Kissing is obviously critical in game. Unfortunately, it's also an area most guess mess up repeatedly and horribly. Find out how to create kissing opportunities the right way. And for more, check out verbalgameacad...
He is the best I know on RU-vid. My personal take aways from his content are self confidence and getting people to have interest in me just on the moment of talking to me, old acquaintances and even if it is for the first time. Decades I was terrible, a day after implementing his content everything magics out. And I will always use his content.
Timestamps/notes: 1:35 Kissing is NOT escalation. It's non-verbal verbal game. It's an agreement between the two people that you guys like each other, and opens more doors for things ya'll would be down to do. 2:40 Vibe is more important than technique when it comes to kissing. do NOT kiss when the vibe is: - Friendly and calm. Instead create sexual tension and nervousness - high energy (and if you guys aren't seated, like if you're walking). Remember you can CREATE the vibe and not WAIT for opportunities ("we talked a lot, we talked too much..." then kiss. Great way to create a moment in a high energy dynamic). This is called a "phase shift" - when you shift the dynamic 5:25 5 techniques to go for a kiss: 5:48 1. Build tension (more advanced - Todd's go to method), have her qualify -> tease and playful vibes + look for a time when he's flustered. Escalate (push/pull, push her away (touch) or a more intimate touch (brush her hair away). Other tests for physical contact: - leaning in for a secret - lean in/hold it to see if she doesn't tug away - if she pulls away, then play it off jokingly ("Not a fan of secrets? // i guess you don't like secrets huh// Fine I guess I'll keep my secrets to myself :D") The next step after this is to trust ur intuition and not need to do these tests 7:54 2. Triangular gazing - Gaze from her eyes to lips. Watch how she reacts when u glance at her lips - is she comfortable? When you lean in, does he hold or lean back (another tester)? 8:56 3. Just ask her. Don't be obvious (i.e. 'can i kiss you') but rather be subtle. Examples: "Are you as good a kisser as you are a conversationalist?" "What would you do if I kissed you right now?" Both of these are, again, testers. If she gives a positive response then great, if not then play it off. Note: for beginners, if you sense the vibe is there for a kiss, it was probably there like 10 minutes ago. For the next step, sense it earlier and also make it less verbal. 10:42 4. the "eyes closed" kiss. Tell her to close her eyes and go for it. This is not ideal as it's more risky - but if she likes u she'll trust you enough to close her eyes. A great way to test for this is ask her "hey do you trust me?". This is also a good one to use if the vibe is on but the logistics are not (i.e. if shes all over the place this will get her to clam down for a sec) 12:32 5. The gangster - basically walk to her, take her by the back of the head, and kiss her. Good to use if the vibe is there and there is physical space (a table, ur on opposite sides of the couch, etc.) in the way. This is v ballsy but also v obvious. If she declines then play it off like 'hey lemme show you smth on my phone' (this makes it safe since its v easy to play off). 14:19: The most important mentality is to go for it. Very similar to cold approaching huh ;) If you don't make a move, you'll never know if you'll be rejected or if it could lead to something more. "You may get rejected momentarily if you try to kiss her but you will obtain a certain rejection if you don't."
@@danielwells774 not so much, I kissed some girls by grabbing their chin with some strenght, make her look at me and then going for it. I'd do this if you got some balls and there is interest in the other side, the good point of this is that you end up like a fkin alpha dominant male, even tho I don't believe in that shit, it automatically gives you a sense that you're the coolest thing ever, idk if I explaim myself.
This is like the most difficult part of all for me. No problem with attraction, excalation, etc. But THE KISS, is always the main mountain to climb for me. I love to see a detailed video about one of the biggest sticking points of almost everybody I think. Thanks Todd, I needed this.
I'd say make sure you're doing lots of other forms of touching first-that helps for me. Start with platonic ones like high fives, touching her hand or arm, quick hug or push away, palm reading, pat on the top of the head like a dog, etc. Then some man-to-woman or intimate ones like hand holding, tickling, whispering in her ear, brushing hair out of her face, picking her up or carrying her in some way, close dancing like tango if you know it, etc. I would also sit NEXT to her at a restaurant or bar (not across), so it's easier to touch more. If you're doing a bunch of romantic touching already, then the kiss should not feel like a huge mountain to climb from there. If it does, you maybe just haven't experienced it going well enough times yet to really feel the appropriate level of confidence, but you will get there with time. One more tip: Also try holding eye contact for longer when you want to kiss soon-it's amazing for building the tension. You can even just challenge her to a staring contest if she's not holding the eye contact naturally.
