When Tam said: "Why is it so bad that you're being watched?" 14:41. I swear right at that moment all of my self-consciousness and f*** giving energy just DISSOLVED.
I used to be worried about matching people’s vibe at parties too! It was horrible because I was so worried that my energy would bring the mood down. So now rather than trying to match the vibe, I just try to compliment it. If everyone at a party is super hyped and excited but I’m feeling a little more chill, that’s fine! They can be their version of upbeat and I will be MY version of upbeat.
I thought I was introverted for ages (thanks trauma) until I realized my energy came from being social with others. This is helpful for continuing to heal from the ways I had limited myself in the past.
I also misidentified as an introvert for the longest time, but later realized it was due to being exposed to a lot of dysfunctional people at a young age and resulting social anxiety. After working on my social anxiety through therapy, I realize I'm an extrovert! There are strengths to being both introverted and extroverted, but it's important to be authentic.
I'm Introvert #1Always feel yourself (confidence baby , focus on yourself & ur emotions) #2Don't be insecure (people opinions doesn't matter) #3fake it till you make it ( imagine what future yourself would do as confident person and do it) #4 change something(people,style) diff environment #5change your energy (master detachment)(every one cal feel your energy)(act like royalty)(confidence silence) #6 u feel being watched or self conscious (exposure therapy)look back smile (no fear/ self love) Love the fact the people are watching you #7 missing opportunity ❌ Be familiar with yourself worth Immersing yourself in discomfort How can you just interact with the other person #8 don't define yourself from others #9 ifthis is gonna be positive thing if not it will be a lesson #10 how to vibe with extrovert person U will not get along with many person People should accept you as u #11 how can I have meaningful conversation ask questions #12 how to deal with change I am gonna meet new part of myself it's winwin #13 plan make strategy for new something #14 take class on self esteem social skill , confidence Book - how to win friends and influence people ❤❤❤❤
Tam! Once again you’ve come through with the advice!! I’m a huge introvert as well and I find it difficult to socialize and stay present when surrounded by lots of people. This makes me feel proud to be one rather then be someone im not. Thank you 💗💗
as an extrovert that used to be really shy and quiet, this video helped a lot!! during high school what made me the most insecure was the fact that people THOUGHT i was introverted and ‘boring’ - even though i have always been loud, ougoing, up for random impulsive adventures etc. around my friends and around random strangers. on my self love/healing journey i’ve made it a priority to talk to as many people as possible - ask a random classmate for help, compliment a stranger, talk to the cashier in the store … all these little things help a lot! the most important thing to be confident is to realize how amazing and fun you are, if you know your worth nobody else’s perception can take that from you!
hi tam, I’m naturally really introverted but i also love talking with people. today in my emt class I set myself a goal to smile and say hi to someone new, and honestly that was really nerve wracking in itself. However once I got past that initial hurdle I made three new friends today and then starting talking with everyone, and I’m feeling so happy now. I want to keep this up, thank you for everything tam ❤️
One of my favorite thing to do nowadays is trying to meet and talk to new people, i love that, like in public i like approaching people for questions. I realized that these people are actually always willing to help you, they're not scary
Dear Tam, thank you so much for uploading such amazing contents for us. We really appriciate your hardwork from bottom of our heart. Your videos saved me so much in 2023 and hope your videos will do the same for me in 2024. Wishing you all the best and hope you reach 1 million soon. You deserve it. Honestly, MORE than a million. Once again thank you. You are my life saver
@@mai14jeon84 I understand gurl! don't worry too much, as she said you just gotta do exposure therapy. I believe in you! I know it'll take a lot of time but I know you can do that. Just trust yourself
girl thank you for talking about the meaning of being an introverted/extroverted person. when i first tried to shift myself into a extrovert one i was kind of a mess because i thought that being extrovert was being so loud and always being on the spotlight, and i did it until i couldn't anymore, i felt so tired and i felt so fake. And i am agree with being confident even if i am quiet while everyone else is loud. the last few weeks i was just being me minding my business in college and combing both "energies" instead of acting like a clown (because i lit was there to entertain my friends to the point of ridiculizing myself so they could be around me, because i thought that was what an extroverted would do) and i felt more confident and more like me, and now i have a better presence around my friends. idk if my english is good, saludos
This hits home for me, because I used to always see myself this way and therefore it became my new reality. I realized I had to change when my own friends started to limit my potential by saying "You're not the type of person to go out" or "You wouldn't talk to strangers". Essentially, they were deciding who I was based on some situations when I was being reserved. I'm not defined by their perceptions of me.
