How to Get Over the Fear of Responsibility 

I recently started holding myself personally responsible with commenting on my favorite creator’s content and videos to help them get the recognition they deserve. I used to passively watch RU-vid, and it was because I lacked confidence that the commentary I might put on the internet for all to see would look silly or I’d somehow feel too seen for comfort. 👀 It sounds small, but knowing that I can practice little things like this, and simultaneously add support to who l want to give it to (in this case, It’s amazing RU-vidrs like you, Teal ♡) by boosting your like count, comments and algorithm chances allows me to experience a small increase in confidence every time I do it! And inspires breaking down bigger doors of responsibility. I love you, you’re such a powerful and wise mentor. I wish for you everything!

When I was young I used to be so afraid of getting a job, I mean profoundly terrified. I still have this issue to this day. Someone told me that I had a fear of people and that resonated with me. I was so afraid of going out there. My dad kicked me out after I finished college, I moved in with my sister and got a job that I hated then got kicked out again. I moved in with other people and I had gotten better and had more positive experience however I knew I was still carrying my fears and I wasn’t happy because I was working jobs that I hated. I eventually figured out how to improve my life by working as a private piano teacher and I made a living doing that. But now due to COVID I moved back and after three months of living with my family, I have found out yesterday that my family is selling the house, and now I am feeling that feeling of facing the fear of being responsible for my life. As I write this I can feel my eyes tearing up and I am so scared because I’d rather have someone take care of me so I can be free and focus on my art like I used to when I was younger, I feel afraid to go out into the world, but I just need to be brave and go through it.

this is some good ass shadow work

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Synchronicity on this one... i need to take responsibility. "Resonsibility comes with awareness" Osho.

Love you Teal. Life is so much better with you. I am so thankful and lucky to have a teacher to guide my healing journey. Just knowing that whenever I am lost, I can listen to your teachings and cope with the situation empowers me. Thank you You are such a brilliant teacher that every soul needs💗

We have to take charge of our own life, otherwise someone else will do that for us. Much love🙌🏻💚

For example being to forced to clean up by a parent who themselves is a slob and makes most of the mess.

Your awesome 👌 love from the UK

I hugely fear taking financial responsibility for my life. My body was seriously contracting during this video 😬😖😩

This video hit home with me. I feel like if I don’t keep working a high paying stressful job just to have expensive cars/home that I am a failure to my family. I want to downsize, live minimalistic and do volunteer work. Having to take antidepressants and anxiety meds daily just to function is not living.

I HATE competition when someone constantly tries to be better than you and will put you down in order to feel better about themselves. I can understand it in the appropriate context, like a competitive board game, but even then, some adults go into a full blown outrage, flipping the table over and shouting or whatever...

I relate to this issue, sometimes we grow up with parents who puts us down because they have an inner sense of failure and because of pride don't want us to be seen as "better", so they make sure to destroy our self confidence

you feel very "airy" today. like freedom. This might be the video that touched me the most. almost everything you said about this is something that i've struggled with. pretty much spot on. i bulldozed the hell out of myself because i feel like not taking responsibility will result in pain or being looked down on or disconnection. and it feels disgusting to take responsibility like this. i know i always wanted to take responsibility and be empowered. i remember having fantasies about that but knowing that it's impossible. because of all these inexplainable , indescribable "things" in the way. (which is the things you described) and yeah.. definitely true about the conflict part. i avoid conflict completely because that means game over. that means disconnection forever. i see it as something like that. and if i am identified with the relationship with the person or with the other person , it's even worse.

Jordan peterson says responsibility makes your life more meaningful and therefore meaning will make you feel truly happy.

First one to comment feels like too much responsibility

Ugh I feel this one SO deeply. I am literally all of the different scenarios combined in one. My entire life feels like one huge test in which I need to prove that I am capable when I feel like the polar opposite and then get judged on it! The pressure is having me spiral into panic on the daily. It’s so deeply programmed that whenever I DO try to take responsibility, I create some kind of scenario that puts me straight back into dependency. It’s wild y’all, I am working on it 💪🏼💥

Do you ever get the feeling that some of the people who need your message the most, absolutely refuse to listen to you? I know one.

