HOW TO HEAL FROM A DYSFUNCTIONAL BACKGROUND 1 

The worst thing about growing up in an abusive home is that the parent never realizes and apologize for what they did wrong. They act like it never happened and pretend like they are your friend when you are older and they need something from you. I pray that God helps us to heal and live free. 🙏

Sadly, most Nigerians grew up in disfunctional homes. I hope more people listen to this.

I think one day, maybe on an Independence day, the president should have an announcement on all Television stations and this teaching should come on in Nigeria

This is my first time watching any sermon from this minstry and I can say this hits hard. I recently moved away from home / my parents, and I can say I have been faced with a lot of traumas it’s like I thought leaving would set me free but it was when I left I realized I had a lot of work to do. I had to heal from certain childhood trauma and neglect as a child which has caused me great pain, trust issues and dysfunctional relationships with both male and females. I’m opened to healing and hoping that I have a normal family someday.

For the first time in my life I’m searching for a sermon and eager to listen to the end and repeatedly. For the first time, I feel I’ve found the truth.

Lord You have blessed my generation with men like Apostle Lazarus! Thank you 🙏

The generation that will change things is the generation that will question things.

What kind of man are you sir, Your knowledge is a total shift from the regular religious pastor. Most Pastors go about criticizing people without having the slightest knowledge of what the person is going through. Total Ignorance. I love this message

8 minutes into this sermon am already in tears 😢I pray 🙏🏾 that I make it through this teaching

Reading this title alone brings tears to my heart but I thank Jesus he is working on my heart, my home will not be dysfunctional in the name of Jesus

One of the biggest things God did for me was that my mother stayed.....

This message is something I can’t fathom with human understanding. Our God is really raising giants in our times that are resetting the system in Church for his coming. Thank you so much Apostle Femi, God bless and keep you and your family in this days in Jesus name. Amen. It’s amazing

i started listening to pastor femi, about 3 months ago, and I have been asking myself since since..."where has this man been hiding!?" God bless you man of God. Your message was a hard mirror for me and I'm sharing this with my siblings. i know we needed healing and this is what you have brought us. thank you 😭

I was raised by my father....he abused me continually when I was a child. Am a single mom with 2 boys raising them alone. I need help psychologically. Oh Lord help me

Okay, so recently my hubby has been sending me your short clips on facebook and i grew in love with your teachings and just this early hours at work i saw this full video on youTube and i was drawn to it..even before it commenced , i was already in tears because i dont want to bring up my kids the same way i was. Thank you Apostle

The fact that you are asking is a proof that you are thinking differently and you will come out!🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

Thank you pastor for raising this. This is what the lord has been speaking to me , to help those that grew from dysfunctional homes. I had the experience and God helped me , he spoke to my heart to help others . Thank you sir, i can totally Relate

Your upbringing shapes the way you perceive life If the foundations be destroyed what can the Righteous do. First things first, i need to heal from my past. Because God has in store for me for the future and i just can't mess it up with my overreacting to things. Heal me Holy Spirit 🙏

This man is a preacher,teacher, pastor and an apostle

I thank God for bringing me to see this sermon. I'm also coming from a dysfunctional home and I battle a lot because of it. But I know that God is setting things right! He is doing it for me 🙏🏿❤️🙌🏿

Kai Apostle, first time listening to a full sermon and I’m undoubtedly blessed. My God 🥹🥹😭😭. Thank you Sir

i never thought i will be heal from my worries and stagnation but God did it for me through your messages halleluyah 🙏 thank you pastor i am connecting from Abuja.

My God. How is it that your sermon resonates so much that it feels that you are taking words out of not just my mouth but my heart?There is something divinely genuine about theSpirit that lives in you pastor Femi Lazarus. May God Almigh Be praised!

😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢 I'm in tears listening to this massage. I wish My parents had the opportunity to hear this. Thank You ABBA for the privilege to be a partaker of this blessings

The generation that will change things are the Generation that will question things

This sermon is a big reset for me. Thank God for His grace over you sir. More annoiting and revelation for you sir. Amen 🙏🏿 Unto the next. Part 2

Sir, no lies in this. As a PK, I can testify. I shared how I had to change my perspective on prayer in my book “PRAY this.” I'm still learning but I'm grateful for the revelation. 🙏🏾

My eyes are full of tears . I can't know where to start but I begin a fresh healing from this message. thanks @Femi Lazarus

This is Therapy!!!

