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How Keeping a Diary Can Save You 

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Diaries are a forum in which we can raise and then galvanise ourselves into answering the large questions which lie behind the stewardship of our lives: What do I really want? Should I leave? What do I feel for them?
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@asmrtiktokcompilations1129
@asmrtiktokcompilations1129 Год назад
A diary can be your best friend . One that knows all your secrets and you don't have to cover your flaws but be your real self
@jackdeniston59
@jackdeniston59 Год назад
yup. N one else can ever read it.
@kipropcollins4220
@kipropcollins4220 Год назад
well, can't you just do that in your head? you carry most of your secrets up there
@roudridas5446
@roudridas5446 Год назад
So true... I feel so much related.. I Have a diary.. Whenever i feel sad or overwhelmed i write on it..
@rutuuuraj
@rutuuuraj Год назад
i want to write a diary but there's always this fear that someone else will read it , which stops me from doing so
@asmrtiktokcompilations1129
@asmrtiktokcompilations1129 Год назад
@@rutuuuraj keep it where no one can see it , just you .
@carlosr8359
@carlosr8359 Год назад
"Looking back at what we have written should be embarassing" Yes, it definitely is. And it's a process of accepting and forgiving our messiness too. It's impossible to look polite and beautiful in our crises.
@savvivixen8490
@savvivixen8490 Год назад
I wish the people I love understood that...
@justaguy994
@justaguy994 Год назад
And its at our crisis that we should write. When another times of our crisis come, It felt surreal reading it back. Its as if someones has understood us completely without us saying a word. The feeling of completeness. Secure. Tendecy to rummaging through our thoughts completely dissapeare. And now we can see where we stand. Its only direction that we should think about
@sweetnsour80
@sweetnsour80 Год назад
“It’s impossible to look polite and beautiful in our crises” Those are some profound and stunning words. I’m going to use that, thank you
@Ggoldwyn
@Ggoldwyn Год назад
Love the last sentence, beautifully put.
@rrusty_spoon
@rrusty_spoon Год назад
How do you keep overwhelming perfectionism from even letting you begin? Has always been my problem 😕 like it needs to be a certain level of understable in case it's ever found or subject to scrutiny. Crazy I know
@bexdiller
@bexdiller Год назад
When I was a kid, I kept a journal. One day I brought it to school with me and one of the boys in my class got his hands on it. He broke the lock open and read my diary to the entire school. It didn't help that he was one of the boys on the "boys I like" list I had in there. I was devastated and once I finally got the diary back I ripped it into pieces. I've tried to keep a diary since then but have never been able to, even though roughly 30 years have passed. Today I have both physical and digital diaries with locks and passcodes, but to this day I haven't been able to write more than a few pages a year, and I can't sit down and write without getting very emotional and thinking about that evil little boy. I'm sure he didn't understand what he was doing, but I can't help but feel like he robbed me of myself.
@kanupriyajain592
@kanupriyajain592 Год назад
I feel sorry to learn this, may you get the power to get over that memory
@bexdiller
@bexdiller Год назад
@@kanupriyajain592 Thank you for the acknowledgment, dear internet stranger. I hope to move on from it however long it may take.
@crocodosto9026
@crocodosto9026 Год назад
Hey im sorry about that. If it was me i couldnt have handled it. Ur a strong person, and i hope u get over it.
@GriffonksxEX
@GriffonksxEX Год назад
I'm sorry to hear that. truly i am. Everyone has something from the past that haunts them. but as an onlooker onto your story, it looked to me that you have shackled the part of yourself that was in love with writing diaries, with the naive boy as the lock. If you want that part of yourself back, I believe you must learn to accept your child trauma and understand that you have grown up. Accept that trauma as a part if what made you today. You can be brave to become the key to unlock all that is to be yours.
@lapeaches8006
@lapeaches8006 Год назад
Only you can allow that to be true
@ziksy6460
@ziksy6460 Год назад
I went through a breakup recently and this video is 100% correct. I wrote all my thoughts down whenever I got too emotional and not only was this an incredibly cathartic experience, but I also arrived at insights about my relationship that I never even considered before. You know how it's easy to give relationship advice to your friend as a third-party? We don't have emotional attachment to the relationship, so we can think clearly. To me, writing was like an exercise of looking at my own relationship as if I was a third-party.
@DanHammonds
@DanHammonds Год назад
It's always the first thing I do after a breakup now and have the same experience. It's like a personal counsellor and it really helps to offload all those erratic thoughts and emotions without laying them all on your ex and making a fool of yourself or stirring up arguments and ill feelings.
@alisonmilla2972
@alisonmilla2972 Год назад
I'd like to highlight the part where you say "We don't have emotional attachment to the relationship, so we can think clearly", I often find myself giving really good advice to my friends and then when I have problems, I cannot think about a solution or some words that could improve my mood. So, I constantly ask myself: What would I say to someone that needed me?
@astrid-w5z
@astrid-w5z Год назад
I went through something similar and the pain in my heart was too much. People call me an old soul and say I'm wise because I give great advice without judging them. But when I'm alone and having problems, I tell myself I've only got me and the best way I advice myself is when I write. I thought my heart break would last me months but with the therapy of my writing, it's been two months now and I feel better. I even laugh at some of the things I wrote down just over a week ago. Writing heals.
@misssunflowerdo
@misssunflowerdo Год назад
Yes, I relate! It’s interesting seeing your thought patterns during the heavy times.
@LuisSierra42
@LuisSierra42 Год назад
I cringe hard when i read the stuff i wrote in my diary after a breakup 3 years ago
@Jascupz
@Jascupz Год назад
Ive been working on my journal like a madman these past couple of years. It saved my life, given me advice I'd forgotten, and been an allied friend. Something I have been doing is looking back at long old text messages, homework assignments, and social media posts and putting them in it as well too. Having my past self from all the ages encourage me is by far the most liberating thing Ive ever done. I cannot stress this enough, it gives the best advice for myself. Cannot recommend more
@allared9008
@allared9008 Год назад
I agree, I like journaling and mainly use it to ground myself while I calm down. But find it hard to read them over as they are just panicked ramblings.
