Yesterday I manifested a good morning text from him... and instead I got a good morning CALL and a just because call later that day... he loves me, hes constantly pursuing me, he's constantly thinking positive thoughts about me. This stuff really works.
Being a person who is just a “doer” and an “overachiever” in life, this so resonates with me. I am ready to make this switch and not reach out in fear or desperation to try to “make” something happen. I totally get it.
Hi Shelly I wanted to share with you my first meeting with my sp after the break up I spent a lovely day he was so kind and so caring I noticed that I was only focusing on the positif and it was great I spent a lot of time these past weeks thinking of the begining of our relationship and one moment was when we were walking together he used to grap a flower outside and put it on my hear I loved so much that! Any way yesterday he invited me to have a walk and a picnic in nature and guess what? He picked a flower and put it on my hear it was magic He also asked me to go with him on holidays😁😁😁
I CRINGE when I realise that I turned into the chaser when I noticed his pursuit of me slow down. He then dumped me "out of the blue". I need a drastic change. Please help!
Step 1: Become the RECEIVER. It has nothing to do with him... become the receiver on your own. This is the first and most important step to change this dynamic.
@@ShellyBullard thank you. I had started pursuing more and I want to be the one who is pursued. Thank you for touching on social media. I will make a conscious effort to stay off my sp's social media.
Springsdaisy, what Shelly said is amazing..and true.. you can also use scripting and visualization before you go to bed. Also put some thought into the way you may be changed🌸 toward him. Perhaps you did subtle changes toward him. If he was attracted to your independence and autonomy and then suddenly you became dependent... he may notice this... one last perspective.. sometimes when one relationship ends... it’s a blessing and making room for someone who is love you as hard as you love them... that won’t be scared off my subtle changes in energy. Whatever happens I sense happiness for you... soon. Hang in there and be grateful for every moment you spent together.. gratitude breeds more things to be grateful for... I hope this helps ... lotsa love to you.
Men are more attractive when they come towards me. There have been times that I have felt I need to make things happen in life and tried to take the reins and it has never ever worked
I am married 15 years, but about 7 years ago things were going terribly. I started to stand my ground and I stopped arguing, asking, begging, crying. I stopped. I lived and did my thing. I took care of my kids and him too... but other men were becoming attracted to me!! Like a lot of men. I’m not bragging.. it’s just true. So my husband noticed and ... guess what... started pursuing again... it wAs bad for ... 3-4 years ... I’m not kidding.. very hard.. and I didn’t have a plan or know this stuff... but Shelley’s method... is what I did... and it works. He is completely different now.
From now on, I'm not gonna check his online status on whatsapp. I've done this daily. 🙈🙈🙈 Update: *Too everyone, who's struggling to feel loved* I just watched the "Can you feel the love tonight?" scene from the lion king and imagined my SP and me being Nala and Simba. That really lifted me up. :D
I didn't realize when I changed from being pursued to becoming the pursuer. But that is an old story. I caught myself (took couple months) and started changing my beliefs. Works like magic. Now, I'm always pursued and sought after☺️😛
🌸 ladies please remember to avoid users, players, narcissists and time wasters. This technique and all other videos apply to a real man with values and he respects women. I noticed thumbs down, you cannot have a healthy relationship dynamic with any of the types I mentioned above; It’s just common sense.
Yes confidence plays a major role in any relationship without any kind of chasing 💖💖💖💖💖❤️❤️❤️❤️I consciously chose to be a woman who is always persued by my sp..this is so amazing feeling ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Neha! I love all the hearts in your message. It shows how much love flows from you consistently. This is a sign of confidence. Confidence will help you in every area of your life. Stay strong and never let anymore let you feel less than anyone else. Your sp is lucky to have found you.
Shelly when you said that this is going to be your last video it broke my heart but when you completed the whole sentence I was so relieved. You are like a blessing of my day. Don't know what I had do without your videos. You and this RU-vid community of so many fellow manifestors have helped me through a very rough patch. I am so glad that this family is so supportive. The comment section and your videos are helping me survive this rough patch without losing my cool. Circumstances don't matter. Everything will go my way. A lot of blessings to you and this virtual family. I missed the premiere yesterday.
