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This guy needs to understand the guys hitting on her aren't the problem. The problem lies solely on whether or not she's entertaining them, and if she is, that means she's the problem.
well guys hitting on his gf is problem because if the guys know him and his gf still hit on her its 101%disrepectfull to him they arent really considering him anything and respect is everything for most man
It is irrelevant whether she is entertaining them. If you are unbothered by it, she will know. Chances are she’s done other things that would make a solid, stand-up guy think twice about her, and possibly even walk away a few times. If you are that type of guy, she will cancel the bullshit right quick. If you’re not, you’re not. There’s no shame in it.
I disagree if its family, friends, or neighbors. Its disrespectful and should be addressed, not a police restraining order but go tell him to square up beat the shit out of eachother grab a beer and get the fuck on with your life. Don't use violence as a way to dominate use it to communicate what words cannot your value and right to respect.
@@matthewnelko not sure what your comment says because youtube won't show all of it but it's not relevant to what I said from what I could read, if a guy hits on your girl you square the fuck up taking that shit lying down is like watching a dog get beaten and stay loyal anyway, if your girl entertains it even a little you walk away from her after the fight too
If you are a reasonable guy, and a woman regularly triggers your mate guarding instinct by her interactions with other men, then do not date that woman seriously.
@@adityamakwana612 Right. Us guys regularly talk shit on each other whether we are doing well or not. Women take advantage of this and cause us to act just like them.
His gf is finished with him. She just hasn’t left yet. My guess is the guys hitting on her, are spinning plates with her. They don’t want a relationship with her. Just a turn. Probably have already.
This is important as with many men it’s a fine line between being comfortable with your girl going out and having fun, and beta material letting her talk to other guys etc. it’s a important discussion to have for sure, especially those that haven’t had too much experiences with relationships and women in general
We shouldn’t laugh at this man, we should encourage him. My advice would be improve on yourself, lift weights, read books, talk to other women and find ways to make more money, never let a girl/woman be the focus, let her be worried about what you’re doing, if it gets too toxic for you leave find someone better.
Yess! Cheat your way out of jealousy! I spin plates right now and i don't give an F about what my main chick is doing or talking to...as long as i f*ck her i keep her...
If your girl is with you and she’s all about you and she approaches you upset because someone slapped her ass when she walked by the bar dude is getting fked up. There is boundaries to set if necessary. You frequent the same bar a lot for everyone who else who also does. Don’t disrespect my girl. I’m not a jealous guy at all, but if someone puts his hands on my girl unwanted he’s getting tuned up. If you can’t be the guy when you need to be you should stay single.
My ex gf once told me that a co-worker had tried to kiss her. I asked her why did she think that he felt he could get a kiss from her knowing she was in a relationship. She gave me a confused look and I broke up with her. Her hesitation told me she never pumped the brakes on him and he felt “invited” to go in for the kiss.
FYI-There are men who make assumptions all on their own, especially ones who think they are alpha and can take whatever they want. It has nothing to do with the woman "inviting" him.
Majority of men in prison are there for not being able to control their emotions. Take a deep breathe and count 10 seconds before making any decisions.
The important part is how SHE responds to getting hit on or touched. I’ve dated girls who immediately respond to advances with mentioning that she is seeing someone or says something about what her and I do together as bf/gf. This is good. On the other hand, I know girls who have boyfriends and actively try not to mention their boyfriends around me, try to break the touch barrier intentionally, and overtly flirt. This is bad - if you discover this in your gf, do not waste your time with women like this.
That was my narc ex. It was only through loyal friends that told me while I was away that she would tell guys hitting on her that she was in an open relationship. Hard nexted her ass
I've gotten with so many married or women in relationships that it boggles my mind why anyone would entertain the idea of getting into a relationship .. especially marriage which is extremely risky..
@@davorebo5790 Because you're getting a biased perspective. Only the low quality ones are cheating on their partners with you. Obviously the high quality ones aren't having anything to do with your low quality ass.
