How To Know If Your Ex Is Interested Again (Also Explains Indirect/Direct Approach) 

Craig i gotta give you credit bro... You helped save my marriage. I took your advice step by step and put in the work. When she reached out i was ready. Thank you sooo much God bless!!!

This dude is a freaking emotional genius and has literally confirmed every bit of research I've uncovered. The logo for his episodes is spot-on.

I like this guy Craig at least he's not telling me to read his book 10 to 15 times like another relationship coach on You tube

I can't recommend therapy enough. I'm a trucker and a "man's man" so it's hard to admit when I need help but this breakup is the toughest thing I've gone through and I lost my sister when I was 14. Guys, I thank God every night I'm in therapy and I can imagine if I was doing this alone. Please consider it. Above all remember, this feeling CANT be forever and I've personally noticed the best time in my life were following the worst times. Hang in there, it's about to get good

She reaches out all the time, and I’ve always known this would one day happen, as we did have a special bond. If she truly didn’t miss me or care she wouldn’t reach out at all.

"Women do not contact men that they are not interested in"

Interesting note about how anxiety can cause poor memory. Love these little extra bits of researched psychological knowledge you include in your videos.

Coach Craig is on point with indirect/ direct approach! I had a coaching session with him and he was straight to the point and told me the places where I messed up. He also told what I needed to do to work on myself. Me and my ex have been broken up for 3 weeks. she texted me today asking me to call her. I was thrown off guard about it, so I was joking with and asked her what it was about and all she said was please just call me. So I did, the direct part was asking me to call. The indirect part she was asking me if she can come pick up her furniture. She could had just texted me and told me she need to get her furniture. Coach Craig told me what to say and how to handle it when she came around again. So she told me that and I asked how have she has been, she said this " I'm good, and I was kinda nervous to call you." my response "why?" she said "you know" how I responded " You don't need to be nervous, so let's catch up. When are you free tomorrow?" she said " I have a job interview at 5." I said " ok, let's gets some drinks and have some appetizers. I'll pick you up at 7pm." her response "Ok, but I'm not drinking though." I asked this "look if I came by, are you going to be ready when I come by at 7?" she said " yes I will be ready, where are we going?" All I told her is that I will handle the details and not to worry about it. My situation different, and the Coach will tell you what you need to do. Thank you coach and I will keep you guys updated!

"Today, I want you to have a good day today, tomorrow, I hope you don't wake up" hahahahahha

Love your topics and videos. Also your personality is the best

Im getting the work books now. I have been watching your videos and taking notes. These videos have changed my life! I am now understanding myself. I admit, it is so scary discovering all of this and trying to work through it. Makes my anxiety spike!

THAT "I HOPE YOU HAVE A GOOD DAY" GAVE ME MY FIRST GENUINE LAUGHTER IN DAYS

Hey Craig, i can't thank you enough for what you and Margaret do. Thank you so much. I really appreciate the videos you put out. They're very insightful and inspiring.

i watch alot of shows online and never ever comment good or bad.the only reason im reaching out you said you went of topic as a bad thing i believe in everything happens for a reason and i felt i owed you a thank you for going of topic like you did of the most constructive insightful piece of information ive heard, dont ever apologize for helping out you do a great service

Wow. I loved what you said about A.D.D. Makes a lot of sense.

I just got a message a few hours ago, after weeks on and off of no contact. I say on and off because I would only reach out if they did first, like you teach. Anyway, he ignored my last reply for over a week and started taking a few things down on social media. I was fearing the worst. But out of nowhere. I get a message, almost a replica of some of the indirect-direct situations you describe. I thought at first it was a joke and he knew I'd been watching you! 😂 he asked about a shirt that I don't even think is at my house! He asked if I remember it and also said he hoped I was alright. Soo weird! I will make sure to reply soon, and not ignore him, but need to catch up on some needed sleep. Thank you very much for all these videos Craig. This one was funny too!

