I’m only 24 minutes in….and I have to say you are an inspiration to so many of us. I’m sitting here in my comfy Figleaves joggers, after coming home from my torturous Pilates workout ( the only kind to have), and I’ve started gardening. I’ve never cared what people thought of me….that has truly been a gift. I did however, reach a breaking point a few months ago when I realized I was desperately neglecting selfcare. We adopted our autistic grandson 5 years ago. He is the highlight of our lives! We are so grateful to have him. Given my age….its not as easy as things once were. So at my breaking point, realizing I needed to take care of me if I was going to be able to take care of everyone else. I hired housecleaners, started my Pilates classes 3 days a week and planted a flower garden….and a few herbs. And of course, I watch your videos 2 times a week! My favorite time of the day with a cup of tea. I just want to say thank you! Thank you for sharing your struggles and your path of better living. And giving yourself the ‘feel good’ moments you deserve .
My husband wants a divorce and I feelmy life emotions my soul going like a plane crashing. Lydia I dont know you but whoever doesn't like you is not just stupid but clearly is jealous of you. Thank you for this. Seriously, from the most humble part of my heart and in tears. Thank you. You have no idea what this video has done to me.
The fact that you have been able to take some peace from this video and apply it to this turbulent time shows how able you are to tackle everything in life. Get on those books, I promise your life is about to bloom like you never could have imagined x
These people are just sad and have their own problems to deal with. The fact that someone can find something negative to say from Lydia’s content blows my mind. You won’t feel better by spreading hate, people! 🤨
If he wants a divorce let him go! God has a plan for all of us. He was just passing your life temporarily, some people come for a reason a season or a life time. He was meant to be with you for a season as a part of your journey to learn something. His soul is gone already, all is with you is his physical body. let him go and tell him thank you for the time you shared together . Your life will be transform to a happier brighter fullfiling life. Trust in the Universe it has some thing bigger awaiting for you ✨
Put your all your trust in God . He will lead you . Read the Bible and he will sustain you with his love and direction. One day, you will look back and understand GOD was with you. Trust me I went through the same. 🙏🏼❤️😊
Hello from Arizona. I wanted to respond to the negative comments. We all have suffered in life in one way or another. I am in the middle of a divorce to a man that I married 33 years ago, had two children and supported him in his dreams. I even took care of his father in his old age. He sat me down and said horrible things to me and our daughter. Every day I wake up at 5:00 with anxiety as to what the day will bring from his attorney. There was domestic issues that have taken my body and mind down. To say that watching Lydia’s videos is so therapeutic is an understatement. We all want to live the dream, and to see her succeed and show us her “things”, is so minuscule. Of course she shows “ things”, as this is her job and delight! However, her words spoken to us are the real gift! Not many expose their raw self and challenge to be better! My daughter and I need too see beauty in plants, decor and animals! We k ow the dream for her is her dream for us all!!!!
Better yet, start your own decorating. Gardening and self care. I’ve recently taken custody of my boisterous grand. I’m 61 . Life has many ups and downs. Decor , dressing well, and gardening always give back!
I'm a single mum to 4 children one with severe learning disabilities my life is the opposite to yours , however I love and enjoy and appreciate your content as it encourages me to enjoy things, simple pleasures, and this year I'm determined to get into gardening. I feel inspired by your life and the content you show to want and do better for myself mentally and physically. Self improvement through reading , gardening etc. I grew up doing all these things visiting gardening centres, looking at beautiful grounds and art and along the way I ended up drifting so far from these things. You have helped me to realise these things bring me comfort and peace .
@@beckie-sr1qw Wow! You are an inspiration! I can’t imagine how difficult life can be for you. You are exactly the kind of person that makes the world more beautiful and gives hope. Hope is everything. My dad encourages me each day to have hope. I feel this is what Lydia is doing when she shares beauty in gardening, her animals, cooking and yes ( the beautiful clothes she loves). We all would hope that our life could be easier and more beautiful. I can’t fault someone for not experiencing my pain. I can only hope that each day I find beauty somewhere so I can make my children’s lives better. If I am receiving comfort from Lydia’s sharing of her life through self help books….. isn’t that a good thing! I wish for you a life of comfort and happiness. You are the reason women are able to be so strong! You taking care of four children and one with learning disabilities makes me feel so inspired! You are precious and strong!
