How to Develop Social Skills as an Introvert 

I can't believe myself i searched this up-

@@oomp9123 I don't see anything wrong with it , you're trying to improve , theres nothing wrong with that :) be proud of yourself

Exaxtly you are acknowledging you need to improve on this, wich is big. And now you are searching how to do it. Be proud of yourself bud. Next step is Execution and apply the things you learned.

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I would dive deep into that. Ask yourself where that is coming from. It may be a feeling of lack. A need to impress others. A self-criticism or judgement. Read Louise Hay and focus on surrendering any negative patterns and belief systems around that. My guess is that if you work very hard on your self-esteem that will go away

@Wills Pram dang thank you so much for this reply . I really appreciate the advice . I am glad things are getting better for you. I will makes notes out of this comment and tried to apply it to myself and keep working on it . I greatly appreciate it !

@@calumx ok thanks for replying. I will get the book and see what that's about for sure. I will also take a deep self examination.

Me too and people think I look pretty so I’m supposed to act a certain wau

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Move fast, the "main window" closes when you hit 18

“You can not learn this skill with your current class”

@@xydychc2507 I disagree. Sure it's easier when younger but that's like someone who is fat as a teenage can't lose weight as an adult. Most of the time people's problems are going to require meditation, affirmations or in worse situations therapy in order to understand the cause of the problem and overcome it (when it's psychological in nature just to be clear). I've seen people rapidly change their lives. You are going to have to put in the work and encounter the uncomfortable situation over and over. Also other things like toastmasters you can go to. Albeit a little different as that is public speaking but still forces you to talk in front of a group of people.

im fine with talking to people as long as its over text -.-

Nice! Yes everyone can develop good social skills. Thanks for sharing

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Im in the same exact boat. Been a preschool teacher for 6 yrs and my social skills are SO different from when i started.

Yess I now, sometimes i want to stay calm but my anxienty wins

Anxiety 100 Depression 100 Life difficulty 100

guys, a few months ago i would have NEVER thought i could talk to strangers like it's nothing. but with time, it becomes so normal and natural! consider it a challenge against your anxiety at first, and it'll become easier and easier. remember your choices shape of your life❤

i can talk to strangers online but not in real life lmao

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School is the best time to reverse it. Force yourself to socialize. Start conversations

@@Albert2139 Maybe. But this is my last year in high school and I think it's going to end before it has even begun.

Buttercup baby suicide in 2021 same, now I forgot how to talk to people (not exactly but, I'm super awkward and hate when I have to interact with people) ͡ಥ ͜ʖ ͡ಥ

Jasmine Gonzalez me too :/ my problem is that i don’t have strong connections with people as I run out of things to say and worry what people will think of me. When I was younger I used to have like 3 best friends which is like so amazing as I’m thinking about it after all these years. Just wanna be myself again 💔

Your Queen x exactly, thats why i hate hanging in my recent days cuz im all happy at the beginning but when my mind goes blank and have nothing to say i start getting anxiety and start overthinking that people will think that im weird and i become super uncomfortable ☹️💔

Jasmine Gonzalez me too. I think its because ive been more focused on what others think of me and my insecurities.

Me too, earlier i was extremely extroverted but now as days are passing i m becoming more introverted

Yeah I used to socialize with people pretty easily and without any problems, I don't really know what happened over the years either. I probably just stopped caring too.

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Me too

Maybe stop using it so much

@jLfxFEdji HTcpsdRaab yeah but you can also stop yourself remind yourself stop Stop stop Its hard but you'll get there

Dnt use it much then

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Well. If you feel comfortable like that then they should shush. But if u want to idk ask why they do this job or summin... Umm idk

You can't let it get to you. As soon as that statement got under your skin, you tensed up and it probably made your mind go blank. You should practice being the initiator of conversations. It was incredibly hard for me at first but it got easier the more I did it.