Your tangent on anxiety and memory loss made so much sense to me!! I have GAD and very selective memory. I had no idea my anxiety is what could be affecting my memory. Interesting 🤔

Craig great point on the unhealthy stress/coping skills mechanisms and their effects on relationship. This is totally me I believe with my ex. My ability to deal with problem and controlling me stress mechanism to what she said to me. I didn't like it and I bursting out, which lead to her telling me to pack my things and take them with me. This lead to me not dealing or listening to what she was asking or telling me. I left and she broke up with me. If I just settled down and listen to what she was saying things would be different I feel.

I love this video I try it with my relationship and it works thanks coach Craig fantastic job

Spot on... On the memory. Thank you for solving this mystery for me. This has always bother Blessings

Your right women will not call a guy if they are not interested !!

My ex just contacted me twice in over a year the other day. Still wrestling with if I want to respond. We were together for year and a half and we’re going to get married and then literally one night she ended the relationship with “ I can’t focus on a relationship” sounds like she found someone new and it didn’t work out. Excellent video I agree with it and you made me laugh towards the end. Definitely needed it!

Coach Craig , Can you do a video on more in -depth attachment styles please? What causes avoidance style n anxious style is what I'd like to know. Thank you.

That’s funny, I hope you have a good day, from an ex you haven’t heard from in a year. 😂 Hearing this made my anxiety level go a bit down. Life for us dumpees would be so much better if our ex’s tell us directly, “I miss you very much and I want to work on things together!” Wouldn’t that be a blessing?

Thank you for going off topic in the beginning there. :) I have anxiety and attention deficiencies and your explanation has me thinking about a lot of things.

i find your video's and topics very comforting. i still would like to see one, what if you work with your ex video.

I do think you need to go on with what causes us to react or respond when it comes to losing memory because of anxiety and reasons why we lose relationships. You are not getting off subject many have no idea why relationships go south. Good info so far

Love the idea - considering that ADD is a coping mechanism

Have recently stumbled upon your videos. I have been following a different program and am so so worried I have ruined my chances of getting my guy back. I truly hope that through your videos I can try and reset things...

Coach Craig I am learning a lot from you.

I applaud your professionalism while reading and responding to that email😁😁

Each person lives in their very own bubble of reality.

Hillarious stuff!

Good advice

hey craig thnx 4 all you do for me.. my girlfriend broke up with me a month ago after following your channel i started to see that why she left was my own fault i neglected her placed her in a trofy closet and expected this would work out with a bit of pollishing some time... in the mean time i am struggeling with my self and my past problems (not an excuse to neglect her) she came all the way from napoli (itali) to my home town in holland after 2 times meeting up we where so in love that we started a relation maby to fast without knowing each other... and i never made her feel at home ore apriciated her for what she had done..she left everything for me to be with me and then i behave like i dont apriciate it... cause i was to bussy with everything that was happening in my life plus the fast move to start living togheter made me build a wall for her.. now here is the thing she started dating some one 2/3 weeks after the break up. i acted like a fool after i found it out by myself she was dating some one i knew we stil have contact but i hold a bit distant, but alsow when we meet we talk openly friendly calm and look at each other as if we want each other but still she says i have to just move on and let her go and now last monday i had to tattoo her and we spoke about what went wrong and about our feelings the talk went realy good we laught we had fun the whole evening but now i dont know how to read her signals.. do i need to take steps before i blow it ore should i take it slow and stay "friends" so we can try to build new foundations there are a lot of details that shows she still cares and still loves me she even has and walks still in my hoodys, and yesterday she wanted to borrow them after she was here and needed to go home in the cold so i lent her that... just to be a gentleman.. you can understand that this all is driving me crazy for over a month now cause i dont know how to read the signals i am holding strong knowing that i need to be strong and i need to start to work on myself and my behavior towards people its a dificult sitiuation and i am a bit hopeless could you Craig ore anyone else.. please help me out with a comment ?

