This video really touches on so many topics I've been pondering and struggling with as a Muslim woman in my 20s. I wish so badly that I could get older Muslim women in my life to listen to this and internalize these messages. Modesty standards that people claim to be Islamic have ruined the lives of so many and it is truly a shame... I'm very excited for your upcoming book!
I recently had to take a break from Islam because I felt terrible for being a bad Muslim. I felt like I could never be a good enough one. I’m not sure how to get back into Islam and being a Muslim . But I want to try.
Don't give up! And don't feel bad! We all have shortcomings. Read the history, all the greats screwed up all the time! It is a learning curve. Do not despair of Allah's mercy!
Surround yourself with Muslims that are good hearted and kind people, not judgemental. Reduce time with people that stress you out. I wish you the best of luck
I love that response to that dude that had his enjoyment "ruined" by seeing a hijabi woman at the club. "And you saw her from mosque's window" lol 😂 That should be a comeback for everything now. Thanks for sharing 🙏🏽😊
@@WhatthePatriarchy Yeah like no one will judge or rate my body if it's all secluded. The family will love me regardless. The sneaky eyes have no view if I am pregnant or not, if I follow the trends etc😌. At home I can turn into a completely different person and it's actually quite exciting🤭. I wonder if the problem with sisters finding it hard may be not appreciative spouses. Like if your wife decided to wear the hijab and takes it off around you, show appreciation, be proud of her, especially in the West.
Thank you very much for your video. What you say is so important, especially for having a good vision of God. For my part, I thought that it was cruel to give men the power when we can see how horrible they are with women, children and all the crimes they did in the world. That's make me to understand the truth and to reconcile with God.
Thanks so much for watching! I agree it's cruel to give power to a group of people who have abused it and exploited, harmed, deeply hurt people in their control with it!
You're talking a lot about how modesty standards are different in every culture. But who cares about culture when the important thing is the religion here?
If you can clearly explain to me the difference between culture and religion, I might be able to take this comment more seriously. But also? As long as I, as a Muslim woman, am affected negatively by ANYTHING Islamic or cultural, I - and all other Muslim women affected - definitely care.
She chooses when to say something is required in the religion and when it isn't. Like with the issue of men covering their heads, it is true that is not required . What about the clear cut ayat and ahadith about the obligation of the hijab and how it should be worn? Why doesnt she follow these as well? May Allah guide her
@@WhatthePatriarchy The Quran is crystal clear about it. The hijab is mandatory, even Maryam is depicted wearing one. You have a conformational bias. Why do contemporary researchers not study the eminent conformational bias in Muslim feminists? Sis, you need to stop viewing all the sahabas as our enemies for starters. They had bigger problems to worry about than just policing women during their time, like, for example, being forced to immigrate and start all over from scratch.
Unfortunately, I think you have a misunderstanding of the usage of the word hijab in the Qur'an. The word "hijab in the Qur'an does not refer to any article of clothing. It refers to a symbolic or physical barrier between 2 things. In the case of verse 19:17 (the verse that you are referring to when "Maryam is depicted wearing one"), Maryam has placed a screen in between herself and her family (as told in verse 19:16). The Qur'an sets no hard limits on manners of dress because it's meant to be for all times, not just the society at the time of revelation because manners of dress are influenced by many cultural-political forces. Allahu alam ❤
Thank you for your videos 🙏🏻 They are always empowering, helpful, and informative. Imo, all spiritual and/or religious practices need to center gender in this way in their practices. Much respect and I look forward to more discussions!
So what is Islamic modesty standard according to your understanding? Is wearing bikini fine since they cover the private parts and breasts? And short shorts? Also there are many tribes where women don’t cover their breasts, that is their culture, but how is that compatible with Islamic modesty?