@ma-burke
@ma-burke Год назад
@@allared9008 I think that’s a good, core purpose for a diary. Approaching the diary with a need - to resolve an emotional state (i.e. ground yourself into calmness), to establish thought-based clarity - either through revisiting old entries, writing new ones or a combination of both, makes the diary a pragmatic instrument, a self-created, private and omnipresent therapist. When you say you find ramblings upon rediscover of your entries, what do you do? For me, the interaction with the diary begins to become interesting. What was, in specific words, the pieces of reality being referred to in this entry? In light of the time that has passed since, could I reword my experience of it to further bring out its authenticity? What general notions - universal themes, meaningful questions, anecdotes and quotations - relate to it? To encounter a ramble, that is, incoherence, is the beginning of a journey to wisdom, through reflection, grains of clarity, an edit all the ways up the stairs to some new belief, heuristic, insight, etc., i.e. wisdom. In approaching rambles, I have the practicalities to be important. Digital over paper allows for more space to add a log on the initial entry, or to edit it (while retaining the initial thoughts). I have similarly tried editing the original and keeping a log of the changes; both have their merits. Digital grants full-text search to scan for entries with the same terms, to compare positions of entries, their moods, their judgements, etc., during the retrospective searches for meaning. I would say, if the entries appear muddled without much value, recognise this as a new problem for the invaluable resource of life that a diary is. Personally, I am pretty new to keeping one, having only short-lived attempts across the span a dozen or so years. As I’ve been attending to the journalling process in more detail, however, I have found solace and satisfaction from writing (or “rewriting”) an entry, even when many of them are rambles for me too. The view of the diary changed: it has been accepted as an endeavour that will present many hardships (e.g. muddy posts) but ultimately will be one of the most valuable long-term relationships. I seem to want to give encouragement to you; do excuse me if it feels assuming.
@Zenniel64
@Zenniel64 Год назад
same happened to me. it's so weird how we forget or lose our own essence
@adamztmz
@adamztmz Год назад
@@pj1016 daily life and some other things in your head that youve been wanting to share but scared of getting judged i guess
@mootjec14
@mootjec14 Год назад
Legendary advice
@danielgerber8452
@danielgerber8452 Год назад
Writing diary was (next to therapy) the most helpful skill in overcoming my major depression!
@nikitaw1982
@nikitaw1982 Год назад
Do u think u have to keep it? Could u throw away every days pages and get same benefits?
@Stracciulein
@Stracciulein Год назад
same for me. writing my thoughts for years saved my life
@Sinci1
@Sinci1 Год назад
@@nikitaw1982 think of it this way: once you write down a diary page and process your emotions, you're finished with that diary page, and you won't be returning to it for further help [in all likelihood]. So while I think it's cool to have your diary pages over the years, mainly as a sort of trip down memory lane [+ maybe it can be helpful to reflect on the past sometimes], I do think you can still get the same benefit of being able to understand your thoughts better by writing it then throwing it away, because in my opinion, the main benefit of having a diary is not keeping it, it's writing in it.
@frangipani.19
@frangipani.19 Год назад
@nikitaw1982
@nikitaw1982 11 месяцев назад
I definitely have a daily word count i have to get out. I drive people crazy. wonder if a journal would tick that box.
@mindfulnesswithmatt
@mindfulnesswithmatt Год назад
When you put your thoughts and emotions into the dairy/journal, you are no longer alone
@milefiori7694
@milefiori7694 Год назад
True, it always fascinates me to see how my younger self views things. There's many things that I thought I'll never change my view on even when I grew up, just to learn a deeper meaning behind them years later and put a little note next to it to debunk my past self's belief ;)
@LukeTEvans
@LukeTEvans 4 месяца назад
thats what they want you to think..!
@glorianguyen1102
@glorianguyen1102 Год назад
Having suicide thoughts throughout my childhood while deciding to do so at 16. I found myself fighting for my will to live. Having my diary once read and punished for my thoughts once when I was 7, I was terrified of putting any thoughts out side of my own brain. Finally had the courage to brush aside the fear of being spy upon by my mother and I've been writing daily diary since then. It saved me from actually committing suicide
@hakimdiwan5101
@hakimdiwan5101 Год назад
This is the only reason what is preventing me from keeping dairy. Asians especially Indian family have no understanding of privacy, they would go through my stuffs without my permission knowing well how much I hate it.
@HuyHoang-bw8lz
@HuyHoang-bw8lz Год назад
Really keen to hear your story, to really see what is it like to be in your shoes. Don’t need to know who you are or who I am, just want to listen. Regards from Hanoi.
@MsLacieable
@MsLacieable Год назад
Same my mom reads my diaries so I can never put my trauma about her in it
@cuubonglongnhong2309
@cuubonglongnhong2309 Год назад
Gửi bạn 1 cái ôm I hope you are in a better place now
@sammy7467
@sammy7467 Год назад
@@MsLacieablesee In my opinion parents or friends,share such abond that our thoughts reach them ,before scribbled in our journal or diary......so I hope you shall share that bonding with someone ...
@aryionpetrelle4448
@aryionpetrelle4448 Год назад
My favorite thing is flipping through pages of my diary and seeing each ending with 'I love you so much'
@hajerahumar2750
@hajerahumar2750 Год назад
That is so beautiful!
@sudharshanvijay2938
@sudharshanvijay2938 Год назад
I loved this
@samuelstroud5059
@samuelstroud5059 Год назад
I do a similar thing. The last sentence is always something I appreciate, literally written like "I'm thankful for... X" Every now and then, it's nice to look through the pages to remind myself of what I hold dear and appreciate in life.