Today is the day!! 😅 that was hilarious

Great video

Hi Craig. I love your videos. Can you please do a video on how to tell if a ex is playing mind games

7:12 "I hope you are shaking your head too" --priceless

True because Sunday my ex was dropping me off from church and along the ride I told him to give his mom a hug for me. He said, "you can give it to her yourself". I said I don't know where she lives. It took me until the next day to realize he was trying to ask me to come with him to visit her. I had previously mentioned wanting to come with him as he sits with her. It seems this was his indirect direct way of asking me.

Beginning of this video, as someone who was adopted relationships in general are hard and the family i was adopted into is by far from close so reaching out and trying to befriend people is incredibly hard and ex's are tough because when you do finally connect with someone it's a massive attachment phase and psych re-evaluation that takes place. Thank you for this video man, good stuff you''re helping clear the fog up

Thank you so much for this, Craig. I've often wondered why I have so few memories from childhood :(

From what I've seen, most of the people that are seeking how to get an ex back were in some type of co dependent relationship where they always were the ones that was trying to fix whatever was broken. This poor guy in this email is really suffering bad and you see that. He's reading in way more than what's really going on. I've done some of that after a break up til I gained clarity on what was really happening. It's like a sickness til you get better.

They might miss you or are interested, but doesn't mean they want to get back together

You have so much patience with your clients. Wow, this one did make me chuckle a bit, but yeah, sometimes people have great intentions and are simultaneously delusional about where they are at in the personal growth department. Very tactful and empathetic on an issue that is hard to be empathetic with.

Great advices coach, your vids are really helpful. 13:40

My ex did a few of the things your talking about she contacts me once a month every 20 days or so. A lot of messages are confusing but recently today she sent me a i hope you had. A good 4th of July so I guess she misses me. Thank you for the advice. Craig out of all the coach’s I have watched you really make the most sense

I just want to say thank you for your work it's really helped me put things in Prospective...I am going through a break were she told me she needed the whole time and space thing it was all confusing as you mention in your videos...she still messages me in response to my last messages were i want to leave her be to miss me, one of her messages was " I don't miss you when I should" what the hell does that mean?

This happened to me. My ex broke up with me about 5 months now, one day I receive a text about, how my dogs have been? And, what is the contact information for my chiropractor. I wish I would've found these videos before that happened. It really had me scratching my head.

Oh my gosh!! Craig - are these real letters? (not insinusting you being untruthful!!) I just can't believe someone would be so deluded!!! Saying that though, one of my exes insisted on not returning one of my favourite dresses just because I didn't want to be with him. He still has it after two years (I am hoping he's thrown it away & not sleeping next to it! 🙄). Wow...mental health is paramount. Another great video.

Watching this video because I am generally lost and a very scared with my Ex lol We have been texting since she broke NC, but things got weird. She got vague, kept snapping and getting angry if she thought I was with someone or if I didn't reply quickly (She is also in another relationship). I got very sick and fell asleep and woke up to my phone blown up her angry at me for not texting - I told her I was asleep, and that I called a friend to come over to take me shopping for food and medicine (a female friend). I posted on snapchat us having fun and chilling, then she blew up even more getting very angry. I tried asking whats wrong, but now she is ignoring me and so I have to step back too. Anxiety sucks. I want to text her more, but I have to stop. I did spam her a bit too much, so I need to control myself and stay strong. She hasn't blocked me on anything-- yet-- so here is to hopping. She knows I love her and everything, so I hope she comes around eventually. If anyone of you are reading this and are in a similar situation, I hope my small story gives you guys guidance, and DONT SPAM YOUR EX for the LOVE OF GOD! lol :D

Greatest advice

i love your facial expression whilst reading that email lol

anothet excellent video

Hearing these atrocious attempts of others to get their ex make me feel much better about my self and my situation 🤣

This is unreal! I am still inclined to go with Craig says about the time limit on no contact; he makes perfect sense. My ex and I parted ways some time ago and of course, I was crushed. I mean, we had been together for 6 years and we were about to tie the knot. We are both teachers and 30 days exactly to the date, she sent me a message on Whatsapp. I have been looking at the videos, ordered the Knowledge series during my no contact period (30 days and counting) and doing the work. The old me would have instantly called her but I held out, truth be told, the message was quite bland. We are both teachers and the message contained all the dates of events related to the coming school year. I sim[ply messaged back "Thank You" and went on with the gay's business.