Wow! and I thought I was insecure back when I lost my ex. Men, if you see signs that "your girl" is going to bars, going solo on social media pictures, noticing changes in your sex life with her, noticing a long list male friend all the sudden enter your life, don't do anything! Have value in yourself. Retreat and go talk to another girl. You are the prize. It's ok to be alone.
Walking away is the most potent, and sometimes only, weapon you have if she acts up. Withdraw your attention/commitment and be prepared to leave if necessary.
My wife is almost 60. She’s just a few months older than me. Men still come on to her. I take it as a compliment. She doesn’t put up with other men touching her or making sexual advances. I have a line; don’t cross it. As long as you don’t, I’m cool and I think it’s great that someone else appreciates her. Nuff said.
bottom line is if you are full of doubt about her, she isnt doing her part to make you feel secure in the relationship. she should be telling you stories about how she told guys off, not how they "kept" harrassing her. let her go, she is too insecure and is still enjoying attention from other males, let her go and show indifference
@Hamza a i have had two girls do this to me, when it was happening I could feel it in my gut that something was off, not right at all. that's when you know you are being manipulated
Thank you! I encourage my teenage son to watch all your videos. As a single mom, I appreciate all you're doing for the youth, especially those who don't have fathers. You're really making a difference :)
I used to think about this with a girl I was dating because she got a lot of inappropriate comments from all of her male friends and she would complain about it to me very often just to get a rise out of me. I later found out she would secretly flirt with them on social media, needless to say, I dumped her.
I always laugh at the chumps who defend their girlfriend from being hit on. She brought it upon herself. No need to waste any energy. If it starts to ruin your relationship just leave.
One of the biggest problems women in this day and age have is that most of them do not understand that there is a HUGE difference between guys that are willing to sleep with her and guys that are willing to be in a relationship with her.
Every dude knows, he can tell it, or at least feel it on their guts when your chick is feeling really flattered by other dude's adance, you can tell when she is calling for attention on social media, posting selfies, going all out sexy to her class and talking flirty with some of her colleagues. If she is doing that, fine that's her choice, but you don't date her anymore. You gotta be like, hey you either reject those folk or I reject you. Lastly, if she doesn't stop, you are not her best choice, she is wasting your time. She is making you a favor. Invest on yourself so the next chick doesn't behave like this.
Ease up. You guys look like stupid assholes on here. It’s tough because movies and other media...they push the idea of reacting this way when you’re in a situation like this. So it’s confusing sometimes what you do because guys don’t know how to protect there masculinity in a mature way without getting the cops involved.
@@jackd9300 well said. Unless you search for improvement and educating the mind you will evolve from being a teen into an adult who still kinda thinks like a teen still. Easy to cast judgement from an educated mind that sees how life works. Until that point we are blind like this poor dude...he had the balls to ask...now it's up to him to evolve and learn.
It sounds like he's a nurse working in a hospital where his girl also works and is dealing with her recieving attention from other guys who rank higher within the work place, (doctors, surgeons, anesthesiologists, etc.) I spent a long time in this same environment. My girl was a pharmacist and was constantly being hit on by the same types of guys just mentioned. The difference? I make as much if not more than almost every one of these guys, definitely the younger ones. Also it doesn't hurt I'm more masculine than all of these guys put together. Beard, bikes, muscle cars, bodybuilder physique, tattoos, and a former combat Marine. These guys hit on my girl when I'm not around. When I am, I make them nervous. This guy needs to realize, if my guess about him being a nurse is accurate, that, healthcare is not an industry where there are a large collection of classically alpha masculine men. He needs to toughen up. Grow a beard, lift weights, split wood by hand, read Richs book, or start driving something with a lot of horse power and stop chasing after his woman like a woman
Beard, bikes, bodybuilder, muscle cars. Doesn't exactly translate to alfa. You have to be able to take care of your self and have a winner mentality. The rest is just facade.
