How To Deal With Child With ODD 

God bless each and every one of you who has a child with ODD. It is debilitating, life changing and an absolutely terrible thing to go through. My daughter is 11 and its about to break me. You are not alone.

Living with a child who is ODD is absolutely miserable. Everything is a trigger it's like living with a ticking time bomb.

As the mother of a child diagnosed with ODD, I have to disagree with you that this should not be a thing. It is very much real and walking on eggshells around your child is not fun. Especially when they get to an age where they are taller than you.

I am sobbing right now. I am just exhausted. I can only keep calm for so long before I hit my breaking point. My son is 7 years old with ODD and ADHD and I have to deal with this alone because my husband committed suicide 2 years ago. I also have a 5 year old daughter. My son is impossible to deal with most of the time. He doesn't listen AT ALL. He's aggressive, impulsive, destructive, mean, and spiteful. He talks back to me all day everyday, he hits his sister everyday, he uses foul language, screams at the top of his lungs, slams doors, throws furniture, breaks electronics and toys, and even does self-harm like punching himself or scratching his face with his fingernails. When I discipline him he doesn't care. He walks away from me when I'm talking to him and tells me to leave him alone and he locks himself in a room. When I try to do homework with him he scribbles all over the papers and sometimes crumbles them. When I try to get him to do everyday things like brushing his teeth, taking a shower, getting dressed, and eating his food, his answer is always "NO!" While driving him to school he fights with his sister and hits her and kicks her. At school he breaks the other kids crayons and property when they don't want to play with him or he hits them. He got kicked out of first grade for stabbing a student in the face with a pencil. One day I found a puppy and brought it home, on the 3rd day the puppy peed on the couch and my son impulsively threw the puppy off of a second story and she died from internal bleeding. Then we did psych evaluation and he was diagnosed. Now he's medicated but some days it has no effect on him. People do not understand my situation, they say he's not so bad that many kids are like this. I know that if most kids were like this, nobody would ever want to have kids. When I break down sometimes I want to give him away to his grandmother or send him to military school. But something in my head tells me only the love of a mother could tolerate this. So I hang on one day at a time.

My eldest son is currently facing this issue, but he is getting better now. I started noticing him having ODD symptoms early 2022. He did a lot of things in school which had annoyed friends, teachers and principle. And other parents started to complaint due to his behaviour towards their kids. He never listen, loves to argue, , he always want to win, always annoys others, easily annoyed by others and environment, frequent temper tantrums, and many more. He hated school, teachers, friends, everything about school. And everyday was a nightmare , waking him up for school was a real struggle, never without tears.😢 School asked me to take him for therapy after series of events involving him with other kids, teachers, unable to listen to orders and giving disturbance during classes. I was lost, kept asking why this thing happens, and what went wrong. Until there was this incident where he had caused injury to one of his teacher. And when the teacher asked him to say sorry, he kept himself silent. And when the teacher calmly said, "If you love your mother, then ask for forgiveness" . Nothing happened. He acted like nothing happened and I was shocked since it happened right before my eyes. Didn't he love me?? That seemed like a red signal to me. At home later that day, I asked him whether he loves me, and he said NO😭😭😭 with the look in the eyes full of revenge and hatred.😭 I prayed to Allah to show me the solution in Dec 2022 last year during my pilgrimage to Mekah. After listening to Dr's recommendations , sharings and comments from social medias, I changed my way of advising him. No more hanger, no more rattan, no more raising voice to him, always hug him, listen to him and makes him feel important. Always ask how was his day at school, etc. On April 2023, his school teacher informed me that they were shocked to see his changes. And of course I feel embarrassed, realizing that I was the one whom triggers this from the very beginning.😢 it wasn't his fault. It was me😢 Now I understand things slowly happened when I started having another baby and he felt neglected. He used to take all the blame even it was his younger brother's misbehaviour and I changed this behaviour as well. No more bias, be it you are older or younger. Has to be fair among sibling. I'm happy now that he sincerely confesses to me that he loves the new me and when I asked him why he recently behaved in school, he answered " I behave because I love you". He hugged me closely. I cried that day the moment I saw him as if I was looking an innocent baby whom I had 8 years ago. My bad, sayang. I am so sorry... 😔 In conclusion, violence never a solution to any misbehaviour/misconduct. Treat our children with love and respect. I have learnt the hard way. I hope others may give it a try too.

