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@NatalieFisher 4 года назад

So are you good or bad at asking stupid questions? Let me know!

@theultimatereductionist7592 3 года назад

I would love to get all the people who say or think: "You can't get a job because you're too old & there's all this age-ism in capitalism, in industry" together with all the motivational speakers who proclaim: "just do it, don't think about what others think" together & force them to come to a universal agreement on whether age-ism is scientifically objectively provably real or not.

@shahbhavin7334 3 года назад

I am bad at asking questions😥

@ToniInSussex 3 года назад

I loathe bad teachers/trainers at work; the ones who get exasperated when I've got more questions. I don't think I'd put up with it at my age.

@dophira 3 года назад

hi Natalie i love ur youtube Channel. I just started work after a long period of time,and this time round my team mates are much younger than me. I'm bad at asking qns im afraid it will make me looks stupid😕but i do want this job and they just want me to take initiative and doing it on my own. what should i do,i just dont want to give up halfway through my job as a new comer 😕

@straightupgamer354 3 года назад

im not bad at asking anything, after all, einstein asked questions right? lol i just dont have the confidence to even apply, had everything handed to me, never made to work growing up, only played games. now i gotta apply and never knew what i wanted to ever in my life, so im like shit idk where to even apply or what to even do and its like ahh lol screw it im just gonna apply anywhere i guess, thanks for reading my mess of a "paragraph"

@onecoolcat2478 2 года назад

I love it when managers say " there's no dumb question" - such a patton answer - then in the next sentence they complain you don't get it

@rachel12127 2 года назад

So trueeeee

@airamsg3467 Год назад

yeah

@observer698 7 месяцев назад

it is very true, the questions you ask show your intelligence, if they are simple and not well thought then you are in trouble.

@whomadethis616 4 месяца назад

@@observer698some of us are just dumb man let us ask questions 😂

@loulinaz3770 4 месяца назад

Exactly! Double standard

@Frissdas1207 2 года назад

After 11 years in IT, the thing that works best for me is to say "just to clarify, xyz is what you're wanting, correct? If not, I need you to explain it a different way." I've never had someone get upset at that.

@ubiquitous9105 2 года назад

Thank you for the tip!

@lovelillysingh1230 Год назад

That’s a nice tip! Thanks

@Forthright131 Год назад

I agree wholeheartedly. I summarize and paraphrase my understandings to give opportunities for clarification and corrections during those moments. Great advice!! So grateful to read everyone’s comments and be reminded of these valuable tips.

@vijaymalhotra1733 Год назад

No wayyy. I asked my manger similarly last time , he asked me back : are you saying it or asking it? I said: i just wanted clarity. He was then: so you dont know this (still). I said: no i know it, i am just asking.. He: see again say properly Me: ok i got it, ya i know. thank you Mind voice: hell fuckkkk

@tekarthobbyist9598 Год назад

@@vijaymalhotra1733 😢 this is so me.. it's easier to ask my colleagues to clarify but my boss has no patience, in the 1st times I used to ask and I used to get feedback with a side of trauma.. now it's almost a gag reflex that I don't ask, I just say I have understood

@spacecy 3 года назад

I've always felt dumb and incompetent and it gets much worse if i am under pressure. I think i need to see a therapist again.

@NatalieFisher 3 года назад

You're not dumb at all

@shenali4717 3 года назад

Sigh same

@Angelofloveandhappiness 3 года назад

Same here!!!!

@scholasticandegwa7403 3 года назад

@samkelomdunyelwa7137 3 года назад

Same

@wellsfamilylife3623 3 года назад

I have worked in many places where people purposely withhold information, not only to make you look dumb but to make them look like they are the MVP and the greatest asset in the team. Toxic and almost bullying, like you said - don't stay where these kinds of behaviours occur!

@NatalieFisher 3 года назад

Agreed, value yourself enough to know you choose to leave a place like that and can 100% find a place where you are treated the way you treat yourself and others. No one who values themselves stays in a place like that.

@diana5253 3 года назад

This is my current situation. Unfortunately, I'm 5 months in to this new job after working in a different department for 8yrs. I love the company so I'm trying to reach the 1yr mark so that I can transfer out of here. So hard though!!! Some days these people just make me wanna quit on the spot but I keep reminding myself this company has been good to me to keep calm. One day at a time.

@wellsfamilylife3623 3 года назад

@@diana5253 Thats a really good goal to have. Just make sure you look after your mental wellbeing in the process, it helps to know you've decided not to stay forever! Good luck 🤞🏽

@jessicas3070 3 года назад

@@diana5253 Best of luck! My situation resonates with yours however, I am starting the job hunt because I would also like to try and reach the 1 year goal but believe this also isn't valuable when it comes to time...you already have 8 years in a good company so might be worth job hunting and from this case ask your potential new manager MANY QUESTIONS

@diana5253 3 года назад

@@jessicas3070 You are right. I had a talking to today by my boss because I am apparently asking the wrong person for help. Excuse me for going to the only nice person in the group that is willing to train me without a hidden agenda. I was told that I need to reach out to my boss (rude, condescending, impatient micro-manager) or to a coworker who is very passive-aggressive, selective of what info he shares with you. Not sure I can manage to tolerate more in the next 6 months.

