To ladki jiske saath relationship main he usi se shaadi kare aur *shaadi ke baad hi sex kare* . Agar shaadi nhi karna to relationship kyun rakhna? Aur ladkiyan dena band kar dein to ladke khud hi line pe aa jayenge. Ladkiyan de kyun rahi hain?? Ye batao pehle
First of all I hate the concept of bf or gf (I like to be friends it doesn't depent it is boy or girl) and I belive if anyone have bf who purpose girls 99% change that he need her only for sex and then girl cry
Class 12th Biology NCERT Chapter 'Human Reproduction' - "The hymen is often torn during the first coitus (intercourse). However, it can also be broken by a sudden fall or jolt, insertion of a vaginal tampon, active participation in some sports like horseback riding, cycling, etc. In some women the hymen persists even after coitus. In fact, the presence or absence of hymen is not a reliable indicator of virginity or sexual experience."
@@happyvalleyroses8145 it’s not about logic it’s about choice, there are apples and oranges both are good but some like apples, some oranges, that doesn’t make either of them less valuable, but if forcefully try to feed orange to a person who loves apples then the problem arise. Agar aap itne mahaan ho toh apna logic dijiye 🙏
@@GyanPrakash so if you find someone who is everything you want, and then you come to know, that the person has had sex before, so now that person is ‘undeserving’?? Why so obsessed with Virginity??? Does it affect your life in anyway?? If a woman or a man has had sex before, and you have sex with that person, do you even realise it??? I am not talking about someone who might have had a reputation of promiscuity ( although to judge upto God only). So to love a person you need a person to be ‘virgin’ then it is definitely not love. It is an obsession, a need to be the one to say ‘Look I broke your virginity’. Apples and oranges ?? Hahah What is wrong is wrong. If you think that virginity is a ‘proud badge’ and that you ‘deserve a virgin’, then that makes you someone who is not looking for love, for a life partner but someone you can claim. I have never had sexual intimacy too. But in a partner I would look for love and understanding. Not reduce a person to their genitals.
@thezoldics7648 How? Who is taking those women's virginity then? People complaining about being a virgin on the internet are doing it for relatability sake or are chronically online losers. A LOT of men and women are in sexual relationships The amount of men and women who are unmarried and non virgins should be the same.
Here's the thing - if you're fat, expecting a slim and fit woman is unfair. If you're a party goer, expecting a homely wife is unfair. If you've had sex before marriage, expecting a virgin wife is unfair. But that also means a virgin guy has every right to expect a virgin girl. Same goes for a girl. For someone who has avoided the temptation to find sex before marriage, they absolutely want someone who values marriage in a similar manner.
I would love to know you're opinion about all girls saying they want a guy thats is 6ft, earns a lot, has a stable job and is strong and confident Even though they don't posses any of those qualities themselves Women don't have to have those things they want in a Man but that's is okay so why does a guy need to be a virgin to have a virgin wife
@@Faizan29353 yeah that kinda goes without saying but everyone is shaming men for wanting virgins when they aren't and think only virgin men can date virgin women period but same people think its o.k for women to want a man with qualities they don't posses Its quite hypocritical wouldn't you agree
@@Faizan29353 women wanting a man thats rich ,tall and strong when they arent is Rule Not Exception But men wanting a virgin girl when they don't have that quality Is a Exception Not Rule Why The Double Standard ??
@@striker7625 because they want votes thats it , nothing new , see the social media lots of women shouting K@@l all men and stuff and not getting cancelled but andrew is banned(i dont like his words but sometimes he says real sh@t), its all wage gap and stuff , untill ukraine war starts and all women go to lavish Euro Countries and live their new life with people supporting ,free admissions at top unis and stuff what about the men? where is the feminism ? ... its just sad...
Broken hymen is not in any way indicative of virginity. That's basic biology to learn in high school. Good job, Mohak. We need more channels like this.
Simple logic, if any boy wants a virgin girl, there's no problem in it if and only if he is himself virgin. and if he's not virgin, then don't keep any expectations about the girl's virginity.
@@fjsigdiggit1234That's not true... Mostly virgin women prefer virgin men. Only an experienced woman would want an experienced man. That is why if you go to Western countries, most women there prefer experienced men as they are experienced themselves. That is not the case with conservative countries like India.
Ironically no one talks about the risk of having physical relationships with multiple parthers like various STDs. I believe that topic would be more useful
In this age of casual dating, this is a highly debatable topic. Nevertheless it's bizarre to test virginity. That blood stain on the bed sheet might fade but the stain on mental health will remain a trauma for entire life.
If a man is a virgin, he may expect a virgin wife, considering his abstinence from sexual activities. This perspective aligns with how some women inquire about their partner's virginity. However, it's vital to approach such topics with respect and empathy, regardless of one's own experiences.
@@BTKGaming09maybe because people should understand that just because someone has had sex, doesn’t mean they are any less of a person than someone who hasn’t. Like our parents have had sex. Do you think of them any less of a person?
