Coach Lee is a legend. My boyfriend and I had a huge messy breakup in 2019, and I went No Contact immediately. I focused completely on my own processing of emotions and grief . I became a new person after 3 months , and guess who wrote a letter, and started trying to contact me .... my ex. We ended up getting back together . No contact works when you accept the situation, and find ways to redirect your negative thoughts into ways you can benefit from where you are , and what happened. Love & light guys ☀️
My wife left me because she wanted to work on herself. We still married by law but she left her rings behind and I tried to look for her to talk and she texted me to back off and now she no contacted me and it's two weeks so far. it sucked because I'm waiting for her to still talk about what happened but mutual friends tell me she doesn't even tell them much which is weird. I still wear my ring and standing for my marriage but idk what she's up to... Everyone says to give her time and space and I've developed anxiety attacks since it happened.
@@alexisbeltran7110 really sorry to hear that, it sucks for real. Find ways to focus on yourself, do some sport , go shopping, go out with friends, it might ease the pain a bit. It gets easier with time. Also try to remember her imperfections, the number one of them being the fact that she cold-heartedly abandoned you with no explanation whatsoever, does she still deserve your full attention after this act , ask yourself that question
Here's some encouragement for everyone. Hey you. Yes, you. You're probably feeling like crap right now and you feel like the only way to ease your anxiety is by reaching out to the person who left. It's an addict mentality. Stay in no contact, don't give into the impulse. Current anxiety is better than regret later. If you are trying to talk yourself into thinking that you won't regret breaking no contact, just remember there's nothing you can say to change their mind. Think of it as an absolute. If you perceive it that way, you'll feel the anxiety gradually decrease. Anxiety is created by the "what if?" scenarios we loop in our heads. If we turn "what if"s into "I don't have the power to change someone's mind" we'll create a less fearful feedback loop. We won't see the forest through the trees until we step outside of it and get some distance for ourselves. I'm almost 2 months into NC. Life is getting better and I've gained something more important than my ex: self-respect.
It is 5am here and I have been up since 3am. My relationship ended yesterday afternoon. I woke up and I thought I had overdosed and my body was cold and going into shock. I guess it was just dealing with the pain of heartbreak
1. focus on breath slow breathing 2. directed laughter, ah whatever 3. it's okay to feel like this. 4. remember feeling like this before 5. the anxiety itself is not the situation 6. Anxiety is temporary 7. find encouragement( talk to a friend or watch something that changes your mind) 8. Do some physical exercise 9. practice gratitude 10. Give yourself a break from the breakup. Hope it helps you guys. we are all together in this. Hope we'll get through it together. 🙏😊
This literally came at the best time. I’m feeling panicked and anxious again. Every day feels like a nightmare, I realize I’m alive in a reality I don’t want. Thank you Coach Lee.
@@danibandit2096 Yes, me too. I don't think I have ever known such emotional torture. There are times I just don't want to be alive. Sympathies to you from me. It HAS to get better...
“I realize I’m alive in a reality I don’t want.” That one hits home for me. It’s like being in an alternate reality where everything looks the same but doesn’t feel like it. It’s been a year and some months now, things have gotten better but are not at 100%.
I don’t want him back, just want to heal, learn and move on. Getting him back doesn’t solve the issues that were initially there. I only need help through the process.
Day 5 of NC. 'How can you just forget about me like that?' keeps wanding through my mind as I sit in bed and cry. It's so confusing and core shaking. It's hard not to take very personally and wonder what is it that's wrong with me. What about me is not enough. Thanks to everyone on here for sharing their stories and feelings.
I totally relate to your feelings. One of the most damaging side-effect from a break-up is to think less of yourself. But that your ex doesn't need you anymore is completely irrelevant to your self-worth, and you deserve better. Hope you're feeling well now!
Nothings wrong with you and you are never alone god is always with you love is beautiful and if someone loves you they won’t leave you behind he has to be a God-fearing man
This video was a long time coming. Last September the ex texted me to call him about something, then said he can't be in a relationship with me, or something to that effect. I said ok and hung up on him. Didn't contact him for thirty days as advised, and it was more feeling like what a fool I was for wasting twelve months of my life. Couldn't eat, slept all those days, and neglected my hygiene, on top of working three jobs. One month later ex texts to meet up for coffee, only to stand me up because he was in a "shitty mood" that day. He contacts me every now and then because he knows he screwed up big time. He's thirty years old and has nothing. No job, no prospects, constantly whining about depression and anxiety, and he realized he tossed aside the one person that made his life less miserable: me. I don't even care at this point. If I had what I wanted in life: a stable full time job and home ownership, I wouldn't want to share a life with him even if he wanted to come back for good. I feel like the whole experience isn't about getting him back, it's about getting myself back.
