How to Help a Hoarder Reclaim Their Home

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If you want to know how to help a hoarder declutter and get to a better state, then watch this!
Oftentimes, if a loved one is a hoarder or has hoarding tendencies, decluttering can be really difficult. Storming in with your personal decluttering tips won't work and could potentially make things worse. It's important that you approach the situation right and know what NOT to do.
First and foremost, they have to want to declutter themselves. If this is the case, and they have accepted your help, there are several specific decluttering tips that will help you know how to help a hoarder.
We give you a general approach along with specific wording you can use when trying to help your loved one declutter.
These aren't just your everyday decluttering tips. These are tips for how to help a hoarder make lasting progress, while not making matters worse in the process.
If you like the way we approach decluttering, and want more advise for yourself or others, get our FREE pdf on the "Top 3 Mistakes Overwhelmed Parents Make while Decluttering & Organizing": realorganized.net/top3pdf/
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@RealOrganized 4 года назад

We hope you found these tips helpful. Do you have a favorite tip for helping someone who struggles with hoarding?

@expressivepets1 2 года назад

Are you german?

@apotheticallyautistic73 2 года назад

Thank you

@juliaevans9521 Год назад

One of the most positive videos I've seen about positively and respectfully helping a person who hoards

@cerridwenrowan 4 года назад

I appreciate how simply and thoroughly you went through this. I really loved the quote. It encompasses what it means to truly help. Something I have endeavoured to teach my children right from the start. "helping isn't doing what YOU want to do for someone else, it's doing what THEY need you to do with compassion and without complaint."

@RealOrganized 4 года назад

Absolutely! I love YOUR quote! In our eagerness to help, too often we end up sabotaging our efforts because of our own experiences, judgement, or prejudice. It takes practice to put yourself in the passenger seat for a little bit, and just look and listen. Thanks for watching and thanks for your thoughtful comment. :)

@indigoblue4791 4 года назад

@@RealOrganized Agreed 100% 😊

@chowfurnowmeow 3 года назад

I am a hoarder, that's why I am watching this video. Getting rid off stuff is extremely difficult and anxiety ridden for me. Trying to change this thou...

@RealOrganized 3 года назад

So often, decluttering has to do with so much more than just the stuff you're getting rid of. We hope you found some helpful tips here. We also did a video in the same series about how to declutter when there's just too much stuff, which you might find useful. All the best on your journey and please let us know if you have any specific questions or problems we can help you out with.

@chowfurnowmeow 3 года назад

@@RealOrganized thank u I am planning to watch and try out ur tip/s.....🤞

@evehernandez9436 3 года назад

Thank you, I am a hoarder and found this video helpful. Please continue to share your knowledge, knowledge is power, GOD BLESS.

@RealOrganized 3 года назад

Hi Evie. We’re so glad our paths crossed. Was there anything particular that stuck out to you? We hope you have a wonderful new year!

@evehernandez9436 3 года назад

@@RealOrganized sorry for not responding sooner.

@evehernandez9436 3 года назад

@@RealOrganized I have been trying to figure out the why and how I got to this point. Reaching out due to a tragedy in my life. I am desperately seeking for answers and help.

@apotheticallyautistic73 2 года назад

Omg thank you this is by far one of the most helpful videos I've seen and I've been watching hoarding videos for the last cpl of years. 🥰

@RealOrganized 2 года назад

Thank you so much! That really means a lot!

@lorihilton3146 3 года назад

It infuriates me that people think hoarders are bad people. Most hoarders know what the problem is and all they need is a helping hand. Don't force them to get rid of their things, give them an alternative to keeping the things. And another thing, don't expect them to do it themselves, help them do it. Don't be a dictator!

@RealOrganized 3 года назад

Absolutely! Great points. Do you have personal experience with hoarding or helping someone with hoarding tendencies?

@lorihilton3146 3 года назад

@@RealOrganized Yes. I've struggled for the past 10 years with hoarding. Initially, it was animals, then after my parents passed away, it was the need to hold on to their possessions. I am disabled, I have sciatica, so bending, lifting, even walking is difficult. I have resorted to paying people to help me. The worst part is that people think I want a life like this, which is simply not true. Chronic depression, ocd and ptsd add to the difficulties of hoarding. For as long as I can remember I have hated when people tell me what to do. I refuse to say that hoarding is a mental health disease, it is a symptom.

@RealOrganized 3 года назад

Thanks for sharing, Lori. That sounds like a lot to carry. I must admit, I had to look up sciatica (English is not our first language) and that sounds like a very difficult ailment to deal with on top of everything else. Sending you all the best vibes and well wishes from Denmark.

