How to Convert Your Friends (REALLY) w/ Bishop Scott McCaig 

"First of all love them and pray for them.." thank you Matt

As a former mormon missionary I experienced what Matt describes first hand. Being in the field and knocking on doors really bothered me. I realized we were harassing people. We came uninvited with a well-oiled sales pitch. Our goal was to get our foot in the door and share our presentation. We were taught to use common interests and hospitality to our advantage. We'd purposefully use generic Christian language and ask leading questions. We felt our ends justified the means. I'm amazed more people weren't openly hostile toward us. That same lack of care and concern for the individual extends throughout the entire organization, in my experience. It's multi-level marketing more than a religion.

Just turned 28 today and 3:43 almost made me cry at the office. I've been living in self loathing for many years. Thank you for these kind words, Matt.

"Do not make it seem that they needs fixing." got it. thanks!

Children leave the church when they are not given the answers they seek. And as a result feel like they are not important and not accepted because their questions aren’t important. The amount of people I know personally who had a crisis of faith at the age of 12 and left then is staggering, and a lot of it was because their parents assumed that “they’ll just know” the answers by living in a western society (hint - they don’t) and that there would be no competing narrative for alternate explanations and no competition for learning the truth of our faith. • If you don’t discuss faith they will leave because they don’t feel like it’s important for them or that they’re important to the church. • If you don’t teach them what our faith means they will leave because they don’t even know what it means. • If you don’t answer their questions honestly they will leave because they feel neglected and WILL find alternate sources of information. • If you don’t explain that Catholicism and science are not mutually exclusive they will leave because they will falsely think that the church is somehow against modern science (that is what they’re told) and that this is bad as “The Science” TM is the new religion.

Good advice. Will watch again later.

"it's why relational evangelization is so much more effective than anything else" this is exactly what St. Josemaría thaught on apostolate. do talk about your beliefs, since they're very important to you, but do it only in friendship and privacy; and always love first, never turn friendship into a mean to achieve apostolate

That sounds like an amazing bishop

LOVE this!

This was great to hear. Thanks for posting

This was really helpful. Thanks!

Finally!

What a great bishop!

Love is authentic

Amen, Amen. You don't convert people by beating them up with The Bible or Doctrine, but loving them as they are like Jesus did/does. I ask all to join me in praying daily that Our Father in Heaven would manifest The Holy Spirit to and in all these descendants of the Apostles of The Church of His Son Jesus The Christ. That The Holy Spirit would bring all these Bishops to repentance from their finacial corruptions and homosexual predations and all the apostosies and heresies they have promulgated in their pursuit of modernism and power. That The Holy Spirit would make ALL of these Bishops good and faithful shepards of The Church of His Son Jesus The Christ. That The Holy Spirit would protect and raise up all the bishops and priests that have remained faithful to the teachings of His Son Jesus The Christ.

Fast! And Pray!

Preach the gospel and when necessary use words

I think what people need to realize is that it takes time. You can't convert a person over night. Sometimes it can take years and you might not even be there to witness the fruits of your evangelization, but with love and prayer it'll happen. Whether we are there to see it or not♥ Ask the Lord to give you the grace to love people with His heart, and just be there for them, and be a witness to God's kingdom. It's wonderful to know the catechism and be able to explain it, but it is your life and love for them that are the greatest testimonies.

As a young person,who attended mass regularly until leaving university,I can affirm that lack of community attributed to that leaving the church. Going to mass,coming out and going home. Going into the hall for a coffee and a chat would have initiated community,at the simplest level. Groups and invitation to events for young people would have helped. Guidance on choosing a spouse,dating etc.,a pilgrimage or retreat for young adults. The mega churches thrive through groups,and various ministries. People need evangelisation and continuing education and support after baptism and receiving the sacraments.Ticking the boxes is not enough. Neglect of nurturing the faith is like forgetting to water plants. Enjoyed this video.Thank you. I returned to church about a decade later,having made many mistakes in my life. These could largely have been avoided by such outreach and ministry.

I'm a sinner. To echo Groucho Marx, why would I want to join a club that would have me as a member? I was welcomed by the Anglican Church, very much so, but they were more about being welcoming than being truthful, so my wife and I left. I'm extremely wary of Churches that don't make demands on me. I love Catholicism because of its no-nonsense truthful beauty and its willingness to stand against the spirit of the age. It doesn't need to be loved by the world, only by God the creator. Love our enemies, yes, but don't pretend they're not enemies. Friendship doesn't require untruthfulness.

I hear this…I really do. And I’ve seen it work (loving and accepting others first). But I’ve also seen that motive (accepting people and making them feel comfortable) literally result in Catholic catechists distorting the truth of the faith in some really fundamental ways. Effectively lying to the people they’re teaching the faith to. How do we find the balance?