Have unfollowed Lydia a few years back because her content was not resonating with me any longer and sometimes even annoyed me. I recently watched a few of her latest videos and they felt like a big hug around my soul. I now realise that the reason I was reacting so negatively to Lydia’s content previously is that I saw myself (confused, unhappy and unfulfilled) in her, and it was what I recognised in myself that provoked me. The wise and evolved Lydia these days is instead showing me the way. Re subscribing to follow her journey and hoping to learn a few pearls of wisdom on the way. But also obsessed with the sausage dogs and the garden.
That is beautiful insight to your own evolution and recognising how our reactions to others really are a mirror to our own struggles and where we need to give ourselves more grace and grow into better versions of ourselves.
Sending you Florida heat and sun to all the British babes on here with Lydia! Your ability to stay happy without the sun most of the year is your super power!! I'm in awe. ❤❤❤❤❤Love you Lydia!!
Wish I could send the British babes some South Carolina heat and sun too!!! Haven't been able to wear a long sleeve shirt here since April maybe even March!!
My first life-changing book was 'The Obstacle Is the Way'. When I read it, I felt it was so underrated, and I'm glad it is now taking a central place as it deserves. The best book that teaches you how to feel, think, exist in human form, and dream is called 'The Language of Emotions' by Karla McLaren. It helped me learn that the anger I feel is just one tool in a vast toolbox of emotions available to me-a tool that helps me re-establish boundaries and ensure my self-safety.
When my dad died I always struggled with finding silver lining. Sometimes there are no silver linings, but you need find silver linings in the moment. I don’t know if that makes sense. For me it was like finding moments of peace in tragedy - these flowers are nice, my coffee is good, I got up today etc
Loved that book, and I fully understand you, but from where I'm standing, you've a beautiful life, you're healthy, beautiful, loved, smart , creative, I can't help feeling you're still giving time to the negative feedback,, your channels keep growing, you're showered with blessings, no one is listening to the trolls but you, you've a bunch of people who admire you and are pumping for you, celebrating you, and yet, it feels like you never see us You're blessed, you have friendship, love, success draw strength from the beauty & love you're surrounded with, life's so short, enjoy every second❤
We all have people who offer opinions that can be seen as negative, whether that’s a family member, co worker, or at school and sharing how we navigate those only helps all of us move forward. 🤍
You’re so inspiring Lydia, I’m a mum of two children and often struggle with self confidence but watching your journey and how successful you are over the years inspires me to just do a little bit more each day 🤍
Hi, Lydia ❤ I lost two great uncles in the First World War; it reminded me when you read that memorial monument. I didn't know them, they were older brothers of my Nanna. It's raining and storming here in Cape Town, I'm really enjoying all the beautiful spring/summer flowers 😊 Stunning dresses 👗
Thanks for sharing!! You are full of kindness. Letting go of what people think of you usually takes place in your 50's. You are way ahead of the game of life. Good for you!!!
I think when someone is rude to us or upsets us, it's worth just stopping for a few seconds and thinking and not reacting. You don't know what the other person is going through in their life right now. Yes it's wrong to be rude, but we are also human, and humans don't always get everything right. The secret is don't take it personally and don't match their behaviour with yours, because then you have consciously intended to be rude to someone. Equanimity is something we can all practice, yes it's hard, but also a person who values themself and has emotional intelligence, does not respond with rude behaviour. Actually choosing to smile and respond in a respectful way is sometimes enough to make the other person feel sorry.x 🌸🦋🌸
Lydia, you have been on a roll lately with your chats and it’s been so refreshing to hear you share your life experiences and lessons that you’ve learned over the years. ❤ thank you for the wholesome content as always 😊
I loved this discussion today and it’s coming at the perfect time for me. I was literally in tears telling my husband yesterday how frustrating it is for me to never be happy. I’m so tired of always being unhappy even though I always get what I thought I wanted yet still see the grass as greener on the other side. Thank you so much for your book recommendations!
