How to know your future spouse 

Good! I don't want a servile man! A female cannot respect a man that does not lead, and lead well. Key point being, a man must be a good leader... Not a dumbass.

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@coreycox2345 Only Marxist feminist social justice warriors & mainstream media think Professor Peterson is controversial. Common sense people enjoy listening & learning from this intelligent, articulate man.

I tend to avoid being on the Left or the Right, and I don't agree with everything Dr. Peterson says (especially in regards to religion/faith), but I think he has a valuable perspective for us all to consider, and use it to rethink and reshape our own. For example, I've long held the belief that religion has too many drawbacks compared to benefits to offer society, and that we should seek to remove it from ourselves. However, I've come to adopt a more tolerant outlook. I still think it's mostly superstitious tribalism mixed in with far too much distorted history, but I can appreciate that some people anchor their sense of decency and human goodness around it, and those people have motivation to improve themselves based upon those beliefs. If the difference between such people being remorseless criminals or upstanding citizens is their faith, I say let them have it so long as they don't try to impose it on those who don't want it. It doesn't persuade me to believe in God, but it has granted me more respect for others' belief in it.

HydeWars fuck you. I love you and hate you. Perhaps they are the same. Goodbye. Or let's meet someday. Nobody bothers to go online to say I don't care unless they do. It has been an adventure that helped me through a time that could have been the end of me and left better than I was before. I was right that romance would never work out for me unless I met the person. If I am bad at reading people in general, I find it impossible online. It may have been that simple. Live and learn. Thank you for everything. Fuck you.

You want to be controversial. If you are not controversial, think of a movie that’s missing the plot and everything in it is goodie goodie. I believe one cannot be famous unless there is some controversy around one’s name.

It's because Peterson is not controversial that rabble rousers have to make up straw men to attack the fellow. Watch, and it's actually very funny to see. This is very consistently the case.

That's lovely :)

I wasn't aware of the quote, but I had the same visualisation while I was trying to imagine a possible future with a girl. And it didn't look to me as a lovers relationship then, but rather that of a brother and a sister. Maybe I was wrong.

@@meryuk thats actually the ultimate goal for married ppl in Bible. After forming family, hopefully with kids, husband and wife should live in love like best friends, brothers and sisters. Helping each other in life and also preparing for after.. This is just my poorly summarised point, but i wanted to tell you that you arent wrong for thinking like that. And i wish you good luck with finding such person to create special bond with :)

Perfect. Beautifully, Brilliantly, & Absolutely Perfect. Thanks for sharing!

@@piano.music88 Thank you. Yes, I can understand that.

transwomen aresexistmen, But the moral parts covers all character traits and good morals and personality...etc so that's a part. The attraction covers the looks part as well. So that's pretty much most of the stuff that you can compliment in a person. Unless you are looking for a detailed list or something

Yeeesss!!! That was brilliant , and beautiful.

@transwomen aresexistmen your bruuuuh shows youre not mature enough to understand how profound this statement actually is

If your wife have a hight morals, you can be Safe and confident , she wont cheat you :)

She must be amazing to be one step ahead of this man.

I'd ask grandpa Peterson where and how to find a suitable wife and how to keep myself accountable after that... I feel encouraged to translate his last book and spread his wisdom!

@Tainted Taliyah Whats the matter with you?

I wish

yess haha 💜😆

This guy is a complete sexist. Don't be fooled.

Ted Williams I know right? Time for gay marriage

"Can I call you daddy too?"

That's one of those times where you just go around high fiveing random people on the street for days on end.

I knew my lady-friend's dad long before we dated, and we became such good friends. It was awesome. I don't know if I could live up to Peterson's standards, though.

Lol! Oh my god

@Thea Mjohlnir Professor Peterson's intelligent, thoughtful & common sense perspective on human behavior scares the hell out of Marxist feminists because they know deep in their hearts that their own dogma is just plain wrong...

Seriously. He's got to be one of the best teachers and in the top 10% if not 1%

They've also banned his youtube account.

He never denied that there are more than 2 genders tho

You should not spread misinformation. He never denied there's more than 2 genders, no he should be respected because he spoke against government legislated compelled speech which is an abominable violation of the right to free speech.

Sallie Skakel thats interesting..thank you!

This is perhaps the wisest RU-vid comment I have read. And perhaps the most honest.

