The "No Contact Rule" Explained | Matthew Hussey 

Well said.

I don't understand why my ex would fight me on that. "I do care, I'm just busy!!" And had a million excuses always... Why wouldn't he just admit he didn't care

Not a guaranteed method. It works sometimes. I i done it before. But she's completely changed.& she saying she wants to find someone new. She loved me at my worse & because of the extreme dynamic of the relationship. We spent very little time together. This was a huge contribution for her changing. I was never there when she needed me the most.she loved at me worse. I made my own fair share of mistakes. Pretty much she had enough. Yes it might work butnits a gamble that I'm too fearful some terrible take places

@@PeaceCrafter sounds about right

@@PeaceCrafter 🤔

It gets better, it really hurts but why be with someone who doesn’t care about you and your feelings

thank you so much for this 😢💔❤

@@laurene.h You are strong and incredible Laurene! I know it’s not easy but keep pressing on. Your person is there for you. You will make it through. Sending you the hugest hug! ❤️❤️❤️

@@feministiqe I am so grateful for your heartfelt and comforting message 💖 Your words are sincerely healing and hopeful for me hold onto through all this. Sending you so much love and warmest hugs ❤️❤️💖💕

❤❤❤ thank you I needed to hear that!

Thankyou I really needed to hear this. I been rejected my whole life by men and I'm not an ugly woman by no means no ma'am but it hurts bad it makes me feel so horrible about myself I can't breathe so your comment helped me Thankyou.

You made my day! Cockroach! 😂😂😂 If I think about him like this, life gets better! Lots of health to you lady, you are amazing!❤

Thank you, you are absolutely right. You sound like a wise, smart woman and I wish you all the best ❤

Can’t thank you enough for ur kind words❤️I hope we all heal from the things that we can’t tell people about.

The beginning of this, too funny. 😂😂😂 thank you so much though for writing this. It helped. Hope you have good fortune and love wherever you may be. ❤❤❤❤

you are not damaged. you are not weak. you are doing great every single day. let no person or situation turn you into a person who is unkind to yourself. you deserve peace, happiness and love and your past will not decide it for you, you will decide it for u from this very moment.

I love this! And this is true! ❤

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Please stop with "amazing"

Thanks

Well spoken!

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advice like this is horrible…every circumstance, situation and relationship is different. There isn’t one rule that fits all, that’s not how life works

Yes

Wish my stupid brain agreed with that logic!

That’s fantastic! It’s one of the reasons it’s important, it gives us time to get out of “panic mode”, stand back and actually connect with what we really want, not just act out of fear

It’s been 2 months of NC 3 months since the breakup & im randomly not wanting him back but then I’ll crack & be sad & miss him it makes no sense. 5 yr relationship, he was on & off bipolar dismissive avoidant

@@auds_e7 hey it happened to me like that 3 months I was totally fine without him but at times I breakdown and cry when I remember the memories but I didn't want him back. After exactly 7 months of the breakup I stopped breaking down and feeling sad I never reached out again even when he did. Now it's been 9 months since the break up I blocked him from everywhere and I have no desire to check and see how he's doing. The key is to give yourself time and to not mess up when you're on thoss sad moments. It gets better trust me.

@@taetae4508 thanks! 😔🥺 & when did he reach out to u? What did he say?

@@auds_e7 he reached out many times for example during valentine's day he reached out and asked if I got up to much during valentine's day... He reached out again after that asking how is my studies and how am I doing and stuff... Basically I didn't give any importance to what he said that's why I decided to never reply.

Love this

I needed this! Thank you 🤎

How do I get him to still fight..

Fr Man U said it that’s the truth right there

PERFECTLY SAID! I'm so tired of explaining myself 😅😅😅

True, then I would you know if he or she did if still "no contact" ?

I do not want them back.

Thank you

Exactly.

I try to remember that as often as possible, especially in weak moments

That was brilliant, that was direct and to the point. Thank you.

Pls I appreciate if you guys would help me answer that question

It absolutely changed my perspective, I wanted him back even tho he hurt me in many ways walked away with a new supply etc.

However, if you found someone that was actually good for you and you gave up on them. You won’t find better immediately, be prepared for some bad relationships. In other words, take a break from it all.

But what if that person truly was the best you could get… and what if you ruined the relationship 😞 I only have myself to blame.

