@@edholohan it’s actually a pretty good saying I’m not saying you are stupid but you need to be open minded I’m trying to be at my best so why don’t you?
"Throw me to the Wolves and I will return leading the pack." --Seneca I repeat this idea every single day, several times a day. It has changed my life in ways I never imagined.
A true stoic is above that. He/ she can use logical thought to determine if the habit is useful or not long before it manifests in their behaviours. That's what makes being a stoic so hard. The ability to entertain an idea and not accept it as fact is one of the harder things to do in life.
@Lucas Sommelet Good catch. It's a contradiction. "Be friends with someone who wants to improve together." Or something like this in the video. That would be good enough.
As an aspiring stoic I must say the 5th one is very true, if someone really hurts you in a way that engages your mind and maybe makes you rageful just take a moment to process all the things in your mind and react calmly after a few mintues you'd be thankful you didn't get all raged up, my anger issues became worse by the day but doing this helped a lot.
1. Logic over emotions eg: traffic If it under your control change it if not ignore it 2. Everyone is mortal. Even you. Change is universal law of nature. You are lucky to enjoy things you have now. Eg missing loved ones 3. After planning, rehearse both positive and negative outcome Eg: schedule 4. Use challenge as opportunity to become a good virtue person 5. Pause and take a deep breath. If someone provokes you, take a moment to realise it and calm your mind. Again logic over emotions 6. Other-ize: if it's for others we will be call but if it's for you then you will be painful. 7. Speak little and well, be brief. You got two ears and a single mouth. Stay away from gossips and pausing judgements. 8. Spend time with people who are better than you so you could learn from them. 9. Respond with humour to criticism, don't take it personally. What they speak about you isn't in your control. Laugh, so that you don't took it personally. 10. Don't speak about yourself. No one's going to get excited by you, they want to be their hero. 11. Don't judge, because you don't know what's their situation is, there is limits to your understanding of their situation. See the world as it is. 12. Reflect on your day. What's done or undone. Be glad that you woke up everyday.
This is so incredibly helpful to me. I'm a uni student, but I struggle with avoidance and test anxiety. Also, my job is stressful because my bosses frequently clash, and the rest of the staff have to walk on eggshells. Thank you for the upload.
5 months ago I started to learn about Stoicism and try to apply it for myself. I felt like I am more calm and different person that I was before. And I want to improve more
That’s true. All the more interesting is how easy and accessible the philosophy is when uncoupled from the bizarre and intentionally abstruse contrivances of Zen koans. That shit was probably just invented to keep an underclass of trainee monks confused and stick around to maintain the temples.
Wow, I've been practicing stoicism for years and never knew. It was for different reasons though I think. I moved a lot growing up so I was always changing schools. I developed the ability to read faces and hear the meaning and intent surrounding words. I became paranoid at this thinking that if I barely 11 years old could see through people than others can see through me. I didn't see myself as special so I learned to reveal nothing. I became stoic but out of paranoid self preservation rather than true enlightenment.
You did what you needed to do, and created a coping mechanism out of need to survive your situation. There's nothing wrong with that. What else is stoicism except a similar - although maybe a little more refined mechanism to help us cope, survive and better ourselves? "True enlightenment" is something one can pursue, but never really reach. A person can be only so enlightened, but maybe a collection of shared experiences, knowledge, and wisdom - or a philosophy can help us further down that path.
I think by far the hardest thing is not reacting emotionally and taking a step back to breath. My emotional reactions feel out of my control sometimes. Especially if it's a more serious situation. When it's all said and done, I ALWAYS regret how I reacted and know I could've done better. But in that moment, it just feels so impossible, no matter how many steps back or how many breaths.
Some people say this is part of gaslighting, but if it is applied to oneself it won't be damaging. Google about cognitive reframing. For example, when you feel upset, instead of labelling it as you being anxious, what if you acknowledge the possibility that it might be an excitement? Don't identify with emotions, they are malleable and mutable. Some knowledge about CBT might also help regarding cognitive distortions. It is hard, since most of us naturally identify with our emotions, and emotions actually make up a part of our identity. One must be willing to not be attached to one's own identity.
