how tf do you make friends in a new country? | Singapore expat life

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⟦ Timestamps ⟧
00:00 Intro
00:31 My story
01:08 Tip 1: At Work
02:17 Tip 2: Attend a regular workout class
03:20 Tip 3: Facebook groups
05:04 Tip 4: Mix friend groups & referrals
06:16 Tip 5: Bumble BFF
09:30 Tip 6: Just reach out
11:58 Final: Mindset shift
⟦ Things I referenced ⟧
The truth about being an expat: • The truth about being ...
I hate talking about my age. • I hate talking about m...
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⟦ Music ⟧
Lukrembo - Cloud
BGM President - Sunny side up • [Royalty Free Music] 써...
Night Music - IU's Friday (but its lofi) • IU - Friday (but its l...
BGM President - Sunset • [Royalty Free Music] S...
BGM President - Paesaggio Italiano • [브금대통령] (잔잔한/좋은/Acoust...
⟦ Equipment ⟧
Sony a7c
Tamron 17-28mm f/2.8
Sony NEX-5R
DJI Osmo Pocket
Canon EOS 70D
Canon EF-S 18-55mm f/3.5-5.6
Canon EF-S 24mm f/2.8
Canon EF 50mm f/1.8
Iphone XR

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@sherrybyw 2 года назад

Out of the 6 tips, do you have any favs which you would want to try yourself? Or better yet, which ones have you tried? ☀☺ Timestamps below ⬇ 00:00 Intro 00:31 My story 01:08 Tip 1: At Work 02:17 Tip 2: Attend a regular workout class 03:20 Tip 3: Facebook groups 05:04 Tip 4: Mix friend groups & referrals 06:16 Tip 5: Bumble BFF 09:30 Tip 6: Just reach out 11:58 Final: Mindset shift

@alexandrucosnita1051 2 года назад

Hi sherry, thx for all the videos u are doing and sharing. I will be moving to singapore next year and i would love to have like a guide if u wont mind showing around!

@lyrenna1270 2 года назад

Why keep to the expat enclaves? There's tons of value making effort to define friendships to integrate with the local community as well.

@albertkoey 2 года назад

Looks like you are super busy now, either with friends or boyfriend. :p Anyway, have a fun time in real life!

@police9111 2 года назад

Wow do not worry smartphones, tv and laptops have become our best friends🥰😇

@HumdrumSingaporeanREACTS Год назад

@@police9111 😲

@mx.astrid29 2 месяца назад

Absolutely loved these tips! One way for me, when starting a conversation with someone new, is by giving them a genuine compliment about something you like about them or something nice you've heard about them, then get the conversation going from there!

@maried8885 2 года назад

Just arrived in Singapore and your video is sooo encouraging and helping. Especially in those difficult times, not really helping newcomers to meet with new friends ^^ Thank you, I will apply your advices ;)

@epicarnoldtravels Год назад

I love this video it’s very informative for expats. It also helps me understand what expats go through while living in Singapore. Awesome stuff Sherrybyw big fan!❤

@k_drive 2 года назад

i love these tips! this is a small one but i've found wearing light/ bright colors tends to be more inviting for ppl to randomly interact with me. (and honestly works the other way on days when im not in a friendly mood I'll just throw on a hoodie lol)

@grzegorzchyb656 2 года назад

This is amazing Sherry, I’m exactly in the situation you were in 2 years ago (just moved to SG) and this vid comes in just perfectly timed

@sherrybyw 2 года назад

You got this!! Let me know which tip helped you the most! Wishing you luck for your journey to finding your peeps 😊

@milkbread5036 2 года назад

This was so helpful and I love your video editing :D so aesthetic :D

@imlovinekpop 2 года назад

such incredible advice! Loved the last one :)

@michellefok2741 2 года назад

loved all these tips! totally agree about the open-mindedness nature of using bumble bff 😉

@xanx3 2 года назад

Omg the story that came with tip 6 is so cute!!

@marki7275 2 года назад

Well said. Just Reach out is my go to. Life is busy though and that is why I am watching RU-vid. Ha. I have a long list of things to do and I know along the way I am going to meet some amazing people.

@yuucreations8569 2 года назад

This is sooo valuable ! Thank you for sharing!

@mlee1308 2 года назад

Your so positive. Luv it. So hard to find!!! Great vid.

@sherrybyw 2 года назад

Although not 100% of the time, I definitely try to be positive most of the time!!

