How To Deal With Frustration With Husband 

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Small words, big difference.

Do you have date night? It might be fun to get together and watch a few videos. Tell him he can pick one and then you. Slip in a marriage video and see if he will talk about it. You have a lot going on so make sure you are doing something for yourself, DirtyPrancing.

I completely agree with you DirtyPrancing I feel the same way about my marriage I watch all these videos and read all these books and I know thats the last thing on his mind i voice how I feel sometimes and he acts like he doesnt care but God forbid if HE GETS DONE THAT WAY!!! But i still love him and always will.... 😏😏

YOU ARE!!!

Sure seems that way to me, too! You aren't toxic just a normal female.

I agree with you Dirty Prancing. The whole giving a road map part - I read that as doing the thinking and planning and managing work ! Still leaves me feeling pretty pissed off tbh- like the the 'just tell me what to do and I'll do it ' response to asking for more input on housework -aargh!!! Now I have to add managing a grown ass man to my list of jobs

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It is frustrating, Dawna G, you will have to decide what you are willing to put up with. Good luck.

Silvia Alvarado, I think you two can do this. Hopefully this is the wake up call he needed.

Kimberly Adams, wouldn't it be nice if everyone just pitched in and did their part? I hear you.

Live On Purpose TV 3 days in and it seems to be working. My mom says the one who notices that changes need to be made is responsible to start the change. 😊

Alyssa Marie, I would suggest some counseling for the both of you, quickly. He isn't seeing his responsibility in the relationship or the running of the household and probably won't make any changes until he has to. Seek counseling for yourself if he won't go so you can think through how you want the rest of your life to proceed.

I know right? How can you give compliment to your husband who is not doing at home just eat, sleep, watching TV and YT videos thank God he's working.

Hi 👋 Alyssa I'm 2 months late but I hope things have been better for u. I completely agree with you but another approach is that think of the way he lived prior to u guys living together? Unless he's drastically changed.. he probably might have lived the way he did for a long time and cant see the reason why he has to change now. He has lived for so long this way and it never gave him a problem til now ( u came along ) so he sees you as the problem and will ignore your suggestions. But just like doc says.. he needs to KNOW that with marriage, change is normal.

If he happens to be a sociopath, psychcopath, a narcissist, therapy doesn't work. They will not be honest. And those who are drawn in by their games will help them perpetrate their abuse and the gaslighting toward the target person. (men or women)

Honestly, I think it's the fact that we women have decided to work full-time instead of staying at home.

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Wendi Watson, yes, when we understand the principle, then we can apply it to different arenas of our lives.

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Stephanie Heger, yes, it does.

I agree with Stephanie and disagree with a fine part of the video. If this were a child, I would say fine. But we are dealing with an adult person (I assume) who knows when it's time to take out the trash and such. I've been down that 'road map' a million times...it creates a 'mommy' figure who 'commands' and manages his daily activities...Because apparently he cannot perceive them on his own... At some point they even completely stop showing effort to even 'look inside the fridge to recognize what's missing (milk etc), because he already has someone who would tell him what to do, and has no need to use his brain to be aware or notice things...which to start with- I do not feel like managing.... An adult male should be able to handle these simple tasks by himself without me telling him. The frustration doesn't appear when he doesn't read my mind...it's when I give him the 'road map' over and over again, and still nothing. That is not being a productive part of a household. I wouldn't call them expectations, I would call them 'morals' (?). Things You know you need to do inside of any household, without someone telling you (spouse or not). All this sounds like 'mommy-ing' and not having an equal partner who will help you (or at least won't make it worse) with everyday things that make life... Wanting to be the hero without doing the mature thing to do whilst petting his ego is a bomb waiting to blow up in your face... Forever doomed to count on him to do the right thing ONLY IF HE FEELS GOOD about himself...And if he's not...well tough luck... It goes both ways, but I do chores cuz I ''have to''...it has nothing to do with feelings. If I don't wash my dishes, they pile up...same for laundry, trash and such...No matter how low my self esteem is, or how bad my day was... I just do it. Point. I don't see when did these simpleminded things became such an issue for a modern everyday man (for it to be called nagging ). I am sorry but men need to get over some things and stop whining...If you don't want me to nag, do it yourself. *Sorry for the expressive thoughts , just feeling *frustrated*

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Marwa Gad, is he being social or disrespectful? There is a difference.

movi3srock, maybe have more frequent times to "check-in" with one another on how you are doing throughout the day so there is support along the way.

