I don't date anymore. That way lies madness. (I was married for 10 years, dated for a few years after the divorce, then settled into my comfortable life alone.)
Lots of really good ideas in this. Being more of an introverted person myself, I do tend to like to get to know a person before asking them out. Naturally, I tend to be more attracted to introverted people, so this poses interesting challenges.😹 Getting multiple perspectives on the topic is quite interesting.
I've never understood the logic of girls giving their numbers to guys. Because then the guy can pester her continuously. If a guy gives her a calling card with his number, she can call if she wants or just ignore him. That way, she's safe.
I have no idea how to flirt, I can't read someone's face, I don't really know how to "normal" basically anything, as you can probably tell ... I like women, but I also don't want to have anyone in my personal space ... I feel like I'm broken, like I'm stuck between straight and ace .... But also not sure if it's truely a kind of ace or a blanket idea of ace ... Anyway, I've kinda semi decided to just not bother with any relationships as I'm not confident in anything, I feel like a child at times, I look creepy, I don't trust compliments but that's probably caused by overblown nothingness, I don't know if I love anyone or if it's just familiarity ... I don't know Well, bare minimum, I got to vent
Some good advice here, although seems more universal than specific to Scotland. Some observations from a guys perspective: Like the idea of giving your number rather than asking for one. Also agree with being mindful of the environment and situation when approaching. Wouldn't stress to much on "Are they out of my league". You don't know them or what they find attractive in a person. A lot of good looking girls I have know complain that most guys are to afraid to ask them out, so just giving it a shot might work out. I've found creepy depends more on the perspective of the person being approached. If they find you attractive it's cute, if they don't then it's creepy. Obviously they are lines that would be creepy no matter what, but in general they will either be receptive or not.
As frustrating as it is about the lockdown, I would happily trade places with you. Instead of here where people are walking around with no mask. It will be over soon. ☺️
I can never understand the whole thing of asking out someone you just passed by in the street or in a shop or wherever, all the girls I've asked out are close friends
I'll have to keep this in mind, cause I'm the socially awkward one who can't tell the difference between flirting and just being nice. Pretty sound advice.
Being prepared to just volunter _my_ number instead of asking for _hers_ is something I would not have considered, but it's an interesting idea. Personally, I use my voicemail for call screening, but I think any woman (especially nowadays) is going to understand that.
I just wanna say thank you because I'm currently writing a book where my protagonist dates a Scottish lass and your videos (new & old) have been really helpful in developing a more genuine Scottish character and interaction. In fact that's how I found your videos to begin with and I'm happy I did.
I have to share my story of a guy starting a conversation/hitting on me. I am a Finnish woman, 44yo at the moment. This happened when I was about 19, I think I was in the upper secondary school aka high school. I was walking our dog out with my boyfriend at the time and we lived in the country here. So very little village, just about 200 people in the nearby. Nobody in sigh, just us. A car stopped by and a young guy popped his head out and said hello. We get very good schooling here so English is nothing scary to come by, so I told my boyfriend to go on with the dog and I will catch them after helping this tourist. Wich he very much was. He asked where the nearest priest is and of course I started to give him directions to there, because I am helpful. :) The guy looked a bit baffled but thanked me and turned the car around and I jogged to the bf and our dog. Years later I finally got it. He was trying to make a joke and he hit on me... And I gave him directions as a good Finn. Sometimes you just have to be blunt. Say what you mean and don’t skip around :)
Good advice! I think, everyone could adher to these 'chatting up' points! Can't wait to get my Covid-19 passport, then I'll be crossing the North Sea, asap!! 🤣💙 - love from Denmark 🌸💕
But you were safe, and not like in a place where they just open up everything and people die, and they just ignore that fact. I'm torn, myself, between wanting this hide-a-way lockdown to continue forever, and wanting to find another person who I can touch to break the creeping solipsism. Dating is just >>>>
For me the first thing I would have to do, is get out of my house and travel across the Atlantic, but all international flights are suspended here in Canada 🇨🇦. Second, I would have to have the money💰to do such, and third, I would have to not love my wife, I guess I should have listed that first😇.
