1. Logical Approaching the girl and making small talk into a convo asking questions to know each other. 2. Teasing Playfully disagree with something she says (push factor) to make yourself stand out and not be the "nice" guy. 3. You're cute but... Direct intent
The "you're a bad influence" one is totally within bounds, it was the "I can't trust latinas" comment that was like woah dude, where tf did that come from lmao sounds like there's a history
My fellow dudes, I have the perfect trick for you : treat every girl as if she wasn't attractive by default. That made it easier for me to be playful in the beginnings. Then you sprinkle in those compliments, show intent and there ya go.
@@calaiart It is that simple, just not so easy. In the end, that beautiful girl is worth just as much as an ugly one, because, like a Lamborghini with a Toyota engine, you'll find in time that the best looking recipient will still leave you wanting more if the contents are lesser.
The problem with me is that showing intent puts me in a vulnerable position where now she has the power, and I can’t help but feel weak and powerless when I show intent. And honestly, some girls would get turned off when you tell them you like them, because it comes off like you’re a little kid confessing a crush or something. That’s how I feel anyway, that’s why I’m afraid to sow intent to her.
Anything along the lines of teasing works well, like if she looks at you a certain way, call her out and exaggerate it to make it seem like she’s into you and tease her with it, will make it lighthearted and show that there is clear intent
did you watch the video? i just explained how to do it without ever being in a vulnerable position.. watch in full & implement, it will get easier & become more congruent to you with repetition, i’ve been there myself brother. LFG
As a guy Ive noticed the teasing thing too and I like to call it the little sister effect. I know that sounds gross/weird but hear me out. Have you ever had that experience where you’re way more easy going and fun with a girl you dont even view as attractive? And then after a while they might seem to like you? Maybe you even feel more confident when you’re around her because you know you can be more bold. Thats what it is. If you treat a girl like shes just a lil sis or one of the bros, kind of fucking around with her, and sprinkle in some direct intent, you’ll be golden. The times where I have been the most successful with women have been when I had this attitude/mindset. In my experience. Its wayyyy easier said than done, though.
So hard to treat a girl you’re very attracted to like your little sis lol hahaha I feel you though bro im going to convince my mind we are related but I’ll prob forget
my coworker and I had a playful fun vibe for months. She and I would tease each other constantly. She would even make cute scrunching faces at me. I asked for her number and got the response :i don't give my number to guys I work with." We continued our joking around and such for awhile, but now strangely I get the cold shoulder from her. Idk what happened, and if something did happen, I don't know when it went down. It's just not the same, it almost feels like she tries to avoid me sometimes.
@@swiftzy3653 but what weirded her out? I asked for her number like 3 months into working with her, and now it's been almost 7 months. About a month ago she gave me a definite answer to something I said. I was kind of stuck behind her work cart and asked her to move it. She said something along the lines of "you should stay stuck" I responded with "I mean, I wouldn't mind if you kept me company." She basically rejected me there and I knew I had no shit which is fine, but we were ok even after that. Then suddenly she just like stopped talking to me. Creeping her out would require an event, but both of those events didn't necessarily affect her in any way.
@@w0nd3rs well first off women are always weird… beings. but it could be she had somewhat of an attraction to you or she simply wasnt the type to escalate to anything serious with a guy and simply enjoyed that fun flirty feeling of butterflies you get qhen talking to someone new. but its important to remember sometimes you can do everything 100% right but just because that female had 1 egg instead of 2 during her breakfast she will be in a diffetent mood and see everything from a different point of view. on a positive day she pay be thinking about how well your shirt goes with you another she may think your nose is huge and u have greasy hair 😂🤧. at the end of the day shooters shoot. and if a girl says no sometimes acting as if you dont care at all might bring her back without even requiring effort from you, simply give jer cold and crude answers to any questions avoid eye contact but make it obvious youre avoiding her. then again she may just be the type that wanta to see if a man is even going to put in the extra effort to get her time. just wait it out and figure her out more if youre really into her man but office relationships are never a good idea
@@w0nd3rs she was weirded out because you did nothing but tease her for 3 entire months, and then out of nowhere you asked for her number. That's like being stuck on step 2 forever and then skipping step 3 to go straight to step 4. Over that 3 month period of just teasing, she probably assumed you just wanted to be friends with her.
Teasing works everytime. I was waiting in line to checkout and the cashier said im her last customer and turned off her light and as soon as she said that a cute girl gets in line behind me. So I turn around and whisper your my girl and I’ll cashapp you outside. She was down off rip told me her name and wrapped her arms around me from the back and said I smell so good today bae out loud for everyone to hear. Got outside we couldn’t stop laughing I forgot to cashapp her my stuff. Fast forward I got her number we watched a nets game and went back to my crib.
