"see them as a human" Indeed I got to meet one of my musical heroes some years ago. It was backstage at a show, and everyone was losing their minds, asking for autographs and pictures. He wasn't in a great space at the time. His band-mate and dear friend passed away just 6 months prior. I approached him, and said "I'm so sorry for your loss" He was caught off guard. I think it was that human moment that so many skipped past all night. I saw him again a few months later at another show backstage. I made a comment, and I think it clicked who I was. It's like he was genuinely happy to see me. Such a great experience
Don't take my question personally but did you say that because you genuinely wanted to comfort him or because you wanted to stand out among the other fans? 🤔
@@HM87520to be genuine. He looked broken man. I’ve been there, and I know what it’s like. Everyone else was putting him in Star mode, not a human being who just lost a dear friend.
@@daweihuang9687 to each their own opinion. he's garnered much respect in the industry for his style and conversational tone. You don't have to like it.
Sean is definitely a unique host. Make no mistake, there is a team of people, including the creator of Hot Ones, Chris Schonberger, doing the research and digging up the topics Sean presents during his shows. His delivery is definitely his own but all credit must be given where due.
I guess I’m watching a different show then all these other people. I see a super awkward guy reading prepared questions and never knowing how to follow up with anything interesting. The questions are good but they are delivered in a wooden manner and he can’t say or do anything clever on the fly.
@@CristinaTringali The "awkwardness" is exactly the appeal of the show. Nobody wants to see rich people in suits stroking their own egos and pretending they're kings anymore.
@@kevinbasto5611 Nonsense. Not a single bit of confusion or uncertainty on his part. Clearly you don't perform or have a huge following. He's ALSO eating Scorching Hot Wings of Death, WHILE doing the Interview. Go show us how it's done...or shut yer pie hole.
Dumbest statement ever Confidence is not silent, insecurities are not loud, this is just a silly statement made for people who are insecure to feel better about themselves by thinking the opposite of the truth
I am not sure if anyone has noticed how GREAT these videos are for people who struggle with pragmatics. I am an intervention specialist who has to help students on the spectrum learn how to interact with and/or read people in social situations. These videos are gold and an unexpected gift that emerged from the virtual void 🤩
"intervention specialist who has to help students on the spectrum learn how to interact with and/or read people in social situations" sorry, can you tell me more on this? what is this job and how do you go about doing so? sounds kinda fascinating!
HOW TO IMPRESS SOMEONE YOU ADMIRE (summary) 1. ask killer questions beyond the obvious ones 00:28 2. use the question preamble to connect on a personal level 03:09 3. steer conversations towards the other persons emotion or passions 04:52 4. tease playfully and have some fun 07:37 5. comfortably express disagreement 09:12 This is an awesome video and this summary doesn't do it justice. Watch it all the way through. Thank me later. 🙂
The problem with doing this, at least with “peers” (like someone you want to date) is if you “do research” and start asking in-depth questions about things you wouldn’t know about without that research you’re probably going to creep them out
I think the research aspect would just force it anyways. There’s much to be said for asking unique and interesting questions but for dating I think the focus should just be on “what do you want to know about this person” rather than “how can I make this person like me”.
On the way into my first job interview I noticed a sign outside that stated the company was the oldest in its industry and the year it was founded. (exactly 200 years before!) When I was asked how much I knew about the company, I brought that up and asked if they were doing anything special for its anniversary. They called me the next morning with a job offer.
I find it helps to just switch off your brain for a moment and take the plunge. A bit like diving into cold water. After a respectful tease the whole conversation can get so much more relaxed. Don't forget that high status people are used to people tiptoeing around them and often bored of it.
This is such a wrong view. Every person has humor, just not the same humor. So it's not because you don't find them funny that they aren't funny. It's just your opinion. Sean, or his team behind the curtains, have a talent of finding out everything there is to know about the celebs, even their kind of humor.