The family rules: 1. respect self and others 2. respect property 3. cooperate and obey

I feel everyone's pain, It is so hard. My son is 13 now and I can tell you it does get better. Needless to say it gets hard as hell but it takes everyone to be on the same team, school counselor, teachers, principal, family. It truly takes a village.. it helped me so much being able to get into contact with the teacher to give them a heads-up before he even got to school. I would know how his day would be when I woke him up for school in the morning. Having direct contact with teachers was awesome because they could help turn his mood by the way they greeted him for the day. These kids are hurting and a constant fight deep in there souls. Don't give up, there is light

I'm at my wits end. I've been begging for help for 5 years. My son is 7 and displays all the things you talk about. He is the only child out of my 5 children with these problems. We live in the UK where these things are thought of as myths with a culture of parent/victim blaming so I'm frustrated as hell (as you can imagine) 🙄. You are the only person that I've discovered that talks some sense about these issues. I don't even know if my son has any diagnosis but these tips will help us regardless. I will be using everything you have suggested and utilising it to try and create a better environment of positivity like you say. Nobody has put it this simply before. We have been fobbed off by so called professionals and blamed for years. Thank you and God bless you 🙏❤

I am absolutely floored by all of the criticism and negative comments on this thread. I found the information in this video to be a Godsend! I can't tell you how much I appreciate all of the wonderful content you put out here for FREE to try to HELP us parents who may be struggling. Thank you so much for all you do! 💕

I have to keep watching this over and over. I’m crying again because I can’t do this anymore!! Every day. Every single day. My seven year old fights w me. I am at my wits end. I’m so tired and sad and broken. NOTHING works. I’m exhausted, mentally. He pushes past my limits. I don’t even know what do anymore. I seriously don’t know what to do!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I have six kids and none of them have ever treated me the way my 7/yr old son does. Im crying right now because nothing is working and beyond stressed. I literally end up cussing and screaming and throwing things, that’s how far he pushes me. When all I ask is he gets up for school!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Help me.

Love this guy❤️. I am a grandmother of one ODD child and I am a dog trainer. These tips work for both🥴

I used to work with children age 6-12 who had ODD and other mental health challenges who lived in a therapeutic home/school. One thing that worked really well was to have a concrete “win” each day. They earned a win through the structure of the day program. And each day was a brand new day to earn a win whether they had a win the previous day or not.

I think you have hit the nail on the head with this one. As a teenager I went from a very compliant people pleaser to actually hating the way my mother breathed. I couldn’t help it! And it shocked me.I kept that memory and decided that when I was a mother of teenagers I would respect their personal space as much as was humanly possible. At the same time as minimizing points of conflict I nevertheless made sure to always win, especially by not being side tracked by behaviors meant to distract me from the issue at hand. Oftentimes kids, and adults too, act out of control in order to control, it’s just a tactic, don’t fall for it.

As a single mom with social anxiety my 4 year old is driving me crazy. He screams in public, even hits me, doesn’t listen to a word I say. I’ve reached the point where I just don’t want to take him out in public or around people. I’m so stressed out, it’s a battle

Here because my 5 year old is beginning to crush my soul. She’s been profoundly difficult since she turned 3. No rules, no amount of taking things, grounding, motivation, reward, guiding changes anything. We’ve had several behavioral appointments with our pediatrician and are still waiting on a referral for an evaluation. I’m in tears writing this. Her little brother is often the victim of her outbursts. I just feel so broken. Thank you for making this video. I feel seen here. I have worked with preschool and elementary children for years and have met few more difficult than my own daughter.

I feel like I’m loosing my mind my 9 year old is always mad and loosing her shit over every single thing 🥲🥲

My daughter will be 4 in 2 months and is VERY oppositional and difficult to deal with. Today, we were told not to bring her back to StoryTime at the library 📚 because she was aggressive towards the other kids and did not want to share. She refuses to clean up, spits, screams, and forces me to pick up her toys even when they are right in front of her.