This makes me think about this frase i once heard. Responsibility is the ability to respond. Which helped me to look differently towards the idea of responsibility. Gave me a much freeër interpetation. Plus after hearing your words on the subject., it makes me want to look deeper into it. So thank you.

Omg , i was feeling fear of responsibility to become a supervisor and this video show up

Personal accomplishments builds confidence. By completing one simple task in your personal life builds your confidence in take on more and more responsibilities. I learned that years ago after I lost my identity in my first marriage and I voiced that during and through the end of my second marriage. However, I got SO effective at taking on responsibility in my life that others began allowing me to take on THEIR responsibilities. Which now causes me to avert responsibility. My focus is more my OWN personal responsibilities. Tough love can appear like avoiding responsibility, but sometimes to prevent feeling like you HAVE to take on responsibilities you don't HAVE to, you got to say NO regardless of the outcome or threat of conflict. Responsibility REALLY IS a choice. I'm the person in this video who averted responsibility because self sacrifice didn't equal reward in my life but in others. So now, I comfortably CHOOSE what responsibility to take on and when there are concerns about those responsibilities, I firmly address them with the intent to find the best plan of action to execute those responsibilities with a 'win-win' outcome.

For me, I feel like responsibility is kind of like a snowball rolling down a hill. At first you can control it but the more that you do the more that is expected of you. And for me it always eventually falls apart. I don't like when people expect things of me because eventually they'll be disappointed. It doesn't seem to matter if I explain to them in the first place that I have difficulty keeping on top of things and staying organized. I guess for me it's always felt like the first time I disappoint someone they just give up on me outright and if I want another chance it's this whole thing. Even the dentist is like this. If I missed two appointments without giving 24 hour notice then I get suspended and my cavities grow for months... But of course if it snows even a little bit they can cancel on me with no notice. I feel like this attitude has been reflected to me in every aspect of my life. I have honest memory issues as well as executive functioning issues. It's impossible that I won't eventually fail and I feel like I'm willing to accept that but I honestly feel like other people are not and I don't know how to change this. I'm really not happier without responsibility though because everyone treats me like I'm incapable which I'm not. I'm just a little more likely to fail than most people if things aren't set up right.

The writing exercises in this helped me release so much tension and discover a lot of the roots of my trauma. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! 💜💜

I was JUST telling a friend during a hike that I love children and really want them but I can’t take the responsibility of having a partner or kids. This was meant for me

i am highly confident and capable, but taking responsibility leads to a loss of freedom and I have big issue with that. Just because you can do something doesn’t mean you should. It’s not just low self-confidence

teal is great and everything but last time I bought a meditation through her website there was a techincal difficulty and I didn't receive it her team didn't take any responsibility I reached out to them through emails taking away all my time by writing emails checking them over and over again and re writing email, im still waiting on those 2 meditations I piad for , and the problem remains in resolved I can't contact the team and I'm left cold

I've always had this sinking feeling when taking responsibility and even when playing competitive games, I had panic attacks from it, I never knew what it was now I'll try to be more conscious and analyze what's is going on instead of bulldozing lol thank you so much

I don't need to take responsibility for anything. I'm God.

I've started this video when it was posted in 2020, but then closed it due to the overwhelming emotions that started to bubble up. I had extremely low self-esteem, and I felt powerless about it. Healing my self worth felt daunting and never ending. But today, I'm watching this video as an empowered individual. I can look at this wound in the eye and I won't be shaken anymore. I can hold space for myself without feeling overwhelmed. It took me lots of ups and downs, tons of shadow work and inner child work, and I'm finally here again to be fully present this time. Whomever is reading this, and need a reminder or hope, it's doable. As Teal says all the time, "the better it gets, the better it gets". Don't give up on yourself.

wow spot on ...fear of owning my life what a concept , and it just when I thought everything was going well. I need to take piles of responsibilities. Thank you very much Teal for everything you do.

