Literally one of the only pure spots on youtube left. Old school in a good way. This is what youtube used to be and should be in my opinion. I am tired of all the high production fakeness and the very oposite which are easy clickbait videos. Its hard to find someone with a character
"I'll turn off motivation and you'll be scared of opening emails today" is a sentence nobody's thought of, but that can PERFECTLY summarize that aspect of depression
lol I'm scared of texting, phone calls, eye contact with people irl AND in videos, public speaking, being around any strangers even in stores, getting looked at, making friends, keeping friends, and I have 0 friends because of it, sooooo don't be embarrassed
Drew explains Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, classical conditioning, coping, the therapeutic benefits of interpersonal communication and relationships, label theory, and negative associations without using any psychological jargon (A+)
Holy fuck, literally am going through one of the worst mental health periods of my life and I really needed this. Every time you address mental health I feel better afterwards. I love you, drew.
Hoping you'll guys get better fast🙏❣️ I have struggled a lot too and had terrible thoughts about myself,I was the one putting myself down,not other people. As I got to know myself and true self love I became so much happier. I even got a tattoo that says 'self love' and it means so much to me. Self love is the best kind of love❣️
As a mental health professional, I can tell you that he makes a lot of excellent points here. Self-care is so important, and using your bed just for sleep is a really big sticking point we use for many people who suffer from insomnia and depression. Thank you for sharing Drew.
Everybody loves diapers! Just yell that next time ur having a shitty mood day like me. I just did it and I had to laugh. You have to yell it tho. And with a straight face. That’s very important Seriously tho I hope ur day/weekend turns around. Sending love ❤️
As a person who's had horrible mental health my entire life because of a bad childhood, the original title of "How to Have Depression" made me cackle I love you Drew
"Actually you're depressed because you didn't walk 7 times today! ... Actually you're depressed because you didn't eat crystals!!" haha thank you for the legit laugh and for making this video!
there's so much materialistic and capitalistic content on youtube that honestly really makes me feel bad about myself and like i'm not doing enough and all these people brand themselves as relatable but i honestly only wish i could relate. this is... something i really really feel close to and I feel like a lot of other videos on this topic are sorta ingenuine and it doesn't really hit quite like this does. i honestly haven't even really come to terms with the fact that what i'm dealing with could be more serious, but i think this actually helped quite a bit. thank you for sticking around. your presence is immensely appreciated.
Drew, I have had depression and anxiety most of my life. I am 68 years old now. I have really good days and not so good days. I am on dialysis now and just made the kidney transplant list. We all have to keep going because life is a gift. You actially make a positive difference to so many lives. Be proud of that.
I can’t thank you enough for making this video. It’s the first one I will actually replay on my worst days. I was in tears through part of it because I just felt so SEEN ya know? it genuinely made me feel better on this night, a bad night, so thank you again 🖤
We all see you now. You're not alone. Many of us have those days and it's great to know that there are others just like us that can be our quiet support. And, um, I just went over to your page, fuck you're beautiful! Shine that light of yours on the world!
I've been throwing up all day due to my anxiety, and this video convinced me to call my psychiatrist and make an appointment for tomorrow. I can't even tell you how much it helps to hear that other people go through these things. Thank you for opening up to the whole internet - that can't be easy. We really appreciate it, Drew!
I just made my first appointment for this weekend. My anxiety has made me feel like I'm gonna lose my mind. I hope you feel better man I hope you get help.
@@Ambersands123 ive never made an appointment before this one, I'm scared of having a doctor that doesn't help. I think I'm worth finding the right one though.
@@kylieshaye6562 don't be scared, I was super terrified and like shaking at my first appointment, but it turned out just fine. I should probably get a new doctor too, you're right about being worth it and whatnot. 💖
when you were talking about being alone with your thoughts and how that makes your brain automatically go to bad places, i FELT THAT and i appreciate how you sat down and decided to talk about this because i think this can help a lot of people recognize things that theyre doing that make them feel so bad. this is great and awesome and i love u
i can not express into words how badly i needed this video today. knowing you’re not alone is extremely helpful in the simplest of ways, love you drew always & i hope we all make you feel not so lonely anymore
Monique H i’m turning 21 this may, i have season depression bc it’s around the time my dad took his life when i was 9 - you can’t move on from that kind of thing but you can accept it & it’s really hard sometimes
I just ate a box of Mac and cheese at 12 am and slept all day and hate myself for it and then I saw this and holy. Shit. It. Made. Me. So. Much. Happier.