I'm also on this journey, I'm looking to build my business and truly being confident and happy within myself and not to focus on everyone's life path and to go on my own. Thank you Lydia xx
I just wish there were more people in the world with this mindset because it’s the BEST! Truly at peace with any obstacles, being able to calm your mind rather than being reactive in a negative way is such beautiful way to be and it’s soo rare, my current ‘obstacle’ is the fact I have lost my hair through chemotherapy and as hard as it was…Ill get to have lovely healthy fresh new hair when it does grow back…the exact mindset your speak about is how I have dealt with my current situation and without it I would have been in a very dark place! Thank you for sharing your life the way you do🤍
I love this video, I am 32, Married for 10 years and I have two beautiful daughters. Everything you're talking about is something I am currently applying to my own World. I am a Christian. I know not everyone is religious, but not knowing your Purpose is the biggest struggle I feel so many Women deal with. Love God and Love People is our Main purpose in Life. However, since reading a couple books one of the inserts that stood out to me and has helped reshaped the way I view even the mundane things is your knowing your Why? knowing that you will be rewarded in heaven, knowing God is adding our most precious things that we love to our mansion in Heaven every time you do that not so fun thing. or for non-religious people you could view it as the universe Thanking you. washing dishes, not feeling appreciated ect just know a higher power is looking down and you are being rewarded, it may be instant or in the future. It has helped me view Life and actually enjoy life differently especially on the harder days.
I loved today’s video. I’m glad you have invested so much in finding yourself and growing. I do not understand people being mean just to be mean. This world needs more love and acceptance. You never need to apologize for being yourself. If people don’t like you posts or videos they should just stop following you and subscribing to your channel. Every person evolves and changes, it’s called life. You and Ali should be very proud of yourselves. And I also adore Carrie!! Have a beautiful week!!!!
She's still trying to find herself.The woman has completely moulded herself into three...or should I say;one other You Tuber!!All this mumbo,jumbo is a FACADE !! I'm not jealous by any means....I KNOW WHO I AM!!
Would definitely suggest getting a salad spinner to drain out the water from your lettuce after washing. Quick, efficient, and isn’t a waste of paper towel!
Thank you Lydia. I had downloaded the book The Courage To Be Disliked, back in January 2023; but never read it, until now!! WOW, what a transformative book, that is completely renewing my mind & cognitive framework on so many things, namely me!! Thank you so much for recommending it🙌🏾
The compare about people coming willingly here watch and in to your house is perfect! I have enjoyed your videos so so much so thank you Lydia for doing this. I think you make world so much nicer and better place ❤❤❤
Hi Lydia, you have missed the mark on some of the advice here. The death of a child particularly, but also a parent or sibling is not something that you can "Silverline", nor I believe should you. In these instances people that are suffering loss, or a trauma need to be held, need time to readjust to a normal that they may not want to live in right now because it is with a loss so deep. In these situations only time can heal, and knowing that you have to put one foot in front of the other for your living loved ones. Gratitude and joy come in fragments during times like these but should not be forced or rushed. Forcing gratitude in times like this is not always helpful either. People need to express their pain and hurt and loss safely. Can you sit in the dark with another and let them just be in the hard situation that will alter them forever? The thing about humans is that we are resilient but we need time, love and understanding. In terms of the privileged every day where we are not feeling the after affects of acute trauma, severe depression or loss, then yes, we should work on cultivating a resilient and on the whole joyful existence. But with the former grace needs to be given, and warmth, understanding and love. With all due respect your life seems to be have been fairly privileged and I don't think you should comment of incredibly sad situations that you have not yet found yourself in. You cannot understand the unbearable pain. People do smile and find that joy again but sometimes it will be tinged in sadness. Grief alters us and so does trauma. May we all strive to be the best we can be, especially when that involves just getting out of bed. Sometimes that is our best and that is a huge win on some days, some months and some years.