This is the most important comment in this comment section

Sense of humour helps. I married one with none. So I tried to compensate for his seriousness by seeing the humour in serious situations. I have to be able to laugh at these sometimes, to avoid crying. But he wasn't amused and it only made things worse! "What's so funny?!?" he'd scowl.And I couldn't stop laughing in the middle of serious arguments about trivialities. One particularly stormy day, weather-wise ie wild winds blowing etc, "stormy boy" younger man husband got mad about me forgetting to leave a welcome home light on one night for when he came home from work. I tried to apologise and explain how I forgot and I was singing some silly song "Long As I See The Light" as I stirred a lot on the stove and promised hima good hot home cooked meal. It wasn't enough. Be wanted to argue. About the light and my singing stupid songs about the light and his mumalways left the light on for his dad tocomehome to,blah, blah and then he stormed off into thedarkness and slammed the front door, soI went behind itto make sure it was locked as I was alone and scared of other I truders, not my angry bad tempered dearest beloved "sunny boy" husband. Unexpectedly, a wild vust of wind pushed door back against my outstretched hand behind it and then he burst back in shouting "And another thing about you and all this stuff blah, blah, blah" (typical orderly control freak talk). But my hand had been seriously injured by the force of the door hitting it and it required medical attention and a splint etc. He was in a panicstate, tryi g to bandage my damaged hand a d the medicos wanted to report it as"domestic violence", which I suppose it could have beenbut I never saw it that way. It was just a genuine, unfortunate accident. Evidenced by the fact that he was sorry for his temper tantrum and tried to fix my painful damaged hand. And I took responsibility for being a funny smartarse, joking about, singing silly songs, when I should have know that, to a serious, depressed type like him, leaving the light on had some sort of symbolic deep meaning I could not understand, because I am accustomed to always standing in the light and it shining for me. I am Abit olderand wiser now and think I understand certain personality types different from mine a little better than then. Humour is fine, but you need to be careful who you use it onand what situations. Some can't see the funny side of things and laugh about it, to ease the tension, and thus make way for a solution to be found to differences, problems etc.

in that case sending memes to your crush is a good tactic

This joke is under appreciated

Ahahaha xD

Bro. Legit. This one is gold

We've been waiting for you. That wasn't much of a rescue

LMFAO

Moral/ethical compatibility too

@@FDJUwe Oh, yes. Absolutely.

Sad that in most marriages, none of the three things last

nope, I think you nailed the order.

@@stretchopotomus2385 you think sexual attraction is the highest of those three??? how are you supposed to have any marriage with anyone lasting past the age of 40 if it's based primarily on sexual attraction

Pear ce hes lying

HydeWars not really suprised to see you here sam Y do you think hes lying?

He's lying because he's a niggah

@@themayqueen666 I'm black, and you made me snicker thanks for that

I think it’s lovely

... or an academic way of saying, "I've got a hard on and need a release." ... and with a PhD.

There are girls who I am extraordinary attracted to who aren't smoking hot Sometimes it's not them, it's me

I took it as yes of course there's attraction, but the inner core of his wife- her spiritually, morality, integrity, etc. when you have a partner who is hot and smart and loyal then there's no need for worry when trouble brews. The happiness factor goes up tremendously in your future.

shamtown84 long lasting attraction isn’t completely physical, why do you think lots of young people who get married in two months end up divorced? Their attraction was purely shallow lust.

@@ItsHollowfied of course you're right. I'm not sure why I even wrote that... I just think his way of talking is pompous and overbearing.

aww 💜

Does the sexual attraction fade?

@@monikag6108 I have the same issue, it fades over time, but a good routine with someone will surpass the sexual tension, if the couple always tell the truth to each other (accepting each other's sexual fantasies, trying to adapt new likes, etc).

@@eikementira1604 try karezza

@nataliepalilla this is amazing

Соɾу ℛ. Got me

Funny!

Jajaja its true. What a comment.

Than i can slay the dragon?

great minds think alike but simple minds rarely differ, which one applies to you?

They will be doomed if there's no love and emotions either.

nofy bn nobody is telling someone to stay with someone who you dont love

I cant even use logic to figure out how to get myself anywhere let alone form a relationship 😂. Its not my strongpoint thats for sure.

MrElculver2424 yes ideally we should save the love and emotions for after establishing with logic if they are a suitable partner.

Barry A. Lots if guys are what you describe too. Also do not make the mistake I did of choosing someone with no prior relationship experience thinking he would have less baggage instead he had no prior understanding of how to treat a partner. I also have to disagree about asking family for advice unless you are sure they would not want to sabotage your happiness or just join in enabling you to be abusive.

I'm happy for you and hope to have the same with my spouse

Lll

Thanks man

1. Chose the woman who choses you. THE MOST IMPORTANT ONE, dont chase ANYONE who doesnt want you in their life, YOU are way too important to be begging anyone.

I think he is right, but I think in the modern society it’s just hard to find someone! I think this video helps with that ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-Vl1ZYlvo2DY.html

Siren Watcher the problem is that women should be the one picking. It’s always been like that. It’s in our nature. We pick the guy who WE feel like can protect us! When they do the picking, that’s when it gets nowhwre

sometime its good to wait for sex instead of expecting it from women right away.