Those questions only raise more questions. what’s the purpose of clothing & covering, if in some cultures (like the ones you’re describing), society finds it totally acceptable for women to show their breasts? don’t forget that in Islam, too (like in fiqh), I t’s totally fine for SLAVE WOMEN (women who are seen as sexual objects to be purchased and sold!!) to show their breasts too. So the bigger questions need to include: -what’s covering? what’s the point? who does it benefit and harm? -does it need to be the same everywhere? -what is inherently sexual about it whichever parts of the body a group of people decide to cover? -did you know that according to fiqh, even a woman’s voice is awrah (ie, a sort of genital!) and so it’s to be hidden from the public? Ridiculous, isn’t it. What’s wrong with wearing bikinis? If it’s that women are showing skin, let’s ask - why are men “allowed” to show skin and women not? There’s a time and place for everything. hope that helps!
@@WhatthePatriarchy I know the problem with many classical fiqhi rulings. I know according to many classical scholars slave women only need to cover from naval to knee and are allowed to expose their breasts while a free woman has to cover from head to toe. I don’t blindly follow the scholars. But that wasn’t my question. What I want to understand is where do you draw the line in your understanding of awrah/hijab? Like if a Muslim visits those tribal places then is he/she allowed to get completely naked since nudity is okay in that culture? Or is there a bare minimum which a Muslim should never uncover under any circumstance (unless it’s a life or death situation)?
Oh, you're asking what my own personal individual opinion is? I don't think that matters at all - it shouldn't to anyone but me. I'm more interested in encouraging people to question the things they're taught as normal when they cause us or anyone else harm. When you or another Muslim person visits a place/culture where people are allowed socially/culturally in that culture to be completely naked, we should use our conscience to decide what's best and what the most correct thing to do there is. That's where the questions I ask become relevant - do we cover to avoid being objectified? If so, if EVERYONE around us is naked and we're the only ones covered, what does that mean? And so on. For me, personally, it most likely will depend on what I am personally comfortable with and what feels right to me in the moment.
Well maybe find out why we should be modest in the first place. It has nothing to do with men. In the quran u can wear what u want infront of male slaves, they wouldn't dare do anything to u. Its a form of protection for women
Don't listen to what others say. Just open Quran and you will get your answers. Because as the lady said no two famies are same but it is concerning what is being said in this video. Go and do your own research.
Modesty standards for Muslim women are so exhausting and unfair and baseless. I see young teenager Muslim girls in Canada wearing full length black abayas. At first I didn't understand why they were wearing abayas when they could just wear full length dresses.. but then I realized that the modesty police is always ready to judge you.. so the simplest way to avoid arguing and to go on with life is to wear full length abayas
Sadly, a lot of us do just give in so the patriarchy will leave us alone. Except, it's never enough! Nothing we do can ever be enough. If we cover our bodies "correctly" enough for the patriarchy, making ourselves totally invisible with a full covering, then maybe we laughed or maybe we smiled or smelled good and the patriarchy got mad. So better to just live our way.
I want everyone to take note, where was all the quran an hadith she mentioned when speaking about how modesty standards change? There are many ayat and hadiths that mention how we should dress and be modest. Be warned ⚠️ she does not know what she is taking about. There are Sooooo many hadiths about how we should dress. It is ridiculous for her ignore that. Where are her islamic evidences?
Why're you apologizing? be confident! ❤️ But also? Why should I consult anyone other than my Rabb, my Creator and my Sustainer, to tell me about my religion? C'mon.
That’s the issue with most Muslims. You tell her to go to another source outside of the words of Allah to learn about Islam. Do you really Quran yourself or you need others to explain it for you? She is offering free, thought provoking content for people who actually think critically.. You’re clearly not the target audience.
No one should ever be told to leave or enter any religion except per their own choice. Thank God I have options and the option to be a Muslim by choice if I want to be and to leave it if I want to ever. I don't want to leave it, so I'm happy being a Muslim. But I hope you find peace with whatever your beliefs are! ❤️
Thanks for the chuckle, Rya! I don't know why anyone would speak to another human this way, telling them to leave a religion as if that's the solution to anything at all.