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Bro idk what camera you use but if its a professional one hear me out: If its a Sony camera, change the tracking sensitivity slider to LOCKED ON when doing these talking-head vids. Your shot keeps going in & out of focus bc the camera focuses on your hand when you wave it. Just some small advice I thought would be helpful. Keep up the great work 👍🏼
This actually helped me a lot. I’ve been thinking about this a lot recently and this really opened my eyes as to what I might be doing wrong. I am a very logical and straight forward person and I definitely need to bring more of my playful side out earlier with people, I usually only get playful and confident when I know someone for a while, and by that point I’m probably already “friend zoned” or looked at differently than as a romantic interest. This will help me do it sooner and more often. Thanks!
I will say... This is so true. I've noticed I've never been more attractive to women than when I'm open to disagreement and just saying what I think, or just teasing her on small stuff. I mean, not that I've gained TONS of experience from any of it, but you can see a difference when you're putting out more confidence and not acting like a doormat, or rather just being afraid to speak my mind.
for real man, being a doormat doesn't make you interesting at all (this applies to everyone interaction, not just women). All you got to have is good social skills and you excel in everything, even buisness. You feel me?
What y’all need to understand is if she feeling you, she eventually going to feel u… have patience and be yo self… but the key is figuring out who you are….. that’s it.
What I do is say " that I'm new in town" and ask for any suggestions of things around town you could then build up a conversation that includes her going with you to these new places.
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Teasing!!! That is one thing I struggle with personally many times in the past!! Could I tease her about things like her height? Or her attitude??? In the past many of the girls I flirted with would take teasing personally. Perhaps something in the way I came across? Too serious?? Thanks for the video. And yeah I did have intent anxiety
Would you smile and say “you’re a shorty,” with a laugh and eye contact? Or would you be straight faced and say “You’re short,” and look away quickly? I would say though to stay away from teasing about physical appearance. Women obsess over that, and can be very sensitive to it, try teasing about something they do, if she likes to bake, say something like “Oh so do you bake the cookies that don’t make it into the cookie jar at home?” With a smile and eye contact, the point of flirting is to be jovial. You don’t dislike that thing about the person, you don’t think she’s a bad cook, you tease her on the possibility of her being bad at cooking. If she’s of a certain race or ethnicity, like Jewish, you could say with a smile, “so, you’re going to be a banker?” And chuckle. It takes time to find that playful spark for some, but enjoy yourself and enjoy her. But not in a cheerleader way.
keep it light. for example if you’re talking about your ethnicities or something and she says shes latina you could say “oh no i heard latinas are trouble, especially the really pretty ones” with a lighthearted smile. basically what he said in the video. you dont want to make fun of her height and call her a midget or something.
Thank you man, everyone you said is 100% right, I was wrong the whole time. But I forgive myself, I was teached wrong by our propaganda, parents, etc. Now that I know how it works, I will use this information.
One of the biggest difficulties for me to follow this video is how i don't live in the United States and usually some techniques don't work in countries where Spanish is the language, there is a language barrier that can't let us follow your instructions as easily, in general, flirting in Spanish sounds really cringey, here normally people would throw out pick up lines that are absolute garbage, because saying stuff like "i thought you were pretty cute" something that sounds confident and nice in english, ends up soundling childish and immature in spanish. We gotta find some equivalent expressions or speech styles, until then i guess i'll just daydream on doing something with this information.
Yeah, I'd say it's true as well for French. Maybe it's true for all Latin/Romance Languages. If you have some equivalent or better lines in those languages, that'd be great. I would usually try to adapt things on the fly but relying on canned lines could be a cool luxury.
@@tommyraven06g67veramente, per gli americani è semplice perché hanno 2 vocaboli in croce e possono dire cose random senza sembrare imbarazzanti. Che palle
When a man is agreeing with everything and complimenting excessively, hiding his intent, it’s dishonest - and (female perspective) creepy. Having his own personality and opinions, disagreeing, showing actual intent , treating you like a human and not some kind of weird fantasy- that’s what a man (rather than a friend you don’t see sexually) does. That’s integrity. So coach - I can’t figure out a way to say this right, but let me try; is it more than intrigue for guys when they see a hot woman? I always thought guys had a high sex drive, but that when they approached a girl, it wasn’t about her, it was just about finding anyone attractive who would have sex. Not that they’re really more than intrigued by the actual person. That’s part of the reason I always found compliments so disingenuous and played them off - because I knew they probably said the same thing to 109 other girls.
nice video, to the editing tho, could you tune the volume of background music down? Its nice to have background music but simetimes its hard to focus on the words when the beats are loud. Its like listening to someone when I have headphones on.
I really appreciate your work here, I can't afford personal training because I have little money and I also live in a country with a devalued currency, who buys your program learns faster and it's worth it, but I'm grateful that you produce content that it also helps men all around the world who have no conditions. Thank you very much, you are a great man.
