i am a narcissist. i always felt like there was a disconnect but nothing ever made sense. people have called me a narcissist for staring every time i see my reflection, but i always played it off. i think everyone is a little narcissistic but i am off the deep end, and always have been.
@@davidsprott3216very human has narcissistic traits it’s part of being human if you have all the traits of narcissism then you have might have narcissistic personality disorder which is in people who like to manipulate i wouldn’t say you are a full blown narcissist from looking at yourself
Wrong mate 👎👎 this is misinformation. Not unstable relationships... A lot of narcs have loads of "friends " superficial friendships perhaps. The signs are lack of empathy, superficial charm, habitual lying, gas lighting, triangulation tactics, future faking, making up stories of fake success, emotional abusers, users or takers, self inflated ego , self absorbed. They are all there if you pay enough attention
Damn 🤦🏻♀️… I’m pretty sure the guy I just broke up with has most of the traits you mentioned. I suspected he has a personality disorder just wasn’t sure which kind. I think I have my answer, thank you.
Navigating the maze of deceit spun by a narcissist really shakes you to your core, doesn't it? Their mind games are designed to break you down, making everything, even seeking help, feel like a betrayal to your own sanity. It’s a level of emotional exhaustion that’s hard to put into words.
It’s the getting bullied at a young age, the “I’m never good enough” self talk for years and years. Then one day you realize your worth and you start using your trauma to fuel your drive. You become so confident, you just don’t need anyone but yourself.
Totally agree, I had experienced low sense of self worth and was suicidal after years of abuse, and I also gambled to block it out, they misdiagnosed me with BPD based on that. How stigmatizing, now I'm fighting a new fight. There are definitely problems with the DSM 5 . You only need to meet 5 symptoms , I have none of the other 9. @@seaweedeater3104
@@seaweedeater3104exactly what he described isn’t even narcissistic. People these days bluntly call everything narcissistic without knowing what narcism even is. Thats called healthy dose of narcissism mist most people have. And that person could also have ADHD or use that fuel to gym and help others such as creating a RU-vid channel for example. Narcism in my opinion are extreme black pilled indifference or people who loves to be a boss and shows it by the admiration she/he loves and then manipulating and damaging the co workers if they deem them to be un useful rather than trying to help them out. And true narcissism isn’t as common as people like to believe but you could tell unless you’re in an inexperienced relationship or inexperienced in psychology.
theres this friend im friends with and always seem to have no empathy for others. everything is about them. if i give them an answer that they dont want to hear at any moment, they will give me the silent treatment and say im “acting weird”
A history of unstable relationships does not mean someone is a narcissist. There are around 5 established character traits of narcissists and this man didn't list any. Odd.
@@Eleventyeleventh With people high on the narcissistic spectrum - yes. With everyone else - no. These days I keep well away from people with strong narcissistic traits.
@@Eleventyeleventh I know people very high on the narcissism spectrum who have stable friendships going back many decades. It's just not a trait I'd mention as it's not peculiar to narcissists.
thats more like Anti social personality disorder than narcissism .. most narcissists do very well at their jobs and either become part of management or sole provider for the family
Not all Narcissists become part of management, some of them will never have the chance to move up because they've offended or pissed off their boss with their narcissistic speech.
Yeah the only reason they Don move up is because their boss is a bigger narc In ranking. Corporate narcs will fire you if you show too many signs of narcissism and then you become a threat to their position.
Sole providers for the family? How is that even narcissism? Sounds like you’re the one who is a narcissist and trying to warp the idea that a healthy dose of narcissism and normal individuals such as immigrants who are the main business management family providers are some narcissists such as middle easterns of indian Americas. No, most actual narcissists are the ones who are movie celebrities, extreme looksmaxers, business managers, not wners, managers, who only provide for themselves and their relationship “partner”, in art field such as jewelry sculpting or pottery business, OF model, etc.
Exactly! Narcissists are charming, they have lots of friends. That's why it's a buzzword. If it was associated with loners and not vapid, popular, attractive types, it would not be so widely used.
Narcissistic they say are lonely,angry all the time,with moments of fear and anger,not charming and amazing! You know nothing. But still,no one is a narcissistic,cuz that makes you all narcissistic. Done!@@harumiayame8586
There’s lots of Narcissists in the work Environment. I think the Scapegoat has trouble w Work and friendships due to Narcissistic Abuse. Narcissists I know were able to Keep a Stable job and go to work. This is why No one Suspected them. ESP, the covert type. They check the boxes in Society and wear a mask . But, behind closed doors…..
I agree 200% My husband is a narcissist His father died at the age of 13.He had to quit school and find work to provide for his family.My mother in law isn’t the type to hug her children or show them effection.She was very tough on him and his brothers and sisters.He is right about saying they had a tough childhood
Seems rather vague. And not an easy thing to find out about someone unless you’re already in too deep. You didn’t mention any of the more common traits, or diagnostic criteria. I’d say lack of empathy, pathological lying, manipulative behaviour, sense of entitlement, victim mentality, disrespect of boundaries - all pretty reliable signs.
Most mental disorders cause unstable relationships, this is almost the definition of mental disorder. Here's some useful hints to detect a narcissist: - Doesn't take accountability for anything and never apologises. - Is obsessed with appearences. - Can't comprehend the concept of an equal relationship. It's all about power for a narcissist. - Is full of resentment - Constantly bitches about others, neves praises anyone. - Loves to virtue signal and believes he/she is an angel. - Seems perfect and charming at first sight but deep down is extremely insecure. - Will be extremely cruel at times and then either deny it or blame it on you. You're welcome.
