Raj, at one point Dr. Sarthank was about to tell his own experience. He also started saying that 'I will tell you mere sath Kya hua' and you interrupted him by your question or comment. Then the discussion went on the other track. During the next podcast with him, please let him complete his thought process. Otherwise the session was amazing and you were extremely honest with your questions, curiosity everything. Well done Raj.
Wow!! Great to see him here He was my therapist last year He has a balanced personality, compassion, excellent listening/observation skills, and good ethics. Thank you Dr Dave 😊
@@JatinKumar-bu6xt i am not sure if i should give you this information here but you can call his clinic to get an appointment. Vibha clinic in Ahmadabad Note-I consulted him through video calls.
I feel you. That happened to me but I channelized my thoughts by going to the gym, after starting a new business , learning new skills like playing guitar and singing practices. Sometimes I go on a bike to the hill station. Even sometimes I teach little children science and math. Now I don't feel anything about my past.
I think if you have invited someone, you should let him speak without interrupting. He is a professional. Aur sb unke thoughts sunne aaye hai. Kyuki aap khud bhi society ka part hi ho jo ye sb soch rha hai.
Raj himself is taking therapy in the end of episode 😅....he lost himself in conversion...Doc is just awesome...experienced, empathetic, excellent listner( better than raj)...Kudos to the podcast. I end up listening complete 2 hrs..
Dr. Sarthak you seem such an empathetic listener. Your expressions at the different statements of Raj were so interesting to watch - they are a big sign that you were REALLY listening.
It’s a great talk. I’m Doctor and I am an Oncologist. After listening to this talk, I realised that these days cancer is also a very important topic to discuss and make people aware. I have treated many patients of cancer and observed them very closely. Emotions, spirituality, lifestyle, cancer as taboo, all are common things to discuss and i had studied a lot on these during dealing with such patients. I also have a desire to talk on these issues on your platform, in your podcast, if you feel right.
I really want to hug this dude. So many things learnt in just a couple of hours. I was hating myself for nothing causing all that trauma. A hiddengem explored 🙌. Thank you!!❤
Forceful parenting destroys confidance of most indian kids. Forcing every important decisions which shape their life is worst kind of parenting which is ingrained in indian parents due to extreme poverty they faced. But they have to understand how damaging it is.
Yes , you are right and if you don't agree with them , they will threaten you with suicide threat . People don't want to recognise this problem just to the keep the image of unbreakable family.
Good to hear. I also suffer from R.A, autoimmune disease, was not aware about the fact of hating ourselves. Thanks Raj sir for bringing this gem in the podcast.
00:01 Suppressing emotions can lead to health issues like heart attacks and diabetes. 02:14 Managing mental health and dealing with trauma 07:05 Both men and women handle breakups differently based on societal conditioning 09:36 Dealing with denial and rejection after a breakup 14:41 Men may have more self-worth issues due to societal conditioning. 17:10 Women are more affected by breakups emotionally and physically. 21:37 Importance of allowing yourself to feel emotions fully 23:43 Breaking societal norms around emotions and expressions 27:52 Benefits of Crying for Mental Health 30:01 Crying is a necessary emotion for maintaining equilibrium. 34:21 Men are feeling lonelier with a decrease in close relationships 36:42 Loneliness and mental health issues in the age of social media 41:24 Emotional pain triggers physical responses 43:27 Trauma leads to auto immune disease and physical health issues 47:55 Forgive yourself and work on self-improvement 49:59 Feeling trapped in toxic relationships due to guilt and fear. 54:37 Dealing with toxic relationships and loneliness 56:35 Acceptance is key to dealing with breakup and trauma 1:00:54 The decision to leave must be unconditional 1:02:55 Managing emotions during terminal illness decisions 1:07:17 Heartbreak and chronic pain impact the body physically and mentally. 1:09:42 Grief, separation, and toxic relationships can cause physical health issues. 1:14:34 Masking emotions and toxic relationships 1:16:57 Recognizing and addressing toxic relationships 1:21:59 Understanding and addressing guilt and emotions from past traumas 1:24:32 Neutralizing emotional events for better mental health 1:28:42 Dealing with breakup, trauma, toxic relationships, and loneliness. 1:30:49 Dealing with breakup and trauma 1:34:57 Recognizing signs of toxic behavior 1:37:06 Importance of supporting loved ones through therapy 1:41:03 Importance of contribution in relationships 1:42:53 Positive reinforcement affects behavior and habits. 1:47:09 Seek help from a psychiatrist for mental health concerns 1:49:08 Seek alternative treatments if not satisfied.