YES. The part about your brain trying to justify being sad by searching for reasons IS SO ACCURATE. The only defense is to ignore those thoughts because they sound logical but they're actually nonsense.
I am a 37 yr old mother of 2 little boys and I would be very proud of them if they turned out like you. You seem to have a kind heart, you are creative and you are using your platform for good which I admire. Way to go Drew 😊
I feel like everytime i go to therapy my immediate thing is to pretend that I'm all of a sudden better and don't need help anymore 😂😌 I ruin it for myself
As someone who's become the 'therapist friend' for a lot of my friends, I do agree it can overwhelm someone easily. To me when I help my friends, I escape my own problems and it's a way to focus on everything but myself or my self care.
Okay so, I know this may sound completely irrelevant but before coming across this video, I decided that I was going to take a nap before going to school. And knowing me, when I take naps, I take loong naps and I’d wake up to my alarm but snooze it and drift off into sleep again and most probably decide to skip school and convince myself that it’s okay. It’s not. I got comfy, put the blanket over me, had this video playing as I closed my eyes and BAM. All of a sudden, whilst listening to what Drew was saying, it hit me that taking this nap wouldn’t help me at all, I wouldn’t feel any better, and I’d just be feel more sleepy. So as I still have this video going, I checked my email to find out that I had been accepted into my top pick university and I wouldn’t have found out till a while later that I had gotten in. So right now, I’ve come to the conclusion that I must keep myself awake and present. It’s hard to do that when you just want to forget about the world and all the horrible things that have happened to you and sleep it all off, but it’s even harder when you become your worst enemy, and you tell yourself that you deserve to feel low. Stop. Breathe. Listen. “Give yourself credit.”
Drew is so right. Depression sucks because some people expect u to ask sad all the time but most of the time I’m not sad I jus feel tired ,unmotivated, n just moving throughout the day with no purpose. I’ll stay home for days without talking to anyone, no showers or talking care of myself. It’s more of an empty feeling until either me or my friends/family makes me get out the house. It’s hard to keep a job and maintain close friendships bc I get in a slump and cut everyone off. Most people without depression don’t understand that so most of the time I keep my feelings to myself bc telling the wrong person can make you feel even worse.
This is one of the best videos about depression I’ve ever seen. The combination of humor and seriousness really makes this stick out from other videos. And all of your advice are seriously good tips. I’ve actually used a lot of them in my own life to cope with my depression. It’s great to see a prospective from someone who is working on their mental health currently and not just someone who was once depressed. Coping with mental illness is so much more than just “take a bubble bath uwu”. Self care is not just about moisturizing (although i could use some lotion right now) but the hard parts like pushing yourself up and out to be with people or looking yourself in the mirror and forcing yourself to say “hey, im not where i want to be, but im going to get there”. Thank you so much for this video Drew!
My therapist hasn't really been too helpful. Like, she's telling me stuff I already know which isn't helpful. Tbh this video was more helpful than my therapy sessions.
See a different one! Every therapist appeals to different kinds of people and some therapists are just shit. Find one that clicks with you! They’re out there, but I know the search can be frustrating.
I wpuld try to explain to her that you already know most of the things she's saying and tell her what you want from her as a therapist. If you just want to vent, that's okay! If you know the advice but feel like you can't follow it, ask her for help with that (ex: problem: feeling sad. Advice: do things that make you less sad. Additional problem: can't do those things because X) You don't need to humour your therapist, that's not why you're there.