@codenamejo
@codenamejo Год назад
I do this but with 'You did great today. I'm so proud of you.' Brings smile on my face everytime :')
@av3ngers17
@av3ngers17 Год назад
can't relate
@ritikarana4256
@ritikarana4256 Год назад
I am 20 rn, started maintaining diary after reading Anne Frank's 'Diary of Young Girl' at the age of 10. And boy! what a pleasure it is to leaf through pages of my life. Makes me realize how beautifully I have evolved, been stuck at some areas and degraded at few. It helps me get aware of my toxic patterns, my triggers and helps me understand myself better. Reading past entries is literally my favorite thing to do, they prove to be source of strength on dark days knowing I have overcome far worse in past, and at times amaze me by making me aware of wisdom of my past self. Diary cultivated gratefulness in me by showing how divinely things can turn out through manifestation. Unfailingly, it has been my greatest ally in my euphoric honeymoon phase to dismal break up days, it was there when I was fighting suicidal thoughts and also there when I was celebrating my victories. I feel gratified for 'writing my way through life' and will continue doing so! Thank you for this video.
@oliviasommerville4733
@oliviasommerville4733 Год назад
I absolutely love reading my past diaries. I’ve kept a journal since I was about 8, but only in the past 3 years did I start to truly maintain a diary. I like to look at what happened on the exact day exactly 1 year and 2 years ago
@ritikarana4256
@ritikarana4256 Год назад
@@oliviasommerville4733 I do the same thing, and makes me realize- my current problems will soon become trivial like my past ones.
@j.a4196
@j.a4196 Год назад
If you have read Anna Frank's Diary you may also like Nina Lugovskaya's Diary, she's known as the "Anne Frank of Russia", if anything Nina's diary is more depressive than Anne's sometimes.
@MidnightKiara
@MidnightKiara Год назад
Omg same!! Thats literally how I started and what it has done for mee!! Started around the same age too! Jinx stranger. I'm still maintaining it.
@ritikarana4256
@ritikarana4256 Год назад
@@MidnightKiara That's strange and exciting!
@ThisIsMyFullName
@ThisIsMyFullName Год назад
If you feel worried about writing a diary again, try using code names for people and also when referring to events. It can even be various signs instead of words that only you know the meaning of. For instance, an 'O' can be code for mOm, an 'A' can be code for dAd, and 3 can be code for a wife/husband, girl/boyfriend or crush
@cerisecerezacherry
@cerisecerezacherry 11 месяцев назад
So real I do that and if anyone would be to read my diary it would sound weird af lol good for privacy
@nikitaw1982
@nikitaw1982 11 месяцев назад
buy a lock box.
@Itisheylel
@Itisheylel Год назад
My only problem with a physical diary/journal was that people would read it without asking for permission. I’ve always been that quiet person and it’s hard for me to communicate what’s in my head without people misinterpreting most of it in a negative way. If people were to read my diary (mostly my family), it’s like letting them in on the real me and I absolutely hate it. I want to let in who I wanna let in. I don’t want them to know my personality or how I interpret the world if I’m not close to them? What gives them the right to know me on that deep level if they don’t work their way to even befriend me? I hate it ;( my thoughts and genuine feelings are in there and ppl will just read it like it’s nothing and would even use it to embarrass me at times.
@mesunekonyan
@mesunekonyan Год назад
Same dilemma
@janalu4067
@janalu4067 Год назад
That in itself is quite revealing, isn't it? I mean, if the ones closest to you cannot be trusted to respect your privacy. It says a lot more about them than it does about you.
@Scarshadow666
@Scarshadow666 Год назад
How about writing in your journal in code or a language you made up? That way the people not meant to read your diary/journal would not understand it if they read it. Also recommend keeping a lock on your diary/journal and/or hiding it somewhere private, whether somewhere in your room or somewhere else that is private - there's people that even bury their diary/journal and/or hide it in a locked car if needed.
@janalu4067
@janalu4067 Год назад
@@Scarshadow666 personally, I'd write in a standard looking book, so that if anyone were to accidentally see it lying on a table, they would mistake it for a notebook like they use at school. No frills, no spirals (so nobody takes it because they need a piece of paper). And a secure place/petty cash box or the like to keep it. But, realistically, every lock can be picked, and you do need to sleep. It's tough.
@montyandrews6213
@montyandrews6213 Год назад
Have you considered a password protected journal on your computer? I write on password protected word documents and like the sense of security, I still avoid using names though for a degree of plausible deniability in case I leave it open or something.
@jkanclark
@jkanclark Год назад
In 2014, I began to audio journalize on my phone, using the voice memo app. It was a distressing time in my life, and I would simply talk to myself most days on the drive to and from work. It definitely helped to crystallize my thoughts and feelings, which to that point were little more than nonsensical ruminations in my head. Idk if it saved me, but it certainly helped me.
@jscs9960
@jscs9960 Год назад
for people with a mind faster than a hand
@trinaq
@trinaq Год назад
I kept a diary when I was younger, and it really helped me to vocalise and assess my feelings. I must start it back up again. 📝
@yohaizilber
@yohaizilber Год назад
Journaling really is an excellent way to self-reflect and off-load all the jibber jabber in your head. This video is such a great demonstration of that. Keep up the great work.
@iwastubed96
@iwastubed96 Год назад
I’ve been keeping a diary/journal since I was a little kid and I believe that was how I developed my intrapersonal intelligence. Despite growing up in an emotionally abusive household with a narcissistic family member who controlled us, I was able to keep myself sane by “talking” to myself through writing my thoughts and feeling. (No friends, wasn’t allowed to hang out.) And the way I connect the dots in my head from writing for so long helped with my therapy process. Plus, I developed my English writing skills and expressing myself in English since it’s my second language.
@Maartenkiko
@Maartenkiko Год назад
I want to show my gratitude to the work you all do to help others live life
@pelu-mee
@pelu-mee Год назад
"'Writers' in the true sense are those who scribble - as opposed to drink, exercise or chat - their way out of pain." "We may not quite know what we want to say until we've started to write; writing begets more writing." "Looking back at what we've written should be embarrassing" I love this ❤️
@Jollipop09
@Jollipop09 Год назад
:)
@kushagragupta8068
@kushagragupta8068 Год назад
Yes. I do find it embarrassing when I read what I've written. 😆🙂
@mihapetek3418
@mihapetek3418 Год назад
When I look at my old diary entries from 2 years ago, I actually don't feel embarrassed. I relate to myself in the past so much. And I think this is bad, because it means, that no progress has been made since then and I still have the same kinds of problems today...