>tell the truth I'd say if you can't do that, then you're not ready at all.

That was an amazing off the cuff sentence

What if you do all that with strangers?

DocsWorld wise words 👏🏽🤗👍🏽

that's false ..

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I think you're paranoid and you have trust issues. the concerns you have may be a reflection of you than any potential spouse that you've rejected previously.

@@mdogzino Watching Dr. Peterson's videos doesn't automatically make you a shrink. My comment is based on what I've seen happening to my friends.

True! Trust in what sense? With your feelings? Physically or secrets?

Nowadays? So what do you mean by that? When were things better?

So hard to find a partner these days who is willing to do that! I wanted to talk about that here ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-Vl1ZYlvo2DY.html

Very well put

I agree!!

cobby407 I'd do the same thing

id fucking peee on your toy cactus

I just got to that bit, it's awesome, and very reasonable advice as well

Too bad his daughter is a bimbo now

I felt what you said he still wasnt the one 🤣 i did improve myself in the process but he basically also destroyed a lot of my life in his passage. We were engaged and he became more an more of a pig an asshole as time went by. A bloody tyrant. I couldnt even recognize him anymore. Scary

Currently dating a girl, I’m Muslim however. I’ve also agreed upon the no sex idea until marriage, we’ve also spoken about our future, kids etc and things like that. Would you recommend any tips for Me? We’re both 21. :) thank you and I hope you have a blessed marriage

Mo Haroon hi brother, try doing an istikhara first to make sure she is the one for you so its all clear from Allah’s side, and marry her or get your nikkah done asap so its acceptable religiously as well. I hope everything goes well inshallah. Take care

@@lollollipop8743 yes brother I have done istikhara multiple times, it’s been positive so far, I’ve also told her to maintain a boundary until we can get married which is next year as her mum would ask her to get rid of me if she asked to get married between her studies, any suggestions? But she’s onboard she told her aunts about me and I’ve asked her multiple times if she wants to go ahead with this next year and she said yes she would.

Mo Haroon so does her mum and aunts agree for her to marry you? If so thats good. Parents will always want yhe best decision for you so it might be the reason why her mum is not letting her now, i’d say if u love her a lot, give it time. Tell her to do an istikhara as well and if Allah has given you positive dreams then it will happen inshallah. Just wait for it to come to you :)

@@lollollipop8743 She hasnt told her mum yet, her mother has a bad temper and if she tells her that she wants to get married in the middle of her medical degree she will say no and she will not allow her to leave the house fearing that she will meet me. she has told me that she is ready to get married next year and she has also done isitkhara.

Poetry in its truest form

Yeah I hope Tammy is ok I think her becoming ill pushed him over the edge somewhat himself. We all love to love and give all of ourselves but if that is endangered it destroys people so I wish them both the best. I have not been married but even long term friends or lovers being unwell upsets an empathetic person.

Happy wife, happy life

Oh i loved it when he did that! ☺

@Vale Sauce: I'm convinced from experience they don't exist. (One might as well hope for a unicorn.) But I won't settle for less.

ObscurityIsBest My wife is extremely reasonable. Instead of blaming all women for your inability to get laid, try step 1 and look within at what you may be doing wrong. The problem with a lot of women nowadays is they lack discipline. They’re told from day 1 they can do no wrong and any problem they deal with is created by men. They’re basically told that the world would be a perfect happy-go-lucky utopia if it weren’t for men. That isn’t women’s fault, that’s other men’s fault for allowing society to brainwash them. Just like we discipline boys how to deal with their aggression, disobedience & energy in a productive way...we must also discipline girls to handle their emotions, insecurities & passive aggression more productively. What we must NOT do is blame women and say they’re unreasonable for being taught accountability.

@@jaredschmidt8013: I'm legitimately happy for you that you have an "extremely reasonable" wife. Cherish her with gratitude. If she's as reasonable as you say she is, then she is a rare jewel indeed. (Call me overly skeptical, but I'm interested to know how recently you married her.) If I were merely seeking to "get laid," I could have done so numerous times over with countless women. I chose not to. (Perhaps your comment was meant more as a hyperbole, a stand-in for "marriage" with a hint of sarcasm for humor's sake. If so, fair enough.) You're right about women lacking discipline. Discipline is scarce amongst both of the sexes. You mentioned that the brainwashing of women is ultimately the fault of men who allowed for the brainwashing to occur. I agree with this in part. If fathers (specifically fathers) were to actually invest time in their daughters--training them and instructing them with wisdom and insight until they grew into mature, adult women--society as a whole would be much better off. The utter breakdown of the family has been a major catalyst for catastrophic failures at every level of society. That said, women are not so easily let off the hook. They are still responsible for their own decisions/actions; they are still responsible for seeking truth in spite of their circumstances. If anyone seeks truth long and hard enough, he/she *will* find it. It is much easier to instruct, discipline, and guide a child into truth than it is to rehabilitate a broken, deceived, pride-filled adult. When an adult male is seeking a female to marry, he should by no means approach the relationship with anticipation of having to "parent" his fiancé until she is adequately mature enough for marriage. It is not a husband's job to parent his wife. Such a strategy, when employed, rarely ends in anything other than disaster. I cannot make up for what a father didn't instill into his daughter. There's a reason why many women are said to have "daddy issues."

