How To Become More Emotionally & Spiritually Attractive - PIES Explained 

This advice is so spot on. I’ve been married for 38 years and can now see all my flaws. Thank you for your wisdom.

People need to learn to genuinely listen to their partners. Refusing to listen with the attitude the they are smarter than their partner is a recipe for ruining the relationship.

Here is the point I think we should ALL remember....why should we not always remember that it's our choice in a relationship to build up our significant other and I do this for my wife because she deserves to be empowered and encouraged. She deserves to be loved despite her imperfections and mistakes. If we only loved people when they did the right things, then the first time ANY of us made a mistake we would be lonely as hell. That's not love then! And I love my wife. I always will. That's why I am standing alone for my marriage. To fight for it, to fight for her, because my marriage and her are worth it. I want her to believe in herself and know that she can turn things around, if she just remembered that she's not alone. That she can do anything if only she would believe in herself. She doesnt need validation from people who don't give a shit about her really when she already had someone she is married to that validates her, that loves her, misses her, and is STILL waiting for her. That STILL needs her. Not for anything materialistic wise, but needs her companionship. That wants her friendship, and her conversation....I want my wife back!!!

Fantastic advise - I had NO IDEA I was doing so many things to reduce my attractiveness to my wife - in hindsight it's obvious, but before Dr. Beam's ingenious advise, I couldn't see it.

Emotional attractiveness is basically charisma

You guys are Anointed.... thank you... You're like my secret weapons...

I watched this video because my 11 year marriage is almost sexless and I'm physically fit and Ive approached my husband for more frequent sex but he has chosen to withdraw and look at internet ...... I am not even really upset that he looks at it I'm upset that I m not getting laid !!!! I'm faithful and don't look to the internet at all I look to my husband for sexual fulfillment but I'm not getting it. I found the pies extremely helpful and I can see how and why this is happening. I want to thank you very much for opening my eyes and helping me to understand what I can do to get my married life back where it should be!!!! Its going to be a lot of work but I know I can succeed!!!

This guy is the bob ross of marriage issues

Thank you for making me realize that I have fallen stagnant. I used to do all of this and was happy-go-lucky with a great marriage. It's time to become that again, thank you. I'm 52 yo. And my wife has just filed for divorce.

I am so thankful for the work that y’all do and the resources you offer for free! You have helped me immensely in my journey of growth and change. You have truly been a Godsend , thank you!

Thank you for the advice. My wife has recently told me that she is no longer in love with me. Very painful. Looking back it was a series of situations, that lead to this. I can’t change the past, I can’t change how she feels. I can only control myself. But I do love her, and I do want her with me. I will continue to work on myself.

Excellent video! More people truly need to understand the concept of P.I.E.S.!

This was so good. God had spoken that to me about being more happier and not angry.

I just broke up with my boy friend and feeling that loss. Thank you so much I now have a focus!💜🤗

That’s the best advice I’ve heard , thank for bringing it up

So, how do you have a conversation where you want your partner to change - loose weight, stop drinking, etc. Sometimes having difficult conversations isn't always positive.

Thank you guys

We’re experiencing all of this now!

Excellent advice

Me and my wife are or where very family oriented and was one of the qualities we loved about each other. And no she separeted and breaking our family we have a 8 year old.

I believe in family and i dont believe in divorce. And working together to fix whats wrong.. but she is completly checked out and recentful.

Bless to Both of you for all the help in saving people’s Marriages which are very rare these days .. How I wish I have known this kind of help with now my troubled marriage, it might save me and my family now . Praying for all those who marriage are in turmoil

My wife is around quite a bit to communicate with but I keep stuffing up! I think I am always communicating from a place of fear, questioning, distrust and worry which is blocking me showing the love I have for her.

Thanks

This was sooooo helpful! Thank you!

Could this lead to being too agreeable in a relationship and turning the partner off because one is too nice?

Thank you. PIES have to be a priority.

How do I evoke positivity in someone and everyone? Can you give some examples

Curious, does MarriageHelper have or/recommend a dating site that have people that use PIES etc? Thx

Thank you very much

@ Dr.Joe Beam and Kimberly,thanks much!! a question If our ex does not want to give us any chance and never forgive us or came back,do u think is there someone we can do to make him change his mind? especially when we have neglected him?

How does one evoke positive emotions? What are examples of things that one can do to evoke positive emotions in someone?

What if the way to intellectually attract your spouse eg. speaking about innovative ideas, causes him to get too absorbed into the idea, to the point that it's his primary focus and it's causing lack in other areas. How do you become intellectually attractive while encouraging your spouse to maintain a balance in life?

Thanks for Ur videos nd could u create another videos where u explain with more longer details about the pikes? So useful thanks nd an advice to all the he people fall in live First nd Always with urself nd be aware there are many dysfunctional be lovely nd respectful to Ur partner but only of he good If u understand he a violent an ill intentioned a cunning an opportunist nd this u can understand with the time by talking nd observibg his reactiobs If he an abused run away Forever

How to handle the situation when my partners thinks that everything i do is wrong, all the things that will come out from her mind is always correct? 😥😓💔

I would like to ask a private question

Its interesting because I did more good to my spouse than bad but she chose to get bitter and hateful towards me by focusing on the bad. I choose to focus on good. I'm far from perfect but I know what to do and I'm gonna do it

What about when you're in a long term relationship with children, but you come to faith and your partner doesn't like it?

Emotionally... Dang I'm a 2 😢.

Its harded when you wife isnt home

What are pies???

So is there a correct way to tell your wife that she would look better if she lost a couple of pounds? Or is this a topic that should be entirely avoided? 😂