You will fluctuate from abundance and scarcity mindsets often, regardless of age and situation. Being able to get yourself back to abundance each time is key
Hey Lloyd. This is solid advice 🔥 I've found myself doing these things even before I watched the video and that mindset is extremely valuable. I have an abundance mindset, partly because of my situation; I do cold approach on my college campus
I won hundred percent agree with you because you’re real in a moment sometimes you do give one person loads of value will praise you can’t be that person who counts in the heart how much someone has said thank you and stuff to you because they will click on and do the same I love you because you’re not true and
*5 things to quit for all people:* 1. Caring about what others think 2. Not believing in yourself 3. Not prioritizing your health 4. Wasting your precious time 5. Chasing meaningless relationships For those who are in the rush of changing their lives :-)
I like it, but what do you do when you've done all of those, maintained it for some time, yet continue to get the same results you got before? More to the point, what do you do when this is your 16th time doing this restructuring, and your mind is fighting your relentlessly because after all the time and energy you've put in over the last 15 times, you've gotten no results?
When you haven't had a girlfriend for a very long time, the first girl to take interest in you, you latch onto them and fall in love straight away. Mind games
@@psimo6642 Yep I have wasted hundreds of hours just fantasising about a girl who smiled at me in public etc... So sad.. then I pause and say to myself "this is why im single"
@@bennybenny7382 yo broooo.. I oneitis over a girl i started speaking online.. we spoke and shared our pasts.After years i started talking and i was in such scarcity mindset. I was such a simp and needy. She asked me for money even when we never met. i say no. i ended up chasing her alil because i thought she was perfect although now i realise how stupid i was. but i tell myself. Burn down your beta and rise up alpha. Hardest lesson.
I’m that only dating app guy. And I’ve actually done well on them, but my dating life still isn’t close to where I want it to be because most of the girls I’ve met on apps didn’t lead to me seeing them again. That’s why I gotta find places to meet them in person. Good message Lloyd, love your positive attitude
I've been seeing you comment a lot on Lloyd's Channel and was just curious about your experience. Which OLD Apps do you use and how often do you get first dates (like every week or once every month)?
@@TheRadFire I use Hinge. I don’t have a problem getting matches, so sometimes they lead to dates. I can get about 1 date a month. The problem is most of these dates are one and done. The biggest challenge to meeting girls in person from apps is finding girls who are active. Many of them have the app, but rarely check/use it. The girls who are active and actually communicate on the app will meet you in person
What helped me most was the mindset set that there's always someone or something better out there so if things don't go I evaluate myself see my mistakes and I move on. No time wasting and higher stands
I've only had success with online dating so with that it's pretty much scarcity there and I've made an effort to approach women in real life to avoid that. I've approached 35 women and gotten numbers and good reception, but have had zero dates. Some even scheduled a date with me just to cancel. It's frustrating that it seems like online dating is the only way for me to get dates and I get a decent amount but not the quality id like.
It's all a numbers game, man. Good on you for continuing to approach women. One thing I've learned is that huge numbers of people out there are incapable of saying they don't wanna do something, so they'll tell you they're down for plans but always flake. True commitment, especially to hanging out with a new person, is a character trait to admire. Just keep at it and eventually you'll find people who are down.
i can see where youre coming from. ive also approached couple women some will just ignore you, will say they have boyfriend. seems like theyre not interested at all lol and when you get their number they flaked out🤡
I developed abundance mindset by dating multiple women, and not getting attatched to them, not every chick is going to like you and you need to be accepting of that, in my case i wokred on myself, transformed nyself from 46 kg into a muscular 86 kg and during this process girls were throwing themselves at me literally, ofcourse there was initial effort from me i approached them and all, this mindsett gets easier to adapt to if you look good and then you get success with multiple women that is how i developed this mindset
I got a good one for you Lloyd. Matched with a girl last week and we met up. Nice connection, and some spicy interaction. However, over the last few days she has been getting distant. I finally talked to her a bit about her behavior and she seems to want space while she works on personal things happening to her. She just in fact told me that she is highly interested still but is attempting to focus on priorities before me. What do you think, should I step back a bit and see what happens, or cut loose?
When girls pull back for whatever reason, I'm of the opinion you just gotta let them be. If she actually is interested, she'll be in touch. If not, at least you didn't waste your time chasing, which never works. Remember, at the end of the day, neither you nor her owe each other anything, even an explanation, disappointing as it may feel. I've learned this through coaches like Lloyd and the hard way lol.
But what if you have real life scarcity of attractive women. I rarely run into women I find attractive enough to date them (didn't ran into one for many months) . And those few who are worth dating are always taken, usually married. So, the scarcity is real and if women like me or not is irrelevant. My mindset will not affect the outcome.
Having an abundance mindset also involves thinking positively about being able to find the person. If there are really no attractive women where you live either move are start making changes in your life so you can meet these women.