@@aakritijoshi kai ka loneliness yaar Akele aai thi akele hi jaogi me being an introvert and kitna accha lagta khud ki company khud ko dekho, improve karo,chizo ke bare mein jano itni sari chize hai Duniya mein isme lonely koi kaise feel kar sakta hai
Your content is really appreciable......coz this topic is very important for this generation and I remember the days when I was going through tough phase of my life..... heartbreak self-doubt anxiety and all....the pain I still can experience how my entire body eyes used to pain infect I experienced every part of my body was blank nothing remains..... Headache and the heart pain....... entire body I can't explain the incident.......just thank you for making such video that will make everyone realise that heartbreak pain is not a joke
Raj you have been talking more than the guest.. you cut him so many times just for your experiences or repeating the question again and again. Please don’t do that. It’s little annoying.. also your question quality needs to improve.
I literally was in tears while listening to this podcast. There were so many things I could relate to and then understood that it was not my fault!! Thank you for making us explain everything so simply. 😇👍
Thanks for insightful podcast . After divorce n my papa's death life bhut painful ho gayi . Itna try karti hu but mann mei itna darr baith gya ..fear of rejection jab resettlement ka sochti hu..Pain and suffering ki vajh se bhut shattered ho gayi n indian society khaa jati h divorce ke baad..
Agar duniya me death na hoti to naye ane waloke liye jagah hi na bchti aur divorce to is time normal chiz he naya partner acha milega to purane ko log bhul jate he
Don't think about people...think Abt things tht make u happy.....jb Kuch Galat jayega tbhi to Kuch accha ayega.....ur father wdnt want u to b unhappy, no matter where he is
@@musafir123 you are right but kehna n experience karna alag hota h..practically toh mei bhi jaanti hu sab but jb phase bura aata h toh dukh bhi hota h and kehna easy ho but traumatizing ho jata h
We care about you Raj, you've done incredible service by making great content over the last few years and we want you to continue growing. I want to echo the feedback others are sharing here, please let the guest speak more than you. Obviously we love listening to you and we would love to listen to you as well, you can do a solo podcast where we just listen to your thoughts. But when a guest appears on your podcast, we're more interested in their journeys and their perspectives. I'm a great admirer of your work, keep growing 🔥
Really important podcast for us to watch as a society so that we can emerge out of our own generational trauma affecting our behavior patterns and reactions and responses. Only then we can stop propagating the emotional physical abuse to next generation. The therapist/ doctor is really good at explaining terminologies and has great clarity. He is being empathetic without emotional involvement. He is stating facts without sugar coating. I pray for this podcast to go viral. Raj continues to show his maturity as he grows and evolves continuously doing podcasts. Thanks so much for this amazing educational and very valuable podcast!! May the divine protect and heal us all as souls 🌈🌈❤️❤️
Another excellent episode and its so timely, especially our seniors' population is growing the fastest and sadly they're lonely & isolated! The global population of 65+ is 761 million (9.5%) will grow to 1.6 billion (15%) by 2025!
Really was not an easy podcast to listen to , I have to replay a lot of times to listen to the things deeply and to understand the actual logic behind all of these emotions Really a very good podcast, looking forward for more kind of these ......❤
First of all, Thanks a lot to you Raj for inviting such professionals from different fields who are continuously adding values to our lives. You always ask for sharing ideas about topics. So, I want you to invite someone who can talk about Narcissism or extreme narcissism and how it may happen to any family member and how we can deal with it. Cause it is an issue that most of us are facing on a daily basis. And we don't know what to do. Will be waiting for a podcast on this topic.
This has been one of my favorite podcast in recent times. LOVE Dr.Dave - such a non judgemental, intent listener, terrific insights and clear answers. He has answered a lot of my existential questions and informed me of a LOT of new things about our body/mind. Thank you!
