I hope you enjoyed that video, leave a lil comment for the ~ algorithm ~ and tell me about the most memorable gift you’ve ever gotten. Have a safe a happy holidays
Probably a rotten blue cokie my cousin saved for 2 whole months because she got it and remembered i liked the color blue. BTW: I love your vids. They answer the questions i ask at 2am.
I forget if it was a birthday or Christmas gift but when I was five my grandma got me a stuffed dog (I think it’s a sharpei) and he’s been my favorite stuffed animal for almost 13 years now and helps me feel more connected to her now that she’s gone
one time i was three years old and then i visited my grandparents and they gave me a dvd of shrek and that's one of my most prized possessions and they're all the way in india so i dont think they ever even knew what shrek was, they just got what seemed like a good thing to buy for a child from america so they never realized that what they got me was a the greatest movie of all time that would completely change my life
I actually write down gift ideas throughout the year. Makes things a whole lot easier, plus I sometimes stock up way early, especially if there is a sale, so by the end of the year my closet looks like Santa's secret hideout.
I do the same! I also keep a christmas list with links for myself throughout the year so I can just send people it when they ask instead of panic. It also helps makes sure you are actually getting what you want or need so less they don’t waste money, whilst keeping it kinda a surprise- especially if you have more things on your list!
Adding to that idea of "getting something they wouldn't buy themselves", I think allowing someone to indulge in a way they wouldn't normally, like the valorant gift card, cool snacks, ect. is a great gift. It's something that a person might want, but be afraid they are wasting money if they buy it for themselves. Having it as a gift completely removes that burden of guilt for indulging in something you really enjoy.
@@magikarp653 In the video Taha received a valorant gift card. I think it makes sense because Taha isn't willing to spend money on slightly changing how a video game character looks, but he would appreciate it. You don't indulge in water and air; you indulge in things you don't really need
One of the best gifts I ever got was while I was in the Navy, stuck on a ship in the middle of the ocean. A friend sent me a note, and included with the note were two fall leaves. It was a very small thing, but felt huge.
In first grade (I think it was first grade?) I remember I was gifted a DVD of Monsters Inc. (it came with a specialty toothbrush as well). I remember it very clearly because it was the first time I felt like a mature person who owned a thing. Like seeing it in among my parents' movie collection I always would know that that movie was "mine" and that that meant something about me. Kind of silly looking back on it, but I just remember that feeling being very visceral. I was like an adult because I owned a movie.
I know that feeling. I can't relate it to any specific item, but I know what you mean, almost like a level of responsibility was put on you with ownership of some 'thing'.
The 1st DVD we owned was The Emperor's New Groove and it was a gift to my sister. Wasn't even my gift and I remember it so vividly because it was so cool.
When my sister received her first ever money (it was a birthday card from my aunt with 5€ in it) she completely freaked out about it. Like, "What can I pay with it? Mommy, what can I pay with it?" I imagine it might have been for the very same reason (she wasn't yet in first grade, though).
I remember going to Build-a-Bear Workshop and getting a teddy bear, and that teddy bear was all for myself, unlike my previous teddy bears that had been shared with my sister. That was a good feeling.
The best gift I ever received were kitchen utensils and some furniture for my first apartment. The person who got it for me got most of it for free (which I was actually very happy to hear, because it was a lot of stuff) and anyways it wasn't the best gift, because of it's monetary value. It was the best gift, because she knew my parents didn't care for me, so I had no one to get these things for me and she felt that I should have someone to help me with that and decided to be that someone.
I'm sorry you have that kind of relationship with your parents, but that is so sweet your have a friend that thoughtful and caring to do something so big for you!
I missed the cicada emergence this year and was bummed about it, so my friend preserved one of the cicadas and gave it to me in a test tube. Honestly such a thoughtful gift
I feel like a lot of anxiety around this would just be… solved if we collectively just decided to not stop writing christmas wishlists as we grow older. Just write the damn list, make sure all the people you're gonna swap gifts with have access, and things will work out. If you come up with something unique and fitting that's not on the list, GREAT. But if not, you still have a fallback list of stuff the person will appreciate. And also know not to get for themselves until after christmas/birthday/whatever..
