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How To Make A Disrespectful Person Look Insecure For Insulting You 

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You’re going to come across some conversational bullies in the course of your life. Generally, people try to shut them down with insults and aggression, and some others prefer to walk away from these interactions to avoid that kind of negativity.
But there is a third, potentially more effective way to deal with these toxic people. Russell Brand, for instance, tries to take control of the conversation instead of shutting it down. This allows him to stand up for himself without coming across like a jerk. His interview with three hosts at the MSNBC morning show is a perfect example of the main strategies that you can use to dominate any bully in any conversation.
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0:55 - Practice #1: Continue speaking until the end of your sentence.
1:55 - Practice #2: Treat each member of a group as an individual.
2:51 - Practice #3: Emphasize similarities with other members.
10:01 - Practice #4: Learn to detach your ego from personal attacks.
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@Charismaoncommand
@Charismaoncommand 4 года назад
Hey everyone, we have started a podcast that you can be a part of! If you have an interesting question for Ben and I, please go to ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-mK-ycFRvevc.html and comment . In our next episode, we will respond to some of those questions and shout you out :-)
@fistbump4403
@fistbump4403 4 года назад
When will you break down Keanu Reeve already????
@blameyourlag9455
@blameyourlag9455 4 года назад
uh btw the title for this video is the same title for the joe rogan video so you may want to change it.
@LinkEX
@LinkEX 4 года назад
Is it intentional that you uploaded this video with the exact same title as the one that was about Joe Rogan? (Instead of calling it "How to Deal with Disrespect Without Being a Jerk", or "How to Command Respect Without Being A Jerk, Vol II") You openly stated that you're being experimental with your thumbnail and video title, so I feel like this might be an intentional experiment.
@darkangel102860
@darkangel102860 4 года назад
Could you do a break down of Niall Horan. He is charming and effortlessly seems to make friends with everyone he meets.
@booyakasha11
@booyakasha11 4 года назад
A great fresh topic to cover could be the art of charisma through language barriers. I'm about to embark on my own journey for 2 years abroad, and can't imagine what it's like to authentically connect with people who you can't fully understand or communicate with. I've heard you touch on the subject of enthusiasm as it relates to this, but I think it would be valuable to hear you do a deep dive, given your experience living abroad.
@knutsfordhouse
@knutsfordhouse Год назад
As a child I witnessed a man insult my friend's mother in front of a whole group of her friends. There was a very awkward silence while she just looked at him, then she smiled and said very loudly, 'how very unkind of you to say so', and then she just carried on talking to her friends. The man was totally humiliated and slunk away. Brilliant!
@colleensantos7612
@colleensantos7612 Год назад
That's brilliant, I love that!
@royferguson3909
@royferguson3909 Год назад
your friend' s mother , has class. One can not buy , class .
@JamieM470
@JamieM470 Год назад
Wow. That response was brilliant in every way. I hope I remember that & use it if I wind up in a similar situation.
@KB1983.
@KB1983. Год назад
I like her lol
@doclockwood8809
@doclockwood8809 Год назад
Xlnt recount. As a friend was becoming increasingly more abrasive with me, I suddenly stopped listening respectfully, looked her directly in both eyes, and said coldly " You can never talk this way to me again." It stunned her mid-sentence, she was silent, almost frozen for 8 to 10 seconds as I held eye contact, and she re-animated and said "You're right. I'm sorry, you didn't deserve that." Things have been on a more even keel since then, but we'll see. I don't need an apology nor any capitulation or "a win"...I simply want certain parameters of engagement to be followed when talking with friends. If I wanted a fight, I'd go to a bar, where it's acceptable for conversations to escalate quickly to shouting and insults. But not ever with friends or family. Proximity and emotional investment do not necessarily open the gates to intentional injury or agenda-based attacks. If we are in a relationship where we would normally be open and caring, it is not okay to use that proximity and closeness as a weapon or entree to deeper nerves and more painful attacks, which is exactly what happens in most self- consuming love/hate relationships. Taking advantage of that intimacy to hurt someone is against the rules, and simply, openly shows how immature that person's real feelings are toward the relationship. It is a hard lesson to learn and many relationships don't survive that growth process. Adults still have a need for internal growth, and need to learn the lessons of forgiveness, patience, and perspective with their families, friends, lovers, and even strangers. Simply not accepting bad behavior is a step toward a better relationship. But it can also be a step toward no relationship, too. Some people we just grow away from, or grow out of. Others we grow toward and often, we grow with each other. The garden analogy fits especially well when dealing with weeds and chronically destructive behavior. Encourage fruitful, healthy behavior and relationships, expect little or no returns from weeds and corrosive others. If we give respect, love, compassion, patience and positivity, and get none in return, it may be time for a "lesson"...but likely it's time to "lessen" our own burden and "listen" to our gut...move on. There are far better things to do than to try to change others' behavior and habitual negativity. Fix or forget...like an old car or classic stereo. It doesn't really matter how much you love it, it may be beyond fixing, and you may simply be in love with an image or an idea, rather than the reality. Keep the dream, toss the reality? I love old friends and old cars and hifis. Guess which ones are easier to maintain. Aye, there's the wicket! Cheers!
@ProtonChicken
@ProtonChicken 4 года назад
Wow, I didn't realize how good at speaking Russel is. So many subtleties.
@dougmartin2007
@dougmartin2007 4 года назад
I've noticed a lot of comedians are good at controlling a room. Most likely from their stand up performances and dealing with hecklers.
4 года назад
I've allowed my difference of opinion to color my views of him in the past. I also used to feel he was overly verbose, putting on airs so to speak, but thanks largely to this channels analysis have come to respect the man's skills.
4 года назад
@@oliviahafner561 too wordy? Eh, we often like least the things in others that we dislike most in ourselves.
@HigherPlanes
@HigherPlanes 4 года назад
@ I'm not sure that was an insult.
4 года назад
@@HigherPlanes I didn't think it was. I was overlaying my own views of him on myself. I saw it as humor. Joys of written communication.
@michelemcwilliams5084
@michelemcwilliams5084 Год назад
I've been told my whole life that I look intimidating. But what they were referring to, is my habit of making people nervous by not responding when I think someone is lying, instead I just looking at them intently. I realized years ago that if I just stared and didn't speak, the person would get nervous and start chattering. That chatter is what I was looking for, and would help me ferret out the truth.
@ardenalexa94
@ardenalexa94 Год назад
You’d be a good interrogator
@pnpgutterfold
@pnpgutterfold Год назад
That's pretty cool. I need to put that in my toolbox. I think I've tried it before but it won't work on those who don't already respect you.
@user-jc8py7dw7r
@user-jc8py7dw7r 10 месяцев назад
You have a horrifically high opinion of yourself.
@CrimsonRayne
@CrimsonRayne 10 месяцев назад
​@@pnpgutterfoldit's easier with being comfortable with silence. Not every second of the day has to be filled with talk between people
@mikealalee2889
@mikealalee2889 10 месяцев назад
It's crazy how obvious it is when people lie and they literally will do it to your face like you dont know. XD
@jhssuthrnmama
@jhssuthrnmama Год назад
I am really amazed at how well Brand handles these low-IQ groups ganging up on him, and also how masterfully well you explain what he does.
@stanley-fghijk441
@stanley-fghijk441 10 месяцев назад
Well, they're always liberals. Intellectually humiliating them in easy.
@derekpierkowski7641
@derekpierkowski7641 10 месяцев назад
Russell nudes to learn how to relaxe his throat muscles because he choked last time we met.
@adventureswitharizonaart6117
@adventureswitharizonaart6117 10 месяцев назад
Yes, he is a master manipulator.
@matthewwestcott9138
@matthewwestcott9138 10 месяцев назад
​@@derekpierkowski7641Painfully unfunny
@glastonbury4304
@glastonbury4304 10 месяцев назад
​@derekpierkowski7641 ...you need to spell before you comment ...😂
@yummyEnchilada
@yummyEnchilada 4 года назад
That's what pisses me off. People speaking over me when I'm trying to finish a sentence, lol.
@thereisnosanctuary6184
@thereisnosanctuary6184 4 года назад
King Isaac Blah, blah, blah, blah..
@TheHowToCorrectly
@TheHowToCorrectly 4 года назад
King Isaac you arnt loud enough
@whocares9402
@whocares9402 4 года назад
Coming from someone who named themselves king
@softia9
@softia9 4 года назад
I know right! Whenever I’m talking they-
@1Rekuiem
@1Rekuiem 4 года назад
@Salt Serpent yes?