The primary reason It IS about getting yourself back absolutely, Once you emerge from this No contact, you will be more disciplined, more emotionally centered, and your self-esteem will be higher, You will know yourself better. in short you will feel better soon day by day, You will have waves of grief (even if you don't want him back) but they will become lower and less frequent. In short you will become more attractive. It's very tempting to smooth over the pain by dating soon again or to see what's out there. I would encourage you not to do it. There will be a time for that. Dive deep within yourself to see what your part in this was. You may be attracting the wrong kind of person. Your ex may have a personality disorder. If so learn about that disorder with a therapist and then if they do or did have a disorder make the changes in yourself and train yourself to look for the warning signs of what the early clues of that disorder are. ie if your ex was a borderline or a narcissist then you would susceptible to attracting the same kind of person again. Work on yourself, learn new hobbies or skills. Don't stay in your house or apartment by yourself if you can. Catch up with friends or family you haven't seen in awhile. GET EXERCISE,. Stay in no contact indefinitely or until you're healed. You'll know when. GL
51days of no contact.. still missing him, and thinking about him.. but everything getting better.. first week of no contact i can't even sleep and eat.. it's like i watched coach Lee's videos for 24hours.. and read all the comments.. But i still desperately hope he gonna come back.. i miss him so bad :(
After 5 months he follow my instagram. But that's all.. no text, no call, no reach out.. i still thinking of him everyday, but the pain is less.. i will stuck to no contact! Good luck for all of you :)
Thank you! Yesterday I cried a lot while doing the breathing with you and then laughed. Today i tried it again, but I didn’t cry. Believe me it gets better every day. One day at a time.
I'm 4 months in i didn't think I would heal but I did now back to normal with no distractions don't force the healing process it will happen out of nowhere trust me you will know you will just eventually realize you don't need them and that you don't have room in you're head to even give them a second thought stay focused!!!💟
Crazy to see how many people are going through the same thing.. I feel so alone most of the time. Just trying to push through the day. I’ve been doing stuff to help like re doing my room, gym, journaling, ect.. does help and when my thoughts drift Towards the break up, I shift it To something else.. unless I feel I really need to let the emotions out and cry. I will do that but not stay in that sad depressed state. I pick up and move on as hard as it is! I had a nice Lil crying sesh on my way home From work. Guess what I wanted to do? Lay in bed and mope. I went to the gym for the first time in a while! And will start going! It truly helps me! I feel 100x better. Also for my situation, we only dated for 3 months.. I suspect this has bpd and there were many red flags! It’s best we are apart as he abused me emotionally. I have no hope to get him back and don’t want to! So I am dealing with the total loss of the future faking and love bombing.. The lies and manipulation. It’s really hard
Loving Me Oh how well do I understand what you are going through. Pretty much all of 2019 was everything you just said for me. Total hell, dealing with a toxic BPD, NPD, Cluster B individual. The experience will almost drive you insane, and will most certainly cause you to learn literally everything about what it is that happened to us. Beware of the hoover too. Mine did it after six months total silence. I took the bait, only to be idealized, devalued, and discarded all over again, but only faster the next time around, but today I Am all good. You will be too, I promise you will. Just give it time.
