Amazing message. I would add psychological component here - people who struggle with codependency and people pleasing issues - aka people who need detachment the most that the reason why they cannot detach is inability to express, feel or contemplate anger - there is total inability to process anger (due to ACE and ACoA, exposure to relentless criticism in childhood developmental years). Anger is path to detachment. Allow anger to give us idea - and anger will explain us how to detach - we simply need to listen to OUR OWN anger - not anger of hysterical people around us who push is into inability to detach.