I love Dr. Pauls calm voice.

This is really a thing. Especially for those with Fetal Alcohol syndrome. I have siblings as grown adults who haven't been diagnosed and just have no boundaries but are trying to gain control. Its just really hard to watch them struggle through life. But all things are possible with God. Prayers for patients, and endurance for all the parents struggling to love their kids through this.

Excellent content. Thank you Dr.

Taking away the game system causes my daughter's fit to escalate. Damaging property, hurting me, suicide threats. My sister has had enough and us kicking us out.

Thank you! I really needed to watch this video! I took notes and hope I can reinforce! I love the 3 family rules!

These videos are gold!!! I say this with tears in my eyes, thank you thank you thank you!!! God bless you for sharing all this with us!

Working so hard to create this culture. It throws some extra challenges in with a blended family. Going to keep working on what we can.

I'm not a huge fan of diagnoses, because I think they pathologize people. But my 5-year-old has met all of the criteria for ODD since he was 3. He doesn't have an issue with authority. He has an issue with authoritative adults who try to impose their own will on him and don't validate his concerns. Our home rules are "Respect, responsibility, safety" and we use kid speak about what those mean. They apply everywhere. I like the idea of adding cooperation to that. I'm not sure blind obedience is necessarily a value. Expecting a "how high?" when we say "jump" isn't realistic. They don't have to like it, but I still need them to comply. My son is twice exceptional (gifted and adhd/odd/ocd), and is writing in cursive and doing multiplication already. But the school doesn't get him and it's heartbreaking. He's not lacking will to do well, he's lacking the skills to be proficient in effectively managing life's social/emotional challenges. POSITIVE CULTURE IS SO IMPORTANT!! As parents, we need to lead by example.

My grand daughter is very defiant. Her mother was too. I always regretted not indulging more in her mother when she was being a pain in the backside. I thought that discipline was needed, but the battles are not worth it and eventually they were just counter productive. My child could not self-regulate, but she did learn to eventually and is now a very responsible adult. Now I try to go along with my grand-daughter's nonsense, even if it is driving me nuts. It really helps, a few annoying and often boring hours spent doing her silly stuff, rather than the chores, errands etc. that should be happening, brings us closer and helps her self-regulate. She is always much better behaved afterwards. Do it if you can!

Can you please make a video on how to deal with jealously between kids

So what do you do when a child I'd diagnosed with ADHD and ODD and constantly talks to you like a 40 year old narcissist trying to gaslight you and make you question your own memory, now makes comments about poisoning you and talking about you getting into a car accident

Your advise is gold. The tips in this video are spot on and I will be viewing all of your material. Thank you so much!!

Sir, you are doing truly good work. I am an ODD child who went undiagnosed for nearly 25 years. And your videos are helping me to heal and correct my behaviors

My 6-year-old son who has ADHD and ODD is always an ongoing journey. we watched part of this video today and hopefully he understands about the three principles period for now we'll work on respect :-) I have respect for every parent who is challenged with these neurological situations. Yes I know some say disorders.

I have two adhd children. The oldest is so defiant he breaks a rule just because . . Then lies about it or blames a convenient person. Now I am having to lock up my sewing tools with padlocks. . . He got safety pins to pick those locks. It’s driving me nuts. One day, after five times upstairs to get him up for school. After he was gone on the bus I sat down and cried-for him and me.

Thank you so much for teaching me the skills I need as the father of a 16 year old daughter. Your presentation is so effective. Thank you.

I needed this information in 1986 🥺 I am however very thankful that parents today have it 💫

When the eleven year old has been urinating on their bedroom floor for two weeks because they took the new rule of “stay in your bedroom until it’s time to wake up for school” very literally and suddenly decide after 11 years that they now need to use the bathroom 16 times for night - and they’re sitting there for two hours LYING about having done absolutely nothing wrong. How do you keep calm it this? Is this a battle to avoid because there’s no way to have a positive culture about it? I believe you have good intentions with these tips, but they’re so far away from the reality that I can’t take them seriously.

Thank you so muchhhh . I'm homeschooling my son and currently have him doing qEEG adhd therapy because I'm trying to do everything I can to just avoid medication. Thank you for these tips!

