The issue is that millennial guys growing up in the church in southern california (im part romanian also) were given conflicting and impossible messages. In purity culture guys were told sexual expression and experimentation was bad or something shameful to be hidden that you can't be open about. So you had guys literally given books saying you aren't allowed to even look to anybody you might be attracted to (like "every young man's battle") unless you have the independent socioeconomic stability to make a lifelong commitment and pay for a wedding. So only guys who were psychopathic or liars could succeed or get laid under that kind of system, the rest get ignored because they can't afford to be the provider guy until they are much older at which point they often want to date much younger women rather than people who are judgmental and sex negative. They get tired of it and drop out and instead get a strategy to hook up until something sticks. The way it works is during the natural experimentation process oxytocin exaggetates outgroup differences leading to secure attachment in the context of socioeconomic stability. Another thing is nobody is waiting until marriage to hook up, so if a guy feels he has to hold out after the age basically everybody has hooked up already it doesn't feel right. You need the sexual expression to get things going in the first place. Disney sold millennial women on standards nobody can afford and sets guys up for one sided puritanical relationships and contractual dead bedrooms based on legalistic thinking rather than passion and physical and emotional chemistry. The Bible is not scientifically accurate and is not historically accurate and has been used as a tool of control and power for older generations which millennials may feel doesn't speak to their needs or experiences and is more about controlling them and repressing and exploiting them. So they drop out These days i think chaos magick and satanism is kind of cool Gay people and trans people and goth girls seem way more fun and appreciate me more without using their sexuality as a bargaining chip and don't require the guy make a lifelong commitment or afford an expensive formal staged wedding up front with a 50%+ divorce rate the minute you lose a job and complain that their unrealistic standards can't be met, controlled and shamed by everybody. As the guy, you have no leverage. Plus this idea of being "worldly." It often means you can't have any fun. No weed, no going out, no creative sexual ideas, no social deviancs and complete conformity - you are controlled and owned like a slave. The church girls will judge you for all that, restrict you, coerce you, so you feel trapped. You can't like anything fun or trendy. No video games, no concerts, no cartoon shows unless its Disney. There is jealousy all the time where they create a dead bedroom over time but then get jealous if you do anything outside of the marriage. Then the religious girls secretly do all the bad stuff anyways, except with the sucker guy that is the incel simp paying for everything in a one way dynamic
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