My family still does this, even though my sisters and I are all grown. It makes it soooo much easier. I understand some people may think of it as demanding, with some sort of expectation that they'll get everything on the list, but we don't expect that. It's just a list of suggestions so you know the gift you get will be appreciated and needed. I don't think you can go wrong with communication.
@@craneoflores "I don't think you can go wrong with communication." That's a great life lesson, I think. Good advice for a lot of situations in general =)
Absolutely! I’d much rather write a list for and get a list for someone else than just guessing. It takes a lot of the stress out of the equation on both sides. I’ve managed to write a few lists this year, so that they don’t overlap and I don’t get the same gift twice (I’ve managed to get two copies of the same book for Christmas one year), and everyone was so thankful when I shared the lists.
my family never stopped, and i gotta say it does make things easier. i have made a rule to always pick something from the persons list, and then a second thing that isnt on the list but is inspired by that list. it helps my anxiety to know that no matter what i got them something they actually wanted.
The two best gifts I ever got was from my BFF and then my entire group of friends. Last year a couple of weeks before my birthday I got a targeted add and found a books series from my favourite author that I haven't read before. I sent the screenshot to my BFF, joking that now my life goal was to collect all of the books in the series. Books are pretty expensive, so I planned to maybe get one book every year for the new year. But on my birthday my friend group showed up at my doorstep with a giant gift bag filled with half of the books from the series. It was a fantastic birthday present. And once on my birthday my BFF gifted me a professionally printed out version of a story I wrote, with my illustrations and comments (He asked to see my drafts and I decided to put in some comments in before sending it to him so that he'd have a more fun time reading through it, I actually thought he was just asking to see it out of curiosity). I almost cried, it was the most thoughtful gift I ever got.
Dude, your friends are made of gold. I would never be able to repay them! I can’t believe you /almost/ cried, I teared up just reading this lmao This gave me pure secondhand joy.. I’m starting to realize that I sentimentalize gifts way too hard lol
im a terrible gift receiver and thus a terrible gift giver lol. any time ive been given a gift ive been like "... what do i do with this. where do i put this. i have no use for this" LOL. im a very practical person. i if i dont NEED something or have a use for it, i dont want it proof: in college the only stuff i moved in with was my clothes, bedsheets, and laptop lol. i was the only one with out decorations or 10 pairs of shoes
I love how this channel now has 3 hosts that are so amazing in their own way. I don't find myself preferring one or another, you guys are all great and it adds so much to the channel to have the 3 of you working together. Also, the most memorable gift I've gotten was probably an amazing painting my brother found while cleaning out a house. Worst gift I've ever given: I gave my sister a comb for her birthday when I was 6 (not even a brush, just a comb)
I can’t be the only person who doesn’t like giving gifts because the mere thought of gifting something the person hates makes me wanna crawl out of my skins and die. Doesn’t make me happy or make me excited, just make me anxious from start to finish. I still get cringe attacks from bad gifts I’ve given in the past.
At least u tried, I was with someone years ago I told what I wanted, and instead he gave me something completely different, more EXPENSIVE, and I hated it!
@Julie Jay that sounds like an actual horror story oh my god! If people told me what they actually want, I would never diverge from it for a second haha
I can relate. I gave a bland key chain to someone who owns so many really good ones. They thanked me but left it exactly where I gifted them... I buried that key chain after they left. I still cringe when I think about it
When in doubt: something homemade. Even if they don't use it it's sentimental. If it's food then you pretty much can't lose. But you can also make sure it's a theme they appreciate or their favorite color so at least some aspect is what they like. I made my husband a squishy, but it's a Destiny Ghost, he doesn't squish it, but he adores it and has it on display by his desk. Don't recommend making that cause it was actually really hard and took a long time, it was just an example of someone not using something but still loving it.
I say this as a person whose anxiety and trust issues makes her resent gift-giving culture with the passion of a thousand fiery suns ... this vid helped me understand the genuinely touching reasons someone would gift me something. Receiving things will always feel like incurring a debt to me, but knowing that there's sentimentality there ... makes the immense gift-guilt I get a bit easier to handle. Thanks, man.
My goal with gift giving is to make the receiver smile, even for a moment. I'm generally garbage at finding something that's both in budget and they legitimately want/need (outside specifically asking them), so I aim to surprise. So far that method hasn't let me down.