"Feeling the can and will in any given situation in your life is sth you DESERVE to experience! and that empowerment can be yours the second that you actually realize or ACTUALIZE the COURAGE to shoulder the emotional burden or the pressure that comes with responsibility!" ❤️❤️❤️ OMG, what a divine timing ! Teal, I felt that it was a divine message came to me through you❤️! Thank you from the bottom of my heart 🙏 🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️

Im screaming I was JUST writing about this. THANK YOU!

*I don't refuse to take responsibility. I refuse to take sole responsibility. I'm partly responsible, yes; but not entirely responsible. There are others who have refused to accept any responsibility at all, which is very unfair to me. It's unjust to ask me to shoulder all the responsibility. This notion can be called 'shared responsibility'. My psychological problem is that throughout my life I have chronically burdened myself with too much responsibility. I'm the person who wrongheadedly takes responsibility for everybody, a/k/a - the scapegoat. I take responsibility for the well-being of strangers, of people I've never met, people who don't know I exist and couldn't give a hoot what happens to me.*

Teal how do you know I need this- I-

Teal really called out our whole generation lol

Thank you Teal this is the main thing that’s been inhibiting my growth this year. For me it was growing up doing chores for my perfectionist Virgo mum 😅

Everyone, trauma or not, needs to take responsibility for their lives. Nobody else can do that for someone. Most of us want to help others whenever we can, but not if nothing ever changes. We all need to fix our own crap so we aren't sucking the life out of others when they try to help.

🧮💃🏻🧧💃🏻🧮💃🏻🧧💃🏻🧮 Replay ! One of ur best videos Teal. Never take it off RU-vid 02:40 Reasons for fear of responsibility 08:28 Reason : You took responsibility in your life for something in past which didn’t lead to improvement in life (no reward ) True.. like weight loss and failures in love. 10:35 in my case it’s basically “fear of putting in the effort and money and not getting the desired results.. leading into DISAPPOINTMENT 😔” 10:58 Reason : the FEAR of PAST repeating and and FAILING ONCE MORE .

Needed exactly this right now🙏Thank Youuu❤❤

Taking responsibility helps one to take account of their karmic dividends. Be a wise karmic investor

Hello guys. I know it has nothing to do with the video but please can someone explain me what does seeing crowns everywhere means? I am literally seeing crowns everywhere. In móveis, in people with tatoos, in propaganda, in videos etc. But I am not dreaming with crowns, only seeing it everywhere 👑 what does It means?

Yep under pressure & conflict are both of my biggest issues

wow, lots of coincedences here...firstly this came up as I was applying for a promotion with more responsibility, and secondly I'm working on my first album which is called....Arcturus..

Is she single ? I'm in love with her. I'm just 28 and I won't even mind the age gap ❤️❤️❤️❤️

Thank you Teal 👏👏👏👏

I have been heavily traumatized. The friend of the one who did things to me told me that it was my fault because I haven`t done anything to make him not traumatizing me....so therefore what has happened to me is my responsibility..... this is a level of..... don`t even have a word for it to describe what I feel now..

This is a vibrational match to my Reality because I believe in miracles🤩

That's so weird! I was just writing about this last night :) Thank you

I work as a nurse and I feel so responsible for my patients. Today will be my first work day after 3 weeks having Corona, and I felt this morning so anxious about getting back to work, because at my work almost everyone has Corona, so I'm the only one on my work. I needed this video so much now, thank you so much!!!! I feel way better to go work now.

I would love a video about the negative side effects of suppressing your Emotions (longterm, short term). I think it will help people understand the importance to tune into their emotions even more. I would love to know. X

This links into drinking alcohol to build confidence...Jordan Peterson and Teal Swan podcast PLEASE!!!!

More importantly I love that woman and I hate Ancestry.com because you are the people who made that actually possible.

this was meant for me as well. I would really appreciate if you could elaborate on the competition aspect a bit more. I have always felt that me being "better" has alienated people. I have always lived small in fear.