Rene P he warned me about all of his relationships & how they went so fast and he ended it because his exes never “understood” until it was too late.. he made me feel like We were soul mates. He hoovered me a week after discard just saying random things like good morning and what food he got. Just to ghost me again. It’s been a week now. At first I was doing nc to get him back because I thought it was all my fault like he told me. I knew something wasn’t right and started researching more.. found out about cluster bs. It all made sense and I don’t feel crazy anymore. The love bombing really got me hooked. I feel so hurt and upset. The cognitive dissonance is hitting me hard
God, it’s so strange that so many of us are going through the same struggles. My relationship lasted 3 months as well, but at the same time I don’t think or can’t recall the moment when I’d have been more invested in the relationship. For the first time I wasn’t scared of never being single again, I’ve poured my heart into this guy. And for the first time I met somebody that truly wanted to spend time with me, he pushed this to be a relationship, and I opened more and more each day until I realized that I want him and I see the future with him on my side. And suddenly, it was a matter of days really, he started to back off. I felt like I was loosing ground under my feet. He broke it off almost a month ago now, saying that he doesn’t know what he wants, that he finds me interesting and attractive but he’s mentally in a bad place and he can’t be with me anymore. It’s getting better and better everyday, but I feel like I have this enormous burden, a sting in the middle of my heart. I miss him everyday. I hope everything will work out for all of us. It’s heartwarming to know that we’re not alone.
So sorry but karma will get them. Remember no one gets away without paying for all their mistakes. So. Just set back n watch the show. Judgment day will come.
Just ended my relationship of 5 years 2 days ago and I’m waking up in the middle of the night abruptly in high anxiety and an urgency to text the person.
Maridee....you ended the relationship? She left the house and relationship 2.5 weeks ago after 3.5 years. We talked out of necessity for ties that bind us, ( no kids), 5 days ago. She was kinda rude and short. A few days later I found Coach Lee and have listened to his videos and recognize that level of mentality her emotions are in, ( probably mad at me for reminding her she hurt me). I have stopped ALL communication per Coach Lee😀. Officially it is day 5 of NC.
this happened to me a lot every night and morning once i wake up, last year when my ex started pulling away. i will never forget that. i will never let it happen to me again. i will cut that shit short as soon as i see it. nobody is worth that much suffering.
@@allaboardthegravytrain5987 yeah me too. Next time I see my girlfriend pulls away or bahaving strangely im gonna end the shit out of the relationship. If she has a good reason for it I might reconsider. Im not gonna let ANYONE else in my life to play with my feelings ever again. Nor I will let myself end up in the emotional state that im right now. Im gonna protect myself next time.
Guys trust no contact. It really works, after a month and a half me and my ex are grabbing coffee soon to talk.. Im not sure whats going to come of it though lol
After 18 years of marriage I am starting down this road I never thought I'd be on. Thank you for this, it gave me some things to help me through the feelings I'm experiencing. Hope is a start, and that's all I have right now. Sending good thoughts in to the universe to anyone who is going through something similar, you are not alone
@@jelenapiskin I'm doing great now, with time came happiness and the realization that I am better off. What I went through was rough to say the least but having friends and family to help you through the dark is a blessing..i promise you that it gets better, the anxiety fades, the sleepless nights become less and less, and then eventually you realize that you are still here and you have a life to live. Focus on and improve yourself. Start small and take it day by day. Remember that you deserve better than you were treated. Eventually you will find balance and happiness in your life. I will be sending good thoughts your way and rooting for you to make it through this.
@RealCoachLee please you keep me alive .I. really down . He left me its been a month now.i miss him and loved him so much. But his the one no contact with Me. Really hard on me. Ignore my call and my text mesage.
You Are amazing ! No contact and radio silent worked for me 2 and a half months In he reached out we talked and well no we talk everyday and night he calls me sometimes during work , sometimes after he gets out of work we hung out the other day at his job and he was all over me and still being his ex he was still very proud to show me off.. no on Thursday we are hanging out again! You know your stuff
Aprilzoe _ Pretty please, be careful and cautious, especially if he was the one that called it off before. There is a type of person out there, known as the Personality Disordered, or Cluster B, they are very good at pulling you back in, and then dropping you again. Be very careful dear, and good luck.