"When you are landed in your knowing that you are loved, you can text or not text.. you are not following any rules! You are just being you,but you know love is going to come towards you!" I think I kinda did this : my sp has been is admitted to the hospital currently and so for now I have started initating more contact (while also doing my inner work that he's contacting me more and more), uplifting and cheering him up. (Coz that's my natural self) and just today while we were talking, he mentioned that a lot of people are calling him (he isn't a person who has a lot of friends - I do!) . And for a second, I was a about to ask him about WHO are these people who are suddenly calling him(maybe new female friends).. and that's when I stopped MYSELF saying.. NO NO NO! I AM CALM AND RELAXED.. I AM JUST BEING ME AND HE IS COMING TOWARDS ME! AND NOW I AM GLAD I DID THIS RATHER THAN ASKING HIM ABOUT WHO THOSE FRIENDS ARE! Love is not going to leave me, Love never leaves me, In fact love is coming towards me!! Thank you for this Shelly!❤️😘
Samhita Parab I love how you literally caught yourself. You were strong and you stayed firm to your true self. Your true self is confident. Is this a new relationship? I find in my experience, being there for someone during a health scare, usually brings you closer... so remember to nurture above anything else. He will remember that.
@@ThePositivityPrincess Hey,thank you for reading and responding to my comment. We were together for 2.5 years and then got separated. He's started to come in my 3d now, I am Manifestating a relationship with him again! And yes,I am glad I stopped myself at the RIGHT TIME! Also you are right,I guess he'll love it more when I am with him during this health scare... Thank you!💕
This is so helpful!! Love is who I am. Update: I watched this video twice and then twenty minutes later he watched my story and texted me good morning. We already have a good relationship but I just wanted to see if he would pursue me more today!
How perfect is this! I recently went on this date with a really cute guy and I didn't hear from him so I sent him a message and nothing came from it he didn't reply. In the beginning he was really into me but once I started chasing he stopped. I havent talked to him but I still want to see him. I need to work on the assumptions that if we aren't constantly talking he moves on. That's what makes me start chasing. I even started constantly posting things on IG with the intention to get him to talk to me 😩. Like you said I need to stop and tell myself that love come to me. But when you think a certain way for so long it can be really hard.😢😬
I have been watching your videos for about a week and omg they have been life changing!! I have had a roller coaster of a ride with my SP for the past six months. I’ve been ghosted and bread crumbed by him and I decided that I had had enough and told him I was moving in! It was hard because I believed he could be a better version of himself because has done it before. We’ve been texting for two weeks and he has been actively calling me for a week now! Last night we decided to move back into a relationship but he has completely done a 180!! This is the man I wanted him to be but knew he could be too!! What is interesting is I haven’t seen him in two months!! I’m Seeing him this weekend! I wanted to ask if this video would be appropriate to continue the movement? Thank you so much! The inner child work is amazing!!! Showing up for yourself is the best and only way to attract anything!
Kay... that’s my middle name.. Lori Kay. Lol anyway ... don’t say “if”.. just say I am getting closer to mastering this every day. Use positive relationship affirmations and look into your limiting beliefs about relationships
I was the pursuer and got up one day and said no more. I am a catch and I know my SP will get the idea and we will be in the PROPER alignment . Will be buying your course on being pursued and the Chosen course. Thank you again.
I am definitely a hunter persona, so releasing that was a bit difficult. I busted through that after a 5 day retreat by the ocean with amazing people. I was able to let go. And my husband pursued me, and continuously does.
Genuine relationships should not be an energetic game or power struggle. Two mature ppl can talk to each other if they wish. This whole masculine feminine crap is so disgusting and immature
This! I’ve applied it to other areas of my life most importantly to money and ideas (to make money). I just expect that ideas will come to me that will turn into an abundance of money. And they have very quickly! Which then gave me the confidence and affirmed that it would would also work for an SP! 🥰
I feel so good not to feel that neediness anymore. Having my sp go from being super lovely, pursuing me in a way that most people would have loved. To me lacking confidence, having doubts and pursuing him. And because someone had done this before in a previous relationship. Things are going to be so different this time. I have never felt so sure about anyone before. Now i just need to keep everything going, knowing its done, he is mine and he is coming to me. Its a great feeling knowing you don't need your sp, like i thought I did 6 months ago. Now im just going to keep going with self love, having fun, knowing all the amazing things I'm going to do with him. 🤵👰 🌌❤🙌🙏
Very insightful video :) A few weeks ago I decided to no longer fear seeing my SP on social media, what he was up to, etc. I realized I avoided it out of fear of what I would see, so I decided to boldly change my state and deliberately check what he was up to (so long as it was tied with the feeling of neutrality). Your video made me realize that my fearless act had gradually turned fearful again, this time constantly wondering what he was up to, and being affected by what I was seeing (despite knowing my assumptions created it). Earlier today I decided that I needed to stop checking up on him, and BOOM, here's your video! Thank you!