@@TheSingleGuy I think it is not the problem where I live or my lifestyle, it is that I have high standards because I have a lot to offer myself. For the last week I am traveling in Northern Germany, doing island hopping, visiting several of the islands where tourists and local people party, hanging out in cafés, on the promenade, beach, patios etc.. During the whole week I did not see even one woman (!) that I found attractive. It is a horror show, from my perspective. The quality of women is sooooo low. I can attract women, but if there are no women worth attracting, the result is the same.
I'm currently having a issue of the women that I date wanting to post our dates on social media. All of the women I date know that I am dating multiple women but they get upset that I don't want to take pictures together. What are your thoughts on this? I feel if I did then there definitely will be a rise of jealousy that I might not know exists between them and none know whom the others are and could pose a potential problem for me publicly.
Mentioned you in one of playing with fire is videos recent stream you are my current favourite and have learned more with you in the past couple weeks done in the last three years please expand on flirting everyone tries to do all these complicated things but The basics is what everyone wants a stable ground to have a bit of fun and bounce and do what reason I believe people can’t teach people properly it’s because everyone thinks of it logically and reads what you’re saying but they don’t have your monster soon no matter what everyone will have their own style of flirting PS your eyebrows are fucking weird at the same time that your best feature I bet they love it A raced one
Life is a paradox and so are we, abundance is there, positive indifference is key that's how you master this mentality. 💯🤷♂️ POSITIVE INDIFFERENCE MAKES ALL OF THE DIFFERENCE. 🤷♂️
Go out more, try new things in new places, essentially “rebuild your prospect pool” as they say in sports. The only thing is if you are getting over really bad oneitus/embarrassment/rejection/LJBF take a little time to recharge your confidence and monk mode it.
I’m stuck in a situation where I do have confidence in myself but I do be feeling like no one out there for me, I am always in situations where I could be the coolest guy but don’t have the confidence when with people but alone. One of my friends had to literally tell a girl who likes me to kiss me at a social event, I knew she liked me but I never knew it was that bad lol she came with the boyfriend😬 I guess I have unreal expectations
Hey Lloyd, I love all your videos man.... I go to social events and stuff every time I can...3-4 times a week since I'm also studying.... women talk to me... like me etc but I can't get them to sleep with me.... I get rejected a lot sometimes in clubs giving the hand of god etc.... please advise man... I get a lot of fomo and fear of missing what other people have
Think about the energy that goes into 1 girl, and this idea of maintaining a harem is tiring just to think about. If you want to build a career or business you have to sacrifice some of these fantasies.
Hey man just watched you five easy tips to be more charismatic One of the best game videos I’ve seen and trust me I’ve watched a lot over the years just to let you know everyone likes a good thing sometimes that you are actually really funny especially when you blinked because you were showing weakness some people don’t understand that being able to show it is strength I don’t know if you actually realised this I actually kind of look like each other my photo next to this is just a good one one of my eyebrows is like more into the middle than the other one like the house if you know what I mean and I’ve got a big poos we have the same type of face which I don’t think is too common and of people have always said how big clips I have It’s about what you do with what you have and I think we’re good at it
I give up on women, tired of going on dates and never see them again. I’m not that perfect guy who’s extremely good at texting, flirting, good in bed etc.
Easy, be happy that there's not just one girl who's willing to date you, but multiple! You clearly have women figured out to some degree , so what's the problem? So just tell her the truth straight up and be done with it. You're dating multiple girls, meanwhile there are many guys who can't get a single girl to date them. Recognize that you're already more successful than most guys will ever be in their entire lives and enjoy it. You should only be worried that a girl will leave you if you're a guy who knows that if she does, you'll be counting the time before you get another girl in years. Not days, not weeks, not months. Years. And when that day comes, you'll look at her like "yeah I haven't been laid in 3 years...but uh...I think I'll pass". That clearly isn't you. Smile bro, you're one of the lucky ones.
@@mananliveshistory I see her in reality only in something like a month, is it cool to ask her on whatapp or something or just wait till I see her in real life?
@@avinoambandov6385 Life is so short, you can't waste so much time in one girl. She wouldn't go even after meeting irl, if she's not interested. So just ask and get your answer
It's very frustrating when you have zero options, are getting nothing but rejection and feel like no women want you. That frustration, however, pales in comparison to the frustration you'll feel once you learn about the abundance vs scarcity mindset, adopt it, spend a significant amount of time rewiring your brain to believe that you're in abundance, not just with women, but with everything. You feel the difference, you go out and exude the difference via your new, high energy personality, only to get the exact same results that you were getting before. "No problem" you think, "I just have to keep it up!" Fast forward 6 months and trying to maintain your abundance mindset when you've gotten no results despite living and breathing abundance for half a year becomes borderline impossible. The simple truth is, do whatever you want, if you start getting success, it will fuel confidence, which yields more success. The opposite however, is also true. Do something and get no successes, and you'll spiral into depression and feeling like you can't win. An upward spiral or a downward one. Unfortunately, you have little control over which you'll have. Only luck and outcome will determine which way you'll go.