Rene P I am very careful ! He knows that I’m not giving my all till he proves himself ! Lately he has especially because i have a son and I explained unless this is serious do not come because my son LOVES him and I do not want him to come back make him happy leave again and my son asking for him all over again. He’s understood the terms . Thank you so much though for your advice I appreciate it ❤️❤️
Maulschellezack stay strong love you got this ! It’s very very hard at first and you’ll have urges but when you have that urge look at these videos ! They stopped me each time. I went completely silent on socks media for 2 months and even though he’s back I’m still off social media it made me realize the toxic place it became also for me and him so we’re keeping things off social media but very affectionate in public . The less they know the better and healthier things are. Don’t lose hope ever ! Pray to the universe and then let go. Meanwhile you’re doing the NC work on yourself go out enjoy yourself be you ! Find yourself LOVE yourself first most definitely. If it’s meant to be they will come back and if they do come back be very cautious but thankful to the world . Praying everything works for you ❤️ keep me updated I’m hoping everything works in your favor 🥰🥰
@@aprilzoe_4494 thank you so much for your kind words aprilzoe. Brought me to tears that people who are basically strangers are showing so much empathy for each other. Makes me really thankful and happy. Thank you ❤️
Was blindsided when my gf decided to break up with me. I'm only 2 days into NC and I'm struggling so much. I can't sleep. I can't eat. I feel so empty and confused. Coach is really helping though and I believe in the process. Just really struggling. I don't really have any one around me to talk to and the silence is really getting to me.
I’m watching this on my first night of being sober for 3 months.. it’s time for me to stand up, she shattered my heart. Broke me into so many pieces. I have a big heart and proud to show it.. yeah I’ll miss her but I know I’m worth more.
18 days of no contact and for the past two days I am feeling this intense pain in my chest and waking up to the pain and anxiety. I really hope to God for the pain to stop.
I did 40 days no contact, then sent a bday card to her, I got no reply, it took me right back to day one. I'm 3months post breakup and still hurting over it. Time is the only healer, and you will be stronger and happier than you were before. When your broken heart heals it will be stronger just like anything else that breaks and heals. Just remember, do no harm to yourself, do only good. Keep your house tidy, clothes clean, bed clean, eat well and exercise, all these little things will help you not be dragged down.
@@jennyjen3985 You're welcome, just think, each of these comments on here there is a real person going though what you're going through. It feels as bad as the death of a loved one, we know it's not but the emotions are the same. Its no joke.
I'm sorry ur going through that. Been there a couple of times & they were hell but u will get over it soon. Encourage yourself to survive each day next thing u know, a month has passed & time is healing u little by little. Hang in there. Know that you are loved by ur friends and families.
Hi Coachlee and those that read this. These videos have been a lifesaver in navigating a recent breakup. One technique that may help when it comes to anxiety and how unpleasant the feelings are. Accept them. Embrace them. Feel them the more you fight the more they take hold. The feelings maybe unpleasant but they can not hurt you.
Watching your videos Coach Lee is the most effective anxiety relieving technique. I’m 37 days in no contact and been feeling better. I had a dream about her woke up in a panic cold sweats and started tears. Watching this video has now calmed me down thank you.
Coach lee I just want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for helping me through my no contact, I got my deep felt apology on monday after two and a half months no contact, thank you so much , god bless you ❤ Good luck to everyone going through no contact x
The pain is so real. I know I can find someone else but I love her. And it was all my fault. That just multiplies the pain 100x. I stared crying after 40 days. It helps.
I'm in the same boat my friend, and knowing it was your fault is so much worse. The guilt is crazy but we have to forgive ourselves and try to become the best version of ourselves. Maybe they'll reach out and if not we'll be in a better place regardless.
Trust me, the two times when I broke NC...the person NEVER came back and it actually pushed them away for good...so not only did I feel alone but now I felt awful because I gave in. Most of the time, the reason the person broke up with me had little to actually do with me and a lot to do with their own issues. The times I’ve used NC (longest being 3 years of NC and I moved on) the person always came back with the option to hook up, have sex and rekindle dating. Bottom line, use NC for your own sanity. For yourself. Not as a means to get the person back. I felt great after a week of NC, but as soon as I broke it and got no response/negative response, I felt depressed. I know that now. And looking back, when I broke NC, it wasn’t even the actual person I was missing, it was the attention and feeling of being with someone that was missed.
I feel this at times, it's horrible. Coach Lee, you described it exactly how I feel. The future seems unbearable & I'm traveling into something I hate. I feel this more especially on the weekends. Tonight I was thinking of a lot of memories that we shared & it's the uncertainty of my future & in no contact that's so difficult.
If someone left you and you know you were good to them and didn't cheat/abuse them, they did you a favor they're not team players. Yes the withdrawal is real and you will overcome it, you're strong God's with you! Don't take an ex back they will be good for couple of weeks maybe months but they will leave again, trust me my ex fiancée did it to me 3 TIMES. Together for 6yrs engaged for 2yrs and she left for 3rd time almost 2months ago. I went no contact immediately everytime she left and I prayed for her to come back and she did, but that took years off my life and held me back from healing and moving on. They did it once you can't trust them, they left! Close door behind them and never open it again you don't need someone that leaves you you need someone that stays through everything just like you would!