I love being surprised. Especially if I said something earlier in the year as an afterthought and got it as a present - absolute best gifts. Surprising, thoughtful, makes you *know* the gifter cares because they managed to either remember, find something that you love without evidence you would, or both.
One of my favorite gifts was a simple hand-drawn birthday card from a girl in my class in first year of high school. I didn't think we were particularly close, but she took the time to make that card for me and write a lovely message. Fifteen years later, she is still one of my best friends
Have you considered consumables as gift ideas? Like when my mom asks what she schould bring me from her travels and I don't want any more stuff I tell her to bring me food or drinks that are special to the region. This way they don't clutter up my space, since I'll eat/drink them shortly after. But at the same time I can enjoy the surprise and my mom gets the satisfaction of communicating her love for me through this way.
When in doubt: something homemade. If you can do food, I don't think you can go wrong especially if you know what kinds of things they like. I tend to paint things or make things and even if they person doesn't use the thing for it's intended purpose it's still sentimental or on display somewhere.
I do cookie packs with teabags and little gifts tied around for work (think ornaments, key shaped bottle openers, cookie cutters, etc.) but my go to gift if I need something quick and special is always a painting.
When my friend wants something he also buys it himself. The things hes super into he also knows how to find the best items so I'm always worried I'm getting an inferior product and I have to hope he hasn't gotten it. I've gotten lucky a few times buying him something he was going to buy anyway but couldn't because it was sold out when he last checked. Gift giving is stressful.
How about giving something self made? I have a tendency to start preparing quite early and diy gifts are about the only way I can make sure I don't get something they already have. Food is particularly good imo, especially if you're not overly crafty. Other than that, once this whole pandemic situation is over, how about tickets for events?
@@BlueGangsta1958 I definitely need to get better about planning way ahead. Something self made is a great idea but I'm an artist so anything I make has got to be better than anything I've previously made and shown. I make my own stress too it seems. Event tickets are great too, that's where planning ahead is super helpful.
@@gemguardianzero > Something self made is a great idea but I'm an artist so anything I make has got to be better than anything I've previously made and shown Oh I definitely know that feeling. it is infuriatingly stressful, especially when one looks with the typical hyper-critical look at ones own art
@@gemguardianzero Reframe "better" as "uniquely suited to my friend". Reference their favorite media or an inside joke or something else that makes them feel understood and appreciated. Your professional works are intended for other people so they might be a better piece of art but they won't be a better gift compared to something made specifically for your friend.
My recommendation is to never give someone a gift relating to their hobby unless: A) they specifically asked for it, or B) you are involved in the same hobby and know about their place/skill level within that hobby. Breaking that rule, you're very likely to get them something they already have or don't need. It feels like, "I'll get them something they will use to have fun and show that I listen to them about their interests!" but in practice, the chance of hitting that sweet spot without specific knowledge of their needs/wants is unlikely
My family has a tradition that we drink orange juice and eat croissants from the supermarket for breakfast whenever someone has a birthday. super basic but when i moved out of home the thought of having breakfast on my birthday alone made me really sad and i thought it would be weird to buy those things for myself and i mentioned that to a friend ages ago and then she bought me orange juice and croissants for my birthday and it was the most thoughtful gift!
In my friend/family circle we straight up ask each other what we want for Christmas/birthdays. Saves a lot of time and stress on the givers end, and the receiver gets better gifts! Then if we can we often throw an extra surprise or two in there, often something little like chocolate or socks
I made a thing for a friend once, and she said it's the best gift she's ever gotten because she's crafty herself and knows I spent a fair bit of time on it. It doesn't have to be expensive, it just has to be full of love. 🖤
Taha: Is this lotion too? Sabrina: It's liquid smell! ... that line killed me 😂 Taha is completely oblivious about this stuff, and Sabrina perfectly translated it to him 😂
Minimalist presents idea cheat - consumables. Get them a really fancy bath set (all consumable items), luxury or a large version of their favourite food or something. Example: my mother isn't a minimalist in name, but she hates clutter, is very specific about her toiletries, and hates having to go shopping herself instead of sending someone else for daily mundane things like food etc - so I got her a MASSIVE refill jug of her favourite body wash. Now, she doesn't have to go buy any for the entire year and she's got the exact version she likes, and all I had to do was check her empty bottles when I cleared the bathroom bins/recycling 😅 for friends etc, ask them what food they'd buy if they could get ANYTHING, or their absolute favourite consumable product etc, and go from there. You can also flip this into the eco-friendly side and get them a little box of shampoo/etc bars to try, or other zero-waste/eco friendly items that are a bit pricy when you first invest in them, but last way longer - just ask if they'd be interested/have a preference (eg I hate metal straws bc they hurt my teeth, so silicone or bamboo straws r best for me)
Honestly, some of the most memorable gifts I've received are nice practical things that I wouldn't have thought to get for myself, or wouldn't know how to choose (I tend to buy based on *~aesthetics~*). My partner got me a waterproof portable speaker once because he saw I was listening to podcasts on my phone while I showered, and that was one of the best gifts I've ever gotten.