It’s small but I block him on Instagram when we first broke up and he wants to add me again. Keep the faith. This is post three months and one month of no contact and yes, he is seeing someone!!! I’m so happy. This might not mean anything (breadcrumbs), not going to reach out but it’s something

Coach, she said she's coming over today to show me her new "dog". lol

Hey Craig! I watch your videos all the time and they have done me wonders! My ex and I broke up 3 months ago and I am 25 days NC. We were together for three years and lived together for most of it. These last few days he’s been having causal conversation with my sister (but didn’t talk about me) After three days of talking to my sister He then texted me and said I had a piece of mail at his house. Is that considered a indirect message? I don’t want to misinterpret.

Hi Craig, I need the kind of help you offer. Do you take insurance?

Mr Craig you are an amazing couch I wish I could afford you $ 😂 thank you for sharing this clips have helped me a lot👍

I’m in the acceptance stage. Still watching these videos though 😂

Last contact with exgf was a Death Threat because I was waiting at a public park which was close to her apt. It was also where I waited for my Daughter to call me to pick her up at her place! I didn't know either so I filed a police report...

Very interesting perspective on ADD. It actually makes a whole lot of sense. About a month into no contact, mine texted me about a hoodie i had at his house. Then we met up, he gave it to me and we talked for about an hour. A few days later he texted me that he also found a pair of hello kitty socks of mine and he needs to help me clean out my trunk before i leave for vacation. Lol what 😂

my ex just texted me again- he sends me a "Good Morning "and that he was thinking of me, because he hauled a jeep to an auction...I was like how does he know I am looking to soon get a suv...strange!

Wow! I never really knew why I have such bad memory, as a child I have no memories what so ever unless my family tells me some short stories. my parents were usually working, I'd spend very little amount of time with my parents. now that I'm older I tend to feel empty, 2 years ago I git very attached to the boyfriend I had and one day I felt so much pain that I just wanted to drink and I started crying begging him not to leave me. I tend to ask my family if they love me because I've never really heard that growing up. it's been tough because I've had to boost up myself esteem, I belittled myself for so long and now I'm trying to work on myself. please if you ever do read this comment know that there might be plenty of people in my situation. trying to understand the why of why we are a certain way. it's not easy. please do more videos like you did your intro

She called me exactly when you mentioned direct...

How can you not laugh at a delusional email like that? 😂😂😂 I admire your empathy and control to take this seriously!

Hi Craig. I really like your channel here. I like your advices. I have a question. is there any way when an ex breaks up after almost one and half year of dating and he seemed to be so in love coming back again. The no contact is not really working. since the beginning he said he would not marry anyone. But lately i was telling him i would like more than just dating. so he broke up and haven't contacted me since.i unfollowed him on social media since the day he broke up with me.

Craig what do think about the “wrong person” text? After she left me a message on my wall on my birthday I ran into her coming out of Walmart a week later. She said my name a few times and when I turned around it seemed like she was really happy to see me. We said hi to each other and talked a litttle bit the went on our way. A few days later I got a text from her. It was a screenshot of directions only for her to realize 4 hours later she realized she sent it to the wrong person. A part of me says she did it on purpose. What do you think? Is she interested again?

Love the nonverbal expressions. :)

My ex spouse of 13 years has been texting me on every holiday, including my birthday for the past couple of years. I was like....what???.....okay.....hmmmm. They had even got married and divorced since our divorce. We had three children together which are all grown. From dating and marriage a total of 26 years together. I filed for the divorce because of their infidelity. What else can I make of this behavior?

