Fear of success came out for me as self-sabotage and I think it does for many others too. And it comes back to how lovingly you view yourself. It's easy to get stuck operating at a certain level in your life that you unconsciously see yourself worthy of. It's all those stories we conditioned into us from the experiecnes of our past. That makes us self-sabotage or not go for or do the things that would elevate our lives and the sad thing is that we are often not even aware of it cause we're so used to our way of being. You're worthy of it, but to realise that it's time to look at those beliefs you have and put them in the past where they belong.
This is so unbelievably well written as to what this can manifest as…. The self-sabotage being an unconscious manifestation is so true… it’s easy to completely gloss over the pattern(s) because that is simply all that you know of & take it for your reality - inevitably leaning us towards seeking external answers to what is intrinsically internal.
This video made me accept that I am already successful. Just last week I was having such a deep spiritual uncomfortable feeling of feeling different from so many people & it is true I do have a fear of judgment. But I’m facing my fears everyday & I’m trusting God truly. Thank you for this video such a lovely being ✨ you’re 100% correct it doesn’t have to be lonely at the top & guess what in the future I see myself surrounded by more successful people as well!
This talk should have been titled "How to manage your success" or "How to be successfully successful" because it's targeted to people who already have success and not to those who sabotage their journey there.
Spent my whole life dedicated to becoming the best guitar player i can possibly be. I had the mindset that i had to work harder than anyone else and eventually things would fall into place, so that was all i did in my late teens, and still today at 30 years my whole existence is music but now i practice in a more healthy way. But i've still never played in a band in my life because of my social anxiety. I also i think i have fear of success because no matter what i do i can't seem to get myself to reocrd my music and i've never finished a piece of original music ever, the furthest any of my ideas ever go is a voice memo on my phone.
I hope you find what you need & realize that music should be a gift of what you yourself love that is offered to others - oppose to it being a trial of competition. I understand where you’re coming from… I am a guitarist also & spent many years in this same way of thinking - only to finally realize that what I do has to come from a place of love (even if that love is a standard of incredible musicianship) & not from a place of how can I be better than others… because that just sucks the life entirely out of the joy of playing, the process of why you are doing what you do & especially of the end result - because when is it good enough? It never will be. Tbere will always be someone “better” than you… but why did that person make that music that is “better”? Most likely because that was the vision of something they loved & it organically had to come out of them… oppose to it being something that will rank them. An incredible book to check out if you haven’t already is Mastery by Robert Greene. He is a genius in the way that he describes the process of Mastery… also another is The War Of Art (really short book) by Steven Pressfield. Those two books (if you haven’t read them) will change your outlook forever. I hope to see music from you one day! Hope you check out of my channel also so you can see that I am not some idiot writing a comment with nothing to back it up with hahah.
@@TrevorShredder I hit a wall like 6 years ago or so when i had reached certain technical goals that i always wanted to get to. At that point i think i started to realize that my fundamental motivation to practice was unhealthy because as the path i had been walking on for so long kind of ended and branched out i saw how far i was from being able to musically utilize any of the technique i had learned. It was devastating to realize i had to start over from scratch and feel like a beginner again. Around the same time was when i got really depressed and i lost my motivation to play - and for many years i didn't play much - but it's also what finally forced me to made start to taking care of my mental health. It has been a long journey to get to the point where i am now and recently was kind of a turning point when getting diagnosed with ADHD and going through some very painful and big changes in my life. Right now im playing almost as much as i did in my teens, but it's much more from a place of love for music and i'm having more fun with it than ever. Also finally learning theory is probably the best thing i've ever done for myself. I'm working towards putting my own stuff out there, but i do still have a lot of anxiety about all that so i've started with uploading solo covers (the channel is called Bimbimbim and i've uploaded covers of the solos in Paradigm and Buried Alive by Avenged Sevenfold). And thank you so much for replying with such a thoughtful answer! I've written down the book recommendations - I love that kind of stuff so i definitely wanna check it out. Btw I checked out your channel and your playing is totally sick :D
I just restarted my business. I had to quit to take care of my family but then I realized problems are part of life and never will go away. Now that I am starting again I am taking really small steps and growing with my business. I know that my products can help millions of people but I am still not ready for millions. I guess this is a part of growing up
Thank you for sharing the wisdoms! I always felt “misfit” when I grew up in Japan! But now I embrace my uniqueness. I respect you very much, Marisa! By the way, you’re rocking the motorcycle jacket! Very cool 😎
I guess I'm weird. I love being alone. I love peace and quiet. I can be with friends like once a week but more than that and all my energy is drained. And I really don't care much about what people think but I'm afraid of succeeding so maybe I do care deep down.
My fear of ‘succeeding’ in performance acting etc has been if I get a good reaction then everyone’s expectations increase for the next time and I can never live up to it. How do I get over that please? This now goes into everything I do. My automatic response is ‘they’ll expect more than I can deliver’ the fear is overwhelming
Hello, Thanks for reaching out. If you wish to seek support and self development for this anxiety, I would advise booking an RTT session with one of our specialist therapists who can discuss your concerns further. You can book this using the link below: rtt.com/fast-order-page/ We also have our Rapid Transformation Coaching package. To find out more please see rtt.com/rtc-welcome/ All of our therapists and coaches have been trained to the highest standard and have proven experience and outstanding levels of client satisfaction. Kind Regards, Marisa Peer Team
Thankkkkkk youuuuuuu, love youuu...i was in a falier mode for the past week and now you opend my eyes....I am an achiver when I do it my way, I can have sucess on my term, I am good when I do it my way...thank you, thank youuuu💞💋💫
I believe it was Jim Carrey who said he wishes everyone would be rich and famous so they can realize that's not always the answer. It's sad to hear the stories of these super successful individuals who were also tormented by loneliness. Ultimately as human beings, we want to feel connected - seen, heard, and loved. This is what gives our life meaning and purpose. And of course, we also pursue the path of success sometimes as a way to secure our connection. How sad when we realize that it doesn't always happen in that order. It's an interesting topic! Thank you for sharing. May we all find peace, love, and joy.
Thank you for this amazing RU-vid video it is soo insightful. “Do what works for us” 🌟 I love that you can say no and do things that what for you 🌟🤗 also I believe building a sense of community helps with isolation - being apart of something that helps others can be so rewarding ⭐️🌟💜
Very valid and wonderful points thank you, Marisa. I think my biggest fear of success is getting sued, haha. It's more the weight of the work and responsibility for me. I guess that's my insecurity. I assumed that celebrities have other celebrity friends bc they understand each other's work and lifestyle. Then again, I can see where celebs keeping each other as friends would be challenging as well.