@mrbigg151
@mrbigg151 4 года назад
Russell Brand is VERY quick-witted and intelligent. It seems that people underestimate him and find out REALLY quick that he's no slouch.
@ganymeade5151
@ganymeade5151 4 года назад
He obviously has been around people a lot.
@mrbigg151
@mrbigg151 4 года назад
@@ganymeade5151 As has everyone else but his level of thinking separates him from the majority.
@neavo8421
@neavo8421 3 года назад
@You are correct But That statement would have the same affect if it was left unsaid.
@Kivas_Fajo
@Kivas_Fajo 3 года назад
@@neavo8421 ...and yours would be the same with affect or effect.
@catearth8864
@catearth8864 3 года назад
Russell Brand is the definition of a slouch... lol
@milliewoo337
@milliewoo337 Год назад
This is so useful. As a child I was overrun in every conversation by a narcissistic parent, I never learned this skill and consequently it happens to me in adulthood sometimes and it’s so frustrating and embarrassing. Planning to employ these strategies tout-de-suite.
@JarrettDorough
@JarrettDorough 11 месяцев назад
Same all the way around
@nothere3982
@nothere3982 11 месяцев назад
Good luck man! I also have narcicistic parents, only that I don't have this issue because they enjoyed the fights. Hope all goes well
@aniretukatomai
@aniretukatomai 11 месяцев назад
I understand that to well 🫠
@thejava.witchiswhispering
@thejava.witchiswhispering 5 месяцев назад
That happened to my husband, but my narcissistic mother had the opposite effect on me: I cut into and interrupt others so fluidly it just feels like natural conversation. I really thought that's just how I talked to people until I moved out and then visited my mom and sister and realized we don't converse normally at all. It's been a huge point of contention in our relationship.
@margaretmitchell4926
@margaretmitchell4926 4 месяца назад
@@nothere3982surely u must know brands narcissistic behaviour. Omg I can’t believe u ppl can’t see this is his payback
@keithbroh5730
@keithbroh5730 Год назад
I’m a cashier at an estate sale company. So weekly i deal with tons of people who want to pay little to nothing for whatever they have in mind and usually try to talk down to you. I’m glad seeing this video and showed me I actually learned a lot of these practices on my own, such as ignoring rude people and not letting them interrupt my speech. I see others in similar situations say they find themselves checking out emotionally but I do the exact opposite when faced with aggression/ malice I try to to pretend they didn’t say anything but simple facts. Such as when people ask the price of an item and I tell them “$5” they love to respond with something like “$5? I can buy them brand new for that much!” To which I reply we’ll that one is $5. Rather than ignoring them I acknowledge what they said without giving them a single inch toward their statement. I’ve had several people stand next to my register repeatedly asking “why not $3?” And I just ignore them. If I reply it’s “$5” and nothing else. Don’t let people build imaginary power over you! Know your worth
@thesingerintheshower
@thesingerintheshower Год назад
Thank you for sharing. Great tips 👌 👍 👏
@casey3635
@casey3635 Год назад
Great! You're doing awesomely! And you will only get stronger and better! Cheers!
@thesingerintheshower
@thesingerintheshower 11 месяцев назад
"Don't let people build imaginary power over you." ✨️ 💪 💯 What you said there is my ultimate, all-time favorite new quote.
@lizzyrank5405
@lizzyrank5405 11 месяцев назад
I do this as well. If it's above my pay grade, then I send it to the higher-ups. But damn dealing with people is too much. I'm not at a job where I don't interact as much. I have to take a break for about 10 years, I think😁
@profitprophets1363
@profitprophets1363 6 месяцев назад
Respect!
@mariedelozier2530
@mariedelozier2530 4 года назад
Not having an ego totally frees you from other's opinions of you.
@2degucitas
@2degucitas 4 года назад
Having control of your ego. You already know we all have one.
@Litt13F00t
@Litt13F00t 4 года назад
Opinions of who? This logic is beyond comprehension
@2degucitas
@2degucitas 4 года назад
@@Litt13F00t Really? It's pretty simple. Other's impressions and expressed thoughts about YOU. Their opinions. Surely you understand, you're a smart person.
@Litt13F00t
@Litt13F00t 4 года назад
@@2degucitas I was attempting a joke going with the idea that without an ego there's not really a "you" in the common sense of the word. Usually "you" or "I" refers to one's ego, so to say you don't have an ego seems like it would imply there is no "you" to be bound by other's opinions, nor is there a you to be freed from them. Its obviously an extreme (I'd say impossible) to say someone doesn't have an ego at all (even if its near entirely removed from the perspective they have of the world) and I think that's what makes this strangely complicated and almost impossible to talk about logically. It's possible there's just been some confusion/misinterpretation though
@2degucitas
@2degucitas 4 года назад
@@Litt13F00t Ok thanks. Comments get misunderstood every day.
@kbunk87
@kbunk87 4 года назад
Russel Brand is levels above them intelligence-wise and they just continued to treat him like a child, all the while he remains professional and mature. Respek
@neilkerray1
@neilkerray1 4 года назад
@@RU-vidChannel-dk5xv watch his RU-vid channel. Specifically interviews on his podcast
@europeansovietunion7372
@europeansovietunion7372 4 года назад
How he's calling them out without being negative is truly impressive.
@GB-sh9st
@GB-sh9st 4 года назад
@@neilkerray1 Listen to his podcast with Sam Harris to see how grossly inadequate and overrated Brand's intellect is..
@kbunk87
@kbunk87 4 года назад
@@RU-vidChannel-dk5xv you're entitled to think he isn't that intelligent, but his emotional awareness is undeniable.
@AlleliHull
@AlleliHull 4 года назад
@Sim I think you nailed it. Brand is brilliant in the way of social intelligence. The dude can read a room. I think what makes him brilliant is he takes the stance of a student. He wants to learn and asks far more questions than he does state an opinion. I'm not a massive fan of his comedy, but I love watching interview clips of him because of his social navigation skills.
@84Elenai
@84Elenai 11 месяцев назад
That whole interview with Russell is a lecture on how to effectively handle a hostile conversation. Definitely one of the best things I have ever seen. Russell is so good at that, it’s unbelievable.
@AutisticAthena
@AutisticAthena Год назад
I will say ONE thing: to some people, their name is NOT their favorite word, and will get defensive when singled out. Watch for people who wince when you say their name. They sometimes feel put on the spot when you address them by their name too much, and will get aggressive with you.
@lynziekirby8882
@lynziekirby8882 Год назад
I am not sure what point you are trying to make here. There are many reasons for a name not being a person's favourite word and some of them are quite unsettling as the use of the name brings in some terrible memories. Perhaps, they are not being defensive or aggressive. This is worth remembering and not making a judgement.
@MeBe35
@MeBe35 Год назад
I'm one of those people. It makes me feel like the person is trying to manipulate and dominate the conversation. If it's naturally said then I'm fine with it but if it's deliberate I get very annoyed by it.
@monstrositygallery
@monstrositygallery Год назад
Yeah I actually hate my name and cringe when people say it. I rarely use other people’s names for the same reason
@AutisticAthena
@AutisticAthena Год назад
@@lynziekirby8882 I was making the point that while it IS normal for most people to respond positively to being addressed by their name, some people will actually get upset about it (like me). The whole video is about controlling hostile conversations.
@kelleywheeler4478
@kelleywheeler4478 11 месяцев назад
Yes. I come from the Southern Appalachian mountains, and people from here typically will become much more guarded if a person they don’t know well deliberately uses their first name.
@melodybucker3803
@melodybucker3803 2 года назад
My father taught me as a young person, that silence and staying calm, is the best way to get to a person. Works like a charm. Way to go Dad!
@stephens4175
@stephens4175 2 года назад
I utilize that technique all the time, it's easier though when you don't care for conversing with most people in the first place, and being an introvert also helps a lot.
@SadisticStang
@SadisticStang 2 года назад
I'd have more respect for you than someone who forces us to listen to them finish a sentence.
@projectfear22
@projectfear22 2 года назад
What when those people finish their sentence with "am i right?" trying to push your response
@superbros1579
@superbros1579 2 года назад
@@projectfear22 tell them your honest opinion
@guitarnorm888
@guitarnorm888 Год назад
so passive aggressive silent treatment then. divorced yet?
@nadeshkaholmes9511
@nadeshkaholmes9511 3 года назад
I wish I could be more like this, I'm too sensitive. And when someone says something that hurts me I don't know what to do and then hours later I think of what I could've said.