@briank4996 2 года назад

You inspire me Sherry. God bless you.

@AndrewTube 2 года назад

thanks for sharing, i didnt know you worked so hard to make friends! props!

@heyvkj2412 2 года назад

Ahhh IU's Palette as the bgm hahahah! You look amazing btw!

@babiixjo 2 года назад

Love the doodles and animations!

@benizjammmin 2 года назад

12:20 - Sometimes the differences kinda do matter. One can only handle un-relatability for so long. It’s important to have people that know what you’re going through and to not feel like you’re the only one. 11:30 - Well kinda, sorta. It just sucks when you put in effort and there’s no reciprocation; which leads to discouragement to keep moving forward. Also, there’s a huge difference between friendly acquaintances and friends. People really get this one mixed up a ton.

@Calisthenio 2 года назад

Loved this video!

@dominichill1492 2 года назад

This is very good advice, have a good day Sherry, and I you're videos.

@oliverpiong6558 2 года назад

This video really inspired me!

@TETRARCHFREAK666 2 года назад

very informative Video Sherry good advice I'd like to go to Singapore someday

@HumdrumSingaporeanREACTS Год назад

🤔🤔🤔 food for thought~ thank you so much for sharing these advices

@HumdrumSingaporeanREACTS Год назад

good tips

@dpledoone 2 года назад

Your positivity is probably the most important factor. You are wiser than your age (no discrimination!)

@sherrybyw 2 года назад

Indeed!!! While I think it's totally ok to feel down (as I clearly was in my older video when I talked about not having friends haha), I think it's important to pick yourself back up and give it another go! 😄

@richardbarba2736 2 года назад

Aye aye aye Sherry Cola!

@0dyss3us51 2 года назад

This is a great list, but I personally would put Meetup as the first, when I came to Japan from Europe I knew no one, but since it is interest based, you know you can quickly talk to people about the thing you met up about in the first place that you both have a passion for, 4 years later I still talk with people I met there :) just get out of your comfort zone and say hi

@suntanboy22 2 года назад

Nice topic!

@ankursingh9745 Год назад

Just moved to Singapore last month, finding it difficult to make friends.. this video is encouraging Thanks

@jeffjones921 2 года назад

Glad to see it is working out for you. I too moved from Canada to Singapore for work, for a two year stint. That was in 2002 and i am still here...

@-fxoxixa- 9 месяцев назад

So you had a good time and decided to stay, that‘s great! How did you make friends there? I moved to Austria and it is difficult beginning from 0

@mercurychen6185 2 года назад

Also Canadian girl just moved to Singapore!

@Espresso_eden 2 года назад

Such a cute video!! I met my closest friend on Tumblr, and she's from Singapore!! I'm from Australia so I hope to go there and meet her when it's safer to travel internationally soon :)

@NewmaticKe 2 года назад

real soon, like next month

@savannah6859 2 года назад

tip #7 aspire to radiate the same good energy as sherry ☀

@kirtichandel3986 2 года назад

Thank you for the pro tips... ❤️❤️❤️❤️ I am going to apply number 2 and get back to bumble bff.. i gave up after few try but after watching your video i am going to use it more... 😘

@sherrybyw 2 года назад

Bumble BFF can be tiring if you don't find people you click with, so definitely be sure to take time to recharge if you feel drained socially! However, also don't give up!! 🥰

@keenanmiltonrip 2 года назад

I would recommend to start skateboarding: the SG skate community is small but people are very welcoming ! you can make friends just by skating by yourself at any skatepark, or any random spot, whether you are a beginner or pro, regardless of your age !

@sherrybyw 2 года назад

I love this!! A hobby / sport is always a good way to meet people. I've seen some awesome skating communities around Singapore!

@RoyalAvira Год назад

Thanks for sharing this

@babexyakult 2 года назад

Love all 6 tips :) They are so useful!

@sherrybyw 2 года назад

hehe glad to have you as a friend 🥰

@aleksandar2046 2 года назад

You know what? I'm gonna use these tips to make friends in my home country, since I literally have one friend... 😭😂

@babexyakult 2 года назад

Love your top :D Where is it from?

