How To Deal With An Angry Spouse? Sadhguru Answers 

A capable wife is a crown to her husband yet she must be treated with dignity and respect. She must be recognised for her unselfish deeds for her family. A capable husband is like beautiful necklace for his wife yet he must be treated with sense of understanding and tender love. He must be recognised for his devotion towards family.

The sweetest person outside the home can be the most bitter one inside the home. it is the tragedy. No matter what you do to make him happy, he will find another reason to stay unhappy-angry just with you and may punish you by neglecting you, doing complete opposite things than what you have wished or requested for. It is his strong negative, prejudiced and closed mind set for his spouse. He is blind to see you as a wife, as a mother of his children and as a person. He will try everything in his power to make you unhappy. You can defeat this mentality by changing focus from him to you. you must stay happy. You must stay good person and do good karma. You must stay strongly positive. Mainly you must stay detached from his negativity, prejudiced and closed mind set. Intelligence, affection and empathy brings peace in the family. Ignorance, arrogance and ego brings disaster.

“Love the person, but give the person total freedom. Love the person, but from the very beginning make it clear that you are not selling your freedom.”💚

Speaking of thorns and that is hurting your hand all the time just remove the thorn . if it is stuck in your hand and the pain is unbearable hide your hand and keep it away . In the mean time who placed the thorn will realize that now he is alone and there is no one around to hurt anymore .

Guruji ,If husband and wife have different spiritual levels then their frequency will be different how to solve this..in married life and ..maintaining a good relationship..

You are laghing as never before...What I saw...Great!🌻

For the first time I felt that even sadhguru was thinking and a little afraid of answering this question :D

The problem is both characters of unsubmissisve attributes and tendencies. Both need to be humble and submissive. Pride and unsubmissisve behavior will lead to separation and anger and lead to violence and speration.

Not really getting answer . Just smiling here and there.

Very nice listening to you

I love it. Find some other victim. It totally works when my mother in law is visiting

Special behavior training should be a mandatory subject in school for women

Every Rose, Has its Thorn. Just like every night. Has its dawn... ❤️🙏

I am getting very angry when something doesn't goes the same I want. How to overcome such situation? Please help 🙏

Sadguru thankyou 🙏🇮🇳

How to deal with an angry spouse Me:Give divorce (So simple)😏😏

Nice clip

Impressive 👍

Simply put “ a women can build her house with her words just as she can destroy it” if she doesn’t understand let her go.

brilliant

Never surrender intelligence, competence or genius at the altar of good behavior. I am not endorsing bad behavior, but good behavior can be learnt. Genius cannot be learnt, you have to unleash it. Meaning..?

My husband gets angry too much and he is terrified at that time.

Not really helpful lol. God bless this man I'm sure he means well.

01:53 never saw sadhguru thinking that much before for speaking on anything else. That gives you an idea how complex the question is.

“The greatest discovery of any generation is that a human can alter his life by altering his attitude.” ― William James

Both the man and the woman should conduct themselves in a manner that is kind and respectful of one another. This makes for a happy and successful marriage. Love is kind.

Women who have sharp tongue because they are neglected by their spouse , by their inlaws, they are being judged. sometimes when spouse fails to understand a woman then what else she can do,,,,, A woman who is treated nicely , prioritised and loved she will become more calm more lovable and more soft. This nobody understands

Relationships thrive on mutual respect, mutual trust, reciprocity, and fellow - feeling !

My physically and mentally abusive dad needs to see this! He has been abusing a Beautiful Goddess he is married to🙏 Thank you sadhguru...

Short tempered people spoil the life of their spouses. And own life too. Even if you try to focus on yourself, they come anytime & pounce upon you. No remedy for ‘tunakbaaj’ spouse. Not sure how to handle?

Repeat after me: Thank you for my joy; Thank you for my happiness; Thank you for my success; Thank you for my abundance; Thank you for my wealth; Thank you for my prosperity; Thanks for my health. Repeat every day and the universe will certainly serve you.