Congratulations. I know how hard that is to do. You should be so proud of yourself.

Same here. I have moved on. No grudges. No negative feelings. If he contacts again, this video will guide me.

Same! A little over 4 months and I have to see my ex on a daily basis as I have to work with him. This is a bit challenging, but he said he needed time and just looking for some fun with other women. He doesn’t want to be tied down but if he truly did care he would’ve chased me

@@tweedybird025 Hi, that must be so tough to see him everyday. Ever since he broke up with me I didn’t see him at all and I even have him muted on Instagram because I know it would be very emotional for me to see him. You are very strong !! I keep on going back and forth on the idea that maybe if I contacted him he would want me back but then I remind myself that if he truly wanted me in the first place I wouldn’t have to convince him to want me. Stay strong girl you got this. Show him what he’s missing by becoming a better version of yourself ❤️

@@Mm-wb7ct same here ! We both had strong sexual attraction towards each other but he was looking for fun while I wanted something serious so I just stopped contacting him all at once. After a month I decided to unfollow him and I guess he stalked my acc and realized my absence one month later bcuz he unfollowed me back and since then I didn’t hear anything about him. I chose to. Unless he becomes a man and grows up there is no chance in breaking the no contact rule

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Thank you so much for this ❤

How on all of this?

I hope this works out for you ❤

If you really love her, then do the work and then reach out. Don't reach out now with possibly empty promises. Pick yourself up, go to therapy if needed, re-program your brain (there are books about forming habits, etc.), and make sure that you are in a good place. Then reach out, you don't have to ask her to go back, you can reset and instead ask if she would do you the honor to take her out on a date, and try to court her and show her that you have changed. If she is meant for you, it will work out. If not, you will at least be a better person and will have truly learned your lesson.

I can relate to what you are saying, this definitely gives me hope during this change in my life. I do hope it works out for you. Thank you for sharing your story .

This is beautiful. More strength to you.

I wish my ex boyfriend would do just like you did, but it turns out he’s already looking for some more hoes.. I’m so devastated, I still want him back even when he did me so dirty. God, what is happening to me..

Easier said than done

My friend’s situation is different. She had s long distance relationship with 2 children in school with good friends and the guy really likes her but he believes she will never move closer to him and he’s very stressed about the whole thing. He changed over the past week with her with short text messages and she said she could tell he was acting like he was putting a wall up to back away and then when she called him and said “What’s going on? What are we?” And he said that he was just very confused and had no idea if she would ever move close to him, so he doesn’t want to have an answer for what the are, because he has no idea.” He does still reach out to her but with nothing but silly questions about recipes about something she had cooked for him when she was visiting her. I know he cares about her and I remember when they first met online they got along like best friends. I was surprised to hear how much they had in common. They were good for each other but he’s scared. So, I told her to ignore him and see what happens. Maybe nothing will happen other than she just gets over him. She could have any man she wants and I know he knows that. So, the reason for ending it wasn’t that someone did anything wrong, hopefully she moves on, because she’s probably not going to move her kids out of state anyway and her kids play with my kids. It’s a confusing situation for both him and her. She gets where he’s coming from though. He knows she’s very mature about how he feels.

You say this, but sometimes the person breaking up wants the other person in their life, just not in their current state. They need to heal and need that space to properly heal since they never had that space before

@@DaxVerus This is what my ex told me. Now we're both healing. Hope someday we get back together.

@Ericka Webb I'm no therapist but after 4 more months of growth I've learned try not to see it as a goal to get back together. It'll stunt the healing. You'll only heal to the point of return, or get rejected and that will cancel the healing. Heal as if you won't get back together and if you do it'll mean that much more. Just personal advice :)

i am at 2 weeks, every day crying, easily moved by sad songs etc, i just hope i get over my disappointment :(

@@fantasiazplatkami u're not alone. Im at 3rd day no contact. I will not reach him first.

@@sonya749 I removed the guy from Facebook not to see him or feel the urge. Yet my head won't cooperate, I'm missing him , maybe also because im so lonely. I will not write , I have nothing to fight for there, guy is from another country, doesnt see perspective for us, I will not force him...