I had to overcome the fear of responsibility when clicking on this video.

Your amazing Teal. Totally under the radar, I wish more people could appreciate and recognize the great work you do. Thank you for continuing to speak the truth without compromising it to fit our egos. I will keep trying to spread the word about your work!

Just had a argument with my partner about Responsibility in our relationship! So Thank you for answers to that. A question remains for me: Is it also possible that the lack of Responsibility comes from watching your parents being that way and comes from creating a kind of connection to a rejected family member who was/ is that way? Thank you for an answer

I cant express how much I love you right now through a comment. I have been searching for a year and a half( when I started my spiritual jurney) for a feeling and I've been searching and searching and I've grown is so many ways but I never found this feeling that intuitively I knew I was looking for. I thought I've found it so many times but you know how intuition works. So I kept looking and looking. Once you brought up the tennis and taking care of siblings(in which I did have to do) you said that taking responsibility for my own siblings didn't benefit my but my parents did benefit thats when it clicked I've finally found the feeling. I can't thank you enough you have helped me grow so much. So thank you

Thank you so much. When I watch your videos I always feel that you're /helping/ me, however hard it is to sometimes face the things you dissect. I can feel the intention of help in your videos, even if it's worded harshly sometimes. I'm very grateful for you being you and posting these videos. They have a big impact on me. Thanks!!

Love ya teal🙏❤️❤️❤️

Thank you so much 🙏 as always on divine timing🕊. Love you so so much⚡ 💖⚡ reconnective frequencies from Germany 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟

I love your videos, they re so complete with deep subjects ! Nothing to add, Amen

This is so synchronistic Teal, wow, this was a great video. Oh my god have i struggled with this my entire life, fear of responsibility has truly been the bain of my life and root of so much stuckness which I have literally just this week hit a total brick wall with. You are so right that the fear is not of responsibility itself at all it is of the negative consequences involved in taking it that occurred in childhood. Even the word responsibility triggers me as I hear it as if its being spoken by the people with whom I could never win or do right with, just like your millennial wound video!!. I haven't realised just how bad my fear was until recently, I'm having to try and face it now in order to move forward even an inch. I was heavily criticised as a child and felt so humiliated and worthless and incompetent all the time, the list goes on, eventually this led to utter futility and stuckness and then feeling like such a failure for being stuck on top of the original fears. If I dare to put a foot forward i would feel this terror of the impeding humiliation arising and criticism and "I told you so's" so i would just retract and hide in my shell because I thought I can't do anything right, it will always be wrong and I will always be left feeling so small and stupid that I stopped trying altogether and just hid as best I could from life and people. I am 30 now and still struggling with this, its my toughest hurdle by far. This childhood scenario has led to so much self hate that you stop even wanting to live let alone take responsibility. I think the best way I've found to tackle this is inner child work, and feeling that if I look at a picture of myself then I can't hate her or feel she is wrong as much as I can do that to my adult self. I go back and try to undo all the blame i placed on myself and find underneath all the dark layers those parts of myself that were truly me and not total emeshment and self-abandonment. In order to want to take responsibility you have to first want to live, and second love yourself enough to want to move forward and be brave. Thanks Teal 😊 I really hope that soon I can see you live again! Lots of love to you, thank you xxxxx

Thank you teal really appreciate all the help and insight

Reminds me of teals video of Instant belong and belonging

Oh my God! This is amazing! Thank you sooo much for putting this content together.

Funny enough, I like being responsible for my actions. On the other hand, I am still terrified of making mistakes or being wrong about something. I'm scared about changing my mind because then I might be called a hypocrite. The question I have is this: how do I balance out being responsible for my own actions and not taking on feeling responsible for the actions of others and blaming myself? I do know that this is a confidence issue, however it is sometimes hard to determine the fine line between "me" and "them".

I feel scared before I start doing anything

I can finally digest this information now that I have a better relationship with myself. I'll be watching this multiple times while I journal and pray. Thank you 😊

I've watched this one more than I should lol 💯

The fact that this is resonating with me rn is✨magical✨

This video has helped me so much, I appreciate the wisdom you have to share.