@@sskk3321 first of all if you are from a certain culture you follow your tradition it's as simple as that even people living in forest have their own tradition and i don't understand what is the relation of your question to the virginity since losing virginity and having kids are 2 different things but to answer your question as a child I won't think any less of them because at that time i wouldn't have much idea about the world too but as a grown up I would definitely think less of them because if they can't even have the guts to name their relation before bringing me in the world what kind of love they had then and what will they teach me
I don't think demanding a virgin girl for marriage is the wrong thing........unless you are also a vergin .....and if your are not 🚫 vergin then you don't have any right to ask for a vergin girl...that's it 😎
@@potatobowmaster5396that is the reason y dowry exist in our society An unemployed girl wants to marry an ias officer and hence he demands the dowry to fill the gap...
Are Bhai verginity only sex ke dwara nahi khoijati ye baat v samjho ... Cycle chalana Doudna kudna yani athletics me jana ..by birth v log virgin nahi hai aur ..kuch kuch sexually abused v rahe honge .... video pura dekha nahi apne lekin apni mindset nikalke rakhdi yahn
Bleeding during sex isn't even an indication that the hymen is broken, it due to friction that causes micro tears in the walls of the vagina. This is usually because they're not aroused enough for the walls of the vagina to lubricate, this could lead to uncomfortable sex and bleeding.
Aah this answer have some problem first of all hymen is not a question paper seal that it be broken And other thing is bleeding during intercourse is caused by friction of penis, lack of lubrication and stretch of hymen or vaginal tract cause vagina to penis width ratio is much smaller
The thing mohak said about making laws and banning surgery is completely true. i am from a village in Madhya Pradesh and many couples in our area test the gender of their unborn baby. I've heard they abort the unborn baby if it is a girl child. they pay alot of amount to doctors just for knowing the gender, people can't even afford to pay for thier child's education but they save money around 40k-50k to pay for these things.
This type of 'virgin again surgery' is a fraud in itself- you are fooling your partner. Be straightforward and accept responsibility of your actions. If he does not accept you (which he has the right to), move to a more open-minded partner! Some boys keep themselves virgin all their life for marriage, they have the right to expect a virgin wife. If you had sexual relationships before, it is not the end of the world- just find somebody with similar lifestyle. Do not lie and ruin somebody's life.
I think this topic serious but no one want to talk about this. Really salute to mohak for covering such controversial topics to make everyone aware about this. ❤
@@FromPlanetZXWho cares about virginity, if my wife is vergin she will be less experienced. So a company will prefer an experienced employee or inexperienced?
I disagree with what you said about ISLAM. Based on some so-called scholars you cannot criticize the whole religion. Bring me one scripture from Quran or Hadith which talks about this? Other than that, Very Important subject and you covered it well. Thank you
THE PRESENCE OR ABSENCE OF HYMEN IS NOT A RELIABLE INDICATOR OF VIRGINITY OR SEXUAL EXPERIENCE. The hymen is often torn during the first coitus (intercourse). However, it can also be broken by a sudden fall or jolt, insertion of a vaginal tampon, active participation in some sports like horseback riding, cycling, etc. IN SOME WOMEN THE HYMEN PERSISTS EVEN AFTER COITUS. - CLASS 12 BIOLOGY NCERT
you are absolutely correct even while doing gym activities or some household chores that can happen too what matters the most is MUSTUTAL TRUST between couples
@@winnershandbook1069 yeah I know it's not fair..but in most og the cases both side agree to marriage....if both side are agreeing to have a non virgin partner then it's fine too....but if the girl is unemployed and the guy dump her for that reason it's fine too...but idt Indian men will do that
@@kanishkraturi8695 yeah men just want loyalty. and they usually think that if she's been with 4 guys before is she actually loyal? i read an article that the more no of partners a person has had, higher the probability of cheating
@@cybercop3108 It can't be broken easily😂, you just give it as a reason to hide your dirty past. Don't fool guys into thinking that you are some kind of saints
Albert Einstein once rightly said that our society is indeed evolving just backwards. This quote really seems a lot more meaningful when we see such instances in our society.
Do you know about pareto principal in dating market?. In USA, it was found that 80% Women were hooking up with only 20% man who were tall rich and handsome. If women were given freedom they will always choose people like Hritik roshan. And Hritik roshan will get the opportunity to sleep with 100s of women..... अब बोलो ऐसी सेकंड हैंड माल सै आप शादी करोगे कया?????
With modern feminism and woke liberals, our society definitely is going backwards. Our ancestors were much more civilized during the colonial era. They actually behaved like proper civilized men and women.
I’ll never understand why women are not treated as whole human beings but rather objects. Had an unbelievable conversation with my partner where he said a woman is someone who can be a mother, man will we never hold anymore value than being sex object and a baby making machine in this world. I want to be valued and respected more than for just being able to give birth. This world day by day grossed me out even more
Women have nothing to give to a man men are self-sufficient we can earn ourselves, we are physically more stronger, more aggressive and violent,, more competitive I will only need a woman to satisfy me, make kids, take care of kids and make food that's it if I decide not ho have kids I basically don't need a woman I can employee a cook for food and can use my own hand or silicone dolls to do my thing that's it and it's hard to find good, loyal ,virgin partner
It's about the concept of purity I mean a virgin man is somehow will have confidence on a virgin women than a non virgin . As she has been in affair with other
"I am ready to marry a raped girl but i have to think much to marry a girl who slept with many guys of her own ." Reson - character 😢. Every one have their own ideology man
I personally wouldnt marry her IF she's not over her trauma. I'll help her as I can like a friend but if someone has a lot of trauma I don't really wanna start my marriage like that. it's different if she's over it or if something bad happened after we are married.