Tam, thank you so much! I just recently realized that I'm an introvert and your video really helped me learn more about this aspect of myself. I used to think that introverts were people who were shy and since this didn't describe me, I didn't think that I was introverted and would always be confused as to why I was so drained after spending time with friends. You explained this in a way that made so much sense to me! Your videos have really opened up a whole new world for me and now I finally have the courage to manifest my dream life! Thank you for this
Tam you're INFJ too, so that's why I relate so much to you, I am one too. And yeah, we people with this personality can appear extroverted because we are friendly but we are introverted anyways.
This is the only girl that I actually learned self love or confidence from fr. I watched the wizard Liz and some of other RU-vidrs talking abt the same topic and she’s the best.
As an introvert, I do agree with all of what she says, and this video was really really helpful. I've been trying to be more outgoing these days and to match my friends' energy, but now I know that's what's been preventing me from feeling more like myself. From now on, let's see what happens, but I truly appreciate people like Tam who have the courage to talk to the camera and let us know all of these wonderful tips. 💞
Amazing video as always and thanks for debunking stereotypes! On social media it looks like 80% of people are introverts but I think some of them don’t know that they’re actually extroverts. One of my friends is really shy but she’s definitely extrovert.
hi tam! really wanna appreciate you for this video ❤️ I am an introvert and had no friends in my high school in my home country. I moved abroad for uni and today was my first day! I saved this video to watch it one day before and the way it helped me make conversations with a bunch of people today is such a nice feeling! I am so happy I did this and i am getting out of my comfort zone! Love all of your confidence videos❤️
Gurllll!!!!! U nailed it. I loveee you very very veryyyy muchhhh. You're my unpaid therapist. I watch your vdos every single day. I am leaving my lazy era, scared of becoming myself era. Thankyouuuu for alwyss being there for us!!! Ily
have been listening to your podcast every morning while getting ready for school and it really motivates me to be my best self! Thank you so much for the advice and tough love tam ❤️
You're so right about the introverts Tam. I myself have been stated as a cold hearted person many times by others just because I don't share a lot with them. I'll try my best to be more confident as an introvert. Your videos have always helped me. Thank you so much ❤
so true ive been told i come of as emotionless but the thing is i have emotions i just dont show them or channel them in other ways writing and reading etc.