My experience was the same when I was going through a bad breakup. I was unable to sleep, lost my appetite and was lying on bed day and night with no will of doing anything. I got hospitalized, fever struck, my stomach was upset and I was feeling like I would die. It's so so true whatever Dr is telling. 43:30
@@ShazuSofi-fv4xe 1. Time heals (but the scar will be there) 2. Family support helped me a lot 3. Acceptance that I can't change certain things over which i have zero control 4. Giving myself time to feel the emotions 5. I was having my exams therefore I knew that either I will fail by crying day and night or I'll focus on my career which is going to build me. So I used to study the whole day and cry at night it helped me to vent out and my emotions were being channelised also but it was very difficult. 6. I was getting my strength from my GOD 7. Don't lose hope things will get better, what is yours will ultimately be yours.
It is good that you are doing podcast with ACTUAL DOCTORS, and gaining proper knowledge... unlike others, who invite just anyone, and they give stupid advices!
Words are less to describe Dr. Dave's wisdom and knowledge.. I must say He's ready with all His answers before questioning.. He is such a great listener & most important, he's paying attention to every single detail.. so LOGICAL & full of REASONING with so much convincing power ❤❤❤ Please call him back.. lastly, one request to you Raj, let the Guest speak & share his/her personal experiences.. plz stop interrupting in between.. thanks
In this phase where everybody is dealing with some sort of pain they are suffering right now it could breakup , trauma or some feeling of emotionally loss in a certain way . this would be THE BEST VDO✨ ever that for sure rock it and after watching this pod. those people will definitely having a hope to give a another chance to live life freely , fully , joyously 🎯♥.
Trauma is inner pain, a psychic wound, a wound on your soul invisible to medical world, only visible to you. Acknowledge it, be with it, accept it, lean to it with compassion, feel it fully, welcome the pain, breath in and breath out on top of it, make prayers for this wound, bring this wound to your consciousness, it feels like another part of your psyche integrate with this part, talk to it, embrace it...... isn't it all the healing modalities listed below addressing the same simple principle of feel the feelings fully and let it complete in your body and experience:- 1. TRE (Trauma Release Exercise) 2. Somatic Experiencing 3. Somatic Practicing 4. FOCUSING 5. VIPASANA 6. Embodying 7. Eckhart-shining light of consciousness 8. Shadow integration 9. Completion exercise 10. Compassionate Inquiry 11. Tapping 12. WuWei wisdom Acceptance 13. EMDR 14. Yoga 15. Inner Child healing 16. Gratitude Journal 17. CBT 18. Talk Therapy 19. IFST 20. MDMA 21. Psychedelic retreats and getting connected back to your true self
@@dkaur454 No, I learn through my own healing journey, seems the concept of trauma is quite new for us, or our current complex lifestyle is bringing more and more of it at center stage.
@@dkaur454 The first step was to know what is going on. My emotions were not in control, very high when comes to sadness and grief and low for joy and happiness. Consistent sadness in heart may be classical definition of depression and med will prescribe anti-depressant, like my brain has chemical imbalance. But my thoughts were perfectly OK, only my body was having sensations that I can best interpret as sadness, grief, fear, stuck emotions, brain confusion etc etc..... The finding what is going on took me 5 yrs. Once I had a clarity that this is my trauma issue, stuck emotions issue, I focused on trauma therapy, mainly IFST and SE (Inner Family System Therapy and Somatic Experiencing) it took gradual healing, but clearly leaving body and mind healing to time..which is popular prescription by most in India, to get healed automatically didn't work for me FEEL the FEELING fully, be patient and courageous to feel pain fully with all positive, loving compassionate msg to send to the troubling feelings from present moment as an adult self now finally gave very good results, I would say like 90% still my healing journey is continue but I can say truly that for me truly worked 3 things. 1.Getting education on Trauma, 2. Taking a strong and committed stand for healing, 3. Applying SE and IFST intently.
One clarity, this feel the feeling should be while remaining always in the body, not thinking or not in mind. It is like doing body-based meditation, like vipassana. Doing Breathing exercise like you are inhaling through ur feelings in the body and exhaling into the feelings in the body. It does takes time, subtle shifts happen to your feelings, it is like growing a plant you can see a progress in weeks or months, but certainly progress will be there.
It’s so true. I see so many unaware of the impact that trauma has on them. They are just running away from themselves. Find love in someone is not going to resolve the trauma.