Sometimes Sadguru solutions are so vague which are not practical.

Summary ( my opinion) - Focus on the good behavior of your spouse, work on improving/adding other good things in her life (like enroll her in dance/singing class, help her to learn new language, help her to learn new recipes, appreciate her on her good things. In a nutshell work on improving the roses and thrones will automatically become insignificant.

Hahahhahaja omg the question is so funny!!! Sadhguru is right on point that women has sharper tongue hahaha...

I didn't get any satisfying answer for this question. Even satguru cannot answer this question 😃

"You must find another victim for her , and you get the wonderful part of her" LOL, after 30 years of being together and 25 years of marriage I have watched my wife destroy friendships with girlfriends, colleagues at work etc., I always watched from the sidelines, then to realize I was next on her list to be destroy......why did I spend 3/4 of my life with this toxic person?

Craving leads to suffering.The only way to be liberated from suffering is to be liberated from Craving.And the only way to be liberated from craving is to train the mind to experience reality as it is.

it just takes one relationship to make you or break you....i wonder how people manage to have multiple relationships at once

You r 100% correct Sadguruji. This is for all such unfortunate males who r like me got affected & in a swamp(DalDals). I handled in two ways diagonally opposit to each other (only verbal). One way is tell her "If you continue to show your anger like this I have no other alternative except to leave you for ever." You can see a sea of change gradually in her attitude, infact she will start realizing her shortcomings sooner than later. Second you have to be saying regularly "I love you da chellam" you shud be remembering her birthday,anniversary,,festival days & give her gifts (nice saree, golden ornaments) taking her out for dining,picnic, tours etc.) Any ill-health of her,invariably she needs yr kindest attention(certainly no faking), if possible you cook a simple pepper,jeera rasam, rice,with some fried items & try to feed her with your arms around. In general she must b treated gently. Be careful & forget about all her erstwhile love affairs(in case, if any) & be kind to her after all those r due to infatuation. During & after menopause you must b very much supportive. In case of forced marriage with you ask her if she is not comfortable with you,if yes, then you should arrange a counsellor or a council of both parents & settle her with her old acquinttance. Nowhere your violent behaviour shud b shown to her even if you r getting irritated by her words & attitude. Be patient,solve the issue amicably. Violence is the weapon of a weak, pl bear it in mind. At no time you must involve yr friends between your wife & you during arguments, he can betray you by befriending your spouse. Bye friends, please write your feedbacks down the line.

The problem is not the spouse but the anger.

Might sound silly but couldn't take off my eyes from the serene background ..what a feel😍😍

I have watched many many videos of Sadguru. I have been married 18 years. First time I didn't understand what he was getting at. His answer was very cryptic .I did have a sharp tongue and used to make the other person cry , but changed when my mother advised me at the time of my marriage. I understood and always try to make a conscious effort to not hurt anyone through my words. In the process of becoming more spiritual every thing which is irrelevant falls away.(Sadguru mentions this in another video) That is a guarantee. These material feelings and emotions will shed if we adopt righteous way of living. One thing I definitely liked about what he said was for 1 rose with 100 thorns , nourish it and make it grow 100 roses . Yes that is a very good way to improve the thorny situation.

Today I made meditation according to Sadhguru. instructions.I received a message. By Ancaint diety. I'm at the starting point understanding the basic rules of the Universe.Thank You so much - Your Wisdom & Knowledge is far behind perception & immortality. You Are a Bright Light of a Star - Shining upon Darkness & Void.

The one reading this You are phenomenal my friend. you are not alone. You are Loved. You are beautiful, we are all connected through our pain, and in our pain we come out stronger. For all of you hurting inside, for all of you wanting to scream, to jump, to cut, to fall, to pull the trigger,- for all of you who can't do it anymore, I'm here and I pray for you. *Hug if needed - take care of yourself and stay safe❤.