Guys i dont know if I'm getting indirect message from my ex.... Long story short we broke up a 7 weeks ago, been together 4 years. She left not understanding i was depressed. And thought the symptoms i was getting from it was me just being lazy in the relationship. So she thought i wasn't putting in effort when i was very depressed due to being overworked at work and mistreated Now she emailed me yesterday. She's a singer. I am a videographer. She emailed to ask if we can do another music video together. As we hoped each other out like that a lot. We were a great team. Which she also stated in the email. The email looked rushed. A lot of grammar mistakes. And on her insta story. I see she recorded a song about me... "I really miss your company, I'm thinking about what we could be...." Is this indirect or she giving me hidden messages? Like I'm not distorting reality. Like if she wants to reach out she should. But like Graig mentioned women don't want rejection and she may feel vulnerable

We have been broken up for 2 months. Begged and pleaded and she wasn't having it. After about 2 weeks of no contact, she texted me saying "I'm not trying to make you mad, just been wondering how you've been?" After a few hours of small talk, I asked her if I could see her to talk. She rejected me and told me that she doesn't want a relationship, but was just seeing how I was doing. I made the mistake of sending her an extremely long message pouring my heart out only to get a short response saying that she "just can't think about a relationship right now. Wants to be alone and feels horrible for hurting me." I did don't reply and it has been about a week. What's your suggestion on how to get her back Craig?

If an ex girlfriend sends a blank text message to you, is that a sign that she is interested again?

My ex did that approch many times even with "I miss you" texts but nether come back when I bit. And I did'nt bite evey time because I knew that even though she talking like that she would't back it up with actions

Mine says he told his little boy we broke up and how sad the little one is about it. Then he mentioned trying to make something that I used to make but it wasn't very good. I'm not sure but I think he's reaching out and saying 'Don't go' but I'm not sure why. The stuff about his son is manipulation.

Yesterday I got a misdirected message, followed by an "I'm sorry that was for my cousin..." text. I sent a thumbs up back. After 7 months and not one misdirected text from him, what are the chances this was on purpose? I haven't dwelt on it too much, but I am interested in what others here think about it... And even Coach Craig's thoughts if he sees this....

craig, does it also apply to guy? my ex broke up with me and i never contacted him after. he contacted me after the break up and been whatsapp me and commenting about pics i posted on fb. its like hes stalking my fb page

They will send a confusing text either because they are testing the waters and really want to get back with the one they left, or some who just want to keep holding, controlling their exes's feelings just like a puppet in their hands. Then when the poor other becomes gullible and jumps on it, the ex plays cold again.

Thank you coach I’m also laughing my head off too about that one year absence with that couple , anyway this what happening to me right now I have been in no contact with my ex for six months and out of the blue she calls me up from a different number telling me that she wants to talk to me about something and I should set up a meeting spot so she can tell me what is on her mind, I was taken aback by that phone call as i truly thought that it was over for good

Thats crazy . My ex always used to tell me i have to get checked cus i would always forget stuff

I’m an anxious man making the transition to a more secure attachment style and my ex gf is avoidant. We broke up right before New Years and she said that there’s now way to make things better between us. After 6 days of not reaching out to her, she texted me saying she wanted to meet up to return some of my things. (I’m thinking this is the “indirect direct approach”) We couldn’t meet up the day she texted me because we both had schedule conflicts, but I told her to just let me know when she’s available again. Is this a sign she’s done, or wants to give me another chance?

Whats your take on an ex whom we have a 3 year old together (so we have to communicate) and have been together for 10 years. its been 5 months since the break up, I did all the wrong things at first and a month ago I told her I only wanted to talk about our child so dont ask about me any more...she has asked "how are you" since on a few occasions and even in person during an exchange of our child, she got mad I didnt ask her how she was, saying "your not going to ask me how I am?" I smiled and asked how are you. 4 days ago she randomly sent me these texts "do you hate me?" 10 mins later after not responding she says "It seems like you do" another 10 mins "can you please reply" I replied an hour later "sorry I'm out, no" she hasnt said anything about anything except our kid since. My guess is she is just trying to relieve her guilt for breaking up our family and my heart..what type of behaviour is this?

