Buying a lot things also signals of being depressed and feeling lonely. You try to replace the happiness from human interaction with happiness from pretty stuff. You probably have a busy life and rarely get to do what you want or take a break. Buying things probably fill some emotional hole. So you can't just stop buying you have to replace it with something that will make you happy. When we become mothers we have to become all-knowing all-fixing mighty beings. Our purpose is to solve complains and we can never complain ourselves because we are not allowed to have any weaknesses. And I think maybe that one of the reasons that lead women to shopping addictions.
You hit the nail on the head! Everything you said is so very true, 1000%. It is absolutely a sign of depression and loneliness, and I was forced to sit with myself and say enough is enough and I take my power back from that illness. So now that I have dignosed it and getting help I am able to think clearer and fill that void with meaningful interactions and activities that help rather than harm. I've had to apply a metacognitive approach and love myself more, beyond stuff.
You are so not alone. My husband used to say you cannot fix what you are not aware of, so you are well on your way already. I am trying to replace shopping with things that make me feel good in the long run instead of going for the quick hit. Of course it is a struggle, but when I succeed the self-esteem boost is worth the wait. Your sincerity and courageousness is inspirational. Thanks for posting.
The universe brought me to you. I swear I've been looking for someone who's in similar shoes as I am. I've recently come to terms with the fact that I am addicted to shopping and just like you said without thinking of the consequences. And when you said you had three kids I about lost my mind. It took a while but I knew I'd find my people. Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing this!
Thank you so much for sharing your story. I feel heavily influenced by instagrammers, who are taken on press trips and receive free stuff to make me buy stuff. I feel fooled, but I still click the 'purchase' button....
Thanks for the video it really made me think. I budget for bills and necessities but not my spending money. I need to set myself a spending limit so I don't over spend and then I can save some money.
❤amazing sound advice I thank you so much for your help I need to budget. I can totally relate to blowing it out the ball park exceeding expenditure and the whole a wardrobe full when am I going to wear it all I do have everything I need you are so right