@maletitep4435 3 года назад

I use to think that my coworkers are going to get tired of me cause I feel like I ask them a lot of things. Every time a new challenge comes and I have to ask how to do something cause I have no idea, I get anxious and scare. They have always been nice to me, but I can't avoid the feeling. You're video has make me feel better, now I understand asking for help is not as bad as I thought.

@NatalieFisher 3 года назад

It's all in the way you think about yourself and then from how you feel and in the WAY you ask for help

@mau345 2 года назад

Thats fine, its important to ask and ask and to be honest, in the first place, your company should have trainings for their employees that capacitate them in the first place, but of course there are intricacies not in the manual.

@itssteven4184 2 года назад

At least they are being nice at you. My coworkers seems annoyed every time I asked them a lot of questions. Some of them even made fun of me. ☹️

@sirsagery1200 Год назад

Same exact thing I go through at my job, this video indeed has helped out a lot.

@learnenglishwithhanane2819 Год назад

This is my case .... My whole life I'm feeling like this .. to the point I can do nothing in my life ... I really suffer from that.. now I get an opportunity to work in a travelling company and i' afraid to work with a team

@datafuturelab_ssb4433 3 года назад

This is most serious problem at workplace and most common... Nobody talks about this... Thank you for great tips....

@michaelmemory6938 Год назад

Fascinating how this "not asking questions" habit can start early on in life, and people can still suffer this self-doubt in adulthood. Thanks for the reassuring content, Natalie!

@meowwmoeww5441 6 месяцев назад

UPDATE: I made a comment on this video 2 years ago. I can't believe I made it! I'm still working at the same workplace, and guess what, I got a raise two times. So, hang in there and do your best. Prayer always works.

@manaetakpodekon8748 5 месяцев назад

Congratulations !

@NatalieFisher 3 месяца назад

WOW that's so great!! I'm so glad you posted too and it's incredible to see your progress!

@alyreadsbooks7560 3 года назад

I started my first job 3 days ago, and I’m really having a hard time. I don’t normally learn things the first time around. Normally, I ask them a few stupid questions, but not too many because I don’t want to bother them. Thank you though for bringing this logic into it.

@yesicamen699 3 года назад

Same here. No one learn the first time. I am really smart and do everithing ok. But when I start a new job I always asked stupid question. But that it's ok. It's their problem if their don't understand other human being. I ask them any ways. I need to finish my job. So I ask them many things and if they tell me figure it out on your own. I don't move until they tell me. Because sometimes the questions are really easy to answer and they can tell you easily and save your time.

@sebastionjunior4125 2 года назад

Today is my fourth day and i have not been given anything to work and im playing mobile legends game all day man what the fuck is this normal

@alyreadsbooks7560 2 года назад

@@sebastionjunior4125 hahaha that actually kinda happened to me at my first internship (I don’t even really count it as a real job). I just didn’t care too much cause it was unpaid 😂 I guess it’s more common than I thought lol

@coviloku7104 Год назад

Thank heavens, I'm not alone.

@faryalanjum2518 Год назад

Yoo don’t worry about it, i am 4 years into my career and still feel stupid the first couple of months in a new job. It’s just the learning pains. New people, new collaborative process, different communication. Also don’t worry about asking for help majority of the people like helping cuz it feels nice to be able to mentor someone even if it’s for something small.

@joycet5992 2 года назад

I always feel dumb when I don't understand something that's been explained to me more than once. I just suffer in silence and become panicky because I don't know what I'm doing. I went through the same thing in math class! I never understood what was taught and would have to wait till I got home to relearn it for myself in order to do my homework. Thank you for this!

@nischalparajuli9853 2 года назад

I feel exactly the same ☺️😊😓

@RuthieGiggles 2 года назад

I overthink everything I do and when I get home from work. I was stressed about work related stuff glad I came across this video. I’m glad I’m not the only one who struggles. I forgot to overlook a document and now I’m so stressed and didn’t initial off and now I’m scared of getting in trouble for not signing off a document.. that is dated for a certain day.. the anxiety !!!

@susux7332 2 года назад

Same here. It’s really tough to deal with the stress. Even when I’m home, I’m thinking about it. I wish I could just let it go!

@zacharymaneja1207 2 года назад

I sometimes get stuck on things like this. It's nice to see I'm not alone

@itssteven4184 2 года назад

@@zacharymaneja1207 me too!!

@yasmin-jm8qj Год назад

I’m on the same boat rn 😂😭

@muritalaadebanke4962 Год назад

I did battle some health challenges made me find it to relate with people and affecting my out pout Always in a state of no confidence at work making me do mistake even while doing what I know best and also making mistake while I speak English

@fklr-369 3 года назад

If I had you as a teacher when I was a child I would have been a long ways ahead of the game. Thank you for the positive message.

@NatalieFisher 3 года назад

What a nice thing to say!

@tammymadiou8240 3 года назад

I am a Registered Nurse whose last job closed after having worked there for 11 years. Although I found a new position, I was surprised at how stupid I felt in my new environment. Your video is very helpful- Thank you.