Great input. I’ve come to learn that the games tests never end even when in a relationship they may dwindle slow down but overall sometimes no. My goal is to get a woman’s: youth fertility domestic duties monumental moments cooperation. We all are going to get old one day and lose value it’s apart of life especially women with menopause. Dudes will always hit on chicks when the guy is not around but it’s up to her to bite or not. even in a relationship don’t let up cause if you do it increases chances of her leaving and even if she does leave I’m in tip top shape mentally and physically so I’ll be able to rebound. After age 50 the chances of a dude wanting your old lady SERIOUSLY dwindles significantly lol. But you got her youth fertility so you’re all set.
This was precisely me young 20s, about 6 years ago. I got physically fit, went to college, gained leadership experience and a badass career. Long journey but now the only jealous person are the women I date. Muy Thai and Jiu Jitsu were a major confidence booster as well as learning Spanish. Latinas melt over a white dude droppin self taught Spanish.
I treat others how I want to be treated. That means, when I am in a relationship, outside of a professional setting I do not interact with women when my girlfriend is not around, so flirting and touching other women is unthinkable. I don't care if my girl wants to flirt or touch other men, she is free to do what she wants, but the second she does, she is not my girlfriend anymore.
@@tl8142 it’s not beta in part. He’s saying that any girl can do anything at any time. No girl is exempt from potentially flirting or cheating. Which is truth. He’s saying once he has reason to leave, then he will leave, but he isn’t stressing about it and letting it consume him.
@@travis6694 yeah you re right. I read his comment again. He has a clear limit to what he finds acceptable and not. The moment ”she does” she is done. 👍
@@Vidis88 Then again if she valued you would she shit test you like that ? Its her fault . If that was a shit test then she is shitty in the first place . You cant win with women LOL
patrice oneal said something to the affect of "your woman is a fish. Youre a fisherman. As a fisherman, she needs to smell fish on you so she knows you can catch other fish and toss her back". paraphrasing but same message.
This topic is funny. Back in 2010, I was seeing a chick and we had country dancing in common. We had been going to a dance club for several months and thoroughly enjoyed ourselves. One day, a random dude walked up and asked her to dance while I was on the way back from grabbing a drink. She accepted and danced one song with him. About a half hour later, after she and I danced to a few more songs, an attractive gal walked behind us and winked at me, so I extended my arm and nodded to go dance. We danced and wouldn't ya know, after that dance, the gal I was there with started to give me the third degree about dancing with another woman. I simply reminded her this can't go only her way. She pouted for a bit, then I pounded her out and went to bed. Great teaching moment indeed !!! 😎
@@CryptoTruthBombs Country & Western line dancing IS beta. I was two stepping, my friend... There's a difference. Learn to dance as part of your masculine frame & women will gravitate toward ya. Thx for your input, though !! 😉
If your girl is being hit on, and she doesn't handle it herself, she doesn't respect you. She should not be trying to make you jealous by accepting the attention, and she ought to know by now how to shut it down.
The neighbor is already wearing her out while he's away. Get your head right build yourself so you can demand respect without having to ask for it. Be the prize !!!
When I hear a story like this and see what blue pill mindset can do to a man I am so grateful for swallowing the red pill. It may be bitter but you don't live in the world where women confuse you and you end up chasing your own tail instead of excellence.
This dude needs to learn to fight. Period. He needs that confidence based in competence.. He may even need to take a break from woman and rebuild himself.
@@Yarmox depends on the situation imo. And I'm not saying fight for a woman. I'm saying the confidence that comes with actually being able to handle yourself well in violent situations is priceless
if he ever considers walking away from women, he might as well get ready to take the black pill and go full monk. If what he really wants is to get married it's better be now than never. He's mid 30s. It's pretty much game over
This is the Truth. A woman who is 100% devoted to you will tell these guys off, or that very least, thank them for the compliment but tell them that she's taken. The moment the guy has to do the work to keep guys from crossing the line with his woman, it means she's no longer his woman.
1. Sounds almost like she eggs him on because she is hoping to see that bad boy side of him come out. 2. Don’t worry about what guys do; worry about how she responds to it. If she responds unfavorably ditch her.
not at the expense of getting arrest or beat up . Dont let her play with you r feelings like that . He should just let her go and find another girl worthy of him
“Those who have swords and know how to use them, and keep them sheathed, will inherit the earth.” -Jordan Peterson’s take on the word “meekness” in Matthew 5.
