How to Avoid Divorce By Preparing Correctly in Singleness: 5 Christian Relationship Tips 

"Hurt people hurt people." This is incredibly true

Lust is the worst foundation to start with a relationship or disobeying God .It will dwindle . Sinful lust always craving more .

My word! When he started talking about lust, he struck literal fear into my heart. It makes me all the more determined to remain sexually pure and keep the marriage bed undefiled.

Thanks Mark. I gave your video a thumbs up. Here are few of my responses and thoughts: 1. not "learning to fight fair" (time index 6:25): I prefer the phrase "conflict resolution" Conflict is inevitable, so couples need to learn to negotiate, politely express frustration, and resolve conflicts. I also like Stephen Covey's habit of working toward "Win/Win" solutions. (Yes, we likely have different theology than Dr Covey, but I still like his "7 Habits of Highly Effective People" book.) 2. "learned to be respectful even in disagreement" YES-- this is important. Eph 4:29--YES very good. Did you mention Ephesians 4:15 a "Instead, speaking the truth in love,..." That's a great verse too. It's important to attack (fix) the conflict/problem, NOT ATTACK the other PERSON. We mustn't let our "Flesh" guide us. 3. "not sin in your anger" YES very important! 4. Forgiveness--YES! 5. "Hurt people hurt people" Yes, unfortunately this happens every day. thanks again Mark. /

Dropping truths like always brother!!!! 💪😎🔥🙏🙌

This man just dropped nothing but facts 💯

I wish I could find your channel earlier and you have such good and encouraging messages and advices and you convinced me in this video that I did one of the best choices in my life to end up my ex-relationship before ruin my marriage. With God's help and my parents I could open up my eyes to see the reality and the ordeal that would come after marrying the wrong person. After a year I am more happy with this decision and I know that God has a godly girl for me somewhere and he still preparing me and changing me in the right way for us to be matched for each other. Greetings from Romania and may God bless you and your family.

Very well explained. Thank you for the key words "you have to develop that skill". So well said.

One of your best videos! Everything spot on.

Well....thanks. Man, God really do talks to his children. Now, I understand why I have been single for a reason

Mark you the man, blessings

I see now. Thank you so much.

This was so good! So many golden nuggets✨

This is great. You named explicit reasons named in the Bible. I believe there are also implicit reasons for divorce in the Bible: Abuse, Spouse keeping you from worshiping God and Husband who is not taking care of his family. Obviously even with these or the ones you named prayer and counseling should be consulted before a divorce, but in no way are any of these His best.

Mark..... Thank you brother as always...... Thank you.......

Thank you for this insightful video! Point 3 stood out to me.

100%.. and from someone who struggles with lust, jealousy, passive aggression, social anxiety, low self-worth etectra and is disabled to top it off I am really going to have to think twice and pray before getting into another relationship..and really analyze and pray if marriage is something that is God's plan for my life.

Great message! Thank you! God bless!

this was so awesome. so much truth to think over. thanks ❤❤❤❤

Oh brother this is excellent. I had to really listen and yes this is great!

One of Your Best Messages.... I have examples for each making the Truth visible in the World

Can you do a video on how one can date for marriage in long distance relationship?

Amen Amen. 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 Thank You Brother Mark true words spoken.

Excellent tips!!!

and remember traditional gender roles hahahaha.......always gotta throw that one in there. 😅 submit, respect, provide and love....

Helpful. Thank you brother 😊

Great teaching! Another point I would add, is to learn about what is important to the person you want to marry! Different things are important to men than to women, and between the same genders even sometimes. Our congregation just celebrated the festival of Purim, and as it happened on International Women's Day", I thought of the contrast between the queen VASHTI, and the one who replaced her, ESTHER. VASHTI was celebrated for her beauty, but when her husband the King requested her presence at a banquet so he could 'show how beautiful she was to his guests" she refused him. I think our society is totally teaching 'Vashti-ism", in that teaching it is OK to disrespect your husband in such a way, and even much worse...in front of others!! The apostle Paul states that men are to love their wives, and that women are to RESPECT their husbands. Men NEED respect, and if their wife does not give them that, who is?? Esther, on the other hand, honored her husband, .and not just because he was the King. If a wife does not honor her husband by meeting that very basic need of his, how can she honor GOD, in whose image her husband was created?😊

Best video!! Spot on!! Thank you!! 💕💕

Thank you much needed message

God bless you ! You are doing a good Job.

What about abuse? I have known people who never were abused until after marriage. I could’ve sworn I saw something in the Bible about abuse in marriage awhile back. I will look and get back. 🤔

In short... Marriage is super hard.....

How many years should you wait for reconciliation with your ex spouse before you give up?