I’m upset that I didn’t find your sermons earlier but I am also grateful to God that brought this video on to my fyp you are blessing to my generation 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

My mother raised us by herself, and she raised us well! Nobody knew life was going to go the way it did. I'm super proud of my Mother. A man who is afraid of the progress of his woman is insecure, and weak!

We cannot have a new Nigeria without discussing family. Thanks for this message sir, someone shared the link and I know I will be blessed for listening and adhering. God bless you.

This sermon is a blessing from God to correct generational confusion and dysfunctional households.

This man of God understand 😢I have found my therapist 💯🥳

Kai! This is my first time listening to Apostle Femi Lazarus’ message and I'm wowed! God bless you, sir. You nailed this one oo!

So calm, yet pouring out deep thoughts,

All I can say is wow. There’s a reason why I clicked on this video. Thank you Jesus!

This is so true I think there should be a book on this Its really going to help our generation

i just finished watching this with my husband, i cried, he cried, this resonated so much with us, thank u Pastor.

This sermon got me crying. My Mum stayed for us but she died when the time was ripe for her to start eating the fruits of her labour. This is such a reset sermon!!!

The sermon is so relentable with the story of my life😭😭 I've been seeking for solutions to my trauma for years ever since my childhood but to no avail the trauma has dealt with me so bad that I'm scared of marriage now... God bless you pastor I believe this sermon is freedom I have long awaited for.. my soul 8ve finally seen the deliverance it seeks for a long time😭😭😭😭

Thank you for these teachings. We don't need counseling from the world first, come here first.... I bet by the time you finish you will not need any counselling....... This teaching is deliverance on its own

Every African family needs to listen to this message

Dysfunctional families are real.. i thank God for using this man to speak about this .. I am receiving healing in the name of Jesus Let me choose forgiveness ,,, I wanna let them go .. am not holding on to anyone anymore

this message is for me because i lack parental care,my mom lay alot of causes on me when growing up and now shes expecting alot from me.i having issues giving back to her my father was nowhere to be found until i was 21 years

First timer and listening 3 months afterwards. Thank God for the divine unction given to deliver this profound sermon. So so blessed and delivered by the Word

thanks for teaching me how to parent . this is a blessing

I got to know about you this morning through the WhatsApp status of a friend. It's the best thing I have gained from social media. God bless you richly, sir, in the name of Jesus Christ. Amen.

This man is a blessing,we pray our generation will be able to heal and do things differently

I never knew such message is here. Thank you Sir for being used to dig out the root of my problem 😭😭😭 I'm healed today and forever

I was really messed up by a disfunctional family , kai am tearing up listening to your message for the first time in full 😢😢😢 God pls help me to raise my children aright,, this cycle must not continue🙏

Ahhhhhhhhhhhhh..... Apostle God bless you ... Look at the way you are so composed spitting fire 🔥, I want to listen to this over and over again ... God bless you ❤️

This hurts me somuch growing up from an abusive background,th way am so traumatised I don’t even wann be married anymore😭😭😭Oh God heal me

I'm Felix from Ghana. I must confess this message is for me... God help us all. It is well

I watched a reel of this message on Facebook. I screen recorded it. I wanted to post it but it turned out I didn't recorded it well. I went back to Facebook but couldn't find it. I decided to check it out on RU-vid and I am glad I did. God bless you sir.

These truths. It's interesting how I woke up with this family dysfunction heavy on my mind. I had cried literally because I was coming to terms with certain dynamics, and then I'm led to a post that leads me to this message! God is indeed in the details

I wish I could make this church my church. I love these sermons. God bless you, Pastor Femi Lazarus

For the first time I heard a sermon for one hour on RU-vid

Messages like these give me joy! Upbringing/background has done a lot of damage to people and they don't even know it. Thank you so much for this!