Thank you so much for this video. Prayers for your success and breakthroughs in parenting strategies. I'm that parent that needs instructions..

This is really helpful. I don't have kids but I had a strange encounter with a kid during a kids camp. She was, at some point of the day, completely out of the blue hostile towards me. I tried nice small talk, referencing something she had said to me earlier that day and she just told me that she never said that - all while starring angrily away from me. Obviously she was trying to annoy me and I was the only adult near her at that time. After that I kept my distance because quite honestly, I got angry and so confused. Other counselors then told me that she has "an attitude" and that her aunt said that you need to be really strict with her. I kept an eye on her from a distance and she was a lot on her own, pouting. Well, I decided to google and look this up here on RU-vid because the whole thing was just so strange: That was not just a pre-teen pushing boundaries, that was something else and I couldn't believe how a random child's behavior could derail my emotions for the rest of the day. Thanks for your videos!

Simple explanation BRAT!! My girlfriend can NEVER say no!! Is this ok? Her son thinks the world of his dad who never wants him more than every other weekend is whole life! He speaks respectfully to his dad cause he makes good money and accepts no the first time! He degrades his mom says that she is poor and nags, disrespects her, begs and nags till she gives in! He makes her cry and has 0 remorse! He destroys anything he gets his hands on! Totally self centered! What is this?

I think the Main problem here is that it`s very difficult for children with this condition to come out their`s world, to really listen and understand what and why those rules etc. I think it has something to do with a frontal brain and working memory.. and that`s why they just dont really learn stuff, which they dont find motivating. And yet seeking for the stimulation from argueing, stealing things etc.

Thank u for explaining this so well...my niece has ODD & ADHD...this really helps..

Having been in therapy with my child for going on 4 years, I still have one huge struggle. Finding consequences that she doesn’t want. She is okay with “dealing with consequences” in order to do whatever it is she wants to do. I take things away she likes and I add things she does not want, yet still she does whatever it is I’m trying to stop. I have sat down and made lists so when I am overwhelmed I have a visual of ideas instead of trying to come up with meaningful consequences in the moment. There must be something I am doing and not realizing that reinforcing her behavior because “anything goes” and she doesn’t care what consequence I give if she wants something to be her way bad enough.

My brother has ODD and my mom refuses to work with it - she expected a therapist to completely fix the problem and she pulled him out when she was told she has to work on the problem at home too:( it’s frustrating because his behavior is getting continually worse and not much is being done.

My son was diagnosed with ODD today after long drawn out process, I never heard of ODD until today and oh boy does it fit now that I have watched this video.

My son has ODD... Swearing a big issue, and I think I've been handling it poorly. Thank you for this insightful video!

Holy sh*t I fit almost every criteria, this is why school sucked

Wonderful thank you

The problem with my (self diagnosed) odd child is, that there isn't a break from the bad behavior. He goes from one thing to the next without a break. It's so exhausting and I am not patient enough and never learned to self-regulate. He will get on your nerves and at the end of the day, in my mind I really want to beat his ass. His behavior is getting worse. It's a slippery slope also for his siblings, there isn't a break.

Thank you!

My lil cousin has this. It's hard. I didn't want her mother to be with the man she ended up having children with, but now her children are both defiant (the younger one is influenced by the oldest with ODD, I think).... It's just REALLY HARD.

Thank you I need it this.

Hi Dr. Paul - Do you have a video for disciplining children who seek proprioceptive input? My child expresses all his feelings and communicates through touch... most of those feelings are happy and excitement, but this is getting him into such trouble at school. He hugs when he's happy, he likes to rough-house and usually cannot control his strength when he gets worked up, playing tag can end up with him "tapping" a kid with force unintentionally... he also fidgets and has issues sitting still once his work is completed (he sits perfectly still when engaged in work or duties), taps his pencil and plays "the drums" with his hands while concentrating or thinking. It's not deliberate to irritate others (most times), its a mindless activity... bringing him to awareness is something we have been working on daily for the past two years. However, the school does not care to work with us on these issues, and continues to just send him to the office or write him up. He has started to express sadness and is ashamed when he wants to hug someone whos done a good job or after a game. We've practiced high fiving and other ways of showing affection, as well as consistent practice of respecting others space. I'm just at the end of ideas of what to do continue these practices at school...