I remember I had an interview in a high tech company and I was extremely under qualified. I researched the interviewer online before the interview and found out he had a couple of patents. I brought that up while he was walking me from the lobby to the interview room. He was so shocked I even knew about it and I got the internship the next day.
What a terrible idea. I would’ve thought you were a freak, an adulator. It also makes you look like someone who is calculating. I would have you escorted out by security on the spot. Amazing you actually got the position. This person is probably very naive for having hired you. Also, people who behave like this are the reason why toxic working environments exist. I would bet you probably have very strong back stabbing’ tendencies too.
Yes, this is coming from someone who subjects themselves to the hottest sauces they can find, once you have drank a half bottle of Da Bomb, nothing can scare you anymore. No person or object will hurt you as much as that will.
Back when I used to be a treinee at a gym, there was a girl that I became friends with and I noticed she even used to became blushed and nervous when I talked to her, as if she was interested, and then when we followed each other on Instagram I discovered that she was a singer from a considerably popular local band that I had never happen to know because I'm not a big fan of that specific music style. But it was interesting to see how I behaved naturaly just because I didn't knew who she was. I didn't ask her out btw, I was not single at the time lol
Another thing that makes Sean so great is his how he takes his time. He never rushes his guests and takes his time asking questions. He's also comfortable in silence and doesn't feel pressured to ask killer question every time
never get tired of how often sean impresses guests with his questions. though at the same time sean has said that he does a massive amount of research prior to any interview/guest
Sean makes guests feel like not being interviewed at all, instead he plays inside the spicy wings game and the questions feels more like an excuse to engage those invited, rather than the focus of it all, Hot Ones format is unique and fresh, and is a display of good things to come. Sean is a talented guy, bright yet humble, a good content maker/contributor .
Agree, the show is great. I normally don't give a flying about celebrities, but Sean makes the conversation interesting to watch by asking really good question (and actually letting them answer, unlike some hosts who wants to be in the spotlight 100% of the time).
Sean Evans is like the celebrity whisperer! Also, his humility is a definite plus. He’s the right balance of admirer, intelligence, and chill! I love him. ♥️🙌🏼💯
For me the most important thing about conversations and questions is to ask something you're actually interested in. Sean asks phenomenal questions, but his job is to get information out of people for the sake of informing and entertaining viewers and listeners. When I'm in a conversation, I want this information for myself, so there is no point in asking something you don't care about. Also it gives the conversation genuity which can make even ordinary, uncreative questions feel natural and interesting
People don’t respect intelligence, per se; people respect competence. They like when you are able to effectively interpret and respond to what they’re saying, but they don’t like when you come off as a know-it-all.
@@7ylerD If you claim you are intelligent is shows how insecure you are - that is what turns people off. The folks who have to brag about how smart they are etc. People respect people being themselves and not having to one up or brag about things like that.
Sean is this generation's greatest interviewer. He is light years ahead in connecting to celebrities in a modern way and knows how to treat everyone so equally and respectfully. Everyone WANTS to be on this show because of Sean and his team.
I love how Sean and his show is getting well deserved recognition for how incredibly skilled he and the show is at these interviews. Better than anything you will find on TV. Shout out to Dustin Poirier for doing the show!
Just wanted to thank you. This channel has helped me a lot. Due to medical conditions I spent my teen years in isolated. I’m 20 now and this channel has helped me a lot in terms of socializing and being a more confident person overall.
Maybe if it helped you then maybe it can also help me, because I was an outsider and scapegoat whole my life and I would like to create more social mind.
Got it, so killer question on first date: so do you think your insecurities in relationship are the fruit of a long and heartfelt grief from the fact your dad did not love you?
Bro, this is the best ad for Hot Ones I've ever seen! As someone who hates spicy food, I had no idea it was a legit interview show, I thought it was just celebs eating gross intense spices!