This is wrong. MISINFORMATION. Lots of non-narcissists are emotionally unregulated and have unstable relationships such as adults that were abused for years by a narc parent(s) and therefore have CPTSD. These poor people are targets for all the narcs around them.
I definitely agree with him. The statement giving is they actually become that's because development is all about environmental factors so it's hard to diagnose children (kids) however when you begin to notice it in kids help steer in the right directions however adults it's hard to steer adults they set in ways which helps mole them into NPD
it is said to begin at a child age such as between 8 to 12 , I have done alot of research, and every therapist so far has said it comes from thier home as a child by thier main caregiver, it is a way to keep themselves safe emotionally. so what your saying is that is not true???
Narcs are often very popular types...watch any highschool tv shows? So the bullied and disenchised are more likely to be narcissistic? Do you hear yourself?
The easiest way to tell if someone is a narcissist it’s just to plainly ask them: ‘are you a narcissist?’ because narcissists love to tell you you are instead
I don't know man, I kinda question myself and my mind at this point. It's not as easy as asking yourself a question, or being asked it by someone else. A lot of shit happened in my life, so I don't even know where I'm at mentally.
@@Nicolecooper961 I’m talking about the begining lovebombing stages . I wasn’t even interested at 1st at all. and you can’t fake it- to be crazy obsessed. Calling me stalking me texting me u could feel the obsession for sureeeee . So that was my question.
Ummmm that isn't correct, people with BPD have those issues, people with CPTSD and PTSD have those issues....there are 15 marks and someone has go have the majority of them. This includes subtypes...
@@grasweg3it does you're right, and it makes more sense because we're slowly finding out BPD are usually abuse victims and cptsd and BPD are the closest on the diagnostic criteria.
It started as kids and they come out of pubety as these personality disorders. Since a child they had an unhealthy response to some kind of trauma and develop mental defense mechanism to disassociate them selves.
Hahaha man I am living and sorrounded by narcissist people, my parents, my friends, my classmates are all narcissists. Belittling is just like bullying it depends. For me their belittling attitude is hurting me and making me feel bad. Also they are making me have a low self-esteem. They are making me so uncomfortable. God why this world is so cruel.
a narcissist can tangle us up in lies is just wild, isn't it? Their tactics can make us question our very sanity, seeding doubt in every corner of our lives. It's this kind of emotional turmoil that feels like an endless storm. But then, a real game-changer called PEATOOLS. They were a quiet beacon of truth for me, revealing the hidden layers of my own relationship. Suddenly, all those secret conversations came to light, and I could finally see the reality of it all.
THANK YOUUUU SO-O MUCH! I AM NOT IMAGINING ANY of this.. he's had MULTIPLE failed marriages and apparently his own SON hates him and won't talk to him... I can see why and I'm quite certain it's NPD from multiple of the 9 irremovable traits... I just also got sucked In by ironically someone else.. a completely different person.. who I now realise is also acting in a symilar way as an NPD sufferer but I never had thought she could be so I let her slightly in .. fucking regret... Only regret
Sorry this is not true. Unstable relationships can be a result of all kinds of personality disorders, mental issues and ptsd. Also Narcsisits can have stable relationships or seem to be stable mariges, and still be one. This is misleading and causing the hype of modern times when you diagnose everyone as narcsisist.
What about anger all the time and explosions of unexplained and unexpected outbursts of aggression over something that is innocuous as asking about a train timetable
I don’t agree with that because you have some narcissist that stay in long-term relationships and the person that they’re abusing don’t even realize they’re being emotionally sometimes physically and psychologically abused so I won’t agree with unstable relationships because they can be in a relationship for 2030 years and putting a person through abuse for 20 to 30 years being a narcissist
I disagree with this. A lot of people are narcissists and they show up in relationships and work environments so just because you've had difficulties in relationships in work environments and in relationships doesnt mean you're the narcissist. It could very well mean that they were the narcissists and you just didn't put up with them.
because they still crave affirmation in an unhealthy way, and they become vindictive when they feel they dont get it. it's destructive in relationships.
@@Hustle.central idk, time and effort. it's hard. being concious of it and trying is the first step. a big part of it for me is taking life more seriously and taking myself less seriously. just work on helping yourself while being less self involved. idk try and fail and learn and try. that's all there is.
@@Hustle.central Meditation. Spend time alone in nature. Bring your attention back to the here and now moment. Pay close attention to the way people respond to you. And give them plenty of space to talk.
Her work environment is actually the one place she “thrives”. I’ve seen her mood instantly change when the hospital (her work) calls asking her to come in. Almost like it saved her from having to be at home with her family. I’m obviously not disagreeing with your statement. They come in all shapes sizes colors.
False. This is highly misinformed information. Lots of charming, charismatic, seemingly successful managers and CEOs are narcissists. Narcissists can also maintain romantic relationships for years or decades as long as they find some self serving benefit to the relationship. So you couldn’t be more wrong.
"Mister", you're paid to tell those lies. From whom, that's the main question here. ???? Go, lie to your dog. But, dog knows it too. So, lie to a fish, it can't hear you. That was going on 50 yeaes ago, today is a totally different story. You're out of time, betrayers.
This is BS. What you describing is not narcissistic behavior. Although you described someone who may be disabled or severely unstable. You put up a good front though.
@@rogerdawson3675 as long as I don't harm others it's perfectly fine Always put yourself before others This is coming from a previous people pleaser My father helped everyone and was the nicest guy I know but at his death bed no one came to visit him or at his funeral It's because he wasn't respected He never gave his own opinions and never lived while focusing on himself His last words were that always life for yourself and then think about others after that Just because you do good doesn't mean you're gonna Live good Happiest guys I know are narcissistic and that's a clear sign pleasing others is not the way to live a fulfilling life