eyy sis thank you soo much for this am entirely grateful I have a tiny winy tip that has helped me I always had a hard time when it came to how I can walk around as an emotional person I tend to have broad shoulders and sometimes when am tired they just bend on their own and that ruined my posture when walking coz I would be hunched down so to get over this i forced myself to wear a sunhat and make sure it covered my eyes so that I would have to be upright if I had to see where I was going and this has helped me soo well with my posture that I no longer walk around like a zombie but I fully stand up and damn the confidence it gives is beyond comprehension it gives people am watching you so don't try to do anything stupid kind of vibes and it's working great for me but once again thank you soo much for the wisdom damn you just hit the nail on the head and am super grateful ❤❤❤heart you lots keep doing the great work
I'd say im a shy extrovert, i love people and new experiences but i have a hard time conversing with others since i tend to sink into myself due to insecurities
Thank you for actually explaining what being an introvert is, and what it ISN’T. I feel like so often online people normalize unhealthy behavior because it’s just “being an introvert”, like no honey you haven’t been outside in 2 weeks and you get a panic attack every time your phone rings. That’s not cute quirky introversion, that’s mental illness
Tam we need more videos!! ❤❤I can't go a week without missing your videos . I rushed here as soon as I got the notification. The inspiration we get from you is unexplainable. I feel im gonna manifest my dream life this year and the biggest inspiration came from you .Love u always x
The point you made about people getting promoted because they socialise with higher ups is so true so on point. Ive seen it at the place where i work or even people getting favours and getting away with things only because theyre friendly with management
From 9:40 to 10:12 just changed my whole perspective on judgment !!! I always fear being judged especially after hearing what my classmates say about some like girl and judge every single aspect of her. But you're actually right, this girl who they're judging is living her best life and always gives the best speeches in class ( they call her cringy bc she's way better than their awkward projects ). So I'm gonna do the same thank u big sistaaa 😙😙😙❤
for the past two summers, i’ve been going on service trips to new countries with students i’ve never met, and i always get really anxious and don’t really make friends. this year, im going to make a ton of friends and have an amazing time 💆♀️
Thank you so much Tam. I've been watching you since the beginning of your channel and even my peers can say I have changed !!! I struggle with social anxiety and my job requires me to just walk up to people, usually I ask to switch roles, but now I've been asking to put myself there and immerse myself with discomfort like you said, and I'm getting stronger! I love the advice you give
You really do have a great voice. Your tonality, moderation and pace is impressive. It's engaging. Because I'm suprised I watched the entire video, since my attention span is concerning. Anyhow, good work.
My fav idea which I learned was when you said ' Dealing with change makes you expose to a new part/version of yourself'. I can relate as an introvert. That's all that I needed to hear.
thank you so much i’ve always been so self conscious about how i’m perceived but i’m starting to realise it doesn’t even matter about what people think of me
Ty so much. This video is AMAZING. You made me realize things about myself I didn’t even fully understand like how I sit quietly wondering if everyone’s judging me yet I can be quiet comfortably instead. Love this channel sm!❤
Thank you for the useful tips! The biggest thing I get from this video is that we should be feeling ourselves 100% of the time. Confidence, never fearing judgment, never fearing rejection, and having meaningful conversations and interactions with people all stem from feeling ourselves and being comfortable with ourselves 100% of the time.
Tam you never cease to amaze me!! You upload on the regular, your intros to videos are just getting better and better, and you’re so wise!! Thank you for all that you do 🥹
I was scared to present in front of my class, but I got myself together and after 3 days of working on getting myself together I managed to present. SO PROUD!!!!
ADMIT IT TAM! You read our minds right???😳 How'd you know HOW Desperately I needed that!! Thank you so muchhh siss💕✨ Just never stop your RU-vid.... Every Friday I wait for her to post a VIDEO👀. They are so Valuableee🙏💫❤️ I would love if you make a video on adjusting your SLEEP ROUTINE... Pleaseeee😩 No one can do it better than you QUEEN 💖👑
Before I always used to think that whether people would like me or not, and from this thought I started to become a people pleaser...people also started to use me but I stayed quiet because all I wanted was to please them. I was also very shy at the moment. However after watching your videos I have been focusing on myself and didn't care at all what other people started to think of me. I have been very confident too!! My self love journey has been going so good!!! Thanks a lot Tam, love you
you've no idea how eagerly i had been waiting for this video since you informed on your broadcast channel that you gonna post a video about going from being introvert to extrovert lots of love 💕
This was a really great video and people should definitely use these tips to advance themselves in life and in their career. I do think that not everyone needs to be this loud, bubbly and cheerful personality. Being chill and soft spoken is not a bad trait at all. Some of us actually find that very endearing. So I think take the advice that is helpful but don't change your personality completely to the point where you become a robot and a copy of what you think a charismatic person should be ❤
Oh my gosh, thank you so much! I love your videos, they are all super helpful! I am more of an introvert, but I think that I have some extrovert traits/mannerisms. Another thing is, I truly believe that people can change from one to the other in their lifetime, or at the very least, trade traits from one to the other. Sometimes depending on the situations or environment you have been in, people or things will push someone into being and introvert/extrovert when they truly aren't that way, and then they find out that they are the opposite and gain their energy from being that way. I wish everyone luck on balancing their energy levels no matter where they gather it from ❤
Hi! You're probably not gonna see this (especially because how it is) but I just wanted to tell you how grateful I am for this video, especially for its timing haha! I've always been pretty shy and kinda insecure when it comes to talking to others. But this semester I moved to Berlin and I have been really set on being more outgoing, meeting new people and putting myself out there. Today was the first day of my semester and someone in my class suggested that we gathered at a bar on the evening. Although I had all these great resolutions to improve my social confidence, I actually froze. I started panicking because even if I did want to go to this event to meet new people, the fear of being judged, not liked by others etc overwhelmed me and I tried to make up all these excuses as to why I shouldn't go. And then I watched this video just before going to the event and it gave the push and advice I needed to motivate myself to actually go. And so I went there. And it was sooooo cool. I followed your tips and I met and talk to all these amazing people and I can't wait to see again. So thank you for helping me find the courage to outside my comfort zone even if I was scared ❤ I'll remember this for the rest of my life.