@@CC-bu2gv highlights: 5 easy ways to start a conversation why good relationships turn bad turn anxiety into charisma lowlights are difficult, I understand videos from this channel end up being pretty personal, a charisma lesson that I need will be different than what you need, but the reaction videos that they started making, I think, are their weakest link right now
It is funny how much of the status thing is an illusion. A friend was star-struck in a bar when he saw the DJ of his favorite radio station. He would never have approached him. I didn't know who the heck he was, so I just dragged my friend over and had a 5 minute conversation with the guy. The real thing is the human connection. Another time I was at a conference and blew off a boring session. I ended up bumping into the guest speaker for the whole event in the cafeteria and bonding over how terrible the food was. I appreciate these videos for making the good moments more reliable, not just "a weird thing that happened to me".
Sean Evans is an awesome interviewer. He inspired me to start asking people more and better questions about themselves, and it's made my social life so much better. And for job interviews, I do a ton of research on all the people I'll meet. Probs not as much research as Sean and Chris do, but it would be weird if I tried to do an "Explain that Gram" on a job interview.
In my experience, if you start to *heavily* self-identify with something you see as fundamentally limited, then you're more likely in general to doubt your own abilities which is just going to lead you to give up on seizing a lot of opportunities you wouldn't otherwise have given up on if you hadn't let that thing be at the center of your identity. That thing being autism in this case. That has been my own experience as an autist, and I have also seen other autists suffer from not following that advice.
I think Dave is right. If you put yourself in box or category such as labelling yourself as ‘maybe even on the autism spectrum’ you’ve now created a belief in your mind which is not helping you. If you can remove the labels that society places on us we become more free to express who we are without caring. It takes work though. Your awkwardness is most likely due to suppression in society because you do things differently. Just a theory from someone that used to think the same things.
It’s hard to ask questions beyond the obvious ones if you don’t know the person that well though. Sean has the luxury of being able to do some research on celebrities’ interests or new work. If you did that to your crush, you’re a creepy stalker 😆
Good Point, let's hope he responds at some point in the (near?) future. I'm sure he can come up with some way of presenting this "research" so that it's not interpreted as a creepy invasion of one's privacy. If done (adroitly or adeptly?) done GOOD...ly(?!), it can come off as very flattering that you sacrificed the time/effort/blood/sweat/tears to go to these lengths, but that's probably part of the risk-taking that he refers to in this video. *It's all in the delivery* - which itself would make a great by-line for Charisma University!
Not sure CoC agrees with this but my approach is to just be interested in what they are doing or where they have been, even though I am not familiar with it. For example, I met someone who worked with building electric excavators. My first response was "Well, that sounds a little unpractical because they require a lot of energy. How long does it last before it's out of battery?". It lead to a very interesting conversation where he got to give me some insights on electrical excavators. I am also the type to ask if someone wore hula skirts if I find out they lived in Hawaii. That either leads to a good laugh or a good story if they actually did wear one.
This is a lot of great info, whenever I go out on a date I typically ask 5 in depth questions with the girl, then get into more detail. Also, in the past when I would have interviews I would always study up on the company. When they were founded, who founded them, what their goal and values are. I almost always got hired for every job I applied. Good stuff my man.
I love Sean Evans. You always learn something new about the celebrities and he doesn’t bait them just for views. I think he’s the best interviewer I’ve ever seen
I ask that on very interview Iźve been on. They always say"the people". Ironically, I worked a job (setting up stages) where the people I worked with and the environment were VERY hastle.
So I was right: treat human beings as human beings and be kind to anyone; it doesn't mean that you'll agree on everything but that is ok ☺️ Keep up the great work guys! 👍🏿
Eye contact is the most powerful thing to keep someone connected to you for a while. It helps me a lot, its just makes the other person in a trance like state. I dont know exactly how it works. But this thing is powerful
That mindset is golden! It's been a true game-changer in my own life. Sometimes we put the people we admire on a pedestal instead of seeing them as a fellow human being. This prevents us from connecting with them and making a lasting impression.