@NatalieFisher 3 года назад

You have a thought in your brain that creates the feeling of stupid, like "I should have known that" For example, Then you feel stupid when you think and believe that. Anyone who thinks that would feel stupid too, not just you. You are not stupid you are just a human having a thought and you chose to accept it was true which created the feeling of stupid. It's optional to think what you want. Choose wisely ! Choose to focus on all the reasons you are 100% capable, which is a long list as well! Glad You found the video helpful!

@amycurtis7954 3 года назад

This comment section feels like a big hug

@chrisSea1346 4 месяца назад

Thank you for this. I work at a a company with a bunch of smart, sharp people. I feel like I’m the dimwit at times. But I remind myself that I’m here to learn and grow. I outgrew my last role and that’s why I moved up to this one. One day I’ll outgrow this role too.

@sharedsecrets1806 2 года назад

😢 Thank you so much for this video. I started a new job and literally did the exact thing you are speaking about “labeled myself dumb ahead of time because I didn’t get it”

@keerthanacv539 3 года назад

I found all that you said, so relatable! And going through the comments section is comforting...coz I realised I'm not alone😅 Much needed positive push...thanks a lot Natalie😀😀

@NatalieFisher 3 года назад

You got it!

@sougataghosh4101 2 года назад

Hey I am with you at the same platform.

@darcycooke2110 2 года назад

This is the perfect message for me. I am at a new position and my trainer is extremely fast and she will say things like, "I have told you this before" or "we talked about this." So I was feeling mad at myself. Your message has helped me so much. In my 90 day review it was really awesome. So thank you. Also I will continue to ask questions even if they are the SAME questions over and over again. I will try the flattery comments and I am sure it will work because she is very narcissistic.

@Digitalworldfly 2 года назад

can i ask you a question how do you feel about recording them video when they answer that way you play it back and watch it but i wonder how would they feel about that or take a picture? what are your opinions on this?

@Studyhelp01 2 года назад

Darcy, i feel as if we work at the same place XD

@jocelyngokul728 Год назад

I have told you this before that's what they like to say to make u feel inferior

@leslieinadress Год назад

Yes! Having this happen too! I told you this before. Well my job didn’t come with SOP. I’m trying to take notes but then there isn’t time to go back through them.

@Forthright131 Год назад

Hi get the same responses from trainers/Managers too. I have started snipping/ screenshooting applications we use to complete tasks while being trained. I tell trainers before we begin that I will be capturing our training to not miss a detail. I’ll downplay my initiative with flattery saying I want to make sure I’m not missing all of their expertise nor misusing their time. I find this buys me time to take the notes I need enough where I can fill in the gaps and reduce my dependency on them. I also keep a list of tasks I was trained on with dates and names so if I am told I was trained on something, I can verify. I’ve noticed some of the trainers can be unintentionally forgetful so this helps me as well as them to make sure we are on track with what I need to know.

@tommyflockman7329 Год назад

I still struggle with this every day at my job and in life in general. I'm afraid of asking to explain things again because of social anxiety and looking stupid. Also i'm a visual learner so if i can't imagine or visualise something it can be hard for me to wrap my head around. Everything just has to happen so fast and information gets exchanged so fast and you're just kinda expected to be able to pick up on it right away. I just don't function that way. When i get any piece of information my brain needs time to go trough that very thoroughly. And i can't just write down or record everything all the time. In life you have to be able to think and respond fast and be quik on your feet. But i'm the total oposite. That's why i'm better at writting i think because i can write it over and over again until i have perfected what i wanted to articulate... It's just very exhausting to have to go trough life like that tbh. I feel like a lot of people think that i'm dumb a lot of times And then i'm agh if only i could explain how my brain works but then i'm like Oh wel they don't care and they can't relate , and it 'd probbly be even weirder if you all of a sudden start ranting about stuff like that to justify your lack capability so then i just don't and let them think i'm stupid anyway :)

@TheTwins-ik5ji Год назад

I wake up with anxiety every morning about going to work and being afraid of doing something stupid.

@airamsg3467 Год назад

@@TheTwins-ik5ji I feel the same way

@PolarBear-rc4ks Год назад

@@TheTwins-ik5ji quit that job, and find something that isn't like that

@pieceofpie5402 Год назад

i’m literally the same as you, and i’m actually shocked to see someone else going through the exact same thing as me! All this time I thought I was the only one… But, is there anything that has helped you out, or made things easier for you? please let me know

@Adamjack99 8 месяцев назад

I love you,we are the same i thought im the only one earth like this.😫

@dorothywinter5844 Год назад

Great video. I don't and won't call myself dumb but I do get frustrated with trainers who are good at their job but hopeless at training. I always take notes which absolutely help me. No good trainer will think it's a stupid way to learn. I have learnt when I've trained people that everyone is different and everyone is only as good as hiw they have been trained. So everyone reading this, I believe you can do anything when you put your mind at rest and just know you are amazing 👏

@Forthright131 Год назад

Exactly. Some trainers have the knowledge but don’t know how to universalize their communication or explain things in various ways. We as learners are only as good as our ability to ask questions and take ownership for our learning. We must remember where there is will, there is a way even if it’s not the same way of the teacher. Always find a way.

