How to control your anger when somebody hurts you? || Acharya Prashant, with youth (2014) 

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Sometimes we dont have expectations and still get hurt, its a part of daily life, when the spouse refuses to take children to school vaccination when you dont know to drive, and you cant manage to toddlers in a auto rikshaw in bumpy roads, sometimes the process of life some situations like this happens, when I was single I never expected anything from anyone I took myself, dependency is a great trap, I keep telling myself only untill the children grow it will all be alright.

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The more inferior you feel, the more you will live in expectations, hopes and desires!! Thank you Acharya Prashant 🙏🙏

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There are two parts. 1) how to control our anger. 2) How to react when somebody hurts us? In the moment of anger, the mind is dominated by anger. In the moment of hurt, the mind is full of hurt. There is nothing esle. We do not arise, how to live a life where anger does not arise. We do not ask, what is the mind where there is no anger. What do we ask? We ask "how to control anger?" You're not asking "How not to get hurt?" What is it within me that gets so frequently hurt. How to live a life where hurt has little place? When you are angry, you can't do much. Then, at best, you can watch your anger. And that too depends on the quality of the mind. Watching anger is not at all easy. Live life in a way that these have little opportunity to arise. Anger is the frustration of anger not being met. Please realize that behind it is the expectation that is not being met. Some expectation has been belied - and only then anger arises. I wanted things to go a certain way, they are not going a certain way, I'll feel angry. You want something only when you are deprived. All expectations, kindly remember, arise from a feeling of inner incompleteness. Only when you feel something is missing, do you expect. Nobody is born with that hollow. That hollow is gradually created within us. We are made to believe that we are insufficient. An inferiority complex, is gradually implanted in us. The more inferior you feel, the more you will live in goals, and hopes, and expectations and desires. And you are not inferior. No body is inferior. We are all all right. Very much all right. We have been told that there are ways which are wrong in us, and we have been given ways to amend that wrong. You are worthless, but if you earn this amount of money, you will become worthy. You are inferior, but if you get that degree you will become all right. Your face is the ugliest possible, but if you apply all these cosmetics, you will be worth looking at. Your body is so crude, but if you wear these type of clothes, you will be okay. You are not worthy of my love, but if you go achieve those goals, then you will be lovable. Two things are being done. You are being told you stink. 2) You are being given a deodorant. How else can you be made to spend money on a new car, by first making you feel worthless if you drive your old car. And then desire and expectations arise from life. And there is this cunning system all around - both cunning and ignorant. Cunningness always goes with ignorance. There is this cunning system all round, which is pretending to be your well wisher. Our entire self-worth starts depending on what others are saying about us. Anger arises from expectations, expectations arise from a feeling of incompleteness. The feeling of incompleteness is itself false. You are not incomplete. Fundamentally all of us are all right, fundamentally all of us are good, and worthy, and beautiful. We may lack in knowledge and skill, but that is a superficial thing. That has nothing to do with our basic being. Our eyes may be conditionined, but that doesn't mean that intelligence has disappeared. A lot of anger only implies a lot of conditioning. The more inferior you feel, the more you are susceptible to anger. Do you see how these all belong to the same family? The more inferior you feel, the more you are susceptible to anger. Anger, expectations, hopes, planning, targets, goals, desires, conditioning, influence, achievement, accomplishment. Do you see how all of these can be bracketed together? If you can see that much, we are home.

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