@ThisIsMyFullName
@ThisIsMyFullName Год назад
@@mihapetek3418 But that's the kind of insightful thought that could only come from reading your old diary entries. Maybe it is true, or maybe you're just overthinking. Trying to figure that out is progress.
@elihan9
@elihan9 Год назад
I started a diary in college. It was after a series of setbacks, failures, and humiliations that I now call "the collapse". I just wanted to state my thoughts and views without a filter. 10 years and 10 volumes later, I'm still writing.
@samuelstroud5059
@samuelstroud5059 Год назад
This might be an odd thing to think about, but do you buy the same notebook for each journal? I'm almost finished with my second notebook/journal for 2022, and was wondering if I should keep them all the same, so they look uniform, or switch them up.
@elihan9
@elihan9 Год назад
@@samuelstroud5059 I've tried different journal styles. I try to hold myself some standards but I always remember that the standards are more or less guidelines. There is an agreement in myself that stability and uniformity needs to work in conjuction with experimentation. Both need each other to truly thrive.
@clairebear2586
@clairebear2586 Год назад
Wow! Im in 9th grade and I love writing in my journal, and since lately times have been hard it really has helped. This is kinda off subject, but you said "volumes", and I do the same thing and consider each of my notebooks to be individual stories, and hopefully when I'm an adult and things are better I can sort of keep them as a "series" if you will- or a time capsule to the past Anyways, thats so awesome!!
@elihan9
@elihan9 Год назад
@@clairebear2586 Thank you. Writing had been very therapeutic for me. I hope you will continue as well.
@clairebear2586
@clairebear2586 Год назад
@@elihan9 thank you!
@Meriya9749
@Meriya9749 Год назад
Without my diary, I don't know in what situation I would have been now. My diary listens to me, so I don't search for people to share my feelings... ❤
@FrilledMayfly_AmberlyFerrule
I have 10 sketchbooks, 9 of which are fully finished and only as of Sketchbook 9 did I finally realize I wanted to live. These sketchbooks are sketchbooks, but also journals. Filled with mad ramblings and hopes. Many many times these sketchbooks were supposed to be that sort of "letter" a family member reads when their kid has ended it all. They in many ways were me trying to explain "why I did it". They were also meant to be, like any sketchbook, a place to scribble, do life studies, or anything else. I realized something at one point, putting something down on paper is it's first steps into becoming real. It's no longer just in your head but physically represented in the real world as words or a drawing. A sort of sketchbook journal (or even a normal journal) Is really something special. I never thought that I'd want to live, that this pain would go away, but each new page added a physical piece of time. Each new sketchbook was a sort of "wow, somehow I lived to finish it" thing. My sketchbooks are my best friend, something that always helped even a little to ease the pain while every day not knowing when I'd be gone. It's wild entering a new sketchbook without that thought of "maybe this one will be the unfinished one", but now it's happening and those sketchbook journal things weren't just a friend, but a home to escape to when where I was living was hell. So... uh, keep a journal, or a sketchbook that also has incessant screaming and quiet prayers. Cannot recommend it enough. To keep a sketchbook you really don't have to be "good at art", just scribble, record the world in pictures and even the worst little scribble can transport you to a better place
@talita8882
@talita8882 Год назад
Thank you very much for sharing this. It is heartwarming and makes me realize I also have been putting on paper my message for myself that I want to live. Fully. I am sending you the biggest hug.
@nil.3743
@nil.3743 Год назад
I've started journaling my experiences this november because of my anxiety relapse 😰. It helps me manage my emotions and see them in a clearer picture. It makes me feel happier and I felt that my stress and anxiety is slowly fading away because I can express myself however I want🙂. I keep messages for my future self to answer in it too 😁. I highly encourage it for all people. Even if you don't have anxiety and depression. It will make you aware of how you feel much clearer and will get you closer to your real self. I've just started journaling but I felt the benefit it gives. I hope I can come back here in the future if ever someone read this and liked it. Good luck to whoever read this and I hope you live a great life! 😙
@siskfjkfkk
@siskfjkfkk Год назад
Started writing journals in the Google Keep Notes app and it has helped in understanding how my childhood trauma has shaped my beliefs, behaviors, and convictions. It's like lending an ear to the voice in my head. It gives me peace when I jot down all the stuff that happened during the day and my sentiments about it. Through writing, I have been retracing my steps back to the original event which made me suffer and healing by letting all the repressed emotions out. Due to this, I sleep peacefully and years of sadness and suffering are lessening day by day.
@jenhasken
@jenhasken Год назад
Since I was 2 14 and I'm now 56. It is indeed soothing and therapeutic. 💕
@blueferocity2008
@blueferocity2008 Год назад
I have kept a diary as long as I can remember. I experienced childhood trauma and was never able to seek therapy, but somehow through writing, I know I am healed.
@mrflinstone57
@mrflinstone57 Год назад
For years now, I've been writing as a way to process my experience of the world, something that's become increasingly dense with memories. Language is a portal for us to speak about life, and the beauty of words is that they can exist in silence. There is also depth to be found in the vulnerability of allowing yourself to ramble, ending up in a place where you never would have thought, feeling as though you can say and conquer anything and everything. That is the power of language.
@sol.f
@sol.f Год назад
The one tip that worked for me to make writing in a diary a habit is to not feel obliged to write every day or every week. I only write when I feel something very intense and I feel like letting go. Sometimes I won't write for months, but I have been doing so for a couple of years now. Whereas in the past when I forced myself to write it didn't last more than two weeks. Hope this advice is of use to someone. Journaling is therapeutic!
