I don’t take anything personally. I’ve realized that people have bad days and take any opportunity to snap at anyone. I know it’s also a reflection of whatever pain and suffering they have or are going through. I know my truths, and let those that criticize talk. Words don’t hurt. Thank you for sharing your perspective with us 🙏🏽
I ignore negative criticism because I know myself more than those people who has nothing better to do in life 😜 I just focus on the positives. Like you said "focus on your own bowl, sleep on your own pillow." On the flip side, I do welcome constructive criticism because it helps me grow and improve as a person. In general, if people have nothing good to say, it's better to 🤐 _ Thank you Nick for sharing your view on criticism. You're in a good place and please continue to do good work to inspire others. Be safe.
I stumbled upon this channel and so glad that I found it. This is now officially my favorite channel. It's full of wisdom, love and light. I feel so much love and purity from watching just a few videos so far. I'm grateful for you Nick Keomahavong. Thank you with all my hearat.
A 24 year old boy seeing out from the train’s window shouted… “Dad, look the trees are going behind!” Dad smiled and a young couple sitting nearby, looked at the 24 year old’s childish behavior with pity, suddenly he again exclaimed… “Dad, look the clouds are running with us!” The couple couldn’t resist and said to the old man… “Why don’t you take your son to a good doctor?”The old man smiled and said…“I did and we are just coming from the hospital, my son was blind from birth, he just got his eyes today. Every single person on the planet has a story. Don’t judge people before you truly know them. The truth might surprise you.
I feel you have tried very hard to find your place in the world. A place that fits your true self.... I think every person has the same goal in life, that is to seek his/her place in the world. However, the difference is that not many people are willing to go so much beyond their comfort zone. For that, I really admire your courage. You are my inspiration.
My story, I have listened to A Monks Guide to Happiness for the past two years. I have listened to the audio over 100 times. I did this because Christian teaching was so engrained in my thinking where they teach anti Buddhism. I have not gone to church for over 10 years, but the previous 15 years of preaching very much narrowed my views on almost everything. My husband whom I have been married to for 13 years is not a Christian and opened my mind to the hypocrisy. I have suffered from extrema anxiety, PTSD as an X veteran. I just kept listening to a monks Guide to Happiness in the hope I would have a break through one day. This happened about a month ago. I listened to plum village messages and one of the messages I heard, opened my mind and all the anxiety I have had for decades, stopped in a matter of 2 minutes. I wish I learnt about Buddhism when I was a child. Thank you for sharing your message. Buddhism teaching is so simple, practical and non oppressive. If all Defence Member were trained in this, it would stop a lot of suffering for them in their future. To think that India came up with Buddhism, how privileged they are from this. India does not need to become more like the west, the west needs to be more like India.
"Why does it not affect me ? because I understand that when you take a look at something with not a complete picture, you're going to make observations ... conclusions, judgments .. but it is not complete and doesn't really reflect what is happening" - a gem of a thought. worth remembering.
Nick my friend, initially when I stumbled upon your 'morning routine' video a few days a go, I didn't realise what exactly about you spoke out to me. Was it the budhist philosophy that had always resenated with my personal philosophies that I'd come to learn about myself?, was it your calm nature? Or was it a nudge towards some clarity in this path to finding my true self? I now realise that it's all of them and the sincerity in the things you are saying. Keep doing what you're doing. I'm grateful and really glad you've finally found your place in the world, for you and for me. Respect, Midi
I read somewhere that "People that criticize others are most unhappy about something in there lives and they takes most pathetic measure to make themselves feel better" I hope they will find peace and buddha in there life 🙏
Western psychology refers to “projection” , which if I understand correctly is calling out a perceived flaw in another person that one is unable to admit to - in oneself.
I appreciate you sharing this video. You are a gift to this world. This is brings tears to my eyes. I want you to know that this channel and what you share is like a bright lantern in my life. Like i said before, please dont ever stop sharing these, theres so much gem and so much wisdom that you are sharing so freely with such an open & warm heart in your channel. Thank you, thank you, thank you, kind soul!