I still remeber, my ex was constantly asking me to sleep with him, so i told him i want to do that only with my husband and i broke up with him. He made 15 fake accounts and catfished me 5 times into getting me back so that he can manipulate me to sleep with him. I don't understand the logic? Why is it a problem if i just purely follow my heart, i just don't want to be touched by anyother guy than my future husband, People should learn tk take opinions from others and their virginity is theres?
There is nothing wrong in expecting a virgin partner, there are a lot of guys who don't engage in pre Marital sex and hence expect the same from their partner. However making atrocities on someone for not being a virgin is wrong. Which shall not be done.
Nope that isn't the problem the problem is that this kind of wierd superstition is applicable for only one gender (shouldn't be applicable for anyone) and ppl think being virgin is 'pure' and girls aren't allowed to use basic hygiene products cuz ppl think they might loose virginity
@@varunsolanki322Fair point, but I'd say there are worse things a potential partner can hide from you. (Atleast in the case of arranged marriage) Which is probably why dating a person and getting to know them is a better way to find a partner, imo.
Tumne vo padha h na ki hymen se decide nhi hota but agar hymen present h to ladbhag confirm hota kyunki vo bahut bahut rare hota ki intercourse ke baad bhi hymen na tute I am not judging but this is truth
@@vikasmiracle1420kya confirm hota h? 12th ncert mein clearly mentioned h and it's a known fact that hymen can also break during strenuous exercise, horse riding etc.
The doctor in this video said a very important point that the hymen can stretch OPEN due to arousal by the partner. It doesn’t always have to BREAK and BLEED! It’s the responsibility of the parter to arouse the female enough that the bleeding due to injury doesn’t happen. Which is actually a good sign. Meaning that your partner is actually attracted to you and is willing to intercourse and you don’t need to “injure” her! I hope they can somehow educate people about it.
'Doesn't always bleed', it means it is RARE, Most of the time it does bleed. What you are doing is taking example of small percentage of women and applying it on most women, lmfao, No, ladko ka kaat rahe hai ye ladkiya. Just be truthful.
Virginity loose never indicates he hymen torn ,it's indicate the trust purity towards ur partner (boy/girl)....if a guy is a virgin then he/she demands a virgin .....If someone has had sex, then he should marry someone who is himself a non-virgin or marry someone who has no problem with someone being a virgin or not.
@@elveeleven2574Your mindset shows that the few virgin women who don't bleed will face discrimination because u won't believe that she is virgin because it's a low possibility
Why some girls/boys do sex with the person they wont commit for long term?? Why? If they r in a serious relationship...why not wait till mrg? If someone is a Virgin...he/she can expect virgin and its Not abt Hymen.
@@29.ispeakpower bhai virgin rehna koi garv ya sharam ki baat nhi hai. Ladkiyon ko aisi behuda cheezon se farak nhi padta ki unke partners virgin hain ki nhi, aur naa hi ladko ko padna chahiye.
When I decided to switch to menstrual cup my mom and my friends were worried about me loosing virginity but thankfully it wasn’t that hard for me to educate them and they soon understood my point. But when my friends wanted to switch to menstrual cup after being inspired by me then their parents weren’t supportive enough because they were scared for loosing virginity. Sigh :( they continue to get rashes from using pads and feel uncomfortable with that sticky feeling…
My mom was also uncomfortable when i told her that i want to switch to menstrual cups She indirectly tried to get me to avoid it, but didn't say it I just switched anyway. If she had said anything about virginity I would've told her Although my parents do get disgusted by my cup, if they see me boiling it or something 🤦
I once asked I gynae I was 16 back then and I didn't know much about cup so I asked him if it is okay to use cup for my age. he said that's for married women, not you. I ended up using cup anyway and recommended it to my friends also; most were scared but a few of them who tried never looked back.
@@lipsabadi6796 until you try a new thing it’s always scary. I’ve had a huge fear of cup too but I decided to overcome it because I saw soo many women saying that they were scared like me but when they gave cup few tries then they said it was their best decision ever. So it gave me confidence and now I’m one of those women too who believes it’s the best decision I ever took :)
Expecting your life partner to be virgin before marriage if a personal choice and should be respected. The problem is the boy should also be virgin himself to impose such standards on the girl. Also, harming the girl verbally or physically is not acceptable. Just walk away from the alliance citing incompatibility. No reason to judge anybody based on his or her sexual past.