It feels so good and comforting to find someone like me😂❤❤.....u are like my elder sister who guide me toward becoming best version of myself 💖 I feel so grateful to meet you💓
Im gonna be a freshman this school year and I am trying and hoping to be more confident and more social, your videos are helping me so much. I literally only watch your videos because your the only RU-vidr I need, thank you for the advice, your like a third older sister 💞😭
@@chunkicat None really, I just know I’m staying outttt of drama. I don’t want to waste my teenage years on drama and fights, I’d rather get good grades and get good friends 🙏
I must write this to you, as I watch more and more of your videos, I find myself falling for you first and foremostת You have such a wonderful personality and you are so wise. I really connect with everything you say, and I feel like we come from such similar places. I almost identify with everything you've shared about yourself, except that I'm also introverted, and a Libra myself(which could means a lot to those interested in astrology.) Overall, I enjoy watching you so much, your good vibes just make my days and simply change lives.
as a fellow introvert, i love this video so much! i would say i have a pretty high level of confidence in who i am as a person, but am still learning to overcome my shyness in social/professional settings. this advice really feels like something i can put into practice and grow from, so thank you 💖 glow up incoming!! ✨ also, would love to see a dedicated video on how to sell yourself! i feel like your take on that would be SUPER helpful ✨
Babe thanku so much for doing this. i have so much love and respect for you babe. You've shown me so many new perspectives and literally impacted me in the most positive way ever. More power to youuuu.
Tam im 14 years old from India who used to struggle alot but not anymore cuz i have found u..u are an literal angel . Thankyou for transforming my lyf. Loads of lovee and support!! ❤❤
After watching every video you post I get energised and boosted and I get so into my energy that it feels yes I am going to conquer the world and at times I pause the video because I feel this energy in me that makes get things done hence when I am over it I come back and reward myself continuing the video further 💫
Here's what brought me to this video today. All the books I've read have main charecters who've got an eventful life. Most of them are confident in who they are and have a plot related to what's externally going on in their lives. They have random strangers coming into their lives and becoming something more. They have stuff going on, right? If you think about it, you only have one life with these particular combination of people on earth. By limiting yourself/staying in your comfort zone, you are missing out on so many opportunities!! I admit, I may not be a main charecter but the least i could be is someone who adds value to the story.
im in high school and i've recently joined theatre and i absolutely love it but its difficult bc its a big friend group (like 60% of the people in theatre are apart of it) and they're all cool and funny and i KNOW im cool and funny too but befriending people in large groups is difficult. but this has honestly helped me repeat my mantra "im cool, im funny, no sweat" so thank you so much!!!