There is a teaching in the Bible in Proverbs 29:25, "It is dangerous to be concerned with what others think of you, but if you trust in the Lord you are safe." This has helped me a lot when others judge me unfairly.
@22: 21 I can resonate. I suppose most 'born' Buddhists have this alignment issue because Buddhist nations are moving towards the western culture... and there's hardly any support to bridge, for those who want. I struggled from the age of 14-15 years and completing the circle only in my 50s. Most of my counterpart 'professionals' living in main cities or have migrated to the west have same issue and are struggling to pass this precious cultural heritage to their children. This series on monastic discipline, mindfulness in daily life and monks perspective is SO precious everytime I listen it brings me to tears. I've been waiting for this for soo long in my life. Thank you bhante keep doing your great work!!!
I'm in my junior year of highschool, and from all the videos I've watched, I felt like I could immediately understand all the lessons you've provided in your videos. Especially when it comes to criticism, I always try not to take it to heart and look at it from a third person perspective. It allowed me to better understand the other person and perhaps their intention was to help, but the criticism was just quite aggressive. However, thank you so much for all your videos! Its a such a great breather for the day and very useful content :)
Hi Nick! Great to see you. What a beautiful spot you are sitting in for this video. You are absolutely right you DO NOT need to explain yourself to anyone, you know that...but thank you for sharing anyways. Your heart is in the right place. As a therapist you gave so much of yourself to your clients to do your best to ease their pain and suffering. As a Monk you continue to give so much of yourself....and now not just to your personal clients, but the whole world! I see you as a spiritual guide, advisor, and a friend! So much of your advice and your words have been an important part of my life since I discovered you. To anyone reading this Nick's heart is pure and his intentions are pure. He truly cares about you. To any of the "critics" out there I can tell you with 100% certainty that Nick is definitely not bothered by any nasty, mean, or ruthless feedback! Don't ever stop what you're doing Nick! It matters so much to so many of us! 🙏❤️👍🙏🤜🤛
You just reminded me of a verse in the Dhammapada: "He who talks too much, they blame him. He who says little, they blame him. Whether he talks too much or too little, they blame him." In other words, no matter what you do, you can't please everyone.😊
You are so authentic, Humble and extreme Reflective.....I am also a teacher.... Reflection, Mediation, HUMBLENESS and what ever one recieves as Feedback....listen to learn....all the very best ...God's Speed....many many thanks..
Your videos have helped me tremendously. I listen to you at work and before I fall asleep. For meditation. It calms my soul. Keep up your work. You have a gift and I am so thankful you are sharing it with the world! Much peace and love to you.
Ven Nick. You are wise and yet so humble. Strength to see beyond the human expectation and to strive to become a human is so admirable and inspiring. I am always wishing you good health and strength to continue to guide and share. With million love ❤️ 🇸🇬
I find your talk's and wisdom amazing. You are kind and gentle. I am going to practice many of your teachings. You inspire me to not only want to be a better person, but to always question my motive and reach out to others simply for the sake helping. Keep going. You are doing great things!
Mr Nick, this came up on my feed and I shared with my friend who constantly gets criticized by family, even her own father. And she has been feeling horrible. I found this useful and shared with her. Thank you so much!
I felt like you were talking directly to me today, thank you so much. I’ve recently had some very unpleasant criticism of my work and my character which has affected me deeply. I listened and absorbed what you said and feel I can now move on. Thank you 💞
Nick you should be a public speaker All your videos are very inspiring and reassuring, Your delivery is very efficient and your message always lands and resonate with me. For those who criticise your videos, it's a free world, they free to listen to whatever resonates with them Also , I feel some people bring criticism not for the sake of feedback but for the sake of criticism itself. You do you. Keep going, loads of people enjoys it. Do it for us who do please.
thank you for broadening up my perspective. I know I am very judgmental sometimes, but because of your video, I can stop and think why I am so harsh on others.
Thank you for your lesson on Criticism. So much pain comes from misreading criticism. From a different angle criticism could also be looked at as a helping tool for us to get closer to awareness. When people criticize us, they actually help us better understand the reality we live in. Even when they are wrong, the fact that they express it, it helps us understand human nature better. To me, the worst aspect is actually lack of criticism or ignorance - and probably even in the silence of ignorance there is so much to learn from. An absolute nothing doesn't exist.