Stoicism isn't about repressing your emotions and becoming a machine. It's about letting yourself feel them, asking yourself what is the cause of this emotion, and then resolving that problem, if IT IS in your control, and if it isn't? Then you can control the way you react to it. And you learn this over time. Its all about becoming a better version of yourself everyday. With stoicism, you'll become like that without even realizing. Good luck soldier :).
I am currently struggling with good honest living vs having faith in something beyond me. That is a really bad summary of my present situation, so I'll just say this video might just save my life. Thank you for this! I've always liked the saying "Plan the plan, not the result".
Only a white racists would quote that out od context and believe they have achieve some kind of epiphany!- Think about it- If you have access to everything material that there is to have like white people on this planet have now, what else is there fro you to to want? But then after having subjugating the rest of the planet , raping their women, killing their men in droves and robbing them of their natural resources you pop up and make what appears to be a simple benign statement: “Wealth consists not in having great possessions, but in having few wants.” ―Epictetus Epictetus was a slave and within the context of his slave life, that comment makes perfect sense. But as a private equity guy, probably a Trump butt licking, MAGA card carrying racist, you are absolved from all the past deeds of progenitors! You racists are really evil, selfish, stuck with your head so deep so far up your digestive track you can't even smell the caca you are swimming in!! Wake the frack up man- there are other people on this planet besides you white folks and although your race has made sure that the rest of us are kept enslaved and hungry it will. not always be that way! but I th mean time, why don't you speak to that possession and want imbalance in that vein!
Like the rest of the series, this one too was a practical guide to living. The examples shared are illustrative and the content is in simple language so that any one can understand it. Keep up your good work.
I just discovered stoicism, and idk if im wrong, but im an INFJ and i have a mindset very close to that of a stoic, maybe not exactly, and maybe it's not because of my personality type, but it's amazing to see that stoicism exists because this is how i always thought peoples mindsets should be like.
I've never realized it until just now but I have always been a stoic by nature. I feel a sense of belonging now that I have a name to the ideology of self-control, rationality, integrity and kindness. I just always tried to hold myself to a higher standard I am not perfect I fail many times but I just don't like to give in to base animal instincts and have logical faculties guide my actions. not to say I can't experience, joy, happiness, sadness or anger but I don't outwardly express negative emotions and I like to present myself accordingly even if I am overjoyed I don't want to appear as out of control or strange.
It really really astonishes me and baffles me how more than a few interpretations of Islam, some of its philosophies or schools are very very similar to stoicism ! Really wisdom exists with every human regardless of his background
I am new to Stoicism and I am loving learning about it. Thank you @PhilosophiesForLife for the content. As a person who works a lot with film and voice specifically, I feel obligated to point out the splice error at 06:07. An easy thing to over look especially when we repeat phrases like that in normal speech. Other wise, keep it up. The content is wonderful.
“A blazing fire makes flame and brightness out of everything that is thrown into it.” - Marcus Aurelius. This is what most resonates with my personal life - every tragedy gives you the opportunity to strengthen yourself and overcome adversities and obstacles, growing stronger and wiser as a person.
I honestly really like this, it turns out I've been living this way for as long as Ive been old enough to but I have one real issue with the points brought up in this video. I dont beleive it's beneficial to only befriend those you deem 'better than yourself' or just 'philosophers'. I find that notion entirely hypocritical with the surrounding suggestions of not judging anyone. Judgement goes both ways, and while you should not see friends as 'projects' the same as you might see possibility to enlighten and educate them on your way of life, the same should be the said in opposition, and others should not be venerated above yourself either. As you say, we are all doing what we can, dwelling on measuring your friends on a personal scale of 'stoicness' is fruitless, it leads to envy, to pity or nowhere at all. Truthfully, I feel as though an effective stoic can befriend whoever they like, because they acknowledge that they are not the same people, and while they can enjoy their friendship, they can also observe, learn and grow with that friend in lessons of both good and bad. This notion of dirty ingredients ones self with the company of those already dirty seems entirely hypocritical.
