I love how direct she is with incompetent parents who implement poor parenting and blame and damage the children. I appreciate her advocacy for children.
What she is describing as "traditional" parenting is just bad parenting. There are many traditional parenting examples that are actually loving and healthy.
Thanks for opening my eyes dr Shefali, just listening to your talks and podcasts in the evening changed my views so much and made me understand so many things,I am forever grateful My 2 year old has a better mom because of you❤
Here is the biggest mistakes most parents make: Parents should drink more. Since kids are stressful, alcohol can help you handle the stress better. Be demanding and controlling. Children need structure in their lives. Be sure to tell your kids how worthless they are. This will keep them grounded. Never treat your children with any consistency. Get mad at them when they do what you expect, and praise them for not following your rules. Encourage your kids to be selfish, and only think about themselves. We live in this kind of world. Punish your children severely for every minor mistake. Encourage them to always follow the rules, believe everything any authority figure tells them, and not to question what officials tell them. Make sure your kids live for today. Stress the importance of instant gratification. The future is uncertain, so there is no need to worry about it. Also, let them know that they don't matter to you. Let them know what really matters is what you want, and they are lucky you had them in the first place, so they owe you, and will for the rest of their lives. Most importantly, make sure your children grow up to not care about others, but always have a good time. Most people already are this way, so why should your kids be any different? This way of parenting will be the best way to have successful, happy children in the long run...maybe not.
I knew the day my child was born that I have to take self development and healing seriusly. Like I have to stop bullshitng myself and be fucking for real. She is now one years old and there is so much I feel like I do not understand. It is like I know what not to do but dont know any other alternetive. I was raised in a conventionaly "good home", but reflecting back now when I have my child there is so much limiting belfs and behaviurs that has to be unlearned from my childhood. ❤
It takes work, it takes awareness, it takes paying attention and it takes letting go of control and needing to be righteous. And while it may seem that this is a lot of work, the joy and ease and grace that becomes available to the young person, the parent and the home, it is 100% worth every effort.
As a mother I have been told that ALL children are sponges and my children are limited by the experiences I don't provide them. My kid enjoys electronics because it's the path of least resistance to dopamine. Not the piano lessons, soccer, gymnastics, tennis, football, gardening, or painting, math parties. My kid is average. I cried because I work with average people all day who can't live day to day life and can't pay their bills on time.