If you feel bad about it, then there's some kind of anxiety inside you. My advice is find what's wrong and try fo fix it :) good luck

Beat them up

Well.. why are they always so loud? ~Would be my response. I have nothing against extroverts btw

Logmatt hes walking really slow though lol

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Thats a very interesting way to put it! Im actually goin' to try and focus on that mindset! Thakns Lyyrezism! Cheers

@@mr_ailecaifos No problem and good luck, I hope you become a fuller person.

THIS

thanks homeboy

You may be surprised. Many jobs, especially sales are very easy to get because there is so much turnover

@@calumx Used to work as a saler and it's was a humiliating experience :(

Blessings to you! 🙏I am in the middle of posting a series of acne videos that should prove helpful. You will make it out the better for going through that ❤

I’ve had acne for years, ever since I first entered middle school I’ve become extremely self conscious and lost a lot of self esteem as well

it’s pretty tough, i’ve been there too. my skin is getting better but still struggling with shyness :/ wish i could just be a baddie lmao

wow I can still understand being in that situation, when I changed school the boys made a lot of fun at me that destroyed my self-esteem and confidence in myself that I stopped socializing with people in general but over time I learned to love myself just as I am that now I feel very empowered and liberated.

Same...u must have been bullied and judged alot that's why am assuming

@@adoblo735 sorry I replied to this late but sometimes it's the opposite of you have a bunch of friends

I would argue that by overcoming all that which you deem to be “unnecessary”, it just makes it simpler to obtain the things that you do actually want, its like inducing hypertrophy in your SOUL lol… getting swoul

I've always been shy, but I know what you mean.

@@changed7226 Update: Figured out a lot about myself in the past 2 years. I'd actually always been really lonely and I didn't wanna talk to people because I lacked the social skills to actually talk to them, I didn't really know how to relate with them since I was immersed in my own fantasy world due to home issues, so I feel like I just always forced myself to fit in in every given situation.

@@lunny3715 how’s it going

@@haki4907 It's going alot better now. I feel like lately I'd been putting less and less pressure on myself!

@@lunny3715 ay good for u man🤩

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hahahaha literally what I need

Dont talk to much about yourself, if somewone says something about their day like "i went to the grocery store", then you ask what grocery store?, it makes you seem interested in the person what makes you more likeable also it makes the other person feel important, if somewone says something like "i hate rain" you say "yeah rain the worst" never say " i hate rain too" if you repeat the other person in a other sentence you will become more likeable because it looks like you understand them, and after a hour or a day the person will probably ask you question about yourself because they seem interested in you

Better to not have a conversation at all than one that feels forced.

i dont get the joke i reply like that but they don’t say anything afterwards. if i ask an open ended question i just get ignored.

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Honestly why does it have to be this complicated? I wish I could just go and talk without being judged

Hey, thank you. This is interesting because I am very introverted and sensitive, but not really an empath. For me systematic desensitization worked but it sounds like it was too much for you in this context. I think I had a very strong goal in mind so all the uncomfort was worth it when I was putting myself in extreme situations. Honestly the only thing that comes to mind for me to say is to Surrender it to God. ❤🙏🍉