If you're in a relationship it's not jealously. Jealously is towards things you don't have, if you already have it but dont want to lose it, you're being territorial. Protecting what's already yours.
“If you could have the capacity of lethality but do not rely upon it or use it” the very definition of meek. Better to be a warrior in a garden than a gardener In a war
Tell her in the beginning of the relationship. I'll fight for you, but I won't fight over you, if someone else has your attention over me, they can have you.
I taught my woman to handle her situations, and to ONLY call me if things get "touchy" and out of hand. She handled herself before she met me, so she can handle herself, and I will always be there for her if she needs me. All is good.
Great video. Hit the nail on the head. Solution - remove yourself from the situation because you can’t handle it and the spidy senses / gut feeling is enough confirmation that something is wrong. Step away. Work on yourself. Level up. Try again.
This here. Im only 70 kgs but In the past I have been aggressive as fuck lol I did have alot of respect as people knew they would get sorted out or confronted if they crossed the line. My dad was the same.
Men that project insecure energy always get cheated on , Most women who cheat have a partner that’ s beta , Be the man she break rules for not set 🤷🏿♂️
A lot of what you're talking about reminds me of principles Niccolo Machiavelli described in the Prince. You shall not be the weak sheep, that gets easily lured into a trap nor you should be a wolf that easily gets shot by a huntsman. You should be a man of your own principles, who's kind and charming ( not to mistake with nice ) when required, but can also be a ruthless savage when required
It’s up to her to respect you as her boyfriend. If she can’t you give her one firm, strict warning with dire consequences and TONS of eye contact. If she doesn’t learn from it or continues to do it, you drop her like a fucking atom bomb and find the next one. Never let a woman control you.
Great video, Richard! I actually watched it because my guy checks out other women and got a lot from your video as a woman. I love the abundance vs. scarcity mindset and the fact that there are other people who we can always find if our partner decides they can do better. Your energy is very grounded and you seem very confident in yourself - it's almost healing to listen to you. Thanks a lot, you are making a lot of good to the world.
My Dad told me like a Decade ago: - The Primary rule of a man is *RESPECT*, be the best person for those who know it, but if it's not there: Walk Away & Don't look back - *He told me that, right after ending relationship with his 4th wife because she's so insolent, and i always keep that in my mind
Sound advice! Been a martial artist since 2012. It has helped me with my confidence not only in fighting but in life as well. It has helped me become a better version of myself, and leave the beta mentality behind.
Advice always sounds better when it’s not for me. I can imagine listening to something like this when I had an “interest” and probably feeling worst about this type of feedback. However now, maybe thanks to age, experience, or knowledge, I understand how this message works and can absorb it internally
Bottom line... she's not telling anyone "look, I have a man." So coworkers touching her, that's something SHE needs to report. If she doesn't, she's not opposed to it. Don't get into fights, HR and all that. Either she's okay with boundaries that you should establish, or she's not and you need to get out
i had a gf that would sometimes dance sexy with strangers in the club. I wouldnt cause a scene right there because i didnt want to look insecure but would bring it up after we left. Her response everytime was "its just dancing, you need to trust me". Looking back i should have left her behind immediately but i dated her for over a year AFTER she started doing this shit and it was because she was prettier than any girl ive been with and felt pride going to social events with her on my arm. For young guys out there, dont do that.
I was like this at 18 to 20... Hearing this guys' email gives me physical pain due to so much cringe. I am glad this video was done though. Hopefully any other males out there, similar to this, can learn from this video.