“Gone with the wind” is one of my favourite movies of all time. I remember the quote you mention “I’ll worry about it tomorrow”. She was wise about it because she knew that if she worried all the time she wouldn’t get anything done and she needed to be strong to juggle with the other issues in her life. Thanks for reminding me of her strong character, it really helps. I worry about my ex all the time and I can’t even get a decent sleep because of this. I will try postponing this heavy worrying or limit its time. Also, taking a break from caffeine is a really good advice. I noticed too that drinking too much coffee can really increase anxiety and even get you into overdrive sometimes. Hope I can do it. Thank you, Coach Lee! You’re the best!!!
Bro, i messed up big time, but i started watching your videos, and implemented your rule, not only has she contacted me 3 times already, but i don’t even care if she comes back anymore, he helps listen to this legend💪
I’m 53, I’ve been divorced 13 years. I never had kids but wanted to. My ex as it turned out didn’t want kids. The last year and a half a dated a woman with three young boys. We all got along great. I was crazy about her. First woman I met in 13 years that I thought I’d marry. It was like having my own family for the first time. She ended things about a month ago. I didn’t see it coming. 53 years old and find myself completely alone again. I feel like I’ve been set back 13 years. Having a very difficult time with this breakup.
Coach! I've been an avid follower since my fiance broke up our 7 year relationship. It's been around 4 months give or take. I've been patiently waiting for her and she's got a new BF now and all. I was devastated then one day my parents brought something up. My first GF, I decided to add her in facebook and chat her up. For 12 years we had no contact and the way we talked for the first time its like nothing happened, except that we are more mature now and more established in life than before. All Im saying is that to the people here try to realize that possibly it is actually you who is the ex that needs to come back. Who knows something better was there all along. She gave me no contact for 12 years guys. It works!
Your kind of perspective is just so admirable. Every person man or woman should be like this. Be able to forgive, take risks, and accept thatevery situation has its purpose
What helped me get over a shitty ex who would leave me after every 4 days: I found my life passion and i'm building on that now. I realized i need no man but me, takecare of me and my family/friends
3 years she dumped me said it isn’t working out and that it’s toxic , texted her saying I was feeling low and felt like suicide was my only option Ik that’s toxic but I was really going to do it she saved me that day but that was the last straw she gone it’s been almost a year my life idk but my anxiety is up by a ton my heart rate reaches 200
Caffeine!!!!! I take prework out, I was taking to much to workout, that caused me to have to much anxiety after I came back from the gym, sucks the most because I work 12 hours a day so I’m in my thoughts most the time but I’m holding strong
16 years here, she left me on Christmas Eve. Any day now she will be coming to collect the rest of her stuff. I can’t put into words how much I miss her. I’m trying to stay strong but it hurts constantly. I love you Maggie.
You're an awesome person for being here with us in this worst time and worst pain. I am so lucky and grateful for the support I've received at this time (6 year relationship and worst pain I've felt in a long time).
5yrs of relationships we dont fight no third party, reason why we broke up he has no time for us anymore, i was needy and clingy sometimes but he knows me better than anybody if im clingy mean i miss him so much i need him but he gets misunderstood off all that, maybe he feels like i smothered him or took away his independence, and he ghosted me for 3 weeks, when he comeback he was decided already to end the relationship. It is blind side and one sided break up.. Until now, its beem 2 weeks already still cry at night so many what if and why's... Fyi we dont fight a lot or big fight for 5yrs all we have is sweet moments and good memories together our both families.. And now i feel like im gonna die of pain, anxiety, panic attacked and everything.. I was his first long term and serious relationship,i was there of all his firstime, we both share our lives and together we mature, that's why its so hard to let go or move on if the reason is not enough to trow the 5yrs relationship.. 😢
I'm so happy having my partner back after being separated for months.All thank to dr frank who help me to get back with my ex again,he has helped numerous number of people I will suggest you to get help from him
I totally dig what you said about smiling and laughing at the situation. I do this now. It does give a sense of empowerment and control over that crappy feeling I have since I was dumped on Thanks Giving 2019. Now it’s just empowerment and confidence in control. Along with your videos of encouragement and powerful words that makes complete sense of it all. I say You’re a power dude. I’ve leaned a lot from you and your videos. Thank you sir!