I once commented how good of an interviewer Sean is, that his questions really make the other side open up and he really digs a lot of information about them. Never got so many disagreeing comments hah. Glad you pointed this out
I usually would gloss over RU-vid videos these days, even the educational ones that I usually like. This video was really grabbing my attention and provides a great perspective and information. Kudos.
Video Idea: Chris D’Elia. Two things I notice that I’d love to hear y’all elaborate on. 1) enthusiasm makes the difference. Guy has child like excitement about whatever he’s talking about 2) creatively imagining scenarios to elaborate on the topic at hand and keep people engaged to what you’re saying. Can you do a video on this?
He has a whole team including him who comes up with these amazing questions. He's just the face of the channel, asking the questions. Yes he does improve a lot but the writers don't get recognition honestly and if you're in the entertainment industry, you should have known this already.
Before watching video: Guy: How's it going? ❌ After watching videi;: Guy: Imagine how you're feeling right now. Now take that same situation and imagine that you're on Mars. So fellow martian, how's it going? ✅
I have a sarcastic dry sense of humour and it serves me well. I feel I need to change too much when I watch your videos. Causes me to over think, forget, then never say anything at all to people. Charisma comes through practice, intuition, empathy and a whole host of other skill sets learnt over time. To sum up your videos in one phrase "think outside the box", as cliche as that phrase is, it suits you perfectly. Stay confident, congratulations on your original RU-vid channel and best of luck in the future.
I think everyone has His own Magic, at.least If you are good with communication. I conciously decide to be less social and its Just the part of me who wants to be alone from time to time. You either Accept me as i am or Not, i dont care.
I've been listening to this channel all day after it came up in my autoplay, and I've been trying to learn how to human properly lately. I've been feeling like I'm out of sorts, but my self-confidence (that I've built on my own just by listening to NF) has gotten in my way. Now... I've been seeing flaws in my character and how I can fix it. I mentioned to my coworkers that I've found this channel today and been listening to it ravenously and they asked how it's been going... I laughed and said "Well, it's just Day 1!!!" And they found it hilarious. I've always been known for my humor, and now ... I actually think this is helping me be more personable, instead of relying on shock value. I love this channel. I hope it helps me human better.
I started doing some extremely basic prep work for job interviews some years back and had the last one follow me to my car and give me the position on the spot. It’s that powerful.
As highlighted in this video, Sean's real talent is predicting people's deaths. "Have you ever killed anyone?" "We haven't heard from Coolio in a while."
Poor Coolio, did great work for children ,and had an interesting interview before his passing. "Coolio Joined The Hip Hop Uncensored Podcast To Talk about being approached to do some weird stuff while he was and artist. "
Sean Evans is such a talented interviewer. What makes highlight and lowlight questions so interesting to the interviewee... Highlight questions will bring them joy and make you sound interested in them. Lowlight questions sound like you care and will create a connection with them.
Insightful and tangibly helpful. I love the idea of being playful with higher-profile people, rather than always speaking/responding in literal terms. Will definitely be using this. Thanks, Charlie!
this video made me realize something.. I used to do most of these things. mind you, I'm already very introverted. then I worked closely with a superior at work. I tried establishing a comfortable relationship to ease the stress of the job. he took it too far. yes, he confided in me and relied on me, but he also gave me most of the work and complained to me multiple times a day. to everyone else, he was happy-go-lucky guy that seemed understanding. to me, he was fed up with everyone's incompetence and life and repeatedly informed me daily. after 2-3 years I actually got depressed because of the stress of the job and the toxic environment he made. fast forward to now, half a year later, and I have an amazing, understanding, intelligent, positive boss and I'm so glad that is all behind me.