I'm on Day today, I wanted to talk to him so bad but I'm staying strong. It's hard when he watches all my stories. I try to carry on and not focus on it but it's so hard. I'm hopeful for that day I'll wake up and not care anymore

@@Elizabeth-cu2uo I went no contact with what I thought was my first love. I swore I was going to die, and after 4 months of pain I began feeling okay, then I met someone else and that's when I completely forgot about her lol, it didn't workout with the new person, it was very short but I never missed my first love again. Then I felt like I wasted 4 months of my life suffering for someone that didn't want me in the first place. I swear you'll be okay. I went through the exact same thing with the stories and my solution was to unfollow her. It really helps not to give them the opportunity to ignore you, unfollow him or hide your stories from him.

Sorry that you went thru the pain again but I'm glad that you are getting stronger

Similar thing happened to me, the second time we lasted 7 more months and the same issues rised, Matthew is right as he always tries to keep talking to me so he doesn’t feel like he definitely lost me, he meets other people as I wait crying and missing him while he is comfy doing his thing. This gave me strength to stay away as l have been doing lately

This. Very true.

@@sudesso stay strong and listen to Mathew

There are not plenty of others in my opinion.

Yes 💞

Amen to that! Especially on the part when you said "when no one's watching".

1 Corinthians 13 : 4-8

@@kimgordon3695 young person guide in Athens said: Paul was preaching in Agora, no-one converted, Corinth was infested with whores and whorehouses (what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas) Paul's letters did not help, yet you have mention it here :)

You seem cute

Would you help me write a letter?

Seems like no contact failed to help you get them back.

@@AndyTominit helped to heal and that’s the important thing. Very few couples get back together after a breakup. Most people move on. No contact makes you move on quicker.

See and that's the difference between men and women. You are 10 months in and doing just fine and millions of men are years or decades in and still not able to move on.

​@jlo0110 this! It was about my growth, the relationship didn't reconcile and that's fine. I was able to move on 😁

​@@qwertpoo1I'm sorry to hear that, but don't try to make me feel guilty for moving on.

So beautiful. Well done April 🙏♥️

I love this.

Most therapists have issues of their own

Happy to hear,Continue being strong April.. ❣️

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Did he ever reach out?

@@edith.avenue Im curious too

@lisabertossagrisrsabrmrp-b786 any update?

update?

@@lizblanchette5390 I remained strong and didn't reach out, but I did end up running into him and his son at a restaurant back in February. His son is 8 and has Downs Syndrome and loves me very much. When he saw me, ran to me, hugging and kissing me, and wouldn't let me go. We ended up sitting a table together and talking for a while. After that night we started seeing each other, again, and have been since then. We continue to have our ups and downs, but our communication is much better now and I'm hopeful it will work, this time. Our relationship is complicated, and my love for his son makes me more patient with our relationship than I probably would be, otherwise. Time will tell. Thanks for asking for an update. Hope you're finding love in your life.

Im here, cant wait to see where we are in 6months! Im on day 9 and yeah its not good is it

Just broke up, have been having panic attacks at work. Hope it gets better

I get better and better in just almost 2 months. I mean i still think about him sometimes but the pain is definitely getting less and less everyday. Maybe i'll totaly get over him when i reach 6 months. So yeah, just keep being alive!

The person I thought I would be spending the rest of my life with just left me 2 days ago. I can’t escape of what could have been cuz I pictured every day of my life with him. I really don’t know how to accept the fact that he is so damn fine with the idea of letting me go forever. I am in so much pain. I know I will overcome this one day but just that it’s hurting a lot at the moment. I genuinely hope his life is filled with love and blessings.

It’s been a year!! I hope you’re on a journey of self-love and peace. I’m just beginning mine now

Same here. It's been almost 4 months. Sometimes I feel great and others like I'm back at the beginning. It's one of the hardest things I've had to do. He broke what we had and threw me away.

Yes it can take for very long. Mine more than six months. But with me it are only less en less moments like this

I can feel this , it's been like 2 and half months . Almost losing hopes but somewhere in my heart there is still hope idk why ? I mean it's a weird feeling

No contact is also hard for me too because the women I want to be in a relationship with, she ain't ready to be in a relationship and she stopped talking to mr

That’s normal. Sometimes even after a very long time, but if you keep moving forward the moments you feel bad will be less and less until eventually they are gone for good.

If you are almost back to normal on day 4, did you even love them in the first place...?

Love this comment- you’re inspiring me to start too :)

update? i hope things are going well for you!