I have to stop stop stop checking on his social media though he is pursuing me. The curiosity feeling is so strong. I know he desires and wants to be with me also planning for his future to move to my country. I got to stop this curiosity n control over things. Thank you Shelly. This is simple basic things not to do but yet it's always hard but got to really start to practice big stop n brake.♥️
Oh yes -- I so relate to this. I LOVE being pursued. My feminine heart delights in the pursuit. Totally delicious! Thank you for another great video. Looking forward to seeing the new space.
Love comes towards me, I will not go towards, I will not anxiously pursue, I will not chase down love, I will not from my fear go run after and see where love is. ♥♥♥
Love comes towards me - I love this! Another wonderful video and message. Also, your new course is absolutely fantastic. I have the previous one on how to manifest your SP and this is a perfect compliment to that one.
I love being pursued 😊, I have learned that im the most important and deserve only the best. My love is always checking on me and wanting me. We check on eachother and give eachother gifts. However he spoils me and respects me so much. I dont chase at all. He tells me im the greatest woman he's ever had. We are never leaving eachother and our relationship grows stronger and deeper everyday!
Thank you Shelly. Good luck in your new space , Always great . I was never a chaser, only after when I was in the relationship I was ‘enjoying’ fear of abandonment then I would end before they would. but your teaching help me. You are amazing!
I’ve so chased and it always feels so bad! Thank you- I’m really learning g how to just lean back and be confident that love is coming toward me! It’s so good to know that this is a conscious decision.
Our relationship is best when we both equally pursue. Both masculine men. Best sexual dynamic ever in my experience. And yeah everything is an assumption except for the one Truth, I AM GOD.
✨THANK YOU SHELLY✨ My sp and I dated for a while then broke up because I manifested that sadly. He said he needed time to be single even though he still loves me and thinks I’d be the perfect person to marry. We are still best friends and keep contact and regularly talk. I’m really hoping we date again because I know he’s my perfect person! I’m so going to try this and have him start pursuing ME instead of me chasing him.I know in my inner world we’re together so it’s just a matter of time until my outer reality reflects that. ❤️
I have been watching your videos. And it really helps a lot for my relationship. Recap: the masculine is a pursuer and the feminie is pursued. Look at yourself if you're a pursuer. Train yourself that you're pursued. Love comes forward me. I will not go towards it. Don't check up on social media ===> you're lack. Being pursued ladies, by not constantly text first. Your movements have to be natural so you're not scared and have no fears.
Hi Luv! I'm gonna make a sign to remind myself of this, so false beliefs of doubt or lack, etc. will not find room in my mind. "Loves comes towards me!"
I needed to see this video. I guess my mindset with previous love interests was, "if only he gives me a chance, he will see how good of a person I am, how deserving I am of his love. He just has to give me some airtime to be considered, so I should make my presence felt whenever I can". Now I realize that it's a loser move of someone who's desperate. lol. Being a pursuer didn't work so I guess it's time to be the one pursued. I'm glad I'm changing into a new and better person day by day. P.S. I got a weird and probably wrong advice from a manifesting coach before who said, "everyone is you pushed out so if you think that they see you as needy, they will." Which meant to me that I should just continue what I was doing and not think that my actions were essentially needy. I'm really thankful that you mix psychology with manifesting, Shelly. You rock.
So glad you're seeing all this in yourself. Everyone is You Pushed Out is true in that everyone will conform to your beliefs and assumptions. However, sometimes our subtle beliefs are not obvious to us, so we have to deeply explore ourselves further. This is why I never separate feeling from the thought... how you feel is always a really good indication of the deeper belief. If you feel like you're chasing someone down who doesn't want you, that's happening! However if you do the inner work to train yourself into knowing/feeling that you don't have to do a single thing... you are amazing and therefore will TOTALLY be pursued (and you truly feel this way), then it will happen 100%. Excited for you!
This video was my ah ha moment..made me realize why I am always initiating contact etc.. thank you Shelly. Do you just say affirmations surrounding this to start feeling it?? Like..I am the one being consistently pursued in romantic and professional relationships! Love is always coming towards me.