Absolutely brilliant podcast. I have followed Dr. Sarthak Dave on Instagram and to get to know all of this in a 2 hr podcast is wonderful. Thank you. more such videos. ❤️
Hello Raj sir ! Mysellf kajal ... Today I m feeling depressed at evening because of some issues with my partner and I m very much in mental pain and hurted by overthinking of ignorance , not worthy , not good for him ..... Thanks for this podcast it's enlightened me today and I solve all the things between us by understanding him ....thank you so much
Such a brilliant podcast, so needed for indian society. I have been at the receiving end and can so vouch for what Dr is saying about suppressing emotion. I was in perfect health until 26 and post that i was married and was told directly and indirectly on a consistent basis to supress and hide my views, thoughts and emotions. Which resulted in many physical ailments which i managed but what i could not manage was the sleep disorder for 7 years for which i was also told ...hota hai sab ke saath hota hai..isme kya badi baat hai...but i just could not cope up and did myself a favor by consulting a doctor and now have been on medication for 4 years. This family and society conditioning is still operating in a loop. Thanks for this podcast.
So true when he said emotional pain causes physical pain too.. I was going through sonething traumatic from last one week.. Luckily I was at home and had all the time to feel each and every emotion.. I was crying, consoling myself, tried to analyze the situation, tried to find a logical reason behind my pain but I couldn't come up with a reason and felt like I should just feel everything I was going through.. My body felt weak, my bones were aching, my eyes were dry after all the crying. I didnt get up from bed for first three days.. I ordered food but didn't feel like having it.. But after 5days I am mentally and emotionally at a better place.. I cleaned the entire house, I cooked myself dinner and today I am feeling light.. Im feeling calm.. So my advice to anyone who is going through an emotional pain is to stay with your emotions, take a break from life and feel whatever you are feeling instead of denying the emotion or suppressing it.. Wishing a happy life for all.. 💐
Actually there is an emotional first aid kit named as psychological first aid, it is a free small course in coursera where everyone can learn this and help people around is not about giving therapy but giving support. I hope this comment reaches out to everyone and people consider learning psychological first aid
Raj once you become a certified practitioner / doctor 💊 go on. Until then, please let the experts talk. There's a reason why they are what they are i.e. Specialists.
Tbh ye episode ek position mai bethkar dekha hai pura pata nahi time kaha gaya aur itna deeply pheli bar kisi content consumption mai itna emotion feel hua hai in fact pheli barr mai comment kar ke apni feeling express kar raha hu really really so much thankyou so much
Being a postgraduate psychology student, felt so good to watch this whole episode where awareness was created about every concepts and addressing the issues of mental health from your platform. looking forward to get more such content and having different perspective that motivates us all to address and take care of our mental health as a part of our life.
I was watched full video because of doctor Sarthak only full video without skip a single part it's amezing an knowledge a lot an every person need too watch' it because all human's relates with an it's big help for a depressed person also thank you so much brother for sharing with as 👏👏 I will appreciate you good too go
My father died on 108 th day after my mother's demise, during those days he kept telling me everyday my days are over , you better be alert and take care of yourself, 2nd January mother, 20th April father
He loved her so much😢 Don't be sad Feel blessed that your parents loved each other so much In most of the cases,men don't love their wives after they become old😢 Your father was an exception ❤
Keep your actions and Emotions separate Take necessary actions, without worrying about the emotions that come along with it. Try and be more logical when taking a decision Keep your emotions out when making a decision. Leave that toxic relationship Leave it for yourself You have taken that decision, hazar cheeze soch ke liya hai yeh decision, trust your decision Dont become desperate for just a little time's happiness. Stay firm on your decision. 1-2-3 months ke baad sab sahi hojaayega. Give it time. We get an additional person in our life for love, peace and growth, & if that is only lacking, its time you leave If you are getting exhausted, trying to make the relationship work, then it's time you leave In your relationship, if your before stage is better than the after stage, then leave. Before and after relationship - the general feeling - same or worse; worse - leave If the relationship has started affecting you mentally and physically, its time you leave If you have started feeling bad about yourself, have yourself feeling more worse than good being in that relationship, it's time u leave You don't get into a relationship to suffer, you get into a relationship to prosper. If you can't figure out what you want, figure out what you don't want. Feel good about yourself, you will become 100% attractive. Not able to feel things or anything is a sign of depression.