@ar.8579 3 года назад

I had to leave home at an early age with no guidance due to personal family issues.. I moved from place to place, worked two jobs, and for the most part kept most of my things in my storage unit, my car and my backpack. It was extremely difficult being on my own for such a long time and I hadn’t realized since I was ALWAYS moving and not knowing “Do I have enough clothes ? Will I have a washer available? I need to keep hygienic products readily available in my backpack. Will I be safe in the winter time?” I began hoarding all my things to feel like I own a lot. I have things to call mine. Even though I didn’t really have a home of my own......

@ar.8579 3 года назад

Someone please pray for me. I have hoarded so much over the years, I’m trying to let go of my things so I can live happily in my new home. Though it’s still not permanent, I need to clean up.. 🙁 its just too much..

@RealOrganized 3 года назад

Thank you so much for sharing your story Amanda. It’s so easy to forget that there can be a lot of emotional baggage behind the physical things that we hold on to. Thanks for the reminder. You’ll be in our prayers. Please let us know if you have any specific topics you’d like us to cover in future videos.

@MJMatheson24 3 года назад

So helpful and thoughtful! Thank you!

@RealOrganized 3 года назад

Thank you so much for the comment. We really appreciate that! What was most helpful?

@MJMatheson24 3 года назад

I loved the sentence "People don't care how much you know, until they know how much you care". Also, correcting body language and NOT using negative language to refer to their things. That helped me greatly and seemed to really build trust.

@loni148 2 года назад

Thank you for the video ...I'm the Horder and I never until today had thought about really why I'm keeping the things I keep ....I lost my mother when I was a baby ...I hav never been able to get organized as bad stay organized...I might have a day where I clean and organize a small area then I try really hard to keep it that way but I fail and it seems that the mess is ten times worse...any suggestions would help thanks

@kianahalvarez7897 4 года назад

Thank you so much. With the coronavirus going on my mom has been trying to clean our whole house but has only been making it worse. She does cleans part of the room and then leaves a mess and then moves onto another room. It has gotten to a point where you can’t go into a room without out seeing “junk”. I would really appreciate an answer. Thank you once again

@RealOrganized 4 года назад

Thank you so much. I think it's great that she is trying. That is really something to commend her for. If you are asking for advice for how to get her to "finish" the project then maybe go with her into one of the rooms and compliment her on all that she has accomplished and ask her some of the questions we talk about in the video about specific items that are left. What is important is that you try to put yourself in her shoes and show love and understanding for her journey. Is that what you were looking for?

@rosechoix 2 года назад

It sounds like this could be ADHD related hoarding, good luck to y'all

@karenmacphee9186 3 года назад

How do I get my husband to accept help. He’s got pretty severe ptsd from many losses close together. I want to help him clear space as he falls. He gets extremely uncomfortable with my trying to do it myself.

@RealOrganized 3 года назад

It can be so hard when someone you love doesn't want help. You can't force it, but you can try to understand the underlying issues. Maybe he doesn't like to feel like a chastity case or maybe he needs the empowering feeling that comes from getting it done himself (even if he doesn't get I done very often). If his issue started with loss, is he attached to the items or the memories they hold? Maybe there is a better way to honor those memories. Thanks for watching and your husband is lucky to have a wife that cares so much. :)

@indigoblue4791 4 года назад

I am enjoying your videos SO much but l don't know your names to thank you properly!😊⭐

@RealOrganized 4 года назад

Thank you again. We are Binni and Kristine (well... Brynjólfur but who can pronounce that! It took me a couple of weeks and I ended up marrying him). Where are you from?

@RochelleAndMegan 2 года назад

My fiance and her brother are literally burying themselves under all the stuff... It's become a fire hazard as well as a health hazard. We have a 4 year old boy. And her elderly mother is staying with us... Please... I need help. I'm concerned for my own as well as the rest of the households safety and health.

@offairhead 3 года назад

All of this is wrong. As someone who struggles with hoarding and has had to bring in help to correct the problem, everything you are saying is wrong. If I say that I want my dining room table clean so I can eat there I AM ADMITTING TO YOU that I know there is a deficit between where it is now and where I want it to be so you stupidly asking how my vision differs from the current reality is being patronizing because I have already said this in my own way. You stating that you are concerned about my safety would seriously piss me off. I already KNOWWWWW that EMS can’t get in if something happened. That is one of EVERY hoarders biggest fears, they don’t need you to behave like captain obvious!! You guys clearly don’t understand hoarding and should absolutely not be giving advice on how to fix it.

@RealOrganized 3 года назад

Hi @OffAirhead and thanks for adding your perspective. What's the best advice that you've received from a loved one or a professional to help you with your situation? How would you advice a family member and a friend to render help to someone in your shoes?