This was spot on we have Catholic Christians sitting in the pews who don’t even know they are Christian nor know they are saved by the blood of Jesus on the cross because of the awful CCD that was given to my generation , I did not even know I was a Christian nor anything about Jesus at all from my kindergarten thru 12th CCD Sunday classes, it was awful and there are TONS of folks out there like me , most of these people are NOT going to try to learn on their own like I did , so they will either leave the church for a Protestant church or not go at all. I did not learn my faith until I did the bible study by Jeff Cavin’s that made my faith finally come together. I almost left the church for a Protestant church because I was so poorly taught, we are easy pickings because when they ask me if I was saved by Jesus I did not know that I was I was never taught that (again poor CCD) , it’s sad but tons of folks are gone and moved to Protestant churches or the majority are not going to any church at all because they are clueless about their faith. I love Trent Horn and Father Mike and you Bishop, but the issue is we have to dumb down church teaching, start with the basic (Jesus died on the cross for your sins) then once folks understand Jesus then bring in Mary and the Saints and church doctrine after that, not before. In my CCD classes I was taught about Mary, the saints Holy Days and so on, but NEVER about Jesus. Jesus needs to be taught first then the rest comes in second. I know the reason is because of poor teachers I get that ,but it was a big issue for years that needs to be fixed. I think we need to have a big Mass one day every year to go over the basic teaching of the church (Jesus died for our sins on the cross and we are Christian that issue gets me mad when folks say I am a Catholic not Christian. We need to state what is the bible (lots of folks don’t even know what we read at Mass is from the bible), what is salvation and so on. And we need to state what we don’t do like we don’t worship Mary, we don’t pray to the dead, we are not saved by works, yet tons of Catholics think we do all these things. God bless good talk

In 2006 we were really good at conversions in Texas! Too much has happened since then on legal to keep going there - but secularism really got humanist and it’s good. I have to assume an IUI as a female military veteran who has a genocided mother if I want children if it’s not adoption and it’s ok.

How to convert yr friends..... by keeping yr mouth closed, and by showing the way how you live. By yr example ! God will convert. It's called, sowing the seed in rich soil.

Speaking of pastoral care. My parents were committed hard working Catholics. For the last 30 plus years of their parish life their parish priests came and went. Every few years they had a new parish priest. They were so angry with the last one because of his sensitivity on several occasions that they insisted he not be present at their funeral. We were more than happy to respect their wishes. This is what really happens in so many parishes nowadays. How about a program on the harsh realities of modern parish life.

My thought: no 1 tool for the job. Some will respond to the evangelist knocking on the door or shouting on the street, some will respond to the intellectual arguments in person or media, some will respond to the examples of Sts like JP2 and Theresa of Calcutta, some to sterness some to softness, no one size for all. The Bible shows variety of callings. Welcoming is good

Though building relationships first can be used as an excuse to never actually speak the gospel to people, it is the right approach. It's the approach Jesus took. He met people where they were, often met their needs, and invited them to follow him. Following doesn't mean I'm fixed all at once. It means I allow the Lord to lead me. It means I trust that what he teaches is best for me, and I obey because of it. This is what the Church needs to do, lead people.

There was a german interrogator that used this technique. Pretty neat.

Protestants are way better at making people feel loved and welcome. It's like being in a big social club singing kumbaya all the time. Which is why I got sick of it and left.

It is really hard to say it is wrong for someone who so desperately wants a family they resort to IVF. Personally I see nothing wrong with it but then again I am Christian but not Catholic. I do agree broadly with the rest of this clip about approaching people in love and understanding. So 👍 peace and love in Jesus' mighty name.

how do we find the study Bishop McCaig references?

The bible tells us that faith comes through hearing and that everyone knows there is a creator, even if they are surpassing that truth. So, when the language of meeting someone where they're at is used, above presenting the gospel and the truth about salvation and damnation, it is quite suspect due to its unbiblical foundations. Sure, Jesus spent time with people committing deadly sins but He always told them to sin no more and follow Him. He did not follow them out of some misguided sense of encounter. Bad company corrupts good morals, so we invite, encourage, and keep moving with Christ until they decide to give their lives to Him. However, if I am missing something biblically then please set me straight, because this all seems like our way of modernizing the Gospel to the liking of others instead of faithfully providing it as laid out for us by Jesus and the Apostles. In Christ, Andrew

I had the feeling from the get go that the original question regarding IVF wasn’t going to get answered 🤓🤔☹️

How?

What does the Bible say about IVF?

Q for you to ask of Jesus, given you have the courage to do so: How would God know it is not more than just an illusion, to itself, without a basis for comparison; and how does this apply with what is currently called the Big Bang Theory, if at all? (John 10:34-38)

So if you don't see people who live outside your faith as problems you need to solve, why is converting them even a goal of yours in the first place? Or do you mean you need not appear as if they're a problem to solve even though you think they are?