Why do you care about her daughter, that’s her problem.

It doesn't matter if she broken up with you BECAUSE just the FACT that you haven't reached out to them shows that you actually have broken up with her

@@radar4536 her child is her concern, true. However, as an adult you should be conscious of your behavior and influence to children. He stated he didn't want the child to think her mother's behavior was acceptable. He is right in his thinking. Maybe next time he will re-consider a relationship with a child involved, as you are being watched. That daughter will grow up to be and adult, hopefully she is smarter than her mother otherwise, she will be trash for her partners.

I feel ya, bro. Get "No more Mr Nice Guy" by Dr. Robert Glover. Eye-opening book.

On some level, her daughter did realize that what was happening was wrong. There was one time she even asked her mom if I was cheating on her, because in her little kid mind, that was the best explanation for "why is Mom being so cold and distant all the time when he's always so good to her?" Even before I moved in, her daughter got really excited the first time she saw me doing the dishes unprompted, telling her mom that "Dad never helped out with the dishes." What worries me is how now she's only going to hear her mother's side of things, which will no doubt paint me out to be the bad guy. Her dad's a scumbag who abused her mom. Half the time when it's his weekend to have her, he doesn't. His birthday landed on a weekend he was supposed to have her and he chose not to, so he could go drinking with his buddies (God forbid you celebrate your birthday with your daughter). On my birthday, all I wanted was to spend time with those two. I remember coming home from work that day and seeing them both at the kitchen table with a cake and presents... it was one of the happiest days of my life. I still have the birthday card her daughter made for me. It meant the world to me. Her aunt and uncle are potheads who have their own mess of drama I don't have the finger strength to type about here. She really could have used a positive male role model in her life, and now I'm never going to see her again. I know her daughter isn't my responsibility. But I wanted her to be. I wanted to be her stepfather so badly. But the last thing she needs is a stepfather who is in a toxic relationship with her mother, and that's what we had. I wish we could have talked it out, but her mother just gave up. She treated me poorly. She couldn't communicate with me. And in the end, she couldn't even break up with me in person - she video chatted me. Like every other time she was mad at me, she brought up a bunch of stupid little things that had been bothering her for weeks (or months) that she had never mentioned before, each of which could have easily been talked through. I don't need someone like that in my life. In the words of Matt, "It's okay to be disappointed that someone didn't turn out to be the person that you needed, but what you mustn't do, is grieve as though they were the one."

Needed to hear this. Thank you.

Similar thing happened to me on new year and he keeps texting me . I be moving on and as soon as he texts I am back to my heartbroken state . I am just going through a rough breakup right now .

@@Empressive123 hey I hope you’re doing okay.. just block the guy honestly. If he keeps crossing your boundaries then it just shows he doesn’t care about you, he’s texting you for a selfish reason. Probably misses you, needs someone to cling on till he finds somebody else or feels guilty about something. It’s not about you, he’s doing it for himself. To put into context while my ex kept contacting me to check up on me, he was actively meeting girls and their families!! whom his mom handpicked for him to marry. Yet he was calling me, while he was preparing to move on with someone new, permanently!! Guard your heart.

@@Empressive123 same situation 🙂

I can relate...I block the guy.. I can still see when I get a blocked call.. I give in then back at square 1.. feel the heart break all over again...

@@godspowereffiong1414 how!?

Sorry to hear you had to go through such, could relate a bit as I'm starting the journey too and don't know how to do the no contact should I block them everywhere or simply ignore them on social media not reply to any or interact? Much appreciated for your insights and O believe we'll grow stronger and wiser from it all🤗