@@megamewtwoy9316true we should judge it like no one is forcing them to do they are doing this by there own wish and for fun why we should suffer by other person's fun
@@kalpeshkadam6194 true , these things are really sensitive , if not for that person himself/herself , but for his/her future family members and parents , just imagine if we get to know that our mothers did such a thing , then what a negative impact it would create , just imagine , but these cheap fellas are simply justifying these things as fun and their choice ..... in entire comment section , but will regret later badly
@@kalpeshkadam6194 also , marrying doesnt simply means that husband wife are living together , in most families only 1 person is earning , and if his/her partner is such a cheap , how can he/she spend a hell lot ( literally lakhs of money) on thier needs , luxury , house , education , trips ,.. and other things
It doesn't matter if boys want their wife to be virgin. They should just open up and talk before marriage. If things work out just proceed with relationship. If not there is always another option. Of cource to expect it male should also be pure.
Step 1: make everyone aware that hymen does not ditermine virginity. Step 2: make everyone aware of consequences of pre-marial sex. If you admirar of Western hookup culture, you should know most of their marriage does not become successful. Children end up with single parent, that affects their mentality too. Some of us insecure about our spouse having pre-marital relationship/sex and I am one of them. Step 3: have an honest conversation about past relationship before marriage.
@@MarkAntony-l7s But most marriages in India aren't "successful" either? Just because a marriage doesn't end in divorce, doesn't mean it's successful. India ranks high in the list of countries with the highest domestic violence cases, child marriages, dowry and female foeticide. You don't see the names of western countries in these lists. Then how exactly are our marriages more successful than theirs? Similarly, just because parents are married doesn't mean the children will have a healthy childhood. If we're taking the context of India, the majority of children are suffering from malnutrition and poor healthcare. 40% of children in India experience malnutrition or stunted growth. Their parents being together isn't doing anything for their childhood development. On the other hand western countries have way better statistics when it comes to childhood development even after having higher divorce rates.
About that community in Maharashtra, i once read in a newspaper about it ,it was rather positive. A man married a woman ,they were both from that community and he broke the tradition of that bedsheet test. Times are changing Mohak , and it's all for the good .
Girls, like everyone else, have their own preferences when it comes to relationships. Guys are often expected to have a job, earn well, and come from a good background. It's uncommon for a girl to marry someone with a lower social standing than her own. On the other hand, when a guy has certain preferences, society tends to view it negatively or as "devilish." If a guy looks for a partner with a similar social background, no prior relationship, or someone who is educated, it is considered fair enough. However, some may not have a problem with a partner who has had a prior relationship, and that's also acceptable. It's unfair to judge one preference as better than the other. Everyone has the right to their own preferences in a relationship.
Dude if the girl ask good job money etc you also ask the same...what it the girl ask you to be virgin and tests you for the same...baat to izzat pr aa jaati h na...how can you justify both the thing on one scale
@@triptidubey2792 whenever a women gets physical with a man sue releases Oxytocin and when that oxytocin reaches its saturation just like dopamine she's unable to bond with anyone else and 100%cheat.noan needs a women with sémén of countless men in her womb to nurture his kids
@@triptidubey2792 we live in a world where usually when a man earns he earns not only for himself but for his family and when usually a woman earns she does it for her financial independence. in most cases a guy will marry a non working woman but will in most cases a girl marry a non working guy. there's a difference which no matter what ever you say wont change the basic societal structure.
If a girl or boy had multiple physical relationships in past he/she has increased chance of carrying an STI or STD or even HIV. So if you marry such person, then you will also contract the same disease.
For those categories of people where marriage means only sex - are mostly failing to understand that marriage is actually understandings, support, care and sharing responsibilities of each other as much possible and MOST IMPORTANTLY RESPECTING EACH OTHERS DESPITE VARYING IDEAS OR THOUGHTS. coz every individual is unique and deserves living happily...attaching khara and khota "..." and all such terminology itself indicates marriage essence itself is unknown to them and still as per their meaning or laws they want marriages to be done that way only...feeling sad and bad for those women's who accepts such things and make them ready for it....those girls rather must go against it or leave thought of marrying under such worst thoughts and pressures. It's still better they can live better life rather such humiliation
Wo theek hai here we are talking about the virginity test we have to go through and if we fail although hymen can be broken without intercourse too this .Also men are not asked to do any virgin test
@@dailyitmforecastyes, this custom doesn't exist in Maharashtra. Only Kanjarbhats do that in Maharashtra but not native Maharashtrians. Infact thinking about your own daughter-in-law that way would be considered disgusting over here.
Puri video mein bta diya ki society mein change laao and that is also good but kahin ek baar bhi nahi kaha that staying virgin is also good before marriage...
Yes!! Instead of discussing about accepting someone's past, he should make videos on how to control our s*xual desires and preserve our rich culture and heritage....!! He is making India western rather than modern 🥲
@@Smriti.Sharma. kash future me meri shadi apke jese soch wali ladki se ho. i can marry rape victim girl but not with a girl with previous multiple partners. my heart was breaking seeing a girl comment saying she is happy to marry a guy having 10 previous partners and guys should do too and her commentator friend said whats wrong in it.🥲🥲
No 👎 ... All guys deserve Virgin girls ... It's written in Quran ... If you are not satisfied with your earlier wife .. you can ask her to marry a younger girl ... A man always want a Virgin girl ... It's a fact ..