Thank you! I have been waiting for this video!!!! I found it really helpful and it reminded me of things I overlook or forget in daily life with an ODD child. You should make shirts or mugs with sayings on them! Lol Also, I really appreciate the way you present the information in your videos and how you respond to comments. I’ve told you this (I think 🤔) in a previous comment; when I was working in mental health I would have so enjoyed working with a psychologist like you. You have a gift of making the tough stuff, the really emotional hard stuff easier and manageable. Thank you for your videos and encouragement.

What happens when someone carries this into adulthood? How do you love an adult who’s overwhelmed by frustration and can’t seem to put the onus for resolution on themselves? How do you incentivize cooperation and compassion?

Thank you. My son got recently diagnosed. This gives some insight.

My 11yr old son is becoming too dependent on watching RU-vid gaming shows or gaming itself. we try to limit his screen time but he is now getting to the stage of exerting him self and now very demanding. He gets defiant. There are times he gets violent when he doesn't get what he wants. Also doesn't help during this covid lockdowns and tension in the house. Any good approach to this stress scenario?

I suspect my younger brother was ODD. I remember asking my dad to send him to military school, if not send me so I could get away from the chaos.

Thank you! A lot of people don’t understand.

My foster son is getting adopted tomorrow and he has ODD and ADHD and his behaviors are unreal right now :/ hopefully out chills back out after the adoption

I've only seen one person fix this. My mother. She put the child in an area with nothing in it and let them scream the the anger out. No matter what said my mother said nothing. The moment she calmed down and said,"I'm sorry ". She let her join the family. She released my mother wasn't going to play the game with her.

I have two siblings with ODD and they both have other disorders. We are in the custody of my oldest brother. My oldest brother acts like a parent and a brother. When my siblings with ODD start getting aggressive then my oldest brother usually holds them down and sometimes is aggressive back but then he puts them in their rooms and holds the door shut and they become destructive but at least they aren’t hurting anyone and they eventually calm down. Also my oldest brother and my other brothers have stated that they aren’t going to walk around on eggshells because of them. My brothers are strong and strict and aren’t scared of my siblings with ODD.

Gosh I need this so much , I grew up in chaos and dysfunction I didn't get out of it until I was 27 years old when my mom died I never had anyone model a good example for me so I am learning on my own and it has been so hard honestly odd and adhdand autism have stumped me to my core I have been the way my mom was yelling and screaming I'm trying to have immediate resolutions now I realize none of those work

Nobody would diagnose my daughter with ODD and I know that's exactly what she has and her grandmother. It's like a curse

Excellent

I Have 4 sons and the 3 oldest are really well behaved. Our youngest has diagnosed with ODD and so far nothing we have tried has worked. It's so hard because I think he feels like I hate him because I'm always on him about his behavior. It breaks my heart to think he feels that I hate him. I'm so frustrated with him and I can honestly understand why he feels that way. I need to change the way I parent with him and if anyone else has any tips please share. I do love him very much but I know that soon as get home from work and see him my frustration with him is showing right away. I'm ashamed to admit that but I already know I'm going to have messages from teachers ,the bus driver, his mother about his behavior almost every day. He's failing school and he is currently on in-school suspension for acting up in class. This has been my relationship with my son for the 8 years. He is now 13 and I'm scared that his defiance of any authority will eventually lead him to jail or death.

I came here to ” calm down”, while our 8-y screams, argues and having a melt down over ”rules and circumstances”. According to comments ODD goes usually with ADHD and other neurological disorders. As in our son`s case probably. And ITS SO DRAINING to parent such kid! As in comments, on the other hand such talented, sensitive and smart guy, but my god if there` s a rule or negative comment or duties or homework (that MUST be done)..... It`s like watching a Civil war inside this little head over and over again. SO frustrated.

I’ve watched the first five minutes and I keep on hearing basic understanding techniques like identify what the problem is. What if me saying good morning, can I help, or even offfering food causing him to get angry?

We've tried to say "you can choose to say these things and I can choose what privileges you lose" and our foster son (7 years old) gets more frustrated through that. Any thoughts?

