How Self-Forgiveness Saved My Life | Josh Galarza | TEDxNewburgh 

I'm 22 years old myself and I relate to him so much. I feel he feels the same way I do, always realizing in hindsight what I should have done, said and what could have been if I only did the right thing. Im really hard on myself and very lenient with others, you're doing amazing supporting him!

gyan mehrotra I hope you can also find the support you need as well. You’re never alone. You’re a gentle soul and thank you for your kind words. Love and light ✨🙏🏽❤️

I am feeling right now like everything you just described. This video helped, and best wishes to you and your son. 😄 The inability to forgive myself when everyone around me has forgotten about the situation is agonizing.

@@gyanmehrotra7778 yeah I was thinking the exact same thing, and much of my issues of course affect my mother, and so I too, like most of us, too feel sorry for my mom, and I wish her to forgive everything wrong that I do. So to see a mother understanding and forgiving, and also wanting her son to forgive himself too, really does help and relieve part of that guilt; because of the understanding. So thank you.

I’m 19 and same as your son, hard on myself and my past and failures and others are hard on me too, finally I see a mom here that truly understands, I feel relieved. Thank you.

This is helpful

So true

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Thank you for this 🤍

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Ocean Pebbles thank you so much for the kind words! Keep fighting and stay strong!

PLEASE KEEP HER SAFE ONLINE FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, THE INTERNET IS FULL OF PREDITORS SO PLEASE MAKE SHE SHES NOT TALKING TO STRANGERS AND WATCH THE CONTENT SHES CONSUMING!!!!!! there is a epidemic of groomers online, every corner, every app, anything with a comment section or chat box is dangerous, so i hope you see this message and i hope your girl is safe

I hope you find peace. You sound like a lovely person and everyone deserves forgiveness. That includes ourselves. Your daughter is a great human being. You dud that. Reared a kind and empathetic young person who loves you and wants you to live in peace with knowledge you deserve it. Hugs to you and your family.

Just remember this "whenever you feel guilty about the past it shows your current day morals have exceeded your past mistakes and this proof of growth' so basically you are not the person who made those mistakes you are the person that learned from them!

No life is a great gift That we must choose to use I can't say I'm in a good place but we can only reach a better place by moving onwards

Keep fighting! You’ve got this, I believe in you.

Chris Keef I know how hard it is but there is a way through. Nature has been a great healer, go well. Blessings to you 🙏

You just didn't read the manual on how to use your brain.

One day at a time, I know it sounds cliché but it truly helps. Do as much as you can to enjoy your day, whether it's a delicious drink or walking on the grass. Be gentle with yourself. Please.

But still talker and I miss school speeches and teaching project etc anyway um u didn't deserve it and would knowing why he was that way have changed ur fears and discomfort ? Also cop waa a gentleman ha lol Commenter curious bout ur channel well check it out next

Keep holding on, brother. Sobriety; living happily, joyfully. & freely is indeed possible. You can become that best self that you know. I am asking my Higher Power (God) this very minute to bless you and to fill you with His Peace & Wisdom. Be well young man.

@@joseph8468It's good that you are just 27 and realizing it so sooon. I have seen family and family member of my friend's whose alcohol addiction ruined a lot of things. they realised it in their 40s. But they got over it. So you can as well.

With respect use that as fuel to put a stop who, up until now you used to be right. We have so many technologies methods that can help. You are still young 27. You really can forgive yourself. So do it. Can live today as if its your first. Let the past go keep moving yes keep trying. Many people have defeated it which means you will too. check. faster. List. free may help. I really want you to come back here and give us an update on positive changes making seriously. You've got this

Thanks for sharing. Hang on. It will get better. I'll be praying 🙏

@@drbladerunner it has gotten better. A month and a half sober right now. Still fixing things but things are getting better slowly but surely. Thank you for the positive energy, I send it right back atcha

25 and dealing with this exact issue right now. The way people are on the internet can leave you feeling like you have no chance of redemption or becoming a better person. It's something I can't stand about the world now. Integrity and character are more important and I truly think people are deserving of being able to live out their dreams regardless of an imperfect past. People expect so much perfection out of everybody but if they truly saw the complete context to somebody's life, they wouldn't be so harsh. People are scared now more than anything of how others think of them. I believe in you and I hope you conquer this. I feel I'm going through an extremely similar time right now and I so desperately want these feelings to be gone. I hope the same for you.

omg I know exactly how you feel and its such a scary and terrifying feeling. The negative perceptions part especially hit home.