@mickharrison7262
@mickharrison7262 3 года назад
You don't, you are not, you do and then hours later it doesn't matter. Just be yourself and not the labels you have attached to yourself
@nadeshkaholmes9511
@nadeshkaholmes9511 3 года назад
@@mickharrison7262 thank you for your words :)
@mickharrison7262
@mickharrison7262 3 года назад
@@nadeshkaholmes9511 You are welcome. I haven't told you anything you didn't already know
@spirited154
@spirited154 3 года назад
I think the most important thing to do is to take yourself out of the equation, if that makes sense. Focus on the words, but don't associate them with yourself? You have to put distance between what someone says about you and how you perceive it.
@lisajohnson6351
@lisajohnson6351 3 года назад
Like they’ve said in the narrative several times, remove yourself from your ego...don’t take things personally. Observe what is being said as if they were talking about someone else.
@juselfusel8010
@juselfusel8010 Год назад
What helped me dealing with rude and "Not letting you talk"-people was being nice and happy and never falling out of this role. I think it helps because keeping this consistent happieness shows them that their rude behavior doesnt have any effect on me so they stop trying.
@musicbro8225
@musicbro8225 3 месяца назад
Living a role can lead to bitterness and frustration.
@veronicao4643
@veronicao4643 8 дней назад
It really highlights how miserable the rude person is being, making them look and feel lame
@emiquintana509
@emiquintana509 Год назад
I've always instinctively had a very blank facial response when people would attacked me verbally. As I've been doing this more recently, with my sister, I've noticed that she tends to tell me the whole truth (and usually ends up talking herself in a circle, realizing holes in her own argument) when I just keep my mouth shut for a little bit. It seems to have the same effect as "practicing" what you're going to say to an inanimate object. The second she senses any sort of reaction in me, she changes her speech, and doesn't say what she wants to say, but rather, reactions to my reaction. Sometimes it feels impossible to have a civil conversation with her, so I've adapted to the fact that if I let her talk for long enough, she usually realizes that she's the one in the wrong, and I barely have to say a thing.
@zakosist
@zakosist 11 месяцев назад
I actually can't remember a single case where I have avoided to say what I wanted to say as a result of someones reaction. Or when I think of it, my mom being mad at me as a child and not letting me speak, almost threatening me did that. But mostly, that seems like a very strange concept to me
@IntermissionForBunny
@IntermissionForBunny 4 года назад
Charisma on Command: "Use less signals, and you will get less." Stannis Barratheon: "Fewer."
@chrisf247
@chrisf247 4 года назад
The signals are called that because they are intended to trigger less or more of the behavior the other person is exhibiting. The amount of a behavior isn't countable, so less is correct in this context.
@jakobjaehn3545
@jakobjaehn3545 4 года назад
Only real OGs will get that reference...
@reshpeck
@reshpeck 4 года назад
Chris F A signal is a discrete thing. What you are describing is "signaling," in which case "less" would be correct.
@skwisgaarskwigelf331
@skwisgaarskwigelf331 4 года назад
OKAY. I WAS WATCHING THE VERY SAME STANNIS QUOTE SECONDS BEFORE I CLICKED THIS VIDEO.
@Mamse
@Mamse 4 года назад
It's not the amount of behaviour, it's the amount of signals. Signals ARE countable. A signal; one signal. The word 'signal' doesn't describe a descrete thing. Behaviour is more abstract. So I'm pretty sure 'fewer' is the most correct word in the context of 'signals'.
@jamesroberts325
@jamesroberts325 4 года назад
"Did you see how Russell did everything I mentioned?" Pretty easy to do, as long as you mention everything Russell did. 🤣🤣
@quintincastro7430
@quintincastro7430 4 года назад
Lol i was thinking that for a second all this guy does is highlight the things that happen in a clip but i guess it's good advice.
@Maraguzzi
@Maraguzzi 4 года назад
i thought the exact same thing hahahahah
@fisherg.6204
@fisherg.6204 4 года назад
Thank you Captain obvious
@jamesroberts325
@jamesroberts325 4 года назад
@@fisherg.6204 U sir, r a troll
@fisherg.6204
@fisherg.6204 4 года назад
@@jamesroberts325 thank you for the compliment
@michellew512
@michellew512 Год назад
I cannot BELIEVE this interview. I’ve never seen such disrespect. Well done, Russell, as always, for using your wit and charm to be the better person. Love, love and more love ❤
@gordonrundell3260
@gordonrundell3260 7 месяцев назад
He's a nonce
@gaiagoddess8009
@gaiagoddess8009 7 месяцев назад
Too bad Russell Brand couldn't be more controlled about "signals" to women OFF camera.
@winstonsmith6607
@winstonsmith6607 6 месяцев назад
@@gaiagoddess8009 So should this video be taken down, then? Are all the lesson irrelevant?
@AMERICANPATRIOT123
@AMERICANPATRIOT123 5 месяцев назад
You've never seen the media interview a conservative? This is typical.
@canorth
@canorth 5 месяцев назад
@@AMERICANPATRIOT123expecting the truth isn’t disrespectful
@jessicalanggamez
@jessicalanggamez Год назад
Russel has an incredibly effective communication skill!
@danskdna8550
@danskdna8550 3 года назад
How very rude and insulting that group was toward him. Bravo to him for not walking off the set.
@mattier.9095
@mattier.9095 2 года назад
Mika and her group are immature and not funny… they think they are intelligent and cool but they are not!
@rmcd823
@rmcd823 2 года назад
I watched this program at that time. They made me feel very tense and I barely could believe how rude they were with Russel. I thought Russel would be walking off, but I got amazed with his power and flexibility - he showed mastery in emotional maturity, intelligence and communication skills. Bravo!
@arribaficationwineho32
@arribaficationwineho32 2 года назад
He is smarter than all 3 collectively
@vivalatink716
@vivalatink716 2 года назад
They were so rude and cringe to him. I was have told them off and left during the interview 🙄- children
@roadrunner9622
@roadrunner9622 2 года назад
Someone said years ago about the political scene in Wash. D.C., "That place is toxic. They destroy people for sport." This sick state of affairs has expanded to our entire media industry.
@ShanaLawson
@ShanaLawson 3 года назад
I’ve always liked him but didn’t realize how much of a genius he is in social situations.
@loriguercio4374
@loriguercio4374 2 года назад
Agreed… Regardless what people say about him… love him
@jesswalter8654
@jesswalter8654 Год назад
Ditto!!
@panumattila1253
@panumattila1253 Год назад
He just straight up doesnt really care and says what he thinks
@jb5796
@jb5796 7 дней назад
Russell reminds me of a boyfriend I once had. He had an unbelievable ability to call people out on their crap and was able to make them feel REALLY uncomfortable about it. I loved watching him do this. He was always confident and kept his cool. This allowed him to think and say exactly what was needed to be said. He’s passed away now. I miss him every day.
@y_limit_yourself
@y_limit_yourself 4 дня назад
Hey I’m rly sorry for your loss❤️ Can you share a favorite story of yours regarding one of these situations your bf finessed?
@stevesmith-mc1zk
@stevesmith-mc1zk Год назад
I have always been fascinated by how effectively Mr. Brand communicates. It was amazing to see the particulars broken down.
@DanielIles
@DanielIles 4 года назад
Russel Brand is a top notch conversationalist!
@Sam-ng3of
@Sam-ng3of 4 года назад
Guy is a charisma king. Don't know any better.
@Zetsuke4
@Zetsuke4 4 года назад
@@Sam-ng3of conan and ramsay
@ItsameAlex
@ItsameAlex 4 года назад
Conor Mcgregor is up there
@SirJohann
@SirJohann 4 года назад
Daniel Iles - Small Business totally agree
@Nobody-hg1tk
@Nobody-hg1tk 4 года назад
It's easy when you are a sociopath and have been programmed with MK Ultra for your role in the public ;)
@ConquerYou
@ConquerYou Год назад
I love that three hosts are trying to be cheeky, literally being rude to their guest, think themselves are hilarious- and Russel keeps it so cool. AND now his appearance and their awful behavior is now a teaching video(s) on the internet about how to deal with bullies. Lol
@janellc900
@janellc900 Год назад
Everything serves a purpose, even as a bad example. They served that purpose perfectly!! 😜
@Breathingmind1
@Breathingmind1 Год назад
May all you wishes come true. God bless 💫🙏🙏
@doumkatekz
@doumkatekz Год назад
The Clips are so short I'm having a hard time figuring out what is really going on in that dialogue
@secretivescorpio891
@secretivescorpio891 Год назад
​@@doumkatekzit's available to watch in its entirety on RU-vid if you search for it. I had already seen it before happening on this video
@garysnow1475
@garysnow1475 Год назад
At one point Russell points out how Mika is holding a bottle of water while she was confronting him. I have to say it was kind of sexy and she was blushing.