@nala1007
@nala1007 Год назад
Yes, I think it is best not to stress about writing regularly. If I feel I should write about something I try to, but most of the time nothing interesting happens to really write it down every day.
@wheatley1866
@wheatley1866 Год назад
I've been meaning to start a diary for years, now im finally giving it a serious go. After all, YOU are the world's greatest therapist.
@thecreativecactus2704
@thecreativecactus2704 Год назад
I struggled with depression and just overall bad mental health for many months before I started journaling. Although part of my recovery was because of other things, journaling, to this day, is my biggest coping mechanism. I'm very lucky to not have experienced severe depression, but I certainly know what it feels like to want to give up for weeks on end. Sometimes it can be hard to talk to even your closest friends and relationships, so journaling is an excellent way to just get your thoughts out.
@julieb8445
@julieb8445 Год назад
I lost my son and I used a diary to not only put my thoughts there but to rank myself on a scale 1-10.I saw that I was making progress as I looked back going slowly albeit from 1 to 5 on some days and then higher. Mentally it helped me on those bad days and I looked back showing myself I could heal and make progress through this journey. Some days I’m back to a 1 or 2, but I knew It would get better.
@AvecPoesie
@AvecPoesie Год назад
I am so sorry you lost your Son, Julie. That is the most anguish a human being can possibly endure...losing a child. I am quite certain of it. I do not have children myself, but two of my siblings have perished and I witnessed the barely surmountable sorrows carried my our Mother and Father. You are doing incredibly well at documenting your Journey of carrying onward. Wishing you continued strength. 💐
@snsmystic
@snsmystic Год назад
I journaled since I was 12 and am now in my 30s. And in looking back I can say journaling helped me reflect and gain insight, and it was the friend I never had and my secret keeper who never judged. And I also noticed since I became physically sick and gotten out of the habit of journaling more regularly since I was 18, I've noticed that I'm not doing as well mentally. Rather than process my emotions as a write, I find I ruminate on negative emotions and dwell on them and end up lashing out on others but negative emotions will still remain. I need to get back to writing.
@nikitaw1982
@nikitaw1982 Год назад
Do u think u need to keep it? If threw out each days page would that change the affect?
@Danielle-nz9tn
@Danielle-nz9tn Год назад
Thank you for sharing that. You have inspired me to get back to journaling too!
@farhaansajeeth7583
@farhaansajeeth7583 Год назад
Hope you get back to it soon :)
@jscs9960
@jscs9960 Год назад
I find I ruminate on negative emotions and dwell on them and end up lashing out on others but negative emotions will still remain.
@myriadmediamusings
@myriadmediamusings Год назад
I always saw myself as a writer, but mostly when it came to writing for opinions, critiques or reviews on a keyboard. I recently bought myself a journal due to recent changes in my life that needing coping, and I gotta admit it felt good to write with a pen and paper and writing from the heart than just the brain.
@nomaticors
@nomaticors Год назад
I have done this for years. And I can't read it. I just cry. Every day is filled with misery and madness and fears that have persisted since my journal's birth in 2016.
@jpguitaristcomposer
@jpguitaristcomposer Год назад
Never has a video touched me and applied to my life on so many levels. Thank you so much for making this, for all of us! Sending good vibes and love to all my fellow humans and writers.❤
@dante_felix
@dante_felix Год назад
After watching this, I consedired to buy a diary book and now I've just bought it for 2023! Such a helpful video to someone who struggle for life
@giantsquid2
@giantsquid2 Год назад
It's a great gift to yourself!
@viktorsemenov7208
@viktorsemenov7208 Год назад
After each new video I am struggling to pick words to describe how good these videos are. You make the world a better place to live.
@writerb.5059
@writerb.5059 Год назад
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@samanthalourdesbillones1152
This is really nice. I started writing my thoughts when I was in college during stressful days. Writing helped me get through my hard days. Now I also write whenever I think of anything brilliant - not just during bad days.
@teddi5039
@teddi5039 9 месяцев назад
Things I've learned whilst keeping a diary. 1. Take the pressure off yourself: You don't have to write in your diary everyday. You can process your thoughts and feelings when you feel the need or desire to. 2. It doesn't have to be Shakespere. It's okay if it's crap! 3. Feel free to name drop. Get messy. 4. It doesn't HAVE to be aesthetically pleasing to look at. 5. Add dates, you'll want to know what you felt a certain day if you choose to look back on older entries. 6. Some days you'll feel great, and the next you can feel right where you started. Healing is a turbulant journey & takes time. 7. Be kind with yourself. Ultimately, keeping a diary has helped me understand myself in a way no other method of self-help could. There are things I just can't talk about with others, but I have a sense of "permission" to oust myself in the written word. It's great, try it!
@Gingerharry2011
@Gingerharry2011 Год назад
just over a month into twice daily journalling, definitely seeing the benefits. something about making something out of those random thoughts seems to help my mind work things out
@trifu5802
@trifu5802 Год назад
I've always been writing (about my life or anything) since I was young. But in late 2020, I started taking it more seriously and wrote in alot more detail. Till this day, I still journal, even if my days aren't as interesting as I think I still end up having ideas on what to write :) when I'm older, I'm definitely going to read through my old journals.
@naheenisapoet69
@naheenisapoet69 Год назад
Whenever I write a journal, by the end of the journal I solve all my problems and motivate myself... I have been saying all this to people all my life. U have problems? WRITE it dowN!
@pancholopezpaz
@pancholopezpaz Год назад
I often write, and it helps me to make sense of my ideas and also to remind me of what I want from this life. I often forget to read again what I wrote but I do my best
@ishitasingh5162
@ishitasingh5162 Год назад
This is the moment for introverts to shine. INTROVERTS UNITE.
@sunnysideuptoast
@sunnysideuptoast Год назад
I start diary writing again since last year only want to clear some space for my mind because of some loss in my life. Writing to me helps me to think and organize my chaotic thoughts and gets in touch with my emotions again when all thoughts and feelings are too difficult to open up to friends. This habit has helped me a lot in the process of grief.