Ty for the video! This gave me great insight on how to escalate the conversation as I had a date last Saturday and found it hard to level up the conversation. The third date with this girl I’m talking to is this Wednesday and now I feel like I’m ready 🔥🔥🔥
@@isaisolano5232 It went great, Ty! Best advice I can give is to maintain a strong Masculine Frame (tone of voice, eye contact, posture, body language, etc.) also it helps to throw in some funny jokes that connects to the conversations that you and the girl have on the date. Last thing, if it’s clear she likes you and she is into you, just grab your balls and make the damn move, even when your heart is pounding super fast and you feel extremely nervous
I love it when a lady asks me if I think she is fat. My response to her was yes in all the right places. Usually, she will respond by asking me what places I am referring to and then I tell her I could tell her but I would rather show her tonight after dinner and a movie. Another thing I find is finding ways to make other women me and my lady come in contact with to show interest in me. My girlfriend and her sister were traveling to Bangkok Thailand on a plane. I made a comment to the flight attendant about how i wanted her to repeat herself as I was not paying attention to when she was describing the safety and that I did not want to fail the test at the end of the flight. She laughed. Around lunchtime, after she brought food to everyone she came back and told me she is giving me another lunch because she thought I was handsome. That was the first time I ever saw my girlfriend jealous. In fact, for the next month, she would tell me to go kiss the flight attendant as she thinks you are handsome yet she would be extra attentive.
You’re the best non-bullshit person i’ve heard talk about this. One of the things I really dislike about many other “seduction” experts is how they tell you to tell stories and make up things that aren’t true just because they are interesting. That’s not ok with me, and it’s cheap and weak. You’re advice is practical, analytical, and tactic based without encouraging specific stories (the best friends story (lie)) which you don’t really believe but use, because it works sometimes. You’re getting down the the science of it almost and i appreciate that, Kyle. Keep up the good work! Btw- i’m 43, I’ve dated many beautiful women, been married to a very beautiful woman, and I’m not even a super active dater, but, this science is really interesting to me and empowering in life in general, which is why i enjoy listening to it. cheers 🎉
another technique that works well with women you meet overseas is to ask her how to say things in her language. Then accidentally say something that would make her smile. I live in Cambodia where many women are named Sreymao, Sreypich, Sreymom so what I do when i see that she has such a name i will call her Sreysart. Srey is how one says girl in Khmer and sart is pretty. If you are a foreign man she will definitely smile at you. Sometimes if she says she wants to learn English you can tell her you can teach her after work. when you are a foreign man not only are you exotic to local women but you have an excuse why you do not speak her language. She will be more than happy to teach you her language. I think Khmer girls are the most Amazing women on the planet.
Looks are the most important thing, BUT in a certain way. They project a discriminatory light on the looks index(?/10) of women, highlighting the zones(and including human factor, so its not 100% clean, there is a lot of disparity and that is the reason for existence of relationships in which there is one ugly and one top tier side) of girls that you have >0% chances with. This does not mean that if you are hot its enough for all the girls in the highlighted zone(it might be for those that are very VERY interested in you) so in this sense, looks are not the most important parameter. THERE IS A CATCH, and this is why looks are actually most important - you CANNOT change the projection of your looks and status of discriminatory light on the looks index of women (looks 70% status 30% circa) (notice I did not say that you cant change your looks and status, I said that you cant change the projection of discriminatory light on the looks index of women, with given looks and status score), meaning you will only have a chance with the girls you already have a chance with due to your looks, and all this great advices on game and being flirtatious and so on are actually to help you not screw up those chances, this is my view and opinion on why I think the black pill is actually right, but misunderstood.
That’s all on you bro. I’m a 5”2 filipino. And took Kyle’s and other charisma courses. I constantly get invited to hang outs and go on successful dates. The only thing holding yourself back is yourself.
Why is teasing harder for me then showing intent? Showing intent feels more direct. And straightforward. Teasing and thinking playfully in the moment feels a bit more complex. I'm not used to poking fun in any social context
Love your videos man truly. If you allow me to give you one constructive criticism: some times you are long-winded/redundant. So in this video for instance you go about not being boring and logical several times before getting to the answers. I don't know if you trying to reach a certain video length for the algorithm or what but it becomes tedious quickly. Again, love you videos and it gives me values tips on my life and manhood.