@deusvlad2.083
@deusvlad2.083 Год назад
The thing about Russel Brand is he is way too smart than many people think and those that know him know he's very smart and quick to use a plethora of words he has on hand to counter attack any argument. I don't think anyone in the world can win an argument against Russel completely without any replied backlash that has a lot of thought into it.
@gustavomolinari7522
@gustavomolinari7522 Год назад
To be honest: The BEST way to be listened, is to truly listen to whatever a person has to speak FIRST, and only when asked respond. It takes A LOT of training, patience and charity to do this, but it is possible. It is necessary to really LISTEN with your ears, but also your HEART, with an open demeanor and friendly feeling. It means to develop charisma for the person speaking and not to whatever he's speaking. People will compliment you for your benevolence, politeness and will still call you smart. All the best.
@motherofmultiverses
@motherofmultiverses Год назад
Yes, Do this, and everyone will say that YOU are the scintillating conversationalist, when you actually said next to nothing at all. You just listened and made a person feel worthy for a moment. Because so few people actually listen to other people, the fact that you listened is a special treat.
@levisbitch204
@levisbitch204 3 года назад
I think the prolonged silences and staring at people in a serious manner is an amazing tactic.
@myrahouse2368
@myrahouse2368 2 года назад
It is actually a Narcissist tactic too.
@narcissus79
@narcissus79 2 года назад
We're taught to do it as teachers. We call it "the longest turn". When a kid says something smart arsed while your back is turned writing on the board, stop, and do a 10 second turn and stare.
@szarwi
@szarwi 2 года назад
@@narcissus79 oh, I remember some teachers doing it in elementary. It shuts up annoying kids quickly.
@sarahholland2600
@sarahholland2600 2 года назад
As an ex teacher the death stare + silence is v effective 😁
@JonathanVachon777
@JonathanVachon777 2 года назад
Doesnt work with everyone and its not for everyone
@luckyyy3900
@luckyyy3900 4 года назад
these hosts were so rude to Russell smh great breakdown!
@jesterssketchbook
@jesterssketchbook 4 года назад
i love the part where russell looks at him like "oh look at you, you poor little sauasage, asking which i prefer: films standup or TV... asking your little journalist school day one question, arent you adorable thinking you have value and input" fricking hilarious.
@chrisjfox8715
@chrisjfox8715 4 года назад
I disagree
@fuzinonzlot
@fuzinonzlot 4 года назад
Typical of snobbish New Yorkers. One of the worst in the country.
@user-eh1gc7xo7q
@user-eh1gc7xo7q 4 года назад
It’s because while a lot of people respect Russel he has a very unpopular image that hosts pick up on whether to attract viewers or make the show more enjoyable. I like the guy
@hobbhobb4349
@hobbhobb4349 4 года назад
Americans being americans
@jje984
@jje984 Год назад
Very helpful. Most people won't be facing trained national media figures in their meetings. Two important ones for ANY meeting are "finish your sentence even when someone interrupts" and "don't let your ego get hurt". The first one just takes a minor bit of courage. The second is much harder because your ego wants to jump up and fight when you are insulted but thats almost never the right move.
@AndyAcker
@AndyAcker Год назад
This video jumped around a lot and was hard to follow at times (more of an editing and pacing thing), but I remember this morning show interview with Brand. How he basically takes over and points out their unskillfulness is truly a master class.
@thegirlyouddiefors9500
@thegirlyouddiefors9500 4 года назад
"Russell flat out ignores him, this is a great strategy-"
@mordirit8727
@mordirit8727 4 года назад
It really is though; when dealing with ad hominem, just pretending it didn't happen is one of the most disarming stances you can take against the person attacking you. And in the end, they didn't say anything that mattered for the conversation so why *wouldn't* you ignore it?
@KolyaNickD
@KolyaNickD 4 года назад
It was more complex than that. By jokingly raising his voice at those people in the back he also sent a powerful warning shot signaling that he is prepared to create a very uncomfortable situation if necessary. And it was a brilliant move.
@thegirlyouddiefors9500
@thegirlyouddiefors9500 4 года назад
@@KolyaNickD I realize it's more complex than that, it's just funny the way he says it
@Agora13
@Agora13 4 года назад
"If a Bully punches you in the face, just pretend it didn't hurt you" lmao, all i saw is Russel being made fun of, that doesn't happen if people respect you
@Graphaeli
@Graphaeli 4 года назад
+Agora1 L
@bernardinsaintpierre9555
@bernardinsaintpierre9555 4 года назад
This channel should be called “how to human”
@ReiAnikaAyanami
@ReiAnikaAyanami 4 года назад
@WORK PLAYLISTS haha, shut up.
@BlaDeKke
@BlaDeKke 4 года назад
@WORK PLAYLISTS Internet is the bible on steroids. You sir are totally wrong. We are better humans then ever before.
@nnnnnnnnn8888
@nnnnnnnnn8888 4 года назад
How to be likable human
@cailleach8416
@cailleach8416 4 года назад
@@BlaDeKke not quite like a Bible, but definitely a great tool to better ourselves.
@mostlysure1077
@mostlysure1077 4 года назад
@WORK PLAYLISTS I see what you did there. The internet is a *net* negative. Good joke.
@dawnkeyy
@dawnkeyy Год назад
I absolutely agree with eye contact - making the person feel watched (there have been studies where they put stickers of eyes in public places and observed a raise in moral and pro-social behavior). Also the silence, making the person feel the urge to fill the gap, usually making themselves look worse, or trying to back pedal. The thing about calling a person by their name I think also has the effect of breaking through the barrier of them feeling safer by being a part of the group. I think it would make them feel less protected and more directly culpable. Not just them enjoying hearing their name.
@thomasdempsey8011
@thomasdempsey8011 9 месяцев назад
You don't want to insult someone like Russell brand he is really quick witted and funny .
@rooramblingon895
@rooramblingon895 3 года назад
Not a Brand fan at all. However those three "interviewers" annoyed me. They were classic bullies, ganging up on someone they thought was an easy mark, bitching about him like he wasn't there. I'm very impressed with his response.
@natedog69420
@natedog69420 3 года назад
Why not a rb fan? Just curious
@rooramblingon895
@rooramblingon895 3 года назад
@@natedog69420 Fair question. At the beginning I didn't find him entertaining, funny or likeable. There was a lot of hype around him and I tend to dislike that too. I didn't actively dislike HIM, however, until the puerile "humour" with Andrew Sachs. I am warming to the guy now though. It seems a few years and experiences has knocked lots of rough edges off him. He seems a considered, thoughtful man.
@natedog69420
@natedog69420 3 года назад
@@rooramblingon895 interesting. I felt the same way about him i think back when i was a teenager and he first popped up. Been listening to him past year or 2 here and there though, more lately. I think hes friggin smart
@rooramblingon895
@rooramblingon895 3 года назад
@@natedog69420 I agree. Also pretty balanced and a lot more humble than he used to be.
@firstbornjordan
@firstbornjordan 3 года назад
He did well under the circumstances - but talk about a low quality interview/exchange.
@GOODZ7777
@GOODZ7777 4 года назад
"Why do I watch these videos as if I'm some kind of alien trying to assimilate into human culture?"
@thereisnosanctuary6184
@thereisnosanctuary6184 4 года назад
Nanoo, Nanoo
@7Metal7Monkey7
@7Metal7Monkey7 4 года назад
@Jhon Krasnovskiy pretty sure I was born on Earth but ok bud.
@HeyitsBri_
@HeyitsBri_ 4 года назад
So Zuckerberg doesn't feel alone
@dingorex
@dingorex 4 года назад
I agree...clicks back arrow.
@lh2593
@lh2593 4 года назад
Haha
@jsj31313jj
@jsj31313jj 4 месяца назад
“When dealing with people, let us remember we are not dealing with creatures of logic. We are dealing with creatures of emotion, creatures bristling with prejudices and motivated by pride and vanity.” -Dale Carnegie
@jittersgeyser620
@jittersgeyser620 Год назад
The first part is to genuinely not care what someone says about you, then you can retain your emotional reaction and clearly respond. Once you care what someone irrelevant to you says, then you likely lost control of your critical thinking. If someone whose response you care about says something negative toward you, then you should hold them to an esteem to know you warrant a cordial discussion and assume they need your help (or possibly you can learn something) to understand each other.
@itsclarissa6033
@itsclarissa6033 2 года назад
Mad respect for Russell with his emotional intelligence and social skills.