@Jollipop09
@Jollipop09 Год назад
This video makes me more confident to write in my diary! Thank you for the moving advice!
@DreamJ3
@DreamJ3 Год назад
I am so thankful my school psychologist in middle school put me on to journaling. It has helped me so much process my thoughts and emotions. Reflect on my behaviors. Set and monitor S.M.A.R.T. goals and revise my plans. It has been such a blessing Now as a school psychologist, myself, I am committed to introducing journaling to my middle school students! Thank you for this video!
@minji202
@minji202 Год назад
i started writing a diary when i was going through a very hard time. since i can’t and also don’t like to talk about these things with anyone, it was a great way to feel like someone is listening and understanding the way i feel. i still sometimes write down things when i feel like i need to dump my thoughts. it helps. my only concern is if someone opens and reads it. it’s important to value others’ privacy, but many people don’t, sadly.
@luisv526
@luisv526 Год назад
From this video it seems like I understood that a journal helps you think in an organized manner. When you think in your mind your thoughts are very disorganized and pass but when you write on paper the thoughts are save and you could possibly rethink those thoughts, modify them and process them some more. Ultimately coming to a consensus and understanding yourself or a matter more.
@javierpacheco4566
@javierpacheco4566 Год назад
Amazing! I am grateful that this channel releases meaningful content to ho does that don't know how to navigate the mind.
@behindthebros3248
@behindthebros3248 Год назад
This woman has such a calming voice
@nias3202
@nias3202 Год назад
Thank you ❤ I combine my diary with a To-Do List for the next day. It has helped me a lot and it has often saved my sleep. To keep a routine I set the bar low: One sentence a day at least. If nothing comes to mind I start by writing about the objects around me or my bodily sensations which normally triggers reflections about the day. I think, one danger is getting stuck with a certain mindset about oneself while writing. I am so lonely, I am always... For me it therefore helps to write down some things I am grateful for and mixing it up with philosophical meditations on other days. All the best to you!
@stephaniedhaussy8081
@stephaniedhaussy8081 Год назад
Thank you for your helpful comment
@Cl4rendon
@Cl4rendon Год назад
Thank you - Your words are very inspirational.
@nias3202
@nias3202 Год назад
@@stephaniedhaussy8081 Thank you, Stephanie!
@nias3202
@nias3202 Год назад
@@Cl4rendon That's very kind. Thank you:)
@nias3202
@nias3202 Год назад
@@JoseRRodriguez 😊
@leosparkflame
@leosparkflame Год назад
the animations is beautiful, and i am a complete fan of journaling. It has saved me countless times
@93parasol
@93parasol Год назад
I started like two weeks ago to write down all the anxious thoughts I have in my phone the moment I get them. Or not all of them, the ones I write down are the ones that makes me change my mood - like go from happy to sad or any good feeling to a bad feeling. The thoughts, or feelings, that disrupts me so much that they change my mood. Then every day or every other day, I write them down again in a notebook. I don't write excatly the same, sometimes if the thought is not bothering me anymore I skip it and sometimes if it's still bothers me alot I write longer or add things. Then I delete the notes from my phone. Then I write down any other thing that bothers me at the moment, hurts me etc . Then I usually also add some comforting thoughts if I have any - maybe related to the anxoius ones. Then I read again what I wrote in the notebook, and then sometimes "meditate" over it for a while. And it helps - ALOT. But, and I find this very important for me to remember, it DOES NOT MAKE ME HAPPY. It does not make me feel good. It almost always makes me feel relieved and at ease and sometimes happy for a little while. But not always. It makes me calm sometimes but not always. But what it ALWAYS makes me feel - is more regulated. And that's my goal. If I think it's going to make me feel better I will probably stop beacuse I get dissapointed, so I always try to only have that goal in mind, to feel more regulated. To have more emotional resistance. To not lash out beacuse of different things, not get really that upset, better handling when I feel anxious or upset, at least for that evening. I'm very happy I started doing this haha. It was my own idea, I don't know if I took it from anywhere, if so I forgot.
@An-ow2kz
@An-ow2kz Год назад
My mom once took my diary and read everything, she felt entitled to do so because she thought she has to control every step of my life. I hated her since and hever never trusted her. We've lost any connection. Since then I've never had a diary again
@jablesrolland
@jablesrolland Год назад
The animations on this channel are incredible
@DC-jz7io
@DC-jz7io Год назад
I particularly liked this one
@saras6588
@saras6588 Год назад
I'm an odd outlier I suppose. I've tried journaling off and on for years. It's easy to identify problems, but it gave me no concrete solutions or sense of relief. It's definitely worth a try though. Don't feel bad if you're like me and wonder why you're not like everyone else who loves it.
@LoneStoneMaalik
@LoneStoneMaalik Год назад
Journaling was the best habit I’ve ever had since youth. Gotta thank Diary of A Wimpy Kid for inspiring me when I was younger.
@clairebear2586
@clairebear2586 Год назад
My motivation is imagining my future self going through an old box of notebooks and finding a ton of diaries from my high school days. I always read old entries too! especially when it gets really dark or sad, and then I follow up on myself. Or I'll write something like "How are you, future me?" and draw a line for an answer, or just ask silly questions I can answer later in life! :P
@Leo-mr1qz
@Leo-mr1qz Год назад
In the mist of having my 3 daughters in a 4 years span, I turned to writing in a journal to relieve a lot of stress that was occurring. My husband worked rotating shifts, my narristic mother wasn't ever around to lend a helping hand, and the experience was lonely. Journal writing helped my good and not so good thoughts to escape my ruminating mind and create stability in my day to day life. ❣️
@digitoxsynth1905
@digitoxsynth1905 Год назад
I love this video! I always watch it when I am stressful and this video gives me hope!