This is Lord Wellington🧐 I just saw the Loch Ness Monster this past week. But I saw this and I thank you for letting me know not to ask for a Scottish Woman's number at Nite. I rather doubt that I'll be doing that in Scotland now that I've seen this. I plan to go to the Loch one day and see Nessie in person.
This Pandemic sucks but, YOU do Not!! 🤗Too Cute! If our stores in America cut the sales of everything BUT food, the Karens' and Kens' minds would MELT!!
This is a good video that might apply in any country. Where I am in Maryland, USA, one girl told me girls don't call guys, but I've had other girls call me when I told them to. Also, one good sign I found is when a girl has a wide eyed look of lust on her face when looking at me, she's interested.
Visited Glasgow in 1998. My friend and I would ask people at the bar if they knew a good bar for a certain type of music. Good convo starter. The Clash was our favorite. People would sometimes have good recs, but if not, it was always good for a bit of chat.
NO! Dont give them your work number!!! Nothing worse than having some nut calling you at work. I had this happen, the dude would not stop calling. I was in a cube and co-workers could hear me asking this guy to stop calling no matter how quietly I said it.The more I hung up on him the more he called. It was a nightmare!
As a rule never ask out a girl you wish to date, at a bar (pub), they are probably there for the same reasons you are. I found a compliment at an outdoor event goes much further. Never ask a girl for her number, rather ask her if it is okay to give her yours with the stipulation that she is not obligated to call.
While it would be a very long distance relationship for me here in Detroit to have a girlfriend in Scotland, for you it would be worth it! 100% Clan MacFarlane:Loch Sloy!
Texas was never on lockdown. Mask mandates have been lifted but some stores still say wear a mask. But I never do.I’ve been setting my garden up last few days
Even at 60 I have several late 20s and 30 ish Philipinas that want a LDR, long distance relationship.🙄🤔 I'll wait till I can meet them. Great video Tammy 👍🙏🐺
I wonder if a lot of Scottish/British women in the 2000’s gave the number to the rejection hotline. Was the rejection hotline in those countries, or just the US?
It's harder for Lesbians to go out to eat. The "Where do you want to eat? I don't know, where do you want to eat? " is a endless loop rivaling "Rinse, lather, repeat.".
I'm African. Been in Aberdeen for a while now. Getting a girl here is quite tough. I have applied some of these things you said, none worked. What other ways do you recommend making a Scottish girl fall in love with you? I would appreciate if you can respond to this.
Then there are guys like me who would just enjoy a dinner companion. Someone local and attractive for pleasant conversation and insider info on what the menu offerings actually are. Light conversation and some laughter is good in a strange place. No, I'm not a brash loud Yank. I'm quiet and respectful until it becomes time to not be quiet and respectful lol
Thank you for another very informative Vlog, I watch everything you put out in hopes of learning as much as possible about your culture as I'm planning to come to Scotland in 2022 for the purpose of relocating and making it my home. So thank you again for all your Vlogs and hard work, your amazing !!
I'm glad I'm so old that asking someone out would only result in a good laugh. It's a lot easier, because ladies, I'm not all that. Haven't been for 20 years!
Good Evening Lassie Tammy! How are you and your family holding up during this stupid virus? Anyways, I just anted to tell you Happy Women's Day to you, Beautiful,,,you are Rockin' Awesome! 😊🤗💙🤍💙🌈🦄🦋💐 btw, good tips on dating,,,I would love to try them out sometime! 😁
Yeah way to complicated unfortunately. Best to go your own way and enjoy the moment! After hearing just looking at a female can put you in legal jeopardy I'll go camping and enjoy the wilderness/scenery.
07:32. You give her your number. You switch off your phone to charge it. Next morning, 32 calls or messages left on your phone, each becoming more accusatory and passive aggressive then the previous one? That's what we guys call a "red flag". Any advice for that? ;)