Good one सद्गुरु.. But you only focussed on women as angry spouse.. It can be other way also right? Please tell us what to do then? Waiting for another great learning from you🙏

Shankaran pilai has watched that sadguru has watched him now he wants solutions of his problems 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

When a woman speaks in anger still she wants good of her partner. Although shes in rage and anger because she gets underestimated, and this happens specially where the woman compromises herself for her partner. So ladies, have a life for yourself, love yourself first.

Endless talking is one of the most horrible situations...🌻

Ha ha..!! The tongue is a muscle too..:)

5 minutes in I had to click off because he didn't actually SAY Anything!

It’s not just women it’s men too, sometimes I just wanna hit the bar and forget about the freaken negativity 😅

For complicated questions, there are no easy answers. Sadguru is very diplomatic when answering these kind of questions.Anyone who watched the video to get any answers, may have been left with even more questions.

I recommend reading the book Trilogia Krysthos by Marianna Escribano, where among many other things he gives some tools to raise awareness such as: "Don't fight." "Shake hands with your enemy." "Give what you have to your brother." "Not wishing you could." -Love freedom and give freedom. Never hold a human being from his freedom. "Preserve the planet." "Flee from violence." Never face. "Forgive with love and without rancor." "Humility in your hearts." -Aim for simplicity in demonstrations. -Not stop being unique in your essence. The book contains a lot of information, for example when and how did life begin on the planet and the evolution of being human, also reveals which race we belong and that the project for the human being it is eternal life on the planet and much more.

For the first time in his videos. Not convinced or may be I did not understand the solution or what was he trying to convey. Sorry.

its all about space and time for the mind to clear the fog .dont be so crazy

It is most difficult to become a family man/women. Having a satisfactory relationship is most challenging. When we face a difficult person we want to get out of that relation. Becoming a yogi and leaving everything and everyone is an easy solution to let go all your burdens. But not the right way because you choose that life earlier and now want to escape the problems that come with it.

Hello Mr Singh, I have a girlfriend and she is such a sweet soul however she gets angry and says hurtful things to me, what can I do. Thank you

Answer: Do not get Married...Seriously its not worth the hassle..your whole life is adjustment and compromise if you get married...please live free till the end...there's more heart aches than happiness overall.

How to deal with an angry spouse? RUN AND NEVER LOOK BACK! If they ever disrespect you call them out straight away and if they don't change leave. I had low self esteem my whole life and never stood up for myself against anyone, I always avoided confrontation. After 25 years I an controlling and abusive marriage where my wife would not let me see my family or friends. I left my wife, my kids don't speak to me anymore but all the stress and build up emotional damage is gone. My parents might not be around anymore but I hope they are looking down and happy that I escaped to enjoy the last few years of my life.

How you deal with this is"not to deal". Go gray rock and find inner peace. Sometimes could be a personality disorder [like BPD, NPD] based on the born and brought up. Read about them, learn about them. But don't think about them, whatever happens find peace. All the best.

I dont have a spouse yet. But surprisingly, i can understand every aspects and words he said 🙏🙏🙏 thank you, Sadhguru

One hundred thorns needs one hundred roses 🌹

Divorce them..... That's how you deal with them. Life is too short to stay in a bad relationship.....just breakup and find someone else.

I believe every word Sadguru says 🙏🏻

I love this video ❤I am learning so so much from your videos 🙏Thank You ❤

You are such a beautiful being of love and light. Thank you for being here on earth during this powerful transition :) The universe and God love you unconditionally.

Do not redirect angriness to another person. It will be hard, but you should have a constructive conversation about how each feels and why. Help her to find the cause of being angry, both of you should find the solution to remove triggers which cause fear and angriness.