@ohbessiez3774 2 года назад

Love how tan you look in this video! Is it really easy to get tanned in SG? xx

@limchris1563 2 года назад

I used to see your video many years back. At that time you were still a young gal wearing braces. I remember you often spoke in Cantonese. Sometimes, you went to Hong Kong. I'm a S'porean & visit Hong Kong often (pre-covid). The most memorable one was you went to HK & gave funny stories, especially you ordered in cha chann teng with rapid fire pace. I really miss those video in Cantonese. Perhaps 1 of these days, you relive your memories by having a video purely in Cantonese *with English subtitles for those who don't understand Cantonese or a mixture of English with Cantonese thrown in. And welcome to S'pore, albeit belatedly! Hope you enjoy your stay here!

@sherrybyw 2 года назад

Thanks for the support throughout the years! You've certainly watched me grow up on this channel haha. I'd love to do a throwback style, pure Cantonese video (although I think my ability to speak the language has deteriorated a bit 🤣).

@limchris1563 2 года назад

@@sherrybyw Time really flies! You should be here in S'pore at least few years now. At that time, was surprised that you were offered a job in S'pore. I believe you miss Hong Kong as well *(your parents birth place, I presumed).

@madhavichudasama2363 Год назад

Lovely video but what is this lipstick shade, Sherry? 😊

@waiphyooo5176 11 месяцев назад

Love from Myanmar ❤

@Batmobile444 2 года назад

Make friends when you cycle!

@333KINGPIN33 Год назад

Hello from Toronto!

@Evixfel 2 года назад

As a Singaporean who is a Canadian PR and lived in Vancouver for last 3 years I think all your tips are applicable everywhere in the world :) I really like how you managed to keep your English accent. 2 years might be enough to localize your accent. I'm not sure how you're coping with the weather/seasons here. I just find the weather in Singapore a little humid and hot (moved back to sg in August).

@sherrybyw 2 года назад

Thanks so much for sharing Peter!! This makes me happy to hear that you think it's applicable anywhere in the world!

@lilywu9912 2 года назад

I LIKE TIP 6 THE MOST - the last part is the cutest hue hue but excuse me, you are not sick of my face 🤭Moral of the story, be proactive when making friends

@sherrybyw 2 года назад

Just mildly sick of your face 🥰 @the world Definitely be like Lily!! I'm grateful for her reaching out to me back in 2020!

@quakespr 2 года назад

Sadly now we cannot have big meet up.

@Wuyh99 2 года назад

respect

@Tonytayloring 9 месяцев назад

If you stubbornly hang exclusively within expats group or if you have a criteria what sort of friends you only want to hang with e.g affluent/powerful... you will never break out of these bubbles and connect meaningfully with more range of people. And also, colleagues can never be your friends. Personally I avoid meeting big groups, The world is becoming such a treacherous place teeming with fake people and backstabbers in your group photo. Big groups is not something I am proud of I would rather be alone and clique with people who only matters to me

@bentan6218 2 года назад

Great tips. Just surprised that with your bubbly nature you have problems making or meeting new friends. Anyway thanks for the great tips. 🤩

@TheMuthiahmed Год назад

Hi sherry

@runningcomposer1682 2 года назад

Chiobu like you no problem one!!

@ip85 2 года назад

Aw man i felt so sad hearing this, if u ever come to South Africa I swear u can be my bestie! ❤️👸🏻

@sherrybyw 2 года назад

🥺💛

@ip85 2 года назад

@@sherrybyw totally get the natural introvert vibes, you'd never say though your RU-vid content is amazing u come across like an extrovert! 🤗😘👸🏻

@teobenedict1733 2 года назад

i'm local but i am already finding it hard to make friends in singapore :(🙁

@arena6087 2 года назад

Must go to casino I usually make friends at the roulette table hahaha

@aaronf.186 2 года назад

When you look as good as you do, I'm sure making friends isn't too hard.

@cfu8909 Год назад

❤

@user-fb7rf4kr5k 2 года назад

Insider tip: Speak Singlish lah! It's the language that pulls at the heartstrings of over 3 million people in the city-state. The Lost Ojisan--otherwise known simply as Ghib-- and Niel Humphreys, two brave foreigners, have cracked the secret code, after a lot of trial and error, and the whole of Singapore opened up their hearts and minds to them. And if you're a culture geek, live in an HDB like Humphreys at the start. After a few years, you'll be part of the in-crowd like him. Easy.

@khm1217 2 года назад

Now I found out some familiar background songs..... it's IU!!!!!!!!!!!!😝😝😝😝

@thalescoelho3687 2 года назад

Lol RU-vid just recommended me this video - 1st day in Singapore here 😂

@sherrybyw 2 года назад

😂😂😂 I hope it helps!!!

@madcoowsti 2 года назад

You dont need friend, you need ME!!!

