How To Save Your Marriage By Yourself 

Here are some tips. These have worked for me. First refuse to yell or fight. Second, refuse any abuse or accepting any insult or being demeaned. Simply state I will not accept you talking that way to me and walk away. Third focus on positive things about your spouse. And forth, and most importantly pray for your spouse every morning and every evening .

This helped me more than I could ever say. Thank you.

THANK YOU SO SO SO MUCH! This came right when I need it the most. Gratitude is the key🙏🙏🙏💖

Thank you, I’m applying these lessons today.

Do I really need to say that how great advice is? We expect too much, I mean TOO MUCH, from other person. And what we do ourselves, hardly much. I think that's create downward spiral and we drift apart. You are suggesting to do just opposite, create upward spiral of positive behaviour. Since adopting new behaviour requires great effort that's where we all start to fail. May because we're wired to stay lazy. But IMO putting such effort is worth it. I'll do 95-5. My sincere gratitude to you for spreading knowledge and awareness. You are awesome Paul. Your idea of leveraging technology and reaching out to everyone is great. You are doing great service to humanity.

Thank you so much for your amazing videos!

I really appreciate your video 🙏. I am 36 and I am now going to save myself for marriage. But from 18-35 I would base relationships on sex and end up in a lot of heartbreak because I over trusted the person and they ended up not being the right person for me. And I went through a lot of regret by having sex with former lovers. It’s like a heroine injection the level of addicted you become to the person once you sleep with them. And although it took me 36 years to realize this, I think that when we save ourselves for our partners when we’re married, we will bring in the right person and avoid wasting your time on people who only want our bodies. I wish I would’ve had this level of insight back then. I guess it’s never too late. ☺️💗

Love your videos Dr. Paul. It feels like this is exactly what I did 3 years ago in my marriage to save it from infidelity on his part and here I am now with a new discovery of lies. These tips sound great and are exactly what I want to do again but I feel like it’ll make him think “oh wow, she’s so nice and positive, I definitely don’t deserve this, lemme try my best to be better” but they don’t really change or see their nasty behavior deep down and repeat it again months or years later. 🤷🏾‍♀️ not so sure you can actually save a marriage by yourself. PS: your parenting videos are GOLDEN!!

I’m grateful to you! Thank you!

Thanks for this video, the truth is I never had any dating relationships but I would see if I can watch this again when I do.

Recently married just a few months the 4th time. And so is the the same for my spouse, Unfortunately Infidelity already taken place from his side and also learnt he is obsessed with legs & feet. We are sperated for now and will do what u said as I believe everyone has issues with themselves. And since We married for good or bad I need to get back in my feet and try my best to help myself and him. Thank you so much.

Thank you!

Thank you :)

Please help me. My husband of over 20 years, who was a pastor, has left me three months ago. Due to a law for divorce, he feels he must live under separate roofs with a male friend for a year. He lost his job as well due to an emotional affair that has recently become more physical. He still comes home each day, I still cook, clean and do his laundry even. We have been distant for a long time, but I have drastically changed through deep prayer and repentance. On many occasion, I have asked forgiveness and admitted that I have hurt him by not always being there for him. My husband does not see that anything can change between us. He knows his choices and divorce is wrong and against Gods law. I have been trying to be there for him through everything, even losing his job too. I am showing him the unconditional love and grace the Lord gave us on the cross. I and trying to love, honor and serve him as best I can without condemning him or anything and telling him that the Lord and I can forgive. I am praying fervently for the Lord to get a hold of his heart and intervene in this situation. Any tips?? Please help me. I truly want to save my marriage.

Might he a silly question but what is the other half of the list? Just things we are grateful about them in general?

A question: do those advises are still useful when you are married with a Narcissist?

My spouse and I get along fine but he is always angry and argues with so many friends and family that some have pulled away. He says he will no longer put up with all those narcissists. Huh? I told we him we all have a bit of that in us. Not sure how to live with this. He has changed. Today I told him I will no longer be in the middle of his drama! But when it involves my family and our children, I’m not sure how to stay away from this because they ask me what issues are. 🤷‍♀️

What if I am doing this %95 and happily so but I have my husband bring out any excuse to pick something to fight or judge me about :( I am so fade up

Any book you recommend to read for saving marriage? Thanks

Wife and I are separated couple months and just had baby ( 5days old), can marriage be saved using your tips?? Though living apart. Thank you. NZ❤ God bless

What if you are doing 95% and push back of negative is 100%?

sir, why r there so many proponents of no contact???

Please give us more specific details or examples about the "better by 8" part .. thanks

What is role of parents to rescue a marriage?

If my husband had all those great attributes would I be here!!!! Husbands are wonderful until you marry them. Then everything good goes out the window!!!

I'm not trying to be a jerk and make fun of anyone but have you been checked for parkinsons disease? My grandmother had very similer movements before she was diagnosed.

Its been 6 months we got married and I left my country Finland to be with my husband. When I got there everything was sweet he was good to me , sometimes came home with cake and wine surprise me,would do everything and laugh lot. During that 2months we had small stupid arguments but always the next day go back to normal and I do admit maybe at times I said something wrong and I didn't realize it or didn't do hes laundry and he did told me to do them cuz hes needing to wear it for work tomorrow and I kept saying yeah yeah I will later, so there were times like that one I might been at fault but he never address the issue right away at that moment so it would prevent them from building inside him. At the moment I am at Finland because we talked I go back give back my rented house and sell my stuff and also do my dentist here and see family for last time. We would video call everyday and voice call, he would message me but all that changes on April 10th 2021. I remember we were video chatting and I don't know what I said but I think he misunderstood it and plus the other things he's been holding inside he just exploded I guess. He hung up the call on me and after that he has been ignoring me and little changed I guess ( by changed i mean before he was sweet to me and even bought my return ticket back but now he's canceled the flight and told me I should buy it for September). Since that day I did call ,message send photos of me and even email but no response. One day I just got message from him saying that he needs time to clear hes thoughts and need time. And I panick and I have been sad,crying all day and night and also lost in apetite/lost sleep also. I was suppose to go back next month 14th but now he says since he canceled the flight and I have to buy it on my own, he changed to September. So I he said he wants us be separated till then and also me buying my own ticket. What should I do? How can I get my Sweet husband back that he was before ? For now he treats me kinda cold , differently. He says he do miss me and loves me and that there's no other women. So what should I do ? I am desperate for help or advice. I have been watching RU-vid for some info since I have not much money for counseling or stuff. I am trying till September save money for my ticket. Please help me ... I am desperate for it