Hi coach lee i what to thank you for all of your advice i am only 30 35 days in to no contact but you have helped me so much i am 58 and it was a 13 year relationship and a good 13 years. I thought this was going to take for ever but I am all ready feeling better not -100% but i am getting there. And to you all be strong and listen to this man. Good luck to us all.pat from England.
To overcome anxiety after the break up: Them: doing what Coach Lee has said. Me: Just watching his videos and reading all the comments 😊😍 Thank you so much for these wonderful videos Coach Lee. 💗 From Philippines 🇵🇭
This is my 1st day. I always feels like ai have to contact her. I'm glad I found your comment. Coz I've been with that person for 10 years. And I just want to know if there's someone in this world that was able to moved on from a broken 10 year relationship. Thank you for sharing, kabayan. Sana kayanin ko to.
I had an Anxiety Attack a week ago. been having huge instability after the breakup. (I’ve been with my ex for 10 Years) Hasn’t been easy...but Thanks to your videos I’ve been remaining strong. My Chest doesn’t pressure me as much as it did before. I’ve been in No contact for 2Weeks and a half, almost gonna be 3Weeks. still no sign of him. but..regardless of the situation...at least You’ve helped me to be back on my feet...To Think more Clearly and to stand up for what I believed in. So Thank you @Coach Lee.
You’re a strong woman, I went no contact with my ex for 10 days and couldn’t take it so I contacted her, she replied but I can tell she hasn’t changed.
Lego Luke Thank you! though...Honestly, I almost made the mistake of contacting him a few days ago but I changed my mind and Continued the “No Contact” it’s super killing me truthfully. I don’t blame you for doing what you did. It’s quite dificult to maintain things normal when we feel so poorly about Everything that’s happened. As much as I want my Relationship... nothing can be done until atleast he decides to show wether or not it’s worth fighting for. and if he chooses not to...I guess I’ll be forced to move on but at least I can say that I tried my Best to make things work and that’s all we can ever do. but anyways...I really hope things between you two manage to sort things out despite the early Contact. wish you lots of luck! I know it ain’t easy but your not alone!
Lego Luke things with me are still the same. :( dealing with panic, stress, anxiety and trying to remain calm through it all. (still no sign of him) I truly hope things turn out for the best for you. Keep remaining strong! one day she might come back. Don’t give up!
can we just take a moment to thank coach lee for his amazing advice, that is available for free. his videos have soothed my anxiety in the past weeks and helped me get through this. if you can afford it, i suggest buying his break up kit (which i did and it is great) and/or leave a tip because i sincerely believe he deserves to be compensated so that he can upload more videos and benefit people who might not be able to afford counseling etc.
It's so horrible to feel like the person who said they loved you leaves and they take every last bit of joy you had left with them... I miss them so much, I'm just so tired of wearing a fake smile all the time when I feel like I'm dying inside
So many times I've been told to focus on myself and calm myself and just wait things out, but no one ever had the answer when I would ask: "How?" Thank you for actually giving me concrete methods and tips to use during the tougher times.
No contact didn’t bring my most recent ex back yet, but it brought back into my life someone who has always been there who I never appreciated until now. Now I’m torn between holding out for ex or exploring this new relationship with the one who’s always been there
Coach lee you have pulled me out of a freaking depression. Thank you so much. I can finally eat for the first time in a week ❤️ I’m going to end my 115 day streak with her and go no contact. in the mean while i’m going to quit running track and focus on lifting and gaining some mass while also getting my schoolwork done and buy that car that I’ve been waiting to buy in order to get out of the house. You gave me this confidence and i am forever in debt to you my friend. Thank you so much!