@sapphirejade5029
@sapphirejade5029 Год назад
Ever since I was in early high school, I've done a LOT of writing. Most of it would be for fun, being fanfic content based on what I love. Years later, my writing is both from what I love but also how I feel from certain situations. It's become more original but rooted in fantasy inspired by what I love and see. From strange conversations between a rookie police officer and imprisoned witch to now a fae king telling his story about what happened prior to a war against an organized cult, it's a strange ride. I hope to continue writing to express how I'm feeling in certain situations or pulling inspiration from something I've read or watched. It helps me cope through the hard times but also inspires me to go farther with my creativity.
@youtubecommentergal4346
@youtubecommentergal4346 Год назад
I used to journal but not anymore. I don't have that time right now. However, I used to write poems and short stories based on my depression. I shared some with family and even on Wattpad and StoryMirror. I truly feel that writing helps me and even in pain I was able to create some of the most beautiful pieces ever.
@acelynn
@acelynn Год назад
When I graduated from my high school, I will read all of my high school diary and I will be super proud of myself because I’ve been through all of the hard situations that I thought I couldn’t make it - public speaking, judgements, presentations etc. The only thing that made me survived school is journaling. When I’m nervous, mad, sad, happy or even can’t express my emotion, I journal. And I’ve never felt much more better than it. Ever since then, I’ve never felt school is boring.
@yj9032
@yj9032 Год назад
Thanks for reminding me to make an entry into my diary
@cosmozX7
@cosmozX7 Год назад
I started writing my diary regularly for the past year and it's the best thing ever. It's so therapeutic to vent everything out through writing. Plus, it's really good for looking back on past achievements, difficult times and fun memories. Highly recommend it.
@skypilgrim
@skypilgrim Год назад
I tried to write in a diary when I was younger but my family would often snoop around. Privacy had little presence in my life. I did one entry and then was promptly ruined by my mom adding a well intentioned playful message on the next page. Though it led me to know I wasn't able to really keep my feelings on anything physical.
@ItsNuree
@ItsNuree Год назад
Thank you! This inspired me to come write a diary again, or maybe just ask questions to myself
@nouramoustafa7898
@nouramoustafa7898 Год назад
I have been writing my diary form 1999 till now.. It makes me more balance :)
@cansucapkinci485
@cansucapkinci485 Год назад
Keeping a diary did saved me! So true
@samuraireflection
@samuraireflection Год назад
i love this channel, this is nice, im going to start writing again.
@macktheripper7454
@macktheripper7454 Год назад
I have kept a journal since my dad died in 2017. It saved my life.
@ted.angell7609
@ted.angell7609 Год назад
I’m astonished at how many people in the comments have had their privacy violated in the worst way by other people snooping in their diaries. This is like touching someone else’s physical private parts without permission. Not surprisingly, it has inhibited far too many people from pursuing this practice.
@rex-up9ln
@rex-up9ln Год назад
I have now reached the point where it takes me to summon a significant amount of strength and courage to read my old entries and look back.
@ag5768
@ag5768 Год назад
Freaking FINALLY a Goshdarn narrator that doesn't make me wanna smash my phone. Thank you!
@idicula1979
@idicula1979 Год назад
RU-vid is my diary and my journal. Without it I would be what I’ve always been a head full of frustration to jumbled up to speak, lest I speak everything all at once. I thank my RU-vid community for my strength my salvation, the reason I don’t have to be the one of two extremes either of silence or scream.
@andrzejmaranda3699
@andrzejmaranda3699 Год назад
The School of Life: I DO KEEP a diary since 3 years & I am REALLY PROUD of it!
@riyapatel9669
@riyapatel9669 Месяц назад
Yess I need a good people to here me the people who can understand me atleast but unfortunately I don't have the kind of people who can understand the way I feel but I've good friends and people and my family but it's me who only understands me and I always cry or burn out my mental disaster in a diary and it has been become my daily habit to do so and I love my diary and keeping it to also and I feel so positive and better after writing Down ❤so if you're a person like me who's thoughts are so random only you can identify so please rather than go for a human connections first understand yourself and keep a diary for yourself it'll surely change the way you feel 💓
@kathleenprescott6227
@kathleenprescott6227 Год назад
That’s great. We are embarrassed when we read our journal
@bangtan.luv.
@bangtan.luv. Год назад
No matter how close someone is to me I tend to bottle everything up as I feel like I would be dumping all my prblms on them and I sometimes I really don't want solutions I just want them to listen while I say. It may sound weird but when I ever start talking abt my emotions I don't like the way they look at me. They are indeed good ppl ,its just that I tend to hate talking abt my emotions and then look up and see a pair of eyes watching me. I never thought I'll start writing in a diary but once I started in 2020 i really never looked back and I don't plan on stopping. I had frequent anger outbursts which has lessened at present and it also helped me fight my fatal thoughts.
@xhv222
@xhv222 Год назад
Remember though, you can be with people the same person you are in your journal.
@DanHammonds
@DanHammonds Год назад
As well as keeping a diary, I regularly write short autobiographical accounts of past events in my life, particularly those that were happy or significant. It's the most effective way to re-live memories and keep them alive in vivid detail, capturing the sights, sounds, smells and states of mind. It's also a powerful tool for helping us to recognise past failures, mistakes and triumphs and highlight our personal growth. What's more it's great for improving your language and communication skills.
@meganm4877
@meganm4877 Год назад
Shoutout to the fantastic job the animator(s) did on this video
@dinoasmr1514
@dinoasmr1514 Год назад
When I started journalling, my life changed for the better in all aspects, I started being at the top of my class, president of a student organization, i became multitalented, gained more friends and a girlfriend, basically everything I ever wanted during college (Im currently a 3rd year colllege student). And those things I attribute to journalling, because it let me reflect on different thoughts, to analyze what I do right and wrong towards things I want, processing those things was the key to me finding effective and efficient ways towards my objectives.
@gailaltschwager7377
@gailaltschwager7377 Год назад
Thank you!
@tejaswini9368
@tejaswini9368 Год назад
It does really help, I used to struggle with social anxiety and used the diary to keep record of every good, bad thing and how I could improve next time. Now I m not socially anxious anymore ( I've stopped maintaing a diary too) .