I like the Cause and Effect that was explained clearly. Thanks Teal 🙏❤

Was just thinking about you

When you gave the example of stepping in and taking responsibility for doing something I felt confident I could do... I noticed immediately that I would have the “out” of being able to say it wasn’t my job anyway I was being the “hero”. I grew up believing that fault and responsibility were the same thing. It’s very difficult to undo. Thanks Teal!

Exceptional video...awareness with resolutions in a a flow of wise formation.😻💖🤓

Perfect video, perfect timing :)

I have ever related to one of your videos more than I relate to this one. Practically every word is true for me!!!!

Wow I didn't know how much I needed this video and teaching - always at the right time, as ever! Thank you 💕

With great responsibility comes great power. It is the terror of having to accept that the bad things in life were one's fault. People never get the power to fully control the good in life so long as they give power over the bad to others. We are either in control of events in our lives or we are not. We fear accepting that we have caused the bad, or at least taken a big part in everything bad in our adult lives. The ego does not like this idea at all

Thank you Teal, I really needed this insight right now.

I have found out recently that my fear of responsibility lied upon my financial stability and avoiding becoming broke. What I have learned so far was that as a kid and my early teenage years, my mother would take a portion of whatever money I have earned from my part-time job working as a cashier and overall took control over my finances. Some cases she would take all if it and gave the "justified" reason that it was for the family expenses (mortgage, groceries etc) that it was my job in other words from being born into the family that I must pay for my mere existence. I hardly got to enjoy the fruits of my own hard work and the responsibility I was forced to make the money was to benefit her through contributing to the mortgage which was her main argument. When I explained any unfairness about that obligation that was forced upon me, it was met with animosity and I was reinforced the idea and belief that if I dont contribute, I am a selfish inconsiderate, neglectful daughter. Also, that money buys you respect but only short term. Whenever I do contribute to the family, I was able to earn not being treated like garbage but that only lasted so long before I would get treated bad again until suddenly it didn't matter if when I contribute or not, that didn't make much of a difference in the way I was treated. This video hit hard for me but I am so grateful for this clarity in seeing where this issue with money comes from. I got a lot of healing work to do 🙄. Thank you so much Teal!! 💕

Thank you teal I’ve been trying to deal with this lately 💕

I like how sometimes you deviate from or improvise compared to the script, or better put the written article. It shows how written language while more coherent is often trumped by the authenticity and flow of the spoken word. article: While it is hard for someone who feels disempowered to feel the CAN and WILL in any given experience, that CAN and WILL is something that you deserve to experience. That empowerment can be yours as soon as you recognise in yourself the courage to carry the emotional burden that comes with taking responsibility. video: While it is hard for someone who feels inherently disempowered to feel the CAN and WILL in any given situation, feeling the CAN and the WILL in any situation in your life is something you deserve to experience. And that empowerment can be yours the second that you actually realize or actualize the courage to shoulder the emotional burden, or the pressure that comes with (taking) responsibility.

I felt that By not saving her I wasn’t her savior. But fights don’t end until your enemy is dead.

I have huge anxiety over caring for my two boys. I don't feel I'll be able to cope. I've blamed myself for feeling this way but it's only now that I'm making the connections of my high levels of anxiety and the abuse that I've been exposed to by their father. He has continously used my children to inflict abuse and control including finding toxic ways to point out that I'm not a good mother. I've realised that after years of these constant put downs, insults and attacks, I have no confidence in being able to manage the responsibilities. I'm now focusing on repairing the damage and being able to take care of my children again. Thank you for this video, I really needed to hear this.

Nice hairstyle!