@101cabinet 2 года назад

👍

@alphonsusgilana3958 2 года назад

@kerwintan3251 2 года назад

saw u riding your black beauty at sentosa this morning, hows the ride coming along?

@sherrybyw 2 года назад

Omg! Haha you should say hi next time! Enjoying the hills with my new cycling shoes for sure :)

@kerwintan3251 2 года назад

@@sherrybyw couldn't really confirm until i saw the black rapha jersey and black cycling shoes, but yes, will say hi next time, did u enjoy climbs there?

@Wuyh99 2 года назад

juz curious how much is the rough salary of a expat? hmm she seems to be living her life well in a condo and etc 🤔

@sergiysanin4767 2 года назад

To meet a stranger from online app is gutsy...??? Out of such a huge multitude of other options so readily available during 2 years of full or partial incarceration?

@kennleong7519 2 года назад

Come. Bring your bike to Malaysia. :P

@knighnp 2 года назад

After reading some things about Singapore, is it true that it's illegal to have a group of more than three people gather after 10 pm?

@joelkhoo57 2 года назад

a lot of us aren't as "legal" as the cuntry may seem

@joelkhoo57 2 года назад

it's kinda like we break the law but we look behind our back lol

@andrew097 2 года назад

Join a club of something your interested in. You will hang out with people who share the same and in no time you are part of the community. My two are cycling and rugby, they both are passports to friendships throughout the world.

@sherrybyw 2 года назад

Passports to friendships. I love that

@peacenwachokor1944 Год назад

I want be friends with you but i do.nt have phone

@mlee1308 2 года назад

What does byw stand for?

@sherrybyw 2 года назад

Haha good question! Those are my initials for my middle/last name actually 😄

@donalcunningham1225 3 месяца назад

Thanks Sherry, very positive!😃I find it good to keep in touch with those you grew up with, if possible! Your family! Then work, those you live with, and basically doing activities you enjoy and organising things, like monthly cycle outings etc...Church is a great way to meet people and feel at peace too! Jesus Christ is ultimately the only one who will fulfil us totally and give us that feeling of comfort and confidence!🤟

@rlrh1996 2 года назад

me: how tf do you make new friends after uni in the city you were born in?

@victorvaldez760 2 года назад

JBW is the most brutal pill in singapore .. m sure can easily find a new wite boi to fill your void every weekend

@Tantemify 2 года назад

good looking girl

@jasonong7097 2 года назад

Can just PM me or join a Meetup group :-)

@sherwinsalvatori6997 2 года назад

You definitely cute

@albertkoey 2 года назад

Meeting strangers of the same gender is easier and safer. On the other hand, IMHO, for a girl to meet a male stranger for the first time can be dangerous. Even in Singapore. Just take precautions, like meeting in a very public place, no alcoholic drinks, no dark places, etc. So, can we meet up? Wait.... consider first... I'm a guy, faceless RU-vid profile, total stranger who could be some weirdo. Best NOT to meet up. lol Anyway, take care and stay healthy and don't be friends with Covid-19. :)

@Tonytayloring 9 месяцев назад

If you perceive all opposite gender to be dangerous, then we can forget about chances of making friends with the opposite gender. Because thats the perception that limits us

@jemhor 2 года назад

All cyclist are friends!

@sherrybyw 2 года назад

The cycling community is SO awesome!! I love how nice everyone is when people cycle past each other in the morning and smile & say good morning! 😆

@jemhor 2 года назад

@@sherrybyw you’ll never have no friends in cycling unless you decides to 😉

@retroworldnews 2 года назад

haha, no friends than your neighbours is who? :P

@christinalee4523 2 года назад

LOVE this video and wish I had it when I moved to Singapore in 2019 with 0 friends 🥲 the tip that resonated with me the most is bumble bff. I was skeptical at first but it’s a game changer, and led to us being friends! 🥰 just get out there and your group will fall into place!

@sherrybyw 2 года назад

MY SISTER 🥰 Forever grateful for Bumble BFF and Leah for bringing us together!!

@Nolra08 2 года назад

The most safe tip if you are new to the place is to make friends at work coz it is hard to work with no friends. If you are invited by your co-workers to some gathering then you can grow your network of friends if you attend to those. If you are not so active or shy to talk to people(introverted) maybe you can find friend from playing games online. Haha Just find people who will make you comfortable with...

@sherrybyw 2 года назад

I totally agree - comfort is key!!