@rob8029
@rob8029 Год назад
imo you should start writing a diary again. even though you're not socially anxious anymore you could use it as an outlet for other problems or non problems.
@tejaswini9368
@tejaswini9368 Год назад
@@rob8029 you're probably right, think i will start writing again
@rob8029
@rob8029 Год назад
@@tejaswini9368 also it doesn't have to always be about venting other problems, it could be used for so much more. like whatevers on your mind, anything that made you excited today, and stuff like that
@tejaswini9368
@tejaswini9368 Год назад
@@rob8029 absolutely
@808bboarder
@808bboarder Год назад
I’ve fought with myself about keeping a journal for 30yrs. I really should do it now
@CJBradley
@CJBradley Год назад
I used to write and then stopped in my early forties, then began journaling in 2016. I'm in my 7th year now and write at will without the need for ideas and everything comes together like magic. Rather than feel as if I have to write something that others might want to read, I just write; sometimes a sentence, sometimes an idea sometimes a paragraph or a page or two. Since I started i have written around a million words much of which I have thrown away. In a world were authority censors anything it doesn't like I get say whatever I want to and send it to who ever I want to if I feel so inclined. I can't recomend it enough. If you want to get things off your chest or create your own little world, just write.!
@AgentMoss2217
@AgentMoss2217 Год назад
Something I realized recently is that when I'm very emotional, I tend to burst and dump all my garbage in small intervals to several people without much consideration until I feel at least a little less pressed and furious. However, I know this is highly inconsiderate, immature, and reckless of me and makes my relationships awkward due to oversharing on things I exaggerate that I forget only last a moment for the most part, that I'm just being irrational. Yes, venting to people is sometimes good, especially if they are willing and concerned. But we have to draw a line. Sometimes, it's better if you get through your issues by talking it out with yourself first, to really take the time and understand, internalize your thoughts and feelings. Because if you always go to other people first without taking the time to understand where you're coming from even a bit, they won't either. When I was younger, I used to write daily in a personal diary. It helped me with my feelings and I disturbed no one by doing so. However, I have long forgotten the joy and comfort of keeping a diary, and now I treat other people like they are one, that they're just supposed to sit there and soak in all the meaningless angst I pile up inside of me. I known it's wrong and I'm trying to avoid it. I know the awful person I am and I loathe myself for it every day, but in doing so I also come to hate just about everyone around me for no good reason. I guess my teacher was right when she told our class that "who you perceive yourself to be is also likely to be how you perceive others". Now I am trying to get back to keeping a diary, and I want to stay loyal to it so I don't have to bother anyone at the most inconvenient times. If to achieve me being "okay again" comes at the cost of others wellbeing, then I don't want it. I really don't. I have a choice, a different alternative to venting out these feelings than by doing it online to strangers and coming off as upset in my classroom and still refusing to explain why I'm cross when someone does ask how I'm doing out of concern, genuine or not. I'm a writer. Maybe I still can't write my novels and stories because I still can't write myself to clarity. So, I really need to get back to diary keeping. I think that's part of the process I need to heal from this wretched mess of a character I am.
@AgentMoss2217
@AgentMoss2217 Год назад
@Tsukina愛 Gosh I'm hopeless. Thanks for the reply. I just find it funny how I keep contradicting myself all the time. When I made that comment, I still didn't immediately switch to doing what I said I thought would be better to do. I don't have a good notebook for it. I'll purchase one sometime and get into it. I should read more. I- I have too much to say it doesn't matter anymore. I'm losing the patience to make sense so often.
@anumchan003
@anumchan003 Год назад
i started writing journal when i started working in 2017. i guess because i dont know to whom i should convey my feelings to because all my friends went separate ways and im not that good in making new ones. smh reading back the old entries felt embarassing but they remind me how i was back then and how i am now and sometimes they make me remember about the things that happened and things that made me who i am today😊😊
@anumchan003
@anumchan003 Год назад
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@celiaescalante
@celiaescalante Год назад
This is why I "pour" with an "avoidant." It stimulates my whole mind. I think it's like being an alcoholic. You know it's not good for the relationship and it even works against our bruised ego, but pouring is diplomatic. It's even better than being romantic.
@evamkaushik5392
@evamkaushik5392 Год назад
This excerpt speaks to the writers, giving inquisitive milestones. Everyone else thinks they are above words.
@sweet-lara
@sweet-lara Год назад
Writing is like talking to the best friend you could ever dream of.
@fonya_thee3026
@fonya_thee3026 Год назад
Stay alone, people. We must embrace it. I mean just me actually.
@h7opolo
@h7opolo Год назад
and also evidence of your human experience
@leeannschaffer1433
@leeannschaffer1433 Год назад
People tend to readily believe that any words that have been written are significant; however, they seldom realize that the act of writing them is what makes them significant.
@harrietyes
@harrietyes Год назад
I have been keeping a journal for almost 10 months, and yesterday I hit 100 pages. there were months where I didn't write, and instead made a mega entry where I summarized it. there were times where I wrote every day, times when I came to great conclusions and relived moments in the best, and worst ways possible. these are my teen years, and I don't want to forget them.
@berteloth6512
@berteloth6512 Год назад
That's amazing !! Keep it up !
@Mustafa_Naqvi5
@Mustafa_Naqvi5 Год назад
Its true. Agreed. I'm writing diary since 2018. And up till now i have almost completed 8 diary books 😁 Its so good.
@feli_esmeralder
@feli_esmeralder Год назад
I've writed almost non-stop (certain days nothing happened or I couldn't, but still a very strict rythm) since Dec 27th 2017, I'm in the 14th "journal"
@ModernGentleman223
@ModernGentleman223 Год назад
I have a journal on my tablet
@chenilleoneil1289
@chenilleoneil1289 Год назад
I clicked on this because I had a dyslexic moment and read it as ‘how keeping a dairy can save you.’
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