Teal, what would "falling in love" mean? I understand all your teachings and I love them ❤ Just wanted to know what would you say on "falling in love". It happens. I have felt it but I have no damn idea what it is

Love your teachings! And your energy in this video was so grounding

On Saturdays I wake up now waiting to see what Teal's going to talk about and I prayed that it was something that I could really use in my life which is usually every Saturday her talks this morning was really powerful I gained a totally new perspective on responsibility and had no idea how much fear I was living in as a result of not taking responsibility I always thought I was a very responsible person and I am but there's a lot of areas where I live in fear of that and didn't put the two and two together wow thank you Teal again I learned so much from you all of your videos have been so pertinent to my life right now I've been leaving listening to some of your old ones the synchronization workshops they've been really powerful and sometimes painful but in a good way bless you. ❤️

You have so much insight, it is really enjoyable to listen and there are some epiphanies, even for a guy like me who's been around the block a few times. For me, fear of taking responsibility came from fear of losing freedom. I since took responsibility for find my own work (self employment) and it has permanently freed me from taking responsibilities for employers. I now say yes (or no) to customers.

This is exactly where I have been struggling with for a while now. In my dreams they tell me to take responsibility however I feel and say thinks to myself like. If I take responsibility I get puniest. and if I get something for myself I get puniest as well.. I also have my hole life troubles with my self confidence. . however I have noticed that in some areas i don't mind taking responsibility and in most cases I don't see it as taking responsibility.

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It's ashame that some people think asking for help is already admitting defeat, when really it's the first step towards victory. I feel like men in particular have felt discouraged for asking for help.

Teal you have taught me to relax more and stop being so hyper responsibie. We love you thanks 4 all you do. We shout out your new book. 👍🌈👑💖🙏🇮🇹🎊👑💍 The book resonated with us in game development the term completionist. Dad still self harms at the Geri floor is inconsolable. I wish i didn't feel 40 and 70 at the same time.

Video on this would make us happy: How can you start a tribe? We need many more of these in the world.... especially with real estate costs

I know this video is old, but oh my gosh. I'm LOVING the hair. You've always had beautiful hair, but you''re flowing with the change you made!

Remember Our Minds can trick us to think Our lies are the truth you better not blink cause facing denial takes work every day Time to reflect on what is at play Our fears our dreams our past our traumas We blossom together through dramas of karmas We then can relax as we think of the harm We must balance out with the seeds that we farm ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-pw2gpXF9mSU.html

My childhood was... a troubled one. Until I was like 7 years old, I lived with both of my parents. I can't remember much of the happy times anymore though. What I remember the most... was the breakup. My parents divorced, a chaotic divorce. I felt heavy depression ever since. I went with my mother, to live with my Grandma. My mother had to work, so I stayed with my grandma and my baby sister, born a little before the divorce. My grandma constantly gaslighted me and pushed me into doing things for her, taking her responsibility, and constantly shoved in my and my mother's face that if it weren't for her, we wouldn't have anything or anywhere to live. At that time, my grades started to decline. When I went to stay with my father for a time, the time I wished to just take a break, during one of my vacations... he forced me to study math. He forced responsibility in me as a punishment. I already wasn't the biggest fan of math, but ever since, I despised math. And I despised having to study. Still do, to this day. Okay, I then came back. I started to become more easily distracted from studying and paying attention. I took a course to try study abroad, and I could have easily done it... but I failed. Why? My own airheaded nature killed my chances as I didn't answer calls or wrote my name on presence lists. I felt... absolutely miserable. It was my fault. Again, piling up to my already big aversion to taking responsibility, since everyone in my family was disappointed in me. I also failed to enter a better school because I didn't study. Again, disappointment. My mind nowadays has a huge fear of even trying for prolonged periods. A fear of failing because of one small detail I forget. Taking the plunge and missing because of a mere centimeter. If I try, my mind blocks and freezes me, forgets, and gives up on the starting line. And I feel miserable for that. People my age already have jobs. Meanwhile I am at university, treating it not as an opportunity but as a chore to do. It's... painful. And I don't like myself for that.

This really surprisingly out of all your videos, made me weep and discover what is keeping me stuck.Thank you.

I wanna see why for myself. . . Come visit. You can get an ip You're driven. . Your name's not Brandy :)