@@Paul-yk7ds thanks for your detailed answer and tips! Much appreciated✌️ As you said probably I just need more positive experiences. I just find it very scary because it's a crucial moment in the interaction, even if I have lots of signals that the girl likes me. But yeah, it will come with time I guess :)
@@MrSuperpitx You might be thinking about it as more crucial than it actually is. In my experience it's typically still fine if the first kiss ends up being clumsy or you get kinda rejected for some reason the first time. Remember the story Todd mentioned in the video with the girl who closed her lips when he kissed her the first time lol. He said they still ended up dating for a couple years. So if she likes you overall, I think an awkward first kiss attempt or something is generally not going to ruin things.
Amazingly helpful content as usual. I’ve noted some of this stuff down from this video that even after years of looking into game I got the feeling of “huh, I didn’t think of that”
This literally worked for me yesterday. This girl was grinding on me. I would lean in to her for a kiss but she wasn't leaning in. I asked her this "Are your kissing skills as good as your dancing skills". We kissed and I pulled this girl back home. This was my first pull from a bar.
Even if you get rejected in that moment, you're still gonna look like you have balls, and it is still likely to work later down the line, rather than you looking either gay, or like a beta or a nice guy who expects the girl to kiss you for being so noble as to pay for her meal.
At first when you said " if you can t kiss her you won't get anywhere" I almost got off the video because I have had many experiences where if you are perceptive enough she will give you hints and some times when you observe where her eyes tend to go... For example your body especially under the belt that is a dead give away. Glad you brought up the idea of being "rejected" cos she didn't see it coming or whatever, the first kiss is not accepted yet it opens up the possibility and I think that's for the dummies or absent minded ones. Most women have a super powerful intuition and they can almost read your mind 😅
I tried 6 times to kiss a girl. I didn't think it was the wrong moment. She thanked me, complimented the hell out of my persistence for it later and apologized for it. She met me in my apartment THE NEXT DAY. Good things happened. Persistence is King. You can't always finesse this.
For me, I found that when I like the girl and the vibe is there, kissing just comes naturally. Eventually there comes a moment when I'm most confident to do it and I just go for it. I used beat myself up after first dates where I didn't go for the kiss but after some times I realized I didn't really like the girl in the first place and was putting unnecessary pressure on myself.
This was excellent. Not only did you drive the content excellently. I first noticed the points your taught in another video on good story telling. It's beautiful anyone can learn more than a thing from your material. Nice content Todd.
Amazing content as always Todd!! Once, and long story short, I was on second date with a really hot girl (8/9) but she had a boyfriend. However, I knew she liked me, and going to beach during night and bringing drinks is a clear indicator. Well, when he had good vibes I just said “if you wouldn’t have a boyfriend, we would be kissing right now”, while looking into her eyes… Right after, she basically started to kiss me and things went from there. But, as you said, the building sexual tension by creating image or thoughts in her head and confidence behind it are key!
I use the "brush the hair away" but with only one finger. If she smiles or otherwise shows she likes it, I wait & then brush her cheek with the same finger. If she nuzzles against the finger, I slide it down to her chin, lightly hold her chin with the finger and thumb, and bring her up for the kiss. Usually, she will have closed her eyes before I get to the chin.
Holy shit. I'd consider myself more intermediate to advanced and it always blows my mind how Todd can get back to the basics and techniques that we all forget about along the journey. Cheers, needed this
i moved out to a new place and had to change my go-to bar with the "casting couch" where it was easy to make a move. so ganster makes a lot of sense when the girl sitting across the table. excited to try
"Sublte" is of course "subtle". "Are you as good of a kisser, as you are a talker?". Wow, I wish that I had thought of that. Who needs sophisticated escalation when you have a line like that?
I definitely plan on enrolling in your course after I get most of my credit card debt paid off over the next few months. I think it would be an incredible value to learn imho!