OMG. My husband has ODD because not just 6 months but at least 30 years! Whaaaaaattttt? I'm so ignorant! Thank you doctor! He keeps blaming me for being an angry person. I didn't know about ODD. I'm so relieved. Thank you God for leading me to this video.

this only works if both parents agree to do it. my husband has odd that was never corrected. my 8 yr old has adhd, odd, anxiety, ptsd..dealing with her is hell on earth

May I link to your videos for a grant project that I am doing for Texas A&M University, please? If so, how would you prefer them to be cited?

My younger step sister has ODD and I’m struggling with getting along with her. She’s a really sweet kid but she tends to get on my nerves so I’m doing my research.

Do they eventually grow out of this disorder because my son has been displaying half of these symptoms his entire life and he's 18 now but it only seems to be directed myself and his siblings his father can do no wrong I am out of complete loss what do I do I feel like I am losing my child or worse yet he's already gone and there's nothing I can do to repair a relationship

What do you suggest for a cild in a split home that has different rules at moms house and dads house? I can't control what happens when he is with his dad.

Kind of hard to do this to say the least…when you both have ADHD combined and ODD. We were just out in 1mg of Guanfacine on top of the Addy that we already take. We are close to the 4 week mark, but I don’t know if it will work.

I have a child with ODD, ADHD, SPD and Adjustment Disorder. It is very difficult to navigate. These tips do NOT work unfortunately. We have tried all of it before hearing this. The last point is accurate though...we have to stay calm and keep your voice gentle until they can respond the same way. Yiu have yo let them work theough everything before they can come down. As someone who lives with a child with this it is inaccurate to say this shouldnt be a diagnosis. This is a VERY real thing and the diagnostics you read off was inaccurate. It is more severe than what you described and happens almost daily if not multiple times a day and its not just disobedience, etc. It is a real neurological disorder that the child hates having and is devastating for them. My kid cries often because of it and tries so hard to not have his freakouts.

I have a question my cousins middle child has o d d they have him on medication but sometimes the medication doesn't work with him so he goes into tantrums and every time he does that they have to take him to the hospital to let him stay overnight and they even trim like a big baby or I'm trying not to let him have tantrums around me but he was asked to me but not to my uncle or my aunt or cousin which is his mom

I’m a single parent I don’t think I can have a positive culture at home! How can I?

My youngest adopted daughter who is now 22 years old, has ODD and Conduct Disorder. I've put up with my adopted daughter's often destructive and manipulative behavior for years, UNTIL I finally decided to go NO contact from her: NO more phone calls, no more text messages, no more letters- nothing! I also blocked my adopted daughrer from calling / texting me + even changed my phone number. Life gets easier when you cut off the Toxic people in your life!

I am a mother of a child with ODD who also has ADD. I plan to take your advice ok this…I only want to best for my child… love the simplified rules!! I’ll try this and let you know how it goes!

thank you...its help me much to treat my boy better

But if you end up with toxic positivity, it can actually trigger ODD behavior.

His sources of frustration : not allowed to be on video games 24/7(he is limited to FIVE hours a day on school days!), Not being allowed to punch his desk or walls, not being allowed to watch rated R or MA tv or movies, asked to do normal tasks like cleaning up after himself or basic human hygiene. You can't even ask him to put the milk back into the fridge or not to get in people's faces and yell.

Thank you Dr. Paul for your very helpful videos. I have one questions. What can/should I say to a 5 year old child saying why would she have to respect her classmate after she insulting that friend? The reason of the conflict is that they fighting over some toys

I have an 8 year old grandson who’s been diagnosed with ADHD & ODD. The local school district wants to place him in a residential school hundreds of miles away. I am against this option. I am looking for any suggestions where I might get him help locally with counseling and family counseling. I am also most certain he has some degree of autism but has never been diagnosed with it. Any suggestions where I can get help for him and my family would be greatly appreciated. We live near Beaumont Texas in southeast Texas.