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Yes, it does.

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Marina Marina, I hope he can find some help to get him past excuses.

@@LiveOnPurposeTV thank you for the reply 🙏 It is such a tricky case with excuses… when you don’t wand to cut off relationships and want to rather repair them. I guess at some point the real reason behind excuses always comes out. A person just can’t hide from oneself, at least 🤔

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Wendi Watson, nah, our minds just have lots in common.

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Mona Najagi Pour, decide what you are willing to put up with and what you aren't. Talk to him and share what you are thinking.

Evelyn Sierra, your husband has given you a lot of information about where he is. Now you get to decide how you want to live out the next phase of your life. I wish you the best.

my boyfriend tends to refer to my 'efforts' as, going off on a tangent! :-P

I don't even think I would like to be a mind reader, too much info.

Please share your feelings with your husband Ali Arsenal. Let him know that the more you feel loved and valued by him, the more intense your feelings will be toward him, in a good way. Talk about trust and communication. Don't be afraid to get some counseling, with or without him, to validate your feelings and decide what you can do about the situation.

@@LiveOnPurposeTV I've talked to hin about it and he makes a lot of excuses. I think counseling would be a good idea. Thank you very much for your reply. I love your video. Subscribed. 😊

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I have the same experience with my husband even we are together he's looking to other women as if he wants to ask their number. I asked him why he's doing that and he's telling me I'm a jealous type and he got upset. I feel more insecure esp I'm 4years older than him. Sometimes it came to my mind to cheat on him as a revenge but I'm not that kind of woman.

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Jennifer Newton, I hope he realizes what he has very soon.

Oh my goodness . Exact same situation

It is difficult to say since I have not met either of you. Ask yourself if he learned his behavior now by what happened before when he did voice his opinion? It sounds like he is not trusting your words about really wanting him to express an opinion. He will need to feel it is safe for him to do so. Hope that helps to spark some ideas for you, Kim Mailhot.

@@LiveOnPurposeTV thank you so much for your response! I do understand your point. Nothing is really standing out to me right away. I need to think back and seriously analyze my actions and communications between us before things got this way. Thank you for giving me a direction to go in. I value my marriage deeply and want us both to feel happy and loved.

Kim the Artist wanna trade husbands ?🤷‍♀️😂not saying there’s not a issue ..it just sounds like a dream for me .Lol

Sounds like you know what you want and are going for it. Good luck.

Carrie Serbaty, because someone asked. You are not alone.

Sadie Smith, that is sad, it sounds like he is missing out and doesn't even realize it. You might benefit from a counselor so he can begin to understand what is happening.

Ok, when do you want us to come? 😅 but truly, it is sad. And my reactions can be equally sad. We both have lots of work to do!

Yes, my husband calls/texts his buddy every morning spanning 3 hours, when we are in the car, and while we are having lunch every day, Can text every 10 minutes. Listen to RU-vid videos up to 8 hours a day. (Retired)

We can seem like strange creatures at times, J S. Glad you enjoyed the humor.

Rain, I can't control your husband and neither can you. Figure out what you control and then make your decision based on that.

Noted! Will pass that along to the crew.

Isabel Rosas, it might be time for an honest talk to see where you both are in the relationship.

thatheathergirl1, that is where we want to get them, it is a process. Just trying to help.

@@LiveOnPurposeTV I hear you. Im just wondering why it even should be a process. These are adults we are married to- what would they do if we werent there?

My thoughts exactly- well said

These problems stem from women working outside of the house. Our place is at home. Let the men pay the bills

We have a Positive Relationship Resources playlist: ru-vid.com/group/PLq2mRDkHEBPA410uJ9woXx9B9WiPyM7fX, Pratiksha Jain. We don't have a video specifically for live-in boyfriends, but you can still find relevant videos. For now, I encourage you to keep communications positive, perhaps watch some of the videos with your boyfriend, and consider some counseling or coaching if things are really rough. We have a free 25 minute call with a Live On Purpose coach, if you want to start there: DrPaulJenkins.com/breakthroughcall.

BY D, there might be some room for some counseling and attention to mental health.

Nope, Tim Sullivan, you are the only ones who could have done that, I just teach principles that work. Learn from what happened and make your next marriage your last.

Nicole Cohen, I get that.