Seeing a psychiatrist and starting medication literally changed my life. I was bipolar but undiagnosed and unmedicated all the way through my 20s and I feel like I wasted my youth. 👎 If you have access to help, definitely get help. 💙
I’ve never even commented on a video before, but this one got to me, Drew - you make such great content, and this in particular was so touching because of how well you articulated the experience of living with depression for 10+ years. We’re about the same age, and everything you said about learning to deal with depression from childhood onward was like someone took all the thoughts that’ve been tumbling around inside my head and arranged them into perfect little sentences. Sorry if this makes little sense due to my current preoccupation, which is drinking alcohol from a mug alone in my bed - y’know, depression, that old chestnut - but underneath your comedic persona you are remarkably profound.
Hate it... since i was 17 my depression and anxiety start making my life imposible and now im 34 and guess what the depression and anxiety still making my life a living hell... so IT GET WORST 😧
Whenever my girlfriend‘s depression comes around (which is often), It is hard to grasp how concrete of a horror it is for her; Suddenly, everything is nothing. Everyone around her means nothing. She is nothing. And every day of those periods is a constant battle to not kill herself. I always knew That life is abusive and unfair, but now I See life in a totally different way and I will never stop being grateful for my healthy mind..never. ANYWAY! GREAT VIDEO DREW!
wow, it's shocked me how, idek, perfect of a paragraph can be, it's sad and unfortunate, but i'm really happy to know that when i have major panic attacks or sit in depression for days there are actually ppl out there like u, that understand me..
Pourya Bigonah It feels good to her knowing that even though you might not experience it, you can understand how overwhelming and devastating it could be. I’m glad she has a person in her life like you, because as someone who battles with anxiety it’s a cruel world out here.
sounds like she's bipolar. id honestly get that checked out. a girl from my school was very similar like this. some days she was is a normal-good mood other times she was at her lowest. she can alternate moods every couple days even in hours. she was so depressed 1 day she cut herself and almost died
Last year my husband and his dad were changing the break pads and doing an oil change on our van. It was a pretty day and my kids were out playing and I was sitting in the yard watching them. All of a sudden the jack on the van snapped with my father in law underneath the wheel bearing. My husband was desperately trying to get the van off of him while I dialed 911. Our 4 kids screaming and crying as I’m trying to usher them in the house because there was blood pouring everywhere. He passed right there in our drive way and my kids, my husband and myself all fell into a deep depression. I did find a very good therapist for me and the kids but my husband refuses to go and he just keeps slipping farther and farther away. He’s so depressed but won’t come to terms with it. I hope one day he will. Thank you Drew for making this video. I’m going to show this to my husband. ❤️
My current therapist isn't helpful at all but I've gotten SO much better since I started seeing her because I'm so angry that she isn't helping that I help myself more. When I leave I'm like "I could be so much better at her job than she is I'll show her what self-care REALLY is" and I started going to bed on time and stopped using my computer in bed and I drink enough water and eat breakfast, etc. Before I had no motivation to do anything, but now my motivation is anger at her and all the other people in my life for not helping me. It's crazy how quickly I changed my mindset from "Why won't anybody help me" to "fuck all of you people for not helping me, watch me help myself." I still have bad days and weeks where I can't get myself out of bed but I'm so much better than I've ever been.
44QueenTitanic44 If your current therapist isn’t helpful for you definitely look into switching to a new therapist. I’m glad that they are “helping” you but you are paying them to actually help you. Don’t be afraid to tell them that they aren’t helping you and you would like to see a new therapist.
This was my mindset. I didn’t have a therapist but suddenly my view on my depression and self harm changed. I decided I wasn’t gonna let anything hold me back from finding happiness. I’m stronger than depression. I’m stronger than fear. This next part is going to be talking about self harm and it’s kind of gory so I’m warning you know that you should keep away if it’s something you won’t be able to handle. I convinced myself to stop cutting myself by imagining what it would be like to keep cutting in the same spot until I reached the bone and started cutting into the bone. That thought repulsed me so much that I stopped cutting myself. I know it’s gross but it stopped me from cutting so it worked. I’m sorry if it was tmi or triggering but I warned you.