Thanks for sharing that Laurie M. I'm a shy, introverted, very sensitive empath as well. Those are stereotypically female traits, so it gave me identity difficulties for a while. I found it hard to relate to other guys, cos I was so different to them in those ways. But also unable to get too close to girls cos of shyness and problems stemming from having had a bad relationship with my mum. Good on you for trying to step out of your comfort zone. But don't be discouraged because you gave up on that job. I found in my own life that putting myself into uncomfortable situations only grew me if I was equipped for it going in. If you go in when you're not ready, it will get overwhelming and instead of growing you, it will only squash you. I'm a Christian, so knowing that God is bigger than any difficulty that I'd ever face, and knowing that He stands ready to comfort me and hurt along with me in my difficulties gives me a lot of hope of conquering my fears. I am still learning to listen to the truth that I'm worth something to Him, so what people may or may not think of me isn't important. My value comes from what God thinks, and He is kind and gentle to anyone who wants to trust Him. I have to remember not to let the voice of fear have any say in my life, and instead trust that God will bring me through, and be my comfort and strength along the way. I have often had a poor view of my own worth. It made me very self-conscious, causing anxiety of what others might think. I'd be in a social situation with people I know, and feel like I don't have what it takes to contribute to the conversation, and this would make me feel left out and as though I'm not interesting. But my friends love me, and don't actually look at me like that. They're probably wondering why I don't participate more often. That's an example of me forcing myself to believe the truth when my emotions are going nuts, lol. Not easy, but it gets easier with practice. I believe in creation as opposed to evolution. We are designed to be relational creatures, to relate to other people and relate to God. But because there's evil in the world, it's risky to trust people. We need trust to have intimacy with God and other people, and the potential risk of pain from the vulnerability required to achieve that is what triggers our fear. We need affirmation and security in ourselves, but trying to get it from people can lead to disaster. Getting it from God, and letting Him tell you who you are and how much you're worth will give you better self-esteem. It can take a while, but I've noticed that sensitive people and empaths can often have a high level of awareness of themselves and their feelings, so you have great potential :) My own conviction about meditation is that it can be a spiritual conflict of interest, so I steer clear of it. But thinking about how much God loves me and forcing myself to believe that truth is how I'm starting to overcome my anxieties and increase my self-esteem. It gives me more confidence to put myself in fearful or anxiety-provoking situations, and to be able to endure them more, cos I can accept that the fear was unjustified. But it takes some boldness to achieve that, and to experience it for yourself. God won't do all the work for you, but He will be your strength, if you let Him.

I was always shy, but retail completely destroyed me and I've never come back from it. Trying now but it feels impossible

judith orloff has written a few books on empaths. she is a therapist for empaths. Empath's survival guide is her most popular book i believe. if you haven't read it already :)

I'm introvert and empath too and kinda absorbs the energy of people around me and sometimes even bring their energies home with me. Idk if you can relate but it is such a struggle. I really need to find a way because can't keep isolating myself every now and then.

@@maxihax2187 Funny enough I'm from Argentina, a 3rd world country LMAO. And my brethren know this to be true, so no one who has the right to get mad at it will.

Nah he tw nope not again

There is just one world. No third world countries. That's just stupid idea to defame the countries who don't exploit earth for unnecessary pleasures and comforts.

@@mohittanwar7972 Yeah, being able to walk in the streets without having a constant fear of someone murdering you, a stable economy that allows you to have food on your table every day as long as you have a job, decent infrastructure to get around and work, decent governmental authorities that don’t literally steal everything you make for themselves and let gangsters and petty thieves out in the streets, assurance that your private property won’t be just taken away by some random criminal, not having to pay anyone for “protection” not having a warlord destroying your country and people for his own entertainment and benefit and even a little bit of education are completely overrated. Shut the hell up, you having internet should be considered an unnecessary commodity by your standards, yet here you are. Being a 3rd world country doesn’t necessarily mean living in a farm buddy, it means your living standards are shit and in most of them you could easily die of starvation. Brazil has terrible living standards, is a 3rd world country and yet it polluted almost as much as the US last year. I’m not in the worst situation possible but it still isn’t great living in Latin America you know. It’s important to have differentiation, because if you don’t recognize the difference between poor ass, corrupted and exploited places on earth, who the hell’s gonna care? Hardly anyone does anything knowing how bad it is, if no one cared, some places like Africa would still be colonies.

*in your country*

we don't live once, we reincarnate until we reach perfection and merge to god's energy

It’s either you suffer through it and over come it or you die alone. Pretty easy choice eh?

@@rogermichou8654 Omfg, just let him have his moment without talking about god and all that crap

@@cheesecake5710 all that crap ?? Please God forgive this lost soul

@@rogermichou8654 I’d rather him not forgive me

same here, i'm 16 and struggling with social anxiety.

Aish you are an army, me too I also started having introvert problems ever since the internet welcomed me in its world. And it got more worse when I met bangtan cuz dude if you have bangtan on your side you don't need anyone else. And yeah that I became an introvert and stopped going out, stopped talking to people, family etc . And that was a mistake, which I am now trying to improve. Whenever I want to talk with someone even if it is important, I think thrice about going, talking, encountering the persons and I get hella nervous

Now I am here to find the solution to my problem I am afraid because socialising is an important part of life and it can affect my future, career and relations...