@@saho716 Mohammad galat aadmi tha ki nahi ? Child sex offender tha ki nahi ? Hamesha sex k bare me sochta tha chahe khud ki biwi ho ya khud k ladke ki biwi ya vidhwa ho ya bachchi ho ya fir aapni nokarani .
Excellent video Mohak. I completely agree with you that discussing virginity of girl is a petty thing which unfortunately is still being practiced in our society. Also during the marriage process the guy should not be judged upon his income or his looks like I have seen a guy whose engagement got broke when the bride found out that the guy was wearing a wig and there are many good men are still single because they earn less or they don't have any property in their name. Our society needs this changes not only for women but for men also.
Another stupid comment - Man and women both are allowed to have preferences. Man can demand a beautiful wife. Woman can demand a husband who is paid 2 lakhs/ month salary. Man who is not bald and so on. The point is both side is allowed to have demand and if a man is not good enough he is not gonna get the wife he want and probably have to settle for less, same goes for the women.
Do you know about pareto principal in dating market?. In USA, it was found that 80% Women were hooking up with only 20% man who were tall rich and handsome. If women were given freedom they will always choose people like Hritik roshan. And Hritik roshan will get the opportunity to sleep with 100s of women..... अब बोलो ऐसी सेकंड हैंड माल सै आप शादी करोगे कया?????
Listen both virgin and non-virgin women would want money. Because money is necessary to raise kids and lead a normal life. Good men r fine. Lazy men r not fine. Or let's say unmotivated men. Both virgin and non-virgin women can expect a good earning man. She leaves her parents, gives birth to children and raises them up... These hardworks have no value? I am virgin woman and have fun rejecting men with such mentality.
Sex ed + physical ed should be like evs or GK - introduced from 6th class rather than once in 8th and 11th &12th! IT WILL BE MORE GENERALIZED!! We learn but do not fit quite well, but keeping it to mind is good ✌️
Its not a forced thing, its just a preference you either qualify or not. Men are also prefered with deep pockets and good height that doesn't mean others never get married. Woman can just marry in families who think the same as them
Mohak, you are a great teacher & great mindset person who is leading our generation to think differently and be confident towards the right things to accept reality. Hats off to your research ...
2:49 exactly....it is extremely difficult to persuade women to use menstrual cup....many of my friends straightaway say that they will use it after marriage.... virginity is still a big deal for men and women both
@@devrajkundu3059bhai ek baar ye soch ke dekh yahan baat ladki ki virginity ki bas nhi h Sayad tumko pata nhi ladki agar is tarike se kisi se attached hogi to problem jindagi bhar hogi Iska simple sa sol. Hai ki shaadi se pehle ladki ko ladke se aur ladke ko ladki se puch lena chahiye Baat khtm😌 Isme tension kya hai re baba
@@hawkgaming288 ek relationship chalane ke liye respect and love ki jaroorat hoti hai.dono compatible hai ki nahi,ek dusre ko kitna pasand kartein yeh important hai.isme virginity dekhna is least reason to noticeable to be in a relationship.logon k aproblem hai log virginity ka matlab sex aur purity se jod dete hai.yeh galat soch aur education ki kami ki wajah se hai.aur sirf sex se hi khun nahi nikalta.bohat reason se khoon nikal ta hai.bohot ladki ka to janam se hi virginity nahi hoti.uska bhi kya solution nikalogey!!!isme solution kaisa..virginity hon aya na hona koi problem nahi hai.
Virgin girl and virginity test are 2 different things.. virginity tests are immoral and discriminatory towards women but preferring a virgin woman is basically assuring of past baggage. Just like how girls avoid playboys simply boys avoid girls with lot of relationships… anyone carrying too much of past baggage will always create complications in relationship or marriage..! Simple as that, only solution is be honest with each other and make a decision before tying the knot.
Honesty and integrity are two fast disappearing qualities today as people are exposed to myriad view points on SM and therefore find ways to justify their dishonesty before marriage or infidelity after marriage. Many youngsters who rushed into a mindless physical relationship but realised their mistake and crave a second chance too are likely to lie because there's no telling how someone will react to their sexual history. It is tricky to reveal certain things at the start of a relationship because you haven;t had a chance to endear yourself to your spouse. All the same revealing some details that are best left buried in the past, in the name of honesty at any point in the relationship can also endanger it instead of winning you accolades. About 25-30 years ago people did not have so much mistrust about their spouse's past as they have since the rise of social media. Many medium to cheat and be dishonest have opened up now and it's no wonder trust has flown out of the window.
And also, there is a dignity problem.... How can someone with dignity accept a girl as "WIFE" who slept with other guys (its like mistress). Wife is honour of a men, we fight for her protection, we provide.. but can we do these things with "Those Immoral Girls".
@@mdsalahuddinansari8522you don't need to protect her, she can protect herself. If you want your wife to be virgin, make sure you remain virgin too. Otherwise even if you'll get a virgin wife, you'll remain "The immoral husband" as per your mindset.
@@mdsalahuddinansari8522 😂 what are you doing in 2023....sounds like you belong a century before..women is not an object...and what about men who have sex before marriage with other girls...