Thank you so much for sharing this insightful video on how to be a stoic! Your explanation was clear and engaging, providing valuable tips and lessons that are truly helpful. I appreciate your effort in bringing these timeless principles to life. Looking forward to more great content from you! 🌟
- Examine your impresions - Remind yourself of the impermanence of things. - The reverse clause: Make the goal whose outcome you can fully control - Practice philosophy here and now - Pause, Take a deep break and detach to rationally examine your feelings. - Otherize: The universe is not after anyone in particular. - Speak Little and Well - Choose your Company well - Respond to insults with humour. - Don't speak too much about yourself - See the world as it is. - Reflect the day.
I've been watching stoic videos & loving them more & more. I'm going to order some books on stoicism be excellent to my friends, family, community & myself.
My gf left me after 3 years. I am completely heartbroken. I want to understand why I feel like this, and what I can do to make myself feel better. I will practice being stoic.
Time keeps flowing, life keeps going. You might not feel better or figure it out today nor tomorrow nor the next week or month, but just keep going. That's what life is about, to continue going no matter what. For the sake of living. For the sake of being alive while you still can. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. Get drunk on that strength and embrace pain. It will be your best friend for life.
I have been a practicing stoic for about three months now and I got to say the mindset of a stoic is hard to achieve. This is why you practice it and set small goals every day to day life. It was rough the first few weeks but now I am getting a hang of it, still lots to learn about my philosophy of life but you just gotta keep practicing. If you're really interested in stoicism then I'll list the common steps to take in order to attain tranquility and virtue. -Negative Visualization, wanting the things that you already have -The Dichotomy of control (others, like myself, would argue it's the trichotomy of control) -Fatalism, letting go of the past and present basically -Self-Denial, basically put yourself out of your comfort zone. Basically. -Meditation on your progress of stoicism (of course you don't need to do this but it's optional. I personally think you should self-reflect every now and then). I hope that these mental exercises come to help you on your journey to stoicism!
That’s rough man my gf left me after 3 years two months ago too.. worst part about it she got pregnant and told me I was going to be a father but ended up not being mine. I can’t control the choices and outcomes other people make but I can control how I take them internally, I view the world as it is and that’s all that really can be done.
Thank you for simplifying epictetus’ word in a way that allows for me to better understand the value of the stoic philosophy as well as discovering more about my own in the process. Much love to the creators
I’ve been for a few months acting stoic at work, I show no emotion, no anger nothing, of course I don’t behave like an asshole, I treat everyone with respect, but whenever there’s a confrontation about work, I don’t argue, I stay silent, I’ve pissed people off without saying a single word 🤣
Indeed, Madam Butterfly is right. "Acting stoic" sounds like a facade. It's not about trolling or pissing other people off, but improving yourself. If you internalize the essence of the philosophy, you can be stoic, instead of acting.
I never looked at philosophy and one year in school I was so bitter and hateful of everything around me that I shut myself in for all of my junior year and I just thought of everything I had and the way people are around me and how I could be better and more accepting than those I disliked And since then I have had wonderful and Fortunate look of life. I’ve only heard of the word stoic and the general definition of holding on the emotions inside and not showing it to others and I believe that of myself. Now looking at these videos I am glad I have kept a good philosophy in my life that I did not know existed.
Beautiful video; already shared to a few folks I care about. Just getting going down this path of enlightenment. Cheers, thank you for your contributions to my personal journey
I just watched about three videos of yours in my You tube queue. I will comment here on the general level of the content you have presented. Top notch!!! I grew from what I got from your work. You are mining from very rich gold mines of wisdom...I'm clicking like, I'm already subscribed---Sam
I just discovered this philosophy I wish I had been taught earlier but I'm enlightened to discover I'm a natural stoic dude. I'm going to work on some points.