I understand in a way what you are saying. You want to help people and perhaps still dealing also with your own attachments and wants as you walk out the path. Do you think it will give you more validation as a being to work with such high profile people and groups? Like a feeling of being accepted to high ego groups and self or do you see their needs as High profile people stuck in the illusion of self and grandiose ideas and your wanting to show them how to dissolve? The danger being though that is there is any ego still left within you as you refer so passionately connected to your previous work and being, that it could pull you back in and resurrect the ego within. Much love and thanks for your videos. I’m working out my own thoughts as well and studying as to why we do what we do and how we are all triggered by each other and at times attempt to shield ourselves from others opinions and light. 🙏Namaste
Thank you so much, Nick! I grew up under the lens of criticism, so for me, for many years I turned that criticism inwards. After many years of therapy, little by little I have learned to not be my own worst critic and to better withstand the criticism of others. Your message brings me so much joy. The important thing is to look always at ourselves and our intention. If our intention is true and good and pure, then this is the most important thing: to be at peace with ourselves. Thank you, thank you, thank you!
Brother Nick. The world has a blessing in you. You sharing has so many angles and each is has star ready to illuminate any who is listening. Thank you for sharing. Be blessed 🙌 😇
This is real deep very interesting i find social media some people can be very cruel i have thought when people are mean they are not happy with themselves. But you are teaching me and have me thinking maybe different
Such a beautiful place you’re at. I believe that all roads lead to here & knowledge is wealth, share it. I’ve realized that so many people are set in their ways, staying true to what they’ve been taught. Those are the ones who have criticized me most. The receptive people are the open minded ones who love hearing about other people’s interests. Whenever someone criticizes me, I just say “let’s agree to disagree sometimes”. Blessings always Nick!🙏🏻❤️
I think on our planet there will always be people who will disagree with us. It’s just the way it is. It balances things out. There is no right or wrong except for different perspectives and we can always learn from perspectives.
@@MindNow I seem to have attracted a lot of narcissistic men over the years. I guess it’s the empath/healer in me. They’re always disagreeing with me. I guess I’m naturally intimidating😂
@@vallovesnature8449 Eventually you will attract the people that you are. I'm not saying that you a narcissistic person, but the empathic person you are, you will attract those people in your life as well. So, keep being who you are
Greetings from Richardson Texas... I'm comforted by the belief that criticism, in my life, usually means that God is telling me to remember that we all carry a piece of the truth. Maybe someone sees something that I don't... namaste friend
It was very helpful and full...I was just thinking this explanation is so complete..I'm speechless but like a sponge I absorbed all. Thank you! Beautiful nature all around you!💗
Thank you so much for all These wonderful videos. They have become my early morning treat as I’m starting my day. They not only bring me food for thoughts they bring me inner calm and comfort me on my path in life. So yes thank you so much and you definitely are on my “gratefulness “ list everyday!
No disrespect,, I subscribe to no religion whether it be Christian, Buddhist, Muslim whatever. I( have always felt a deep affinity to spirituality, for whatever that means. Having said that, i feel very drawn to eastern religion. and I think it is because of the non judgmental viewpoint held by said beliefs. Thank yyou for the upload!! Namaste.
In listening to you, I am happy you are doing this b/c you reach high profile ppl who influence our society through their work or speech. I also see you doing this as an example of a merit for yourself ( & me). There for, I use what you are doing as an example of how I am living the example of my own religious life. Sharing my belief as a “church lady” w fellow sufferers. The sharing of hope & peace one person @ a time. Your using your careers as an entertainer & business person encourages me to look @ my environment & how I can offer hope & love. Thank you for sharing your gifts as a monk, entertainer & business person. May all embrace love, Peace & simple living to end suffering & sinning. Shine on!