​@@cherqaouij Hey, So I don't know whether or not you were the person who was broken up with or did the breaking up with but I'll speak on if you were the person who was unfortunately broken up with. If it was something that caught you off guard or obviously you didn't fully expect I can imagine how much pain you're going through and obviously your heart still loves and cares for this person. if they spoke to you on why it happened and why they decided they no longer wanted to pursue that relationship with you but you feel like you still want to be in it and try to fix it, I would send them one last proper message expressing how you're feeling. I would make it very simple and to the point where you express you would like to understand why it's happened, that you still do love/like them and wish to work on and continue to pursue the relationship BUT you also respect their decision and and respect yourself enough to know if you are no longer wanted and that you will be in the process of moving on. (even if it's not what you want and I completely understand that but unfortunately it's what they're wanting) Once you get your point across to allow them to know you still find value and wish to be with them but that you are also respecting their decision and yourself enough to move on I would bid them a farewell and no longer contact them. If it wasn't a bad relationship I wouldn't go as far as to block because if there's a possibility for them to reach out and communicate and it's what you want you should leave that open but if it was bad and you do want them out of your life forever a block is good. The best thing you can do for yourself is NOT to contact them even though it can be difficult and you'll miss them and go through so many different stages of grief. If they reach out to you, they need to be reaching out to fix the issue with the thought of getting back together if it's what you both want. Do not let them waste your time with meaningless messages to keep you hooked and not in the process of healing. Allow yourself to feel every emotion your heart wants to feel, allow yourself to cry, to be sad, even to feel a little bit of anger and bitterness because feelings demand to be felt and you are only human. What I don't suggest though is allowing yourself to STAY in that feeling and dwell/lay in bed sad all day and waste away your day. Allow yourself to cry and feel when in the process of doing things if needed. There were times I was doing my morning stuff and as I was doing it I just cried because I was sad and I was missing him, but I still got my stuff down and after a good cry I felt better. You don't want a few months to past and here you were wasting your time away, hurting your relationships with friends, family, or the possibility of meeting new people and or letting your body fail along with your heart. Make sure you're eating, resting and taking care of yourself too okay? even if some days it feels difficult. Logically you will come to understand so much after this breakup, about yourself as a person, how you can improve your own life and your other relationships and you might even realize where it wasn't working out in your relationship with that person. But you heart might do the opposite, you heart will miss them, be sad and think about all the good stuff and that's okay. You are being forced to learn how to not love or like them anymore and you did not ask for that. Be kind to yourself okay? I am only 2 and a half months in my breakup and although I still have sad days and days where it feels like I didn't make any progress I know it's because in those moments I am just feeling everything all at once again. IT GETS BETTER. there is no time frame for healing but if you allow yourself to be honest about how you feel and feel it, you will slowly heal. You are worth so much more than someone who does not choose you. All of that love or like you had for that person, put in yourself now even if it isn't easy okay? You got this, I am rooting for you and I hope something I said helps you.

Thank you so much for sharing this ❤

Thanks a lot for sharing this.....the fact is....the will keep giving you hoping I am here i am coming I reached.... but they will never start

did you also block all his social media?

Hi, how long did it take for him tô contact you? I need some false hope… just kidding. Thanks

So your saying you did contact him ?

@@spaceman11c just a few days actually

@@jese2222able not by myself, but I responded to him after he contacted me and then we started a text conversation

When did you send the text?

I’m going through the same 😪

Same here, it´s ectremely difficult to move on when you don´t want to. We can do it, stay strong.

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@@juancruzregina8151 ❤

Same... How is it now after 1 month, I'm curious... Cuz I'm sad as hell and very hurt 😥😥💔💔

Have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about two years ago, but i could not let her go, so i had to do all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back, now we are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?

Her name is Cha mani White, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

How are you doing now sir? I hope you are much better.

Keep dancing in life 💃. This breakup does not define you. There’s a more beautiful story coming for you.

Lucky lady! Keep dancing :D

update??

@@terryhutchings7701 thanks for the update❤, please keep us updated if he does text you

@@terryhutchings7701 thanks for the update❤, please keep us updated if he does text you

Exactly what I’m going through

May i ask ur advice, did u block him from every contact channels or just ignoring his text ?

@@fangfangfang555 blocked him on everything. That’s the best solution I’ve found.

Update: she just wrote me a letter saying she’s open to the idea of getting back together… I’m not sure what the next steps are

@@prestonk5879😮😮

What’s the update?

Update 2: Today we made the decision to stop talking to one another. We were seeing each other frequently this summer after breaking up and it was fun but honestly it wasn’t the same as what it used to be. Sadly I have to accept that it’s most likely over for good at this point. I moved home from school and she still has another year left. Oddly I feel okay about the situation. Being alone is going to give me the chance to figure out who I am as a person. I’m working towards getting my first career job and I go to the gym 6 days a week. I will keep coming back to this comment section to let you know what happens!

@@prestonk5879thanks for this comment, brother. I’m going through it right now and this gave me so much more hope. God bless you.