Going through many problems in my life rn and ik the results are going to be negative so tats y i started practicing stoicism to control my emotions so i don't go depressed. Btw nice video thank you.....
i held a lot of these philosophies most of my life. i dont know where i picked them in particular, probably books I've read plus life experiences..... I'm also an introvert. my husband is an extrovert and we clash miserably because he is DEFINITELY not stoicminded at all. he's very loud, boisterous, loves to brag about his experiences and accomplishments and thinks everyone loves his insight and his help improving their flaws (oftentimes unasked for) I have a difficult time going with him anywhere. I have always been able to read body language and can see how uncomfortable he makes people. he's oblivious. when i tried explaining stoicism to him he rejected the whole thing. i guess there is a place in the world for people like that... he's a professional salesman and quite successful at it. his own philosophy is "if i can do it/survive it/learn it then so can anyone else." mixed with a lot "reject all negative feelings! happiness is the only emotion worth feeling!"
wrong. depends on how they grow up. some extroverts rarely talk about themselves and care more about work and work and helping people. they're already stoics unconsciously.
Stoicism didn't "fade away" my friend...it was eliminated, along with all the Greek schools of thought, by the church, which promptly absorbed what they considered the most useful bits. St. Augustine was a Stoic, who brought some of it's precepts into the church. However the church replaced will with God, thus taking away the most powerful part of the philosophy. Its unfortunate.
A very very good video for the people who r on the route of being a stoic. I wish u could simply cut into pieces of 'elaborated'one point at time for beginners.
It seems to me that, in general, people don't want to review themselves and their actions to improve themselves if it means giving up their prejudices. Especially in todays toxic environment. Maybe it's pride or the need to belong, fear...? I'm not sure but, probably some combination.
Epictetus: "Don't gossip or make judgements about people behind their back, it's rude!" Also Epictetus: "Don't bother wasting your time fraternizing with those dastardly 'non-philosophers', you don't want to sink to their level 🧐"
To be fair; Epictetus does not single any one person out or cast any subjective judgment in those words. They do not follow philosophy. It's not an insult, but a fact.
I used to think it was cold & harsh when my secondary school teacher would tell her students to "Build a bridge & get over it" when they'd tell her that they were having trouble overcoming being molested,neglected,bullied & abused, but because my teacher never experienced being treated like that herself in her childhood she was oblivious at how powerfully damaging abuse is,so she was more prone to "Other-ize" it
@@mayanboricua I'm not sure where you got the idea that my secondary school teacher had published her biography, let alone me read it.....Anyway I think about the same of my secondary school teacher now as I did then,in that she's somewhat superficial & she could have done with some empathy training. At-least now it's illegal for her to dismiss any student concerns if they mention being abused to her, you know, because as a teacher she's a mandated reporter
I'm here because a doctor once told me that my mom seemed stoic. Then he asked whether I'm stoic. I didn't know how to answer at the time. He asked because he was looking for genetic behavioral tendencies, which I'm sure my family and I certainly do share.
So many gems of wisdom here. The modern definition of stoicism and being stoic has lost the original meaning and wisdom. Thanks for sharing this wonderful summary.
Introversion, Introspective... amazing how us introverts have the upper hand at stoicism. I would think that I have a lot to learn about stoicism, it is probably as hard as you can ever think. But it's good to have confidence, so I agree 👍
i used to think people who talked about "the wisdom of the ancients" as total freaks but now i get that these great men from history where so much more insightful and intellectual than most modern thinkers
A part of society probably thinks of stoicism as weird and not worth of their time. So it's okay, as long as you don't judge them first without at least studying their nature ✨ and I agree
A part of society probably thinks of stoicism as weird and not worth of their time. So it's okay, as long as you don't judge them first without at least studying their nature ✨ and I agree
I recently had that exact experience in my life where I was up for a promotion, gave my all, and didn’t get it. It’s hard but if you tried your best you don’t get it just look forward and see why it happened.
Just realised that my dad has raised me all that time on stoic principles and he was literaly a bold example of stoicism without ever knowing the word "stoicism" how interesting...