@se7en952 Год назад

I actually had a trainer, amazing at her job, gave me a company notepad and company pen, told me since I'm new make note of important details, later tasks etc. but when I actually tried to do that she said, "Can't u just do that in ur head?".

@believeinnature8930 Год назад

Dorothy Winter. I have to understand that not because a teacher, trainer, instructor or boss know their subject or job it means they know how to teach or deliver knowledge!

@FiveisGrace 2 года назад

This thread is very relatable. I have been in my current role for 5 months. Been with the company for over 4 years. When I asked for help. And didn't get it. I'd hear "We went over this already." Or make passive aggressive remarks. Makes me nervous to asked questions.

@rintaroy 2 года назад

I'm feeling relaxed right now, few minutes ago I had a conversation with my senior colleague. Whenever I get new tasks I always call him and discuss how to do it!, even though it's completely my work. He is very kind and patient to explain everything. Sometimes I ask step by step solution for my task even I have 3 yrs of experience, while asking the same I always feel dumb and think my coworker may be thought that how I landed at this career! Who hired her and so on😬😬😬 your video helps me to think in another perspective. Thank you. I'm not dumb anymore I'm just curious to learn 😉

@trishakwatra9288 2 года назад

This video is a gem. I left my old job for the same reason. I lost confidence while learning a new project, my brain froze and stopped accepting new info. I took long yrs gap and am back to a new job. And I realise I am beginning to do the same mistake. So, I wanted to overcome this, and I found this video. And I must say, I m gonna implement it asap!! Thank you so much for such great content!!🙌🙌

@gangberry1317 3 года назад

I just wanna thank you for saving my life. That I don’t understand when someone explains to me the first time and I am too afraid to ask again just kills me everday at work

@ganbatte1260 Год назад

How is it now? People already mocking me since i didnt understand what theyre saying. And my boss gave me a super hard project which i know 0% about it :(

@mickeyway326 2 года назад

I get yelled at constantly just for asking questions. Most jobs around me expect you to get it the first time and if you make mistakes and don’t learn from them that you aren’t adequate for any job. That is what starts that self doubt but even through all the hard work and questions the result becomes practice makes perfect. If I run over something constantly I will get it but me failing those first couple times is nesseswry

@brightestmoments101 2 года назад

Not gonna lie, this has calmed my anxiety

@hitomireiki7298 Год назад

This actually helps because I feel dumb today for making a dumb mistake at work

@itssteven4184 2 года назад

I know it's been 2 years already. But seriously thanks for making this video. I'm struggling to understand a lot of thing in my new work. I'm so happy that I found your video. Thank you!!!

@teelowonnahoe2924 2 года назад

I started my job a few weeks ago and everyone there is super advanced and stuff. I get so nervous !! Your video helped a lot, I understand what your saying but I’m sooo nervous I have to go in in 2 hours!!

@ganbatte1260 Год назад

How is it now? I feel this now? I work in a manufacturing company. I just work for 1 month. And my boss alreaxy gave me a super sxary project which i understand only 1% about it :(

@AnonAndy Год назад

I’ve always been super insecure about my inability to do math in my head and hearing you say that it’s hard for you too made me feel so much better. ❤

@NatalieFisher Год назад

lol and I have no shame around it whatsoever. No need! I'm glad that helped

@dramaqueen5889 3 года назад

I am at a position where I have to explain and delegate tasks to multiple teammates. I always make sure that I am going slowly.. I am pausing in between to make sure people are getting it. At times people tell me that I am going too slow and that they have understood it. 😁 But I like to make sure everyone understands what is the task and they are not at a place where they have to go to other people to ask about the same stuff I explained to them 😂🤣. Most smart people are upfront that they didn't understand when they don't and ask a lot of questions and ask to repeat multiple times.

@kiwikiwi2 2 года назад

Thank you for this. I'm new as a health worker and I've realized it's a very unpredictable job, you never know what situations are gonna come up. I often feel dumb because I don't know how to deal with certain situations and have to ask coworkers for help constantly. This video made me feel better about asking questions. I just have to learn, gain confidence in my abilities and get more experience.

@ganbatte1260 Год назад

How is it now? I feel this now :(

@viditsaxena1557 Год назад

I really needed this. This usually happens at a job that pays you more than what you actually deserve. The expectations of the management are high

@kristinnefertiti8267 2 года назад

I watched this video this morning b/c I was having an anxiety attack. This video literally helped me through the day. Thanks.

@NatalieFisher 2 года назад

I am so glad to hear that. You would also love the podcast there's a lot more helpful content there podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/get-a-6-figure-job-you-love/id1522315419

@Forthright131 Год назад

Keep reminding yourself that you are capable. This way you will feel empowered to ask the questions you need to complete your tasks reducing the negative sentiments about yourself. Your not alone in those feelings. Feeling capable and productive is empowering and fueling. When we experience the opposite, we can become self doubting. What results from self doubting thoughts is the erosion of your self confidence and esteem. You need self confidence and esteem to do the job period. You are capable and confident. The company would have not hired you if they didn’t believe this too.