I don’t know why this made me cry. I needed to hear this words thank you

Wait. So you reconciled?

Did you get back with him ?

@@manishagarg7177 No we need to communicate there's a lot to talk about and will take it from there.

Well done Jeanette. If you decide to try again, be sure it’s from a place of genuine growth on his side. Take your time, watch carefully. X

@@thematthewhussey Thank you Mattew will do great day 💙

How are you now

@@s.elizabeth1753 honestly, I am in between. It gets easier with time… day by day.

One year ago you were so heartbroken, I have just read. I hope you are better now. ❤

Have you moved on? And what happened in the end when you finally cut the Ex off cold turkey ?

any update?

Thanks. I moved on some time ago. I didn't go cold turkey, it was gradual. I sensed at the time I was a convenient fall-back girl. Being semi-attached made me not available to other new guys and by staying in casual contact, the ex was quietly keeping tabs on my dating status. For me, I needed his familiar contact until I became strong again (I didn't have a lot of family support, we were togther a long time, he was my family). So it was easier to wean myself off him. As life became full again I got back in the game, so in a way I used him. Do what works for you , as long as you are aware of the interference and don't have hopes of reuniting or to make him jealous, etc.

Asha, I was in a similar situation with my ex he would not commit. But didn’t want to let me go. I was just supposed to deal with his lies and cheating. I had to walk away it was the hardest thing i ever had to do. It’s a struggle I thought I would marry this man until I realized I deserve better. So I choose myself instead:) I have to get my dignity and self respect back. He has broken me down so much I feel unlovable. The point is your not alone and I hope your feeling better.

Update?

So I’m now 9 months no contact. Until the other day. He wished me a happy birthday and that was it. It was still incredibly hard, in fact as time went in it got harder for me. I was definitely hanging on too long. The hardest thing for me was the constant passing memories I had with him. Fire was I supposed to block those out it get rid of them? I couldn’t!! I haven’t looked at his social media in months…. Until the other day.. he has clearly moved on, and I was FUMING PISSED when I saw it. Then a day later, I realized, ok, the reason I’m holding on is because he was very confusing about how much he really wanted me. I got my answer the other day seeing his social media, and it was actually easier to move on because it is very clear to me now where I stood with him in the first place. I was a holding spot for him until the next best thing came along. It freaking hurt, but I’ve accepted that this is life. I learned that I cannot give my pearls out too quickly!! I hope you all find peace in these hurtful times! It sucks, but I encourage all of you to get TRUTH! Things are so confusing when truth is missing. Now i could give to flying you know what’s if he’s not in my life. I know I mean nothing, and it’s ok, at least i I know!

Oh, it's *so* similar to what I have experienced and how I feel. I still feel so much for him, since it all happened these days. It does feel like a funeral of a relationship that never even fully was.

Anyone who leaves someone at the altar is a really really selfish person. The least they can do is show up to the wedding venue and tell their to be spouse face-to-face, apologize, and then leave.

Very good stuff🙌🏾

Yes thankyou 🙏 I've been wondering wether it's possible to have a platonic relationship with my ex narc partner, not too sure about it and your experience is what I'd most likely go through . Hope you are staying strong 🙏

@@JD-jz8vl you are so good for really trying 🙏🏾 one day that loyalty and love will be fully reciprocated - I hope you do your best to give it to yourself until then ❤️

NO!!!! ITS CLEAR LOOKING IN FROM THE OUTSIDE HES USING YOU KNOWING HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT HIM .DONT WAST YOUR TIME .

His loss. Let him feel your absence its what he asked for

When woman allow these selfish men to get their cake and eat it too, it is effecting all woman, because now we are supposed to compromise our morals, because these selfish men can find woman to give them exactly what they want.

May i ask ur advice, did u block him from every contact channels or just ignoring his text ?

@@fangfangfang555 I didnt block him just stop communication all at once for three months. did Yoga and get myself busy with things I have never done and I always wanna do! meditation and journaling helped me get through it faster than i expected

So well said!!!!

Did he end up reaching out to you?

@@zoetropeyzy He did and he initiating going back together but I was already dating someone else and completely moved on from him. So I must say no contact rule worked for the ex to contact you back but to me it worked because I moved on

PS : I wish I had met you years ago!!