@MICHAEL WILLIAMSON: And what do you get for that (?) You get the best chance. Which is different than a guarantee . . .

Relationships are much more complicated than 1+1=2. There are no guarantees in any kind of relationship.

@@sethhansen4454 life. There are no garuntees in lifr

@@QED_ well if you want a guarantee... I suppose you have to be a magician or something.

Exactly, this is from the video, and missing from several of the comments here.

Upbringing definitely reveals a lot. This is good advice.

Wise advice. My ex had a lot of childhood trauma and BPD. I still love him but it's a hard reminder that marriage or the future I wanted wouldn't have been possible with him.

@@NaeK188 Dang that’s tough. My marriage didn’t work out. We got divorced and although it was the hardest time of my life, I can say I’ve never been happier or more content.

@@tomhines3404 sorry to hear that friend.

@@NaeK188 I can relate with that. You don’t want to commit any further then just boyfriend girlfriend.

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I'm going to wait till I'm married before I live with my husband :)

Agreed!

Can you get into that a little bit more? I was actually curious about that point but Jordan Peterson didn't explain it. Why is it a bad idea to live together with someone that you think you want to marry in the future? I'm looking forward to your answer

@@Steve3lack Yea I'm confused as well - so get married and NOT live together? Sounds kinda awesome as a guy hahaha but weird at the same time - if someone could explain that, that'll be awesome!

From what ive read- successful couples only live together if they are both on the same page about marriage and kids beforehand/have a timeline of when they are getting married. So if you’re engaged and put down deposits for the wedding, then moving in together isnt a bad idea.

Score!

howd you do it?

@@chapter7149 Neither of us settled. We rally around our faith in Jesus and his selfless example. And we didn't get married so that the other person could make us happy-but so that we would find our joy in serving one another. Those are the big ones. Plus we just laugh at the small stuff and make it a point to be best friends.

The Inroad ohhh nice!..thanks!

@@TheInroad Wait so you didn't marry even though it is biblical to be wedded with your wife? The entire bible revolves around marriage you know?

AtrumMixer sound alike you tried it before ahaha

I don't think that the idea of not enjoying or simply liking marriage means the other person is not right for you, marriage is paperwork, love is much more complicated than that, and some simply do not like it for several reasons or none, but that doesn't mean you don't love each other or something

Except that you have it exactly backwards. That does not at all tell you if your partner is right for you, is MERELY one of hundreds of ways to find out that the person is NOT right for you. You think backwards and illogically so if you try to apply standards of finding someone who isn't backwards and illogical then it definitely won't be someone right for you.

What subject?