@mariannep9202 10 месяцев назад

@@Forthright131I love that there are people like you on the internet

@Forthright131 Год назад

I love your feedback. It’s so important to hear this. Especially when you’re working with coworkers that are intentionally uncooperative to assist or clarify what they want done. I hate making assumptions and having conflicting instructions. So grateful I stumbled onto this video.

@transcendinglife3515 2 года назад

Just stumbled upon this video here in YT, and I must say it's a gem. Everything you said is so relatable as I am that person who worries so much whether I am asking the right questions or too many questions. Thank you Natalie! 😊

@birb5306 3 года назад

This works great if you have a boss or colleagues who will explain something more than once. What should I do if I just get told “you should figure it out on your own?”

@NatalieFisher 3 года назад

I would apply all of the methods step by step that I outlined in this video to ask for more clarity.

@yesicamen699 3 года назад

Same thing is happening to me. They tell me figure it out on your own. It's too hat because I had just two weeks working there and It was my first job as an accountant. So, everithing has been really hard for me 😢

@taylorduvernay9789 3 года назад

I googled this video today because after the meeting I had with my boss who is a bully I felt so stupid and dumb 😡

@NatalieFisher 3 года назад

I hope the video showed you that you can decide that you're not dumb or stupid. Your boss's words are just words, you can decide to disagree with him or her and it would serve you best to disagree :D

@yoongis.tangerine 3 года назад

i feel the same. i hate my job lol

@elim243 2 года назад

This is their style. They have this in thei description job to make the employees to feel thhis way. Same happens to me, and same to other colleagues.

@karagraham9764 5 месяцев назад

I didn’t think I was dumb but instead disagreed with a lot of management methods

@taylorduvernay9789 5 месяцев назад

@@karagraham9764 she was a bully.

@minhazulislam9131 2 года назад

Asking questions (dumb or intellectual) is the best way to tackle this problem. Thank you so much.

@NatalieFisher 2 года назад

Simple & profound comment.

@daeorte2392 Год назад

I totally get what you’re doing here and yes, if we think we’re stupid so will everyone else, so ask questions and get your understanding!

@cjay2658 2 года назад

I feel so much better after hearing this video because I've always thought I was stupid unfortunately.

@yoongis.tangerine 3 года назад

i currently have a boss who makes you feel rlly stupid everytime you ask a question, and its been rlly eating away my motivation. now i have anxiety everytime i have a task that i don't know how to do

@supasaunders7390 2 года назад

Natalie, just discovered you and subscribed. Really appreciate your candor, openness to share your vulnerabilities, and genuine passion to help others- all rare but valuable and respectable character attributes! You are helping more people than you will ever know. ☺️

@yrraljaime Год назад

My first two days in the operations has been chaotic and I absolutely felt dumb and awkward. What you said really helped to put things in perspective and made me realize how awesome I am. Thank you.

@NatalieFisher Год назад

That's a great comment ! I'm so glad to hear your take-away from the video !

@lonimimeseko Год назад

This video is really relieving me of some of the anxious thoughts I’ve been getting after starting a new job. I always feel dumb for asking my coworker questions because the thought of being irritating or perceived as incompetent is scary to me. But in the end, you’re right. I am responsible for my learning and it is up to me to grasp the information I’m given to do my job effectively even if it means asking multiple questions to master a task. Thank you so much for making this video

@sierratrammell110 4 года назад

Thank you very much for creating this video! I have experienced feeling stupid when not understanding some information the first time, especially when someone is speaking very fast. I have learned to not let other people's opinions define me and it is okay to ask as many questions as possible until I fully understand what I need to understand. I find that many people who act irritated when they have to explain things again to people, are poor communicators. Instead of working on improving their communication skills, they find it easier to degrade the person on the receiving end. You are also correct when you said that people have strengths and weaknesses and because a person may make a mistake, does not mean that should be labeled as stupid. There is a huge difference between being stupid and being ignorant. If someone makes an innocent mistake, they are simply ignorant and they lack knowledge in a particular area. Everyone to a certain extent is ignorant when comes to certain things. Ignorance does not equal stupidity. If someone makes an innocent mistake or says something wrong, they are ignorant in that subject area, which is okay because have the opportunity to learn from their mistake. Once that person learns from their mistake and they continue to do the same stuff that the now know is wrong, then their behavior becomes stupid. Either way, we are all human and we all make mistakes. What defines us is not our mistakes, but how you grow from our mistakes.

@NatalieFisher 4 года назад

Great Comments Sierra, some very good realizations and insights here!

@sierratrammell110 4 года назад

Natalie Fisher Thank you!