Thank you Nick for your videos. I have been in a twelve step program over 40 years. I like hearing what people observe me doing and share it in a kind way. It gives me the opportunity to evaluate myself and sometimes change a behavior. I have one friend that I try to share my experiences in an effort that maybe she can see something that may need some tweaking. However she feels criticized and that’s not my intent. Your video helped me see myself and hopefully “not share” what I see when I see it. I have tried in the past and do better for a bit then fall back into my old habits. Listening to you has been enlightening and I will continue try to be less opinionated :-) in the future and remember it’s not my job to fix others, only myself. Namaste my friend 🙏🏼
That was the first video that I saw of yours, and I was so impressed! Then I was so chuffed to randomly meet you in Pai a few months later. 🌿🙏🏻🌿。I am looking forward to the pandemic clearing up, and then I can go to Pai again to further learn how to practice meditation. 🌿🙏🏻🌿。
Thank you for this video 🥰 n beautiful scenery at the background😍. Yes before we speak or do anything we must have a pure n good intention....i will always keep this in my mind.
Check vipassana meditiation. You can do this all over the world. 10 days silence meditiation and learn techniek to still the mind. I had no thoughts afther 4 days. I did mine in nepal🙏
SORRY 4 CAPS, HUMANS BEING HUMAN. SOMETIMES I WISH I WASN'T HUMAN. WHY DOESN'T ANYONE SAY ANYTHING TO THE DALI LAMA FOR SOCIALIZING WITH THE HOLLYWOOD CROWD. NICK JUST SAY TO THEM, WELL YOU DO IT THEN. LOL WOULDN'T IT BE GREAT IF YOU INFLUENCED A BETTER, KINDER MOVIE-MAKING.. A HEALTHIER HOLLYWOOD. GREAT INCITE.
I’m so tired of being sad... I need to get out I need to be free. my mind is imprisoning itself and I feel trapped in my own thoughts and even though I know I am ok and in good health I just can’t calm down
A person spoke to Buddha, "I want happiness" Buddha responded, Remove the I - that is ego. Remove the want - that is desire. You are now left with just happiness. Remember the peace comes from within, do not seek it without. Best of luck on your journey🤙
Deity, how are you feeling now? You are not alone, we are all in the same boat, it is just that few people talk about their mental state because it is what has been taught to us in the Western world. Things are changing, but if you can open your mind to the thought that you are not alone in your suffering, then it is a huge step towards happiness. I wish you all the best.
I share your journey. If we can bring into the business world and other industries these modalities and practices, it means we no longer do so privately or within our own groups, but actually live it within our job roles and how we engage with those we serve. I have led talks with doctors, inmates, corporate professionals, and also for actors. I also reside in CA, have my own therapeutic practice and have been a business executive, and I coach performers on mindset as they suffer deeply. I was one and a member of SAG/AFTRA. I have found so many in all of these industries suffering within and are relieved to learn tools for mental management. More and more leaders/CEOs are now interested in welcoming educators who cover mental wellness due to the after effects of this most challenging season the world has faced. Ive only seen 3 of your videos. Yesterday I mentioned you to a colleague. It was before I knew you may return to "the world." I literally said, "the business/therapy world needs him out here because he is also a hybrid and able to bring these worlds together." I was speaking about you and had considered reaching out. And here I am and this video popped up. Godly affirmation you are in your calling. 🙏
Awwwe thank you so much for reaching out and sharing your experience. That's very kind of you. I agree with you that so many people and sectors can benefit from learning these tools. Having lived and worked in the west and now living as a monk in Thailand, it has given me a more holistic understanding. I'm very glad to be on this journey. Thanks for coming along 🙂🙂🙂
it takes wisdom to look at a whole complete picture. I really enjoy the pine trees, the space between the trees allows the sunshine to reach the grass. Sadhu..3x 🙏🙏🙏
Hi Nick, I am a fan! Re this video - I think working with famous people is important to good, well intentioned people in order to help them as they influence and reach so many others. Like the roots of an oak, you nurture their roots… peace and Ommmmmm :)
im a roman catholic and ive been watching your videos from time to time. my life is down bad and im developing my self control and im on my spiritual stage where as i question peace anger what to do etc. you help me a lot and i believe in everything i know i have a different God but i believe on other Gods too. THANKS for the videos NICK! do your own thing people would say what they wanna say!