Yes. Definitely. Refusing to discuss such awkward but important subjects is a sure red flag. Imagine what they would be like in marriage, when the inevitable differences and disagreements arise. I would not go there with such an individual. Too risky. Most men seem to hate talking to resolve issues of concern to the female. The bad choice of male partner will say there is no problem, just in your own crazy head. Any women spoken to in this way, even quietly and politely needs to see this as a red flag. He obviously thinks what you are suffering is unimportant, because you are unimportant to him. Or not important enough to try to ease your emotional pain, by trying to talk to resolve problems causing it. Which he may be inadvertantly contributing to. Other types of better men who may also struggle with talking might try to show good intentions by things such men typically do eg buy bunches of flowers, take you out on the town, or a holiday etc, where you can have a good time and escape your female misery for a while, but as soon as you return, the same old problems are still there because they were never discussed and killed off, once and for all, to clear the way for some real man/woman love stuff... But, at least these types mean well. They just go about solving such problems the wrong way. Like the abuser type, these "nice but inarticulate" types will be following a formula passed down by their fathers and grandfather's etc for "dealing with women". They never question it's relevance to this era or whether it is effective or, if it is "effective" eg " shuts her up so a man can get a bit of peace", the irreparable, lasting damage this does to their relationship, though she may keep smiling and pretending everything is OK, when it is not, just to keep the peace, as many traditional wen do, which they also learned from their mothers and grandmother's etc. Fact is, the woman's feelings of great love she once feltfor you will have changed forever, never to return, as her intense resentment of your presence in her life at all, now that she knows what you are really like, will eat away and corrode the relationship until it just falls apart. But not every women will make a big show and drama of it, complete with dramatic effects, like tears, hysterical screaming etc, like most younger ones now do.But the damage will have been silently done. No use trying to talk with a partner who is unresponsive, like a brick wall, no matter how eloquent, gentle, kindly etc you may be as a woman who genuinely loved the man and wants to save the relationship. So, such women simply go cold and distant, tune out emotionally, act polite and respectful, but all the while, they are secretly plotting how to leave such a male they see as robbing them of the chance to have a far better, happier life, either alone or with a better man. One who can and will talk to resolve inevitable problems that arise when together. Communication skills in personal relationships are something most guys fail at, though they may be excellent communicators in business eg I sales and marketing, as scammers and pimps, anything that involves "powers of persuasion". The bad male communicator males when problems arise in personal relationships, I observe, will typically have brilliant communication skills at the outset eg the meeting and courting stage, where they are trying to get you to accept them as sex partners, marriage partners or whatever guys want from women. But they suddenly lose these skills when problems, which they may be causing, at least in part, need to be discussed to resolve them. Is it because the men feel guilty? Or is it because they fear the angry female reaction ie women need to clean up their own communication techniques so the guys might be more conducive to trying to talk about it, which is hard for many of the men? Women tend to get very emotional and irrational over some issue bothering them and this can put men off talking because they fear intense female shows of emotion, especially tears, for some reason... But, tears are perfectly normal and OK and guys are allowed to cry, too. Forget what your mother told you about how "big boys don't cry" or your dad and other me ridiculing you as a boy in pain who cried, with macho Man statements like "real men aren't scared and don't cry". Fact is, real men are sometimes scared and they do sometimes feel very sad and do cry, often in secret. If genuine loving, honest women I their lives saw these tears and fears sometimes in the men they love, they would not think less of them. They would "understand" men better, on a deeper emotional level as women can, intuitively, even if the guys find words too hard to do...At least it shows they feel something... Warning,though, do not let your male defences down if you are dealing with an untrustworthy female manipulative type or if you suspect your once loyal, honest, but dumb easily led sheep like partner has had her mind worked on, by feminists. This is a lot like the "radicalization" certain terrorist sects subject their recruits to. Pretty full on, intensive, with offers of rewards, sense if belonging to something big and powerful, protective, chance to shine etc etc. How can you tell if she has been? Just study changes in her behaviour eghow she reacts to things you say and do eg she becomes assertive, more independent, questions things you say, is out more often than at home, wants to start some new study course or get a job when she was previously happy as a normal stay home wife and mother. Also study her changes of appearance eg cuts her long hair short, dyes it some weird or "power" colour, red being a favourite one among feminists because of certain famous red headed female power figures eg queens etc and because redheads have a reputation for the sort of feistiness feminism encourages... Or she may be a natural blonde but suddenly dyes her hair a dark shade, to appear more intelligent and seriously career minded etc, since blo Des are often associated with being just some pretty but dumb airhead type who is likely to be a housewife or dizzy dumb movie star type, sex symbol etc.Also her style of fashion. Certain styles eg clear cut, no trimmings, straight lines, solid colours, non flounces skirts will scream "feminist" and "millennial feminist". If she never wore such minimalist, clear cut styles but suddenly starts, you know she has crossed over and you need to be very alert and watch her every move from thence on, to ensure you protect your own financial and other interests as a man in a partnership with such a changing female because it will be downhill all the way from now on, for you. But not for her, if you let her exploit you as nearly every feminist and also some traditional women will, when a relationship begins to disin tegrate.

+Kojima World Order I'm loving having this hero in my life to inspire me

Golden Wizard lol, ok thanks Mr scientist.

Okay then mr. scientist... Explain to me exactly what the flaw is in idolizing someone because they repeatedly tell you to think for yourself? And more importantly, how is psychology not a science? Last I checked, there have been people that have died from stress induced heart attacks (Sudden Cardiac Arrest Syndrome), that were brought on entirely by their psychology. I'd love a response, because from where I'm sitting you seem to be full of shit. PS @Golden Wizard... Juuust so you see my question/ response.