@holliedeffenbaugh6566 Год назад

So very well said and all these things stated in your comment, are what I had to tell myself and basically retrain my brain to know and believe in order to not be a nervous freaking wreck at work day in and day out. It was debilitating, the anxiety and stress I'd put myself through, in hindsight, was and is absolutely ridiculous. So unnecessary and probably took years off my life because of it LOL (kidding...sort of) I heard once, yeas ago and it struck a cord..."A closed mouth doesn't get fed".. if you don't open your mouth and ask the necessary questions...how the heck will you know how to do certain aspects of your job or how to complete an assignment? You CAN'T and you WON'T...Not without asking the questions you need to ask... and those are different for everyone. If someone is getting annoyed with the amount of questions you're asking...That's THEIR problem... NOT YOURS but I also know it's hard not to take it personally. I've learned to pity and feel bad, if you will, for those folks, because life doesn't change or adhere to different ways because it suits a certain person... So if they're so annoyed at being asked questions pertaining to the exact subject they're speaking on, then they're in for some real hurdles and obstacles in life. Nobody is so out of this world amazing at explaining anything or picking something up the very first time they see it done or have it explained to them... That the person they're talking to won't have at least a few questions...thats incredibly unrealistic and extremely narcissistic (if they do) yes I understand there's a RARE Few that pick something up along in life after they've watched it domonstrated ONCE or had it briefly explained to them...again, that's unrealistic and even then they'll go over it in their heads or even practice, if they can. I used to beat myself up so bad and I'd obsess sometimes for weeks, even months when I had someone get snappy when I'd ask (in their opinion) too many questions...I'm an intelligent individual and I know that... I know how to do so many things pertaining to anything and everything you can imagine, because I've asked questions, sometimes TONS and sometimes not quite a ton BUT I'll ask as many as is necessary for me to understand what I need to know, if that's what it takes... I did eventually start taking notes and I'll say I'm a HUGE note taker and take notes on everything, anything I need throughout the day... Recording on my phone is my go to now, but I've never outgrown the need to ask questions when learning something new and neither will anyone else. "A closed mouth never gets fed"

@ayushisahu4341 3 года назад

can we please appreciate her? like how awesome and underrated she is-

@NatalieFisher 2 года назад

AWE! Thank you! I will be reading this comment section every time I need a hug! I beleive that all of you here are also awesome and under-rated and I want to help you be seen for the geniuses you really are!

@bigbadbillb Год назад

When you're being trained by someone for a new job and they become visibly impatient with you, you have to stand up for yourself and remind them that you're still new and learning things, yet don't be apologetic about it. After all, that person was a "newbie" once.

@Nati_G 2 года назад

Thank you💕I'm learning to ask questions even if it seems dumb or too simple. I asked this kind of question just now and information i got turned out to be very important to know. So asking questions guarantees the success at work 😊

@noun613 3 года назад

Nathalie, I just started a new job as a receptionist in long term care, and boy there is a lot to learn! And when I ask questions, I keep getting the use your common sense, and I try to ask questions because I don’t want to make mistakes.

@NatalieFisher 3 года назад

Common sense is really someone's opinion, and people can have many different opinions on what "common sense" is. The key is to have your own back here no matter what.

@alphaAURA9000 Год назад

Great way of explaining this, many think being perfect at your job right away is mandatory, but what's mandatory is getting better at your job, and perfection doesn't need improvement, and therefore is not looked for and impossible to find in a healthy, realistic workplace, great video Natalie! Thank you

@ghostpeppered4524 2 года назад

Summarized notes: 1. When you feel bad for not understanding the first time, I want you to flip it around, and put it back on that other person. Let go of the negative feeling. Embrace a sense of entitlement: you are entitled to questions until you are blue in the face. Challenge them. It doesn't matter who or how good they think they are. They could be an excellent soldier, but a terrible parent and teacher. That's not your fault. This happens most of the time actually. Engineers good at talking to systems, not people. Again, that's not your fault. You must expect this outcome. Be prepared for it. It requires patience from both sides. Everyone is feeling Imposter Syndrome. The more transparent you can be, the more effortlessly we can solve the problem. Nobody is perfect. Everyone makes mistakes. Everyone. If you aren't making mistakes, you're not trying. But not everyone REPEATS their mistakes. Mistakes serve as learning opportunities. I could lecture you for hours, but at the end of the day, we learn 100x more from our mistakes. Nobody learns to ride the bicycle the first time. You miss 100% of the shots you don't take. The only real mistake is the one from which we learn nothing. Since they're asking you to help them, it's in their best interest to invest the time required so that you CAN be successful. But if you allow them to leave without your understanding, NOW it becomes your fault. NOW you're fated; it's a self-fulling prophecy--you WILL look dumb when you show up to deliver empty-handed, and if you don't try anything new to change your approach, you'll keep on delivering a bad experience consistently, NOW your team WILL think of you as unworthy--BUT ONLY BECAUSE YOU THOUGHT IT FIRST. 2. Use technology to augment your learning speed. For example, I love to record everything. You could use a tape recorder, or ask them to write it down, or present it to you in a different format. 3. Use flattery. "I can see you understand this really well, but as a new person I am struggling. Can you rephrase slowly?"

@NatalieFisher 2 года назад

Thank you for these very thorough notes! I know they will be very useful to others . Thank you for adding Value in this way.

@reshmapriya6192 10 месяцев назад

Thanks a lot. This meant so much supportive and encouraging me.❤

@kaleyhobbs 3 года назад

I so needed to hear this today! Thank you for the pep talk.