For Christmas (and some bdays), my closest friends just send each other amazon links with a price cap of around 10bucks. It keeps things fun, simple and we are all having a good *non stressful* time to end the year on! In my family, we do secret santa so you only have to buy 1 thing instead of 5 but therefore you can put more thought/money into it and everyone gets one nice thing instead of 5 semi-useless semi-gimmicky items. It's soo much easier this way and nobody is upset because they weren't "surprised" or got "so many" presents!
This video is a life saver. I get gifts for people year round because I like seeing them happy that someone was thinking of them. It makes holiday gifts very difficult because there's the added pressure of "you need to get a gift, otherwise you're saying that you didn't care enough about them." Most gift guides I've seen don't go about the logic process of it and I've already figured out three gifts for people within minutes after watching this. Thank you so much!
My grandma got me a star wars action figure set when I turned 8. It would be the last gift she gave me, I still have some of them but I lost a few over the years
Loved the video. Loved the gifts you came up with for Sabrina and Tahaa. Now for a video on gift receiving. Like other commenters, we struggle to accept gifts. Whether its 1) too expensive/cheap 2) we don't think we deserve it 3) it's not what we want 4) the gift is accidentally (or on purpose) insulting 5) we don't know how to use it 6) we don't have a use for it 7) its clutter or 8) we don't know how to respond/reciprocate... What do we do?
I finally WRAPPED up my Christmast card project from last year - I painted them, thought I had sent them out... Turns out I put them away and forgot to send them😱
i really like making food as a gift! it shows you took the time and love into making something, it doesn't have to be expensive, and it won't take up any unnecessary space in their home bc hopefully they'll have eaten it :)
Hey Melissa, this has to be one of your, (perhaps THE), BEST vid ever! Thoroughly enjoyed :-) So, one of the most memorable gifts that I have ever received was when my friend thought to combine my ritual for tea from a teapot with my admiration for Van Gogh = Starry Night-painted tea-for-one pot 😍
As a guy trying to keep my apartment tidy and *really* struggles to achieve it reliably, I need to avoid additional clutter like the plague. I'm not really a minimalist, but thanks gor making the point that minimalists probably don't want items, stuff, baubles and doodads. Believe me when I say you don't need to give me a doohickey in a box.
people always say I give the best gifts, and i never realised that is what i do most of the time I just give something that the person either wants or dont even know they want it (usually bc they dont know it exists, haha)
Algorithm!!! This was a very lovely video!!!! The most memorable gift I’ve ever gotten has definitely gotta be my button maker >:) I have an obsession with the click clacks of buttons and so my parents knew exactly what to get me for my birthday!! I love them sm!!
My step-brother got me a dragon necklace with a pearl that I had to get out from a clam or oyster (don't remember what they're in) and it made my Christmas. He got it for the dragon and didn't even realize the pearl was going to absolutely take me away. I loved it so much and I still wear it from time to time. Sad part is, he doesn't remember giving it to me, and his gifts from last year are the ones that are lasting the longest XD
I always want the gifts I give to reflect my personality, so that the person thinks "Only you could have given me this." I like gifts to allow me to try new things without spending my own money on them. I might not end up liking it, but I appreciate that i got to try it out.
I have actually been very very subconscious of what I got for gifts whether or not they would like it or not, and most of the time I ended up making some DIYs so for me this video is like the perfect roadmap for a gift, really helpful and enjoyable video 💥
When I graduated from college a good friend of mine gave me an index card notebook and the first 1/4th of it was filled with really beautiful and thoughtful handwritten notes. Such a small thing but still holds such sentimental value.