Dankus Maximus I won't defend Golden Wizard but I do understand why some wish to dismiss Psychology as a science. A few are the DSM such as version 5, it's based mostly on consensus than actual research. Some wish to lump the study of psychology in with the other social sciences that unfortunately have leaned more toward feminist agendas then factual studies. There is some long term factual articles in Psy such as David Buss in evolutionary Psy that are amazing to read, google him and first link at U of texas will get you to what he has published for free. I have been studying Psy for years and can see what is science and what is more point of view. As for the flaw in idolizing someone. If you do, your going to place them on a unrealistic pedestal they never would want to be placed on to begin with and it is impossible for them to remain there. Since you idolize them, your special treatment towards them will cause them not to respect you then leave you. How would you feel if someone especially a love partner idolized you? Google "Why don't woman want to be with a nice guy" or Nice Guy Oneitis" you will find idolizing someone will cause you to slack off on what the other originally found attractive about you along with a loss of self.

Perhaps I didn't articulate myself correctly. I'm not saying that Psychology isn't a science, I'm saying the exact opposite. I'm in direct contrast with those, such as Golden Wizard, who are quick to either A) Condescend the study of Human Psychology; or B) Deny the study of Human Psychology. And while I understand that there are some people out there with ideologies about Psychology and the effect it has on people. But I'm coming from a standpoint that Jordan Peterson isn't an ideologue. Also, I feel as though I failed to articulate myself on the point of idolization. You see, I guess what I was trying to say is not necessarily that I idolize Jordan Peterson, as I wouldn't hesitate to call him on what he says. Rather, I respect him to such a degree that I feel that he wouldn't intentionally tell me something false. But either way, my original post/ point stands, and I do expect a response from Golden Wizard at some point.

Anti child sounds evil 😂

Someone's been listening to too much Infant Annihilator

\m/

Please go into more detail

Glad to hear you are opening your mind. After all, human life is either a self-evidently, inherently valuable thing or it is just another fungible commodity. I want to live in a world that believes and acts to bring about the former.

That’s awesome

How are you guys doing? Share some enlightment for these times :)

Yeah man, your post is from 4 years back.. even i wanna know, did all the planning work out? Did u get married? Are u happy in it?

can we get an update?

You thought you could change him. You messed up right there.

At least you did realise and got out. I wish you all the very best of luck for the rest of your life....

I read this and it's like I'm looking at myself in the future. It's scarry, I can't leave him

Been there done that got the t shirt. Best to you...

Alternate ending: she cheated on him, blamed him for not being there (was working too hard) took his house, he looks after the kids, she got a boob job a Mercedes and tells people different online. Who knows 😂

Kevin vanderPoole that's actually really good to look at. That's how I've been with my partner for over three years without any past argument making a reappearance to make a present argument even more unbearable and toxic to our relationship through time. We are getting married soon now, and what you said is spot on, imo, lol.

Kevin vanderPoole this is great advice👍🏼

Kevin vanderPoole Why doesn't this have more likes, that's the god damn nail on the head.

That is fantastic advice, dude. How a couple fights indicates how well they'll work together as people. If they can compromise, good. If not, maybe look elsewhere for love and harmony.

Thanks... the only sad part was I learned that the hard way... :-)

Stephen Tovey 👌👌👌

"Why are such perverse ideas taking control of people's lives?" that's a good question. Where does all this depravation come from?

I would exclude religious ideology because if Westerners were devout Christians we wouldn't talk about divorces.

Parents who didn't spank their kids but did not find suitable replacement punishments so they grew entitled and narcissistic. A continuously growing and mutating SJW monster that is already beginning to eat itself with minorities trying to win the oppression olympics. It's to the point of people deluding themselves into denying basic biology and claiming they are not male or female just to get a few more oppression points. Depressed bitter college teachers with degrees that are worthless teaching the next generation worthless information so they can be in the same depressed bitter trap they find themselves in. Modern atheists tossing out the good messages and lessons within religion despite they're being secular values worth understanding and appreciating. (I'm an atheist and this is so true, if you want to meet a hollow hearted person meet a bandwagon atheist who just nods along and doesn't think for themselves) Corporatism(not capitalism) ruining 1st world society for the benefit of literally less than 500 people at the cost of millions. Idk lots of reasons.

*"Why are such perverse ideas taking control of peoples lives."* Many reasons: A rise in 3rd wave feminism ripping apart the traditional family structure; a form of feminism aimed solely at spitefully destroying males and teaching young women that men are worthless; A decline in religious values (Atheist or not, your argument for morality comes from a religious foundation western countries have had for thousands of years wether you realise it or not), A rise in obsession of self and jealousy of others, hatred of humanity correlating with the obsessive love of technology, corporate greed which helps to spread insecurity in subtle ways across both sexes resulting in people spending even more on useless sh*t than they already do, creating a rise in low self worth when said expenditure does nothing to satisfy their dopamine intake in the long term and that doesn't even scratch the surface of the problems facing humanity.