Your English is quite good man, nothing to say sorry nor worry about!

What happened?

Did it work?

​@@vincenzorossi4828yeah it absolutely worked he said "he ready to marry me and he made a mistake." i follow everything that matts told I did not follow him ,beg or text it's completely no contact...and I move on with my work education it's a time for me to realize what's best for me

@@vincenzorossi4828 yeah it works during this period you realize that if he is good for you or not. It is painful but believe me it is worth it. he said after when he back he wanna bring his family to my home and marry me...I commented a year back and pointed out every mistake and whether he is compatible. Maybe someone amazing man approached you same happened to me you see everything every aspect while no contact . You kept busy yourself during this period do your things. You just need relax and follow matt.

Yeah, it works during no contact you realize whether he is good for you or not..he apologized me said when he back wanna marry me and bring his family to my home... It is painful but believe me it is worth it..while NCrule I realize what is best for me. I pointed out every mistake and found he was not compatible. realized I didn't want him And I moved on with life. Just follow matts

Dont waste your time sending him a goodbye message!! Especially if he broke up with you! If he left u, he already said goodbye. JUST MOVE ON & HEAL.

Hahaha I'm sorry to laugh. Just when you're waiting on them to contact you, they write back, you get butterflies to see their name pop up, only to open and its sheer bullshit. Ain't it funny? Ahaha

@@aliyafichtner8843 Made me laugh....

I Did the brake up up first! A couple of years ago, But now she did it to me and it Hurts so much!, I feel like it’s a payback….. regardless of the terms….. this is the most horrible feeling a human can stand! God

@@darwincollado8993 you're not alone :/ it's horrible

@dana what did they say? Hahaha

How is it going now?

Oh girl! I’m in a happy relationship now. It definitely has made me smarter in terms of spotting guys similar to him early on and taught me to take my time to get to know someone.

So happy for you ❤

I’m so happy for you. I’m going through a terrible breakup right now and it seems like I won’t heal.

@@xo_nicole_rue3466 I’m so sorry to hear! Time does wonders. This is your moment to heal no matter how long it takes. I promise you will get better and meet someone even more amazing!

Yes! If we’d stop making excuses at the beginning and trying to be understanding and easy-going, forgiving, etc… You’re right we would avoid a lot of pain and wasted time and energy. I am in the process of breaking up with someone who I too ignored those red flags early on and it became a pattern of behavior and here I am a year and a half into the relationship and in so much pain, but in actuality I allowed this by ignoring those red flags - like you said. So happy for you!!!

in the exact same situation right now. And I'm stuck between taking him back as he is begging for a last chance to improve or to just let him go. It's so hard because I'm still in love but still hurt. I cannot think clearly if i want to work this out or not.... and that's why i cannot give him a clear yes or no answer either. Help me navigate this y'all 😭

Same for me. 15 months. ☠️

I’ve been in NC for 2 months too! It sucks that I’m still sad. We were together 5 yrs. on & off towards the end. I doubt he cares & he’s not coming back

2 month too. We were together only 3 month, so it should be easy, but it's not. Very few guys do it to me, the feeling if "this is it"... he did. I am still having a mild depression....I know he will not come back, as the reason for breakup is different goals...

Never give up.. You are so strong. There are people they not hve courage to start no contact .. But you did it . Stay happy❤ God bless you

@@enonz761 I hope you’re okay now

@@Elle304 actually, I am, thank you 😊🙏

I hope you are feeling better now,sending some love❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

Are you fine now

I'm sorry to hear that. But the bright side is he did you a favor for being honest. The hard truth might be that he was more into someone else but, you can take the time to find someone that will keep you as a priority and always give you the same amount of effort. Life goes on and you will find someone even better and will make you feel an even grander type of love.

@@lostweat there wasn't anyone else. I know that for a fact. He just doesn't know what he wants in life in general. He had no goals, dreams... Etc ... That's even more sad.

Had a very similar experience! Says he "wants to be alone". Hard for me to actually believe... But, I do really believe that it is in fact his loss. Knowing what I do of his story, I was the best thing that happened to him 🤷 Now, I'm having fun being single and free! Day 4..........

My man whom I believed to be the best one, told me same thing... he has no goals doesn’t know what he wants still and believes that he doesn’t deserve me and broke the less than one year old marriage...

Similar situation. It is for our best.