Some people are born “attractive” and “charming” and are good people that have integrity and are down to earth. Not all men or women that are “happy and smiling” are shallow. I’ve met some not so attractive people that are snakes. It goes both ways.
The thing is... it doesn't matter what you want. Your goal is to glorify the Lord and your life isn't yours, it's His. Serving (which is often how friendship is) isn't easy but if serving is for the Lord, we do it with joy and gratitude!