One thing I've learned coach lee is that laughter and interacting with happy people really is a great way of dealing with the anxiety. I watched dad jokes on RU-vid, talk to people who are happy, watching funny movies, not being stuck in the house all day, go out to eat with friends, treat yourself, shop for clothes that look nice on you, make money, when you talk to people force yourself to actually engage in the conversation and be a listener. Do not speak or do things that will make you bored because it will cause you to really sink into your thoughts. Force your mind to focus on what you want it to focus on. The breathing is such A great way to reset your mind. 🤞🏾🤞🏾🔥🔥🔥. Thank you so much coach lee
Good haircut! I’m over that stage just in a week after watching a bunch of post-breakup advice videos. The good thing is I don’t lower my values to chase him.
embrace what you cannot change . Feel it own it and allow yourself time to grieve . Do one accomplishment a day . Think on the other things that are good for you
My 8 yrs relationship has ended on my birthday last week. He broke up with me, and now I am using NC but i saw a video of him enjoying his life by going to the gym like nothing happened while I look miserable at this moment.
@@SJ-nw1ym I am doing fine. Yes it still hurts sometimes. I keep on reminding myself that I should focus on self love. I deleted one of my social media accts. It is just too toxic. Nextweek I'll be back in my hometown where me and my ex lives in the same village. So I keep reminding myself that I am worthy and I don't deserve to beg for his love because I always do that for the past 8 years.
@@kellynunez4583 Yes, you deserve all the happiness in the world & don't you worry, eventually he's going to reach out & trust me when he'd do so you'll be in a really better place! I believe in you & I know that you can stay strong. I wish your very best for your future! I hope that everything goes well for you ♥️
Thank you coach, me and my ex aren’t getting back together, after 5 short weeks it’s very clear. But during this time your videos have helped me immensely. Something else to focus on during lockdown, and lightened the darker moments.
We broke up a few days ago after 2 years +. We were so sad and cried together . My girlfriend asked me just to let her know how my exam went because i'm important to her, it will decide if i'm in the university . I will respect her quest and after that I will maintain the NC to keep on going and becoming a stronger person . It's been just a few days as I said but I gotta admit that going out, working out everyday, focusing on my self has been accelerating my healing progress! Best regards to you all
I feel as if I’m losing control and it’s overwhelming. All I can think about are negative thoughts “why doesn’t he meet me half way? Why did he give up?” Etc God give me peace please. Amen
The laughing technique I have inadvertently been doing all along..I has been helping immensely.. It's always my go to... It's just a cavalier attitude.."screw it all" if you will...it is truly liberating.
Few days into No Contact. Found you after i was promised a talk face to face, but she bailed on it 3 times. Really struggling with not having closure right now...your wonderful videos and amazing comment section are a nightly ritual now and have been helping so much....i think its the greatest comment section on toutube! We got this guys and gals
Also put in the work, focus on yourself and your passions. I know its hard but if you see your ex and youre the same person, it probably wont work again
How To Deal With Anxiety After A Breakup or Separation....just listen to coach Lee talk. He could be talking about painting a wall and it'd still soothe you.
I've been able to use anxiety as a tool. The anxiety is real because of how much I'm losing, so it's not like I'm having a panic attack for a week because I forgot a college assignment lol. This is positive because the anxiety keeps me alert and awake.
With time you'll feel better,with time you'll feel relief,with time you'll see things clearly,with time you'll accept that they're gone,with time you'll feel happy and nolonger in pain.
Hear me out- One thing that helps me is listening to a song I related to a past breakup (not the most recent one, but the one before that). Listening to that song reminds how sad I was then but then I got through it. I did it once so I know I can do it again. Might not work for everyone, but works for me to remind me that I can get through it.
If I would’ve broken up multiple times I wouldn’t be worried to the level of anxiety that much. I guess I would take it in a stride. Just a thought not to be taken personally.
She’s my first love and we lasted 2 years with so much love and now I miss her so much, I sadly found these videos about a month and a half after the breakup and I was trying to win her back with letters and gifts and memories but now I hope no contact works and has her miss me, hope she wants me back in her life I pray
Tried watching a lot of coaches and channels about the subject but Coach Lee is hands down the best! No one else comes close! Very practical tips and realistic insights. I’m on day 7 of 90 NC days and his videos keep me sane and controlled. Can’t wait for the much better version of myself when my 90 days NC (or i may add more if needed) are over. Whether I get back with my ex or not, I’m convinced NC will really work and I’ll be a much better, more disciplined and wiser person after this. Thanks a lot, Coach Lee! You are awesome!!
Coach Lee for sure got me through my breakup, I'm around 20 days no contact, I miss her greatly but I think I am getting over her and I feel much better and out of the fog. Im not sure that I want her back anymore, what a shame it was.