@Ancient_Pollyanna
@Ancient_Pollyanna Год назад
Barf. He's a blowhole.
@KDrop84
@KDrop84 Год назад
Wow. I didn’t realize that.
@catherineo8689
@catherineo8689 Год назад
And both are key to his sense of humor. I really miss seeing him in movies but watch his channel a lot. Very intelligent, articulate guy.
@zest4life246
@zest4life246 Год назад
Agreed ❤️
@andybarry5315
@andybarry5315 Год назад
Simply on another level... most people don't have the minerals to handle a 3 to 1 barrage live on TV. Kudos to Russell. Top man, very underated.
@sophiedavidson1579
@sophiedavidson1579 Год назад
1. Continue till the end of the sentence 2. Treat each member as an individual - Call their names - 3-second eye contact - calm stare (neither malice nor smile) - not pay attention (use body language) - prolonged silence 3. Emphasize similarities - Call out behavior that u appreciate. Return compliments - be playful - flat-out ignore the rude - pay attention to who respects you. Be loud, engaging with them - a “those type” call out - Flat out call out bad behavior 4. Detach your ego from personal attacks
@palomarjack4395
@palomarjack4395 Год назад
Just wondering. Why are you repeating the talking points in the video?
@sophiedavidson1579
@sophiedavidson1579 Год назад
@@palomarjack4395 Simply I write it down for fun ;)
@sophiedavidson1579
@sophiedavidson1579 Год назад
@@palomarjack4395 also, why do you ask me that question? I’m curious 😊😊
@MattCannady
@MattCannady Год назад
@@sophiedavidson1579 thank you for the quick synopsis. It's good to see it all written down and sometimes I'm not in a position where I can watch. I'm sure there are others who appreciate this text
@Yeneney
@Yeneney Год назад
@@MattCannady exactly, I'm glad op has written this out
@martytrout6252
@martytrout6252 Год назад
I love Russell's confidence. When you're smart enough and secure in who you are it's easy to deal with situations like these. Standup comedy is great for honing these skills. Most of us don't have enough experiences like these to get good at dealing with them.
@millenniumgojira2024
@millenniumgojira2024 Год назад
It works! If i ignore ppl who are saying bad stuff to me to get my attention, if I just ignore them and talk to someone else, or look away, they’ll stop. Then, when they speak to me again but they speak to me nicely, i respond nicely. Thanks for making this!
@amyb5434
@amyb5434 4 года назад
Whole new respect for Russel Brand here. It's funny how they "forgot" his name when HE is the only one I've heard of before. Kudos to Brand.
@lisagd22
@lisagd22 2 года назад
Kat got him mixed up with Willy Brandt, the Chancellor of West Germany in the 60s and 70s. It sounds like the MSNBC people are older than you, and being in the news business, they're likely more familiar with Willy than Russell.
@highpeacetess
@highpeacetess 2 года назад
Thanks, I was so confused about that part 😶🤣
@Brendawallingbear
@Brendawallingbear 2 года назад
@@lisagd22 I'm old enough to remember the 60s and 70s but mistaking Russell Brand for Willy Brand is ridiculous.
@lisagd22
@lisagd22 2 года назад
@@Brendawallingbear I agree; they should know better.
@floatingsara
@floatingsara 2 года назад
It is so UNPROFESSIONAL on their part I can hardly believe it was done spontaneously.
@sosig8332
@sosig8332 4 года назад
*1950s*“In the future we’ll have flying cars” *2019* “HOW TO INTERACT IN REAL LIFE WITH REAL PEOPLE”
@Hgulix62
@Hgulix62 4 года назад
Reality is stranger than fiction
@sosig8332
@sosig8332 4 года назад
StupidityKiller - well you’re not wrong 😂
@samsmusichub
@samsmusichub 4 года назад
XD so true.
@klutz3955
@klutz3955 4 года назад
@@Hgulix62nice quote.
@klutz3955
@klutz3955 4 года назад
That second title is very vague, this is much more specific and subtle, and actually practical. I obviously know this is a joke but this is just for those who are gullible or dont think twice about what they read.
@0INFERNO1
@0INFERNO1 7 месяцев назад
Something I heard the other day that I loved, "Love me or hate me, both are in my favor. If you love me I'm in your heart, Hate me and I'm in your head."
@bradclifton5248
@bradclifton5248 9 месяцев назад
His stand up, in the moment, quick thinking helps to remain calm.
@bethariana
@bethariana 4 года назад
Wtf was going on in that msnbc interview? Did they just invite him on to bully him? He is the GUEST. How blatantly unprofessional.
@jesterssketchbook
@jesterssketchbook 4 года назад
it seems surreal doesnt it? Who in their right mind thinks: "i know a great method for interviwing this person: i'll gang-up on him with 2 other ppl and insult him straight to his face" like wtf
@stormcorrosion176
@stormcorrosion176 4 года назад
Little Miss Dysthymia yes ma'am, exactly. New subscriber!!
@samirraza9069
@samirraza9069 4 года назад
I sincerely hope they got fired for that debacle.
@love4life559
@love4life559 4 года назад
@@vashsunglassesPure Toxic.
@annerison
@annerison 4 года назад
@@vashsunglassesWell said
@SuraDoes
@SuraDoes 4 года назад
I love that Russell called them out. They were being so rude to him as a guest on their show. Who raised them?
@D_Marrenalv
@D_Marrenalv 3 года назад
Liberals.
@McSnezzly
@McSnezzly 3 года назад
@@D_Marrenalv Russell is a liberal
@clerpington_the_fifth
@clerpington_the_fifth 3 года назад
amazing how you can call someone out by not even saying anything and just staring at them in silence l_el_
@vanessasworder8375
@vanessasworder8375 2 года назад
It was MSNBC ….say no more
@m_zbrv3967
@m_zbrv3967 2 года назад
@@McSnezzly those show hose probably the political correctness type of liberal and i don't think Russell is like that
@rovers141
@rovers141 Год назад
Russell has a secret weapon...he's vastly underestimated. That man is actually incredibly intelligent but things like his antics, his past drug use and his unusual appearance tends to make people draw...less than intelligent conclusions of him so they enter a conversation with him thinking they have the upper hand. It's a bit like the dozens or hundreds of battles you hear about where a general marches his army right up to the enemy without realizing it's a trap. They show their hand in the conversation and Russell dismantles it with intelligence and a charming personality. I'm not a fan of his work in entertainment but I do have a lot of respect for him!
@michellekeith5602
@michellekeith5602 7 месяцев назад
Russel Brand is one of the most intelligent and interesting people on the planet. The quick witted and non shaken foundation that he stands firmly upon is only enhanced by his ability to speak the truth in a manner that leaves his opponent in a submissive state
@danam9177
@danam9177 Год назад
On our first visit to my son’s orthodontist the secretary made one rude comment after the next to us. I finally said “ I’m so sorry, I feel like I have done something to upset you today” She looked up at me and said no, you haven’t upset me, I think she was shocked and embarrassed. Her attitude turned around, she was actually calling me hun when we left lol. I think kindness to someone being rude is most effective. If they continue to be rude at least you can walk away knowing you did the right thing.
@76482
@76482 Год назад
I've done almost the same thing. I changed the word "you" to "your secretary", then presented the question directly to my doctor.
@dianeyoung8068
@dianeyoung8068 Год назад
Personally, I don't think calling someone "hun" is very respectful.
@oldunclemick
@oldunclemick Год назад
@@dianeyoung8068 I really hate the word hun - so condescending.
@nspector
@nspector Год назад
@@dianeyoung8068 Agree. But here it represented a big shift in this woman's behavior.
@bazglsgw1208
@bazglsgw1208 Год назад
Tell them " its nice to be important but more important to be nice" usually clamps them up.
@61dodgelancer
@61dodgelancer 2 года назад
Russell Brand has higher status than all of the interviewers added together. He remains strong and centered even when he is being treated rudely. Russell never shows fear or anxiety. He floats like a butterfly, stings like a bee.
@JesusIsKing50
@JesusIsKing50 Год назад
And calls up old men with Johnathan Ross and humiliated him, which ended with him eventually dying. With them scum bringing him down for their own entertainment 😡
@joanb8489
@joanb8489 Год назад
I agree whole heartedly. He is brilliant and WELL-MANNERED.🎉
@heyitsjoe8446
@heyitsjoe8446 10 дней назад
I’ve always had a knack for conversation and for convincing people of my argument. My mate asked me how, I said just say it with absolute confidence and even if they know better most people will buy in lol
@FullMoonHowl
@FullMoonHowl 10 месяцев назад
This is SO helpful, thank you. When I was bullied in the past, I could after the fact form a calm, logical reply to both defeat what was said and illuminate the bad behavior without succumbing to it. Unfortunately, in the moments it actually occurred, what happened instead is I'd get so flustered by the unkind ridicule that I'd stammer or even get my words turned around... which of course only gave bullies more to mock. It was humiliating. While I no longer walk a daily gauntlet through school corridors, there is still a family member whose narcissism has turned her into a bully whose tactics are quite unfair and whom I can't avoid entirely. This video gives me some great tips for dealing with her when I must, or with any others I might encounter.