@@freakinglyVirgin can demand virgin...its his/her choice and completely justified. My question is....WHY do sex with a person to whom u wont commit for long term??
Want a virgin partner or not is obviously a personal choice (for all genders)... But atleast, there should be awareness regarding these... Like those practices followed beating up a woman if she does not bleed, etc. should be completely banned... And as mentioned in the video... Not only legally but also socially...
@@bruh.07 Concept of chastity doesn't apply to men biologically. I am not saying he should be getting laid all the time. Sex game isn't same for men and women , an average looking or even ugly looking woman can get laid if she wants , it isn't same for men. Even the best of best have to work hard to get a female to their bed. Its the difficulty of a task which makes its market value. That's the reason IIT JEE rankers are respected while others not because it's all about difficulty of being there. If you are pursued by any tom D and Harry then it's the problem
I was disgusted, sad, disappointed, angry, and laughing at same time. But a fabulous research, that how you highlighted the one of many darker sides of Indian Patriarchy that is something detestable.♥️♥️♥️♥️ Love you
This video just stereotypes people In usa and even in india you will find girls who want virgin partner For some people its big thing For some its not These types of videos just stereotypes men with other misogynist men
Also most of the time when someone says virgin they only refers to not having experience of sex and not hymen Even though its meaning is related to hynen
I dont think this is "Patriarchy", because majority of the times, the ones who initiate such things are, Mother in Laws and Sister in Laws. Mothers Indoctrinate their daughters "to remain pure". Have anyone ever seen a Father or brother talk to the girl on virginity, or tells her to be "Pure".
Those boys ,who don't want to be in a relationship just because they want to work on themselves and earn money to make a foundation of happy life , have the right to choose a virgin (pure) partner, same applies to the girls. 🙏🙏🙏
everybody is saying a virgin deserves a virgin. Still, to me, if a man is a virgin but a creep and wants a virgin girl because he believes in women as sex objects, he isn't a virgin by choice. He is asking for a virgin girl WITHOUT caring about her other features, and then the virgin guy doesn't deserve to be married. But if a man wants a virgin woman because of his pure intentions like having the first time together, mutual respect, etc. then it's actually good :D.
U have heard this many times:-"the boy have physical relationship in the name of marriage and love and then left the girl for another girl. Right??? Even in many relationship;; girls complain that their bf used their body in the name of love before leaving. That's why..u should remember one thing before u start relationship with a non virgin guy:-"it's 99% chance he either lost her virginity through casual,prosti*tution..or he might used a girl. And u might her next target.
And one more thing to say:-""in India,, because of religious & conservation belief..most men are virgin upto marriage compared to girls. Even after having many golden chances,, still guy like me prefer to stay virgin upto marriage. If guy like me considered women as sex object;;then majority men won't be virgin. It's only few boys who are non virgin. They used multiple girls in the name of love and break up. And we can't stope them. Those guys want to use...and Girls also want to be used for fun as only these guys are open minded in having premarital sex. In reality,,,most girls actually do fake complain that their bf used them. But in reality they want those few guys to be their sexual partner as bf .
@@NFS691 idk why are you portraying non virgin men as evil and using stupid terms like being 'used' is fun to some girls. To me virginity shouldn't matter, I'm a virgin, I've been in a relationship once but was very sure that I didn't want to lose my virginity until I was very sure. I have been single for a very long time. But even if I fall in love with a guy who once used to be fuckboi and now has changed, I believe in second chance. We shouldn't be choosing a partner just because we are a virgin and he/she is also a virgin. There is this myth that having sex with more than one person's is a lack of discipline. People go through heartbreaks bruh. Our society is stupid to just focus on the virginity part. Bhai mei achaar dalungi ladke ki virginity ka Agar woh nature se accha ni hua? Kyu itna virginity pe focus hai bhai. Mostly log jo virgin hai unhe lagta hai ki unne koj achievement kia hai. Ghnta. Many of them, MANY of them are sexually frustrated. No wonder rape cases itne zyada hai. Dimag se pure hona chahiye, body ka kya hai, Ganga ji mei dho lena.
@@honeybirds5348 idk about gender, if men want virgins because they are virgins and would not care about other things then we are doomed. Virginity shouldn't be an issue and no preference should be water-tight.
@@anjalimishra8304 aur dono chiz honi chahiye... virgin v aur good characters v. Forget about virgin men . Even non virgin men want virgin. That's hypocrisy.😂 Idk...why girls still loosing virginity... afterall when these non virgin men want virgin. Aur unhe mil v jata he..kyunki...kuchh ladkiya tumhari tarah sochte he Aksar aise logo ka rista kabhi bhi jyada der Tak nahi tikta..jo pehle se hi...kiske saath Bina shadi kiye hue physical hue ho. Aise relationship me..na..koi abuse..na koi cheating hota he...bas pyar fika pad jata he. Dono mutually breakup/divorce lete he. Why it happens?? Because of body memory. Jitne logo ke saath judoge...utna body memory attach ho jayega....aur next relationship me....ye chiz impact Dale ga. Sabka pro and conc hota he. Bas kuchh log ko sirf ... premarital sex me pros dikhata he. Kyunki...hawas ne unki aankh me pati bandhi he.