Ty so much for this video! I used to struggle all the time being an introvert, but after learning that your an introvert too and always get out of your comfort zone, you’ve motivated me to try new things! I actually tried out for the basketball team and I made it! I’m scared of doing things like sports and stuff but trying new things is actually so much fun Ty for this amazing video Tam!
i learned that i am an introvert and that it’s ok to include certain activities such as journaling to help me grow a better connection with myself :) thank you for all that you give
Girl, I love you. Like mean it, have been watching ur videos and listening to ur podcast since last week. And trust me, not even a single sentence u speak there is less relatable. Have felt so confident and abundant just within a week, wonder what will happen in a month or a year. Keep up the good work, u truly are a definition of royalty
Hi Tam!! I just wanted to say that I love your energy :D I've been watching your videos for an year now and they've helped me become so much more confident in who I am . Thank you so muchh ❤
i'd disagree with the first part to an extend. as a child i was extremely shy and introverted. now as a teenager i am quite the opposite, i love spending time with people and it doesn't burn me out. so i think in some cases you can switch up
Fellow INFJ here! I've always related A LOT to everything you say and knowing that we've the same personality type made me sort of happy hahaha :) I love the way u think and your insights are soooo inspiring
I really needed this today 💕 As someone who is naturally pretty extroverted but also socially awkward and anxious, I basically let my entire self worth depend on what others think of me and whether or not I'm well liked . But I'm trying to let go of this and just focus on having fun and creating a good energy for myself and others 💕l Ps - I would love if you could elaborate on how to detach when you're an extrovert and love talking to people or can't possibly avoid the people who are bringing your energy down . my classmates aren't the best in my view but i still need to stay with them for the next few years.
tam, this is exactly what i needed right now!! i'm an extrovert but i'm picky with my friends (another misconception is that extroverts are friends with everyone - nah, i choose who i talk to wisely) and i've been struggling to find new friends in university because people are not coming to me as much as i want them to and things just work out a bit harder. i'll take what i need from these tips and i'm sure they'll work out in no time 😌😎 and thank you for the confidence tips, you're so right - people who judge others so easily are the most simple-minded and unlikable themselves.
After watching this video, I am determined to be more brave and get out of my comfort zone to acquire more chances to meet with more people!! Our society is full of bias towards introverted people and it gradually influences our ways of thinking about ourselves. That's horrible! We need to realise it and make a change!! Thank you for your lovely video Tam!!❤I will recommend this video to my introverted friends!!🤌
I've recently joined my clg and i miss my old friends so much , all of my new are very extroverted and kinda mean i feel really bad and i feel like i need to change myself into an extrovert.
You changed my life so much😭😭 I'm developing myself 💖 I'm very grateful when first time i found you⚘ Thank you so much you are like my elder sister 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭💗💗💗💗💗💗💗
Omg queen has posted 👸hey tam I wanted to say this ... that I liked a video of urs of Sunday reset and you replied with a hug god uk I screamed and showed my sis ... I was jumping literally jumping and bursting with excitement. I was breathless ❤this is the amount of positive energy u hold , the amount of love and respect u have is insane . I pray that u get everything that ur heart desires .. ❤🥰 may God fulfill all of ur wishes stay healthy, happy and safe ❤ lots of love ❤☺
Hi tam! I know you wont see this but i just wanna say thank you so much this video i really really needed it especally because of my fear of anwsering questions on school but by your video maybe i might overcome my fear!! Again thank youu soo muchh i lovee the video just please please keep going with these videos theyre helping me soo much😭🫶🏼
Im not shy I'm introvert i can go out and hangout and be socially chaotic but i feel energized and more like myself when i am alone in bed or when i am alone with myself. i'm not shy i just don't give af about others
YOU KNOW WHATTT😭 I went to the market with my family in this morning and that one specific aunty was looking at me and whispering to her son or grandson I don't know , and i just SMILE :) WHEN I WALK PAST THEM AND YOU KKOW WHAT THE BEST PART IS ?? THAT I DIDN'T EVEN THINK ABOUT HOW THEY THINK OF ME !! AUGH . Then i started sweating like wtf did i just do but im okay now🤣💅🏻