@reacher8042 2 года назад

Lady, YOU ARE A GODSEND. Thank you so much. I really needed this. Now I feel pumped up and that I can do it

@Jesusisthetruth2 2 года назад

Thank you so much for this! Its just what I needed to hear this morning ! I have just applied for my dream job and I'm worrying already even though I haven't even got confirmation of an interview yet! 😆 And I don't mind asking questions but I do not like it if somebody makes you feel dumb for asking! People like that are really not useful ! 😒😒

@SuperPrabhdeepsingh Год назад

I'm a fresher, starting a new job and feel like I'm just not good enough for such a job. I just feel very anxious to do stuff.

@sanaatouzani3085 8 месяцев назад

Natalie you’re the best! Please continue with this type of work.

@ashleyash8653 10 месяцев назад

Thank you soooooooo much for making this video. I've been working as an HR in a hospital for the last 2 months and I'm not familiar with paperwork and documents, so sometimes I forget some tasks 😅, and also forget that I've never seen these documents so I need to be chill, because everything is new to me. In short, I must say, your words helped me a lot to regain my confidence. Our society is like that. The Managers think they have high posts so they can treat everyone the way they want. Anyway, thank you for letting me know how fight for myself. God blesses you.

@kingpuppet5881 11 месяцев назад

Thank you so much for this. I was a really good and profeicient critical care nurse for 11 years. I started a nurse management job 8 months ago. It is the polar opposite off what I did. It is an office based job. Never did anything like it before. I have so much expected of me as its infection control. So many things to learn. I often feel dumb and stupid because I am not learning at the speed they want me to learn at! I am working so hard and I am picking up as much as I can. I can only learn one thing at a time. I often come home from work now feeling low. My self esteem and confidence has plummeted. Your tips really helped. much respect.

@amvasoft 5 месяцев назад

I literally cried, while watching this video. It was totally relatable. I actually have gone through the exactly same thing. Thank you so much for the encouragement and saving me through this. Lots of love from India!

@thaoanh512 3 года назад

Omg I thought I’m the only person felt that way .. thanks so much for the vid

@NatalieFisher 3 года назад

as you can see from the comments you're not alone

@ahmedhal6685 7 месяцев назад

From the bottom of my heart I really want to thank you, I wish you robust health. You are just amazing. Respect!

@jekw23 3 месяца назад

I constantly feel dumb as I’m always pushed into new roles that get me more visible and pressurised. I seem to be good at hiding it as I keep getting more work. Somehow despite not knowing exactly what I’m doing or how to do the work I can get through the day. This is not easy and I’m anxious most of the time. It seems to work enough though and I tend to have enough resilience to batter through the almost constant issues that crop up. I’ve stopped trying to understand why. I do spent most of my time wondering why I’ve not been found out. At least one a day I’ll have an issue escalated to me and I’ll think “what on earth does that even mean”. I try to focus on what’s causing the problem rather than the very technical details. It’s helped me to realise that almost all problems are caused by miscommunication so i tend to focus on getting the right people to talk to each other.

@RockeiraForEver14 9 месяцев назад

thank you for this video, I'm starting my new job tomorrow and I'm new to the whole thing - it's my first role as a data analyst after uni - and I'm struggling with my anxiety, mostly due to the fear of appearing dumb to my more experienced co-workers. this video was really helpful, I will try to apply your advice. Thanks for telling us we are not dumb for not understanding something the first time

@samiulhauqe4334 2 года назад

Thank you for this. Really needed somone to explain to me that I'm not stupid. I just don't know enough like they do. Tysm.

@spearlightknight1714 2 года назад

Wow Natalie, thank you! Grateful for this video! So relatable

@Ya12377 2 года назад

Thank you, thank you, thank you! I needed this so much this helped me entirely, because I struggle with this a lot on an every day basis so I greatly appreciate this video, You are amazing! 🙌🙌

@rukshanaaly7794 Год назад

I am starting my first ever internship tomorrow, I will follow your instructions! Thank you so much Natalie!! :)

@aliciadinar1600 2 года назад

This was great! I feel better already. Be a better communicator and you can solve the worry that others THINK you're slow or not catching on, make sure to ask questions when you aren't sure and give flattery first so they are more receptive to running through the lesson again :)

@janicefernandes7925 2 года назад

Thanks Nat. I feel much better now. I am not dumb. I can do this.

@robiulhasanemon263 2 года назад

God! Thank you natalie. I needed that badly, feeling much more better now.

@Gusidol 2 года назад

Thank you so much for your video! It really help me boost my confident in my new job.

@jenniferouten9560 2 года назад

I have been at my job for years and I feel that I have to always be on my A-game. This was very helpful! Thanks for sharing 😊

@parisryan2012 3 года назад

Thank you so much this video help me so much I have been feeling so dumb at work I’m around people who use big words and i like when someone explains in a simple way ... also so many ppl ask me to do things all the time I’m always running around I do write things down but I panic that I won’t complete a task or that I will make a mistake

@homebody61 3 года назад

Just what I needed. Thanks for this video.