I think these are good tips my son is 8 and has what I would call Severe odd but I know he is a good kid it’s just his illnesses effecting him I will definitely try these

I wonder how you’d actually cope with a child with this diagnosis in your home, running on next to no sleep constantly defiantly fighting every single thing needing to be done.. I have 5 kids.. so far 3/4 of my boys are diagnosed asd/spd/adhd/odd.. my daughter has asd/spd. I have adhd also.. it’s absolute hell most days..

Yeah... Pretty sure nothing of this works. My daughter goes into a sort of alternate state, where she will do anything to annoy her surroundings : swearing, hitting, stealing her brothers toys, jumping up and down on every furniture, refusing to do anything we ask of her. There is absolutely no communication possible. After a while she calms down and apologizes for her behaviour, then it comes back the next hour or day. No amount of communication, calmness, game deprivation works. There is nothing going through. She behaves like a wild animal: crawling on the floor, making weird faces and noises, throwing stuff at us, kicking us etc.... If we avoid confrontation, she hits her brother, breaks stuff etc.... It's like trying to reason with a wild cat.

I'm a young adult with many years of babysitting experience, my neighbors have 2 sons with both ADHD and ODD that they want me to help get on the bus for school. Any tips?

Sadly I strongly suspect my 8 yr old nephew has this. I've tried to talk to his grandma (his guardian) about this to get him therapy because he's been through some terrible things in his short life and I believe that's part of his problem but nobody is taking me seriously. I fear it'll be too late when they eventually open their eyes.

My stepson lies, steals,tries to hurt his other siblings, doesn't listen to grownups unless they are catering to his needs, constantly is disruptive in and out of school he was diagnosed with ADHD and impulsive control disorder but the medication seems to be not changing his behavior or academic grades I fear it maybe something else wrong underlying undiagnosed any suggestions Dr. Paul Jenkins?

Can someone point me to a resource for handling ODD in a friends child. I don’t want to drop them as friends but their kid has yelled directly in my ear to the point of burning and attacked me telling me to shut up. Defiance is an understatement… Lies and telling me how it works despite boundaries being boldly broken (TV, ice cream, etc) when l am alone with them. I don’t want to be abused…all focus is on kid health….l am supposed to take it and stay cool. They don’t believe in apologizing, fine…but there is no follow up with person abused. I need tools to navigate so l don’t feel like my only safe response is abandonment.

I suspect my child has this along with adhd its so hard i dont really like to go anywhere because i never know how he is gonna act and people dont understand anyways to begin with

Sir, you have my subscription.

My sister has ODD, bipolar disorder, ADHD, there a few concerns with ASD, and she has a little bit of a anxiety with people. She was diagnosed at a young age of 3 and had to be medicated for it. Shes almost 11 now and im almost 24. Growing up it always pissed me off that no one really believed me that my sister was diagnosed with these behavior problems at a young age especially when im not lying or have a excuse to make these things up. Now i never had these behavior problems growing up i was diagnosed with ADD at 5 and diagnosed with ASD at 17 and growing up I was below average struggled in school and behaved well most of the time, but my sister is exact opposite is a little demon at home but does well and is above average in school .

My sister's 12 year old adopted child is acting out very bad. She threw a bottle at my sister today and busted her lip open. Where do you go to find help with a young child like this?

What about adopted adult siblings (who has ODD) .... who tries to come between a biological child and her biological parents? Unfortunately, she's my only sibling .... Christmas is a nightmare, tiptoing around this adopted sibling 😢.... I've shared my stuff and shared my biological parents all my life, but she doesn't want to share. She has told us, to our faces, how she doesn't care what emotional stress she causes any of us 😢 Any help would be greatly appreciated?

Do you have tips for adults with ODD. My Son never accepted the diagnoses of ODD. Diagnoses at A17years. He is now 29.

Although I agree with the rules and overall diagnosis you discuss in the video, I don’t necessarily agree with the way these children are being approached. In the real world (the adult one) hostility, aggression and overall angry and defiant people are not greeted with tolerance of their behavior. Ask the police officer, the judge or the probation officer. Being a calmer person can definitely help diffuse my angry son/daughter but what happens when their disorder blossoms in the midst of society? Did taking away the game system or cutting down phone time really instill the truth- that this behavior is unacceptable?

My 4 1/2 yr old grandson has ODD. He has refused potty training so far. Any ideas?