I think forgiveness is a very valuable trait and it should be learned but not everything is ok and if someone is being mistreated forgiveness is not the answer sometimes walking away because God tells you to is

Speak so respectfully Ephesians 4:29

Truth 🙏😊

So true

Not finding healing for the past relationship

Forgiveness is the best

Ephesians 4:32

Ephesians 4:26

Good stuff 👏

Never learning to fair

Hi Mark. A family member is married to a Christian husband, however he is very angry, controlling and dismissive towards her behind the scenes. We see it to some degree in the open, but behind closed doors it is full on. He goes to all the men's groups and is involved in church leadership, where he puts on the right front and says the right things. I think he thinks it's OK to treat his wife and kids as lesser beings. Is there any way we can confront him without him taking it out on her or us? We've all tried to call him out on it in the past, but get told to butt out. We aren't a family that meddles in each others lives, but it has been shocking what is coming to light. I don't condone separation or divorce, however I'm not sure how longer she should stay in this situation. Ideas??

John 15:5

Why I have to suffer this kind of relationship

Is it alright to date a man who is divorced or separated and has two kids?

Forgiveness is always something we should do but putting up with evil is not ok Jesus got mad when people were selling in the house of the lord. He hates sin I don't think putting up with ungodly lifestyle from your partner or someone you date is ever ok.

So what about abuse

What about abuse as a reason for divorce.

1 Corinthians 7:15

My only critique would be that divorce in abusive situations is also possibly acceptable. Exodus 21 describes providing for a bond woman who divorces. It would seem to be much more so for an abused wife or husband to also be provided for after divorce. People are literally dead after being told by church leaders to go back to their abusive spouses who left visible marks on their bodies. So at least separation from the abuser is needed.

If a couple has not experience the love of God for themselves and are not in love with God fist they wont be able to love their spouse the right way or forgive them 70 five 7 like Jesus say even christian need to be educated these day they dont the difference between love and lust that's why we are having divoce among christian as much as wordily people

What is your view on pre- nuptial agreement? Is is a Christian thing to do?

What is your advice on a cheating fiance? Should one go ahead with marriage?

Can wife just obey husband and let husband rule?

Women initiate divorce 80% of the time. My advice is, if you must get married then do it in a religious ceremony only. Do not involve the state! There's too much risk and too little reward for men to keep buying into their traditional roles, with untraditional women. Be blessed!

My stbx is an atheist, addicted to porn, has cheated on me, and has made it clear he doesn’t want a divorce but doesn’t want to be with me. People have told me I should stay in the marriage because we have children and as long as he wants to be in the marriage I should just suck it up. Another person told me that this is my chance to show him God’s grace and I will win him over someday. I am in counseling for severe depression over this.

If God choose a husband or a wife for you, forget about divorce because it will never happen.

Christian and orthodox differences

What about abuse (physical and emotional) and addiction? I have a friend whose life in in consent ruin because her husband is an alchoholic. She keeps praying for him put I feel prayer doesnt change free agency and will not change him without him having a willingness to be lead by God. I stayed with my ex who was controling and emotional abusive. I stayed because divorce is a sin. This choice to stay hurt my children and I. I feel bad I am grateful he cheated on me lots because his cheating freed me to divorce him. If I never found out he cheated I would have further hurt my children and myself. My ex always has a girlfriend. He can replace a women in three months. Yet I have stayed single for eight years. I could not get into a relationship if I walked into it and it tried to devour me. Its annoying doing whats right and having a godly character means nothing to Christian men seeking a relationship. Oh well. I will just keep trucking along following God. You gave good advice.

Christ is the key to healthy relationship

Learn how to forgive us as Jesus forgives us

Find a woman that doesn't care about having a huge wedding, expensive ring, and doesn't need a marriage license and you're all set 👍🏻

I disagree about the adultery provision. I don't have the verses handy; but, I'm sure you'll know of them. God doesn't prefer divorce for any reason other than becoming unyolked to an unbeliever that desires it. He permits divorce amongst Christians when there's a "hardening of the heart." This, I understand to be as scarring (more acute) or calcification (more chronic) of the heart. Adultery will cause the heart to be wounded. But, the fact that it's occurred isn't the justfication. The justification is the damages to the victimised spouse. Personally, my ex found an aspiration for celebacy. The Bible says to not deny each other. Wounding? I tell you: yes! Enough of my experience. I'm not trying to present it for crtiquing but, to express that it is the permanent damages to the heart, not a specific act. Holy Matrimony is the commitment/contract/Covenant- before (or under God's Juristiction) between man and woman to become one. A Marriage License is of a lower authority. The Covenant before God isn't subordinate to the laws of governments. Whatever the Legal status, the Covenant- or lack thereof- isn't effected. The Covenant can exist without a License and, the Covenant isn't established because of a License. The Covenant (or lack of one) before God isn't effected by the legal status between the two. The legal status is a matter of choice between people, will be subjected to the laws of governments; but, cannot alter God's Sovereignty over a Covenant or His non-involvement in the absence of one.

Cheating

I wanna put that line be angry and dp not sin in a wall in the house

Leaving a life of unfaithfulness

The best way to avoid divorce is not to get married!

Bitterness

Unbelieving spouse

❤️🙏Matthew 19:9 Adultery