As one who stands with God in defense of atheists it has often found me surrounded and attacked from all sides. And before I left Fla., I was with a Church in which we hosted an open door policy for atheists to come and cast stones at us (metaphorically speaking), and rightfully so, for often atheists will ask valid questions, quite deserving of valid answers. The objective was not to convert anyone; a matter of Freewill; and the questions thrown our way usually consisted of science, and the connection it has with God, among many other concerns (often from sci-fi movies) such as 666; the number of the beast, or unexpected questions, such as, how can anyone serve God without committing sin? (all easily answered, granted you did not skip science classes in school). The War is simply in Remembering (2 Corinthians 5:1), or even (Acts 7:48). 6 protons; 6 neutrons; 6 electrons = the symbol of Man, or better said, Humans. In relation with this Jesus encouraged, "take up your cross and follow me"; ref: proton, ( + ) ~ the Cross, and the question now becomes, [ + ((( 0 ))) - ]: does the Heart of Adam reflect the Heart of the Atom? "In the beginning was the Word": Word; Wyrd; Weird, meaning Oracle. Yet words are abstract mental constructs; a form of echo~location. And as I look upon myself in a mirror, Matt, my eyes behold only that of a dumb man still learning how to speak and communicate effectively, inside that of a blind man having to feel his way through things. So if we ask people around the globe to all point up it is easy to note that each is pointing up in a different direction. Yet, if we ask All to point down, can a "common language", or a point of convergence be found deep into the Heart regarding any matter? From no thing (0.1), ALL things (99.9); and from All things, One thing: Self discovery ~ Unless, I am mistaken? Would this not be a rather heavenly prospect for those who enjoy doing jigsaw puzzles in a place where everyone else provides the pieces? And if fate is equal to current location, and your destiny equal to a desired destination, then perhaps the War is in Remembering, Happiness is a pursuit, not a given. In my opinion, MB has offered keen and valid insight, and what you do with that is up to you. "The Kingdom of Heaven is inside you, and whosoever shall know himself shall find it." For he who truly knows himself will come to know all others. Believe what you will ~ God Bless ~ Stay Safe ~No One

Well Jesus did to everyone to repent because the kingdom of heaven is at hand I mean he wasn’t really making relationships with people when he was saying that so I guess I can vary

2:30 Yes, that's why I fell away from the faith, and also because I didn't see any difference In the way Catholic believers lead their life (from the stance of the theology of the body), from the way I lead my life. It was like, I already do that, I don't need God. Only when I converted, did I realise 99% of Catholics that I know, don't live their faith. Yes, they go to Sacraments and Sunday's Mass, but they have sex before marriage, they cheat on tests, in the working place, they lie, they watch porn, look at other people in lust, they hit their children, curse...etc. I was like Church is useless. It doesn't do them any better, I guess I'm on my own.

“First love them ….” Ok But if they’re not exposed to the truth, you are no longer loving them.

Jesus didn't evangelize like this. Souls repented of their sins when He was around.

As someone who considers himself nominally Catholic, and finds myself watching some of these videos, I have to ask after reading the comments. Why the hate for Protestants? It would seem to me you believe predominantly the same thing. At the very least, that Jesus is God, that Jesus is someone who's life we should model ourselves after. Are things like interpretations on the Eucharist, different books, religious practices, really worth all of this fractionation between a whole swath of people who call themselves Christians? When the guys in this video talk about evangelism, what are they evangelizing? A Christianity in the broad sense, such as what C.S. Lewis would have talked about in his book Mere Christianity, or Catholicism specifically. Do Catholics really believe that Protestants are going to hell because even though they believe in Jesus and try to follow him, they just don't do it good enough. If so, how do you justify that idea, when almost the entirety of Catholic practices and interpretations come after Jesus, created by men who say Mass is sit here, stand now, sing this, see the Bible the way I read it, and this is what it means to be a real Christian.

Why is the the guy constantly interrupting the priest, the guest?? Mr pint wants to preach, instead. It's obnoxious.

I'm an Evangelical, in the Fundamentalist Baptist familiy of believers, and I wish I could talk to Mr. Pints with Aquinas concerning justification, but as things go he's not likely to read this post, and of course he's rather busy. Because if he believes in faith + works to be justified, he's going to hellfire. Oh well, at least I can post this singular comment, and of course, the Lord can use whatever means He desires to save those whom He "horizon-lined' before the foundations of the earth, the Lord doesn't need me, He can use someone else.

Loving self? God delights in your sin? You lost me, Matt!

The best way to convert someone is to not convert them, my religious friends have never tried to convert me/ don’t really care (or don’t show it).

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Every single tool he just listed is based in emotion. That’s protestantism. Emotions ebb and flow, our faith is not based in our emotion - although true love for our God triggers an emotional response. But it is not the foundation of a relationship with Christ. This sounds like a very flaky way to get a white washed pseudo-protestant church that calls itself Catholic.

With all due respect, isn't there another bishop you can interview? There's more than one Catholic bishop in the world.

Novus Ordo is extremely isolating. The service shows the opposite of what we believe. We must cancel it. The host dislikes Latin so much.

Why would you convert anyone? How disrespectful. Live and let live. You people are sick.

There is nothing wrong with ivf it gave a lot of people kids that couldn't have them for whatever reason the church talks about love and acceptance but it doesnt accept same sex families or any part of the lgbt i know this is a religious channel but the church should accept the lgbt you don't have to agree with it but accept them thats love and acceptance

So insincere