Thank you so much Raphael. I'm glad you're able to use this information to improve your life. That's beautiful. Thank you for sharing and keep doing the work 🙂🙂🙂 greetings from Thailand
Same here-a devoted catholic but really love watching Nick’s Video...So much information and lots of wisdom that we can apply for our everyday living....Thank you Nick for sharing your wisdom ...
Another wonderful video Nick, thank you. Also, thank you for the live stream yesterday, I am currently saving to come to ordain next summer. Thank you for your wise words and for sharing your knowledge with the world.
My buddhist brother you must remember that you are your own worst critic, remember you are a child of Buddhism in the learning process of the value of none judgemental existence, as I listen to you explain your ego. Buddha taught about the three evil passions that cause our situation of suffering as we have to rid our thoughts of hate, and greed and the realm of our own ignorance. Take that criticism with a grain of salt, thus you will not be caught in your own fallacy of suffering but awaken to the reality of self reflection. Your path is your path, others path is there own path, thus we travel on the path to self realization .....Sadhu Sadhu Sadhu as I listen to your guidance and as I am allowed to teach you as well be happy, experience immeasurable joy as a child of Buddha......
I struggle to deal with critisicm even when it's merited.. If I'm critised on my work and it's a legitimate critisicm becuase I made a mistake I still get angry and I turn away from that person and start to feel real hatred toward them. How do I work on this🤔
If you can just change your perspective as mentioned in the video. Just see it as their perspective. If it helps you, take it. If it doesn't, then disregard it. But yes, it can definitely feel personal.
Toxicity on social media really bothers me. So much that I have just stopped using some of the platforms. It is not so easy to take criticism in a positive way every time. Specially when u put ur heart in some creation and ppl just criticise it for the sake of criticism.
Working with the wealthy is wise, as they are the farthest from humility. The closer to middle ground that they come to, lessens the gap to those in poverty.
After embracing buddhism a decade ago I'm still struggling to make sense of this philosophy/faith in my life, but your clear and pragmatic approach made this practice more fulfilling and light. Thank you for sharing your enlightenment ven. Nick...
One thing I learnt is that every criticism has some truth in it. I will use it it to see how can I improve myself without getting mad. I think of them as my teacher.
HI Nick, I so look forward to your videos. Thank you for being so open and yet so willing to share nuggets of love that have the potential to add so much to our everyday. Criticism and public opinion never really bother me, mainly because very few people really take the time to know the circumstances of my life. Those that take the time, then I will listen... but at the end I will still go and do whatever I need to do. I've known that not everybody is entitled to knowing what motivates me. Wishing you joy and warm sunny days ☀️🌺🌺
Sometimes criticism is a good thing, especially when its constructive. But I've always had a problem with judgmental people. When you break down criticism the way you have, it really makes it look like an innocent, uninformed gesture that people just engage in on impulse. You make it seem like its something that doesn't matter, because no one really knows the whole story on anything that they are judging or even hating on.
Thank you Nick for sharing about your own journey and the wisdom you have on alleviating the suffering in this life. It has really touched me and changed my perspective on my own suffering. Thank you again, you are making a real difference in this world.
Thank You. I really like the contents You share. I find it ver helpful. I wonder how monks deal with disrespecful and aggresive people. How te set boundaries. Thank You!
I think you are such a special person, i discovered your channel recently and I've seen several videos. Your speech, your experiences, your way of thinking, even your profession and the way u look as a therapist, have inspired soo much!
Thank you so much for combining your experience of the West and now the East! Your words help me keep my own spiritual journey focused on authenticity. Thank you, thank you, thank you! Blessings
I'm new to management. I try to be fair to everyone but I still get criticism. This helped me get a bit of peace. I know my intentions and thats great enough for me. Thank you. This so helped me ❤
@@nickkeomahavong01 I work with some very challenging women and opinionated women. I have decent relationships with most but they can be so fake as well. Definitely working on myself to not internalize how they act towards me at times because I know I cannot change them. Im finding it difficult.