Honestly, I thought you look really cute by the way I just wanted to tell you that have a good day take care I’m gonna get going I just wanted to say you look really cute by the way take care 4:13
This kyle is legned worked with me half things he told yes I did ask women out right she said yes next date I used kyle talks on phone and date what legend man
I don't struggle with flirting. I have my guitar and im good at it. nuff said. But I did struggle with trusting woman. That is because from the age I began going for girls at school up to the age of 21 I attracted people with personality disorders. That comes from my empathic nature. it took me from I was 21 to now as i am almost 28 that I finally began trusting a woman again. But the pain and abuse from those kind of people will remain for the rest of my life. And I had to learn how to live with that pain
I'm a girl and I feel like when the guy talks I find him boring. It's okay when we're flirting but what do I do if I find his day to day comments and things boring? Am I the problem? His replies don't get me excited or compel me to reply. This has happened with several guys
HELP OMG should I share about stuff in my day?? I'm scared if I share stuff it'll be wierd idk I'm just not sure what to do. It's not like the guy doesn't wanna talk to me I just don't really know how to continue the convo sometimes
Here are 3 ways to make any boring conversation flirty. Use these flirting likes and flirting tips to take a conversation with a girl from platonic and friendly to flirty and romantic. Flirting with girls can be hard if you're a beginner and unless you show some sort of intent she might never figure out that you like her. If you're winding how to be flirty with your crush or even a woman you just met, these 3 flirting tips will help you establish a romantic intent with a woman and will give you the chance to escalate things quicker. 1 - Logical, get to know you conversation 2 - Playful disagree 3 - you’re cute but …
Yeah, hard to find middle ground. Usually I could go from boring "inteview talk" to "wanna bang" with nothing in between. It's 0-100 for me, works or not. :P
I’m going to be honest I don’t know how this all fits in one session of me approaching a girl down the street. I’m my mind I want to go up to a girl introduce myself and be straight to the point about saying she’s cute and getting her number because I’m already nervous about approaching girls that are my type. So coach is it cool if I just do that and go straight in to intent but in a natural way?
When I like someone or I’m attracted to them I do go and talk. I might say along the lines like “hey, I think you’re cute/intriguing/magnetic and wanting to say “hi”. Then from there I would introduce myself. Nothing fancy. I actually did this with a girl I like at work. The issue is I messed up and asked for her number right then and there (too blunt and no connection). So I got a hesitant “no”. A few weeks pass, and I go up and talk to her during lunch break. I thought it went well, but then she started avoiding me. I realized I didn’t create any special connections/emotions and kept it platonic. I’m not sure if I have a chance with her now. She’s extremely shy and every once in awhile she will look at me though.
Our effort as women is being vulnerable carrying your child for 9 months and then attending to the young child, for years, we can’t even focus on work or have a lot of working ours a day. Pregnancy is really demanding on women, we also have to be very careful of who we marry and who we are intimate because it can always les to pregnancy and a child (no birth control method is 100%) So we have to vet the guy who approach us, we don t have to give an effort in the initial courtship steps getting to know a man. It has to be the opposite, especially with masculine men.
@@FoundSheep-AN I agree in the men should do the courtship, but too many women are just like men, there scared to show they're attracted and actually subconsciously dismiss guys they're into out of fear of rejection. Women need to show more choosing signals and indicators of attraction like they used too and work on creating an environment for men to approach. Also men have tons to lose by getting you pregnant and or possible std so it's not a one way street.
I think I might have been jumping. I have asked three grils and all of them said they had a boyfriend. Which they don't, I knew that for sure. Then I struggled and move on, away from them.
This is money. Wish I’d watched this earlier. Just understood banter and easy templates for push pull myself like a few months ago. 🔥 fellas this is how you convey interest without being a simp
@@thesocialsocialrabbit of course I always kinda got that. I was never about being a doormat but conveying interest in women without giving them too much investment too early was something I struggled with bc it takes some finesse and skill. It’s because as men we don’t get approached so we think being direct just once is sufficienct. Similar to how women think if they have sex with a guy once he’ll fall in love. We all tell on ourselves don’t we ;).
I'm a stutterer so most of the time I avoid some words so I've been rejected a lot cause I avoid some words I know would make me win but I get scared change words and get weird
Great fuckin video bro. Thank u for not being like all the other ones where they tease title tag and then don’t actually reveal shit unless you buy their program. Just subbed your channel 👊
Incredible! This is top-notch content. I stumbled upon something similar, and it was truly mind-blowing. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint
i had this situation with a girl, we met in real life and then we started chatting together and it was really really good for like 2 weeks but for certain problems we couldn’t meet together and these past two days the convo got really boring and dry she took a long time to reply and her reply was just “yes” i started overthinking the situation too much thinking that she could be talking to other guys the same way she talked to me in the beginning. I think this comes from not going out together and not having convos face to face etc. but how can i turn the situation again like it was in the beginning
One of the difficult parts with teasing that I experience is finding what to tease a girl on, especially if it's in the work place. Maybe some more practice is needed, or maybe I just need to pay a bit more attention than I currently am? For reference, I work in a restaurant as a prep cook and most of the girls that work there at any point are servers, something I have no experience in. I want to implement these things, it's just finding the opening in that high stress environment.