Same I've caused myself so much trauma

@@krystingrant6292 here if you need to vent

@@funtoncorpor1245 here if you need to vent

The same😭😭😭

Kamya may u find peace nd love dear...

Same here😭

I wish I didn't understand your pain

I'm 23. My girlfriend broke up with me for a terrible mistake that i did. Its been around a month since we broke up. Each and every day i cried asking for forgiveness... But she couldn't forgive me because she knew she deserved better.... Do you know i felt the same thing too i felt i don't deserve her, I was in guilt for messing up what we had... I cried.... i thought i shouldn't be there in this world... She loved me so much and still how could I hurt her and push her away.... I was in too much guilt, I thought I'll go mad and end up in hospital... I realised I'm not doing good by suffering myself in guilt, it's not going to help either me or her... She has forgiven me, she still talks to me but she's hurt with what I've done. She just can't get back to me... I'm scared to lose her because she was everything to me. I loved her soo much... But I know I have to get up I have a life.... I'm not dead yet.... I can still do good in life... I'm sure she deserves better now... But I also know I can become a person that she deserves if I work hard..... I can't correct the mistake I've done.... But i can forgive myself and do good in life... I feel we all need to pay for mistakes to forgive oneself..... I find god in innocent people, so I want to help them..... I want to earn a good money and donate it... I want to do social service and help them.... I feel I can forgive myself by doing this..... Do something to others, help others which will help you to forgive yourself.... Learn to accept things... I Hope this helps you to be better in life.... Please forgive yourself cuz until then you are stuck... and can't move ahead.

omg same!!!

Please.have some self respect..stay away from them and speak up for urself

I can understand that. I've done awful things and think 1 billion times in them. They eat me alive. My stomach is in shambles.

@@carnivoroussarahmine too I did not treat myself with kindness and lashed out on others because of it.

What's the name of the program by Earl Nightingale.

I'm Sof thank you for your kind words!

because it takes self love to allow yourself to seek help and heal. (M19e10feb1:14.021:)

Matthew Whitehead keep fighting! It’s a long and courageous battle, I know you can do it.

@@justjoshin38 Aww, you're so sweet... 🥺❤. You have such a kind heart and soul 💖.

I can really relate to you . The only time I didn’t have anger in my life was when I was high on drugs. Two years ago my father died his last words to me was “stop talking you are bothering me “ I closed his eyes and the funeral home picked him up at 4am. I had so much anger for this man I didn’t have to choke back any tears. BUT I realized I had to forgive him for my sake. You are a wonderful person and as soon as you realize that you will be free like I am . I send you ❤️

You have so much time trust me

@@centykaia4450 have you managed to forgive yourself?

Bro I turned eighteen and I've been going through so much s***and it's all my fault. I need to forgive myself for the things that I can't take away otherwise I'm not going to make it in this world.

Hey Debbie, hope things are doing better in these past 2 months. I’m going through the same thing as a young man in his 20s and just wanted to extend a hand and let you know that I truly truly forgive you. Please keep going and maintain that present moment! Trust me this hit home as I know the feeling of hopelessness and feeling destined to shame for eternity. I don’t know if you’re in therapy but that has been helping me a ton and I truly do pray you receive the love and forgiveness you are worthy of, and not just from others but from most importantly yourself! Love always and stay safe. Holla at me if you need me

I can totally feel you on this one! I've done this too and some other mistakes but either way, I believe we deserve forgiveness. Everyone does.

Me too 😢

This

I send myself stuff all the time. I keep quotes in texts and videos in messenger.

I’m sorry to hear this. Stay strong Ben. I need to as well. 🎚💜

stay strong. it'll be okay

Oh man can relate on that sleep part. Guilt is hard to accommodate with sleep.

I can totally relate to this. Not able to sleep with the guilt. I want to forgive myself so bad. Sending you healing Vibes

@@carnivoroussarah Have you managed to deal with the guilt?

IDK what you did or if this helps at all but I FORGIVE you my friend :)

G thank you so much for the kind words!

Brian Daniel thank you brother!

No it didn't

I hope you can find peace every day after❤

Don Tran you got this! You have to just keep fighting the battle. I believe in you!