If the pursuer is in the feeling of lack, Then why would you want someone that is in that feeling of lack, It seams that the pursues would have the power with in the relationship, And why would someone want the other to have the power, And my last relationship started as a friendship that ended up into a relationship and believe me there was a lot of passion, But things may have changed since then, I don't know my last relationship was almost 20 years ago, And the last time the first time , the only time I pursued someone was over 35 years ago, I guess by me manifesting someone I am pursuing, But the way I am manifesting she is pursuing me, either way its fun and enjoyable,
There’s an energetic difference between pursuing and chasing, and it’s chasing that comes from a sense of lack, not pursuing. Pursuing is healthy, and it’s also very masculine energy. Chasing is weakness, grown of fear that you aren’t enough to draw the desire to you. You are enough. 😄 In a healthy, well-established relationship the positions of pursuer and the pursued switch back and forth in a free-flowing stream of confidence and fun. You’re correct about the power being in the hands of the pursuer, but only because the pursued allows it to be so. It’s a good power, a healthy power, and an emotionally balanced lover avoids abusing the privilege, caring for the beloved.
Thanks, Shelly! Great video! I have never pursued a man with my actions, but in my thoughts I have pursued someone. I always knew deep down I was thinking too much about someone, but still persisted with that mindset. You have given me the understanding of how not to continue with that mindset (of always thinking about my specific person.) I now will concentrate on my self love, knowing that of course I am loved! ❤️
A suggestion….rework that affirmation to remove the negative “never”s. I have an old saying that goes, “Never say never.” 😄 It’s almost a cosmic guarantee that you’ll do that very thing. Lol! IMHO, if you simply remove that middle sentence you’ll have a strong and effective affirmation that’ll resonate deep into your inner consciousness. 👍🏻
@@sweetsue4204 thank you! Yes.. that is a well known saying....In the beginning of my journey I was so scared of using negatives until I did some research on it as well as watched someone...No 1...it can end up being a limiting belief cause everything is only what you make it mean...and I read that it doesn't actually matter whether you use negatives... once again it's how you use it and what it means to you... There are so many limiting beliefs around us programming us and I've been deprogramming myself from it all.... Remember....we make the rules and only our rules apply.🙏😊🤗
Yes Shelly. This is one of the est videos I always wanted to watch and to know how to be continuously pursued by our sp. A classic information to know and implement it in our own lives. Thank you, Shelly
I must have an unhelpful belief, because in all my years of living on earth the only men who actively pursued me were men I found distinctly unattractive -- even creepy. I actually did a thought experiment a while back where I tried to imagine the SP acting like this guy I used to work with who stalks me on social media...it was weeeeeird. I don't know how to be pursued when I welcome it. (To get what attention I did get, I had to forcibly hold myself back in ways that felt dishonest and based in shame about my feelings.)
This is an interesting inner-exploration. Sounds important. It's wonderful for us to take a deeper look at our patterns and then (most importantly) to remember every moment is literally a fresh, clean slate to create something completely new. Start feeling/affirming the new reality you want and it will happen!!
@@ShellyBullard See THIS is why I keep coming back to you (and a few others who echo the same thing): the idea that we could create something new in every moment, rather than being stuck in some behaviorist nightmare Groundhog Day. I WANT OUT. :)
Love your confidence and your centered-ness...and the loving way you speak...your aura is awesome. Thank you for what you do....I appreciate your videos and the angle of love that you always come from. Now I must get back to your new course! 😊
I have a question but might be too personal. Back in Texas - you talked about how you met your SP- at your friends bbq. But now that you’re in LA, did SP not move with you? If not - how was that created? If you’re still together then this question doesn’t make any sense lol. I just like hearing both sides when relationships are over
I just found your channel! This is exactly what I needed. Thank you. This video is great! The energy dynamics and what feels best I hadn’t thought about it that way before. Makes perfect sense to me. An ah ha moment! I do not feel good pursuing. I started pursuing and now they’re backing away. Lol But I get it now and not from a rejected and ignored way but the energy dynamics and learning to break my pattern of changing into the chaser. This is 💎! Excited about your other videos and books! Thank you. 😊💝
I love your channel and your videos! You give such great advise and you make so much sense. I love how soft your voice is and your aura is just so bright! You make it easy to understand manifesting. Thank you for what you do!
Bingo.. and once again you are here and come up with what someone need to convince me that checking on social media is also chasing and you can do that... Thank you being here..