I was taught, as a child, to give a gift that shows that I pay attention to the recipient. You did that here and it was beautiful. A friend just had a birthday last month and she didn't need a thing. But I know she loves a certain brand of popcorn that's hard to find in our stores, so I scoured all the stores for a few days until I had 10 bags and that was her gift. She loved it!
"something that somebody really really wants but for some reason will not actually buy" I think that, for people who have the financial means, that "some reason" is often just that they don't think they're worth the thing. Like Sabrina likes smells, but doesn't think she's worth smelling nice. (Blame capitalism, childhood trauma, or whatever for our issues of self-worth.) Buying someone that thing tells them that you think they *are* worth it, which is I think part of what makes a great gift so special.
One trick is to collect a list throughout the year. Come an important event, refer back to the list. Write down 1) anything you've seen that they want 2) anything they say they want 3) anything in the right category for their interests that you've seen (maybe they like computers, and tech gadgets. If you can't find a gadget, get them a cable organizer)
yknow, I thought this would be helpful and at the end the answer was like... the friends we made along the way sorta vibe. the answer was within me this entire time. Im literally knitting my best friend a blanket because theyd think its cool. no other reason. we're both materialist nerds. they get me plushies of various animals to clutter my desk with more named personifications of fluff, and I hand knit them various things they already have higher quality versions of that dont fall apart at the seams because the only chunky yarn I have falls apart after being handled too much. beautiful friendship
Some of the best gifts have been kitchen stuff I really needed: a good poffertjes (dutch treat) pan and a set of pretty knives. Also, socks, always socks!!!
this! my girlfriend's family has made it a rule to not gift each other household items and i find it sooo frustrating. I have 100 good gift ideas for myself and others but they are all household items. honestly i would prefer receiving those over most gifts i end up getting instead.
This year for Christmas my mother asked me what I wanted because I am a full fledged adult now and she has no idea what to get me. I used the opportunity to ask for a bag I have wanted for months but did not get because I knew I would feel bad spending the money for it. (Even though I really needed a new bag because my old one is literally falling apart.) We should normalise straight up asking people tbh.
I use bookmarks a lot for my personal and school life, so I have a folder specifically for gift ideas in case I come across anything while on the internet that a person close to me would like/love. By the time a birthday or event rolls around, my bookmarks reminds me of stuff I completely forgot about and may also inspire a new gift idea.
I once gave my brother a presentation, as in he was required to sit down on his own birthday and listen to me babbling lol but I think he kinda liked it
This was so damn cute, idk. I love all you guys. I think I like the conclusion of "buy them something they really want but for whatever reason are not buying for themselves". I think the best way to get someone something they like and not breaking the bank is to show you pay attention to what they want and what they like. Like "oh, you actually payed attention that one time I said my favorite childhood movie was x?" That's priceless, and I think the video did an excellent and more coherent job in displaying this.
Aw a cool and relatable video! I definitely won't ever forget the care packages my best friend sends me. It being multiple small items satisfies my goblin-like fascination with little piles of treasure
I’m obsessed with John Mulaney and the Sack Lunch Bunch, and for Christmas last year, my friend sewed me an iron-on patch of the logo. One of my top gifts
I am terrified of giving bad gifts, but I'm also terrified of receiving bad gifts because of how anxious that would make me. I don't ever want anyone to feel bad, but sometimes my face refuses to hide emotions. I get SUPER specific with wish lists and I ask the same from my friends and family. It might take the surprise out of it sometimes, but everyone is always happy and I don't have a panic attack.
Thanks for putting this together! This was really sweet to watch. This year one of my best friends got me an early Christmas gift of a video message to me from a voice actor that I love. It's something I never would have reached out to get on my own, so that made it even more special and exciting when she sent it to me!
I'm so lucky that I never grew up with the expectation of giving or receiving gifts. All presents I have ever received or given are because someone wants to say something about our relationship. It's so good being able to skip all the obligatory ones!