What about men, is an ex bf less likely to reach out eventually after they broke up with you, compared to an ex girlfriend? Would their intentions be different as a man?

My ex contacted after 14 days of NC. She wanted to let me know my ex-wife was selling things on yard sale sites. She attached a screen shot of the add. I just replied thanks for letting me know. Then a few days later she sent another text regarding the same thing and she asked for her things back. I told her I was busy and I’d get them to her when I could. Then after a few more days she text me about her things again. I called her and we talked for a few minutes. Nothing serious, just small talk. Then the next day she sends my a video of her bird and her dog. I text back that I miss them. She didn’t reply. The day after that I get a text with a screenshot of the movie Fern Gully with the caption best movie ever. It was a movie we watched together a few days before we broke up. I responded with yes, it’s a good movie, but I’m more of a lion king man myself. She did not respond. So my question would be where those indirect direct approaches? Why would she feel the need to tell me my exwife was having a yard sale? Why would she send me a pic of the dog a bird and then the next day a memory of a movie we watched? Also should I contact her to give her her things back or wait until she asks again? Any advice is appreciated. Thanks in advance.

Your face when you're reading the letter...omg so hilarious 😂👍👍👍

What if she's in a new relationship but keeps contacting you? Do I still ask to meet up with her?? Im so confused!

Not sure about anyone else but if any of my ex's try to contact me all they get is CRICKETS !

I mean some part of this videos are better than comedy 🤣🤣🤣

My ex reached out last week. Said she was stalking my profiles and dating profile. She’s missed me everyday and wanted to catch up. We talked about things. She said she thinks she made the right decision. I said I respect her decision but I disagree, I told her why. I think she realized she screwed up. She asked if she can reach out again. I think I screwed up saying I don’t want it to turn into breadcrumbing and can’t just be friends with her. If she has intent behind her reach out I’m open to it. I shouldn’t have been worrying about the future and just the present moment.

What if they ask for time and space but in the mean time they're talking to another guy who they think they are interested in.

In my case, it worked on the opposite way: I have a hell of a photographic memory from my early years, living in a house with 2 TOC totally distant and anxious parents. Like the hell of anxiety! LOL. I can remember scenes from Captain Kangaroo, I saw with less than 2 years!!!

“Tomorrow I hope you don’t wake up” 😂😂😂

My wife left 2 months ago and yesterday she told me she loved and missed me and grabbed my hand. She said she has to figure stuff out. I just told her she's my wife till she isn't and I don't believe in temporary marriages but I'm not going to wait forever, it isn't fair to me or to her. Not sure what her reasoning of telling me that ,, other than making me hold on, especially telling me last week she didn't want to give me hope.

Hi Craig, my ex broke up with me in January after a 5 year relationship and I have been in No contact since April, in the past 1 month she has already reached out 3 times with the indirect direct approach about the randomest subjects that were even clear to begin with or information she could have just googled and dint need to ask me, I reply calmly respectfully and to the point, i have tried to open up the conversation a bit to take it further but she doesn't interact more, the conversation always ends up dying out, Please can you make a video on what to do in this situation? every time she contacts me she gets my hopes up high again then again disappears for a while. What is that about why does this keep on happening and how do I fix it the next time she reaches out?

Coach Craig’s facial expressions 😂

My ex recently commented on one off my stories on instagram which led up to her asking if I wanted her to babysit her nephew at my place because I had told her I miss him and wanted to see him. Now I’m confused if she’s interested or just being nice.. is this an indirect direct approach?

my ex texted me on Christmas saying I just wanted wish you merry Christmas and I hope you are doing well I haven't heard from her in a month does this count as the indirect direct approach

You remind me of Tim Tebow especially in your thumbnails. Haha