Excellently put, until you have experienced a loss so deep such as losing a family member or loved one, it is best not to give “advice” about such things
@margotsausagedog This is everything that I wish my (so-called) friends would have understood about my grief and trauma. I not only lost my mum but at the same time received a life altering diagnosis myself, and what did they do??? Chastised me for cancelling coffee/lunch dates and ultimately abandoned me! 😪 I wish I'd had a friend who was as understanding and empathetic as you - your friends are very lucky to have you. ❤️❤️❤️
@@mandyreardon2177 sending you all my love. One day at a time. Lydia is right when she says focus on the little joys - but only when you can. Cheer for yourself everyday - as cheesy as that sounds. One step in front of the other should be celebrated xx
This is one video that I will need to go back and watch multiple times throughout the year to get good, strong reminders of how to live well 🫶🙌bravo Lydia, thank you for keeping us on target, sharing your personal life examples, and providing tools to help us. ❤
Thank you Lydia. I have neglected my needs in the past couple of years. My husband illness has taken center stage. My friend recommended Walking Home from Sonia Choquette. I will check out your reads too. ❤
Lydia, my partner suffers loss of energy for years; that was until he met me. He spent lots of time exercising, ate healthy, and watch his diet to stayed thin. But, he was wasting away, because his muscles were supplementing his energy, thus he was often tired. I fed him potatoes and rice in buckets. He is no longer tire and because he exercise stayed thin.
Beautiful to see how you have evolved over the years following you...what an amazing woman you are, and are continuing to become. You're an amazing teacher, and if it is to be..you'd be a great mother too.
Hi Lydia, I have not watched your videos in a while, just a run of the mill social media break. Anyhwo, I have started watching again, and OMG! this video was amazing! I have been stuck on the fact that my parents are divorced for YEARS, and this video has helped me let that go. THANK YOU.
I love the last dress on you. I think it is so flattering the color is different for you but I always find it so attractive in general. Such a nice rich, warm tone
Lydia, you’ve helped me be content with myself, regardless of what others think. You’ve put me in touch with growing my own garden, loving nature. I admire how classy and feminine you are. You will always be an inspiration in my eyes ❤
At one point in this video, I though, “OMG, you’re a perfect human being.” You are surprising and delightful, and you are talking about what I need to hear. 🙏🏻
Marcus Aurelius was a smart man... I love stoicism... It taught me that I was only entitled to what I created for myself.. and that I should guard my happiness... I find it to be purposeful practical. And realistic... And the tone of stoicism perfectly fits the world's attitude for today..
One thing I've heard of that is helpful to me is reframing things with something called "Unfortunately, fortunately". So you can say "Unfortunately Lynx is gone. Fortunately Lumi is adjusting well and I have these beautiful dogs that bring me joy." Totally what you're saying here. It really helps me in my life. :)
Oh my goodness Lydia! You grow from strength to strength year on year. I need more souls in my life like you, what an energy and wise head you have. You’re a blessing to those around you, keep growing, the world needs a mindset like yours ❤
I am so grateful to you for introducing me to Jacqueline, listening to her book has really set me on a path, the tough love works for me! On a podcast she did I remember her saying that compliments and criticism should go down the same way - as in you should be so comfortable I your own skin that neither draws you off centre. Also Evergreen is one of my fave audiobooks. It’s one of my long journey listens, also when I can’t sleep. Pretty sure if audible gave rankings I’d get “stalker” level of listener 😂😂😂😂😂
This element of your vlog is truly helpful and insightful. Hopefully all of us can continue to seek peace and happiness in this muddle of life and concerns. x
Thank you, Lydia, for sharing your experience, knowledge, and advice with all of us. I have and continue to learn about how to find my own peace - thank you for being a part of that journey! 🤍
Thank you for recommending Mo Gawdats book !! Just started reading it today and it has already helped so much. Been watching since I was in college and I messaged my old college roommate after watching this video who I hadnt spoken to in awhile which was really heartwarming! All the best, sending love and happiness.
Going through a very traumatic thing in your life can take a lot to come back from not always a silver lining.sharing your whole life on the internet is a whole different thing.