I believe you can do it..lots of blessing ✨

Yes it's so hard - I realise now that all my life I have been selfish, grasping and ungrateful, and I'm sitting here writing a letter to someone that I have wronged, asking for forgiveness. I have had so much love offered and used it without realising how lucky I was. I am going to have to work on forgiving myself. Good luck to you.

You got this. Take care of yourself

How are you doing now? Same boat.

Have you now been able to forgive yourself?

Life changes. What matters most is your happiness, not what others think of you, or how "successful" you are. Success is something only you can define for yourself x

@@mrsqueaks1154 yep this is the fact i learned these days. Thank you for ur wise answer 🙏

Thank you for your comment. I am this young mans mother. After seeing this for the first time myself several years ago, I too had to self forgive. I had no idea of what my son had been going through. I am truly proud of the man he has become. ❤

@@suzanneballou97 thank you for sharing mom. Are you closer since viewing the video?

@@sgreen9088 Yes, we've always been close, even though we live in different states. He's helped me heal in so many ways. I'll always be so very proud of the man he's become. 😊

Thank you for your kind words!

Same..

Same with me.. one thing that I did is that I dedicated my life to the person whom I caused so much pain.. still I feel it's d least I did.. I repent and am trying to forgive myself.. I can't do anything about the past but I can work for a different future.. Hoping you forgive yourself too.. Please do..

@@lalansingh8518 Hold your head high as well my friend, we were naive and truly didn’t understand the repercussions this would have on the one we loved or our life. Hopefully god blesses us with a chance at redemption, a chance to make it right.

I am struggling with this too. It's just extremely hard. I guess what you can do is accept that you've caused pain to them and it was a huge mistake and make a sincere apology. After all that's all what you can do. You can't undo it, right. I'm sure you would if you had chance to. I know I would. So be a little compassionate to yourself and make sure you aren't the same person anymore. The same person who hurt them. I hope it helps :)

@@blockbyblock4078 I really appreciate that comment! Yes I’m definitely trying to be a better man each and every day and right my wrongs, I just hate that the person I love the most sees me as a monster I guess you could say. You’re right if I had the chance to take it all back and fix it I would in a heartbeat. I need to learn to be more forgiving with myself. I’m definitely not the same person anymore, and I’m truly sorry to hear you’re struggling with the same thing, take your own advice because it was good advice. I pray that you find your way and find happiness again or get a conclave to redeem yourself. Love always wins, take care my friend.

Thank you for the kind words!

Wish you all the best.

Sebastian Boka thank you for the kind words!

@@justjoshin38 good story.. Congrats.. You are strong

I needed to hear this, too. Thank you.

Thank you so much for the reply! I hope you’re doing well and keep fighting!

Thank you for the kind words, Nina!

@@justjoshin38 it's my pleasure Sir ! =)

Philomena Wynne forgiveness is about the process, the moment you truly believe in yourself and dig deep to let go of the resentment, everything will fall into place. Keep on shining!

Guerilla Ent. Thanks for getting back. I am digging every day, I have to being brought up a Irish ☘️ catholic and the Family scapegoat. its the rest of them that don’t dig at all and blame the scapegoat. If my mother did not suffer in this I would of been able to handle it. But I am slowly getting there and a lot better than I was. Keep shining to.😇🙏

i feel you so bad

with no forgiveness you have perfectionism, shame and self sabotage. Just trying to focus on forgiveness you will find more stability in life

@@05wilsonev true. Thank you💛

Brian V. Thank you very much Brian! Hope you’re doing well

Have you resolved this now?

Hey Marco have you been able to move past this now? Sorry you are struggling with this!

I have the exact same problem marco I just feel I can’t really go forward with my healing

@@ShaunHolden any advice on this , struggling with the same thing

@@tanwright2823 How important is this to you that you resolve this problem?

@@ShaunHolden very , I can’t seem to find happiness amongst all the good things around me , I lost a love one after being with her 7 years

you seem like such a loving person just by the fact that you care so much about others, I hope that one day you are able to achieve self-forgiveness bc you seem pretty great to me and you deserve to feel that way about yourself. We all make mistakes. Thankfully we have the chance to do better, don’t be to hard on yourself, I’m rooting for you! It may not erase the past, but you can change your future