@Rahjenaimar
@Rahjenaimar 2 года назад
I've actually started to work as a telephone switchboard operator one week ago, and I can testify that the "just stay quiet" mood when tension is building up until the other person feels like she ou he has to say something nice works quite well lmao. I've had people complaining for two minutes straight until they realise that I'm not responding to any of what they are saying, so they pause and then say "well, I know this is not your fault but I really thought that you should let you boss know that this is not okay". Then all you have to say is "I completely understand where your frustration is coming from. Now let's see what I can do for you." And they are suddenly wery nice :D
@valley_robot
@valley_robot 2 года назад
Yep classic call centre angry customer control , let them run out of screams and anger and then leave it quiet until they apologise then fix the issue
@T..C..M
@T..C..M 2 года назад
Switchboard operator? The real question is how you're accessing RU-vid from the 1940's?!?
@Sernival
@Sernival 2 года назад
You sound like a weirdo
@williamsodonon7081
@williamsodonon7081 2 года назад
What of in group convos? do you ignore that one person?
@bullzdawguk
@bullzdawguk Год назад
It is better to remain silent, and be thought of as a fool, than it is to open your mouth, and remove all doubt. So true.
@sunriseboy4837
@sunriseboy4837 Год назад
Yeah, I know. I open my mouth way too much!
@bullzdawguk
@bullzdawguk Год назад
@@sunriseboy4837 The trick isn't to keep your mouth shut all of the time. The trick is, to know when you should open it. 😜
@theyrenotdollsOK
@theyrenotdollsOK Год назад
I too am an advocate of walk silently and use a very big stick! or however that saying is supposed to go. Nothing malicious. I swear... Teehee.
@bullzdawguk
@bullzdawguk Год назад
@@theyrenotdollsOK Like you, I am silently content with the size of my stick. 😜
@kimmie411
@kimmie411 14 дней назад
This is what anyone who has been bullied should learn to do. I was, I'm 40 now and still struggle with confidence in such situations. I'm still easily bullied as an adult. I'm so glad I found this channel!
@xyro9115
@xyro9115 10 месяцев назад
Demanding respect without building ego is definitely a delicate balance. And a big part most people fail is not being respectful themselves.
@tattoodfreeek
@tattoodfreeek 4 года назад
I'm not a fan of Russell Brand, don't find him particularly funny. However, I must admit he can control a situation masterfully
@Risingofthephoenixxx
@Risingofthephoenixxx 4 года назад
HOW IN THE WORLD AREN"T YOU A FAN HE"S THE MOST AMUSING HUMAN BEING ON EARTH
@vondahe
@vondahe 4 года назад
Aaron Hydes That’s interesting because to me he just seems like either a pompous narcissist or a raging coke head. He does not appear masterful at anything in any way whatsoever - but that’s just me.
@eeeehuu2130
@eeeehuu2130 4 года назад
vondahe He kind of seems like a jerk, but he gets what he wants in that conversations
@yhoda145
@yhoda145 4 года назад
@@vondahe you don't know what a narcissist is if you think he is one. He is strong and won't let anyone take his power. You don't like him because you don't get him. He was very much different till he had a spiritual awakening. He hasn't taken drugs in over a decade. I'm a hippy and know if someone is in on drugs or not
@yhoda145
@yhoda145 4 года назад
@@eeeehuu2130 was a jerk. He is much different now. Go watch his RU-vid stuff where he talks with people like Brian Cox and Derren brown. He is not the junkie jerk he appeared to be many years ago when married that pop singer
@acar7421
@acar7421 3 года назад
I have recently discovered how unbelievably gifted this man is. People do not take him serious enough, he is smart!
@cindymancini6153
@cindymancini6153 3 года назад
I’ve been wanting to read one of his books for a long time now. I’m curious if you have, and if you recommend it?
@saythankyou111
@saythankyou111 3 года назад
His you tube is filled with fantastic interviews. Good stuff ✝️❤️🇺🇸
@clementine5672
@clementine5672 3 года назад
@@cindymancini6153 I just finished Me tors and Recovery and I highly recommend both!!
@barbarahermannster
@barbarahermannster 3 года назад
@@cindymancini6153 I am currently reading Recovery, it is a wonderful resource if you are struggling with sobriety, makes me feel like I'm one of the cool kids.
@gabriellecocucci5577
@gabriellecocucci5577 3 года назад
Beautiful...beautiful man.
@maddarena
@maddarena 8 месяцев назад
One of the worst things that can be done when experiencing any version of aggression is to deny that it is happening, for example, ignore it, excuse the attacker, pretend that it was a joke etc. It works in some situations but in most cases only escalates the violence, especially with people who are always in our lives. They will become regular bullies to the breaking point.
@thebeardbeastx
@thebeardbeastx 8 месяцев назад
Russell is awesome. As real as they get
@jonahrangel2013
@jonahrangel2013 4 года назад
damn he reallly defended himself from 3 other people ganging up on him
@uncledoctor6920
@uncledoctor6920 3 года назад
"You're a powerful woman, you've got a lovely job, what seems to be the trouble?" If you didn't catch it, right after Russel pays her this complement she smiles and pulls her hair behind her ear, clear sign that he hit the mark and his words had the desired effect.
@ethanstewartstevenson7309
@ethanstewartstevenson7309 2 года назад
Definitely noticed that, and got a chuckle from it. Good eye. 👌🏻👌🏻
@pash9956
@pash9956 2 года назад
Secretly wishing she could make out with him.
@ShalomEntirety1
@ShalomEntirety1 2 года назад
Appealing to her...vanity.
@panama2468
@panama2468 2 года назад
@@ShalomEntirety1 that's the only way.
@pash9956
@pash9956 2 года назад
@@ShalomEntirety1 That was his way of bamboozling her. So flustered she couldn't think properly. He's brilliant!
@ZiggyJr
@ZiggyJr Год назад
This is beautiful! I particurlarly like the blank face and silence as a tempo restarter putting the ball in your court. I believe that keeping a pause before responding is huge. It piques intrigue and people interrupt you less.
@LexiesLaw
@LexiesLaw 7 месяцев назад
I've always been someone who speaks my mind especially,, when it's regarding something I care about . However, there are many times I choose not to respond because some people just aren't worth it & as we get older, we care less what others think about us.
@pulkitpun1009
@pulkitpun1009 2 года назад
1. Finish your sentences. Don't stop midway. 2. Refer everyone by their name. Look at them for 3 seconds when speaking to someone 3. Emphasize similarities with others and complement them. 4. Use non verbal signal. Good signals (smiling at them, complementing them) encourage their behavior. Bad ones (not paying attention to them, giving them uncomfortable looks) tells them to stop something. 5. Call out bad behavior but don't point out the person specifically. Give them the chance to change the behavior. 6. Flat out criticize the behavior if the last one doesn't work. Criticize the behavior, not the person. 7. Detach your ego from personal attacks.
@rebeccarowland2533
@rebeccarowland2533 Год назад
EXACTLY
@ashleighAshlee
@ashleighAshlee Год назад
I always do 1 when rude ppl cut me off, but in an Asian country, especially to the elders or in an hierarchical culture/ environment, it's seen as rude. But I'm an Asian and I don't care 😆
@spacekadebt1641
@spacekadebt1641 Год назад
Thank you for outlining the bullet points of this video. As a person with brain injury, I don't absorb things as easily as I used to. Having multiple ways to sponge in knowledge is something that I appreciate. Great job!
@slagparty
@slagparty Год назад
Did anyone notice how far apart that woman's legs were when she was sitting on the interview couch?
@oscar17891
@oscar17891 Год назад
@@slagparty yes! and right after that I wondered why men can sit comfortably and women have to be composed, or what would others think
@crystalkirlia4553
@crystalkirlia4553 2 года назад
Your channel is an autistic girl's dream! Thank you for teaching me things that other people seem to get so easily. People forget that sometimes people like me aren't born inherently socially aware and actually have to study these things to understand them at all. I struggle in social situations and your channel really helps. Thank you :-)
@Msmargret1
@Msmargret1 2 года назад
Isn't it grand! I understand completely. Good call.
