors and robot, dinosour things, don't like pink since childhood tho. (you know these are stereotypical boyish things lol) but i haven't experienced gender disporia. even i'm grown-up, i like myself as a girl. so it's very interesting when most transgenders talked abt experience something like gender stereotype stuffs. if the society hasn't any gender stereotypes, would they experience the same symptoms? i'm not arguing or hating. it's just very interesting to me.
Love your content. I have found a lot of the same things when it comes to my journey so far and love to see others who are going through the same thing. Stay safe and stay happy. Coming from your American friend Dani.
Good thoughts, please keep them coming. As a nonbinary trans woman on hormone therapy, I'll say you make an interesting point about nonbinary vs. trans and I acknowledge its validity... some of the time. There are those like myself who are a little of column A, a little of column B (if we're honest isn't that all of us?) but leaning strongly toward the column B. That said, disclaimer: please DO NOT start hormone therapy unless you're serious, have been feeling this way for a while (I'd say five years is bare minimum here) and are fully prepared for the consequences, both physiologically and socially. It was not an easy decision to make, and certainly one I wish I'd made in the first few decades of my life, but other than that I have no regrets.
You explain this so well and give great advice in this video and all the others I’ve seen. You really should write a book of your experience one day for those reasons. I’m a sis 53 year old woman with three kids and have always been a huge supporter of gay, straight, lesbian, trans and everybody else. I never “really” understood how much is involved that makes a person trans until watching your videos. I’m glad I know because my kids are friends with all kinds of people and they have lots of questions so I want to be able to explain things correctly. Thank you so much for explaining. I am a huge fan of you - you are truly beautiful inside and out and so inspiring!
@@AmericanToucan She gave facts of her experiences and maybe some opinions (based on her experiences). So...is there a point you're trying to make, "People Party" with 1 subscriber?
@@AmericanToucan Thank you for not judging. There is far too much hate and racism in this world today, so yes, I'm just ready to defend her. I appreciate her posts and telling people her experiences. She means well and so do I. I'm sure you do too :)
Tina Pinsonneault I’m not for trans. Trans race. Trans species. Trans sex. Trans gender. Even if I supported it. I wouldn’t support the way they have gone about it.
Hey, I'm non-binary and I am on T for life as well as needing top surgery - and I have to say, a lot of things said in here made me feel really exuded, as if I'm not "trans" enough and the language felt pretty hurtful. Of course I know this isn't your intention. Just like you - I never felt comfortable in my assigned gender at birth. I never felt like I should have a chest and I never felt like a girl - but after over a year on T, I realized I was waiting to feel like a boy and that wasn't happening either. I was and am HAPPY with my physical changes and still am - going off of T would threaten my mental health and life - but I'm still not a boy. I remember having a breakdown in the bathroom shower wondering why I didn't feel like a boy even though I was happy with my masculine changes.. and I'm just not ( a boy ). That was the day I accepted that I'm non-binary and that's okay. Not all non-binary people consider themselves to be transgender, but many of us do - I absolutely do. Non-binary is more than just expression. It is your gender, just as being a woman is your gender and being a man is a gender, and the genders between and around that.
You are valid and you are trans!!! A lot of people talk about experiences they never experience, she kinda touched on this but still made a big statement. From a gender non-conforming binary trans man, you belong just as much as I do!
Dont get so caught up on the term trans. You are who you are and you are walking this journey IRL on your own. Despite the internet we walk our paths alone. I dont care what anyone thinks, i am who i am and 1 persons uninformed opinion doesn't upset me.
Ya I'm straight up trans and this video struck me as pretty exclusionary. This is a common problem but this girl just assumed her own life experiences define these topics more than they do. Just because this is her trans experience doesn't mean that it's the same or even similar for everyone.
@@gagemorrow6702 Does every trans person need to act like their opinion is inclusive of every single umbrella term for trans. For example i do in fact believe some trans people adopt the trans identity and then drag it through the mud, trans species for example or trans racial, or trans non binary they drag the trans name through the mud by forcing other people to respect their ridiculous identity and pronouns and in doing so create a hatred of trans people in general, and then people start painting every trans person with the same brush, creating a less accepting society and more transphobes. And then when all is said and done, a few years later they become detrans and leaving a trail of destruction behind them that just regular binary trans people need to clean up.
For me, I grew up a huge fan of Disney princess movies. I have vidid memories of the day I saw Little Mermaid in theaters (1989 release), listening to the audio cassette soundtrack, getting the original VHS release, having the big hard cover book, little figurines, a plush Scuttle which I brought to Disney World with me in 2nd grade (the hotel had a King Triton slide), getting the two disk DVD set in college, and getting the soundtrack on CD. The soundtracks to Beauty & the Beast, Little Mermaid, Tangled, Enchanted, and Frozen just make my heart sing. While I did like GI Joe, some toy cars, and Ghostbusters like Egon and Ray, I both was attracted to, and could relate more with female figures in my life and pop culture. I modeled some of my clothing choices off of what I saw female leads on the WB wearing (and a sweater that I loved in 1999 because it looked like something that Buffy, Willow, or Cordelia would wear fits better now, 21 years later. Going through teen years, I was partly expecting similar changes to what I saw female peers dealing with, and I remember one morning, experimentally tucking my balls back "in". My parents prohibited me from being a fan of the Sailor Moon franchise, my dad blacklisted "Popular" and "Dawson's Creek", and later No Doubt after not realizing that "Just a Girl" was written sarcastically. I indulged in Gilmore Girls, 7th Heaven, Zoe ..., Sabrina the Teenage Witch, Boy Meets World, Disney Adventures, and such. Getting a haircut always felt like being a sheep getting shorn, and the only times when I've really enjoyed it was when going to this really nice salon that (with some insight from my stylist's intuition) felt transformative like in "Princess Diaries" or "Josie and the Pussycats". In high school, I started feeling more disconnected from masculinity, and in college, wondered if I was like a LEGO kit with a few extra pieces. I started reading about trans women (still sometimes crushing on women who ended up coming out as LGBTQ), and learning more about communication (which doesn't always come easy to an Aspie such as I). Interacting with people on Second Life, I started noticing that physical presentation is a means of communicating one's personal identity, and I wondered if I was miscommunication who I was. My female avatar was freeing, and I'd have romantic, sexual, and very intimate relationships through that avatar. I started buying more feminine clothing, being less self-conscious about my interests, and geeking out over shopping and clothing design. That led to sunglasses designed more for women, tights, panties, knee high socks, bodysuits, lambswool sweaters from the women's section, and privately things like bras, inserts, loungewear, rompers, etc. With my hair growing out (long enough to put in a bun), and when cathartically shaving my face, I feel like I can't imagine myself trying to play a GQ role in life anymore. I used to often try fitting a role like Jeff Smith, or Grant Morrison, the BTAS Bruce Wayne, or one of the male characters from Dawson's Creek, or a lower middle class version for one of the Kennedy men. But I'm starting to feel that cutting my hair and trying to be more male would seem inauthentic.