Naz Zan not likely for you

u look like pewdiepie's girlfriend

Thank you for sharing. That's an interesting experience and perspective you don't typically hear. Typically I think people would doubt a relationship if you're fighting like crazy, but it just goes to show that even if you're situation isn't necessarily healthy in the moment, as humans we can learn from our mistakes and we can change for our partners if we really do care about them and are invested in the relatioship.

@@pault9544 Now we understand each other well, we hardly ever argue and when we do we remain calm. I believe this is something you learn... I often think about how many wonderful relationships could have been if people were able to give one another time :-)

@@pault9544 update: now we are married! :-)

congratulations!!!

This is an ignorant recipe for a bad marriage.

Nick Carbaugh lol I know right

Break the cycle! lmao R&M really does have a cynical view of marriage, but it's not hard to see why more and more people do.

HydeWars lmao what the fuck

break the cycle Morty, rise above, focus on science!

Nick Carbaugh When did Rick say that?

I hear what you are saying. But here what helped me to find the best partner ever. *know your value* know your worth. Love yourself, first and foremost. Men don't like women that are pleasing, they like to win women. Don't make them feel like kings by babysitting and pleasing them, make them feel like kings because they have won You & your heart. Also listen to Sadhguru, he has some interesting topics also. Wish u best of luck ,♥️.

@sonia achieng I've found that too.

Is it possible that men who are attentive to your needs turn you off? This seems to be common.

I sympathize, but if you're 43 years old & you being single is entirely the fault of the men? If nothing else you are responsible for choosing unwisely.

Keep going, even if you end up alone. Honesty and truthful with faith in what's right is the best. A lot might say the biological clock is ticking but i always say "It is more important not to lose yourself than to have everything else." - translating to it's never worth losing yourself to obtain something. Well, i'm not a women but i guess if worst comes to worst you could always have a child with an attractive stranger and put your energy into the child? Interesting how you changed your name from Funny White Girl to Gone Girl. Us men, we can always become monks if things don't work out..

Daniel Glaubitz how about "flubbergubulous!!!" Lol I'm pickle rich

HydeWars holy shit

I'm glad to meet someone on the internet who also knows what a superlative is.

I did. Now I have to clean my room...

@@kerriwilson7732 'clean your room' should be a connotation meme or his 'Ha' a singular laugh.

Beautiful

agreed. Ive been on the self improvement/awareness journey since 18, when my eyes were opened

Word!

The smartest people I know say his genius is highly overrated. But in this fallen world of anti-family meme pathogens everywhere, the simple advice in this video stands out like an antidote to the poison.

@william davies and kyle karwan: Good observations . . .

Wisdom and psychological insight ultimately stem from compassion.

Yeah the most attractive people tend to have traits that are not in good parents

5:45, up you go mate

Absolutely! Really get to know them and see if there is any reasonableness....

I’ve known people who got married in a matter of a few months and have been happily married for decades, so I’m not sure this is actually true

@@shanonsnyder9450 ​ Do you know what "anecdotal evidence" is? If you gathered thousands of people who waited vs those who didn't, and interviewed them, that would be closer to actually addressing the hypothesis.

You're dead right. Although there are cases, rarely, where people have been together for decades after the three years. But for the common Joe/everybody else. Three years tell you exactly who they are. Sometimes before three. I think it's my cue to leave, goodluck to me.

I always feel uncomfortable in the "crush" phase. Can't wait until it's over because I know it's nearly impossible to look at the person clearly and rationally, or to really know who they are, until it is.

That has nothing to do with the video we all just watched though

That's not what he said...

No, much much more than that

Congrats:) How did you keep the persistence after 5 years?? Did you just remain friends for awhile, curious to hear your story

Brilliant comment. A thousand thumbs up! I find myself in this very predicament right now. I understand the issues are not with my partner but myself, and that they are irrational. But I'm struggling to reconcile with my own demons, and am feeling exhausted and hopeless in being able to find a solution. Healthy relationships start with healthy minds first. Thank you.

Maybe your problem is that you are so unbelievably arrogant that you actually believe your "argumentational quality is flawless." Part of being in a relationship is compromise, no matter who is right or wrong. I'm terrified of spiders. My husband can speak rationally till he's blue in the face about why that's an irrational fear and how I'm wrong to fear them, but he doesn't. At the end of the day, he knows I'm terrified of them, so he kills them. That's what makes him a great husband. If you suffer this problem, try pulling your head out of your ass long enough to ask your partner how he/she feels and what you can both do to remedy the situation to the point both parties are satisfied. It's not about being right, it's about being happy. For both of you.