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There is nothing wrong in expecting a virgin partner, there are a lot of guys who don't engage in pre Marital sex and hence expect the same from their partner. However making atrocities on someone for not being a virgin is wrong. If your partner isn't virgin better leave them but don't have atrocities on them😊
I can easily say 80% indian guys out there are virgin..the problem with women is they lie most of the times with their virginity..Y can a 30 years man ( virgin)well settled in their job ask about a virgin girl? Our indian culture never supported premarital sex... an inexperienced guy will never know about hymen but it's on the mentality of the girl to tell the truth if she has engaged in sexual encounter..
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Regarding Indian socio-culture aspects, and virginity test before marriage, I'm hearing this for the FIRST TIME. I'M an Indian, bengali from West Bengal, and literally, I'm justttt surprised to hear this!!?? Even dowry is being discarded in our culture, and I'm happy that Bengali society is progressing, discarding outdated religious orthodoxy.
@@FromPlanetZX every state has its own merits and demerits. And Bengal too has many liberal people who are very nice and won't shy away from putting out their opinion. At the same time there exist some orthodox style folk too.
To all men out there. If you want to have a partner with no sexual intercourse, ask her repeatedly and do a background search. You have to partly assume if she tells you she had a past relationship. I have seen men breaking marriage just because wife did not bleed during intercourse. This will be a injustice to your wife also who left everything to be with you. Better you talk to that person and clarify than to repent later.
Girls in arranged marriage does not leave her house,parents for the boy,she leaves for the amount of money,building etc,you make it seem like girls leave for the boy which is far from true.
Since you are a girl then how can I respectfully as a girl about her virginity in a respectful way and without making her feel like a object or making her feel awkward or uncomfortable as I don't want to disrespect anyone.... 🙏
The rule is simple.. if you are a virgin you deserve a virgin girl.. if you are not you don't deserve your wife to be virgin.. if you want a virgin girl, you must also be a virgin boy🤷.... # NO SEAL NO DEAL🙅🗿
To all the girls out there who may be reading this. I feel disgusted that you guys went through such ordeal because of our narrow mindset. Considering a girl as maal is narrow enough that I find out about this Khara Khota ritual. I feel literally ashamed of our society. I am really sorry for all that you go through. Edit: People with little to no knowledge regarding what virginity is and whether or not it can be tested. Please do not reply to my comment.
Bhai literally 2 communities ye Ganda ritual krti h or tu Aisa keh ra h jaise har bnda krta ho and asking for a virgin wife is alright for a virgin man
Virginity can only be expected by someone who is virgin himself/herself. Virginity is definitely indicative of Patience and Responsible-ness in one's character. And besides the risk of STD, the reason I expect Virgin life-partner is because I don't want to allow the possibility of me having to face the insecurity of my partner' ex satisfying her better than me.
I don't care about the hymen, as you said, it can be rebuilt and be broken without sex. All I care is that my future hasn't had sex. The reason being, a promiscuous girl is less likely to form an emotional bond. Sure, if her ex did it or she was abused that's fine. Like whoever agrees (I'm also virgin)
But virginity doesn't guarantee loyalty, I lost my virginity with my ex bf but he cheated on me he used to fuck around with other girls and this same thing is true for some married men as well. I broke up with him after knowing this and now I'm dating a guy who really loves me so I don't think virginity would matter bcz a virgin guy/girls could cheats too. and a
@@MuskanSinhaaYour ex bf was a f-boy that's why. Not all virgin men are like that. Many virgin men want virgin women to share their lives with, have kids with, etc. Chastity and loyalty both are important. Not just chastity or loyalty. Be selective and picky.
If girls has a right to choose a partner who has a good future and secure future then the boys should also look for a partner with clear past... Also many boys out there don't cheat many boy's don't have confidence to talk to women... Also if someone is having sex or asking for sex in a relationship before marriage always understand a true lover will never ask for these silly things
@@Rohit_0405yes u r right abut those who r players but kya pta uss insan ke sath kuch problm hui ho kya pta she was in dark past..and meeting with someone new she and u gets a light of life..har chiz ko negative mein lekr kyu sochna..
@@yashvardhansingh407 then go and pls spit yr words on couples like virat kohli and anushka sharma they r also power couples they do had a past relationships ...if u dnt have guts to say on face then better u shut yr mouth and objectifying people .charaterless aur ache insan mein fark hota h !!
@@yashvardhansingh407 don't change the topic bro they were not virgin too wht matters is how good the person is how bad scenario he / she went through ..now don't bring tradition or support here are many who got divorced too.. Now i will tell u a very big saying which goes .."it doesn't matter where u start it matters where u end"
Na having a virgin wife is totally different frm having a secondhand wife, i wll be damped and happy fr the rest of my marriage life if I had such a wife ,no kidding
Your partner is going to be the mother/father of your children. Don't get a fourth grade partner with a history of fornication. A person with pre-marital relationships can show the same behaviour post marriage. No amount of propaganda should alter your preference. Don't tolerate promiscuity. Stay strong 🗿
exactly , get a boy or a girl who has never slept with any other person, if you find then good. but dont have double standards and expect your partner to be pure when you are not.