Purchased the kindle version of unplugged alpha last night and half finished already! I went through an aha moment a year ago after my last LTR ended up going south and she left me. After taking the next year to look for answers, I realized it was my fault. I took ownership, stopped pursuing women and started focusing on my purpose building my health and fitness coaching business for men ( FitMuscle Method). I decided at that point in my life enough was enough and now that I have focused on me so much, I noticed females notice me more when I walk in the room. I continue to find ways to improve myself in all aspects of my life and if you haven’t purchased the Unplugged Alpha, I highly recommend you guys do so!! Thanks for telling the cold hard truth Richard. 👊
When I was 19, my gf worked fast food. A guy at work kept harassing her (trying to get her to go out with him) and she didn't want anything to do with him. I told her to stop beating around the bush and tell him that you are not interested because you are in a relationship. If he doesn't stop, then I will make an appearance. She told him and he still kept bothering her. So when I picked her up for work, I went into the lobby to "meet her work friends" and when the guy reached over the front counter to shake my hand (he knew I was her bf) he tried to grip my hand extra tight so I squeezed the fuck out of his hand as I pulled him over the top of the counter and quietly spoke into his ear "stay away from my girl." Then I calmly gave him back his hurting hand. Very next day he stopped talking to her all together.
Very true, walk softly and carry a big stick ... I have 6 years of self defense training and I know I can manage myself and don't need to use it... however, if it's needed ...I have the capacity and capability. Chicks dig that vibe. They want a man that is confident and capable. They want a man that can protect them if needed but the best defense mechanism is your superior knowledge ...use your brain. Teach them self defense techniques like awareness and a few escape moves and you will own their respect and loyalty....assuming you're a fair guy to them.
Yea like other comments say, you need to look at her reaction, if she enjoys it then you do nothing, if you feel that she feels uncomfortable then you need to do something, everything depends on situation
Good info. I remember walking with my gf at night and an obviously homeless guy started walking toward my gf. I stood in between her and the homeless dude. Somebody like that could have unpredictable behavior. I had a casual conversation with him and he left. She told me a few days later that she liked how I handled the situation. My experience with an attractive woman waiting for me, there are always guys hitting on her. When I show up, she takes my hand (her idea). This usually gets rid of them.
Great video Rich. This man needs to read your book and send an update in a few months to see if he can apply the mindset. You seem to hit on the strongest points in the first few questions. Hopefully this will help him. 👊
In Russian we call it a "Deer Stock" female keeps few Deers around, and sometimes puts them on same arena and watch what happens. Being in a "Deer Clashes" is one sure way to find yourself in criminal defense lawyer office. Not sure if it worth on any women. It's up to a woman you in relationship with to deal with guys who hits on her, if she is not willing to do that- put her stuff to the curb and keep walking.
I’ve long had really strong confidence and high self-esteem, much of that developed from successfully attracting & seducing gorgeous women- but pretty much every one of them has strayed if I didn’t beat her to it with the ol’ pump and dump. I’m starting to get the impression that at least 95% of women will inevitably cheat- at least in my experience and I’ve been on both sides of that equation. Over time this has become an oddly comforting reality since it means it’s not just me being inadequate. Thanks for another great video Rich!
- she is lucky to have me - Perfectly said. This is coming from a guy who had a at least 8/10 wife. Improve yourself. Go to the gym. Men, stay focus and become a better version of yourself! I am about to get 9/10.
A guy blatantly hitting on or groping “your girl” in front of you is his way of dismissing you as a man/threat. If “my girl” entertained it or didn’t shut it down, she gets demoted to plate status or fired altogether. Depending on the situation, I might call the guy’s bluff on dismissing me as a man/threat, but not to keep the girl. Her fate is sealed by her reaction, not anything another guy does. Just depends on whether I’m in the mood or confident I can crush the guy’s spirit. I won’t fight for a woman, but I will fight for respect.
Was exactly like this a few years ago. Dated a woman who cheated up with a tall blonde surfer jock rich dude. Thought briefly about hiring a buddy to beat the shit out of him, but decided against it. Instead, I waited, she had her fun then came back to me. I ditched her for a higher quality woman soon after. Years later--buffer, better haircut, edgier style, more wisdom--ran into the dude at the restaurant he owns and works at. He didn't recognize me of course. Whereas before this dude acted like an egotistical prick with anyone he interacted with, he looked at me with respect and maybe a little bit of fear, simply because of the way I carried myself, spoke, looked, etc. Even said "have a nice evening" with a nervous smile. I grabbed my food, went back to my car, and laughed.