Sons are kind of like little men - you get to train him to be an emotionally intelligent man someday.

That's so funny because today as we left the diner after having an early lunch, my little 'man' and I....he goes out first and let's the door go and it slammed right into my leg. Good thing that this old hag can still move quick in short bursts (me)....I made some grunting noise thinking, such a gentleman! Then he let's the second door go too! I said to him, Nicholas...if you were on a date right now, she'd dump you for being rude!! "Oh Mom!!" I'm always reminding (NOT NAGGING) him, why not let the young lady go first. At times it really sinks in because, out of nowhere and with NO warning, he'll say (to a stranger), you're pretty, like my Mom....but I can't marry you because I'm not a big person yet! (good Lord....) but I can help you push your stroller.....

Buckle up - more fun to come!

@@LiveOnPurposeTV this is why I don't want two men at home .one big man is fair enough.

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g4tnew newg4t, this may be accurate with some relationships, but not all.

@@LiveOnPurposeTV I get that. It's like saying some people have a great relationship with drugs. But statistically, because of laws and virtually no accountability or incentives for a wife to behave, men don't need the risk.

lyte chepkemboi, It probably isn't changing any time soon if this has been going on your entire marriage. You will need to decide what you have control over and what you don't.

Monika Chopra, thanks for watching.

Thank you!

Lifestyle Q, we want to make things better, it is natural.

Sueann Valenzuela, what are you getting out of this relationship?

Maybe he needs some alone time with the kids. Talk to him and ask him what he needs.

aneeja, try the suggestions on the video and some other on the marital playlist at the channel. You can decide what you want to accept in your marriage and if you want it to continue. The decision is yours. I hope you are able to work things out.

We should be authentic, and we should also manage our expectations. People tend to have high expectations, even for themselves and that can cause a lot of frustration, anger, or resentment. Thanks for watching, Unique World. If you are interested in more, we have a Positive Relationship Resources playlist: ru-vid.com/group/PLq2mRDkHEBPA410uJ9woXx9B9WiPyM7fX

nicely, non-confrontational, bring it up and offer to help if that is possible. Sometimes working together makes it easier.

@@LiveOnPurposeTV thank you for your response

Especially with kids .

Sueann Valenzuela, you think all men are this way because it is your reality. In truth, not all men are this way, some are, but not all.

Sueann Valenzuela, we do have to think about what our choices will mean for our children. Please seek some counseling to sort through your feelings.

Live On Purpose TV lol ok that’s why I was watching you ..I was trying to give you a chance on changing my mind on things but no all you say is get counseling lol ..and if you can truly know and name a man that doesn’t act that way ..I’ll kiss your feet 😂🤷‍♀️.

Uriel, thank you for watching.

Great idea, Marvin Saucedo. I will talk to my RU-vid videographer.

elizabeth Guthrie, thanks for watching anyway : )

Thanks for watching.

Thanks for watching Justyna! DrPaul

Michelle Mitchell, you need to have a serious conversation and decide who is going to do what. You may need some help in communicating and working out an agreement.

Your reversed roles are the problem. He is a man. He needs to be working outside of the home

@@EE-hi4re he does a lot more now, I don’t agree that anyone should do anything based on what society expects but he has been studying to be a mental health worker since last year and will be working in that. He’s a lot more hands on at home and with the kids now. He’s made a lot of changes. The biggest one he’s not playing computer games and so he’s been able to accomplish a lot more.

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Catherine Malloy, yes, and I hope for the best all the time. Life isn't perfect and I want to make it better.

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Gloria Price, I guess it's up to us if we want to continue playing. Thanks for watching.

Dr Mugs, thank you for the feedback. That is helpful.

Dawna Hill, thank you for watching and putting forth much effort to save your marriage. We have a Positive Relationship Resources playlist (ru-vid.com/group/PLq2mRDkHEBPA410uJ9woXx9B9WiPyM7fX) or a "How to Fix a Marriage that's been Damaged" playlist (ru-vid.com/group/PLq2mRDkHEBPD7ZFUy4BGprDhRq8tDD2yg), do you think he would be willing to watch any videos from those? We also have a free 25 minute call with one of our Live On Purpose coaches. Counseling has helped save many marriages. Whether it's just you or both of you, I encourage you to take advantage of this offer. To schedule, go here: DrPaulJenkins.com/breakthroughcall