Your description of body dysphoria hit so close to home with me. As I grew up and learned more about the differences between men and women, I was always upset that I couldn’t get pregnant, couldn’t have a more feminine body, had to have so much facial and body hair, etc. Though there was also a sort of social dysphoria I get on top of that. I always felt more comfortable around girls than boys as a kid. Like I felt kind of more secure, safer, and more at home. A part of me was always upset that I wouldn’t be seen as a girl by them.
You are either a a banana or a squash. Sticking a squash In a banana peel does not make it a banana. Coloring the banana a color doesn’t make it squash. Injecting the banana with squash juice does not make it a squash
You explained this whole life quite well. It is a difficult life isn't it? My question to you is; would you ever consider of having a person whom you can share your feelings? Do you see yourself of being able to have children? Having children meaning not by you but with someone. What do you vision yourself to be as you become older? A gender identity conflict is one of the biggest problems I think that most people have until they settle and accept which way to go. Cheers.
I really appreciated this video, as obviously it spoke to me as a trans woman myself -- going through many of the same things. Although I knew that I was trans back in the 1980s, but back then coming out as trans could be extremely dangerous. It wasn't until about 10 years ago that I felt that I could transition. One thing, though, and that's labeling being trans as a "mental illness." That could be cool in Canada but here in the US, we have enough transphobic politicians that calling us mentally ill could well become a pretext to remove what rights we've fought for. Just something to consider...
I didn't realize... before I knew was cross dressing... For sure I started following trans role models... or androgynous ppl. But it was a matter of assuming and clearing up my feelings! I know Jo Rowling probably creeps on these type of videos and that is disturbing! When my body started changing into someone who didn't match with my identity... I developed depression without realizing it was the problem...I was angry at my body... disappointed about my self and simply just angry with the universe for assigning me the male biological sex.
me being 15 yrs old transwomen who face a lot of dysphoria rn and my mom thing if she kept saying im a boy then suddenly my mind will change or they thing its just me being a teen like its keep getting harder i know ppl r going thro worse stuff or im not the only one who have dysphoria but ya it just hurts a lot tbh
You're very pretty. More importantly, thanks for this highly educational video. As a cisgender person, I find these invaluable. This is very difficult for me to relate to, and I like to try to relate to everybody I can.
Hey Maya, thank you for the video about this. Im looking into being trans but listening to this helps a lot. You look absolutely gorgeous and beautiful. Love your hair!,😊
Thanks a lot for this video, It was really helpful! Were you scared to transition? Like, having the fear that you’re going to regret transitioning, as if you’re not going to recognize yourself anymore. That’s my number one fear, even after years of dealing with dysphoria, I’m terrified of regretting it later on and I don’t really know how to solve this
@@Mayavhenry and yet your newest comment is, _rn,_ or 2 weeks ago, or last month, etc. Looks like you not only have "skeletons in your closet" views that you had just decided not to back down from when responding, but ya lost a potential subscriber and the views that would have come with it (plus all who didn't voice). Maybe don't work against yourself and your community.
I can't believe how much of your experience is exactly what I experienced in my life. I have felt that dissociation since I was three. The interesting part was that I couldn't put a name to what I felt. What I did know is that I didn't feel right being told I was a boy when I felt the opposite.
I’m non-binary Ever since I was younger,I didn’t really act all girly,I would hang out with the boys and do sports,I was always a tomboy,I would play family and I wanted to be the brother or father,and I tried to act girly and look girly,I did cheer I started feeling awkward but never knew what gender dysphoria was I started using nicknames and I have always liked role playing,and I would act as the boy characters I thought I was just gay But then I researched transgender and I thought I was trans but then I asked myself “do I want to be a boy” And I thought “idk what I want but I don’t want to be a “girl” or a “boy” I kinda just want to be me And then I figured out that I was non-binary and I have dysphoria and I’m often uncomfortable I also have homophobic and transphobic parents...so I can’t tell them
Hi Jessie... Please tell everything to your family and be yourself, Don't be scared about something you don't know about, you don't know how they going to react, This kind of thing and thoughts can destroy your life. Be yourself please and don't think about anyone. Remember, this is your life, not anyone else. I hope you find your way.
Itz_sunrise .Jessie Take your time, friend.💜. Keep reading and talking to others, and be-ing. Who you are will become clearer to you day by day...write...draw...dance...sing...dance...climb a tree...pick a flower... Deeply BE... You will find yourself in there. Right there. Right there. 💫