@Marcus 1 it's never too late!

I feel exactly the same, I feel that I'm always annoing the others. I dont know how to get rid of this thoughts, but I've been workin' on it for about a week, and its harder than I thought for sure... Putting what they say in the videos in practice is soooo scary, I cant help it, anxiety is a freakin' problem! Good luck tho, hope things go well for you mate! Cheers

Thank you! 🙏❤ Glad it helped

I am still a very extroverted person and so much that they made fun of me for being like that and it caused me a great shyness within me it was like a very crazy panic hahaha but thanks to a friend I could start to develop more, sadly today she and I are no longer friends but breaking the friendship helped me a lot to begin to be more self-sufficient

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Thanks man! Funny how videos can take off. When I filmed this I thought it sucked but I was doing a video a week and was very busy and only had time for one take. And then it got like no views for two years and then finally gained traction.

Same, small talk is just boring, pointless and waste of time, I can't understand how people can care about it

Well i just use it to get close to someone and when i am close to them, i kill them from behind

@@oomphlagwumpla650 That’s the best way. Then, it is into the car trunk they go. 🔪🩸

In internet, yes. But in real life.😔

Ooouh men, you not the only one trying to know👌🏻🙂

I wish that was me ¦)

I think it comes back to your self esteem. My advice would be that you need to surrender how others perceive and view you. Let go of giving with the expectation of receiving. Accept, love, and forgive yourself completely and you will see how other treat you will change dramatically. I dont know your situation other than this comment but I think that if you focus on loving, forgiving, and accepting yourself, nothing else will matter

I'm sat here thinking it can be a struggle being an introvert but wow thats made me think. Damn It must be twice as difficult being an extrovert with social anxiety. Hope the vid was still helpful

Same.. I live for talking to people and laughing and Im just bad at it😬

Same

Wish I didn't develop social anxiety, I don't want to be introverted☹

How are things going?

Nice!

Hey how things are going dude ??

That’s me if they avoid me and don’t want talk to me then I’ll avoid them I’m now not socializing person anymore

Joseph Stalin same here

Some of what you're saying is true, but the problem is HOW do you become confident? Hit me up on my Instagram @mrkapss I might be able to help you out

edi wow some confident people are annoying to listen to though. Just be yourself and the right people will love you for it

@@Jadedgems just be yourself is the worst and cliche advice

i dont get the joke so you would rather be fake? Ok do you 👍🏽

Nice!

Yeah being a cashier helped my confidence but I still can’t maintain conversations

but rememebr,theres a difference between shyness,and social anxiety disorder

Grace Anyango realize that more people want to see the real you and want you to see the real them. Ask them questions. Don’t worry so much about how they see you. Be goofy, be yourself, and know that nothing really matters, don’t put so much weight into what other people think of you and the conversations you have, even if they’re awkward, there’s billions of other people to talk to out there

@@Jadedgems what if you don't have a 'real you'? what if you have no idea who you are, and your ego is based on what others do. just a conglomoration/abomination that lives by 1's and 0's. Thats what i think of myself

I'm maybe too late but I suggest you to go for it ! What can you lose and if u do lose would only someone who wasn't meant to be ur friend. Also can really relate so dont push yourself to hard and do it only because you want to ;)

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I feel the same way and the sad thing is people try to have conversations with me and hangout with me but I just get so much anxiety and don’t know what to say even though I want so badly to be able to talk and laugh with people :/

im the oppsoite. I hate everybody if they arent similar to me, or proven that they shouldn't be hated by me. Call me a bad person for that all you want, but everybody else chose that for me.

Yeah this definitely wasn't long enough to be comprehensive on Self-Esteem but anything you do for yourself in a positive way will enhance your self esteem. Glad you enjoyed!

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Bridgette do you have facebook?it would be really nice to talk to you:)

Leon Mogilevsky yes I do it’s Bridgette Love

I fear not knowing what to say even if I already know the English language scares me as they might think of me

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