Really enjoyed this video. There are some lovely people in the world but unfortunately some people do not believe there is abundance for everyone. They do not believe your success and happiness does not take anything away from them. Live your best life. 😊😊😊
What a wonderful and inspiring video today. Thank you. 🙏 it’s taken years for me to “learn how to think” and change how I react to things; and how I think of things. I didn’t read self help books (I read classics & literature and kinda worked it out backwards through what authors were telling us about life) but I journaled my entire life, enough to go back through the journals and see trends, patterns and constant mental loops that had to be changed for my sanity over the years. Any books, conversations, videos that inspire us to change are great in my books. I loved how you articulated this in your video. Thank you.
I don't know you at all and I'm not ashamed to say I most definitely am not able to afford most of the things you show us, but nevertheless I absolutely love your videos and never miss them. You have such a calming voice and I can feel the joy in everything you do. Let haters hate, whatevs!!
What a beautiful video. I think some people who say negative things are really just not ready to face their own demons and it’s easier to cast them and their negativity onto others. I hope many listen to your words, they certainly touched me. Furthermore we should all do homework on ourselves. We should all want to grow and evolve. If you stand still, you are only going backwards.
I greatly appreciate your videos.😊 I’m so interested in reading your book. I am on a journey, myself. Thank you, Lydia, for caring about your subscribers. ❤
The aesthetic of you and your living room is lovely and calming. It's kinda funny tho because I understand more now the significance of you wanting to replace your chrome light switch plates 😙You are just so lovely in general 💕
Why pay for therapy when we have Lydia?😀 All jokes aside, I have learned so much just from watching your videos and I have changed my way of thinking because of you. I am so inspired by you and the way you approach life and I am so grateful that you are here to share your life with us💕
Very interesting convo, I’m glad you talked about it. Some people talk about change etc but when they see someone else do. It bothers them so much that they will always remind the person of their past and of the person they once was. Growth is an amazing thing, do what’s best for you and keep inspiring 🩶
Love your sit down talk videos- just like the old Lydia vlogs back in the day that hooked me to your videos with the addition of a little one always accompanying you this time 🥰
Lydia there is a reason you have 1.1M followers, this vlog is 1 of them, thank you for helping out so many people, being on this journey with you and see you evolve in the woman you are today is amazing
Love your videos and this one really spoke to me. The part where you take on negativity from others and allow it to have power…so true. This was a great reminder and thank you for sharing the book advice. Sending you sunshine from Ohio, USA.
This video was so inspirational Lydia. Thank you for sharing. The part where you talk about parents divorce is so relatable and not just parents divorce but other parts of family and friendships not being the same like I see for others. Always wondering and wanting to have what others have but unfortunately we all live different lives and go through different experiences. I’m nearly 28 and nearly 30 and it took me to this age to really start changing a lot of things in my life. Crazy but it feels good. I hope you continue these kind of videos in some parts of your videos. Self love, self care, self help etc etc is what we all need to do. It takes time but I hope we can all do it 😊❤.