It was 4 years ago when I've had this so-called anxiety attacks which I didn't know yet that I was already suffering from it after my ex broke up with me. I don't wanna go to work. I can't focus. I haven't had the appetite to eat. I can't sleep, I felt like I'm gonna burst. I can't stop thinking and worrying what my ex was doing while I was crying all along alone in my room. But it was really just a matter of time for you to feel the pain and grief. And from there time will really heal all wounds.
Hello Coach Lee, I just wanted to say, I can’t thank you enough for your expertise and gift of helping people who feel devastated by a breakup. I think I’ve watched every single video in your library, some I have watched several times. It’s so comforting and helpful to hear you speak to us. I know I’m not alone. God bless! Keep up your good work!❤️
I have watched these videos since november. I am seperated from my narcissistic wife. I have depression, i have suffered from depression my whole life. I have gone thru so much but everytime has been different. I even had PTSD after my school got attacked. Last 20 years have been full of ups and down. But I learn, I grow tougher and wiser. And I am proud that I still manage to cry and let out my emotions. I struggle. I am coping with my seperation now. But with each passing day i am rediscovering myself, i learning to be me again and i realize how much it sucked being married to the person i was married. How much of a drain it was on myself, the emotional abuse, the depression, the fatigue and general sense of hopelessness and giving up on everything. I am thank ful that those negatives are leaving me. Coach Lee has helped me thru his videos. I have a large support base, and Coach you are one of them. I will survive this. No contact helped me. If nothing it helped me keep my dignity. And that is alot!
He is talking about Meditation when he is talking about the breathing - seriously this is the main tool! Im in the 6th month discovered it 2 months ago. I am doing it every day 20min. and it is amazing. It is relaxing my mind and body in a way I never though it would be possible. Barely dark thoughts oder anxiety. I wish I've discovered it earlier in my life!
Same. Have you ever cheated? I have. I did it because I didn’t care about the consequences. I can only presume that other people think the same when they cheat. Here’s the right thing for a person who is considering cheating to do. They should address the problems that they have with the relationship and if those problems aren’t surmounted then they should amicably breakup. And then stay single for three months at least so their partner can try to win them back. Instead your ex acted selfishly, just as I did two or three girlfriends ago and just as my current cheating ex only thought about herself. Cheating is a shitty immature thing to do and it says a lot about the mental maturity of the cheater. You’re better off without her. Time to hit the gym and start putting yourself out there and go on dates when you start to feel ready.
When you go to the hospital then sign papers for an apartment and everything going down from here that's as clean as it gets aside from the fact I got that crappy job and was ran over they don't help at all after they are terrible.. 8 months... that's not very long for 5 years. She still chatted with me the whole time.
Thank you coach I have spent two months listening to your videos . I am now on my way to repairing my marriage. Your advice works. The only down side is I have fallen in love with coach lee. Good job you are in America and I am in England. Good work. 💐💐💐
I’m now at 11 weeks NC. At 2 weeks my anxiety was so uncontrollable I went on some meds. It’s better now but I still have those moments. I plan on trying some of Coach Lees techniques next time instead of popping a pill.
My last relationship was the only one to have given me Anxiety Attacks, Hyperventilate, barely ate, barely slept, just feeling broken. It showed to me how much I cared for my ex. You have to give yourself a grieving period. Put an end date to it. Know its temporary, and like steel you will get stronger. You may barely see the flicker of light at the end of tunnel. But you will see how bright it will shine with time. If you have rope tied to your hand and someone else is pulling on it. Its hurting because your holding on to it. If you just let go. The pain goes away. Don't stay in your "prison" for too long. What helped me was. Have someone you trust, remove and collect all the things from your former relationship. You just point and tell them to make a pile. Have them drive it to the local Goodwill or to the trash bin. Then log in to your social media and have your friend remove all of posts and pictures of the past relationship. Don't do it yourself. It will only hurt more. Or out right delete your social media. Do something that brings you happiness when you were a child. I enjoy watching certain movies that I watched growing up. I found the Movie "SING" its a kids film but I enjoyed the quote from the movie "The good thing about hitting rock bottom is....there is no where else to go but up!" I enjoyed playing old video games of my childhood and I would remember and reconnect to happiness. Then start doing little things until you feel some sort of "Normalcy" after time you will see it was for the best.