The main reason this channel is awesome! For beginners or shy people, this is a great course and checklist, and for seasoned charisma veterans, you can still get some great tips for your own strategies. Very well spoken
Little gratitude here, I have used your teachings on interviews, for my agents and team leads to help them make better connections. Thank you for sharing
I totally stumbled on this video, but this is one of the most valuable 15 minutes of education that anyone could have in learning how to network and connect with a stranger that they are interested in partnering with or learning from. HUGE HIGH YIELD how to.
peterDcontact it means to stop trying to watch advice on how to be something other than how you would normally be. If you put on a show, the facade will fail at some point and that person you were trying to impress won’t stick around. If you don’t try to impress them from the get-go, if it’s meant to be, they will stay anyway.
Yeah, but to be able to do that you have to be the best person you can possible be. And that is hard or nearly impossible. So it is useful to be aware of the fact that you are not perfect. And it is good to be modest and to ask for apology every time you were wrong.
ben yeah of course. When you are objectively wrong on something. I do like the tips on this video, it’s more like in my opinion, when you act like yourself without restraint then you tend to polarize people and the only people who stick around are the ones who count. 😊
It makes me sad that most meet and greets with our favourite artists are just a hi, handshake and a picture. I would have loved to have used this a couple of times I met people I admire greatly.
Just in time! I've been preparing application to my dream company and I was really hesitating about the way how I decided to approach it. It's a very well-known designer and a unique persona, so I decided to prepare a super informal video application, with a few jokes related to him. Feel very relieved to see that it ticks all the points from the list!
Good conversations engage on an emotional level. Ways to do that: Why questions "Why do you like it"? steer away from mundane "What was the best, what was the worst?"
You forgot to say you need a personality, and be smart, educated, emotionally and socially intelligent, balanced, a great communicator, among other traits...
I watched this video two weeks ago and yesterday I used the 'best and worst' structure in a flirty conversation with a girl i just met. Her reaction was exactly the same as in the video and I could tell she was impressed. I am now in the possession of her number. Thanks!
These questions are also being asked while they are eating spicy food! This makes an even interesting conversation because not only are they concentrating on the heat going on in their mouth but they are also thinking about the conversation. So far this is the most interesting video so far for me in my opinion that I've watched from you. I haven't seen them all but so far.....
If these videos are any indication of the quality of your course, it practically sells itself! Well researched, clear, to the point and excellent examples even for those of us firm in self confidence these are great tips to practice more deliberately.
Do a video on attitude. I’d like to know how to consistently maintain a positive attitude. I also think it’s such a simple concept that we tend to overlook it, but it’s huge.
I'm taking and watching these videos to build up my characters, by writing them and inserting those techniques into each character, I memorise them too. And I have to say, so far I have built great characters and I'm taking your notes, Charlie and Ben. I'm sure my dad uses your techniques too in his business, and have to say, he knows to read ANY adult accurately. No bragging.
*Sean honestly DOESN'T have to ask good question, because he knows many people watch his videos for the celebrities' reaction to hot sauce, but he still asks amazing questions, that's why he's the most underrated and best hosts of all time!!*
Without the questions the celebrities wouldn't be lining up to come on the show though. The wings are for the fans, the quality of the interview is for the celebs.
Great advice. Great practical points to implement, use, with anyone who 1) respects you enough to want to engage with you on an “emotional” level and 2) see number 1 above. If they don’t basically nothing you say, or do, will matter. If someone simply doesn’t feel comfortable around you, they might not even consciously know why they feel that way, they’ll quickly find a conscious reason not to. At that point all meaningful conversations are over before they start no matter how you phrase the questions.
These are great tips! Love it. I have a question though. If you were to start a conversation with someone that you repeatedly interact, you'll tend to run out of "researchable questions", and eventually resort to the typical "How are you?" or "How was your weekend?" question, how do you avoid to do that with someone you already know and engage with on a frequent basis?
You don't. If you see someone THAT often where you've ran out of things to say, then basic interactions apply. The other option is to start having deeper more philosophical conversations, or silly musings and random thoughts.
In that case I'd just resort to really wacky funny questions that aren't researchable. Those "researchable questions" should probably be used to get to know someone and for them to open up to you. You don't need to be doing that for years, because at some point you just become normal friends where u can talk about random stuff