Thank you for this Lydia ❤ you did the work and you are trying to pass on the knowledge and make it easier for us, we appreciate you, and never doubt that we appreciate you and your pure kind intentions ❤ an appreciative follower ❤
Thank you Lydia I lost my partner and am working through it currently in therapy. I have listened to lots of books but haven’t seen these. I love how you’re taking the positives out of losing lynx which I can imagine must be very difficult. Love that your little sausage is just snoozing on you 😍
Lydia, you are a true inspiration and you are right on with regards to only being happy when you live your life on your own terms and with your convictions and consciousness as your guide. Thank you for your talk and for showing your beautiful life and gardens and dogs. You continue to be my favorite person to watch on the internet ❤
Dear Lydia. Thank you so much for all your vlogs! You are really a rare vlogger in my mind. I absolutly adore your channel and it leaves me always such a good feeling watching the vlogs. I find you very unique and authentic. I feel so lucky to see how you live and to have a impression of this dreamy place you live in. I admire your courage and that you are keep going what you do. Thanks again for showing us your beautiful countryhome, uk countryside and your personality! ❤
Lydia, I think you are ready for the book "One Thousand Gifts" by Ann Voskamp. This book changed my thinking permanently. If you are wondering where to go next, I reckon you will grow even more through this book. Thanks for sharing these chats with us. These are my favourite bits! ❤
Love your channel and your content! I’m a fan watching all the way from California! Watching your way of life and culture is beautiful and inspirational. I found my purpose in life as well as my identity through Jesus Christ . There is good news , he bore our sins on the cross, shed his blood, died,and rose again in three days. We live in a time where the masses are struggling, anxious, and depressed. You can have joy,peace and eternal life through the true and living God, Jesus Christ! God bless you.💓
I admire you so much. You are brave, resilient, and genuinely a good person through and through. Thank you for sharing your book list. I will purchase ❤
Loved this video. It feels very genuine and I enjoy you sharing your personal growth. As for people saying you are cosplaying?! I’m not sure what they are looking at but to me you are someone who has found their sense of style and where they feel most passionate and comfortable. It normally comes from unhappy people or those who aren’t living in their own authenticity xx
Agree with you and personally I will hear everyone, but we don't have to take on their negative thought and speech. That is coming from their own issues in the background and not a new issue for us. ❤ We help them with a sentence sometimes and move on.
I’ve been watching your channel for so many years… just love how your content has become more and more and more wholesome, relatable, real, positive and inspiring. Love it! ❤
Lydia thank you. I am one who has to be liked who has to make people happy. However it’s very draining the worry and the stress is not healthy and living a life like this is not good, what a waste of my time and life. Need to make some big changes. So thank you for the wonderful chat xx ❤
Hello [vitayu] from Ukraine! Just few months ago I occasionally saw a RU-vid shot and fall in love with this vlog! It’s such a treat for me! Lidia, thank you for your authenticity. You made me think and look differently on my life, my beautiful life made myself;)))
Hello from Canada. Your transformation has been truly inspiring. I have watched your channel for years and you are truly the embodiment of "Phoenix from the Ashes". You have taken so much that was sad and learned and grown from it. It sometimes can take something as simple as some seeds that were gifted to you to become "sproutlings" that then become a greenhouse, a kitchen garden to healthy organic foods that feed your soul and body. Congratulations to you Lydia and your wonderful support from Ali and Carrie, these people that love you are true gold. As long as there are humans walking the earth, there will always be the negative ones. What unkind things they say is a reflection of them and tells you more of who they are and not about you. Keep up the good work and congratulations on your book, what an accomplishment. For every sad negative viewer out there there are hundreds of us who are inspired and appreciate you sharing your very personal journey with us. Love to all especially Lumi, Porter and Berkley.
Gold is tested by fire and we are tested by life. We will become stronger when we survive adversity but it doesn’t seem like it at the time. Stay the course. You are so right it is all self help . Thank you Mrs Millen Gordon💕💕💕
Oh Lydia I just adore you, you have helped me and my mindset so much by sharing your wisdom with me, I love you having these conversations, they are so helpful xxx
hello! I'm a former follower... who left the channel because well... at one point it was too much fashion and shopping, which is great! but it wasn't for me... every now and then I go back to see the content that I enjoy, every now and then there is a video like this and... I must say that I loved this one!! I subscribed again, I know there will be a lot of fashion and shopping things, but I'm still coming back because you are a wonderful person
First time viewer here. I think you've given some great advice here. We all, (including myself) want things to be easy and let's face it, change never is. By the way, your accent is lovely and sending you the best!
Sounds very much like DBT therapy. It’s about using your wise mind instead of your emotional one. It is the most effective way to regulate and to see things in perspective. Excellent book recommendation especially solve for happiness. I suggest the next step is listen to The Power of Now. That one will blow your mind. We are not our thoughts ( there goes “ I think therefore I am” Des carte) we are slaves to our thoughts. The real you, the true you, is the you that is observing your thoughts. Congrats on your journey
Put your lettuce leaves into a tea towel, take hold of the four corners into one hand and whirl it round. That will dry it out better than patting at it.