@pyruvicac.id_
@pyruvicac.id_ 2 года назад
Ikr autistic girl (or at least that`s how others perceive me) who loves this channel for eons
@Genomsnittet
@Genomsnittet 2 года назад
Dude, they don't get it easily. Sometimes they don't get it at all. People in general don't understand or contemplate why they avert their gaze at certain points in a conversation. This is rather high level stuff ^^
@Tobi22__
@Tobi22__ 2 года назад
i think the most people have a struggle with this :)You are not alone .
@davidrussell9290
@davidrussell9290 2 года назад
90% of people don't get this. It's too much for anyone to grasp completely. He's selling you something. Remember that.
@Draekrio
@Draekrio Год назад
I just wanted to chime in my two cents here and say that one of these pieces of advice stands out to me as something that just seems like good social etiquette completely outside of the conversation about Charisma. The idea of positively reinforcing behaviour you want to see more of without being condescending or passive aggressive I think is something we need to put a lot more thought into in our daily lives, having been on both sides of a confrontation I feel like a lot of people feel extremely uncomfortable and vulnerable in changing their attitudes and approaches. Refusing to give any acknowledgement or worse making them feel small and submissive for doing so only serves to make them feel like there was no point in making that gesture and they should simply go back to the previous attitude they felt more comfortable in. If someone is already willing to humble themselves for wronging you, more often than not humbling them further just becomes abusive and damaging to the conversation, welcome and appreciate the effort.
@theshumanat0r537
@theshumanat0r537 Год назад
Im so glad that i came across this channel, it was well needed for me. I have aspergers and believe that if I use your advice, I can improve my social life and hopefully finally find someone to spend the rest of my life with
@abramsinsights7562
@abramsinsights7562 4 года назад
I practice the "finish your sentence" when interrupted and people do usually take it more serious and hear me out. I switch to a deeper chest tone of voice to overpower their vocal bass so it's not shouting but rather increasing the vocal weight. The interrupter usually have poor communication skills or less respect or familiarity with you. Continue anyways because others are usually still interested and often also annoyed by the interruption.
@willj1982
@willj1982 4 года назад
Johan Abrams pijjjii
@ganymeade5151
@ganymeade5151 4 года назад
Never underestimate the power of ignoring your nemesi
@staind.raindrop
@staind.raindrop 4 года назад
I try to continue my sentence but sometimes it gets confusing to hear two sentences at once. I almost have to plug my ears to avoid losing track of what I'm saying. I'm obviously not going to do that, and I have a comparatively small voice so it doesn't usually help me to get louder. So I just switch my focus from external to internal and basically talk to myself until I finish. I guess it really is the best response to being interrupted, even if it doesn't mean keeping the talking stick.
@thenastyfridge
@thenastyfridge 3 года назад
The tip with switching to a deeper chest voice instead of just "speaking louder" is so great, thank you!
@dreamove8878
@dreamove8878 3 года назад
Lol
@xiomanaxoxoxo3212
@xiomanaxoxoxo3212 Год назад
I am a media consultant and I saw this interview and I was fascinated by Russells incredibly quick mind and how expertly he handled them without insulting them directly but correcting their bad over used and yet unaccountable rude and bad on air behaviour produced and pushed by bad producers.
@ca6360
@ca6360 Год назад
Especially when we are talking Mika she wants got upset and said quiet part out loud... said it was "Their Job to Tell You What to Think" basically aaying we control the narrative, you will not challenge it! And also they will have control of the overton window. Study on who Mika's father was. I think they they had him on as a way to semi destroy him as you look at what he speaks of now, Truth
@nicholasrameka3599
@nicholasrameka3599 Год назад
It goes to show that this type of media is a dying breed. They never translate well to the internet when they display this kind of behaviour. An old format that has not realised yet that the world has moved (or is moving) on.
@nspector
@nspector Год назад
It seemed to me that these abilities came naturally to Russell Brand. Maybe he's gotten better with time, but in a general sense, it doesn't seem like he needed to learn these skills. Wondering what you think?
@christinel2329
@christinel2329 Год назад
Don’t comedians deal with hecklers regularly? They probably need to handle them effectively to get the audience on their side and have a good show.
@harriett18
@harriett18 Год назад
Media consultant?? That’s 3 sentences in one & not even a coma !!
@burgandi.c
@burgandi.c 7 месяцев назад
Russell was fantastic in that MSNBC interview.
@drumcdoo9050
@drumcdoo9050 Год назад
Great video. Personally having been in public speaking club find the most useful tip is the three second rule. Even when talking to a few friends, always look directly at one person and keep moving gaze to all those involved conversation one by one whilst talking. Also if someone else comes in to listen, look at them too. This makes people feel comfortable and want to engage. The opposite is true if you don't involve them and they tend to become disinterested and start their own conversation with someone else...
@momotrees111
@momotrees111 Год назад
9:08 "You shouldn't say 'he' when a person is present. You should refer to the person by their name. That's basic good manners." Holy moly! I remember seeing that part of the interview and realizing how they were indeed being rude. I didn't realize he's got mad social skills. Love it. Thanks for the video!
@vanessashaw3351
@vanessashaw3351 Год назад
My Mum, who was very English (i was born in Australia) was very adament that this is very rude, callng somone He or She when they were present. She would say "SHE is the cat's mother" meaning you can use the word she or he when referring to an animal but not a human being when they are present
@scarter8137
@scarter8137 Год назад
When someone is rude/condescending to me or others I politely ask them to repeat it. Ex: Excuse me, can you repeat that please. They usually give me an awkward look, ignore me and conversation gets redirected.
@stefaniekay8699
@stefaniekay8699 10 месяцев назад
I just realized during the beginning of your video that I ALWAYS WANT TO MAKE OTHERS feel Heard, because I was SO invisible as a child, thank you! 💜💜
@MissBonchy
@MissBonchy 3 года назад
Russel's smile at 7:50 is the most masterful, subtle "gotcha" I've ever seen.
@highpeacetess
@highpeacetess 2 года назад
Ikr! 😆👏 I watched that part a few times, that subtle smile was great! I know how it is when you do this and people still just don't get it 😒😂🙄 I'm over here taking mad notes 😃🤣🤣
@aquablushgirl
@aquablushgirl 4 года назад
That Morning Joe interview was shocking. I watched that ages ago and was so taken aback by how rude, disrespectful and unprofessional they were. Russell handled the situation brilliantly but they should be ashamed of themselves for how they conducted themselves.
@marymitchell1329
@marymitchell1329 3 года назад
They're trying to "outcool" him, which can't be done.
@nicky9148
@nicky9148 3 года назад
...I believe it is because Russell Brand does not fit certain agenda's...
@L2Xenta
@L2Xenta 3 года назад
The guy didnt align to their politics, they treated him not just like the enemy , but like enemy that is garbage. One would think TV stations and press should be impartial and only present the facts not the optics or politically correct narrative .
@3Angela
@3Angela 3 года назад
That is how they treat anyone with whom they disagree. Nothing new.
@L2Xenta
@L2Xenta 3 года назад
@@3Angela Aye
@mikehink4062
@mikehink4062 Год назад
I don’t believe I saw it live but I saw this interview in “real-time” years ago and was so impressed with how he handled it.
@originalhazelgreene
@originalhazelgreene Год назад
This was one of the most substantive and legitimately reality-based videos I've seen you do. Thank yiu!
@sgarrett9446
@sgarrett9446 2 года назад
"...He wastes no mental energy defending himself..." true, and so hard to do. He's brilliant & a truly authentic human!
@royferguson3909
@royferguson3909 Год назад
so are you , virtual friend
@drawntofashionillustration9596
@drawntofashionillustration9596 2 года назад
One of the most effective responses to an intrusive question is “Why do you ask”? It forces the rude person to stop and THINK about their question. Turn it back on them. Also, silence is golden. Let the silence hang, the person will inevitably open their mouth and blab on, because people hate silence. Also, interviews are horrid.
@oneoflokis
@oneoflokis Год назад
👍
@Retrosenescent
@Retrosenescent Год назад
Not true. Easily rebutted with "because I want to know / I'm curious" which is the obvious answer and requires 0 self reflection
@oneoflokis
@oneoflokis Год назад
@@Retrosenescent WHY do you want to know?
@clairewillow6475
@clairewillow6475 Год назад
@@oneoflokis 💯
@mattheusser1390
@mattheusser1390 Год назад
@@oneoflokis I can agree this can shift the focus and slow the advance. Still, I'll bite at this one - say the answer is "we're friends and I care about you and want to be involved in each other's life. I took an interest." How do you respond now?