@moeshilleh7665 Год назад

Thanks for this. I have just recently started a job as a new grad at a big company and I feel like asking questions is really hard for me. I definitely feel stupid a lot and it definitely shuts me down for a little bit. What I really liked was the fact you said what defines “smart”. Made me really rethink the word. I really thought the word means the ability to process information at a fast pace but that can only get you so far. You need to be “smart” in a lot of other things to be a successful employee in any industry. I wish they taught things like this in school haha. Thanks again really helped 😊

@NatalieFisher Год назад

Great I'm so glad! YES I am so glad you took that from this video such an important game-changing takeaway!

@maddiemartinez1524 3 года назад

I don't comment on videos frequently but I must say this video is giving me so much clarity and debunking everything of what I thought was true about me. There has been so much anxiety that I've developed through the working experience that I've felt "dumb" or felt like I was "problem-driven" on the number of questions I've asked my employers or have felt they were frustrated with me because I needed more information so that I may perform my work. It was always hard to describe my concerns with friends because they didn't understand how upset this made me feel. But I thank you for providing this quality-content video because it's relieving a lot of my anxiety.

@NatalieFisher 3 года назад

Thank you so much for commenting I am very glad that it has helped you. ❤️❤️❤️

@NatalieFisher 3 года назад

Madeline, this is a podcast episode that I think will also relieve more of your anxiety podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/interview-superpower-that-everyone-has-but-they-dont/id1522315419?i=1000497758922

@shouqfahad4216 2 года назад

Thank you so much for all this effort, highly appreciated

@juliebegin8851 2 года назад

Thank you for your information that helped me alot. My second week at my new job will be much better now that i listened to your video 😁

@JessicaTorres-ht2zb Год назад

Love your explanation & empathy!

@Olevea 2 года назад

I ask questions but then feel dumb afterwards...It's especially difficult when you're working in an environment where everyone expects you to know everything. 😫😫😫

@ChristianaSenibo 2 года назад

Remind yourself that you are competent even if there are things you may not know. Their attitude says more about their own inadequacies not yours, plus that's an unhealthy environment professionally and mentally. It may be worth evaluating whether that's the kind of environment you want to be in the long run ❤

@yoloj3776 2 года назад

Im a new employee at dunkin and they’re like “ask questions when you dont know what to do” but then they also get like annoyed a little when i forget and and then i feel dumb. They expect us to know and remember the first time they taught us 🙄

@poornaayuvaraj1712 9 месяцев назад

It was much much needed!! Thankyou soo muchhh Natalie and the people in the comment section too for letting me know im not alone in this!!!!

@joanclipp4421 3 года назад

This was so helpful! Just started a new job and I'm approaching it in a totally new way. I was doing some of this but you offer so many good tips. Thank you. Now I just need to work on my filter after working freelance and from home for10 years!😁

@NatalieFisher 3 года назад

You got this!

@radhikarane294 Год назад

Wow! Thanks for sharing. Makes me feel much better after watching this video.

@carlyboutelle6048 Год назад

I feel so dumb at work. Every time I open my mouth my anxiety kicks in and they all look at me like I'm stupid which leads me to say even stupider things. It's so awful.

@retailtherapywithstaceylyn3289 4 месяца назад

i can relate to this

@chilliconn071 Год назад

Just what I wanted to hear as I'm starting a new job/position tomorrow and my anxiety is off the scale right now. Will certainly give your website a visit at the earliest opportunity. Thankyou so much.

@riteshvairagade2470 2 года назад

Thank You for understanding… the things… and making my confidence back…

@samanfatima4081 2 года назад

Thanks a bunch for addressing an important issue. I hope that it will change my job situation

@mayasajadifar4552 2 года назад

This was really helpful! Thanks I am generally really bad at asking questions… I always think that answers must be somewhere out there and I can find them myself. In most cases, answers are out there, but the amount of time and energy I could save if I would have asked an expert is simply tremendous!

@josephc8804 2 года назад

LOVE your energy, Natalie! Sending love 💜

@NatalieFisher 2 года назад

Thanks Joseph!

@alyk8254 Год назад

Thank you, Natalie. I really needed this.

@party2death 4 года назад

I just found your channel. I love your videos! I recently graduated college 2 years ago and I work in HR, so your videos are so helpful especially to someone like myself who is early in my career. I'm on your second video now of how to deal with difficult people and the soy milk lady. I am nodding like yes, yes, i've had similar situations happen like this. Looking forwarding to watching more of your videos. ~ Love the content.

@NatalieFisher 4 года назад

LOL thanks! I love that you can relate to the "Soy milk lady" example, we know who they are and we'll always run into a few of them in our careers lol, Once we accept that they are who they are we get to choose how we want to be instead of trying to change people. If we could change people I'd be all for that LOL. Glad you're here nice to meet you!

@FreedomAndWisdom Год назад

This was a big help, thanks for your input. Now I can take a proactive approach!!

@GANESH-qf1tb 2 года назад

Thanks for this Natalie 🙌🏻

@varshapn813 8 месяцев назад

Thanks a lot from ma heart....I think this is the video that I searching for years❤

@omargarza7060 2 года назад

Great video, very helpful with a lot of truth. Thank you.

@Neshie22 3 года назад

This is exactly how I feel! I have put off watchig this video for a few weeks and watched at a perfect time when I had just received feedback from my boss. Thank you very much!

@NatalieFisher 3 года назад

I'm so glad!