My mind always just...breaks...when making Christmas lists for myself or trying to brainstorm ideas for my friends, so I've taken to creating a Google doc to write down things that I want when I come across them and things my friends want when the mention them offhand. That way I've got a bunch of concrete ideas and vague concepts alike for holidays, birthdays, anniversaries, etc. It hasn't completely relieved the stress, but it has helped quite a bit! Also, when in doubt, I say make/buy them food. Everyone eats food, and it's usually not awkward to flat out ask people about their favorite snacks, so it's a nice way to surprise them without the risk of whether or not they'll actually like or use it!
Oh, 100% write things down during the year as you think of them. It's also nice to get things on layby or other delayed payment plan so that you can space costs out over time, rather than all at once. Honestly, the financial aspect is one reason why I'm almost always prepared at Christmas - I know I'm not going to be able to afford it otherwise!
The ending message when your giving love language is giving gifts: 🤭😮😧🙁 (I say people have two love languages, one is for giving people your love and the other is for receiving love. My giving love language is giving gifts but when people give me gifts personally I feel awkward. My receiving love language is physical affection but I tend to forget to ask for hugs or initiate stuff like that)
When I saw the title of this video I knew it was a video for me; gift giving has always stressed me out. This video was a sweer watch and lowered my stress so thank you for that. For my favourite gift I have ever gotten, it would have to be my Winnie the pooh bear that I git when I was two. I still have him, and sleep with him. That bear has been my friends thro out my life , and got me thru alot of pain. He may be falling apart and dirty, with stufing coming out but I love him so very much
My list this year: a pot to eat my ramyun while keeping it hot (slow eater), a transparent cup/bottle cause mine is too old and the water is starting to taste funny but I have a hard time drinking water from the colored or opaque ones, a glass box like those terrarium ones cause I’ve being in rising my crystals and lil candles collection but don’t have a neat place to put them, an apple gift card for random apps and an iPad case cause mine was failed victim to my cat (still works, but is cracked). None of this screams “wow perfect gift!” but are all things that would make me happier but are far on the priority list.
This just reminded me that next month would be my and my husband's wedding anniversary. My husband is very much like Sabrina. He has enough money to buy everything he needs and wants. So whenever ai think of some ideas to gift him, he would go ahead and buy before I could. So now I'm running out of ideas. Also, he's not the type of person who likes sentimental things like letters, pictures, etc. so that's also out of the list.
I've found out in recent years that gift giving is one of my love languages that I enjoy exploring. It's fun to be a bit of a sleuth and figure out what a good gift might be. Perhaps that's the over-thinker in me finding a way for me to use my analysis for good.
I give gifts like I speak. To the point, and with no fanfare I gave my best friend a Christmas gift immediately after I bought it(it wasn't Christmas) and he had just taken me camping the week prior, where I noticed he didn't have a shawl. Btw I got him a shawl
One of my fave memorable gifts was a pink solar-powered calculator that I got as a four year old in the late 80s. 😂 It's hard to remember more recent gifts that were from wish lists I made. Though I do really like this fidget necklace my sister found for me & a book from my brother of insta comics I really like! Unexpected just because gifts are quite memorable, as are some basic socks my mom recurrently gave me each year knowing I'd otherwise overlook replacing them and wear mine until the soles were so threadbare as to be non-existent. Funny enough, now after her death, I'm very attached to some particular holey/threadbare socks.
awww that was so wholesome T.T another type of amazing gift you could give someone is an experience! my personal favorite gift that I have ever gotten was a series of surprise celebrations from friends and a giant card with multiple tiny letters from different friends (during my bday) - it's a memory I will definitely treasure and remember ~
My little tip is that think about what kinda problems the receiver has, and think if you can give something that will solve that problem. For example if they complain about their pillow being bad quality, then you can get a new pillow. One of the best gifts I got was the tangle teezer for my friend who had very long hair and she loved it :)
The best gift I have ever gotten was a handmade collage of fotos and short sweet notes of trips etc. me and my friend went on. I love getting personal cards/ letters. (Or just food - always food.) But reading through the comments has made it quite clear that the "best" gift is individual to the person. As long as it's thoughtful and from the heart I don't think you can go wrong. Great video as always!
I have had a history of trying to give good gifts. I have had moderate success, with some real standouts. This year, i kinda forgot that i had to get my family presents, so im now planing them out. This video was very useful