@sSPACEBALLSs
@sSPACEBALLSs 13 дней назад
If you haven’t seen it, you’ve got to watch the full interview, Russel is handles it amazingly.
@DownhillAllTheWay
@DownhillAllTheWay Год назад
Large eyes are considered attractive, but I'm at the other end of that spectrum - I have quite small eyes. Once, when in an argument with another guy, in an attempt to denigrate me, he said what small eyes I had, and called me "Pig-eyes". I smiled at him and said "It's true that I lack your amazing, natural beauty - what do you suggest I should do about it?" He felt embarassed, and had no answer. It probably didn't make him love me any more, but he didn't verbally attack me again.
@willowsnsakura
@willowsnsakura Год назад
I'm an event photographer, and one of the moments I'm proudest of was when I was fixing up a guy's outfit before a group picture. As I was doing it, he yelled over to his friends, "See? I told you I could get her to touch me." They all laughed, but I acted like I didn't hear them (which was impossible, we were all in a fairly tiny room), so the dude who made the joke half-repeated it to cut through the awkwardness. I waited another beat and then said only loud enough for him to hear, "I heard you. I'm just not laughing." Then I made eye contact with him and told him to go stand with the other guys so I could take the picture. He wouldn't look at me for the rest of the event and did EVERYTHING I told him to, immediately.
@nadiahapsari3359
@nadiahapsari3359 Год назад
Handled it like a boss
@keepingitrealwithbossladyj646
Savage!! Love that, great tip!
@MeadeJ67
@MeadeJ67 Год назад
Maybe learn to take a harmless joke...
@murielredondo1261
@murielredondo1261 Год назад
@@MeadeJ67 Not harmless and she was working. It's inappropriate.
@willowsnsakura
@willowsnsakura Год назад
@Boyer Ranch ooof... Sure do follow a lot of pretty women for someone who doesn't like them. Is that why your wife never shows up in any of your videos?
@TheRackits
@TheRackits Год назад
One time in high school we were in a group talking and one girl insulted me. At that age I normally would've insulted her back, but instead I just locked eyes with her and said, "Well that wasn't very nice. You wouldn't like it if I sat here and pointed out all your flaws, would you?" With that, I don't think she spoke for the next half hour.
@stevecharron6341
@stevecharron6341 Год назад
That's so perfect! I wish I could do something like as an adult, much less a high school kid
@nicklausb
@nicklausb Год назад
She probably took that as a threat. "Oh shoot! Does he know about this thing and that? Did he notice this and that?" Females are notoriously insecure.
@alexia3552
@alexia3552 Год назад
Beautiful
@calisongbird
@calisongbird Год назад
Well done!! Very mature of you for that age. 👏🏼
@Alexia24601
@Alexia24601 Год назад
Perfect (and very classy) response.
@garymatzkemoreno4534
@garymatzkemoreno4534 10 месяцев назад
In the interview with Russell, they definitely structured the table and seating for him to feel divided and isolated, but by the end of their conversation, he was in charge of the tone and pacing of the conversation as a whole.
@joeydehart3429
@joeydehart3429 Год назад
I think this is solid advice but I think the thing that has to kept in mind is this is not just for enemies but for even the closest of friends. We have to feel comfort in establishing boundaries and reinforcing them when those boundaries are violated. This does make us the bad guy and doesn't mean we have to get aggressive or hostile when boundaries are crossed. It means that a lot of the tactics you discussed can be implemented for overall healthier relationships with everyone around us. Sometimes it is knowing when not to engage further or just walk away. This speak volumes where words can just beat a dead horse or cause more contention.
@Lulu-kt6gr
@Lulu-kt6gr 3 года назад
Russell is highly intelligent and a kind, compassionate person. I wish we had more people like him on the planet.
@freezedriedzombi8242
@freezedriedzombi8242 2 года назад
Yeah too bad he cheated on his wife
@UndisclosedIridescentParadise
@UndisclosedIridescentParadise 2 года назад
😂
@spiegeltn
@spiegeltn 2 года назад
He's the type of person that has the hardest time living in a clown's world. Logical, intelligent, compassionate and kind people have an invisible target on their back that most of their lives will not even realize it's there.
@dbharrold
@dbharrold 2 года назад
It was so compassionate of him to call his girlfriends grandfather (Andrew Sachs), an old man, telling him how he had slept with his grandaughter (Georgina Baillie)
@70smusicfanatic34
@70smusicfanatic34 2 года назад
@@freezedriedzombi8242 Which only proves that he’s a fallible human, just like everyone else.
@deviousj5868
@deviousj5868 4 года назад
I had no idea Brand was actually that much of a social and emotional genius.
@Nobody-hg1tk
@Nobody-hg1tk 4 года назад
It comes naturally to narcissistic sociopaths like him, plus he has the MK Ultra mind control programming taking care of all his interactions. Program charisma into a person? Yes, totally possible.
@Risingofthephoenixxx
@Risingofthephoenixxx 4 года назад
@@Nobody-hg1tk having a high EQ is the complete opposite of a sociopath you conspiracy paranoid dingus. Sociopaths and psychopaths are completely devoid of emotion and empathy/EQ. Russell is also eccentric and over the top and may come across as odd to basics like yourself but that's because individuals with ADHD tend to behave in that way. Your comment reeks of ignorance and paranoia
@outis439-A
@outis439-A 4 года назад
@Nobody Mk Ultra is not practiced in the Uk, let alone nowadays.
@nausheenali6138
@nausheenali6138 4 года назад
Yes so true. This is why he left Katy Perry. He couldn’t handle how dim she was and only into the materialistic lifestyle.
@loocheenah
@loocheenah 4 года назад
@@Risingofthephoenixxx that's why I watch videos like this: how to not become a sociopath when you have some EQ but people perceive me as the one totally lacking it. In this rigged society people boast about having things they lack the most.
@v4v819
@v4v819 4 месяца назад
My grandmother use to tell me: "There's 2 types of people in this world; those who feel bigger by cutting others down, and those who get bigger by raising others up, with them..." Be the former, and stay on the bottom scrumming for scraps with all the other bottom feeders who can't let themselves or anyone else get ahead. Instead, be the latter who everyone wants to be around and help because they know they will get it back, and then some, in return. Everyone you help will help you find others who can help you in return, this will payoff tenfold in your life, in work and more importantly in your own personal life! This i find in life has turned out to be true! Thanks Grandma for always telling me how it is, even when i was young and didn't always appreciate hearing it!
@winterjayekovach6533
@winterjayekovach6533 12 дней назад
I'm so glad I found you! Excellent advice for me, a person who gets run over quite a lot in social situations.
@onesunnyday5699
@onesunnyday5699 3 года назад
Russell openly admits that he constantly works on his ego & anger issues. He's a work in progress & I really appreciate his transparency.
@michaelrivera9822
@michaelrivera9822 4 года назад
They underestimate Russel, and he is sharper than they think. Master of language on two continents, and obviously human behavior.
@thereisnosanctuary6184
@thereisnosanctuary6184 4 года назад
Michael Rivera I like how you made him bilingual.
@huntair
@huntair 4 года назад
He's pretty gifted. Very few have mastered both the English language and the English language.
@natrose9736
@natrose9736 4 года назад
Sharper? Mate he literally swallowed the dictionary.....he is incredibly intelligent, witty and sarcastic without being rude. No one could challenge him and when anyone tries they fail miserably
@millymilly8097
@millymilly8097 3 года назад
Sharper than all of them- robots and marionettes...
@catearth8864
@catearth8864 3 года назад
Quite the opposite, Russell is far dimmer than most of the public realises.
@ernestorodriguez3182
@ernestorodriguez3182 Год назад
i like this segment because I encountered many times with individuals who likes to overtalk without letting you finish. Especially with some who are either rude, attention seeking or have ADHD. Next time when that happens to me (which happens from time to time) then I will stay shut until that person is finished. I will say like a relief for the person that "that's good to let that out quickly because you do not want to lose your train of thought" into making them think that they have a bad memory and manners. I know it's mean but I have a 9 year old niece and she has ADD. I teach her on how to be nice to other people who are speaking now than later on in her life as a rude individual. A quick lesson is to let her talk first and then said to her "you see how nice that we let you talk and everyone listen so now give other people a chance" but in a really nice way.
@lespetitszoiseaux3774
@lespetitszoiseaux3774 Год назад
thanks for finishing with being at peace with one's own ego, because from the beginning of the video the clips of russel are showing this particular mastery as his master card
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