AWESOME! Todd is definitively the master! The first one, the one about telling a secret is very smart. The second one the triangular gaze, I do it when I extremely like a girl, but I found out that it can repeatedly be used to get a girl hooked to you even if you don't kiss her, maybe to mess a little bit with her, but don't try to mess to much because if not it backfires, unless you don't just want to play. The third one in my opinion is weak, it can be done if you physically like the girl, but you're not so interested in something more, simply because it destroys the vibe. The fourth one is good too, I like it but as Todd says if the atmosphere is right and correct. The last one is absolutely stunning, it communicates extreme confidence, I love it
OTHER important insight to remember when kissing is that women kiss each other all the time, between friends they literally go to the bathroom together just to kiss So a "kiss" for most women is not a big deal, they have a lot of those among them and give them away to strangers like candies in Halloween when they're partying So we should treat it the same way, it's not a big deal and unless it's about sex there's nothing really "to lose" in the interaction if she doesn't give it to us I think that really takes the burden off of our shoulders
also, as mentioned by Todd on old videos: you escalate to sex without kissing. if the vibe is going and there is sexual tension, and for some reason the girl avoid kisses, that means its probably her blueprint and you can just ignore and go forward.
@@ErikTails yep, there are women who literally tell you they won't kiss you because they have a bf and for them kissing is cheating But BJ's and sex with strangers aren't 🤦
@@CharlesCowart-x2w I found it sorta disgusting. I don't really know how there's guys that after seeing all this sht, still preach to "not judge women" Well certainly not judging them will get you laid but won't get you the best results possible long term At the moment of choosing a long term partner you better choose a woman who's some self awareness in general You really don't want a woman that would rationalize that blowing or fckn other man doesn't count as cheating
@@paratyfuz5681 I kissed different one, not the oneI was talking about here. It didn’t go really well, we kept talking to each other for a few months, but she was scared or smth because she would text me every day but never agree to go on another date. Later the convo died, but I still remember her as one of the brightest and cutest girl I ever knew
Damn, I should've watched this before the date. Got rejected by not kissing a woman even tho the mood was fully set up and the girl was very down for it. I didn't have the balls. Lesson learned the hard way.
Todd knows his stuff. No shiit like a year ago, I followed Todd's video on 'is it emotional or logistics.' I figured out it was emotional, made her comfortable and ended up going to her house that night.
That guy named his dog Wendell. ... Wow... What a name ... Oh yeah cool video thanks Todd. Edit: honestly tho, This stuff really helps. I've used these techniques the best being pulling away and not kissing but letting her know you can. It works incredibly
I agree on going for it but sometimes first date during the day of you don’t already know her can be a judgement call. Definitely need to go for it soon so you don’t waste your time and money
Lmao that moment when "the gangster" has been what I've been doing basically every fuckin time because it just works and I didn't even realize it was a thing
I've been going on a lot of dates lately. On one occasion, I got rejected, but I reacted with a smile and didn't make any further contact. Surprisingly, she called me back and we ended up sharing a kiss.
Awesome advice. I loved what you said about YOU setting the vibe and I relate a lot to the Car experience. Sometimes your biggest mistakes become your biggest lessons!
Extra useful as always! Funny you mentioned asking, this reminds me of my first MILF date, she gave me all the shit tests in the world I felt like walking through the sewers at one point and every time I went for the kiss she would laugh and say "you're trying....." as a way to brush it off. In the end I just rebuilt the tension for the 100th time and said "I'm gonna be direct: Can I kiss you?" And she just nodded, we kissed for a while then she said "I prefer direct people anyway". Needless to say we ended up going all the way after that.
I went to kiss, missed and got her forehead. I was completely sober. Anyway...I'm feeling to old for this stuff. I look ugly now. A front tooth has got a screw dangling out of it. I believe certain knowledge can bleed through in other areas. Learning and listening to absorb information and find other uses for it is the way if Im not going to use this.
What happens if i want to go for the kiss on the 2-3 rd date and she's one of my coworkers? She likes me, we flirting, she said yes to a second date! She gave me sign she likes me!
I would never use tongue on the first kiss. Only upper/lower lip kisses unless it's REALLY on, and even then, i don't like too much tongue😂 What's your opinion?
A lot of the tips here reeks of desperation TBH, if you just want a kiss yeah go for them but if you really wanna 'HAVE' her it's a game of patience!! Expecting to kiss on a first date is a NO NO!! shoving your face on her when she is flustered-A DEAL BREAKER!! ....Best one that would work-Look for cues and then gently ask YES!! verbalize !!! and that's what's gonna win you the long term deal.
