How Our Relationship SURVIVED MED SCHOOL & RESIDENCY 

Happy to see people working hard on their marriage. These days marriages just don't seem so sacred to some... the stories you hear, sheesh it's like even spouses come with a "return by" date. So many people do not have that level of commitment anymore.

Congrats on 100k Jenny!! I’ve been watching you since you’re early days when you’d long board you medical school and remember when you had to do long distance 😢 I recently read a paper about the high rates of divorce in medicine (especially in residency) compared across different specialties, it’s great to hear a more personalized point of view ❤️ thanks for making such great videos!!

My bare basic advice, as a daughter of a powerhouse divorce attorney, “as long as there’s no abuse (physical, addiction, etc) then divorce is not an option, Work it out, work on it, and don’t look for white picket fences!

One thing I learned from the break up with my high school sweetheart back in 2009 was this: “If you aren’t growing together, you’re going to grow apart.” We always have to keep in mind that we, as individuals, are constantly changing. The person we were last year most likely isn’t the person we are today, so we can’t expect our significant other to be the same person the whole time either. I found that this thought process definitely helps as the years go on 💝 ended up marrying my best friend, he knows me better than I know myself sometimes, and leaves space for me to grow. Friends 2009-2013 (we know each others exes and coached each other through relationships, it was odd when we first started dating!), dated 2013-2018, married 2018.

I often joked to my husband (then boyfriend --> fiancee) that he needed to join a "husband of doctors" support group! I'm so lucky that he met me in my first year of med school and we've been together since my third, all through until now (just about to fellow). Communication has been key, as has talking frankly about expectations and future planning! Respect and learning one another's love languages has also helped a LOT

Okay, this is hilarious. I love that London and Wyatt are everywhere hahaha. You seem so much happier than you used to be! Thank you for this video, much needed.

Me and my wife are celebrating our 10 year anniversary next month. She started her medical residency 7 months ago and anyone who says being a doctor's spouse is easy is a liar. I'm still adjusting...

Hi Dr.Jenny. I stumbled upon your channel and I how you're incorporating your life as a mom/wife but also showing us your life as a doctor. It's been very eyeopening to see that doctors aren't all unapproachable. Watching this video has inspired me to give more to the world and my significant other. I highly believe in karma and i think the energy you give out is the same wavelength of energy you get back. It gives life a meaning and how to act accordingly for a better life. great video!

It is great to see how love can survive all challenges! We are dating and both in medical school, and this video gives us hope for our future!

Loved your video! ❤ You opened my eyes to how I treat my marriage and my relationship with my children. Thanks for the different perspective.

Team work makes the dream Work girl ! Congrats !

You have a beautiful family, and you're doing a great job... I do think you way overthink things though... Relax your mind, take every day as it comes...don't over analyze everything, you'll drive yourself crazy.. You've been given a lot of gifts in life...high intellect, fertility and physical beauty, you're way ahead of the game...Enjoy your husband, not everything has to be deep, lighten up a bit. Good luck. I've been married 19 years, this is my advice. lol

This was very insightful. When you said that both need to have common goals, what goals should we cover, financial or career or marriage?

Thank you for this, I’ve been wishing for this kind of video for a while! I’m educating myself about marriage even though I’m single lol. Makes me think if there really is a change of trend in the younger generation.

Thank you so much for this! I just started my channel, and I start medical school in a week. I've been in a relationship for six years and we're nervous about this new chapter and how it might challenge us as a couple. This was so helpful and reassuring. Thank you!

Great advice and great video as always! I’ve been married for 12 years and one thing I’d say is to adopt the verse/saying “do to others what you would have done to you.” It applies to spouses and children and people everywhere. 😊

Congraulations you hit 100,000. So well deserved. Happy day to you and yours.

I love this! You definitely seem so much happier! You have a beautiful family! Have you found any potential part time family med positions? Congratulations on everything! You’re killin’ the whole “wife, mom, doctor” game!!

Such a great advice about relationships Dr. Le! Definitely made me reflect a lot on relationships and I love that experiment suggestion! ❤️

Ok. How are you keeping your skin so fresh between kids and residency ? Bravo!

Sometimes being stubborn is the way a relationship lasts. My husband and I have been together nearly 18 years, married for almost 13. We’ve had our rough patches and because we are stubborn and don’t give up easily we pushed through the difficulties and we’re still together. We’ve sadly watched some of our friends, who were concerned about us when we hit our rough patches, go through divorces. I’m not saying they didn’t try to stay married and sometimes it is better to get out of a bad relationship but sometimes being stubborn is the only reason a relationship will work.

Loved this video! I just uploaded a video about dating in medical school and this is so timely ! It truly takes the right person to understand the life of a medical student and resident. Much love and respect to you for fostering a healthy marriage and motherhood in medicine

Love the “realness” of your videos!

Loved this video, it was so calm and natural. It made me feel like I was hanging out with one of my girls, plus the topic was on point👌, would you consider doing an un edited vlog, it would be fun for us to see and easier for you to "edit" or not edit! 😘

Wow you are GLOWING

Dang. You have 100,000 subscribers now!

Congrats on 100k 🎉🎉🎉🎉

Hey Jenny (Dr Le) 👋🏾 thanks so much for being open and honest with your experiences in your relationship. It was so refreshing to hear. My fiancé and I have been together for 4 years and now we’re setting up to go through a period of long distance because I am originally not born and raised in the US and have better job opportunities in my home country. I’m so nervous though because we have been together everyday for the past four years and we love spending time together/living together. Do you have any tips on how to navigate time apart? We’re gonna be continents apart.

love this !

I will try it .thx jane :)

4 minutes into the video and i have to add first that i don't think the answers are that easy and it's normal for you to ask " is that it?" If anything, i think you can write a long essay down to the minute details on how to make a relationship work. For example, even just saying communication is key is such a wide heading in itself. For example, what is the right kind of communication? That both parties need to understand that honesty is key? But being honest causes hurt and both need to be accepting of that. Or both need to listen to understand instead of listening to be defensive or respond immediately. At the end of the day, you're dealing with another human being and we are complex to begin with. But no matter what, the hard work is worth it. Nothing great comes easy, really.

I am not married yet but I loved your video!!

Not relationship related but I just wanted to ask whether you are an introvert or extrovert, and your advice on how to cope in the medical profession being either one. I am an introvert and can be drained easily a lot of the times so I don't know whether going down this profession will effect my care.

Omg😳.. Just today I was thinking: what if I could clone myself 😂

Hello! I appreciate this video! I have a question. My boyfriend started med school and he lives 2.5 hours away from me now. I just am working at a typical 9-5. My question is he’s the one who’s not as good of a communicator, any tips for urging him or helping him to communicate more/better? Anything you tried with your husband?

What would you say your and Stan’s destination is? And in general how can you tell when you and your partner are going different directions?

How old are you guys?

How you convence ur parents ? Please suggest me something ,I am a doctor and my boyfriend is not ,so my parents are not ready to accept this ,it's 2.5 yrs ,till now I'm unable to convence my parents..

Hello.. Nice to meet you.. Hope you notice me