Carolina Leon Well as long as you’re safe and mentally healthy ❤️ I’m glad you found something that can help you overcome those feelings. I’ll keep what you said in mind so maybe it can help me when I’m feeling bad :)
i get you it's how i mostly deal with my life too, but keep in mind that anger doesn't have to be all you got. Try compassion as well and try understanding how others might not be capable of understanding you fully. I say this because sometimes i feel like my anger is endless and won't ever bring me joy. I thank it everyday for making me get out of bed and protecting me, but i also thank my compassion for letting me get over some hard stuff and letting me be able to enjoy my social life. still some great achievement! be proud of yourself!
(Drew this message is for you if you see it) My name is Belle and I’m commenting from my mum’s phone, I’m 14 and suffering from depression. You help me a lot and I love watching your videos and you always make me laugh. You should be proud of your videos. I love how random you are and how passionate you are. I feel exactly the same as you do with your depression. I watch your videos with my mum and we both love you. I wanted to wish you good luck with your mental health and I really hope you get through this. I just wanted to say thank you for your videos and I really admire your courage for posting all this stuff. I love you, so does my mum. And thank you! You deserve happiness when you make everyone else happy. I don’t know if this makes sense but thank you!!
I love the part about accepting yourself even while watching TV all day and doing nothing. Every time I do that (which is most of the time) I am constantly judging myself for it and worrying that my family will judge me or be disappointed in me if they walk through the door and see me on the couch AGAIN. But I know that right now distracting myself with TV is what makes me feel the best, so I should just love myself for that decision and not treat it as if I'm doing something wrong. Better to increase the other positive aspects of my life (like hanging with friends and taking walks), instead of decreasing what I perceive to be negative (being lazy in front of the TV), and maybe the "negative" parts will fall away on their own.
i feel like my problem with the distractions is i'm constantly watching, reading, or listening to something and i don't let myself think my own thoughts or be in my own head ever and actually face the problems. constantly suppressing until they come up at a later time
jesus this is literally what i always do, i can’t even go on public transport without listening to music, i’m always watching something and i have to always be occupied with something because that’s just what i’ve been doing for years as a distraction
everyone is different, but my therapist has told me that distractions can be helpful. If you immediately start feeling bad when you are alone with your thoughts it might be better to have a distraction. However, finding a friend or therapist who you can vent to about how you are feeling is a great way to acknowledge your feelings and allow yourself to unwind in a healthy setting where they can help stop you from spiraling out of control. Hope you have a great day!
"just bc something gives u a feeling, it doesn't mean it's true" it makes me so mad that I can't truly trust my own thoughts. But I have more anxiety than depression.
I’m not gonna lie, this was actually really helpful and encouraging. I’ve struggled with severe Depression and Anxiety for as long as I can remember, and so hearing your struggles and experiences and hearing you be so real about everything is honestly just really refreshing. So many people don’t talk about this stuff and they don’t like to talk about the unpleasant details so Thank you Drew for making this video, I think it’s gonna be really helpful for anyone who struggles with things like this. :) ❤️
You should be proud of yourself because you are aware of how you feel that is half the battle. It is not easy for people to recognize that there is something wrong so well done my advice get help from a professional your doing so well.
Very helpful. I called off work today. I made up a bunch of excuses as to why I did it but inside I know it's just because I didn't feel like I could do it today. And I've sat here feeling like a guilty piece of shit all day because I should have just gone to work. I want to hold myself accountable but I also know I should cut myself some slack and show myself some love. This was something I needed today, thank you Drew.
One of my favorite quotes I've learned in recovery and kind of battling my depression is feelings aren't facts. Kind of coincides with what you were saying.
I know you were joking about sounding like a kid's tv show, but I think you'd actually be REALLY good at that job! I could easily see you on a stage with a guitar changing lil' baby lives.
As someone with a counseling degree (and depression) this is all really psychologically sound, kind, loving advice. Proud of you for making this Drew!!
Thank you Drew😭 I’m very sad. My Nana passed away last week and I’ve been depressed for years but I just feel numb and sad and just want to stop existing. Not die, just for everything around me to stop. And this made me feel a little less alone, so thank you