I would say if she herself doesn’t have respect for him and is just allowing other dudes to keep doing it, my man needs to just say fuck it and move on. We all deserve to be with someone that respects us.
He's right absolutely right once you gain a set amount of confidence in you from your daily habits and your success from that as a man you know what you bring to the table in a relationship if your woman is being hit on it should be a compliment to you as a man it shouldn't disrupt your your day or your routine or anything cuz the confidence is set there you know what you bring
the problem is her. its her job to be loyal to you. if she is being flirted with to the point of being touched its because she's flirting ! its 2020 what else can I say?
Hold on, 4:40 in but if my neighbor is hitting on my girl knowing damn well that’s MY girl he sees coming to my crib on a daily basis then that’s a clear sign of disrespect to ME. Nah at that point I’m taking action because it’s not even about the girl at that point, until then I scope to see how the problem escalates and if she’s the reason. You can definitely press someone without getting straight to violence
Do you think the guys would continue talking to your girl if she has zero interest? No. What are you going to do? Tell him how bad you‘re gonna hurt him?
Dominik M ideally nah but some mfs don’t know when to stop or take a hint. & nah, actually hurt him if it comes to that. But before that Ima make him feel like a weirdo for consistently coming for someone who doesn’t want them, cause who tf does that? If you’re telling me this persistent loser doesn’t deserve some kind of punishment for these actions then that’s where we see different. But doing nothing after already doing nothing falls right back to being a beta if you want to think of it that way
Dominik M So they stop. Again there are many other ways to get this, violence being the last resort. Think about this, what’s the point in having that capacity for violence if now it’s escalated to the point it’s needed and you refuse to use it because you strongly believe you should just do nothing. By words of the same dude what if she’s shit testing you? Maybe she didn’t want to at first but since it’s kept going on now she wants you to do something. Lose a girl you actually fw because you were scared to press someone? I wouldn’t want to go out like that. Yeah you’re the prize but you’re acting way too passive at that point
@@SPONGEY7244 idk the neighbor isnt threatening violence himself so violence isnt warranted. I agree it's not about the girl at all it's about that he disrespected you. Also your girl disrespected you by not stopping the neighbors behavior. It isnt your job in the 21st century to guard her it's her job. If you let her get away with disrespecting you and instead confront the neighbor all you're doing is communicating she has you by the balls. She will be attracted to you but it wont be a good relationship; itll be more like you're a beast she has control over.
A woman who is 100% committed to her man does not get hit on, because she radiates the energy that she is not available. If she's getting hitting on a lot that is because she is sub consciously welcoming it. The problem is her
It's a liberating feeling when you can just say you truly don't care. If you can walk away from people that are causing you problems, or your woman isn't being faithful just let them go. Find purpose in yourself that allows you to live a fulfilling life without those people. You won't lack for romantic interests if you have a very clear and self motivated purpose and even if you don't it's far better to take joy in your work than to throw pearls before swine expecting someone to love you unconditionally. The vast majority of people will only care about you on a conditional basis and it's infinitely better for a partner to be with you because she is jealous of something you possess than for her to stay with you because she feels sorry for you and gives herself as a pity prize.
@@porgyjr.7737 yea really never risk a charge over a woman. I mean he is talking about working from home just so he can get a charge and still work. Who thinks like that. Wow. If she let's men touch her it's like Rich said, she wants and likes it. Move on.
@@perception-reception Man it's sad when you see where so many men are... Do you ever think to yourself, how did it get this bad? Because this is most men.
@@porgyjr.7737 man I was there before well not wanting to hurt anyone but thinking only one woman was for me. Got done wrong improved myself. I think social media has alot to do with it. Girls can get instant validation on tiktok and others and told how hot they are so girls that are a 6 think they are 10 and feminine movements too.
Just remember it's called flirting if she finds him attractive, if he's unattractive it's sexual harrasment. If she doesn't call the guy out for sexually harrasment she enjoyed it, no exceptions