I was in tears listening to this sermon Thank you so much Sir You have no idea what you have done for me.. God bless you abundantly ❤

This is powerful I have not heard a sermon like this in recent years

“When your mindset is colonized you uniqueness is subdued”

Thank you, thank you, thank you. Listening to this message blessed me tremendously. My healing has began since listening to you from first week of December. I am grateful for all this timely messages.

Sir this is amazing, after Instagram nuggets I decided to come check more on RU-vid and I was not disappointed thank you sir for saying yes to God

This sermon brought me to tears😢so much revelation and truth❤️God bless you man of God🙌🏽

My God 😭. I am literally crying as I am listening. I will come out o 😢. Thank you sir.

What a word.. so much truth, God bless you, Sir. May this message go far to the ears of all who need to hear this in Jesus' name 🙏

I have not finished watching I know this message has come to set so many free and myself. I celebrate your Grace Sir

Wow! Wow! Wow! Am lost for words! But, the number of times I have had to pause to just absorb the teaching because it was like Apostle was talking about me! Definitely coming to listen again and will be sharing it with my siblings and ftiends and anyone in my circle I feel will need this message!

True sir. My Dad didn't build a relationship with us when we were children but now that I am 27 he wants to build one. I sincerely don't know how to follow up.

I've seen a man who dishes the absolute truth. Thank you Lord 🙌

I love this man's teaching.

This is undoubtedly powerful! This is truly a lot!

Another huge blessing to this generation ❤️🙏🏾💯✅

The amount of damage I am having to deal with as a young adult is just something else!

Happy Birthday Apostle! God bless you for being a blessing to us!

This sermon is important for everyone

I'm blessed by hearing .This is it what I need

Knowledge Lots of dysfunctionality in my life 😢 Lord heal me Amen

This is the first time I've encountered a sermon that actually tackles this issue on childhood trauma, mental health and emotional wellness. God bless you sir❤.

How did you acquire this wisdom? - reading, praying , etc. Your preaching connects with me at a personal level.

Hah! This is for me😢 If someone shows too much caring I find it a problem. I'm okay even if I'm not okay. May the Lord heal me

This message is indeed a blessing to me

This was so powerful! I’m so glad I came across this, God bless you Sir

Hello pastor lazarus,u are a blessing to me but I don't knw if dis message will get along to you but I really wish it so pls don't look at dis as if I want to beg mony from or anybody but I don't ave any confidence to go forward for anything cus afraid if anything might happen to me ..I am another of 4 and I am 27 years old I and I really wish to go further my education but I am very fearful of d journey even if u are not done to talk to but to refer someone to I don't mind I ave a very good husband he takes care of me he doesn't understand how to take care of feelings and emotions because of were he grow up for I am not writing dis to pity me or misquote me I just nid help emotionally

This series is filled with so much Wisdom.. Thank You Apostle

LISTENING TO YOU FOR THE FIRST TIME BUT I AM BLESSED AND HAVE SHARED WITH ALL MY CHILDREN. GOD BLESS YOU APOSTLE FEMI

Pastor you heard from God, this is the same message in my spirit in this season

Amen and Amen. I disconnect my Parents, siblings and I from dysfunctional background.

Such a powerful message, had to cry at some point . Thank you sir

I love this teaching, it is really shaking tables of religion

Truly blessed listening to this.

Wow wow wow. God bless you Sir for this teachings. Our future is blessed and secure already. We are healed from dysfunctional backgrounds.

You're a true man of God sir🙌...Thank you so much for this message and prayers🙏🙏

God bless you and your ministry sir. You are a treasure to our generation. Thank you for making the decision to change the pattern. God is healing every dysfunctionality in my life and family in Jesus' name!

I really bless God for this teaching... It has fixed me totally

Thank you Apostle Femi Lazarus. May God Bless, SUSTAIN and Enlarge you. AMEN.

Thank Apostle for this loaded message . More anointing .

Lord Jesus Christ heal me completely and give me the Grace to forgive and do a new thing in me in Jesus name 🙏

About time. Thank God for the boldness to speak without fear