Evin Grost The problem is not things that can be understood with a regular amount of empathy or even that the partner expresses clearly. If a partner says "I am afraid of spiders" and you know a little bit about humans, then you know that the fear of spiders does not have an intellectual cause and therefore can't simply be overcome with words. Therefore you will relieve his/her suffering by getting the trigger of the partners fear-reaction away from her attention, in this case, killing the spider or throwing it out of the window. The real problem is, if there are emotional or mental problems in a partner that manifest in argumentativity or (passive) aggression. Whenever humans have an emotional impulse or reaction they connect it to the next best/plausible cause, which often is quite unplausible. This especially is a problem, if the person doesn't consciously know the reason or tries to suppress it for being ashamed for it or just considering it irrational themselves. Think of a man who feels ashamed of his physical attributes or unpopularity with women. He will bear anger and desperation, but out of pride he won't admit the real cause, not even to himself. He will maybe project the anger onto some political question that seems trivial to us. He might become aggressive and violent to other people easily when they are just looking at him or a bit unpolite, his argumentation for the violence will be "nobody may look at me that way", but this was just a trigger to release the anger coming from something totally different. When a woman is pregnant or in her period she sometimes also can have very weird/exaggerated reactions to tiny things. "WHY DID YOU BUY THAT BREAD, I PREFER THE OTHER ONE *cries in the corner* " and such things. But as you know the cause for her overreaction you will understand and have compassion. If you, however, don't know the real cause and it is very hard to find, then you might start arguing why the situation is the way it is, why you acted how you did and where you know you could have done better etc. If you are right and she is smart she will agree on this, yet the real root of her anger which had few to do with bread stays unsolved and will express again soon, only leaving tiny clues about what it is, at best.

IIIIIawesIIIII You seem quite arrogant. That's probably where the problem will be for your relationships. Jordan P. has a video for that.

Holy Atheist i understand you. You are provoked by the words "flawless argumentational quality" that I used. It makes you angry, that somebody uses these words that could potentially be meant to express that they are so smart, that they always win their arguments. That's not what I meant. What I meant was, that there are times when your arguments are clearly right and it gives the other person no more option to negate it. Maybe the problem was just really simple and the answer was just as simple, but out of emotional impulses the problem still occurred. Even a person with an IQ of 90 or less can deliver arguments of a flawless quality if the problem is sufficiently simple. Keep in mind that RU-vid is international though, and like many others, I am not an English native speaker and therefore am not as routined in shaping a subtext that makes my words easier to interpret. This being said, I understand your emotional reaction to my potential expression of arrogance, yet I don't appreciate or approve your premature unwillingness to keep your feelings for yourself. I am, furthermore, unwilling to not express my thoughts and share my experiences when they do no expectable damage but bear the potential to open a dialog and might affirm other people who made similar experiences. I felt, that these aspects of the question of negotiation in relationships were underrepresented in the discourse, and therefore adequate to share. Nevertheless it would be hypocrisy to say, that I don't consider myself reasonably intelligent, otherwise I would not have considered it adequate to share my thoughts with others in first place. Yet, many people like you might believe to know better and therefore are smarter, but this is only natural and absolutely fine, as long as they are noble enough to reflect my words before they publicly disagree and initiate a debate on my person.

every time he gives GOD thanks; I smile. such a blessing to know that not only is he a deep philosophical thinker but also a GODFEARING one🙏💕🎶💯

Love him

Sorry to read that .. keep your head up .. time will make it easier some day

How are you guys doing now, if you don't mind me asking?

Same here and it’s crazy how I feel that I made all the mistakes he describes 😅😅

Rachel Stephens That's a very logical way to look at it but by your terms you might as well be in an arranged marriage or have a computer pick your most compatible mate. If marriage cannot be based on feelings then where is the love and affection that brings the couple together in the first place?

Rachel Stephens It's imperative to take a pragmatic look at grammar. 😀

Lol, I don't know who these insecure shit-posters are who have previously commented on your post, but don't their painfully obvious lack of track-record success in dating or honest relationships deter you one bit. Though "feelings" in the vein of ethics and trust are important, the end-goal is to establish a partnership that stands the test of time, in all its struggles and tribulations; that is predominantly only accessible when approaching marriage with that sort of partnership/business model in mind. You can think about it as being that the quality of service is only equal to the value of capital invested. That said, seek self-knowledge and always tell what you know to be true. The emotionally stunted, vainglorious trolls will just have to tow the line. XD

No, you just wait on one who fits your criteria AND you have feelings for. It's a conveyor belt. Whatever person you have feelings alone for, there'll be another one just like em coming along who is also a responsible adult, and has a good personality, and you like how they look when they bend over to pick things up.

@Golden Wizard Using the word "business" doesn't immediately mean that she is talking only about finances. It was a comparison, I think. PS : I see that a lot of MGTOW are impulsive in the way they interpret things, they seem angry and get trigerred whenever this kind of topic shows up. I'm not claiming that this is true in any way, it's just an observation.