My male stance on virginity of a woman is that no its not THE ULTIMATE determiner of her value, but yeah it’s a plus point. I completely understand having failed your serious relationship in the past and its okay.. life goes on but I’ll never settle for any women who had a spree of casual sex just for the fun of it. The qualities I scrutinize a woman over is her Honesty…respect for the partner..past relationships(emotional baggage)..feminine attributes.
There is no way to know this for you. So it is better to test her what is her nature, qualities and other things really required for marriage. The truth is if a girl wants to hide her past relationships she can hide it easily, even boys can so you can't do anything about it
I support you bro like some Teenage love is ok but how can we trust the person (both genders) that he not gonna leave us when he have already left someone who even shared bed with him that's why only have sex when you are surely gonna marry that person and no sooner
@@rishabhbhardwaj5707 Dude maybe you are not aware how much this world is cruel. I met a girl long ago, i will not reveal much about her, she shared her story how much she loved her 1st boyfriend and one day both convinced to share bed, boy promised he will marry her, but after sex he refused marry and said you are manglik so my family will not allow this marriage and broked up with her. People are manipulative, first they talk sweet when there needs fulfill they leave. So you will never understand about anyone past what he or she faced
@@thenikhilwaywell, there are PI that you can hire, who will find out every little single detail about your fiancés past. Although I personally don’t care for it. But the truth is where there is a problem or demand for something. People will find solutions to it.
The Virginity Test is a ritual exclusively practiced by "Kanjarbhat Community" in India since Decades. In October 2022 the Supreme Court of India delivered a judgment in the case of the State of Jharkhand v. Shailendra Kumar Rai (2022). The two-judge bench, comprising Justice DY Chandrachud and Justice Hima Kholi, held that the practice of the so-called “two-finger test” in an alleged rape and sexual assault case was a “regressive and invasive test” and it had “no scientific basis and neither proves nor disproves allegations of rape.” This “virginity test” is an examination of female genitalia to assess the examinee’s sexual history through the presence or absence of a hymen and the laxity of the vagina. The practice is used in many communities to separate “pure” from “impure” females, for military selection, and in determining rape or sexual assault allegations. The practice is or was prevalent in Asian countries, including Afghanistan, Bangladesh, India, Indonesia, Iran, Pakistan, Sri Lanka, and Tajikistan. Declaring that “virginity test” conducted on a woman detainee or accused is unconstitutional, “sexist and in violation of the right to dignity”, the Delhi High Court on Tuesday observed that this test rests on a gender bias and “society’s view and obsession with the false concept of virginity being equated with purity of a woman. This Court…holds that this test is sexist and is in violation of human right to dignity even of a female accused if she is subjected to such a test while being in custody. The long-term and short-term negative effects of such a test have been reported in many reports,” Justice Sharma said. The abominable practice of virginity tests and the two-finger tests are carried out even today in India. While some communities practice it with impunity, in many cases, law enforcement agencies, medical practitioners routinely carry out the tests and even a few courts have institutionalised it through their orders, reports Pavitra Utgikar. The feeling of being demeaned by such treatment in custody by bodily invasion through conducting a virginity test also brings forth the undesirable and abhorrent notion of differentiation on the basis of gender and stereotypes," it said. The criminalization of the test The persistence of the two-finger test, despite its being declared unconstitutional in 2014, reflects that the mere pronouncement of its unconstitutionality was not sufficient to protect rape survivors from revictimization and retraumatization. Thus, the criminalization of the use of the test by medical practitioners nationwide was imperative, with social reforms to dismantle the patriarchal and sexist perspective behind the test. The Supreme Court held that any medical practitioner who conducts a two-finger test while examining an individual alleged to have been subjected to a sexual assault in violation of the court’s directions shall be guilty of misconduct. Under international human rights instruments, the use of the test under the disguise of a medical examination is cruel, derogatory, and violates Article 7 of the International Covenant on Civil and Political Rights (ICCPR) and Article 5 of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights (UDHR), respectively. Article 7 of the ICCPR specifically prohibits any medical or scientific experimentation without “free consent.” Further, the UN Declaration of Basic Principles of Justice for Victims of Crime and Abuse of Power (1985) obligates that survivors of sexual assault are entitled to legal assistance and that state parties take measures to minimize inconvenience to victims and protect their privacy. Likewise, the Convention on the Elimination of All Forms of Discrimination against Women (CEDAW), under Articles 2(d) and 2(f), prohibits all forms of discrimination against women and, under Article 5(a), stipulates that the state parties ought to eradicate prejudices and customary practices that stereotype people or groups. However, the conception and commission of the test itself are structured on the stereotype that women don’t engage in sexual activity until they are married. The revictimization and psychological trauma caused by the test are severe and might contribute to increased depression, anxiety, and mental harassment. Scientifically, the test also doesn’t give rise to the presumption of consent by the survivor. Thanks.