Sadghuru I think you're the best, I wanna be your friend one day♡

Hmm 🤔 Very broad, very general…🤷🏻 That is as close to ‘stumped’ as I have observed Mr S…😉 Even he was chuckling at the difficulty of answering that in any definitive way - Everyday life, the universe, the totality of being, & ‘properly functioning’ are one (or several) thing(s)… but the eternally mysterious dynamic between man & woman quite another - Rough translation: ‘You’re on your own son, work it out, go to the heart of it, no blame/no failure, no rationale… give your best, stay on your feet, keep it (very) real, & good luck❗️’ 👍😁 🦆

يا لطيف It's by thy grace that I feel Your holy name

Even Sadguru seems clueless about wives😂

i wana smoke with this guy i feel like after a hard days work he will tell you the meaning of life

I wanna see one on how to deal with spouse not getting along with parents

“My name is Celaena Sardothien," she whispered, "and I will not be afraid.” ― Sarah J. Maas

Genius cannot be learnt. You have to unleash it.

First comment. Love you sadhguru🙏

Modi Govt support women.. no matter how does a woman behave.

All human misery are caused by the "attachment"

So, really, in the end, he has no clue what to tell this man.

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Some people can’t change, sometimes that growth has to come from themselves. Even your kindness shouldn’t suffer such injury to get those roses. Some of them will never bloom.

First time I have not get direct Answers from Sadhguru 🙏. Sadhguru it's an diplomatic answer. I also have such problems, so how can I unleash her wonderfulness?, how to get roses not thorns everyday 🙏

What about his wife ???? sadguru's wife ????

Strength is life, weakness is death. - Swami Vivekananda

If you want to see the change, be the change. (from my experience, in this context) 🙏

I always love to hear him... He makes the problem so easy...

1:53 even Sadhguru took 8 sec...well the second to second quality of her is: she utterly hates every insect and every dust particle in the house, should I promote it? Her dominance is in preaching, should I endorse it?... And what finally Sadhguru says 8:50...we are just unfortunate! Well, we are just ordinary people, or probably Vijji was not like that!

Just when your better half starts bursting out ,you must let her shout,burst,cry and whatever drama she starts ,What you should do is just take a walk,or get yourself in another room ,play one round of pubg,or some game for 30 minutes or so ,then ,if she gets calm then speak or reply , otherwise let her increase her blood pressure,its her problem ,donot get indulge.This will make her clear that ,"there is talking between you and her only ,if done calmly ,quitly and peacefully".Once you let this lines get in her head,she will not speak on 8th level ,as you will not be present there to listen.This worked in my married life.possibly will work on yours too. Don't forget to be calm and peaceful,when she bursts out ,just withdraw yourself from that environment.

Happy wife, happy life.

First time since following saadguru didn’t have a answer to a simple daily problem

Sadhguru giving wisdom as Geeta. The another Reincarnation Lord Krishna ❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏💖💖💖

This is a good advice thank you.

1:54 Imagine Sadhuru saying "Well, if she uses her weapon, just use your, too! Right in the kisser, baby. Nah, I'm just kidding. Take a baseball bat." O_O xD Wonderful like always, Mr. Sadhguru. Greetings from Germany.

tongue lashing department is a little too strong 😂 i dont mind at all lol

The fire smoke is just billowing into his eyes the whole time. What a boss

Why keep avoid a straight answer? had to laugh how you diplomatically duck the issue.The straight answer is that she is your wife and you are the one she owns the right to take her frustrations out on. Just hold your ground and shut up, it will come right. The more you fight the more nonsence they bring up irrespective if its linked at all to the first arguement.

I wouldn’t say I would phrase the things he’s saying the same but it is good advice in a way. It’s proven that women mature faster than men and we also perform better in school so our way of being can often be more mature. Men can have a hard time speaking about emotions and some men are raised not to be able to have a argument without pissing their pants after 3 second. I think this causes a lot of misunderstandings between certain couples

My great Gramma had a saying house devil, street angel. Nice outwardly, but get home and close the door and watch out ! It's true too

Is this guy high on drugs? he keeps laughing on a serious matter. ! he got no idea what it takes for a man to be a victim of domestic violence. I saw some of his videos before and liked it. but this one truly disappoint me

Even sadhguru don't have answer this question 😄😄